How I Knew My Husband Was "THE ONE"

How did I know my husband was THE ONE? Is there such thing as "the one"? Choosing someone to spend your life with is one of the most significant and consequential decisions a person will make - and it's one that should be made with wisdom and discernment.
In this video, I'm sharing some of the practical factors that helped me to know my husband was the one God had for me while we were dating and in that process of discernment. I'm also sharing some encouragement for those in this discernment process that might be different than what you're used to hearing. 🤍
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[@kacinicole]

If you are married, how did you know your spouse was the one? If you are single, what is one of the most important qualities you are looking for in a spouse? 🤍

[@rosannayoder5722]

A man after God's own heart is an absolute must for my future husband, if that is God's will for me to one day be married.❤

[@Nicole_Orany]

I am not married, but i am seeking a godly man, a working man, a man that i know he will love me and protect me in every occation

[@irenewandia2232]

A man who loves God and follows Him.

[@jamesmartin3345]

The single most important quality I look for is someone who is a Christian, not just in word only but in action. The second most important quality is someone who is accepting of the calling to pastoral ministry

[@fabiolaruiz951]

1. Believer, not only by actions but in spirit and truth 2. Seeks God for counsel , wisdom and strength 3. Friendly (lover of people) 4. Funny (clean and good humor) 5. Adventurous (someone who will love doing mission trips with me) 6. Educated (respected, good manners) 7. Hard worker

[@Beforethethrone]

It’s easy to say “I knew he was the one“ when they actually become the one. But when you are so convinced they are the one, and they don’t turn out to be the one, then when you think someone new will be the one, doubts come in. That’s why we have to trust Gods plan and not go on our hearts whims

[@kayaanyadunath9863]

It happened to me. She did not accept my friendship. After 5 years, she got a serious boyfriend. I'm still waiting.

[@alexandriahutson3391]

I believe it’s important to pray on it. Seek god in your questions. He will let you know the truth but be willing to accept it.

[@Yesica1993]

Exactly. There's no such teaching/view in God's Word about finding "the one." I don't know where this idea came from. Probably Hollywood. It's not from God's Word.

[@SimplyLivingInFaith]

He must be a born again Christian, man that prays, be a Godly leader, have a servant's heart, provider, protector ! Spiritual protector as well.

[@kacinicole]

Amen to all of those things! 🙌🏼

[@marianel7630]

@@kacinicole my granddaughter responded by telling me she agrees with you and how she enjoyed to listen to your , 'How I Knew My Husband Was " THE ONE ". Thank you Kaci 🙏🌹

[@nahambohilma8598]

@@marianel7630 ❤😍

[@Lczzy]

Where are these men?

[@Kilonz0]

@@Lczzy to be honest,men of that calibre are really hard to find and God has to bring them to you inorder to find them because you may meet them and not know how deep their relationship with God,and the person you may see as having that connection with God,may actually be a disaster waiting to happen because his roots may not be deep and may end up hating God,the journey is not easy

[@robingreen9227]

I have been promised marriage several times by fake Christian men. Most recently ghosted abruptly on Easter Sunday. I am having a really hard time being older and unmarried at my church. It is very hard to keep hope. I don't know why this is a desire of my heart if it seems like it will never happen. I love the Lord and am waiting not so patiently anymore. It has been over 14 years. Please pray for me.

[@lisar5349]

One quality I am looking for in a spouse is humility

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

That is so rare . Some Men have such big egos. 😨

[@thenameofthegame4037]

@@gabrielamartiniuc6322 yeah, we tend to do that.i try to get ride of it. Ego makes you weak.its def Something you need to watch as a men if your are arround worldly 'machos' a lot

[@EmilieLaGeniale]

I knew my husband was the one a couple of times. The first time was 3 months into dating, we were cooking a meal together and I simply looked up at him and heard "that's my husband," in my head. It was so bizarre that I would've thought that, because up until that point I wasn't even in love with him! I certainly had never thought that about any guys in the past. So I shook it off and moved on. The next time was when the lockdown happened and I couldn't see him for 2 months. I had also gotten really sick at that point and was stuck in bed for 3 weeks. He FaceTimed me every single day that I was sick and would sit with me while I watched tv, ate, napped, whatever. Because he knew I hated being alone. That was when I knew for sure that he was the one for me.

[@pippaschroeder9660]

Awww that’s amazing.

