How Much Money Do You Need To Have A Child? | Is there ever enough?

[@zamayeni]

Nozi looks like she’s genuinely having fun in her marriage 😂😍 love to see it!!

[@bloomingthoughts_]

Nozi’s point about swimming lessons is the same I shared with my partner. That I want to afford my child access to the things or activities I didn’t have. So I do believe money is very important before having a child.

[@andilemaphanga5171]

I had my daughter when I was 20, I'm 30 now and everyone is asking when am I having another child. I refuse to have another child while I haven't been able to give my first child the best of the best as single parent. I am trying but I don't want to take things away from her because I need the money for the new baby. I hear what Skhu is saying but we want better for our children that what we had. They need to have different struggles than us

[@nkatekondlovu7031]

Am 20 and i have 2 younger siblings and i am always scared to ask my mother anything that has to do with money because am always thinking that my little brothers need it more having kids whilst the is not enough money puts a burden on them even though you try hard as a parent your kids will carry the pain in secret

[@palesad6510]

I can totally relate. I do not want to have another child because I refuse to have to halve the little I'm giving my son for another child. I feel that he will have a much better chance in life if I focus all the resources on him and not have to split them into 2 or 3. Also my son is so used to getting all these extras (I'm sure to him it's just normal not extra), that having him give up those things would be totally unfair to him. After all one child in a good well resourced school is far better than 2 children in a sub-standard public school (again these are my beliefs)

[@adahsiluma5876]

Sis,you literally took the words out of my mouth. I have a 13 year old daughter and I'm 31. Having another baby is the last thing on my mind. I also feel I still need to give her the best while she's still the only one. And apart from finance,she is now a teenager and that alone needs my attention,I'm not willing to deprive her my presence when she needs it most.

[@nomusabiyase1566]

Me and u darling

[@Brown2224]

Money is very important bathong...however there a lot more that a child needs than financial support from parents ...Mara chelete e botlhokwa!! Uncle Skhu is a jokester but VERY WISE!!!

[@moloijeanette2582]

They are serious yet unserious at the same time😂😂😂😂 . I love this couple so much😂😂❤️

[@mahadijulia9845]

I'm married and still afraid to make a child now because I remember how much we struggled at home because of financial problems, thank you for your advice, I want better life for me and my children ❤️❤️❤️

[@Noko_Masholoane]

You are with me sesi🤣🤣🤣

[@triciakekana]

Me too shame

[@triciakekana]

Omw medical aid I cannot go to the clinics because people sit there the whole day yhoo aowa.

[@thandokazigaqa6750]

The glow ku Taka GT 😂 Haike umama is 💯 iyakufanela pregnancy standwasam ❤️

[@samkelomotau2517]

Mathematics time... R 10 000 pm x 12 months = R 120 000pa. R 120 000 pa x 22 years = R 2 640 000... Moral of the story win the lottery!!

[@wowodoudinchengxurouroufen6939]

Isn't is R 10 000 pm x 12 months???

[@jacketjamaican1393]

Nozi laughed till she cried! 😂 You’re hilarious and informative and you definitely provide food for thought. My take away…be intentional.

[@pamkabini]

At this rate, medical aid and a helper is a luxury in SA these economic times are hard🤦‍♀️

[@zoemokoena3425]

Loved the part where he added his brothers on the same call. That's actually smart 😂

[@nthabi_n3494]

I appreciate this topic, coz im 25 years and according to me its a perfect age for having a first baby but financially, seems like i will have my first born at the age on 30.

[@abongilembangula2573]

Inja yayifundisa kakuhle put me down😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.children are very expensive sis Nozi I spend R6500 per month 😭. I promise my self I won’t have second born I am thanks.

[@roselineuiras8603]

The moment you think you want to have a child, you must start saving. That is my take away from this. 💖💖💙💙

[@zimasancoliwe]

I believe that raising a child depends on your lifestyle or rather the lifestyle you chose. I have noticed that raising a child eDutywa is cheaper than raising a child in Cape Town.

