How I knew it was time to quit my stable 9-5 job

I quit my job! This was not a decision I came to overnight and there were a lot of things I considered to make 100% sure that this was the best decision for me. In this video, I share with you my thought process leading up to me quitting in the hopes that, if you are also thinking about quitting your job, it will help you to make that decision a bit easier.
Please note that this video and my channel is for educational purposes only and it is not a substitute for therapy nor does it establish a client-clinician relationship. For support that is specific for your unique case, please seek help directly from a licensed and registered therapist in your jurisdiction.
As always, thank you for watching and I hope you are staying well 💛
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[@bosnianpotato3935]

I'm working until the end of this month and then I'm going to chase my dreams. I'm buying a laptop, a camera and I'm going to travel around my country and shoot videos. Wish me luck 😃

[@sophansen579]

I'm on the same boat.

[@raffaelladaniel]

All the very best!

[@30somethingg]

How’s it going so far?

[@jamalgreen3056]

The thing is I want u all to pay attention to what I am about to say u have to look at things from an financial and economical level not from a personal level I heard her mention in her video they increased her salary by only 1% to account for inflation what I learned is yes they increase wages and salaries after inflation and the cost of living has increased and inflation and the cost of living is increasing by much more than 1% a year it’s increasing by 9% a year so when y’all think about it if u don’t have your money sitting into an asset or if your not doing anything where your money is multiplying constantly even though it may not do it predictably by sticking at a job like caregiver or even an event security or even working for Meta u will still be behind the cost of living and inflation because all wages and salaries that are being paid to everyday people aren’t competing against the cost of living nor inflation it’s to keep u behind so u keep working and striving for what u will never have and for u will never be in between u also have to pay for your rent light food and if u have a car your car note gas/transportation so u technically are stuck in a rot

[@jamalgreen3056]

But it doesn’t have to be this why I have recently started back doing one of the not so easy but not impossible for everyday people to do and i know a lot of people try to sell everyone onto real estate and affiliate marketing and multi level marketing or print on demand of having your own business or getting paid online by doing surveys or playing video games or by telling u to invest in the stock market through stocks bonds mutual funds or even by saving through traditional savings like irs or a cd the problem with all of these things is that they don’t produce outcomes that is in a timeframe suitable for everyday people and in uncertainty times today we don’t have much time to waist they also require a decent amount of money to even start off

[@brendaechols5929]

I know the feeling. I had Depression, exhaustion, vitamin deficiencies, headaches, body aches, muscular issues, i kept making mistakes, neck and shoulder tension, mandatory over time, etc

[@laverdadescatolica5]

Vitamin deficiencies? Women…. 😀

[@roxannenoriega5661]

Im a nurse. I presently work 2 jobs. I submitted my resignation to both this past week. I pray this will allow me to be more mentally, emotionally and physically present for MYSELF and my FAMILY!

[@fromaudreykao]

how exciting! wishing you all the best in this next chapter!

[@jlo3349]

I work in an investment bank and it is literally bringing out the worst of me. I really dislike who I am becoming. So happy for you to have found your next role that is more align with your goals and strengths! All the best!

[@aim-for-greatn3z947]

But you make the money though 😂 you have to sacrifice something and be a slave to the financial system. I bet you love those pointless phone calls your not even needed and having to take notes for no damn reason. Especially those days when dealing with overseas clients 😂

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you so much! Hoping you find something that brings out the best in you - you deserve it 😊

[@gone.golfing]

Everybody hates their job lol what a society!

[@marykgarciapalacios5981]

I used to work for the bank industry. I left 5 years ago .

[@ErikamGar]

I got a job as a hostess in a guests house and that included helping in some chores the cleaning lady (the staff was only me, the owner and the lady) then the owner was almost Always mad at us because of all the work on his shoulders with very few staff, I brought out the worst of me, I did quit, didnt not last a month.

[@bosnianpotato3935]

I will have to write another comment, because when you started talking about how work started to affect your mental health and how it all drained your energy, it was unbelievable, but it was as if I was listening to my life story. Simply, work took away my energy, mentally health, I neglected my friends and even my family, and what hurt me the most was that I stopped smiling, and people used to recognize me by my wide smile. Now it will finally come to an end, I hope, I'm going to make my dreams come true, so let it be whatever happens. I wish everyone from the bottom of my heart to realize their dreams and live fulfilled and happy lives

[@fromaudreykao]

Thank you for your comment and I'm glad to hear that the discussion on mental health resonated with you! That's amazing that you're taking action to find work that you find fulfills you more and I really hope it works out for you!!!

[@Neta_2525]

“Here here”

[@CJ-fh5xq]

Everyday at my Data Analyst job at the major bank. I also worked hard to get this far but im burnt. Thankfully Im still young, single, and no debt. I have a large nest egg to fall back on.

[@nicoletiana]

wow. yes, THIS IS YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!!!! YOU HAVE TO LIVE IT!!!! I JUST QUIT MY JOB AND I FEEL SO FREE AND RIGHT WHERE I NEED TO BE.

[@HouseOfJolene]

I quit my job on tuesday and I have been negotiating my notice period. I cannot wait to start living my life and figuring out what i'm going to do instead of a 9-5 because bills don't stop coming in.

[@abdulnourseddiki4749]

How's it going now?

[@scecko]

Definitely contemplating quitting my job. It's a great job, but I feel like it steals my most creative/productive hours. But... quitting is scary. 🤷‍♂

[@fromaudreykao]

Hi Scecko! I'd be curous to know what scares you about quitting?