[@rachelfouch7900]

I had the same thing happen 2 times! I was in the kitchen with him when we were dating and he I looked at him and thought “I’m looking at my future husband”, but it wasn’t like it was ME, it was like a knowing! My arms actually went numb and I felt my legs get weak, and I said “I think I need to go lay down for a second” and then my legs actually gave out on me, and he caught me (i know, it was like a movie 🤣), and he picked me up and laid me on my bed and I couldn’t walk for like 10 minutes! But the crazy thing is I didn’t have real feelings for him yet, and I didn’t feel anything in my heart! It was all in my body, my body absorbed the shock! A few months later I was looking at him and thought “he’s my other half”, but again, no real feelings. We broke up and a year later we met up and as I sat down and looked at him for the first time in a year, I thought “that’s him, it’s him”, but again no real feelings! We weren’t really dating from then on but we were talking, and I fell in love with him! We got back together officially the following February, got engaged very quickly and we were married in May! I didn’t actually know in my head AND heart that he was the “one” till A MONTH before we got married! I still had doubts, and I kept thinking “I’m gonna have to break this off and tell everyone I made a mistake!” But in that time of being engaged, I begged God to not let me marry him if he wasn’t the one and God gave me a beautiful dream where I saw the man he truly was, a good man who loved God and who loved me. We were long distance (literally opposite ends of the US) so we didn’t see each other until 2 days before the wedding! Now we are very happily married! One thing that happened right before we got back together in February was I was just begging God to help me know if I should be with him or not, and I said “I can’t figure out what I need anymore! Only you know what I need! You give me whoever You want me to be with!” And I know we hear that often, but we also hear of the “checklist” we need to have! But people aren’t so simple…sometimes your checklist isn’t the best thing! Because how can I know what I need? What I REALLY need? Only God knows! Sorry for the novel haha

[@GrammaPatriot]

Aww! ❤️❤️❤️

[@jamesmartin3345]

I'm 32 and serve my church in a pastoral role. I was engaged to be married but the engagement ended suddenly. As soon as some members of the church learned this they immediately went to asking when im going to date again, even going to the extreme of signing me up for a singles ministry without telling me. One parishioner offered hjs granddaughter as a potential partner. Im simply praying that God sees me through this season and eventually will provide a spouse, and even if He doesn't then at least His will is being accomplished

[@yvetromanroman7443]

Amen, and there are people who have not invested in their life appropriately, yet want to invest in the lives of others!

[@jenijeni5918]

declare MATTHEW 7:7 🙏

[@estherlqp7617]

amen

[@tundereinhardt4676]

Why did your engagement "end suddenly"?? Thats very usual....If they are the 'one' most of the time you can reconcile...

[@cocoloco7387]

​@@tundereinhardt4676 You admitted it was unusual because maybe it was the influence of God. Anything unusual is not a coincidence it is usually the influence of God or Satan. Maybe this man had to go through a season of waiting or preparation to finally meet the 'one' or maybe the 'one' as you emphasize was not prepared to commit fully to him so again God may be using these seasons he is in as a refinement period for both himself and his ex-fiancé to either get to together when prepared or to meet their actual 'ones'.Don't completely forget the hands of the lord since this man is in ministry with the Lord not just as a pastor but as a child of the Lord ready to submit to his wishes at least by mentioned comment. God will use his authority to those who submit to him to do what's best for this man. You do not just get to reconcile and expect everything to go back to perfect.You're doing it in your own strength and that's just futile.

[@AH-cw9dq]

I knew my husband was “the one” pretty much when we met his freshman year of college. I had transferred to the university the year before so I was a sophomore technically. I had heard about him in the campus ministry we were both involved with, my friend and I saw him on campus and I introduced myself (which is very abnormal), I thought he was a cutie and he really knew the Bible which was just so attractive to me as a newer Christian. We became friends at the end of 2019, went on a mission together, evangelized to Mormon missionaries together every week from October to January (and during that time I would show him movies that I liked he had never seen before) and I really wanted to know the Bible like he did. He had recommended a pastor to me, Voddie Baucham, and I read his book “what he must be” and I just thought of him the entire time. I began to pray about it around late January-early February and asked God that, if it was His will that we should be together, then he would be the one to really make that first move. We started dating by February 20, 2021, got engaged September 19, 2021 and got married March 18, 2022.

[@dianab947]

So did he make the first move? I’m asking because I also think men must be the first to take action in making their intentions known to us

[@kayaanyadunath9863]

@@dianab947 if you like someone you should make the first move. You can keep waiting but they haven't notice you.