[@Kops11]

No matter how deep or serious the conversation is .. y’all always make us smile while listening, laughing 😂😂😂😂🥹🥹❤️

[@siyasangatshula6360]

I truly understand Mr Mayaba's point of view when he said , majority of us attended public clinics and we lived effortlessly. And I also get you Nozi majority of us wishes to give our children a better elevated life ,however being unemployed or work in retail shouldn't be a stop or a pause for you not to have kids-kodwa you can't have 2 or more in that state because raising a child to some of us cost alot qha ke bathi bakhula msinya regardless🤣🤣.

[@traceysloa9168]

Very important that the nanny is well paid for her to give the best services.

[@nomadlozimotaung4896]

I totally agree with Nozi on a serious note R10k is what you should have. Skhu is very candid about this.

[@zinzimdiya369]

Your husband has a lot of wisdom 📍

[@theunanswerablequestion8779]

The part yokhukhuza amathambo sent me to the floor😂😂😂because Nozi and me same whatsup group my son would often say "inja mama" yeka amathambo😂😂😂

[@nondumisondungwana1807]

Skhu is glowing Sana,senide niyafana,love you guys,pregnancy suits you Nozi

[@fanizahlatshwayo5168]

❤❤❤❤

[@zimbinigenu3952]

Hey Nozi, the minimum wage for nannies is now R4405 a month if she works 40 hours a week...if she works 45 hours a week then it's R4956 a month

[@louiscanthyshakela88]

Yoh

[@evidencesithole768]

For a live in Nanny how much, because they eat 3 meals and snacks per say, bath and sleep in the house? Honest question

[@zimbinigenu3952]

@@evidencesithole768 Wage calculations exclude any additional benefits/allowance...so even if the nanny is a sleep in and eats three times you still have to pay them the Minimum Wage

[@nokuthulankosi7759]

​@Zimbini Genu true, and if it's an issue they may ask nanny to provide their own food, but we need to pay them nothing less than the minimum set by DOL

[@zimbinigenu3952]

@@nokuthulankosi7759 true sis

[@DzunyB]

I don't think it ever gets to be enough but if u are in a position of providing a privileged lifestyle then we can talk 10k but for most South Africans that's not a practical amount. My daughter is almost 3 and I decided to wait to have her coz I thought I was waiting to be "set", 10 years later I was still an unemployed graduate but life has gotten better but I've been on public health with her since and now there are those Unjani clinics where u can pay R200 for both medications and consultation so Skhu's R1400 is doable. Or else most of us would never afford the privilege of parenthood xem

[@musamlamla6172]

I also feel like nozi is putting us abantu that are under privilege down shem ndindanile

[@triciakekana]

I am with Nozi here, for me I feel like I need to have a car and medical aid to have a child honestly. Kids are expensive that's what Nozi is trying to put across. You can raise your kid with r1200 and Nozi raise her kids with R10k trust and believe there will be a huge difference between those two kids. Our kids must not be raised the same way we were they must have it better.

[@triciakekana]

Like when you are unemployed and literally don't have money why have a baby??

[@DzunyB]

@@triciakekana reproduction is a natural and biological desire that doesn't just go away because one is poor or broke. I think we are too hard on each other, ofcoz if u have 10 kids unemployed then that's a total different story but honestly u can never plan life to the tee, u might have a job and medical aid and a car today and tomorrow it's all gone and not because u are irresponsible but because life happens. Where I am today I can afford to have 5 kids but I will not judge anyone who desires the privilege of parenthood coz I can speak from a place of privilege and say they shouldn't. U can offer a child a nice childhood within those means without medical aid, car and and.... especially if you don't have the burden of city life like most South Africans. But of coz we all see and understand life differently

[@lungadlamini4094]

​@@triciakekana stupid comment, life is just like that akulinganwa hence there are public facilities for those that afford and prefer them so there's no need to make people that use public facilities feel bad. Actually as a health practitioner I will tell you for free that that is where quality healthcare is. Thina bama medical aid it's just convenience that we are paying for

[@noluyolodube4212]

You don't need money maan to raise kids. Abantwana bayazikhulela and I agree with Skhu.😂😂😂

[@mosimamara7073]

I understand the financial burdens that comes with having a child but sometimes the biggest dictator is “AGE”.. We can prolong and wait for the money…but the eggs are not waiting with me😩… For us woman that’s the biggest eye opener, man can wait till 40/50…

[@thategomagane7938]

Sooo true. That's another issue on its own. I waited and waited for the money to come, for God to bless me financially 1st before having a child, this I had asked of Him but I guess it's not yet time. He just decided to bless me with a child instead, had him when I was 27. Still living at home, luckily I have a very strong support system, his dad is in our lives and he's amazing!

