How I stay at home with my children everyday WITHOUT feeling stressed

[@heavensentbrown3115]

I felt it when you said “A lot of the things we deal with in life are not even real “

[@happybusymamavlogs2292]

I definitely agree. I was just talking about this today of how society has placed this perception of me time as a huge deal. Bigger than taking care and raising your children well. When you have children your children become top priority. No u cannot pore from an empty cup so u have to take care of yourself. But our kids being top priority should not be looked down upon. Being a mother is not about maintenance days or kid free days. Its about using the time we have to raise beautiful human beings and the next generations.

[@luifishbrain]

I absolutely needed to hear this. I homeschooled my kids for a time and stopped to go back to work full time and I have been feeling the pull to go back to being a full time mother. Thank you for this.

[@kiarataylor8380]

I wish i could like this video a thousand times. So many women need to hear this.

[@123Nay]

I agree with this entirely! ❤I’m a stay at home mom of 4 and I’m just realising this with the birth of my 4th recently. I’m so much more free and less stressed because I’ve accepted that things will take longer and I won’t get as much done as I would without my kids but THAT’S OK!

[@Divine__Hala]

This was really good, I think the book professionalizing motherhood helped me shift my perspective on how important my role as a mother really is! It’s been better ever since

[@simplyanikad]

you couldn't have chosen a best time to post this , its the perfect timing or god has sent you to deliver this message to me. I have been a stay at home mom for 3 years and the first 2 years I have been mentally absent until I just accepted that this is now gonna be my life, but I still want to do more and feel like idk how when where to start , but now ill just do it with my kids .

[@suzanneclaiborne3265]

Yup its my new norm it’s only for a season

[@Divine__Hala]

This was my adjustment releasing what I do needs to be a us plan. And finding ways to make this easier and work for me the kids really just be cool being where you are!

[@Memorieswithoctavia]

I wish I could stay at home with my baby sis. Soon come ❤ great job mama !

[@antoinettemoore976]

Yessss to all of this. I work around my children. They are my priority.

[@ZiriD4321]

I learn SO much from you and your sister. As a single mom/entrepeneur… I really appreciate your videos. You Ladies are AMAZING🙌🫶🏻 Much Love

[@Bimski2023]

Who is her sister? Is she also amazing? Do tell..

[@Jayla_C30]

@@Bimski2023Her sister Alena has a channel called Mazelee.

[@jenniferwildflower4249]

This is so wise and true. ❤ I love it. Dealing with situations and creating new norms is about mindset! I love normalizing *MOTHERS as MOTHERS* in creative and work environments. Like the story you shared about your sister, yes! I love that! Not trying to hide our kids. Motherhood like hands on motherhood, and children in our midst, needs to be more normalized. Thank you for this encouragement. I do find taking stressing about every thing is the worst thing for me and my family, and it's so unhelpful and usually ends up being like, "why did I stress about that?" We have to go with the flow.

[@supersweet131]

For the first half of my motherhood it felt like my children were a burden. A heavy burden. I was working and had little quality time with them during the school week. When I stopped working my perspective shifted and I had an epiphany… they are my top priority. And I tell them often, “you are my top priority” so that they know. Also so they can continue that mentality when they are parents someday. But to keep it 💯 real, one of my four is EXTREMELY stressful to be around, and it’s not always a happy time with them. Regardless, we keep on!!! They are my top priority. Thank you for this message. I needed it!

[@hdskl2150]

I honestly didn’t understand it when I was younger. I put my older kids in preschool even though I was a stay at home mom - I thought that was what I was supposed to do!! Now with my youngest I am home with him 25/7 because he is special needs and homeschooling as well. It’s a service of love 💗

[@happybusymamavlogs2292]

So happy you did this video. We need good dedicated mothers in this world.

