HOW MY MOMS PASSING AFFECTED ME AS A MOM TO MY DAUGHTER

[@DeidreL]

My mom met my son (he's 2) but she died in October from cancer so she'll never see him grow up. It's the hardest thing I've ever gone through. Sending you lots of love. You're doing a great job!❤

[@temiadesina]

thank you so much, sending you just as much love

[@shanarobinson7672]

My condolences. Will be praying for you!

[@DeidreL]

@@shanarobinson7672 Thank you

[@LovelySunshine17]

My mom died from cancer at the end of 2021. She helped with planning my wedding and picking out dresses but didn't get to see me get married. Now we're thinking about having kids and it makes me sad to know that they will never meet their grandma; she loved babies so much! I was looking forward to her playing with them and taking photos together.

[@animatedmoi]

Being a child of immigrants is hard. I can assure you a lot of us don’t really “know” our parents. You are not alone. Kudos to you for pouring into your daughter.

[@temiadesina]

thank you so much, it definitely is different

[@sensimania]

I hear ya. My (Trinidadian) mum passed 2yrs ago and there are still things I don't know about her past. I don't even know how her mother (my grandmother) passed. I also know nothing about my older sister's dad because he left when my sister was 2. Whenever we had questions, my mum was vague with her responses, or didn't respond at all.

[@dw3675]

Child of Barbadian immigrants here. I think in the black community whether America, the Caribbean, or Africa, there just isn’t open dialogue for some reason.

[@justinasdiaries]

I completely agree our parents tend to be closed off. I grow up with my parents saying I’m not your friend and I believe that because of that they never share about their feelings. But us new generation has to do better. But you’re strong and doing better for your child.

[@lavish169]

This was very brave of you. From what I see on my end you are raising an amazing little girl.

[@temiadesina]

thank you so much

[@dw3675]

Great video Temi. I’m sorry about your mom passing, but thanks for opening up. Yes it’s good that you’re not raising Genesis to be so disconnected from the world. I’m someone who had a childhood like that, and by my parents not teaching me how to carry on basic conversations with people, it’s affected me even till now. Im almost 24. If you’re not taught, you never actually outgrow not knowing how to talk with people. Im trying to unlearn that pattern for myself. Absolutely continue to protect her from the world because people can’t be trusted, and continue to be a good mom to her, but keep giving her the confidence to have a voice. Eventually, she’ll be 23 and needing to speak up for herself too.

[@lorline1]

Thank you for sharing. I also follow you on IG. You and I got so much in common. Your daughter and mine were born on the same day. My mother past away in 2015, also cancer😢 And I really feel you on this one. I did had a great relationship with my mom and I miss her so much. She is the only person I wanted here when raising my daughter. And also the father of my daughter and I broke up last year, so yeah we got alot in common❤

[@crysberries]

It’s tough…my daughter is 5 now and quite the extrovert. I have a supportive close family (but they live out of state) and am in a healthy, long-term relationship. But becoming a mother was different. I feel thankful for a couple of mom friends I have made to vent to and playdates and even just happy hour with. I pray you meet people that will support you and add to your motherhood journey whether it’s through YT, local groups (e.g. mocha Mom’s, mommy +me, hiking, etc,).

[@temiadesina]

thanks so much sis, im hoping for the same

[@JessicaDessus]

Wasn’t sure of the direction of this video but wow, I understand on all levels. My mom was an alcoholic much of my childhood, and we didn’t reconnect until I turn 30 and I’m so happy that we did work on our relationship but I didn’t understand what it took to be a mom until I had my daughter and every day I just be like wow this woman was so strong.

[@chinweaniche-hall3895]

Death is hard but you just move forward with it. My son's father and husband passed in February and my son was only 4. I am still grieving and my son still has fond memories of his daddy. I just try to appreciate every moment I still have to spend with my mom. She's getting older and life is not a guarantee. Share pictures of your mom with your daughter and if you have any pictures show her.

[@obi91_]

Sorry for your loss, i'm curious to know when your mom broke the news that she was diagnosed with breast cancer did you endeavor to find out more information? I am also Nigerian and often times my parents try to maintain normalcy by downplaying certain things but it's not enough for me to just hear them say it's being handled especially for something as serious as cancer. I need to know the details down to the staging and if I can't get that information through them I immediately research the health concern and ask more pointed follow-up questions. If you haven't already, I think it's also very important for you to get checked as well since your family has a predisposition for cancer just to be on the safe side,

[@QueenOfTheDamned]

You sound like a great mother and you look gorgeous.

