How Not to Give a F*ck (AMA) | VEDISI 14

[@jamesfv1]

I love how you talked about platonic love and cuddles. This needs to be more talked about and ‘acceptable’. I love all kinds of love. It’s amazing.

[@pointandthink]

"Fish Custard is trending" Maybe the only time Hazel and Doctor Who will ever feature together at any one time.

[@matteopullicino]

"I really like strawberries." - Hazel Hayes.

[@TheHazelHayes]

From the woman who brought you, "I like pyjamas"...

[@matteopullicino]

@@TheHazelHayes Oh yes, how could I forget what will become a seminal quote! Pardon me.

[@anonimen31]

It's stawbewwy

[@carriegranadosx]

@@TheHazelHayes I remember that video so well and I quote it to my friend too often lol

[@elainav4771]

OHF UCK

[@reharm_reality]

I can't stop looking at it

[@arcadiaexeter]

omg that cuddling story is the cutest most pure thing i've ever heard. I'm a huge hugger/cuddler and I'm so lucky to have a GF that is also.

[@theyellowbarneyboo22]

As soon as the question about the unnecessary otter came up, the theme tune for the series literally started playing in my head. Such a throw back.

[@liscampos248]

same!! so sad he’s gone.

[@lizziehodges4890]

This quarantine is exacerbating the friend crush that I have on you

[@silentwhisp4r670]

I am so thankful for you, and all the people who have upped their online content during this time of self-isolation. For a lot of us that would like to have gone to a sporting event, a party, a show, or whatever we normally want to do we can't. These little distractions are welcomed. I think the only time someone should look at it negatively is if they are actively making the situation worse, spreading misinformation, or being toxic about it.

[@freaky_spirit8011]

No i disagree they need to accept how they are behaving and do something about it not look negatively at themselves.. if thats what you mean?

[@lausampaio8933]

Hazel: let's wrap up? Also Hazel: goes on for 10 more mins blessing us wt more content

[@anxiousinternetfox]

To extend that metaphor a bit, I used to not understand how there could be people who don't like chocolate and joke about like "how can we be friends if you don't like chocolate" but then I realized those are the best friends to have if you do like chocolate because then you get all of the chocolate that they don't want. So sure you may not be to someone's taste but that just leaves more of you for the people who are really going to appreciate you the most.

[@kittynekocat]

You've convinced me to watch Paddington

[@frogdude327]

How was it?🌻

[@AbbeyandMusic]

Please do make that video about conflating happiness with arbitrary metrics for "achievement" or "completion." And if it it's not too personal, especially with regards to pressures to be in a couple and settled down at a certain point. I'm still in my early twenties so its even more silly to be caught up in it, but sometimes I feel like my current contentment is conciliatory as I wait for a greater happiness- i.e. being in a committed relationship- and that I'm just biding my time and living for a promised future happiness that is farcical because nothing can "complete" you but your own efforts at restoration.That's a definite ramble and I'm certainly still grappling, but would appreciate any wisdom in that vein you care to give :)

[@madisongowan8723]

Seeing videos like this. Makes me realise what kind if person I want to be.

[@alastairmonk6439]

These VEDISI talks are like chocolate ice cream! Some people may not like them (and can/should stop watching them) but personally I think they're great! There are loads of people for whom these are a genuine lifesaver and long may they continue - or at least until the Crisis improves and you're no longer quite so housebound!

[@EA-fv8dq]

Just watched this again, I've only recently realised the cause of my unhappiness 'is what I do everyday making me happy?' 'Am I feeling fulfilled with what I'm doing?' The answer everyday is no and this year I'm actively trying to change it and find a job I truly want to do, this gave me more motivation so thank you x

[@rubyaliciamusic1868]

I love these longer videos, they’re just perfect to listen to in bed to wind down! Thankyou for getting me through this scary time xxx

[@Celimion]

I just love listening to you rambling. It feels like I get to see further the stories you've told so far, and as a storyteller myself I do relate to so many thoughts you share. Thank you and keep it up 😍😍😍😘

[@Natalie17031]

That whole last 10-15 minutes about people disliking you and your three ways to cope + choc ice cream metaphor is something I reallyyyy needed today. A friend recently cut off from me without an explanation and won't respond to my messages. I had a little reflection and thought that maybe I had acted a bit unfairly and had hurt her in my behaviour the last time we spent a lot of time together. I sent messages of apologies to her with no replies but your talk at the end of this vid, really helped me with how I'm dealing with it all now. It was everything I needed to hear and know

[@bottleblogs6678]

Definitely feeling the loss of social interaction, especially physical contact with people. Just finishing up a second seven-day stint in iso, which hasn't been too bad this time around, as I knew what to expect and did stuff to keep my mind occupied. But yeah, miss the hugs and really miss having someone that you're close to, to have (even platonic) cuddles with. See, here's the thing, men don't generally admit this, but we crave physical closeness with our SO and spooning/cuddling with your partner is just awesome. It doesn't even have to be anything remotely sexual, but it is incredibly intimate. I'll even go as far to say, some of the best/closest I've had are when I'm the "little spoon". Makes all the difference!