[@scecko]

@@fromaudreykao Really just the financial stability. I have kids and a "lifestyle" I guess you could say. If I fail, then I have people to answer to, and it would be hard to justify. On the other hand, if I quit I feel like I could better on my own.

[@maestro93]

i feel you man

[@abby3359]

I’m commenting on this 1yr later, but oh my goodness does this hit home. Sis, I completely get you when you said your previous job made you an entirely different person. I am such a kind person in general but my current job is bringing out a scary side of me because I genuinely cannot deal with this environment anymore. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m hoping I will get another job offer soon so I can leave this hell hole.

[@thesilvertechie3070]

I totally understand and resonated with you. I quit my stable job as a software engineer for 7 years when my son was born and I was very frustrated with how little time I could spend with him. You only get those years once and while it certainly wasn't the best financial decision, I don't regret it! It's only through retrospect that I realized I felt pointless in a huge corporate machine, failing to find any meaning. Now that my son is in preschool, I'm older and wiser I finally feel ready to rejoin but have to decide to pursue a more meaningful career though it actually will bring me less financial stability. At the end of the day we only get one life and we need to really think about how we live it!

[@fromaudreykao]

Thank you for your thoughtful comment! I admire your courage to quit your job, especially after so many years, to prioritize the things that was more important to you, your son

[@medjeff8930]

Today makes four days since I quitted my job. It was my dream job but the mental and physical drain is crazy. I was working in a Big Four Audit Firm. I had itchy bloodshot and teary eyes for the past two years which have cleared up just four days away from staring at a laptop for 8+ hours everyday. I feel so alien looking at people go about their business under the sun. I have an event hall that I'm working on and may never go back to corporate life. Life is short.

[@dystanysam9896]

I’m going to quite my job tomorrow, that how’s I’ve been feeling this couple of moths just been so draining ..lately & dealing with constantly bullying almost ,everyday from my co worker .

[@t.j.sonofjonaslove8225]

I quit my job in September 2023. I was putting in almost 9 to 10 hours a day, and they tried to force me to come back into the office even though i was told i could work from home permanently. I would have been dedicating almost 12 hours a day there(1 and a half hours getting ready driving there and back). It would have been too much stress. Also, some of the people I would have been going back into the office to work with were some of the most toxic human beings on planet earth. They were a bunch trouble makers and all I wanted to do was do my job and go home. It has been a month since I quit. I'm a lot happier and my blood pressure has dropped significantly. I'm now looking for a new position and living my best life.

[@stewartbone4236]

So true, burnout is destructive so I am giving up, taking an easier role, relaxing, getting into what I like. BS job was pointless, watching my colleagues resign, feeling crap at work.

[@Galaxybeyondgalaxies23]

I quit my 10 year career due to depression , anxiety, high levels of stress and physical health decline. I didn't put myself first but instead put my career first. I tried my best to get an award each year, especially during covid, I overworked... but no award. I dedicated myself so I can be recognized but in the end, they didn't care when I submitted my resignation. You can be instantly be replaced and your work productivity won't mean anything. I lost so many family members along the way too, and some I could not attend their funerals because of work. It really sucked. Put yourself first people. I wish I took better care of myself but its not too late... I'll get back to 100% myself because I am feeling different... happier and free... no stress.

[@JLee14]

You really hit the nail on the head with the points you made. I couldn't put into words some of the things you felt that I also feel but you did a great job describing everything!

[@dejahblue96]

This video is so inspiring 🤩🙌🏾 I still work my 9-5 but am grateful to no longer need a job within the next couple of years. One of my good friends is teaching me wealth building principles and how to get my money working for me outside of my job, so far I got debt free! Chase your dreams guys! Jobs are great temporarily or if you went to school for it and your job calls for a degree but otherwise, there are so many other opportunities to immerse yourself in✨ wishing you the best of luck in all your endeavors!

[@Zulethe992]

I’m a clinical social worker at a hospital as well and now I just do PRN and I love it. I work when I want and take days off when I want. Of course it helps that I’m financially able to do so.

[@user-tm2fg8mq1r]

You summarized it perfectly. I related to and thought about everything you said nearly 100%. Our time and energy is very precious and needs to be spent as such. People are afraid of instability and the unknowable future but I think it's worth taking a risk for the possible benefits and potential growth, especially when you are young.

[@nathananderson8720]

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZbin channel 5 months ago about self development. Now I have 324 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

[@Herman-ug5ok]

Dude your channel is amazing. I've just watched the shorts on it, but tonight, I'm planning to watch the long form videos. Please do what you're doing man. You definitely have potential. Your channel may not blow up soon but for the amount of videos you've uploaded, the numbers are pretty impressive. Personal development is definitely your thing from what I'm able to gauge from your shorts. Just one small constructive criticism I would like to offer is, "Work on your Thumbnails". There's too many things going on in the thumbnail. I'm no expert, but I'd say if you upload consistently, you'll certainly make it. Good luck to you, my friend. I hope you achieve your dreams. New subscriber of yours!

[@nathananderson8720]

@@Herman-ug5ok Thanks so much! I realized that the main reason for doing this is not about the success but the inspiration I've been providing some people with my stories while helping others do the same as I shared the lessons & experiences through making videos to have a sense of meaningful purpose. Therefore, I’m planning to quit nursing to pursue youtube full time as there are lots of issues in our traditional health systems as these don’t align with my values. It’s a huge learning curve but I love helping people through making videos. Also, as part of my video creation progress, I’m switching to a better editing software and a camera so the learning curve is much higher and slows down the completion speed of my next videos so please hang on tight! I do appreciate your support and kind words! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)

[@Herman-ug5ok]

@@nathananderson8720 Good to hear back from you, Nathan! Great to know that you're upgrading. I will watch out for your content.

