How MEN Fall in LOVE Vs How WOMEN Fall In LOVE

[@LGGodaboveitALL]

I hope this is for young men and men grow out of this. I do believe it’s true that “distance” and “keeping a man on his toes” can work but I don’t want to be 50, 60, 70 having to keep him on his toes. That sounds like work!

[@irinaivanovic9792]

Right! I’m 42 and no way am I about to act like a sociopath to get my needs met from a man inside what’s supposed to be a happy, healthy relationship!

[@Realishness]

Agreed. too much work to keep up with.

[@queefmicester1189]

No good dude with emotional/financial stability, confidence and substance will stick around for longer than a week if a woman tri d to play mental & emotional games. ....ask my ex how I know this 😆 ....she thought I was bluffing when I told her we are done 🤣 (and trust me I gave her a few chances B4 deciding to kick her drama filled ass out of my house, the sex was good but I didn't like the 48 hours of petty arguing, attitude and moodiness that followed)

[@infjinfj1900]

The reality is that most men have not been raised in society to develop healthy attachment styles . It’s unnatural to have to play games or manipulate for love; that’s not love.

[@EmptyNesterWellnessSociety]

Same with women. They also have not been raised in healthy relationships.

[@dearbrave4183]

Comparing wearing makeup with lying is extreme. Makeup doesn't harm anyone, lying has destroyed families, companies, and societies. Plus is easy to tell when a person is wearing makeup, karma exists because lies are usually believed until something slips. People who wear makeup always remove it and are seen as they are, people who tell lies rarely come forth to tell the truth.

[@EmptyNesterWellnessSociety]

Actually, there are plenty of women that wake up before their husband to put make up on and take it off after he is asleep. This has been happening since make up was invented. And don't forget, plenty of women lie too...to get what they want. And women excel at manipulation as well.

[@zoilife1355]

Make up can be a lie too lol. No judgement cause I wear a little from time to time. But, some women look completely different with makeup and falsies

[@dearbrave4183]

@zoilife1355 I don't know why you tagged me just to repeat a point I already dismantled in advance.

[@zoilife1355]

@@dearbrave4183 sounds like you answered your own why

[@artifundio1]

​@@zoilife1355dismantled?! You give yourself too much credit for a flimsy dissertation 😅 Make up is a lie in my opinion. And I don't feel the need to sugar coat it to any smart grown man (I'm heterosexual). It would be disrespectful. If I want to wear makeup (which has happened like 10 times in my 44 years) I will, but I won't be saying that's my true face. Because it isn't, obviously. Those body shrinking clothing? Stretchy yoga pants? That's a lie too. Sorry, not sorry. I am a woman, not a girl. No lies.

[@fabricehategekimana5350]

I will give a male perspective about the vasopressine theory: - It works just after the end of the stress/problem solving period not during (sorry we are too focused in the moment) - It's like when the water taste better after sport: any woman will look more attractive (not only you) - This is subtle, but it don't really works when you're the direct cause of the stress. I mean if you expose a need to solve in a healthy way it's perfect. But if you put him in drama the association in his mind won't be in your favor - It won't make a man fall in love with you but make him more attracted to you The best strategy is to know his struggling periods and wait at the finish line. That's a bit manipulative, but you basically just have to be there in those moments to gain more affection. This theory came from the suspension bridge experiment Of course as I say, this won't really make a man fall in love so the distance method will be more effective if well done IMO

[@earthwormjim3269]

My experience is that any kind of stress associated with a woman you're attracted to will cause vasopressin release - probably even moreso if she's the direct cause of the stress. As a man you know when your vasopressin levels are elevated because you start to feel overwhelmingly fond of her and protective of her ("in love"). It feels like a drug and you become chemically addicted to her because she is the drug dealer (stress inducer).

[@SheriAshcraftIndianaVeteran]

I will not “fall” in love because to fall is to go backwards in progress. Fall back. Fall away. Etc. I will simply allow myself to love someone well, rather than abandon my needs and happiness for the concept of love. Hope this makes sense.

[@j12barron]

Better to grow in Love instead of falling in love ❤😌

[@baileyb8619]

It is absolutely amazing how men and men are having relationships. We are polar opposites. But the reality is that people are not having successfully snd healthy relationships. Social media, addictions, etc., have caused trauma and major disconnection.

[@cazzawazzawoowoo1600]

No, people were never having healthy relationships. It was only a generation ago it was legal and socially acceptable to beat your wife. It was just divorce was socially shameful and women couldn't financially survive without a man. Now women have financial independence, are not choosing men and men haven't changed in how they approach relationships much.

[@mariiajoanna7476]

If I have to tell a grown man not to shout at me, He is not for me anyway.he should know.

[@EmptyNesterWellnessSociety]

Sweetheart, you are going to have some pretty heavy life lessons coming your way with that attitude.

[@MVPA-io5ee]

Feels like men is so much work. Not worth it. Sounds more like a game that you need to play.

[@jodiburnett6211]

Women wear makeup Men lie 😂🎉 Done!!!

[@OE2023]

I cackled

[@sierrawaldock480]

Why the games why can’t you just be a good genuine person and if you don’t like someone. Don’t . Pursue. Them.

[@shoujofanatic]

I couldn’t take the dude quoting Oscar Wilde about love seriously. Oscar Wilde wasn’t even into women 😂

[@Val.Kyrie.]