[@hannahcree]

What a beautiful question! I would definitely say the moment I knew that he was The One was when I realized the depth of love that I have and feel for Jesus is the depth of the love that I have and feel towards my husband. In everything he says and everything he does, he reminds me more of God, of the promises of God, of the peace and love and joy that can only be found in Christ. That’s how I knew he was the One. I have two beautiful Godly step-children and we are now expecting our first baby in December.

[@feliciaquast8574]

The most IMPORTANT quality I look for in a man is not only that he loves the Lord, but he will also love me as Christ loves His church! And what that includes is him communicating with me, him respecting me as a woman of God, and loving me for my spirit, and vise versa. ❤️🙌🏻

[@tiffanysquire3838]

He has a true, living out relationship with Christ. Meaning you can see it in his walk and his talk.

[@kaitlync.2628]

I love learning why people chose to marry their husbands- Thank you for sharing 😊 Also read your Still Single Devotional which was awesome!

[@kacinicole]

Aw so happy to hear that - I'm so glad you liked it 😊

[@RASHASA1237]

This is so needed!!! Be blessed!!!

[@anasemgema]

this video is so necessary! thank you so much

[@daisyrowaro44]

Beautiful video. Thank you Kaci so blessed.

[@mehsodpaw4063]

Thank you for sharing! 💜

[@jesulachery6011]

Wow!!! Numbers 23:19 and Ephesians 3:20 are the verses that God had placed in my heart before finding your channel today!!!In fact, I wrote a journal two days ago and included Numbers 23:19 as I felt the Lord speaking to my heart through it . Interestingly I had opened my bible for my daily reading and prayer and it opened straight to that verse and SPOKE to my current situation 😮wow God is good!!! 🙌🏾 I feel your anointing, Kaci. God bless you ❤

[@jasnajasmine1925]

Very helpful, thank you ❤

[@anja.e1101]

Thanks for the insight!

[@IfyouBelleve]

Thank you, this was really helpful and I enjoy your videos. God bless you

[@Rosie_lifestyle]

This helps a lot because I know that who ever god has for me he will receive it to me god bless you

[@adkisst]

Absolutely every quality you mentioned is also what I am looking for in my future husband. :)

[@gianninibezerracarvalho]

You describe it... all things so beautifully. Makes me wanna get to know you more as friend. 😌😌

[@philipk8314]

A heart full of compassion

[@ladysheam1567]

This was such a answered blessings God is sooo wise he lead me to this because of the questions I had

[@belovedtwain5496]

Very helpful and encouraging. Thanks

[@chichielem1843]

Thanks for Sharing Kaci!! A top quality for me is definitely someone who is truly God fearing. Not just by words but by action too.

[@Yesica1993]

I watched your single content in the past. Sounds like you got yourself a good guy. I'm glad for you!

[@KimberlyLovesJesus-]

I have met this amazing guy, I always struggled with overthinking when things seem too good to be true. It breaks my heart because I don’t want to ruin what I have with him because of my insecurity, without a doubt I know this man is centered in Christ and absolutely loves me, it was reassuring to know that big decisions as these can spark doubt, but I really wanted to make sure I was in God’s will

[@ILuvCaroline]

I hope he was the one! God bless you!

[@missrd395]

Wait whatt, waiting on my husband Andddd waiting on your testimony/ love story😜🤯😂. Looking forward !!! X

[@karensandoval7032]

I look for the humility to allow God to lead them through and especially by allowing Godly council in, and most importantly through God’s word and prayer. All else seems to come after that.

[@louisruffin6808]

I thank God that you have found love, God bless you ma'am, I pray that happiness and all blessings follow you and your husband and potential children forever and always and that love will forever be the foundation you build upon ❤God bless you 🙏

[@eM_eM77x]

The most important quality in a potential husband is his capacity to love -- God and me. I just wanted to drop a note and tell you how much your videos speak to me after just discovering your channel. I'm older than you are (!) and have gone through a traumatic divorce/marriage abandonment after years of standing and praying for him and marriage restoration. Now I have met a man at church who I believe God has been putting me together with. We really like each other and some amazing things are happening, but we are just taking it one step at a time right now. I've been seeking the Lord on it and so far, so good. ❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@misssandra3825]

Hi

[@juliaroseroulhac2414]

Beautiful. I knew I found the one later in the courtship. I grew to fall in love for the first time ever in a way I knew He was my best friend. That's how I knew.