[@nathananderson8720]

@@Herman-ug5ok Please note that my next video progress bar is posted in my KZbin banner or cover photo. Speed is not the greatest determinant of progress. Enjoying the process of creation while providing as much value as I could are more important to me. Trust me, even when it’s slow, that doesn’t mean that I haven’t been moving forward. :) In fact, most likely, I’ll be uploading my next one this month, which is > 1 hour long and packed with footage and tons of valuable information that I wanna present in the best way I can. I’m looking forward to improving as I go and provide as much value as I can. thanks so much for your support! :)

[@Michevell]

You literally spoke to my soul, I am in the healthcare field and you’re absolutely right about everything you just said. I am currently trying to get myself out of it. I realized it wasn’t for me since I was in college but I went along with it because I invested so much already into it but I want out. Best of luck to you ❤

[@fromaudreykao]

so happy to hear that my story resonated with you 😊 I hope things are going well for you as well and you find something that's a better fit for you!

[@jamesgraves9858]

No one understands the demands of working in healthcare.

[@Michevell]

@@jamesgraves9858 lol it’s certainly endless fun 😅

[@siliconeyes]

All these questions you posed are all very good questions, especially the last one. I'm currently working in retail and there's been a lot of changes in working conditions for the company I'm working for I'm slowly getting burned out and feeling like nothing about the job feels meaningful to me anymore. (Have been thinking of quitting, too.) And when I heard your last question, it just hits me how much of an a**hole and irritable and angry I've become these past months when dealing with people, even with my family. When compared to how I was when I first started the job... I just don't feel like old myself anymore. Also, when you talked about difficulty thinking and making decisions (which includes the question of whether to quit or not), it's just like there's a bulb lights up in my head. I remember thinking while you touched on that subject, “Oh, so that's what's going on with me!” I thought it only affects stuff like concentration or being blank most of the time. Thank you for the enlightenment! I'm still having difficulty deciding on whether to quit my retail job or not (one more thing I've figured out about myself is that I like to overthink and worry about a lot of things), but thank you for making that decision making process a little bit easier for me with this video. I wish you all the best with your therapist job (yup, I've also watched your update video) and hope you have a good day!

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you so much for sharing your experience and I'm glad to hear that my video could help you come to some important realizations within yourself :) taking your time to make a decision is not necessarily a bad thing if it helps you to make the best possible decision for yourself. wishing you best of luck in whatever you decide to do next 😊

[@skytech168]

Well done! Actually, today is my first day of being unemployed! I could not been more happier and definitely looking forward to something better as I've been stressful and burned out. Good to hear that you have done a right decision. Again, stable income is good but if that makes our mental health affected, that's gonna cost a lot more in the coming years.

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you so much for the support and congratulations on leaving a situation that was not serving you! I'm excited for what's next for you :)

[@kellyquestions]

I love that you shared where you ended up! Glad you found a new opportunity that is making you feel fulfilled! 💚

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you so much! 😊

[@robhype2372]

Thank you for posting this video. There are soo many things I can relate to this video. I work in tech as a software programmer in a high performing environment with high demands and relatively low compensation. I can tell you that burnout is a serious issue we take for granted and it cam definitely affect our mental heath and sustaining our relationships with our family/love ones.

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you for sharing your experience and I'm glad to hear that my video resonated with you 😊 interesting how the issue of burnout exists in a variety of industries. I do hope that, now that the world is coming out of the pandemic, that workplaces across the board will make some changes to better support their employees. If not, I think employees have had a huge wake-up call about what they truly want out of the work that they do and will be less afraid to go after it 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@RanDom-bk8tt]

What a helpful video!!! Bless your soul!! I wish you well for sharing such interesting perspective and advice!

[@joelmckaig946]

I quit my last job because my boss treated me really bad and discriminated against me everyday. And she was going to fire me and I wasn't going to let her have that satisfaction.

[@dfuk66]

Same here lol I sensed b.s from bad hungry managers so I quit...in the future when those 2 managers get fired...the truth will come out that I quit the bad managers

[@Kimmi7581]

Thanks for putting this out. Can totally relate. I’ve been burnt out for years and finally diagnosed with depression and brought out the worst in me. Quitting soon.

[@sierramccarroll9657]

this is where i am at right now

[@jamesl.o.h.6000]

Being young at your age & having the courage to make a life long decision for your dreams I'd say go for it. Those wise questions really hit the nail on the head. You've decided to pursue dreams & I'm sure your passion won't let you down. I believe when our mind really make a decision & want to go something, it always leads you to your dreams.

[@behappydamnit2752]

I'm a Canadian SW as well and I've been working for a corporation for the last year and I have been feeling everything you have described. Last week I gave my notice and my last day is coming up quick. At first I actually felt guilty for giving up my safe source of income, especially since my family was so proud that I got this job. but hearing stories like yours helps solidify that it isn't (and shouldn't be) all about the income. I am fortunate that I already have a part-time job that I'm able to make full time over the summer as I do not even have the mental energy to apply on new jobs. I'm not even done my full-time job yet and I can already feel small parts of me coming back. Burnout is a terrible thing! Thank you for sharing your story, it's good to hear of other similar experiences, especially when those around you do not understand and question your decisions!