But the guy was right.

[@sharonjacksonwhite6907]

This was great!

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

3:14 I do judge the man, but if he offers me more benefits than the judgement I have of him then I'm game.

[@ronig3952]

Actually, to add to that, women do judge men by their body count, we just don't make it as obvious...silently reject men by making nice guy excuse. Lol. We all know the "nice guy" isn't really so nice. But, men are too delusional to even think to believe that we judge them so.

[@LifeisaBeautifulting]

Horrible advice for people with attachment issues

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

Relationships aren't for the weak anyways.

[@ayjeisaweirdo8109]

Right

[@Chommikenya]

Secure attachment is a healing process and it is necessary!!

[@milena9948]

I know, my darling... but the relationship wounds (attachment issues) can ONLY be healed in other relationships, by reinforcement of good things and healthy behaviours in situations that bring up fear in you in any way. That's the sad truth about it... But also sth that should give us hope for healing. "Where your fear is, there your task is." Carl Jung Much love ❤

[@seochr]

Hahahaha

[@monicachantee]

I fall in love with space 😭 attachment issues

[@KeegiiBaby]

😂

[@DormHouse]

Are you an astronaut ? 😂

[@cloudslady3400]

It took me the worst relationship of my life to realise I love the space more than the man..and the idea of him more than his actual existence…I used to feel so suffocated whenever he is around…all the things I had to pretend while feeling like escaping or killing myself made me build up resentment and hatred…..I used to say I “ loathe you “ more than I love you….I actually never said it…. Now that he’s gone all i do is write poetry about him…other men are surprised by how much I bring his name in every topic they wish to have a girlfriend like ME????….well he almost dissolved in my hatred..I couldn’t help but destroy every connection I still love him I just hated his presence or what that presence required of me that I lacked..complex…but I believe extreme attachment issues should make someone avoid dating all together

[@Allforoneandoneforallll]

@@DormHouse😂😂😂

[@SantanaGroenmeyer-zc6lx]

I knew it, I have guys brain 😂😂😂❤

[@LollyMadikiza-xw4ok]

Let the men tell us,not women

[@bodhisattva2348]

how am I suppose to stress a man out?

[@HL-yb6jt]

Idk why watching this any just to hear people perspective on love I agree with boundaries I’m not afraid to scared any man off My message wld be know your worth but don’t be arrogant….

[@Ali.nalovecat]

This is EYE OPENING

[@Chommikenya]

Glad you loved it ❤

[@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes]

❤

[@hinroiasouth9481]

Why is Mandy Moore faking her accent? 9:12

[@HL-yb6jt]

Idk my bf few months ago he said “ im gonna go watch the fight with my boys…” I go have fun!” 1 hour later he text me “ what u doing he is thinking about me! I go awww and he call too he said “ come to the bar bc i miss u already” so i think space …..I once been working to much ignore him few day he be taking of work early n bringing me dinner so space but when u r together be play full…. Don’t chase and play game men usually know right the way that we’re a rare diamond upon first meeting.🥰

[@markfennell1167]

Most of these are inverted 100% inverted. Men don’t enjoy chasing Men enjoy knowing they have it. Men enjoy knowing it will be there. Men also don’t fall in love with space Men want women who will be there Women are the ones who don’t give enough And men see that as not worth the effort It is more natural for women to give more and expect less. While men receive more and suffer less. Women need to give more in all ways and demand less. That is how you attract and keep a man

[@JessicaMetro-j8r]

Thank Goodness 😅 I thought I lost my mind for a moment. I care for a man by being nurturing and consistent. I want him to know I have his back and am here to celebrate his wins and comfort him in his losses. I'm 43 but have approached relationships with this energy my entire life. I thought a man would appreciate it lol I'm still single 😅 but authentic!

[@idk-ill-figure-smn-out]

In nature, the female NEVER provides for or chases the male. That's just a waste of resources and energy on her end, and that expense stresses and ages her prematurely. She'd be better of _alone_ at that point, and I say this as someone currently in a relationship where I *refuse* to even do 50-50. I won't lower my standards for any man, regardless of how much I may care about him. I love myself *more,* and the people in my life get to benefit from the blessings my feminine abundance creates. That's why wealthy men are providers, because they know they get to benefit from the energy they invested in her.

[@idk-ill-figure-smn-out]

I'd rather NOT keep a man and treat myself to the spoils then. No man deserves to steal my precious energy and force me into a masculine providing role. No self-respecting lady with standards will tolerate that sort of bull-ish, you'll just end up with a doormat woman who will be too weak to properly raise, provide for, and protect your children because she's too busy jumping through hoops for her man-child husband.

[@idk-ill-figure-smn-out]

I'd rather NOT keep a man and treat myself to the spoils then. No man deserves to steal my energy and force me into a masculine provider role that will prematurely age me and cause me unnecessary stress. No self-respecting lady with standards will tolerate that sort of bull-ish. Females don't chase or initiate, not even in nature. Even 50-50 is bs.

[@idk-ill-figure-smn-out]

I'd rather NOT keep a man and treat myself to the spoils then. No man deserves to steal my energy and force me into a masculine provider role. No self-respecting lady with standards will tolerate that sort of bull-ish. Fact is that females don't chase or initiate, not even in nature. Even 50-50 is bs.