[@temiadesina]

thank you so much

[@111nes]

I delayed watching this video because it hits close to home. I’m not a mother (yet) but this topic is something that I ponder on when considering future plans. Thank you for your vulnerability Temi! Blessings to you and your daughter. ❤️

[@latoshiacarr8778]

I’ve always admired you. I started watching your hair videos years ago. I remember you got married and then Genesis was born. Just know you are killing it! It may feel lonely but know that God promised us that he would never leave us or forsake us. I’m sure your mom is very proud of you. God knows the plans he has for us. Take care Sis!

[@itunuoluwatobi]

My mom and I didn’t get along when I was growing up. Even as recent as before I got married. But we started talking gradually and became very close when I got pregnant. Now we talk like every day and not just about pregnancy, we actually gist like friends🤯 and we’re getting to know each other.

[@rareonyxx2095]

Temi so saddened by your experience. You are so positive and upbeat and you are very inspiring! You look stunning as usual Sis. That color is perfect and the outfit is very pretty. Where can one find this top? God blesd you and Genesis 🥰😇

[@kb2842]

Hi Temi. I’m just coming across this video and didn’t realized your mom passed in 2012. My condolences of the loss of your mom. I’m glad to see you have the same calm demeanor as we were in elementary school. Please send my love and hello to your other two siblings who I also had the chance to go elementary school with.

[@victoriaadu3279]

Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story. Hear a lot of pain and hurt in your voice…. so sorry 🫂🫂🫂

[@OlamideOlawoye]

Thank you for this video. I rushed to watch it because I lost my mum when I was 6 months pregnant, we were pretty close and now that I’ve been raising my daughter without her, it’s the most painful thing because I can’t call her to ask questions. Our relationship would have been next level bonding over my baby 😢

[@madamlavee]

Thank you for sharing. Motherhood is indeed a journey. Every mother is winging it. 😂 Enjoy your journey and make your own special & unique memories.

[@biancapickett6482]

So many layers to this! Let me first laugh with you! I have had 3 children one naturally my last baby I toooo was begging for the c section lmaooooo and begging for the meds. Labor is hard it’s traumatic during and sometimes after. I work as a birth doula (me just watching) takes me a few days mentally to recover. My mom passed when I was young I’m so grateful she was the mom she was. She died of breast cancer and she literally spent her last days preparing me and nurturing me, I wish you could have had that. I hope you find you a Village because it’s so necessary!! Motherhood is hard so I can’t even imagine doing it alone as far as without women supporting me* I also hope you have healed or find healing. This video made me think of my own relationship with my daughter who’s sooooo much like me, sometimes I have to remind myself she isn’t me. I have to remind myself sometimes I am mirroring the love I didn’t get after my mother passed. (I daily remind myself to be kind)This video has me feelings so many feelings and I am so grateful for the reminder of compassion and love. I’m sending you sooo much strength and love. Your doing great!

[@kaywisseh]

Loving your new content!

[@TC-gx3qn]

I can relate to this on many levels. May the Lord bless you with some close friendships that will be family to you and Genesis. 🙏🏽

[@shaneyg25]

Being a mother is sometimes figuring it out. You are doing well by nurturing her interest. Sorry for the loss of your mom. It seems she was guarded or didn’t know how to cultivate that relationship

[@majesticallymaiah]

Sorry for your loss💔 I think losing a mother leaves a huge sense of loss because of the wisdom you seek through stages in life. Your memories are a blessing ❤️

[@jesusemenehimiyein5534]

Aww, So touching and Interesting Story...

[@lavish169]

You look absolutely stunning girl ❤

[@temiadesina]

Thank you so much!!

[@vanessacastillo246]

Thank you for sharing, I thought this was great advice and I hope it was therapeutic for you. It really helped bring things into perspective. I pray the Lord God of peace give you peace always and in everything, pouring out wisdom to you for raising your princess and may His grace be your strength, for Christ's Name sake. I have my mom but I still lean on Jesus, who miraculously brought me from conception to delivery!

[@letsbefruitful5457]

I understand, I lost my mom when I was 13 years old, and I had a hard time growing up! I’m still learning the duties to women hood in my late thirties 😮 I did the best job as a mother thanks to God , and the father help. I’m not close with my family either 😢

[@A__Mina]

I too come from a West African household and do not have a good relationship with my mother. It’s a struggle to just call her. I think it’s better if I keep my distance, but I’ll admit I feel guilty sometimes because I have plenty of motherless cousins and see how devastating it is.

[@Life.Love.Locs.]

If you don't mind me saying: you're motherless too and so you can also have some compassion for yourself, and you don't have to feel so guilty. Even if your mum is physically present, if your relationship isn't close then it's still a type of loss and grief

[@Karlisa]

Thank you for sharing this❤️ I am very sorry for your loss! I pray God continues to give you supernatural wisdom on motherhood, you’ve been doing an amazing job! I LOVE how you’re pushing past your comfort zone for Genesis🥰

[@japatee]

This is real. I appreciate this & your transparency. Loving on our parents is a beautiful thing & it true I believe there is space to grow with out parents as we transition out of the home.