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you so much for your thoughtful comment and for sharing your story! It's also nice to know on my end that I'm not the only one who has gone through this 😅that's really courageous to leave and find another path that works better for you, especially when you're also facing judgement from family. Congrats and wishing you all the best in whatever you choose to pursue next 🥳

[@behappydamnit2752]

@@fromaudreykao Thank you for the kind words! :)

[@DS11110]

Thanks for sharing your story ❤ I do what works for me. It doesn't have to make sense to anyone else except myself 👍 I do value my time and energy too. It took three close people dying to know how overworked I was in terms of my energy.

[@cjay2074]

I couldn’t have found your video at a better time. I also work in healthcare and everything you’ve said resonates so much. I want to quit so much but the guilt has been holding me back, time to break that cycle!

[@fromaudreykao]

i'm so glad to hear that you connected with my video :) sounds like you've already made your decision 😆

[@theinquisitor18]

I'm in the United States. I'm a recent grad, as well. I was gonna go into the tech field, but the lay-offs turned me away. I've secured a government job. I'm gonna get paid around $37k. I'm willing to take such a low salary because I care about stability over prosperity. I'm happy for you. You go!!!

[@speedyfeint]

wait.. what? you can't even survive with 37k salary in usa.

[@theinquisitor18]

@@speedyfeint, it's definitely doable.

[@rubikscube6722]

This entire video is excellent and your description about the body and mental signals you had in your terrible job are exactly what I’m feeling now

[@fromaudreykao]

i'm sorry to hear that you're not feeling well. hoping you find something that's more supportive for your wellbeing and that you have a speedy recovery 😊

[@whitebeca194]

Thanks for telling us the truth about this occupation. I quit my job as a medical practitioner last 3 years after 10 years in the field. It was not a easy decision. But in life we all know one thing and that it is too short to dread going to work everyday. Friends I’m not asking you to resign your job, no amount of money can buy happiness you just got to be wise.😊 I found your channel, you’re awesome.

[@lisadavis1952]

I enjoy my profession but I appreciate the benefits it provides me and my family.

[@lucymountfort783]

You’re quite right; how did you prepare before quitting?

[@whitebeca194]

@@lucymountfort783 I started planning for early retirement while i was still working, making about $2k a week from my investment portfolio while planning to build new side jobs and income. Best advice; never invest your life savings in a single asset.

[@whitebeca194]

@kim taylor There are many investment alternatives available like real estate, exchange-traded funds (ETFs), sticks and cryptocurrency; but my advice is to hire an expert to guide to through a profitable one.

[@fedrickhawkins]

@@whitebeca194 You’re correct and I completely agree with you. To have anything in investing right now, a professional consultant will be of great assistance. My 9-to-5 job won’t be enough to support me in the long run.

[@Lavida-melody]

Loved the video! I was in your position in the beginning of the year. I’m pretty sure the burn out caused me to develop alopecia. I finally got out of my soul sucking job and landed something more flexible and enjoyable. Things will work out when you believe that they will!

[@MariaEspinal-pg4pn]

How is your alopecia now?

[@sheldonchitray6093]

This is exactly were I'm at .These questions were what I needed to ask myself. Thank you for sharing

[@arnelpen8751]

I'm about to quit my 8-4 online job. I've been working since I'm 19, that would make 17 years now. I've finished my mortgages and had 7 figures in my savings. I've reached the point of looking on making a good chapter of my life after a long years of battling life securities. Everyone would get to the same point as I did, but I suggest before that time comes, make sure you have some of the life necessities about to get in place - property assets and financial stability.

[@Urbanchicaful]

what job do you do?

[@arnelpen8751]

@@Urbanchicaful im a graphic-web designer & developer🙂

[@CF-fx9eo]

These are excellent questions - extremely helpful advice to so many. Thank you so much for doing this video!

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you for watching! I'm so happy to hear that my video could be helpful to you 😊

[@carlosquall15]

Living in the Philippines, it is almost expected for anyone not to choose your job with the kind of economy we have. It's difficult for someone like me who just takes jobs so i can have the means to pursue the career i really like(career in art). I made the decision to quit and do freelancing for 2 years because my day job is consuming everything in me, (travel to work takes 3 hours, same as going back home, imagine 6 hours a day just for the travel! In addition to the demanding nature of the job itself, we're almost living in the office). I need more time to pursue what i really love

[@Lizbeth36961]

Im in the same boat, my heart goes out to you.

[@jessicazhao88]

Decided to quit my 9-5 last day is next week. Looking forward to getting my health back on track working a 9-5 has taken a tole on my mind and body sitting at the desk all day 😅. No plans yet not sure what to do i really want the freedom to choose my own schedule. Currently have a side gig so maybe will work on growing that as most people and ex's talked me out it saying money isnt stable not a good long term career i also got the feeling its not as prestigious title as a makeup artist but its what I'm more passionate about. Will see how this goes!

[@fromaudreykao]

how exciting!! rooting for you 😊

[@londonunnie]

Love your cheerful storytelling style ^^ Congratulations on your awesome reflections!!

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you so much for the positive feedback! 😊

[@N.F.E.]

My job let me go over 6 months ago and I knew my time was coming because of how I was being treated. I was considering quitting but the favor was done for me. I can honestly say I've been much happier especially mentally. I may pick up a side gig and make money that way. Working with others has become more difficult these days which makes jobs not worthwhile.

[@iamomarhachem]

Totally felt this. I got let go from a stable job toward the end of 2022, right before the Christmas holidays - it was very sudden and unexpected. The way things were handled was pretty stone cold. No warning. No decency. No willingness to move me to another area. I thought I finally found my place, but I was completely wrong in the end. It still triggers me to this day when the thought circles back. I haven't applied to another job since and I don't think I want to; that realization has become the silver lining. I've been an entrepreneur at heart from a young age, but it was always something I just did on the side and never took seriously. I'm multi-passionate, so I figure might as well take all the things I enjoy (and that I know I'm good at) and turn it into something great. Sounds like you've arrived at a similar realization for yourself. Best of luck to you!

