Self Love in Self Isolation | VEDISI 10

[@everuby1438]

"Weltschmerz" is the closest word in German to fit with what you described! It literally means "world/global pain", and it just encapsulates the feeling of melancholy about the imperfection of the world

[@JesperDramsch]

In my understanding (as native German), Weltschmerz is the "pain about everything" but not the shared experience of the many of pain. A single person can experience Weltschmerz, because it's not about sharing this experience but it's rather the meme of "What's wrong?" - *gestures vaguely at everything*.

[@alycigelnik3231]

The “treating yourself like a child” method really helps me a lot, especially when I was deciding to start recovering from disordered eating, its really hard to imagine a child telling you they’re hungry and you saying no, you can’t eat. Really loving this rambly videos, and this one had such good advice thank you hazel

[@reasnow]

this is off-topic but hazel’s outfit is so cute

[@empresslabs1272]

ghostio her British accent is good too.

[@lozbozlauren]

@@empresslabs1272 it's not British it's Irish hahahahah

[@isaacorwhatever4329]

Im only 2 minutes in and I feel like I've been wrapped up in a big soft blanket and tucked into bed Edit: 7 minutes in, Hazel please be my life coach.

[@LieutenantSheep]

Bobbicorn It’s the accent paired with hazel just being a wonderful, loving human being

[@OliviaRylan]

"Speaking of rubbing yourself..." and THIS is why Hazel is my everything

[@Paty791]

Dearest Hazel, I am a few years younger and your advice truly serves as an older sister type of advice. Which is nice, cause I am an older sister and I usually am the one calling all the advice things in life. Grateful for ya.

[@immyh3820]

not sure if anyone’s told you this recently but you deserve the world

[@freddanzig8642]

I usually listen to rain or ocean sounds when drifting off to sleepy town. Now I have Hazel. Thanks.

[@sammiebarker6217]

Never thought I’d be watching a 50 minute video a second time so I can take notes, but here I am

[@mikaylacraghead9660]

Why is hazel listing emotions so comforting

[@11Bubblez]

i’m not usually one to comment but the point you brought up about little hazel and not treating her poorly really struck a cord with me. i studied psychology and counselling at uni so i knew it existed but to see someone practice it, for some reason really hit home about all the times i have neglected myself and how i would never have done it if i was looking at it as a younger me. you really had me in tears on the toilet hahaha. thank you hazel this really did help, its actually just what i needed and i didn’t even know i needed it💓

[@elizabethkelley9384]

I love the ide of spending time with yourself rather than spending time alone. Especially right now, when we're all feeling a bit isolated, it's good to be able to make that into a possible benefit rather than only letting it be a hardship. I thought I had self-care pretty much sorted, since I work on it in therapy pretty much every week, but I'm so glad I watched this through to the end because you said some things I hadn't thought of. So Hazel, thank you so much for all your rambly chats, they're genuinely so soothing and so practically helpful.

[@aurianfleeson1657]

My last EMDR therapy session was looking at my main trauma and it ripped open so many wounds even though I was already going through a very rough path and now my next session has been cancelled so I’m currently stuck in isolation with the worst mental health I’ve had in years and can’t even see my girlfriend who is my main source of comfort and happiness. But this video has honestly struck such chord with me because I don’t like self care, I never feel like I deserve to spend time on myself but viewing it as helping myself to help others really helps. So thank you hazel, you’ve helped me more than you’ll ever know

[@SamWest96]

My god my heart goes out to you! Being in the middle of EMDR feels worse than before in many ways, but you survived the trauma and you will survive this. My heart and love goes to you, you will be ok. I'm so glad this channel is helping you, this is a tough time but take comfort in the fact that you've already processed more than you realise. It will be so incredible when you've finished it, trust me on this 💕

[@tiasanders9930]

the idea of spending time with yourself is such a wonderful perspective, i LOVED this video

[@siennablack4690]

the "don't say that to my friend" part clicked a switch in my brain.