[@nothandogumede3201]

My husband is always patting his back about how his rising his child 😎😍 he says I never want my kids to go through what I went through. When talks about his childhood I always cry it was so sad. Yes I agree with you both you need to be financially stable to have your child live a comfortable life 💗💗

[@conversations_amongwomen]

Lol you guys are so funny hey, I hope GT finds you funny as well. But true hey I think we all desire to give our children the better than we had, so they can be better than use. At the end of the day for me, it's about every generation being better than the previous generation. Money is IMPORTANT but not more than LOVE

[@lindiwemashaba8491]

I actually like approach ka Skhu after 6 months Nozi please sicela second 🤣🤣🤣

[@malebs8332]

😭I'm crying on her behalf 😂

[@nomfunekonosilela3895]

Hi Nozi the story about amathambo is very funny but from a medical perspective, take it easy on your teeth coz during pregnancy in case you need your tooth to be extracted there is a risk of overbleeding.

[@luhnahdee]

As for "amathambo" I absolutely agree with sis nozi you really need to be financially stable for you to bring a human on earth and also emotionally and mentally ready as well for them to have a great parent you never had ,its all coming from a good place and kids aren't the same you can't say cause you were able to go past the difficult childhood then your child will as well

[@sindimbiba4865]

I died on "the whole point is for you to khukhuza the tambo" hay Nozi🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love you guys❤❤❤

[@khomotsomanyaka6882]

I was traumatized by my birth, but still fell pregnant 6 months post p. Money won't make it easier, if you're spiritual and mental state is suffering. I saved a lot but still felt like I'm failing. Thank God for my partner coz mothers are so stressed half the time to provide everything, from planning ahead. We don't need the expense stroller, swimming lesson is a big yes

[@thinanonjezi]

UNozi is me sana, I also khukhuza amathambo😂😂😂… great video guys ❤

[@noxolomlanjeni5904]

😂😂😂😂Yey nam cinga lonja ingathi shuu, ngafumana umgubo wamathambo kumamaka GT, ❤️❤️❤️niyahlekisa suka nina

[@ivymahori4519]

I am just rolling on the floor🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Yalls just make my days. I loved the points esp that u wer touching on both financial ends

[@joaquinadomingos5656]

Me Joaquina as a mother 2, the older is almost 12 and a toddler with 6 months, money will not be enough, unless you are very very rich. Its not a matter of how much, cause i couldn't say, the cost of things now is unbelievable from the diappers to the medical aid and the nanny OMG.... Looking back things were very different Mrs Skhu, we shouldn't even compare, the most important lesson i took for myself is to budget always, define what suits your family best and make sure that when the child comes you as a parent will be there and make it work no matter what, seek for help Nozi, cause you'll need it. Remenber not to be anxious about this, cause now its phase 1, enjoy it, phase 2 when your baby arrive youll have this conversation with another point of view. Everything will work out well Mama N

[@ayavuyapapiyana7968]

The issue of repeating cycles! I can't do that! My mother went to "hlukuhla" in a public facility, wayebetha uqhamani nande sana, engenamali phofu😭😭. Yhooo I share the same sentiments with Nozi, money is veeeeery important!

[@nonono-rf7ox]

Same sisi, planning a pregnancy right now and my child will be beyond privileged

[@ntombindzeku54]

Hayi ngeke singazali bethuna ngoba singenamali💃🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@mapulemadi262]

R10k is unrealistic in SA kodwa 😂

[@yolz555]

You speak so much wisdom yet I laugh throughout the video. Lot of love 😘😘

[@khanyisagura4377]

Minimum R10K I totally agree with Nozi. I'm a first time Mom to my 10 month old. And let me tell youuuuuuu!!! R10k is THEE MINIMUM

[@elanaywimmerth5084]

When I was younger I also wanted 8 kids, mara now. I have one and I'm still recovering from the Trauma

[@nontlemaziyana9672]

Skhu you are traumatising Nozi nge examples zokuma ngenja🤣🤣🤣🤣OMG!!