[@victorious9146]

Yes life is short, so do all you can, while you can; because tomorrow is not promised. Thanks for your transparency. I am sure you are a good mother,. Always have a forgiving heart, and loving heart. Sorry that your Mom is not here with you for this journey in life. But God will make a way for you. 🙏🏽❤️🤗

[@Mickeii617]

Our parents died the same year and now that I'm getting older there's like pivotal moments that I feel like I would have wanted my dad to experience with me. I was blessed enough where he knew he was passing we just didn't. And he started telling me about his life in full details so I got the opportunity to ask and say just about everything. I mean he was literally waking me out of my sleep because he will remember something he wanted to say to me. That should have been a clue but I was 16.

[@shamekabenjamin8010]

Thank you sis ❤

[@iamchisquared]

Thank you for sharing beautiful. What a video! Child-Parent relationship tends to improve with age as well I feel. ❤ God is a Mother to the Motherless. Your earthly Mum would be so proud of you!

[@nikkinanette8807]

Your hair is beautiful 🤩

[@courtneegerald6458]

Sending you lots of love ❤

[@jenlikedadrink1]

SO brave to share!!! Love this side of you; the vulnerability is soo beautiful

[@jasminepearls1047]

Start eating soursop fruit but don't eat the seeds and eat a high fiber diet. Also start using turmeric in your food if you don't already. And broccli sprouts.

[@g3MZ1ZA11G00D]

Sis you slimmed down a lot. I hope you ok. I'm sorry for your lost.

[@renib2188]

Did you get checked for the breast cancer gene?

[@temiadesina]

no i havent, i already want to get it removed once i finish having kids

[@Frugal_Doc]

I love this vulnerable side of you. Can we get more vids on family dynamics?

[@kerenshom7767]

Your hair is so stunning

[@dioneculbert]

My mother passed 12 yrs ago, my son was 2 at the time..her death completely destroyed me

[@temiadesina]

yea, im still dealing with it as well

[@tammyebconquerncare1018]

Glad to see you looking well!❤

[@temiadesina]

Thank you!!

[@trishm7451]

I hope and pray my hair get as long as yours😍😍

[@Dee-uy3tx]

My sister has stage 4 Breast cancer. I heard in. AFRICAN CULTURE THEY DONT TALK ABOUT SICKNESS CANCER😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@mrsohjoe]

I look similar to my mom and we didn't really get along. It was like she was always competing with me. I feel like women in Nigeria grow up very differently and I am stopping the cycle.

[@ingieb01]

I was adopted by my aunt since birth because my mom was mentally ill. My mom passed on my birthday in 2020,my aunt passed last yr and my grandmother passed this yr. Even though I don’t have kids yet I often think abt how life would be if I had still had their support. I have family who I can call but they’re up in age now so do I wait until I’m in position mentally or do I rush and have kids in hope that what’s left of my village will be there😢. That’s a question I ask myself often

[@tolubanjo]

Sending you hugs and prayer to you ❤.

[@shondale71]

Good video. I definitely understand and agree with everything you said. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@2411Mal]

I like the realness of your videos. How about your dad?

[@victoriao8838]

makeup tutorial pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[@ebonybertelsmeyer28]

Sending hugs ❤️

[@themillenialwordsmith8022]

You didn´t google cancer after you heard about the diagnosis?

[@remibello1828]

Sending you ❤ and a 🤗

[@ShakiratORaji]

Awesome video

[@temiadesina]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@Dee-uy3tx]

Better get checked out every 5 years

[@shaneyg25]

Why do you feel , you were not close to her?

[@malkiawaalego2552]

She said her mom didn’t share information, its hard to get to know and get along with a closed book. She also mentioned similarities in their personalities as potentially being the reason.

[@iwhippedcreamcode4642]

I'm So Sorry for Your Loss! Here s some HOPE. JOHN 11. It's a Promise! Lazarus Didn't Speak of Heaven when He arose. HE was just Happy to be back In Refreshed Youth! Your Mom WILL RISE TO LIVE ON EARTH... AGAIN!

[@olufelabarber7795]

Parents error.

[@1newwoman07]

Why did you divorce?

[@kylieking8163]

Tell us why you divorced so we can get lessons

[@crysberries]

Umm try to just learn what you can from this video. People’s trials is not just for random people to learn from…smh

[@kylieking8163]

@@crysberries they definitely are. You can learn from anyone random or not and I’m 100% sure u have from random people so be quiet

[@sarahtheshiznet]

That’s a pretty intrusive question for someone you do not know

[@Mskyraelise]

@@kylieking8163 yes you can learn from random people, buts it's not your place to tell who that should be. It's not here responsibility to teach you anything

[@l.e1847]

Mind your language ! Who did you think you are ?