[@CircumstancesNeverMatter]

I’m a mommy it’s literally my job to take care of my babies. I never feel like they’re a burden ever never. That’s awful that society even continues to push this toxic narrative about children being burdens. Being a mom is in a separate category period from everything else I do in my life. It’s important to simply compartmentalize but never make children feel like they’re a burden that’s not okay.

[@jusshy]

Loved this video! I might go ahead and try ti get a wfh job now. I kept thinking it would be unprofessional because the people might hear my toddler making noise or crying over the phone. It’s really not that big of a deal. It’s normal. It’s a mother and her child. And my baby will not take a backseat to anything or anyone. I need to think of it like this.

[@Pangajck]

Really good...i love this challenge to shift perspectives and find solutions instead of accepting the alleged doom of motherhood

[@pamelalima5401]

Sooooo funny 😆. Just shout your ears, best therapy… this is real, another level. I pray I find kind helpful people on my way when I need to go places with my 3 little ones… I’m more than happy to help other moms

[@Memorieswithoctavia]

This was just so refreshing and calming mentally and spiritually thank you

[@MamaC98]

My ma feels that having her four daughters (2 currently in their mid-twenties and 2 teens) at home was never a burden. I'm the oldest and have considered moving out, but I think I will stay until I find a spouse. She joked that I should move out by 28. My other sister and I are well-rounded young women who still live with her while the two teens do online school at home.

[@CeCezzy576]

When I tell you this video was a Godsend, I am so glad I came across this. So many important things were addressed 💓. Thank you for this!

[@sanaabhatti7894]

I love the idea of asking people to help with specific jobs. I have been trying to do everything myself when i drop the kids off with family, but i end up feeling sad and resentful that im still just as exhausted when i pick them up and have been wondering what i can do differently. So i love this!

[@tryshea1922]

When she says 'imagine if your only job was to take care of your child' Lord Have Mercy! Women now, we have it soo hard 😢. So sad. I have a very similar philosophy as her, also I keep in mind My future. Creating my successful business because 1 day my children will be grown. Right now my husband helps while I raise our children, but with how people are these days I know I can't rely on him always being around. Especially once the kids are grown. Imagine not having to consider that! So I homeschool, but run my own businesses.

[@LaraEdwards-x5p]

I've had pretty bad experiences trying to bring kids to my medical appointments. Firstly, it was totally banned during covid for prenatal visits. I had a virtual PTSD group demand that I have quiet private space in my private residence with no distractions. There was no option for in-person attendance, which would have been way more reasonable and accommodating because I could at least hire a babysitter. I dont have any place outside of my residence to park my kids for two hours where I am also not in attendance. In another case, an ob office gave me the choice between getting an antibiotic infusion or rescheduling or leaving my children unattended in the car. They claimed there was no space in their exam room.

[@sharhondarivera6378]

“Strap them down with some chains, I don’t know.” 😂😂😂

[@ashleywest9635]

Yes, ma'am! I feel that I have the same purpose. We brought the children here with the blessing from the creator, and I believe we should take care of his gift to the absolute best of my ability... I love your video about this topic and the advice you are giving. Im currently watching this video while the kids are screaming at each other, I AM gonna get the noise canceling earbuds to minimize the number of times I have to say "Aye, Be Quiet." Lol!! Thanks for the videos!!

[@JuniperLynn789]

Preach!!! I’m a 39 year old mom of 3. I also homeschool. We also moved our family out to the country last year, because we realized just how little “stuff” and extras we need in life. Suburban life was not fitting us anymore. So much unnecessary busyness (like when you mentioned some of these things we think are normal or necessary are actually totally made up social constructs simply from keeping up with the Jones). All we need is each other, and we need nature. Lots of it. And you know what? People out here all have the same mindset. We all do everything with our families. There’s so much peace.

[@LivieJayCooks99]

I needed this video! Thanks so much for sharing this knowledge ❤

[@arodriguez2007]

@6:50 great point.