[@nandisameela5050]

Skhu has some good points and so does Nozi. I have medical aid but was also going to the public clinic and shame the info and service I was getting was better than at my gynaes.

[@sinazoncanywa5066]

What you guys are discussing is my everyday fear. Children are an expense bethuna, money is very important when you wanna have them💔.

[@edwardbaloyi155]

In my understanding 0 rand , because if it was money that would decide the number of children many would not be here today

[@moyagabomakgoba9487]

I think one can never be financially ready to have a child 🤔

[@mythoughts9245]

I agree wt both of you, i did the same. Waited a bit longer to hv my second child, im ready now, i think. But i realised that money is never enough, you can never be ready or prepared enough. We hv no money but we r ready to figure it out along the way

[@sabelisiwelanga3044]

I think life in SA is extremely difficult and financially crippling us. It's difficult to afford yourself as individual not to mention taking care of your parents as they tried to do the same with you. Now, a bundle of Joy becomes a bundle of nightmare and that is not what God intended for us. Uthe zalanani nande knowing very well He will take care of us all. Manje ewuu! Economy is crippling us isinkwa R20. If the economic state of affairs in our country were balanced and fair it would not be so terrifying to have children. Inkinga umnotho hhayi obundle of joy.

[@sinazopalaza133]

With this high Inflation hay ngu Mgowo bethunaa I'm married and took a decision to give birth last year and I thank God who listened to me.... One thing I know it will take me Atleast another 3 to 5years to have my other child.

[@sindiswasekhoto7429]

😂😂😂Traumatic experiences whoa uNozi ,Hayi nawe Skhu wazi izinto zezinja ebesingazazi Anyway we’re learning guys

[@sihlesihlali2403]

I’m with Skhu ke sana kulena yePublic Healthcare uyohlukuhla…😂😂, jokes aside they are really good and thorough and it’s free of charge nyani, Mxelele SG! 😂😂😂😂

[@simphiwedlamini5766]

This very entertaining, I haven't even finished watching as I type this 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ay nina

[@lengwebobo7418]

Don't know how I missed this notification but I'm here now. I LIVE for these videos you guys do

[@preciousphasiwe8045]

My son is almost 2 now. What i realized i bought so many expensive things which i hardly used. So somethings are realyy luxury . I bought expensive clothes during his first 6 months. He hardly wore them because the child sleeps mist if the time. And with covid i wasnt being oyt there. So those clothes are waste. So ive found buying pre loved boutique clothes saves me a lot of money. I sold most stuff but i couldn't even recover what spend on them.

[@kivaz]

I love this couple to bits. You guys you are funny 🤣🤣🤣

[@ndzwakiedaymane9838]

Wait, Let’s take a moment and appreciate the effort that went in to making this perfect production. The audio quality ✅ picture quality ✅ video editing ✅ The ambiance and presence of our lovely couple ✅✅✅

[@sinoxolomoyo987]

Hayi I’m a fence sitter kule itopic! Both sides are valid and for the first time I got a male opinion on such matters because me being me I definitely agree with Nozi but ngoku uncle Skhu is showing my another side that I didn’t necessarily think of.

[@ayandarigala3947]

Nooo marn Sku is the one carrying this baby noways look at his Nose🤭😱GT doing the most sana ngekhe😂😂

[@smahgedeza1565]

I hear u guys, child brings joy to a family, it not all of u who can make it out of poverty but children still brings joy, m 36 abd had my last born because I realized that I am getting older and the change is just not happening but I really realy want a baby and want to be done and not raising babies by the age 40 @lst she will be 4, so it is not as easy nje to say m poor then I wont have a baby, but I wish it was. 💖💖💖

[@theotherside602]

Uyadura umntwana let alone abantwana. You have to be prepared Financially, there is no way around it. Ithambo liyakhukhuzwa!!!🤣🤣🤣

