How Much Do Japanese Girls Ghost Guys?

[@takashiifromjapan]

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[@hiro8925]

takashi, i really want the girl in red adidas top to make her mine. can u help me getting her socials

[@hiro8925]

Akai adidasu no toppu o kita on'nanoko kore o mite irunara, watashi ga anata o watashi no mono ni shitai to omotte iru koto o shitte oite kudasai.

[@jimmystar8972]

I actually was in a relationship for 4 years when I got ghosted by my ex. She didn't say a word took her belongings and left only to see her have me unfriended on social media with a new partner. It took me years to get over that, please guys provide closure or feedback to people who care about you.

[@diuneimaaaaaa]

That's Fkn weird

[@eebbaa5560]

just lock in

[@sodone466]

Any fee male you're with, always has one foot out the door. That's why they have zero problem leaving at the drop of a hat. But if that new one doesn't work out, and they have no other options, they'll be back.

[@Andy-pp5ic]

4 years is long time , lack of communication maybe , something you were doing or not doing .. hard to say , you probably know

[@britty23]

​@@sodone466 you sounds like a perpetually single guy with no idea of how actual females or relationships work. Please don't give out false advice lol

[@TokyoJuul8008]

"Because I'm Japanese" is wild.

[@Soulstorm453]

Yeah to me that sounds like an excuse might be cultural difference tho idk tbh

[@mbank3832]

It’s like asking why someone is obese and they say “because I am American”

[@yankeeinjapan8869]

@@TokyoJuul8008 it is wild. I’ve been here in Japan almost a decade and that’s a common thing for Japanese people to say. Even when it comes to things they dislike about themselves or their culture, they say “Because I’m Japanese.” I guess after being here so long I’ve stopped judging them for such things. I just avoid those kind of ppl and choose to deal with more culturally aware individuals. Thing is, tho, Japanese culture and education is so engrained into them, that some people just can’t break out of that mould without some outside influence. After all, as the saying goes “The nail that sticks up gets hammered down.” Unfortunately , a lot of behavior here is molded by pressure to conform, a fear of standing out, risk and conflict avoidance, and saving face. When that is hammered into your head since childhood, and you never leave the country (note these are all young girls and most seem like the typical, “can’t think for myself Japanese girls”), it’s hard to break habit. You would be surprised how unfamiliar Japanese people are with anything outside their country. All some of them know is what they see on TV, because they don’t normally have chances to interact with foreigners I don’t agree with ghosting someone and think it’s a cowardly thing to do, but I can understand “why” she said…It’s because I’m Japanese. Bc that’s a hell of a lot to unpack

[@eebbaa5560]

@@yankeeinjapan8869 the biggest problem is that they’re so intellectually lazy about it to the point where it only reinforces the behavior. a lot of “cultural” beliefs that they have are embarrassing and antisocial.

[@yankeeinjapan8869]

@ Oh yeah I totally agree. I guess just after being here so long I’ve learned to just avoid individuals like that. There is a reason why ppl here are avoiding romance and marriage, and it’s not just “economics.” I’ve long thought that many behaviors here are based on pressure and fear. Unfortunately, there’s also a lack of effort and frankly an unwillingness to do so. I’ve noticed that some ppl will say statements as if it’s their own opinion, when it’s just what they’ve heard others say and they haven’t even experienced the thing they’re talking about. “It’s just my image.” Stuff they see online, never any anecdotal evidence to back it up. I think every Japanese person should spend at least some time overseas.

[@MrRobot-jb5tI]

Dating in Japan sounds like where the only thing scarier than ghosting is direct confrontation

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

I think some western people do it too those who are shy

[@Paz888Love]

From what I gather, it’s culture where it’s about fitting in, not upsetting others, and repressing a lot of your feelings.

[@1000OtherFoxes]

I feel that if there is one nation that would ghost more than any other, it would be Japan, precisely because avoiding confrontation seems deeply rooted in the culture/relationships.

[@thepeopleslibrary8673]

Brazil is the same… ghosting very normal.

[@sc4ndi]

The way your mic filters out street sounds is impressive.

[@ruta_VA]

definitely something that's underappreciated here

[@koffiegast]

I got ghosted in Japan. Some would still message three months later. It is extremely disrespectful. If you cant say "no im not interested" then you are just a child imo. Assuming you had a normal relation with the person, and you are not a stalker messaging nonstop or so, of course

[@amazonmandy]

Surprise! No one owes you closure or their time!