[@salomef747]

For me it´s that he doesn´t minimize my feelings or what´s important for me and also that he always has God in mind, for example when he has to make decisions. And of course, his time with God has to be his no negociable.

[@jakerez4666]

I was just gonna watch this video as encouragement while waiting for my wife, but I found myself stopping and pausing and praying and talking to Jesus several times because there was things you would say that were very prevalent to my life and so I just want to say thank you and I appreciate you for making this video

[@Zoe_6]

This had definitely helped me and is also interesting! Thanks

[@kacinicole]

I'm so glad! Thanks for watching 💛

[@cic-jakevanddalgeemyers.2739]

PRAISE GOD ALMIGHTY!

[@Darkri56789]

I felt like I already met “The One”. She was my fiancée but things ultimately didn’t work. She was amazing, loving, kind, she drove me to be a better person, and she drew me to God. But in the end, even after every great thing we’ve been through, things didn’t work out; I’m lost.

[@aranzavargas5070]

God will make it happen what He knows is good. Your whole relationship, life and future is into His hands. Do you trust him, whatever happens? How can prayer be a tower of refuge for you during this season? How can your heart heal in God's presence? God doesn't forsake the broken ones.

[@paolarocha5992]

Unfortunately, I had the same thing happen. This man helped me grow closer to Christ and I thought he was “the one” but he ended things suddenly. God’s will be done, I will be praying for you as well. 😓 Pray for me too!

[@Darkri56789]

@@paolarocha5992 I’ll pray for you. Hopefully it’s within God’s plan for both of us to be with the one who brought us closer to him. Have a great one.

[@marallisen12]

@@paolarocha5992 I can relate in the sense that I was the person who has done this to someone. From my perspective, I wasn't ready. He was, blindly. It was his first relationship and it was my third serious one. It moved very fast and we were both happy but I wasn't in a place yet to get married although it's all I've dreamed of from a young age. He also brought my closer to God in ways I had let God out of my life for a while. Maybe each of your partners were like me and weren't ready for the commitment yet and just saved you from that heartache. I wish you both find your partner from God and that it's the best thing you've ever known.

[@BIBLE-a-s-m-r]

I wonder if the enemy got in their mind

[@timjohnson2186]

Congratulations on being blessed with a Godly spouse

[@EllenLupkey3123]

I think Kaci should have a podcast! who thinks the same?

[@kolton1688]

Your husband becomes the one when you stand at the altar and make a covenant before God and witnesses there. That’s when the person becomes “the one”.

[@laleezy77]

True cause things can be good & still end...

[@way2girly]

I love your story! I don’t think mine will be like that though, so sometimes I worry. My family isn’t Christian. Very broken. Not sure how God is going to work things out lol. I just pray for my future husbands walk with the Lord and that he is the man God called him to be. The only expectations I have is for him to be faithful to God and me. I feel like the last list I had stopped me from dating the right guy.

[@Ebs685]

Your video just popped up. So glad to see you again. And congratulations on your new family member. Stan., remember me I was your old teacher. Lol.

[@kacinicole]

Lol of course I remember you! Hope you're doing well 😊

[@blossomingbutterfly8955]

Thanks, you rock!

[@tubularbill]

Wow I wish more women that thought like you. It’s really hard out there.

[@Clarissa-lm5rj]

You are a great teacher, I really like when you talk about how to study the Bible

[@marianmagdy123]

We are waiting for your love story with Tyler video ☺️🙏🏻

[@faithnfruits]

I'm currently in a relationship right now but I just can't seem to feel worthy enough of him and so we are falling apart as I write this comment. It truly breaks my heart and I don't know what else to do. I feel like perhaps we're just not the one for each other.

[@laelcaroline2023]

I am helped, thank you

[@fromthethrone]

I wouldn't like to have a servant type of husband but my man is dominant king type of a man. 👑

[@oluwashegz8581]

Congratulations on 50k subscribers Kaci. I also enjoyed this video, thank you and God bless you 🙏🏽🤍

[@kacinicole]

Aw thanks so much!

[@rachelwild95]

This was a great video! Thank you for your detailed insight 😊 It’s hard to nail down one important quality (lol) but I would agree that a servants heart is a nonnegotiable, top quality I’m keeping an eye out for!

[@kacinicole]

I'm so glad you enjoyed it 😊 and YES - that is such an important quality that will serve (pun intended lol) you well in marriage 💛

[@wejohnson9101]

Beautiful

[@Yesica1993]

"The one", is the person to whom you make a binding oath before God that you will love and stay faithful to them until one of you dies.