[@Christelle_inChrist]

This is so refreshing 😆 thank you for this empowering perspective ❤

[@PrayerWarrior-cn1ex]

LoL i have had all my appointments with my kids and yes people do help out. Everything is for a season has helped me.

[@LinnyNalls]

I needed to hear this morning. ❤

[@modaste9482]

When I say I am so in love with you!! I thank God I’ve come across your videos because they have almost quite literally saved my life! Thank you so much for your support to @home Mommy’s, you are a blessing 🙏🏾🫶🏽

[@chevzlolita8647]

Thank you for this. This was randomly on my feed and was drawn to listen. Thank you a thousand. Because i really needed to hear this

[@sharhondarivera6378]

Mom’s need to stick together so we can normalize having our children in public. 😂

[@Graceful_Love]

I needed this TODAY

[@ashleyrandleas8157]

Thank you so much may God bless you

[@ivelissebouet9563]

Oh my. Bless your heart. Thank you for sharing your thoughts I'm always with my daughter and Im always apologizing because of it even though I feel that is our way and is perfect that way. Thank you.

[@pamelalima5401]

Love you, so true and simple

[@hunnuunny]

The working I can easily give up. BUT I like, in fact I LOVE to clean! I love a clean environment, and it does get in the way!😂😂😂

[@PreciousBB18]

Great tips, thank you!

[@sasharemez7373]

My kids go with me to all my appointments. During pandemic it was tough when I would show up with a kid. But now it’s fine, they sit and wait for me, or they play with the toys they bring. They know they need to grab toys when we go to appointments so they won’t be bored.

[@jedidahmoses8189]

I absolutely love this.

[@kynamonroe6933]

I'm so happy I found this video. ❤

[@Deenysworld]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you 😊

[@titiodujole1503]

Seriously...you and your sis encouraged and challenged me.. I love you both❤

[@allthingsbooked]

🙌🏾Well said!

[@BethRichLife]

I’m a wfh mom. My daughter is 4. She wants to sit right next to me while I work and it gets stressful sometimes. These tips help. I’d love to earn money that doesn’t require a 9-5, but I haven’t figured that out yet. This video has given me some perspective about being a mom. I often work late or I’m cleaning all day. I do try to spend time with my kids, but I can make changes. Thanks for sharing.

[@chrystalcr3510]

Thank you. For this. ❤

[@Memorieswithoctavia]

Omgggg never thought to use friends and family for things like oil change and grocery shopping. You are a God send you know that ?????! 🤗

[@KenyattaScott-c4q]

Yes. It's always the reality of not being fully present with respects to prioritizing your parenthood. Those who chose to have children for the wrong reasons that is. They are the ones to get upset with parenthood and try to ditch a child(ren) at every opportunity. So sad for the children.

[@marquelstatham708]

Love this!

[@jkc7134]

BLESS YOU 🙌🏽 ❤ 😅

[@mariadelaney6576]

I love this video. The more I lean into motherhood and that it’s my primary (not only) purpose; the more fulfilled and happy I feel. Can you link your sister’s KZbin? I’d love to follow her too. I’m one of those people who will bring my baby to a meeting too.

[@Jian396]

Asmaze or mazelee

[@Tehutli]

Can’t wait! I’m expecting my first! I feel badly when mom friends appear so miserable and wish they could be other things. For those of us who desire to be a mommy so bad it’s hard to relate.

[@deec3561]

Preach!

[@agents3409]

Being solution minded is the key!

[@Kay.4892]

I had to laugh 😂, because the Holy Spirit told me to utilize those ear plugs at the beginning of the homeschool year so Im not too stressed.

[@NiketaChristinaSpeaks]

I felt this 🥹

[@slimsimmschannel7147]

OMGG thank you so much for all these tips. This is such a relief to know how it’s possible to get things done even with your kids in tow. I wish I knew all this 7 years ago with my oldest but it’s never too late. I SOOOO APPRECIATE YOU ONG 😊🥰🥰

[@AyanaInChrist]

So good.