[@Creepytaco95]

Ghosting just feels so cowardly. If it doesn’t work out, it wasn’t meant to be. Just tell the other person that. 9 times out of 10 if they’re a mature adult they’ll accept it.

[@ThePirateHunter]

たまに、日本人の「優しさ」とはよく分からない場合があるよね。相手に直接いうよりモヤモヤさせて、何が問題だったのかなって考えさせるってどこが優しいの？って思っちゃうなぁ 自分の顔を守りたいだけって感じがする。

[@serama_ceq8944]

全員じゃないけど、日本人は白黒よりグレーゾーン選ぶ人が多い気がする。恋愛にせよビジネスにせよ曖昧表現が多くて困っちゃう時結構ある。

[@ThePirateHunter]

​@@serama_ceq8944 私もそう思います！曖昧な表現で困っちゃうのはよくあって、誰でもわかってるはずなのに、結局それを「優しさ」と名のって使い続けるのは疑問ですね。曖昧な言葉で困らせてるのは知ってるはずなのに 🥲 外国人の私がそれに慣れるしかないね笑

[@barberbroski]

2:35 - run

[@ytuser6091]

That's real for many girls around the world actually but us guys sometimes don't want to acknowledge that, sad but true unfortunately

[@tpop3723]

The lack of maturity and shallowness is astounding. This has been a real eye opener.

[@Soulstorm453]

Think you takashi! As someone who plans on living in Japan your videos are really helpful! Also respect to the girl at 7:33

[@SimplyBelieve1]

These videos are so interesting. I think learning about different cultures is extremely important. It’s also nice to know that even if someone lives half way across the world that we’re all humans and we still have a lot of similarities. Great video!

[@Jagermonster69]

Kakashi this video is BANGER dude. all the best

[@sobered1344]

The country where your parents don't say I love you, girls ghost, and pr0stituti0n isn't cheating. Overworked and High rate of self deletion... dystopia with great food

[@HKstroller]

All the sensational stuff on the internet doesn't paint the full picture. It's no more and no less dystopian than any other culture. Many people find peace and fulfillment living in Japan. You pick your pros and cons, same with anything in life.

[@AyubuKK]

People really need to be okay with confrontation

[@zahrabjinu]

This was interesting. No one felt bad about ghosting the other.

[@Hannya-grd]

as a guy who experience a lot of meeting and talking to japanese girls,i can confirm this is true. especially when you're from a not so good country. but if you're american,singaporean or some guy from europe, they will talk to you even tho they barely speak english. LOL

[@SL-qu6zh]

East Asians like other east Asians and also Caucasians, this is fact

[@ytuser6091]

Do you mind sharing which country or at least the part of the world? I'm really curious if Japanese girls here in Europe might be thinking the same or not

[@MrAnimeAlex1]

Some of these people are toxic as hell... jeez. I understand the "avoid confrontation" mindset of the Japanese people but without communication / confrontation, you'll never have a lasting relationship. Grow up.

[@mbank3832]

Let’s say this; ghosting will always be they are not interested. And they want to be chased is because they want to satisfy themselves, not because they like you for who you are

[@Marlo_189]

Considering his feelings it wasn’t good but I did it anyway😂that’s wild

[@mbank3832]

I know…It’s like saying them saying I know stealing is a crime but I did it anyway ✌️😝

[@brooks1700]

i think this kind of cowardice is pretty universal at this point sadly. if it happens to you, you dodged a bullet imo

[@Mackievellian]

Nostalgic seeing Shibuya again. Can't wait to go back :))

[@chinavirus841]

Stay in your country

[@produto_pirateado]

...and thats how i got into the gym.

[@TgamerC]

As a man, I prefer that someone I'm interested in tell me right up front: 'Look, I don't feel a connection with you and prefer to leave things as they are,' rather than being ignored out of the blue. It hurts less and, somehow, it's more polite than just ghosting and ignoring someone. If you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, be sincere and honest instead of ending things out of nowhere. I do the same if I'm not interested in someone.

[@yankeeinjapan8869]

The question we’ve always wanted to ask 😂😂 finally

[@mbank3832]

So you never took a hint huh? That explains why the desire to ghost you haha jk

[@yankeeinjapan8869]

@ lololol I think at this point we’ve all been ghosted.