[@eLeLhusband]

0:00 - 14.30 I never thought that someone could put into words what I've been feeling for so long in my life. For the longest time I've kept my stuff to myself, because I was, and still am, so focused on the wellbeing of my friends, my family and everyone around me. I didn't want to put my stuff onto others but somehow, I don't know why I learned. This feeling and way of thinking you just describe is what I always call like a mind domino game where everything in my mind leads to another and I can't stop it until I reach out to someone. I feel like a lot of people just get around and around with their own thoughts and they don't even realize that they are trapped inside of it and can't get out of it. So I really felt it when you referred to that. 15:00- 19:00 A lot of my friends talk to me about their stuff and I love to listen to it, but it's exactly how you said, I often find myself getting mad, sad, happy and all that by listening and working with that information. That energy is so useful and important for helping others in so many different ways and I love but also hate that about it, because it's so contagious that some people just focus too much on others or even themselves. so this is really something to part yourself into I feel like. 20:00-27:00 AMEN HAZEL AMEN 29:00 I have pictures of me and my best friend in my room and I just love her so much that It gives me so much motivation for doing all those little things that make life more aware Your inside of your day or advice to do a day right was so enlightened. I didn't realize of how much I didn't focus on things that were just normal for me. And I'm def. working on the Podcast stuff but I will say I need to read more. GIVE US THE FOOTRUB VIDEO, PLEEAAASEE I will say making masturbation the climax of this video is a smart move, Hazel. real smart. I also will say that I was a bish bash bosh man, but not after this. This changed me. This video just warmed my heart with so much love. I really do look on things in a different way no. And I want you to know that you really inspire me and help me go thru some stuff in 2020. So thank you for being there for me even tho we don't know each other.

[@eLeLhusband]

Jesus I know this is long but I just wanted to give you a bigger feedback because it means so much to me

[@chaoscryptid]

This video was very needed. I have been struggling with the routine changes due to being autistic and my anxiety, and i realise i neglected my self-care. While I can't do all the things suggested due to my chronic illness/disability, these are some good ideas to help my brain get back on track to functioning as good as usual. Thank you hazel for sharing some helpful tips and providing such a good, peaceful environment away from all the stressful news. I appreciate it

[@smileymileylt]

rewatching this tonight and realising that while I am very good at keeping my emotions to myself and regulating them alone, I could probably strengthen friendships by being more open but equally I am an empath and while I am very self aware of all my faults, I am equally aware that compassion is one of my main strengths and I actually crave being there for people. Love this video because I agree it is important to find the balance between sharing and self-soothing and it is a difficult one. Also I love the interior design of the apartment! and also in case people have not heard me rave enough on enough different social media platforms-THE BOOK. I STILL CANNOT GET OVER THE BOOK-currently reading it backwards-it is a piece of ART

[@lucia_damora6141]

It’s 2022 and I think I’ve watched this video hundreds of times it’s my self care to put this video in the background when I’m stressed

[@silentwhisp4r670]

I feel like watching your videos helps me grow as a person. Thank you for that. You are as always a source of inspiration, aspiration, and knowledge.

[@camilarodriguez7744]

I've never felt that sense of "sisterhood" women talk about, I've never had close girl-friends or anything. But for some reason, this video, cozy an calm, has made me feel a bit of comfort thinking about the shared experience we women have. Listening to the advice of a woman that knows a lot about herself after hard self discovery work, is comforting. I know some things don't really *get* inside tour head until you've actually experienced/discovered it yourself, no matter how many times other people say it to you, but it's steel comforting to hear. Don't know if this made sense but anyway, nice video, thank you

[@TheHazelHayes]

It did make sense. And most of my lasting female friendships were forged a little later in life so don’t worry about that. It’ll come in time x

[@camilarodriguez7744]

I keep forgetting I'm still young at 23. Social media and entertainment in general kind of give the impression that life happens in your mid twenties and it's all downhill from there. Like if you dont have your life figured out by then, wtf are you going to do. But there's lots of time to discover things and understand myself better. I get rambly easily as you can see, soooo yeah, I hope you're having a good day. Love from Uruguay.