[@N.F.E.]

@@iamomarhachem Everything you said was spot on. Everything happens for a reason. Best of luck to you!

[@anitaknight3915]

​@@N.F.E.I was let go as well and could tell I needed to exit due to how I was being treated too by a gaslighting manipulative employer. Initially I felt devastated and betrayed but choosing to see it as a spiritual catalyst to find better place that values me and freedom to follow my purpose. Best of luck to you! Everything happens for our highest good.

[@anitaknight3915]

​​@@iamomarhachemsending you positive vibes ✨ 🙏. Same exact thing happened to me few months ago where I was ambushed and fired in a very cruel abrupt way. It's devastating and unsettling to have no decency or empathy nor allow parting ways on professional terms with a notice or resignation. I understand the grief, anger, and rollercoaster of ruminating emotions. Like yourself I had the realization I wasn't valued, appreciated, drained, & gaslit and meant for freedom of self employment to pursue my passion. We'll be led to something better that values us and it'll be a blessing in disguise 🙌.

[@N.F.E.]

@@anitaknight3915 Thank you so much for the kind words and your positivity. It's unfortunate how cruel people can be and I hope things are working out for you and continue working out for you!

[@mourninggirll]

I love listening to you speak! Your speaking style is succinct and approachable.

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you so much for your positive feedback! that really means a lot to me 😊

[@xp4eternity]

I ended up dropping college W/O my parents knowing as it became very complicated. Didnt feel like doing assignments, not what I was interested in, etc. Now, im learning independently through KZbin at my own leisure and at my own wanting.

[@compassionatepeercounseling]

Thank you for sharing your experience. It was really interesting how the burnout was affecting your decision making. I also appreciate your description of the energy investment outside of working hours that happens with a job.

[@fromaudreykao]

thank YOU for watching! hope it could offer some insight in some way :)

[@TessaMoore]

LOVED this video!! I think as young people in the workforce there is so much pressure to grind with no care for your mental health - I'm with you on low energy and brain fog. also OMG the sunshine list comment sent me, I remember always checking my profs on that list and thinking "how on earth are they making that much for this..."

[@fromaudreykao]

hahah! the sunshine list is such an eye-opener 😂

[@turboZ3]

it ain't for everyone that's for sure - i do it just cause i like routine and predictability but i'm doing a foray into the private sector rn and liking it also! liked the video thx for sharing!

[@seafarer_]

I had the same experience leading to me leaving my job. It was literally killing me - constant head and stomachaches, new autoimmune issues leading to emergency surgery, and had minor depression. Free for one month now, and I feel like a different person. Now I remember what makes me happy and I’m getting all the things that have been on my to-do list for ages done. I’m taking on a new role with a new company where I can see that the growth path is actually going somewhere I want to be. It doesn’t feed my ego as much as my old job, but I actually feel happy thinking about going to work there. Also - can I just say that you are so well spoken! You can really tell a story and make it engaging while still keeping things concise. Super easy to follow!

[@fromaudreykao]

I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through that. I'm glad you're recovering well and in a more supportive work environment! And thank you so much for the positive feedback, that really means a lot 😊

[@emilyknowles9604]

When you mentioned napping, woooooo! I never did that until I started this job 😵‍💫

[@Forsepoker]

Don’t quit your jobs kids. If you have to ask others if you should you aren’t ready.

[@JimmyHuynhdesign]

I've watched a handful of these quit your job videos and I would love if they would share how they're handleing the financial side. Of course it's easy to say quit if you're feeling like you're having a tough time at work. Most people would quit if they didn't have to worry about needing to pay the bills.

[@RoleyChiu]

I was also trapped in my creative role in gov. The next step up was management, but it would take me away from the creative. And it people management was not what I signed up for. So I've been preparing to replace my 9-5 with my amazon business in 2 years. Your video is inspiring as I follow a similar journey. Thanks for making :).

[@TheKylesampson]

Thank you for posting this 🎉

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you for watching, Kyle! :)

[@everydaygian9218]

"Find a job you love and you will never work a day in your life" - yeah.. and it will become your lifestyle devouring you whole

[@furkidsonboard4103]

I can relate with all your points especially about the salary cap. I'm going to ask my manager if I can switch part-time this coming August so I can focus on my health and invest time in learning new skills.

[@MarkMark]

What a great inquiry. Thank you.

[@AdonisGaming93]

I work full-time in retail and I completely related to the thing you said about finishing a day of work and just not wanting to go do anything because of being so tired. My job just drained all of my energy. I haven't quit yet but I'm working on saving enough to do it soon. Fingers crossed

[@malithiahdez7453]

Me running into this video as someone who works in healthcare. This is a sign 😭

[@fromaudreykao]

we see the signs that we want to see 💁🏻‍♀️

[@ehwick8175]

I'm on the same boat when it comes to climbing the ladder in my industry. Becoming a project manager in architecture means coordinating and getting people to do all the work its takes to put drawing set together. I love 3d modeling and drawing details so that means giving up the majority of my time doing that and making calls and emails instead. Not to mention convincing interns and lower level employees to work overtime to meet unrealistic deadlines not even set by the PM's. I'm hoping to divert into another area of the industry into the BIM manager roles, so that at least I still have my foot in the 3d world and may even still get to model and troubleshoot models for ppl and can consult other industries that use BIM. I would like to be a consultant or contractor for BIM, so that i'm not tied to one company and their success.