[@mbank3832]

@@yankeeinjapan8869 yea I mean, there is no questions to be asked why they do it lol. It’s pretty obvious

[@yankeeinjapan8869]

@@mbank3832 video basically is saying “we ghost bc it’s easier to avoid responsibility but sux when it happens to us.” Lolol Nothing new here but a fun watch

[@mbank3832]

@@yankeeinjapan8869 It seems like there are just endless reasons for b*tches to be b*tches haha

[@mattcowdisease1346]

Reason 4,235 on why girls stop talking to me: to slow of texter.

[@Lauren_1987]

It's a 2-way street -- guys and girls ghost each other all the time. IMO, it is cowardly, rude and disrespectful. When I was dating (many years ago) and felt the relationship was not great (for several reasons), I told him the reasons WHY in person. I felt it brought closure to both of us. It showed I was respectful of the other person's feelings/emotions.

[@RenzoZevenking777]

Amazing 🦅

[@MasakanSolaris]

Something about this makes my stomach churn. If you don't like me at least have the courage to say it to my face. Cowards...

[@HanataroKoji]

We don't ghost out of fear, but for convenience. The end result will be the same since few people actually appreciate the hard truth.

[@MasakanSolaris]

​@@HanataroKojiThen I suppose I'm one of those fabled few. Because I'd rather they be honest with me and tell me it isn't gonna work cause at least then I can have a bit of respect for them as we part ways.

[@HanataroKoji]

@@MasakanSolaris I appreciate you for that. If I met you in another life you're a person I definitely would've gave closure too without worrying about my safety lol

[@mbank3832]

Women be like they don’t need to have courage, it’s men’s job to have courage and be honest but we don’t have to 😂

[@rhinoman86]

This is pretty normal. You sound inexperienced, which is okay.

[@creatormanualdarytendotmve4748]

FB is far better looking & far stronger than Takekuma Mitsuki.

[@JamesCotter-be4se]

That was interesting😁

[@El_Voltage]

This was very interesting.

[@3rd_iimpact]

Finally. A video about my dating life but in Japanese.

[@Pandyrew]

It’s definitely seems cultural for them to ghost but yea it definitely feels terrible to feel ghosted.

[@danielvera9890]

omg this sounds like a nightmare tho...sign me up

[@exploringandstargazing]

"I say 'let's meet again', but I dont intend to." has such Chandler Bing vibes to me, lol. "Well, this was great, Ill give you a call, we should do it again sometime."

[@sumdude4281]

I got ghosted all the time in the 00's and it was terrible. But I ghosted too. Then one girl actually acted like an adult and told me it wasn't going to work and why. It was a great conversation and I wished her luck. After that I decide to give people closure when not interested. It's tough b/c...well most people don't deal well with rejection but it's the adult thing to do. If people on the receiving side of these discussion would act like adults too maybe just maybe these conversations would happen more often.

[@ronl7131]

Good vid

[@quebecpower978]

Man that is scary to see from a country that i deeply love.

[@hiro8925]

Akai adidasu no toppu o kita on'nanoko kore o mite irunara, watashi ga anata o watashi no mono ni shitai to omotte iru koto o shitte oite kudasai.

[@MadAudi]

Don’t they work 12-16 hour days in Japan? When do they have time to date or reply to text messages?

[@トド-f7i]

There are very few people who work that hard.From🇯🇵

[@MadAudi]

@ I guess that’s just a false myth that they work people that hard in Japan. Thanks for the reply!

[@ytuser6091]

I really like your interviews but it would be really appreciated if you can do interviews from less modern cities in Japan other than Tokyo

[@HardcoreMasterBaiter]

7:28 Is it a coincidence that the girl in the zebra clothes has both the best ideals and the best appearance of all the girls?

[@rhinoman86]

Yes, obviously a coincidence.

[@dearthditch]

10:46 Prettier 😊

[@d3f1anc3]

Dating in this country seems like an absolute hellscape. Stick to your JAVs and soaplands kids 😂

[@paultugade3219]

but to be honest, I hate the fact that when you're already in a relationship and you ghost somebody just because you're losing feelings and felt uninterested thinking that your own reasons are true that that person doesn't even seem to like you so you leave and sometimes it sucks when you just see another side of that person's true nature but never accept it in a good way. we could just be weird and cool at the same time but at least accept us truly not to pretend and think that you did everything because you've shown kindness.