[@Sarahhiltonwatts]

your videos seem so much calmer and slower than they used to be, and it's very much needed at the moment, so thank you

[@martharaymer7109]

You legitimately are my hero right now. I'm usually pretty good at self care, but in my final year of uni it's just collapsed, and I've had to suspend for a year just because I could not deal with the all the uncertainty on top of everything else. It's absolutely the best decision for me and I'm feeling pretty optimistic now that I've yeeted the uncertainty finals presented, but there's so much free time at the minute for lingering negative thoughts. The 'don't talk to my friend like that' thing I think is going to be so useful, and absolutely in this next year I'm going to dip back into this video to make sure that I am loving myself how I deserve to be loved. I genuinely can't thank you enough for just being there (albeit in a non conventional way) and providing reassurance, solutions, tips, etc. You've made my suspending feel lighter and easier and generally more hopeful. I massively owe you one.

[@emeline_4]

"Do I need to reach out to that person, or could I give myself that same level of care" aaaaah this resonates so much!!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this

[@comicsamsms7802]

Up until this video I have never known a single person in my life that has made masturbation a comfortable topic to talk about. Nor did I know that there were "healthy/unhealthy" way to do it. Whatever aura you give off through a freaking camera really affects me in the best way, so thank you much Hazel :3

[@lillie1999]

I was about to go to sleep. Hazel uploads. I’m not going to sleep.

[@itsclairemullins]

Hi Hazel, not sure if you'll see this as I'm a week late but I just felt the need to comment. I really, truly enjoyed this video. I'm learning how to care for myself and for the first time in a while, I lit the fire for myself (self-isolating on my own in Galway), made myself a peppermint tea and decided to catch up on some youtube. Brains are so odd, I didn't realise I had been having a bit of a down time until I watched this and realised the reason I hadn't watched it yet was that I didn't feel like I deserved to watch a lovely long video of someone I enjoy, not just you, I haven't been watching much at all. I feel like I have come on so much in the past year or so in self care, so this was a bit sad to realise but I'm really grateful that I DID all these things this evening. Plus I spent a good chunk of my day doing a jigsaw, I definitely am finding my eyes/brain getting tired from excess screen time too. Thank you for this video. I'm 24 and feel like I'm only just beginning to understand my BPD/PTSD and the way my brain works/has been trained to think. It's all so wild. I feel like I've learned so much through therapy already, seeing how self aware you are really makes me hopeful that I'll get a handle on all this someday. Sending you love and light, Claire x (p.s. sorry if this is a little all over the place, this video hit a nerve but in the best possible way)

[@catl4801]

I shared this video on Facebook when I first watched it a couple of months ago for anyone who was struggling to be kind to themselves. I'm now taking my own advice and re-watching it with a notebook and pen!

[@daniellewild6847]

Thank you, Hazel! Lately I've been realizing that I need more people in my life that are spreading this sort of vibe and I'm so glad I came across your channel. You put a smile on my face everyday.

[@summermoth571]

wow, i needed this! my friends and i (all seniors at our university) have been exhausted the past few days because all of us are looking for comfort but none of us can provide it entirely for one another. definitely a time to take self care more seriously. anyways, absolutely loving these videos Hazel! your voice and writing is lovely ❤️

[@phoebeh4250]

stayed up for this, is genuinely the only thing i knew would calm me this evening (morning now...)

[@TheHazelHayes]

sorry it's so late! but I'm glad it's helping to keep you calm :)

[@julesfenn4313]

again, loving this unedited format! it feels very honest and like i am actually hanging out with a friend, it's keeping me great company 💜 thank you for all the good tips

[@MaddyCaddell]

watching this in January 2021 and it's still relevant

[@CoreyFogelmanis]

This is a great video Hazel. I think my favorite part was watching you thoughtfully & carefully choose your words. I found it to be very therapeutic. And encouraging, in many ways. Thank you, love ya

[@bottleblogs6678]

I had a good day yesterday. Got up, ate breakfast, got dressed (as I normally would for Sunday morning church), participated in several livestreams through the day. Shot/edited/delivered and uploaded a video. Watched an uplifting movie. Ate well. Went to sleep at a reasonable time. Today I made it from bed to the sofa. Sometimes self-care is just about doing *something* and calling it a win.