[@faithlollipop]

I can totally relate!!!! It was the office setting for me.. an hour drive to work and back.... the promotion is unheard of with my ex company and I had to beg for it.. no recognition, feeling stuck, dissatified and not rewarding at all. My job working with events agency required creativity + physical + understaffed. the joy in me gradually left my body lol. I dreaded work, i dont have enerygy for anything, i started feeling depressed and the time i decided to quit i was burned out, crying every night, i cant sleep well, I dont have any joy on doing things and depressed. I QUIT. I'm in much better mental state now doing a different line of work, nope im not making as much compared to working corporate job but im not gonna put my mental and emotional health on the line again for someone else's gain. Myself is more important than any money or corporations.

[@fromaudreykao]

thank you for sharing your story! i really respect that you put yourself first and created a better situation for yourself. wishing you all the best!

[@Lizbeth36961]

What kind of job do you do now?

[@john-atallah]

Thanks for this video Audrey. I am a clinical social worker at a psychiatric hospital. I find myself more drained than I ever have been in my life. Similar situation where I went to school to get a masters but then wonder why I chose it. I am considering quitting after the holiday craziness and moving to private practice. Thanks for you insight.

[@fromaudreykao]

Thank you for your thoughtful comment John! I can't even imagine what it must be like being a social worker in a psychiatric hospital. I don't blame you for being drained. I hope you are able to find something that offers you a better balance and more of your energy back!

[@john-atallah]

@@fromaudreykao thank you for you're kind words Audrey ☺️

[@Zulethe992]

I’m a clinical social worker at a hospital as well and now I just do PRN and I love it. I work when I want and take days off when I want. Of course it helps that I’m financially able to do so.

[@Zulethe992]

I’m a clinical social worker at a hospital as well and now I just do PRN and I love it. I work when I want and take days off when I want. Of course it helps that I’m financially able to do so.

[@notayapper_]

Well said 😊 thankyou for sharing !!

[@hellosavije1888]

I totally agree with you working on my exit stage left👍🏾

[@Priinsu]

I'm in the military and just got back from deployment. I was working 18-20 hour days for two months straight. I've been on a two week vacation back home with my mom and all I've had the energy to do is sleep in until 4pm. The symptoms you described is exactly how I'm feeling right now. I have three days left of vacation. The idea of doing this for 10 more years to get a pension is giving me anxiety tbh.

[@crocus5632]

I also quit my job and am going to feeelance. I am sure to find enough clients with my expertise. I've been going it for 20 years for a company, ns will now do the same on my own. Totally excited about not having to ask for vacation time and get rejected.

[@jlprescott7243]

You got your time back, which is more important than money. Cheers!

[@Jonah-in-Boise-ID]

Saving this video to rewatch when I retire in about 6-7 years. Nice job with it.

[@Jonah-in-Boise-ID]

Subscribed too.

[@swankyview]

Glad that you took the steps necessary for your happiness!

[@cjoth]

i'm watching this video for my girlfriend lol... jokes aside, it was for me. i don't have a prestigious title & a high salary, but i do feel like i'm fighting against being homeless (i was homeless before in an RV & a 2 door car. it felt bad). i wanted to quit my sushi restaurant desperately, but i have now decided to stay bc your video made me think a little more rationally (& also lightened up my mood :D). ofc i had no career advancement as a server, but it is making me good money (& tips) to work towards my dream. i was thinking about quitting bc it was seriously affecting my mental health and changing my personality outside of work. i also had difficulties thinking & making decisions, including whether to quit or not. to fix this, i've just become a quiet quitter.. (i used to do this before it was a thing, but i haven't worked under a boss in the beverage industry for almost 2 years so i guess i'm a bit rusty). anyways, i've just started setting better boundaries at work on the low. sometimes my job will drag all the energy out of me working with a toxic employee and i'm usually the one who expects the other person to change by example. now, i don't put any energy towards him (bc it becomes negative energy anyways) and just put my energy towards working around him with my manager & coworkers (aka using my energy in a more positive way). anyways, i had difficulty wondering if i can actually be my best self while working at this restaurant. at first i didn't, but upon watching other 14 other videos, of which 2 is yours, i decided i just needed to use my energy more wisely & do what i'm paid to do for my overall health (mental, physical, emotional). the most difficult thing at first was feeling guilty i was doing it, but upon deep thinking, it makes sense in every way and i'm starting to get used to it and feeling less and less guilty. plus my employer doesn't mind these past 9 days (or more.. a lot more), so i guess i do have it lucky for now. it makes sense that i'm completely replaceable, and worst case scenario is i will just fall into a different restaurant or focus on side gigs like food delivery service, amazon deliveries, grocery delivery service, etc (which i might or might not like better). in perspective, that's not bad. more importantly, my health should always come first, & that should not be understated. i'm not here to die & give my life for a job i don't care about. i'm still doing a good job, just only the job i'm paid to do . i do have a special skill of working really hard and really fast & effectively, but it gets abused a lot bc this one coworker decides to abuse me more the harder i work, all the while not getting his own job done and giving it to anyone he can take advantage of. all i had to do now was to not give energy towards him and communicate towards my manager (which i'm lucky bc he's trying to take actions to fix this), and i won't let him take advantage of me anymore. he is really hard headed at times and doesn't do his job even if told right in front of his face unless he gets micromanaged & that's just too much energy for what i'm paid to do (even for my manager). i can still work hard, fast, effectively, but i won't let him use up my precious energy that i have if i deem it as abuse. i also work with my coworkers now (2 nice people who have been there for 7 years) to not let him abuse my energy, so it's nice that there is teamwork and a kind of friendliness around protecting my energy and i can feel more safe at work. my energy is valuable, and i rather use it for my own good than for his. one more reason i won't quit, is that i still have a lot to learn. i can still grow as a server. i know, sounds pathetic. growing as a server? a server isn't a prestige title like a doctor or consultant. but it's just a personal thing: i like growing. and having only been in the food (& a little bit of alcohol) industry for 7 months, there are lots of opportunities for me to grow, whereas when i was in a boba shop (with nearly 2.5 years of experience) as a barista & shift lead, my growth stopped at a certain point, & it was just too boring. i would've stayed if i made a decent salary, but i wasn't. in the end, i believe the salary at this job is enough for me to keep going until my dreams are accomplished. i gotta poop now, abrupt ending to a deep comment :D p.s. one more reason i won't quit (and probably the most important): as a college dropout (with no regrets after 6.5 years), this is the best salary with the best work-life balance i can possibly have in my situation. it could always be worse, so i do feel truly grateful, but i'm also always looking to better my life and my situation, and hopefully one day, start helping others. i feel that is my life purpose through everything i do. i will work hard until one day, i let my dreams pay for my mindful and frugal lifestyle. of course i'm scared, but i've accepted that this is the path i'm going to walk, and i will rather die happily on this path knowing i did everything i could instead of going after something that doesn't interest & excite me. in other words, unless i can find a better solution, this work-life balance of about an average of 30 hours per week working & getting paid enough to fund my dreams is the best thing i can do for my future.