[@ChristianseryRealtor]

Lord I am ready for mariage. I lean on you Jesus 🙏🏿

[@emilenesantiago]

Aw what a nice love story! I was single for 6 years and decided to never settle for less. Your description of your husband is the same as my current new boyfriend. The only catch is he's 9 years younger than me. hehe! But it's really different with him.

[@JLee-sx4te]

It’s nice to read this because I am currently questioning this fact. Is it going well with a younger man? How old are you if you don’t mind me asking?

[@emilenesantiago]

@@JLee-sx4te Hi! I am 28 years old and he's 19. After 1 month of knowing each other we just clicked and we've been dating for 2 months now. 1 week after we started dating we had to separate since he studies in another country. And so far everything is great, the Lord has been teaching us in our relationship. Maturity really doesn't come with age. You can find a 40 year old man and still act so immature.

[@GrammaPatriot]

Amen!

[@alexialira3839]

@emilenesantiago He's 19 and you're 28?? Leave that teenager alone 🤮

[@jenijeni5918]

Sorry to say this but did you asked God about this?

[@StrawberryJamJam29]

I have never found a man who was a true believer, single and attractive. The ones I was attracted to were always taken. 28 and never dated. Idk where to find these types of guys. The guys who like me are always very worldly and never approach in a respectful way, they’re just looking for a hookup. Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever attract someone who is respectful and modest.

[@SunFlower-qp2rh]

Ok recently i watched a lot of films in common content like yours. I’m 23 yo and I never had a boyfriend. 2 years ago I saw this guy in church. Since then we saw each othcher from time to time in our suburb but we don’t each otcher by names. Suprisingly my friends know this guy. But since 2020 I still think about him and someway I think that he will be my future hustband. I know this is weird. I pray about this whole situation because I’m so scared and nervous and unpatiently … Jesus I Trust in You.

[@tykeemgadsden7073]

Love it

[@kacinicole]

Thank you! 😊

[@louisruffin6808]

GOD IS love

[@nawkeziahtaw1818]

What about if it was a mix signals? How can we confirm?

[@siluetamaria8923]

Great content. Thanks 🥰✨ I made a list once about how I wanted my husband to looks like out and in the inside. But I feel discouraged today because what if God has someone totally different from what I prayed for ? It would make me sad instead of happy 😂. So I don't really know if I should be praying over that list

[@chichielem1843]

Hey hey👋🏾 I totally get it... But If God has someone else other than what you've been praying for, then it's going to be much better than you could have ever dreamt of or imagined😉 It has happened to me before, a lot of times I pray for something and God goes above and beyond expectations according to His will. I think you should ask Him what He wants you to pray for in a future husband. It's something I want to do too. Hope this helps 🤗 Blessings😊

[@siluetamaria8923]

@@chichielem1843 Amen 🙌🏼❤️✨

[@lizettepecina997]

I had thought about the same thing but I asked myself if I would rather God’s will be done or mine and it changed my perspective on it. I’ll just let Him write my love story…

[@BansheeKing22]

At this point who cares. Its pointless. Love doesn't exist and I laugh at those who still delude themselves with that shitty concept.

[@traceegadson7969]

I really enjoyed this video. The link for Still Single Devotional isn't working. Is there another way to find this devotional?

[@kacinicole]

Oh no, I'm so sorry it didn't work for you! Here is the link: kacinicole.com/still-single-devotional

[@JoyWeikle]

We grew up together whenever we met and grew up together and got married at me (18)and him (17) a bit unique situations ! We need to also read together! My prayer is is this; we both need a plan together! I knew we need to not although he is a believer Prayfor us please !

[@cedricburkhart3738]

Oh that's awesome. I thought someone should want you your butifol and your just charming.

[@sineadbradyfan2151]

Kaci, thank you for this video! Two questions: 1) Some Christians warn single women about Satan confusing them with "the counterfeit" - the man who appears to be "the one" but isn't - what are your thoughts?; 2) For singles who are more introverted/sensitive, does not always missing their boyfriend or girlfriend when they're away necessarily mean that they're not the right person for them? Thank you!

[@louisruffin6808]

I'm a believer in God

[@sarahkennedy1481]

I have been praying for a husband for 40 years. I have met a few men but they are not for me ie my heart or suitable😢

[@michellescott8541]

I heard you said have a Sabbath but my understanding is not to have a SABBATH but Keep The Sabbath on the seventh day as God command us.