[@yankeeinjapan8869]

2:37 ppl might dog this girl for being this way but I appreciate her honesty. I wouldn’t wanna deal with her tho ngl 😂

[@sodone466]

Problem is, they "all" love to play games. And because of that, they lose out on a life S O. But in the end, they all want a disposable ATM. Love has nothing to do with it anymore.

[@yankeeinjapan8869]

@ they don’t call it the game for nothin after all. But it seems like serious dating worldwide has gone to shit from what I hear haha.

[@agnishom]

that's straight up toxic

[@yankeeinjapan8869]

@@agnishomFacts. Good for a pump and dump. She would prolly be alright with it, too 😂

[@blasianking4827]

@@sodone466 Bro generalizing off a street interview in Shibuya of all places

[@YorkyPudinz]

Ghosting is bad, they know that when they reflect, but to intentionally make people anxious is incredibly toxic and a large portion of the reason many cant be bothered dating anymore. Games are for children.

[@phillydisco-h1r]

I've ghosted someone I was seeing lol. But frankly, you get the sense that they're making excuses not to see you, and you realize maybe it's just time to move on. But if they're invested in the relationship, then you at least owe them an explanation.

[@Kushal6831]

Nice 😊

[@JaziX5]

Looking forward to the guys version of this, but as a man myself I personally would never ghost a girl I'm no longer interested in. It just feels wrong to leave someone hanging like that, hoping they would just "take the hint" and be done with it.

[@agnishom]

Ghosting is inexcusable. If you want to block someone, take the extra 15 seconds to send a message saying "Thanks, I am blocking you." As humans, you owe each other that much. You can't just ghost someone because you want to avoid saying something hard

[@ihatehumans487]

I ghost people mostly because I don't have energies to reply or because I don't know what to answer

[@oishimaria1795]

Exactly.

[@wiegomyegoo7703]

Childish behavior tbh , a lot of these girls look like the types to not be taken serious anyway so I guess it evens out 😂

[@mae_rror]

Wow I need to learn about ghosting 😅 I'm so bad at it lol

[@usagiroxie]

Everybody ghosts everybody, especially online. It's better to offer a reason if you've met and don't want to meet again unless you have the feeling they're dangerous. Overall, I think straightforward communication is key.

[@ryulee4087]

You sure do ''How japan thought about they new prime minister ?'' Shigeru Ishiba got very bad reputation hot topic now.

[@davidflaherty2152]

Not going to lie, being ghosted hurts more than being turned down/broken up with.

[@AristoPhanes-i2g]

A Superlative Video.⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Thank You Takashi. 🎉

[@iOsitooo]

⚠️This is cowardly to do, in fact it is dangerous to "ghost" people because retaliation and revenge can happen. Always be honest, always communicate and always tell the truth. Never ignore anyone 🤷🏽‍♂️🧐👍🏽

[@tk42won]

As a suggestion and follow-up: ask them about messaging first and how important it is for a man to take initiative.

[@Kakkoii_otoko]

I am a man living here in Japan. I have ghosted two Japanese girls - after sex and after a date. I have no regrets about it.

[@ihatehumans487]

Good, that's why you're single

[@HyperHorse]

You're a disrespectful pig!!!!

[@Haunt888]

woman ☕

[@ihatehumans487]

Guys did these things frequently

[@omenlynx]

Probably an offkey comment; but I had to ghost a girl in high school, because our peers was racist and talked about plotting bad things towards her. I did it to protect her. Sometimes there is a stronger reasons than a blunt one why someone would ghost.

[@venus.76]

👀Nice,video .😊👍❤️🌹

[@johnsauceda8448]

Our boy likes the girl with purple hair

[@markdonovan1540]

Ghosting, a SM "polite" word for dumping, rejecting, telling someome to get lost and don't contact me again

[@causemeanski3384]

FreeAgent4Life brothers.

[@Miyotears]

As a foreigner, I've been ghosted a couple of times by Japanese girls. I’d prefer a simple "No" or "Not interested" rather than complete silence. Getting ghosted on LINE is brutal 😭

[@うめゾーン]

To be clear, Japanese girls are cruel to guys they're not interested in. The girls in the video are saying that the guys ignore them more than they do, That's not true. Playful guys might ignore them, but when it comes to girls, even normal girls ignore them. Well, maybe not only in Japan. 、、、、、

[@antimathius]

Ghosting is well within your right. All we ask is that girls don't prattle on about no nice guys being around.