[@davidesimonetti8989]

I only now notice how much I really needed this video at the moment. I seem to often fall back into the old mentality of telling myself that I'm a 'fucking piece of shit' (literal words being spoken to myself in my own mind) so, it's about time i take a bit more care of myself, taking my time to do things and not neglect my well-being. Thank you Hazel!

[@ginime_]

This is amazing Hazel. I didn't even realize that I really needed to hear this. When I'm in a good place mentally I don't put much thought into self-love, but it's an ongoing process. Whenever I see/hear self-care tips I tell myself "That will be useful the next time I have a breakdown" but of course I never remember those things in the middle of a low point. I love that this video encourages us to practice self-love continuously, and be kind to ourselves even when we can't manage to do anything but the basics. I watch this and feel like I'm having an honest conversation with an older sister. So thank you so much for using your experiences to help all of us. ❤️

[@LieutenantSheep]

We love you so much, Hazel. Thanks for being blunt and honest and wonderful.

[@dakotaj-l9769]

I've been watching these while I do my makeup in the morning and they're so relaxing its like having a big sister or something just in the room with me💜

[@emilyspencer7070]

Hello from lockdown 2.0. I've had a shitty day and I cried my way through this video. Thank you for your beautiful words x

[@ramywiles]

I have LOTS of feelings about keeping pictures of Tiny You out and caring for yourself as if you're still that young self... I'm not in specific treatment for PTSD, but I've had some talk therapy centered around trauma I went through and the ways growing up with anxiety has affected me in general, and what has really been a breakthrough for me is inner child work like that. Staring tiny me in the face, really doing it, and realizing I wanted to make things better for *her* was a massive moment in my treatment. I think we'd honestly all be better off if we did things like that -- at our own pace, of course, but still. Keeping pictures of our young selves around, honoring who we used to be, remembering that we're always deserving of care... it's all good stuff, and for me, it feels like the kindest thing I've ever done for myself.

[@daisypenman9242]

omfg so glad you mentioned the 'now more than ever' SNL skit because I've seen SO many people saying that lately and i immediately can't take them seriously

[@BloodSisterProductions]

I absolutely loved this video, Hazel! thank you so much for being so genuine and open, it's beautiful to see.

[@amberisabel9474]

This genuinely shifted my perspective on this whole isolation thing

[@emmahansen6962]

The big brain talk reminded me of A Wrinkle in Time. I love this style of video and I’m recommending them to all my extroverted friends who need stuff like this. I am an introvert so I have a lot of energy with no social exhaustion right now, so self love is coming easier to me now than ever. I’m still very much enjoying these videos. Much love

[@gemmaw2370]

this is genuinely the most comforting and helpful video i've ever watched she's such a blessing

[@justaglassbutterfly7989]

Hazel: "treat yourself like a child" Also Hazel: *talks about matsurbation* I kid of course, love you Hazel this video was helpful.

[@cassieroo17]

This video made my cry. When you talked about the little hazel photos. Thank you, this helped a lot

[@kyliesparks1435]

This was so incredibly lovely to listen to Hazel, and exactly what I needed today

[@julzgaskell128]

I re-found your '10 ways to start your day' video last week and it felt super topical and helpful :D

[@rialeon3408]

This video was the self care I needed today. Thank you @HazelHayes

[@Gariberta1]

Your honesty and compassion are so, so helpful. I think you're saving lives, Hazel. Thank you for these videos

[@Taymanator0051]

Okay, this was really good. This is the most real I've seen someone be online in a SUPER long time. Thank you for your insights, honesty, and fun nature Hazel. :D

[@k1_kev]

With all the amazing live streaming going, VEDISI videos are great for the mind. Thanks for doing these.