[@leevee2658]

Lucky dude.

[@estherbyoona1572]

Just watched this...beautiful beautiful video and advise...love your sharing ❤ ❤🤍 what I am praying for is he loves God and is passionate about Jesus and his church...thanks for sharing

[@MA-yc7pz]

What if I felt he was but he wasn't ready for a relationship ......does it mean right person or wrong timing?

[@suzettehamilton8045]

What’s from God will be affirmed by God meaning he will send someone right for you in perfect timing when you both are ready.

[@kacinicole]

Hm, since I don't know all the details of the situation it's hard to say (and I definitely recommend inviting godly people who know you to speak into it!) but I would say that if he's not ready/it's not the right timing, it's generally best to let go of it as hard as it may be 😔 God can always bring him back into your life if/when it's right, but if you hold onto the hope of him in your heart, it may end up hurting you ultimately or even keeping you closed off to someone God does have for you! Again, I don't know the whole situation - but those are some thoughts 💛

[@chelseagelber1979]

Pray on it.

[@Nicole_Orany]

My advice is tht you pray about it, and let it go ( if it's from God it will come, but if it isn't it will not)

[@elizabeth6387]

what if there isn’t any godly counsel from people who know both of us on both sides but he fits most of the other points?

[@samantharonci4886]

Hey! I wanted to reach out because I feel like God put it on my heart to do so. I prayed a lot on this! Absolutely no disrespect. I feel like this video is shot towards just Christian. I haven't checked out your channel, but I think God calls us to be a little bit more open minded than sticking to one audience. I'd love to see some more of your awesome videos directed towards unbelievers too!! Who might not know about everything you're talking about!!! I think we should welcome unbelievers into our accounts rather than just directing our media to Christians :)

[@marianel7630]

Kaci , just hold on, you are an amazing godly young woman , and I can see it just by listening to your God entered understanding of marriage an what to know about a man before marrying. Please just slow down, and 'breath' in-between sentences. Love you a lot, but please wait for me , Im 72 and want to forward this to my granddaughter, as she's at that stage of her life where sooner or later she will get married. She is a Christian and very much aware of choosing the right Godly man to marry . I'm not trying to be rude or putting you down. You are an amazing true Christian and I can learn from you as a granny and mother. Just talk slower and rest in-between. Love you my dear 🙏❤️🌹 I'm sure my granddaughter will love you too 🌹

[@nahambohilma8598]

🙏❤💞

[@rebeccacirillo2494]

Funny, to me she talks slow to medium

[@haleechrisman6941]

Exodus 20 The Tin Commandments, the fourth commandment is "Remember the Sabbath day and keep it holy" My sabbath is sundown from Friday to sundown Saturday due to it being the fourth commandment and being the same sabbath Jesus kept even in death. This belief is supported by any part of the scripture talking about the Sabbath or talking about Good Friday ( the day Jesus was crucified ) to Easter Sunday ( the day he returned from the grave). ( His body did not decay or anything of the sort during the Sabbath it was passed exactly where it was to continue keeping the sabbath through death to be an example to use what it was made for. I encourage anyone interested to read and find these things in the Bible yourself and conduct your own beliefs on these matters. My apologies if this is said weirdly. Remember that not everyone has the same learning styles or ways of connecting with other people, so it's probably you could hear someone else speak on the same topic and it connects with you more, and or just makes more sense than the way someone else explains it. God also gives each of us different gifts at different levels of use, so even if you're not good at one thing there is something you are amazing at ☺️. Some other good places to go to understand the Sabbath would be, 3ABN with pastor Stephen Bohr or Doug Batchelor, 4 Bible flock box.

[@MyForeverPerson]

I am not super deep in church and having a relationship with God. I attract the same and 100% of the time, it’s a disaster.

[@louisruffin6808]

The best term to describe me is a believer.

[@sarahlehman8913]

See there unconditional love for me and others this comes after Jesus being Lord of every area of their life!