[@stupedcraig]

Don't play games, don't get ghosted.

[@Lauren_1987]

Greetings from Chicago, Illinois -- Ghosting someone is a coward's way of not wanting to communicate with the other person. These individuals are not into confronting the other person, and telling the person face-to-face WHY they are NO longer interested in pursuing the relationship. It's rude to "ghost" someone. TELL THE PERSON why you aren't interested in continuing the relationship. Unless the other person is a psycho (eg., stalker or has mental issues) -- then it is safer (better) to "ghost" the other person.

[@sadryu2402]

Here we go again

[@blick9246]

That girl in the green shirt is gorgeous

[@Netninja-m1e]

Ask foreigners how they got permanent residence in japan and how long does it take give us shortcut pls

[@cutiemarshall6502]

Only thing that always makes me wonder is they always complain that Japanese are getting poor and the economy has become so bad, but every girl is wearing designer fashion😆😆

[@ramQi]

Does it count as ghosting if, after matching, there are a few messages but no reply afterward?

[@FoxuPony]

Yes

[@deazy3409]

If someone ghosts thats how you know they're very immature. Dont worry about those people they arent worth your time anyway.

[@ejtaylor73]

Women whine and complain when a man ghosts them, but feel it's perfectly fine for them to do it. Most men don't ghost because of a mood, women operate on emotions and feelings and do it because of their mood. Men ghost because the woman showed him she possesses a trait he does not value in a woman he will commit to and knows she's not "the one" and doesn't want to waste his hard earned resources on her any more.

[@emreeryurt9758]

Ghosting is bad, please whoever you are be honest and say, what you are feeling and why you want to break contact.

[@pedropierre9594]

No, in no way shape or form are you obliged to respond to someone, is ghosting bad ? Sure but it is a symptom of communication, it is the risk you take when talking to someone and it should exist

[@HanataroKoji]

I've been both honest and upfront in the past and ghosting is way better. Most people aren't mature enough to be confronted with respectful closure.

[@mbank3832]

Ghosting your message IS a communication. A non verbal one that means “not interested”

[@JoshuaReynolds-w5l]

Fella's, seek women that think like the lady wearing the red shirt and the lady wearing a zebra looking shirt, the blonde at the end said something relevant as well.

[@rcmrcm3370]

Is Ghostsing same definition in Japan?

[@hiro8925]

who ghosted my girl in red?

[@nicovidocq5118]

Ghosted.? no it's about always being present and the problem is not yes or no but how long it will last

[@noobkillaprogamer5472]

Strange as the way i see it ghosting is rude asf and pretty shitty way of saying im not interested its definitely better to be direct so whoever your talking too gets closure.

[@DiegoB0525]

Wow.... I really wanted to date a Japanese woman. But I don't know anymore..... I don't want to be always available to respond back right away, I'm not that type of person. If I'm busy, I'm busy 😅

[@mariothibau1070]

Texting is the worst issue in Japan not only for dating I guess Japanese people are just rude when it comes to text messages in general!

[@ryuzakigilles9625]

Chinatsu-senpai (Blue Box) minute 4. n_n

[@entiretwix1480]

*often

[@KaiXiang-yu3hr]

How tall are you Takashi?

[@sooyiaplee8182]

What is "Ghost Guys" means ?

[@normanred9212]

Understand well that behavior like this with no honesty will result in them in their 40s unmarried and childless XD which solves the problem

[@GregTally]

Not a fan of the direction that the fashion and makeup is going in that country

[@naokinakamura4395]

Cowardly technique anyway, it's better to break up by saying so, by message would be a minimum. It's called respect...

[@chainsawman-hell666]

😢 no wonder denji got no girls

[@sunnysideup33]

Beeing rude is not a culture

[@eebbaa5560]

the more i learn about japan and its people the less i want anything to do with them…

[@MrShem123ist]

🤙👌

[@RamboHellenic]

Even infidelity is normal to japanese women.

[@Rekoniz17]

These chicks wouldn't last a day in the states when it comes to dating lmao

[@6chips150]

Diabolical