[@Kidslibrarywithmrsa]

YES!!!!🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👏👏

[@Andrea-ud4vb]

I want to stay home with my babies so much and homeschool them. But I don’t think me and my husband can financially make it and it makes me so sad. I just know I was made to be a mother and raise my babies. It gives me so much purpose, but it feels like I don’t have a choice and will never be fully happy.

[@Brightening411]

❤❤

[@thecrazygoodmomlife]

I needed to hear this ❤ literally couldnt have said it better 😊 i have put my children in childcare trying to find work, and get a peace of mind. I have a child who im fighting for a diagnosis because she is just extremely hyperactive. I cant wait til i get mental space where i can deal with my kids. 😂😭 My youngest i can deal with but my oldest we can stay at the playground 2 hours, have activities all day and she still wants to run around 😫 even at school with activities shes hyper and fidgety. Kudos to moms who can handle their kids all day 😂

[@jonahbienhoff]

Im trying to build myself up. Im a busy stay home mom of a 2 year old but im trying to build a at home income so i can leave and emotional abusive relarionship. We want to homeschool and lost. Would love anytips, tricks amd guidencs

[@Memorieswithoctavia]

Everything is gonna take a long time! Whew that's the one lol

[@handmadewithchristiwade9693]

Wow 8:43 something about tuning out your children with ear buds seems wrong, lol

[@msn27-18]

lol which ear muffs are we wearing ? Drop link 😂

[@erinbarrow4819]

Hey akeeba hope you're having a great day

[@twalker2048]

The husband should also be doing something, right? We home schooled all five of our children (four boys and one girl). Four are in college. We did it as a team and it was wonderful. Now, my wife is back out in the workforce and she is loving that environment.

[@LouisLuzuka]

😮

[@ELKASIDAV]

使徒の働き 3:19 ですから、すっかり心を入れ替えて、神に立ち返りなさい。そうすれば、神様は罪をきよめてくださいます。

[@DimereseiniNRobbyRavouvou]

most mothers have to go to work in countries like USA as education is not free from years 1 to years 13 right????????? yes simple common sense their mentality is that they gotta pay school fees so how to get money right many wonder why they want kids in the first place right exactly anyways you doing okay in Maryland with the Princesses God bless always guys

[@The-Oneness11]

What about those offices where they tell you you can't leave your children in the waiting room?

[@AkeebaMaze]

I would switch providers if it were someplace I visited often. More and more people are realizing kids are a part of a society where women work.

[@cocoa5413]

Hi Akeeba, do you tutor 1st gr math?

[@annicks7385]

We may feel that way but society doesn't . Bringing them to medical appointments has never been good for me . Even during labor I had my son in the hospital and I was waiting for my husband . The nurses weren't happy . We love our kids but America treats them like they're a burden

[@chaim6768]

It is a priviledge to choose not to work. Bills, housing and food do need to get paid.

[@tryshea1922]

@@chaim6768 Not necessarily. Change your mentality, your not a victim of your circumstances. Change them. Come up with an idea to start your own business. It may time, you may initially have to put in extra time but %100 doable. Your children can stay with you running your own business.

[@hdskl2150]

It’s a sacrifice really. God will provide all our needs but it’s an emotional sacrifice to choose to care for your family.

[@tryshea1922]

@@hdskl2150 Right

[@jenmulvaney]

Take it from a stay at home homeschooling single mama who only gets a minimum amount of money from child support and a few other sources, it is not a privilege, it is a CHOICE. And it can be done with the smallest of means if you’re creative and wise with your resources. My choice is to be with my children, especially while they’re young and the foundation for their entire lives is being built by their daily experiences. They have me and they don’t get left with caretakers. I want to raise my own children. I do it all for them. I’m not saying it’s easy or that this choice is for everyone, I’m saying if you truly WANT to be home with your kids, you will find a way to make it work.

[@shawntoriawilliams921]

❤🎯​@@jenmulvaney