[@jasoncoon6434]

These videos are genuinely helping me get through isolation. Thank you so much for making our lives a little bit nicer, Hazel.

[@efoy_ivyhund6172]

You really wrapped it up well! Even brought back the first question of fruit by mentioning your favorite ice cream is strawberry! Haha

[@climbwallsweird]

I just went back and watched all of unnecessary otter wow what a look back at the past! I was 14 when that came out singing the theme tune with my friends in school. I’m 21 now and feel like I’ve grown up with you thank you for being there for the journey

[@BilliamCC]

"Ask me anything except the things you're asking."

[@tolkienfan7]

At risk of sounding a bit fawning, i just wanted to say thank you so much for making videos like this. I really enjoy listening to you talk about...basically anything. I love how passionate and articulate you are when you talk about things, and how you are realistic without being cynical or mean. I admire you so much 💕

[@nadaal-kaderi3240]

This will be a bit rambly but first of all i just wanna say I'm so gratfeul for this series. I always listen to it while im working. Now for the heartfelt bit, so ive graduated this year and I knew i didnt want to continue on with my major and ive sat and ive tried to talk about it and it almost always ends up being a frustrating chat where people think im throwing away 5 years of my life (uni here is 5 years) and im like im not happy with the day to day, im not even aspiring to "climb the ladder" and whatever. I just dont think what im doing resonates with who I am. And its been 8 months since graduation and all this struggle going on and i just wanted to say the way you talked about this whole subject really validated me and my feelings and my struggle in a way no one has. I guess I just want to say thank you. These past few years my view of having an idol has really changed, its no longer looking at what someone has accomplished. Rather looking at how fulfilled that person is doing what they're doing and in that sense i really do view you as an idol ❤❤

[@naomiclaire4753]

the way i gasped when you said that stuff about otter, but also like i get it

[@18Torsha]

I had a full on meltdown on the 10 year question. Don't worry I'm fine now. You were so eloquent that you just struck a chord somewhere... thank you🥰😘

[@EforIguanadon]

As someone who's living alone through all of this, I really appreciating all of these videos, Hazel!

[@albertobozzetto8939]

I dare say you are a terrific and charming chatterer, Hazel!

[@tatumluiten2306]

Yet again a very lovely video. So I maybe want to become a filmmaker/creative person and it's just very nice to hear someone genuinely talk about what life is like doing it. Every video I watch of you makes me inspired and gives me a piece of advice or just a way of looking at something that ill take with me. Most videos I watch are just brain-numbing entertainment but yours are just like having a person who is further in life giving me real advice. Even if you arent giving any advice you are just lovely. Thank you so much for that.

[@carriegranadosx]

About the live action childhood character film thing (idk how else to word it lol) if you're looking for a good laugh watch the live action cat in the hat. It's just not right but it's funny

[@caro6968]

Omg Hazel saying 'This is the last question' and then talking for another ten minutes is meeeee Not complaining though, this is lovely :)

[@BlogManiac64]

i'm crying at the armageddon part omg

[@julesfenn4313]

i really needed such a light hearted video today with that pear of wisdom at the end 💜

[@Taymanator0051]

HOLD UP, I just made it past one minute and saw your Lost in Translation poster. You should talk about that movie sometime, I really love it. It's amazing. Never saw the purpose of that beginning shot though, the one in your painting. I've never got a good grasp of the purpose behind it... Anyway, that was exciting, continue...

[@dysidot]

I don't think I'll forget the chocolate ice cream thing, that's genuinely gonna help me, thank you

[@markonlife]

"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so" - Bill had it figured out years ago :) (although chocolate ice-cream IS rubbish)

[@elisecollins8467]

watching this finally inspired me to pick up my writing again!

[@kattie_dent4659]

[@blan123.]

2:30 I need to know I'm not the only one who's really relating to this. I hate showing strangers or even people I'm not that comfortable with music for example because I feel like it's so personal...

[@madisongowan8723]

I am the exact same actually. I have shown music to people wholeheartedly and they have talked over it. It really sucks.

[@kukui1679]

gods armageddon is fantastically awful and i love it

[@TheHazelHayes]

IT'S TERRIBLE I LOVE IT SO MUCH

[@agaw7965]

LOVED it! Thank you, I will think od myself as chocolate ice cream now ❤️

[@luisaproencadecarvalho135]

Wow okay I fucking loved that thing about chocolate ice cream!! ♥️♥️

[@emmagaughan8429]

i’m wearing like, the same sweater right now 😄😂

[@izzilynch6424]

the last question hit me like a tonne of bricks oof

[@ireniancc]

much needed information. and love how your shirt and laptop match the room decor

[@megan6552]

Love your rambles

[@eLeLhusband]

my god you get more and more beautiful and lovable as those creepy times proceed love you

[@byvitaobrien]

not sure if you've already made a video like this but would be curious to know more about the process you went through to write the book - crowd funding, finding a publisher etc etc Loving watching these videos!

[@booklover900]

My dad always watched Armageddon when it was on TV and I would watch it with him, but now with Hazel's description I'm realizing that I've NEVER seen it from the beginning because I NEVER realized they were oil rig workers.