[@caitlinkenyon3896]

I've literally started looking forward to these videos everyday. It is the biggest comfort to listen to you ramble

[@MsSupermegaawesome]

Needed this! I'm a ball of anxiety but this was a nice break from the void x

[@Snomo]

I'm so glad to see others having the same thought process as me. While this whole pandemic is a truly terrifying thing, I find it difficult not to see this as a potential reset button. It feels like the world has simply paused, and given us time to take a breather. It's very easy to be irritated at our routines being messed up, or cinemas closing, or simply having to stay indoors longer than we have in a long time. Or even having jobs be at risk. But in all honesty it's been incredibly interesting to see how people have coped... or not coped. For me at least, I've quickly become aware of things I've taken for granted, the main thing being the simple freedom of going outdoors. I will admit, I do isolate myself A LOT anyway, so this hasn't hit me as much as others. But I've come to learn that I loved having the freedom of choice; knowing that I could do these things whenever I wanted. Now that it's been stripped away, it's made me feel so self-aware of how I hadn't even been grateful for them to begin with. I've always felt guilty of isolating myself, and choosing to play video games or watch movies. I'm not sure why. I've never considered myself worthy of such time, or worthy of doing pleasurable things. I've always thought 'I could be doing so many other things right now', or 'I've done nothing all day so I don't deserve to enjoy this', so I stop myself enjoying it. But now that we're literally being told to stay inside, this feels like a perfect time to really dive into self-love and giving myself permission to enjoy things I once convinced myself I wasn't deserving of. And it's in times like these that I'll always be grateful for simple things like music and ASMR to calm my nights. Love is such an incredible thing, whether it be loving yourself, connecting with others, or loving the little things that make all of this worth it - especially now. I hope more people can see this as an opportunity to look inward. Thank you Hazel.

[@xanderw1217]

Hazel, thank you for these videos. I've been using them a little like podcasts while I do school work online. They really help me focus in!!!

[@abigailbalfe9307]

This video just made so much sense and was so thoughtfully put together, I'm just loving these longer, stripped back videos at the moment Hazel - keep going x

[@Lucy-ve6lb]

I loved this! Thank you so much, this just helped me so much in checking in with myself and unpacking how I’m feeling today. I also struggle with emotional disregulation and would love to see a whole video on that, and strategies that you find helpful in dealing with that and comforting your inner child.

[@barborapetlakova]

Hazel, thank you for making this video ❤ it had me choked up several times, i don't even know why. You are such a kind soul and your voice helped me to release my anxiety quite a bit. Always a good reminder to take care of ourselves and be kinder to ourselves and be non judgemental 🤗 and the sentence: don't take it as a time you need to spend alone, but to take it spend it with yourself ❤ that's beautiful 😢❤

[@nclaudio0]

Thank you for this. I especially had a hard time today and really appreciated your words. Sending good energy out to you and those who need a little extra!

[@jojo_jm]

Thank you for such a comforting video. I don't have the energy to ramble about how nurturing this video feels, but I needed to say thank you 💖

[@octoberstorms]

i've only just started watching your videos and the way you speak reminds me so much of my therapist! and i mean that in the very best way possible, i'm really glad i found your channel. thank you for what you do, Hazel! ☺️🌼🌸

[@whatkindofblue17]

Been loving this series, very calming. Keep them coming x

[@flooobe]

Actual Hazel is my favourite kind of Hazel. Loving the VEDISI videos!

[@heatherscottcreative]

Hazel Hayes you make me cry. But it’s good. Thank you

[@esthermigo3009]

something that always helps immensely is just opening a window. when there's no spirit inside of me i open a window, i breathe in some fresh air. and that's it. also - the importance of our sense of smell on our general well-being is vastly underrated.

[@esthermigo3009]

Jackson Huckins glad you agree! hope you're well x

[@sk8rgirlo]

This video is wonderful, I’ve always really struggled to look after myself in a healthy way, but you’ve explained it in a way that makes me feel soo much more motivated to try it!

[@angusyoung1883]

Did I just listen to Hazel rant for almost an hour? Yes. Did I enjoy and appreciate every second of it? Also yes

[@claudiajade624]

Wow. The first 15 min where u unpack Why this is such a crazy time , mentally/emotionally...so much yes.

[@jessicalatorre9975]

This was so lovely, and helpful. Thank you! Your energy is welcoming and I adore it.