[@judythorsgaard4388]

The food service industry can be very draining, I give you a lot of credit for hanging in there! You're so right about having firm boundaries. If you don't, people will steamroll you. I'm glad you have the 2 good supportive coworkers that you mentioned. And I'm with you, my whole purpose is to do what I can to help people, in whatever way, whatever job I'm doing. (I think I've done a little of everything at this point). Keep shining! 💖

[@Uncle_Tijikun]

I quit my job as a sales exec in a big IT company to go back to a simpler, less prestigious customer service job for the same reasons. It was just not the role for me and I can't wait for the week to be over to start the new job and finally have time to learn new things and retrain in something else I like more. I needed the validation feom this video, thanks! 😂

[@fromaudreykao]

i'm excited for you! wishing you all the best in your new chapter 😊

[@Stopit77]

I am a teacher, you just described every symptom of my life, I want people to understand the effects of such jobs on every single aspect of your life. I have no energy left after working each day and, honestly, it is no way to live. The reality is I can’t leave right now, but I am planning on leaving before true retirement age. I need my life back so moving abroad is an option in order to afford another life. Thank you for this video ❤

[@rodneyh1947]

I teach also as a side gig, but I am a sub. So chill, I just have to show up and do the job for the day, no grading, no lesson planning, not responsible for the kids except for the day I work. I would never be full fledge teacher.

[@nicolejay4153]

As a miner , I have very little energy on my days off to where I just don’t want to do anything and my hobbies just feels like a damn chore . This video helped a lot in figuring out what’s wrong with me . Thanks

[@Lizbeth36961]

Perhaps we’re all slaves of the system. I’m an admin assistant but I want to return to my home country, but the pay is too small there and I feel here is also not great for the current economy, I’m also looking for alternatives to the 9-5, mine is actually 8-5. It seems like they’re giving one person the job that should be assigned to 2 people 🧐

[@abdullahiosman1485]

Really.. cute, calm, articulate and humble. Please stay this way when you have grown up as a KZbiner.. 😊

[@Rockin.Bakken]

Thank you for sharing. I have beating myself up for being so irritable. I’m giving myself until January 2024 to put in my notice to chase pursue my passions. Wish me luck! 🎉

[@fromaudreykao]

eee I'm excited for you!! Best of luck in your next chapter 😊

[@adammorra3813]

@rockin.bakken did you put your notice in?

[@Rockin.Bakken]

@@adammorra3813 God I wish. Not yet

[@mikegee9832]

I’m so proud of u for quitting please make more videos or make a sequel to this video love it ❤

[@fromaudreykao]

I created a 6 month update here kzbin.info/www/bejne/sJ_MaHywh8iAnZI&ab_channel=AudreyKao and a 1 year update is coming up soon 😊

[@yuridiana9047]

Ive quit and a month now, i just wanted to watch your video because i feel alone gor doing it, we are worthy of it all. Good luck on uour new job, i was an assistant and want a new job that i can still impact. My reason was that i fel inappropriated but now im off to a happier mental dtate and have better opportunities elsewhere

[@amycolucci6769]

Im a hospital dietitian 15 years in 39 burnt out😢😢😢

[@Thelegendaryskunk]

I’m planning for my shop relaunch because my current job has caused so much burn out. I’ve also vocalized my burn out to my manager and there’s been zero change. My therapist mentioned rephrasing how I’m burned out to something specific to workplace environments because companies will easily take burn out as a you problem and not an overall problem even if it’s affecting multiple people. I won’t be able to quit my job once my shop relaunches BUT it will help get me to the point of quitting.

[@jamrellb]

OMG Thank you for this video! I feel so spiritually drained at my job and want to be a content creator. Glad to see someone like you prioritize their physical and mental health over the money and prestige.

[@fromaudreykao]

I'm so glad to hear that you connected with my video! hoping you're able to find something soon that's more supportive and energizing 😊

[@relmstarkeeosyn9768]

the questions resonated with me. Though the process of quitting is not easy. will keep these questions in mind.

[@fromaudreykao]

it's a tough decision. I'm glad this video could help you in your decision-making process 😊

[@guidofeliz8384]

You are courageous. More power to you.