[@etelkalesko7912]

Love these so much ❤️ little calmness in my days

[@FesterSilently]

Jumped in to say: been enjoying your secluded series, but mostly to say: until now (as in JUST NOW). I had NEVER, EVER known about "UNNECESSARY OTTER". I think I may be in love with that manky stuffed bastard.

[@FesterSilently]

The middle bit (your goals, your outlook, how far you've come, where you want to be) just floored me. It was insightful and clear and...really, it happened to be *exactly* what I needed to hear at this moment in time. (I'm trying to force myself out of my comfort zone [during this crisis] and embark upon *my* journey to do what I LOVE, but - as 90% of the population - I've held myself back, through fear of failure and...well, whatever else we do to self-sabotage.) Listening to your (truncated) story of your evolution...just...thank you. Sincerely. You're an absolutely amazing, sincere and driven individual, and I am so glad that you share what you do. *virtualhugs*

[@dysidot]

fish custard was trending because it was 10 years since the first matt smith episode of doctor who :D

[@notmckinzie]

keeping that "some people don't like chocolate ice cream" mantra with me now, i feel like i need to be liked by everyone lol but it's so not worth it. especially as a fellow writer, having that mentality can be damaging. great advice!

[@kristyred981]

Fav and least favourite fruit- that is the content I am here for! I am also alergic to kiwi, strange...

[@eLeLhusband]

Might I add that I think Taika would be proud of for using AMA. The student learned

[@RoisinsReading]

Ah perfect, a 43 minute video for my bath time.

[@sophiamortensen9416]

Favourite video

[@sophienash9433]

Ahaha these videos actually bring me joy 😂 also my thumbs and hands do the same thing and my friends and family just don’t get it 😂😂 glad I’m not alone here

[@vigilanthi]

I love this

[@UPROAR24]

I always say. There are people who only like tea and there people who only like coffee and there are some people who like both but there never like them together at the same time. but the truth is nobody really cares which one you like. They only care about the one they like.

[@e_viola]

😂 Now I'm a bit curious to start mixing tea and coffee. Like, what pairings would actually be good?

[@UPROAR24]

@@e_viola you can mix it together if you want but i didn't mean it like that.

[@linkinparkfanish]

I get the feeling of being under pressure when you are asked things like to List your fave films. I'm never happy about anything I say, put in your comment section or write down. Cause I always think there was a better order, a better a better way of wording my thoughts and I start over a thousand times putting down a list on paper cause I have made a spelling mistake or I accidently get the list dirty and I have start over again. Maybe you can see it cause all my comments are edited.#anxiety

[@nor3xp]

Hazel you know what, you should do a cheeky yoga video (only if youre comfy obvs but i just think it would be fun to do yoga with you!)

[@SmallBlogV8]

I think "influencer" as a term is really meant for someone who uses social media specifically to promote stuff they're paid to sell - where the sponsored posts are really the main point, not any kind of art of blogging (and then possibly use it as a way to live/present a lifestyle they couldn't actually afford, boo hiss rant). But people who aren't Extremely Online and don't know the difference end up using it as a generic catch-all term for millennial/G-Z professional internetters. But I definitely wouldn't consider someone by that title to be the same as any creator who uses online platforms to get their personal work out to the world.

[@madeleinedegrace1282]

me: *trying to read the poster behind you* “ohf uck?” My dad: *immediately* “doesn’t it say oh fuck”

[@colecerys123]

I can name all the characters and actors in Glee and im so weirdly proud of it😂😂

[@Maddi-tron5000]

“So, in your expert opinion how can I stop giving a f%#^? XD”

[@marklee_702]

Sending you a hug 🤗

[@BlogManiac64]

where are your prints from? they are so nice!

[@ingwaybee]

I'm gonna remember chocolate ice cream - thanks for sharing 😅

[@dansmudge135]

Winnie the Pooh live action was bloody incredible...come on

[@knevik]

The Paddington films are brilliant, but I still liked the Christopher Robin film

[@leonchandler5]

Can confirm that you are the only thing getting me through quarantine

[@strawberryskates]

oh shit my fingers go that far back as well

[@samamuse21]

omg i'd totally forgotten about unnecessary otter

[@rachelgaughan99]

What is so unbelievable about answering a question about fruit? I don't really get the reaction

[@olivermarjanovik2835]

I'm allergic to banana when I touch it but I can eat it and it's fine so it remains my favourite fruit 😂

[@freyab5066]

being hypermobile sounds like fun but reality is less hand tricks and way more fucking up joints from just walking weird..... i do love seeing people get squeamish when i move my thumbs tho

[@en.saveleva]

I was so afraid of your hair being so close to the candle throughout the whole video

[@HarryRobins]

Aha, lol how #FishCustard got into your video.

[@buddyzither]

Dont like the sonic movie? well you just lost a fan

[@e_viola]

😂😂😂 Armageddon

[@AMCW16]

TBHashdhdhshshshhs- hazel Hayes 2020

[@HarryRobins]

I think I dislike how "KZbinr" as a term because it's awfully branded. Video creator is better - not great - but yeah.