[@anandaferraresi]

Is it okay if my nonnegotiable quality list starts with “Loves Jesus” and goes on to “Has green eyes and English accent”? 😅

[@elizabethsnyder9678]

I'm single since I was a teen and young adult I'm waiting for the good relationship God choose to bring in my life of what spouse to be in marriage for God's kingdom. God would bright a spouse at his time and in right place. And someone caring and understanding. A man who accept and loves you as Christ Jesus loves and accept you. Honesty Confident knowing his identity in Christ and able to make his own decision. A Leader Has a relationship with Jesus Deep understanding Kindness Sense of humor Acceptance

[@russellmarvin2850]

Unfortunately I am divorced. I would say the one quality that I’m looking for my future partner is the willingness to be able to talk about anything and everything. Unfortunately that’s what broke up my marriage which led to the divorce.That is one of many qualities that I’m looking for in my future partner.

[@michelleraginimukhia9026]

Christians are not suppose to remarry until and unless your partner dies... Because that covenant can only be broken by death. Otherwise it's adultry...

[@nhendrie505]

@@michelleraginimukhia9026 You need to re-read the scriptures and ask God the Father for discernment.

[@michelleraginimukhia9026]

@@nhendrie505 tell me which one should i read

[@nhendrie505]

@@michelleraginimukhia9026 All of them. You spoke to the first man in pride. As I suggested to you, re-read the scriptures and ask God my Father for discernment from the Holy Spirit.

[@michelleraginimukhia9026]

@@nhendrie505 😂😂 when did i speak to that man in pride. I just said what was written in scripture. Please tell me the specific verse that i keed to read for the remarriage

[@Christiana_sheree]

Lol I’ll probably never get married which is the crazy part

[@m.o.s.h.1836]

You know if he's The One if he's a true Godly man 'coz he never played your life.

[@Unalunallenadeluz]

Side Note : practice THE Sabbath, not A Sabbath. It would be the same as saying worship a god versus THE GOD.

[@hannahshelton393]

I want these qualities but also him to be an artist. But, when ur a Christian but then also an artist. They can get mixed up or be really separate 😭I also come from Gen Z so that's also a problem 😒Lord help me

[@Anthony-yy3kc]

I obviously did not marry "the one" as we recently separated. I am at fault, although I have learned that I was abused and hurt as a child. So I now desire to become a eunuch for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven.

[@asifmuniruniverse7732]

You mean husband just one but other can have many it's depend on mood

[@Jacare1973]

Many of us don’t even have the option to date & marry a Christian, let alone date someone who is a strong Christian, that your compatible with, have common interests with. Women like this are unicorns. I have given up on finding a Christian spouse & will have to try to convert one.

[@JB-kx9bx]

You can't change people or force people to do things they don't want.

[@Sunny_losangelis]

Not true at all. If you yourself are not only a Christian man but someone truly surrendered to the Lord, God can and will provide you a woman with the same values. Audit your circles too, where exactly are you looking for these saved women? And are you the type of man that would attract a woman truly serving the Lord? In summary, trust God, He is able.

[@Jacare1973]

@@JB-kx9bx It’s not forcing anything. It’s disciplining which is scriptural.

[@Jacare1973]

@@Sunny_losangelis I don’t doubt Gods power to bring people together, but there’s really nothing in scripture to say God provides a wife. He certainly doesn’t drop a wife off on your doorstep like an Amazon package. In 50 years I have never seen God bring someone into my life. Haven’t even had the opportunity to date a Christian woman in over 20 years. It’s not that I wouldn’t, there just aren’t any.

[@markb2007]

I’m not sure you took a breath in 22 minutes? 🤔 On another note I appreciate you not cluttering it with “umm, uhh, like, literally” etc. as I have heard in so many other “how we met” videos.

[@gianninibezerracarvalho]

i think there's ONLY ONE that's "THE ONE" that's our Lord ...and the rest is #nabal 😁

[@szilardfineascovasa6144]

