How Paranoid Ideation Destroys Intimacy, Relationships (Withholding, Withdrawal, Avoidance)

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@reinar915 6 ай бұрын

When I told my ex-partner that I wanted to get to know him better and that growing together would get uncomfortable, he shifted immediately into someone pushing me away and showing all the behaviour which I shared with him in an earlier stage I wouldn’t tolerate in previous relationships. It was the sign for me to walk away and not put any effort in the relationship anymore, he never contacted me after that. 👍

@Michael0663-qo4wx 6 ай бұрын

If it’s a pattern in your relationships it is probably you not them.

@averageds3player699 7 күн бұрын

this has explained my life, this video and the interview with ed dutton, I finally know why I have always felt so helpless and desperate, thank you

@whadis404 6 ай бұрын

My second husband was just like this He was frightened but accused me of all kinds of things While not being able to work because he had to watch my every move! I wasn’t allowed to lock the bathroom door I wasn’t allowed to speak to anyone It was 5 years of hellish marriage

@flamechick6 5 ай бұрын

25:54 i had an experience as a child similar to this but my mom said i just stood there in terror just crying 😭 I remember my mom n dad got divorced when i was 3 and i had to go to daycare and one time i needed help cutting my food my i literally couldn't ask anyone to help me, i was paralyzed with anxiety to the point i sat there until everyone was done eating and they left me just sitting there

@oshinoedan5666 6 ай бұрын

I'm always waiting for your classic *removes glasses*! ❤

@luzadore23 6 ай бұрын

You switched your cup 😊

@friendsofadeadgirl2013 6 ай бұрын

Shocking how well Professor Vaknin knows the narcissist. His descriptors are uncannily precise. Destroyed intimacy totale.. Absolute nothingness is what lies beyond the vast long-winded desert of grandiosity.

@doofkatze4964 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much. I really needed that

@chiliart8056 6 ай бұрын

Can someone have this after nacisistic abuse?

@MelisentiaPheiffer 6 ай бұрын

Most definitely. They want to infect you with their disorder.

@MelisentiaPheiffer 6 ай бұрын

Most certainly.

@samvaknin 6 ай бұрын

Search the channel for CPTSD.

@Yachtclubn 6 ай бұрын

You are intelligent and have a great sense of humor. You make me laugh I love it 🤗💯 thanks for educating me on what I’ve been up against for years. I will continue to listen. Thank you so much, you have no idea how much I need to hear, learn and understand. How do we protect ourselves? Detach in our souls? But not from our souls? I’m stuck

@Michael-xm7op 6 ай бұрын

She always looked at me with suspicious eyes. Like what I said would pass a filter in her mind and would be accepted or not.

@MelisentiaPheiffer 6 ай бұрын

Yes, they are. This has been my experience with a true narcissist ( dead mother complex). He even covers up the camera section of his laptop with double-sided tape. Both him and his brother avoid their mother, and they both have anger issues. Also, the disordered person confessed to me that he likes no intimacy and no commitment after 20 + years together. Whenever he became too much , I ran back to my mother.

@vittorioottaviani516 6 ай бұрын

It’s truly amazing how fragile prof Vaknin’s ego is

@dominusbalial835 5 ай бұрын

Well he does have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I think you probably left this comment though because your own ego is fragile and Vaknin bruised it by relaying useful information about human psychology. Which probably means the useful psychological information that hurt your feelings actually applies to you and that's why you had a neurotic reaction too it.

@user-rt3wk9ju1g 6 ай бұрын

Hi Dr. Vaknin, would you say schizoids experience something similar? Thank you for all you do.

@samvaknin 6 ай бұрын

No.

@user-rt3wk9ju1g 6 ай бұрын

@@samvaknin Thank you. I would love more videos where you share your knowledge about schizods, especially those that are high functioning. Warm regards.

@beverleysilcock9135 6 ай бұрын

sam,my was the golden only child

@gustavolacerda96 6 ай бұрын

"abiance" vs "adiance"? Did I spell them right?

@samvaknin 6 ай бұрын

Abience. Adience.

@fludderkiddie 6 ай бұрын

Hey Sam!!

@GuidosanNZ 2 ай бұрын

Many thanks for this.. Very interesting, and very helpful.. I have a lived experience of this phenomenon ( as a partner of). I have a question though, regarding children of the person afflicted with what I'm going to call "The Wound". While I witnessed all the behaviours you've described in the Narc / Paranoid Ideation behavioural model, it was always directed towards friends, partners, neighbours, parents, brothers and sisters of "The Wounded". I never saw any sign of the behaviours directed towards the children of that person. Does parental love / bond as some sort of salve or anaesthetic to the effects of The Wound?

@samvaknin 2 ай бұрын

Watch the From Child to Narcissist playlist. Narcissists definitely target their children in various ways (as sources of supply, competitors, enemies, etc.). No exception.