[@fromaudreykao]

Thank you Guido, that means a lot to hear :)

[@teamkaskas]

I am a mental health and addictions nurse in Toronto. I need to get out too 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨 Glad I found your channel ❤

[@fromaudreykao]

Working in healthcare in toronto is its own beast 😅 That is a really tough job and I have a lot of respect for what you do. Wishing you the best in your next chapter!

[@samyakhan88]

i just quit my job to pursue a passion i only discovered last year. i have no concrete plan but just going to go for it! 😅

[@fromaudreykao]

ooh i'm excited for you!! Best of luck!

[@bunniewood]

Why cant companies treat us right??! We need to fight for our rights

[@francis1961]

Greed.

[@ehwick8175]

One other good thing in this video is when you say no regrets about this job, because you still learned and picked up strength (less shy, took leadership roles). You get what you put in. Its up to you to make the best out of a bad situation as well as from a good one.

[@irismarie6515]

This just confirmed that I’m making the right discussion. Thank you.

[@fromaudreykao]

eee I'm excited for you!!

[@urassisdragon]

So work in healthcare for 3 years. I hate my job as I am limited to having the patients no one in the office the other clinicians want to see and anything unusual I am not allowed to see. My income is capped and my disposable income/amount saved will be decreasing for the unforeseeable future. I am bored to death at work. However it does offer good insurance and good work/life Balance. My thought it to quit in January but I will have to find a job doing something else. To stay in my specialized field I would have to move cities and not quite ready to do it. Love the video -lots of things to consider-very eloquent!

[@fromaudreykao]

it's a tough choice but I'm sure you will make the right decision. Thank you for your positive feedback and wishing you best of luck in your next chapter 😊

[@Bronnybronny]

The burnout, depression, lack of motivation, etc. I am experiencing from my current job is the worst I’ve ever experienced. I am praying the Lord shows me a way out. This job is destroying my life.

[@masonpines8345]

I am new to the healthcare field, just got a job there. It’s nice to feel important like you said so for now I’ll stick with it.. but I wonder if I’ll ever feel tired of it in the future. Will update later maybe.

[@fromaudreykao]

please do keep us updated! 😊

[@brianac16]

I’m in the same exact boat as you . Quit my job as a CM at a hospital two days ago. I feel a huge relief .

[@City-Hiker]

Healthcare works are stressful jobs.

[@fromaudreykao]

congratulations!! wishing you the best in this next chapter 🥳

[@brianac16]

@@fromaudreykao Thankyou I needed that . I have an interview at a dialysis facility coming up 🤗

[@alsg0403]

This video was a confirmation, I did the right thing to leave. I started noticing how my interactions outside of work started changing for the worst too. I became so unhappy, every small thing irritated me.

[@adampartridge1903]

I quit my job recently too and my experience was a bit different to Audrey's so I'm gonna add a couple extra questions to this. I asked myself "How do I feel when I wake up each morning?" and that helped me realise how miserable and what a struggle every day was. Another thing was I'd grown so accustomed to feeling so shit that I kinda just thought this is how life is. I only realised through looking back at jobs/education I'd been through in the past that I'd enjoyed more, and the way I did that was by hearing music I'd listened to a lot at that time or by finding my old lecture notes from uni. Also by remembering how although I found my degree tough and it was overwhelming sometimes, I always said I enjoyed it overall, found it rewarding and cared about it, and that simply wasn't the case for this job which I didn't enjoy and didn't give a shit about. I'd also like to say that I was actually working in a (on paper) very good job, good salary, good company, good benefits, nice colleagues, good career prospects. I could have maybe been promoted in the not-too-distant future with a nice pay rise. But I left it all behind to enter the unknown and thank God I did because I was anxious and miserable, I haven't looked back once :)

[@fromaudreykao]

Thank you for sharing your story! That is a really eye-opening question to ask yourself how you feel waking up every morning. Wishing you the best in this new chapter 😊

[@marcoscastro1398]

I feel drained and I want to leave this job 😩, but is been 30 years for me and I have two years to go before I can get a check from the annuity. But my health is getting worse and I. Not a healthy men anymore.

[@sozekyser2837]

Never ever put your health or mental well-being on the line for an employer who would replace you within a day of leaving them. Your life and health should always come first Marcos Castro :)

[@bkhkh7285]

Very enteresting) I live in area we don't have such an option as hiring jobs. Basicaly we live in paleolite era. Gathering, hunting, fishing a cetera.. But very similar, if you miss a season you f..d up by winter.

[@markuchiha7737]

I even cried losing a job for some reason but leaving it all behind, it was a huge win. I'm proud of leaving it. Theres more to life than this shit.

[@badcholesterol]

wrong. for all of human history there were worker bees, and various societal echelons. Or were thou so naïve as to believe serfdom went away when feudalism "went away"?

[@dfuk66]

proud of you

[@user-bq1ze2rb4w]

I clicked on this video because I wanted to quit my school. I spent a long time studying in middle school in order to get good results and get into the university but after a year I found that this is not what I wanted and I feel very sad everyday. I want to spent the most valuable years in my life to do things I wanted and chase for my dream. But there are several reasons that I am still not quitting my study and I have been very frustrated in thinking quit or not.

[@learningtogetheredu]

I actually quit my toxic job last year and i started a KZbin channel and though I have realized that it is hard to grow a channel there is no regrets for i know that one day that KZbin channel will pay off

[@mrbendover22483]

you go girl!

[@MichaelHomeTours]

Keep Learning and Earning 💯💯💯💯👍😀