[@athandiwezanelerenene1705]

No offense to uBhuti wethu but I don't know if there's anyone else who noticed that the pregnancy nose is actually on Bhuti Skhu😭😭😭😭 that time sis Nozi is glowing everyday🥺🥺🥺

[@chwayitamsoki-pf7tq]

I'm 4 months preg and i just saw this vedio. I wanted a child when I was 25 years old and by then I didn't have lot of responsibilities and unfortunately azange ndimfumane and bare in mind in my family oDabs bam bonke abazali. Now I'm 27 and I have lot of responsibilities than before. iBlack tax uyatsho nje cz I have to take care of my parents and my siblings and my own life is on pose. When i told my parents that i'm pregnant everybody was concerned about who is going to give them money. So all i'm trying to say sometimes it's not that you can't afford your kids but before you decide you want a child you must first check your expenses and you will find out some of them are not necessary. God will provide if you are 35 and you are still waiting to be financially stable iminyaka ayizolinda wena iyahamba.

[@motheowalerato701]

I share the very same sentiments as Nozi. I always wished my mom would surprise me with a vehicle in University, but ke, loool, that didn't materialise coz I'm the 1st born of many siblings. I'm working on giving my child some luxuries I couldn't have. Loved this, albeit it was short❤❤

[@kabelomsimango5392]

But the first part is honest u can't have kids when u don't have the means to take care of them. Irrespective of what people say that's the best advice you'll here

[@sindi_tg]

My husband and I started out saying we want three children and looking at our finances, we said actually no, we want two. We currently have a toddler and sana owesibini is not make sure😂

[@aneleboligello6587]

😂🤣😂

[@bashingimokgethi1203]

The cost of raising kids depends on the lifestyle you choose to live as their parents. We all wish for a certain lifestyle which is honestly expensive, but at some point we have to live according to our means, things get better in time. It does not mean, when you do not have a lot of money you cant have kids. Money is never enough. I do not have a lot of money myself but I have 2 happy babies, well fed, have access to good health facilities, they go to good schools. There are always alternatives like Skhu said. It depends on the country in which you live by the way Batswana should have more kids 😂

[@kamvagetyengana805]

Keyword: lifestyle. True. Otherwise

[@boitshokoponcho3604]

Love topics like this. Also financial literacy is very important

[@preciousprecious7581]

There's no such things as babies are expensive we all have our individual expenses and hobbies that we spend money on. You cloth and feed them and provide them with love and care if you have medical aid you add your child then open an investment fund for their education what more is there.

[@LifeWithSimvu]

I love this couple, they are so authentic.

[@andilehlophe6801]

The thing is, you can never be financially ready for a child, because although you control your finances, you don't control the economy. So many people planned for children, financially, but found themselves in a crises as the years go by. Some had children unplanned and their children had a comfortable life financially. I don't think planning for children around finances is wise. I'm a first time mom to an unplanned baby. My worry throughout the pregnancy was finances. After my baby was born I realized that babies are only expensive for people who work. I told my sister how grateful I was that I got my baby while still at university because I learned not to be a victim of the useless baby products. When we talk about need, R1400 is enough like Skhu said.

[@thashmfiki161]

🤣🤣🤣 yhoo Ta-Gee akekho serious ngendaba ye 1 point 4, ngathi ndiyambona xa inguye ofuna uGT abene toy ye Range Rover instead of walking ring or lenja athethayo. 🤣🤣😂

[@khanyiswasithole9046]

Whn GT 6 months can try another 1 thn finish for kids agree with Skhu Nozi don't wait cc pleze dear ❤️❤️❤️

[@likamva_mtshofeni]

hello everybody😊love you Nozi and Skhu , really enjoyed and learnt a lot and also in planning for your kid in this world

[@andiswajacobs2153]

“stop khukhuzaring” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Ownnarrativepodcast]

Lol daddy Skhu🤣🤣... he is some sort of right when it comes to public health care he just could not support his statement obviously because of lack of knowledge... So government clinic check ups are more effective in pregnancy than gynaes.. i realised this with my second child obviously first time pregnancy you want what we esteem as top tier... Gov clinics do thorough pregnancy checkup each month and its free. Gynaes is literally 10-15 min and we pay a lot... one can have monthly gov clinic checkups with quarterly gynae check up... Knowing all the information i still went to gynae even on my 2nd pregnancy.. but 3rd + I honestly will go to gov