Be handsome, not a total slob, show some semance of Christianity (most will take it...) and there will be a neverending stream of sisters claiming you are the one for them...they felt it...and even had "a word of knowledge from the Lord". They even prayed about it two or three times. Please, ladies. The way most postings read, you'd think there's a bloody war in the church for spiritually mature men that are short, fat, bald and with medium-size wallets. You know, the ones that would worship the ground you walk on (which is silly, anyway; Christ does not "worship" the Church). As someone that is neither of the above (short etc.)...most men know. The invisible ones, the friendzoned ones...they (most) eventually figure it out. I just wish sisters would stop spiritualizing these things. Stil spreading the theologically faulty argument that God has someone special for you - if He indeed does, as an exception, it may be because in your future there are such burdens to bear you are one of the few that could make it work. Others would crumble under the pressure, only to become widowed prematurely. Do you think I was ever asked about my Masters in Theology, or I saw large smiles when hearing I have a Computer Science degree and work as a software engineer? (And, in a way, I get it.) So let's not pretend that "good girl wish list" is all that you want...because otherwise you'd already be married by now. Most women want it all, or very close to all. I guess...all the best if you are still a virgin, if you self-deny yourself daily in all relevant aspects of your life, pick up your cross again daily, bring up your bodies as living sacrifices, are willing to follow a husband when things get rough; if you truly consider divorce as a last resort and only on Biblical grounds, know why you believe what you believe, are easy to get along with, know at least a little bit to cook, can make a difference between elevating women and toxic feminism. If you are willing to end the relationship "of your dreams" because he is pressuring you into premarital sex. If you love Christ so much that, in comparison, it seems as if you are hating your own life. The standard for Chrisrianity is not set by the emotions evoked by your praise and worship band on Sunday, but by martyrs. Where do you rank, compared to them, dear sister? Are *you* that mature Christian, or you are not, and don't have the faintest idea how a real Christian moves through life...yet (supposedly) want one? Will you follow when he follows God's leading and things end in disaster...as a test you never thought you'd live? Would you stick by him through a Job experience or take the divorce card? Traditional men (what you want) want traditional women. And there are enough of these women and true Christianity in many parts of the world. I am blessed to live in such a part of the world...yet, I may still have from time to time to open some idealistic sister's eyes over how unbalanced their expectations are, compared with reality. I've led a single's group and the amount of bad advice I had to (gebtly and tactfully) correct was shocking. Such as...(unspiritual) women downright advising their daughters to "test their future husbands by abusing them emotionally: 'If he comes crawling back to you after you (figuratively) stomp his head, he loves you, he is the one for you.'" (This was one of those Orthodox conservative women, too, for all the Westerners that think Orthodoxy is God's gift to mankingd and kept pure since its inception.) Really?

[@isaackent2355]

Dude, I'm sure you are capable of falling in love with countless men, no such thing as the one, you're just happy with him.

[@thenameofthegame4037]

1 This is not a dude 2 do you know what love is? (Hint it's not a what but a who)

[@isaackent2355]

@@thenameofthegame4037 You're telling me she's so hateful that she couldn't love someone else?

[@BansheeKing22]

Easy. He had strong genetics ripe for passing on. My genetics are weak which is why ill die alone and why no girl has ever wanted me. Survival of the fittest. It is what it is and nothing will ever change that. There is no plan for my worthless life, theres no "story." That's why I'll never waste my time asking god for a wife ever again. Speaking to god is no different than me speaking to my cat. Either way I've gotten nothing but silence and ignored so why bother anymore. Love doesn't exist and im done deluding myself.

[@jamesbond257]

The one load of rubbish

[@revelationsandvisions7477]

⚠️ Women Defying God ⚠️ It is written: 1 Timothy 2:12 - But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. 1 Corinthians 14:34 - Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. 1 Corinthians 14:35 - And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church. 1 Timothy 2:11 - Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.

[@xokelseyxo9238]

Dear Kaci, I am a big fan of your content. I am 29 years old. I have been really struggling with the season of singleness. All of my friends around me are married or engaged. I fight the urge of jealousy every day. I know that everyone's story is written differently. I know the Lord has a purpose in my waiting. But, it really is a daily struggle I deal with every day. Do you have any advice? Unconditional love to you, always. 🤍

[@elaineparker1093]

God's time is always the best dear. In no time, you'll have a partner of your own in Jesus name. Stay blessed!

[@xokelseyxo9238]

@@elaineparker1093 Thank you so much! xx

[@elaineparker1093]

@@xokelseyxo9238 Don't mention 💖

[@JLee-sx4te]

I’m 37 and single lovely. Embrace your singleness. I worry about meeting someone because it means my relationship with the Lord will change. I soak up my singleness because it means I get to be so intimate with the Lord day in and day out. Treasure these precious single days because when you meet the one, your single days will be gone. I hope this helps - sent with love 💞

[@xokelseyxo9238]

@@JLee-sx4te Hi Jennifer! This was beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing with me. 💕

[@__-bc4bs]

He sounds good, but you don’t have to forceread the Bible to be holy. Read it when it calls. But try to always have a relationship with god through what you read.

[@delehadecker1285]

One of the best videos I have seen on this topic, thank you Kaci 🤍

[@kacinicole]

Aw thank you so much Deleha - so glad you liked it 🤍