[@sophienash9433]

Your VEDISI videos are so relaxing, it’s so nice. Also your hair is beautiful 😍🥺

[@mercedesp85]

Thank you for this ❤ today is my birthday, and I've been really struggling lately and not been nice myself. I woke up today and listened to this video, and it was the perfect start to a strange birthday - thank you.

[@TalLikesThat]

I didn't realize how much I needed more Hazel in my life. Thank you!

[@sincerelysophiax]

i believed it’s called collective trauma ! Same thing happened during the great depression but obviously very different situations 😳

[@katherinetrott79]

I can't tell you how much I needed this video today and how much better it made me feel. I'm going to go on a run with a GREAT playlist and come back to a really nice shower and maybe watch a film. Thanks for talking with such kindness and reminding me to do the same

[@michaella.k]

love, love, love this video, thank you so much! shared it around to so many friends and really hope it will help them too x

[@lozbozlauren]

your accent is absolutely gorgeous, I'm skipping through this video, never watched you really before but I've followed you for a little on Instagram! but I think I'm gonna listen to this tomorrow whilst I play animal crossing and relax!! you're a legend and seem so lovely ♥️

[@MsMimi127]

I didn't know you did YWA too!! I love Adriene so much. Honestly, with you and her with me everyday through this, I think I can get through it!

[@oliverrace4568]

Thanks hazel this helped me reflex in a good way the thing about seeing how you would want to treat a friend like you really hit home

[@rikketakera]

Everything about you just warms my heart.

[@UPROAR24]

The best advice i can give is don't follow everyone else make time for yourself and follow what you want to do even if you don't achieve anything at all. do what make you happy. the world is filled with a million options. choose the options that make you happy.

[@becky8216]

i'd really love a video talking about your mental health, particularly bpd! i'm 20 and have suffered from mental illness for 7 years but with no diagnosis, so it's always been very confusing and scary for me

[@megangammill3090]

Have you ever considered making a podcast? I would love to listen to you on other platforms like spodify or other podcast platforms. Keep doing what you are doing. This video really helped me.💕

[@intello94]

You're talking about the surge of emotions. And I feel seen and understood. Thank you

[@noemietrovato7408]

thanks for this video ! It was very much needed at this point (in France it's already day 15 of isolation...)

[@evie2356]

Yes to the foot massage video! If not for the actual massage I can tell your humour would be splendid in that context ♡

[@SamWest96]

BPD represent (not something I ever thought I'd say) I did so much therapy and I've been so much better since then, still have to do the work, but it's ok. Now, I'm pregnant and therefore high risk. Plus hormones are raging and changing. Good god I'm struggling and I'm getting angry at myself for that. Luckily, my parents and partner are all really good at dealing with how I'm feeling and helping me to use my skills.

[@madelinerobinson367]

Thank you. I really needed this right now xx

[@laurenm9014]

I kept thinking back to this video. I'm generally an anxious person and with recent events my now habitual self care and treatment is not working. I've got to reconsider self care and what is high maintenance pedantic shit and what is worthwhile. Comments here are really helpful in getting different perspectives. Any more advise?

[@Binnieinthebin00]

During your surge analogy why was the first thing I thought of that one shot from the Simpson’s movie

[@rutabrivlauka4911]

This was a really nice video. I just wanted to add, that often when i don't need to go outside for a while and meet people, my showering schedule kinda dwindles as well. So yeah take care of yourself and don't forget to shower!!

[@evanreid6917]

Very helpful video Hassle, I have a hard time on occasion with self love. Thanks for the tips.

[@Wild4464]

At 7.40 - I think what you're trying to explain is the Durkheim idea of effervescence which is "community or society may at times come together and simultaneously communicate the same thought and participate in the same action" But usually this doesn't occur at a world-wide scale but yeah, google it, I think it is what you're describing

[@zbrt]

i'm only catching up on VEDISI in october and it feels both creepy and reassuring that everything you're saying can still apply 6 months later

[@GenericGena]

This really helped me today. Thank you, Hazel.

[@AaronattheMovies]

This....this was much needed

[@dee_or_die]

Thank you for this video, I really appreciate you

[@lauri7529]

thank you!