[@gcobisaboqwana4350]

Yeyi sundiqala ngedutuwa, wawugqibele singenayo sinayo ngoku shame, I agree with bhuti Mdala, some of the things we worried abt is non issue. Anyway khanindifundise klk zitshomi kunini ndizama forex akulungi Tu I'm not profitable at all,ndinayo ACC kulo octa wenu

[@thulasmo1990]

I agree with Nozi but I also agree with Skhu, I love that Shu mentioned Idutywa...my home town. Sanithandi ❤

[@nyarangimariaria9383]

My son will b six this year we had him wen we wa 24 straight from campus we haven't still figured out on baby no 2. Take ur tym. Get ur kids wen u feel u ready

[@khulilekhoza9792]

Skhu you practical there, I would compromise on attending local clinic go to the doctor every after 3 months. I would cancel nanny use creche and use car when going to work so I can come back quick. Mmm eish mara R5000 is needed at least it's not easy.

[@khaliphanodada1305]

Abasaglowi abazali baka GT 😍😍

[@gwenzozodlams2307]

Nam I vote for umntana afunde ukuma kenja.😂😂😂😂

[@aphelelerefelwe81]

I know this couple that left their child with ugogo una 70years yes they gave hey sasaa car and bamnika extra 400 pm, child is now having a skin allergy to those cheep nappies, he has cow milk allergy he has to change from lactogen to infasoy/similec so kunzima you never know with babies

[@adelaidesisasenkosi6361]

Stop khukhuzaring amathambo Nozi🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@pulengmathibeli2162]

In this conversation I am uncle Skhu my husband is Nozi. I really think 1400 X3 is enough. While my husband thinks we need atleast 10k. 😂

[@pulengmathibeli2162]

I really think God will make a way 🙈

[@tebalelomarobane8496]

​@@pulengmathibeli2162 God always make a way,yooooo Covid showed me that things change quickly,I could afford now next thing,I can't,will I swallow the baby🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kholekandlovu2440]

We are working hard for our kids for them to have a better life ❤

[@ayandamvelase3988]

Agreed...I think we already live in a cruel world so we don't have to put kids through hell even at home

[@verahluke9351]

You can still learn to swim Sis Nozi together with GT ubhuti Skhu andimthembi angenza isgagamfu ayofika kade kuni xa kufuneka enihlangule1🤣

[@OslinaM]

Always looking forward to your videos hle Nozi

[@lussylupindo1093]

Skhu R1500😂😂😂at this time 🤣🤣🤣standard of living is too high

[@pearlymsf]

Sayithandi iContent yethu, siyafunda, siyitsho intsini and focus again!

[@thintwaanelisa2061]

I always appreciate your different point of view i am with Sku on this one

[@siphokazimayalo285]

Yhooooo Thixo Skhu and my baby dad are siblings shame....bayenza lula yonke lento. Hay Jereva. Andizuybukela shame mnan le video 😂 indenzela umxhadi klaar

[@mphoramaisa2525]

🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 "this is why I say you're still recovering from previous traumatic experiences, like why would you do that?" 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 did I not die

[@sesethud]

I can defs say that two big tins of formula azikho enough ngenyanga. Lol.

[@thembangwenya7563]

I legit think about this topic everyday.

[@firstladyteekamazibuko2191]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 khukhuza amathambo, character uSkhu 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂

[@nthabisengmthimkulu3996]

Niya thandwa Bazali ba ka GT😍😍😍

[@buyanimhlongo2414]

But we learnt how to swing growing up at Nkandla in rural area, we didn't go to school to learn how to swim 😅😅😅😅😅

[@sjuly5178]

Ukuhlukuhla e pubmic is the best we Nozi gave birth 01/01/2023 qha kuyahlalwa. I have a medical aid only went for scans and genetic scan qha because alot is done kwa public .ingxaki kuyalindwa yhoooo ay shame