Self-help After the Narcissist: Regaining Yourself

[@annabystrzanowska-boruch231]

when I was listening first time to this I was terrified. some time has passed and the content of this video is still crushing. thank you Sir; I wish that every being living on this earth has this knowledge to be able to protect themselves.

[@YaLittleFriend]

Same🫧

[@meshachjohns]

I share similar sentiments, with all the considerations you've affirmed 🗻

[@deborahcrawford5005]

Thank you for the fine work presented in this video. I am healing at 70 years old. It’s never too late to teach this dog new tricks. Thank you and many blessings to your life for bringing such clarity. Thank you, thank you …

[@kcorson8967]

I typed down these seven statements so I can read through them each night. I want to thank you for helping me get through some of the worst realizations of my life. You have made such a difference in the lives of those who have been oppressed and altered by narcissistic abuse.

[@myrtletree8575]

I did the same thing! I hope it will help me recover from the narcissist. Hopefully it will do the same for you.

[@Chloelicious11]

Thank you, Prof. Vaknin. Blessings to you. It has been difficult for me, I went back for the 20th time. The silence and the trauma bond was so strong. I want to leave and be myself again. I lost myself in the relationship. I do not recognize myself anymore. I seek more material satisfaction. I feel like if I leave that my lifestyle is going to stop. I am scared of starting over. It scares me, I am abused yet I choose to stay because of the comfort of the material satisfaction. I admit, I have issues… my therapist wants to help me. So hard for me to start over, scary and it is giving me anxiety. The ideal material life has sucked me in. I am scared of getting out of my comfort zone. I overthink things, I am scared to meet new people. I am lost in the real world.

[@laurenjeangreenbean6301]

How desperately I was that I was the only person who is feeling this way. Im sorry to see you in this life, but I am selfish and I didn't like being missing from my own life, unique is not accurate or commendable. I didn't check the date of this comment, how are you now? If you're interested in sharing...

[@adambutler4237]

Everywhere you go there you are so be the best self you are everywhere you go.

[@doondock]

I'm at this stage in my life right now I had to leave and come stay with one of my sons miles away cause I lost my other children in this process and they weren't talking to me for some time I texted them last night and wished them the new year and 5 of the 6 texted me back and that was a good feeling I don't know we're I would be without your videos

[@YaLittleFriend]

❤❤❤❤❤give yourself a hug. I know the feeling.

[@doondock]

Im working on my body now and thats been a difficult part for me after 35 years of living the life of whoever i was

[@Mirjam-mu1vn]

I love your laugh professor

[@ilseplattner8202]

😅😅

[@andreaiosup6514]

hello, wishing you joy anda lucid, vivid mind for this year! Being in a fog, lost, even with a precise, infinitesimal and abyssal fall into dispair were key elements in my case. When I think of this period as my labyrinth test, it gives meaning and contributes to my reconstruction.

[@gulbenkali7533]

Sir, thank you for the right orientation and setting valid parameters.. after being married with a narcicisst - and I had to leave with my baby on my arm our home after he has hit me in front of her- I really felt crushed and like a piece of dirt.. now my girl is six years old, i still fight with low selfesteem and finding my place in society.. your words Sir are being listened to from a very deep place in me, I cannot clearly communicate - just thank you Sir, for doing this work and for helping people out of this hell..

[@runwiththewind3281]

Professor Vaknin, thank you.

[@lafatinaillusa]

these words are so harsh to accept. too much time literally with a NOBODY. how can it be acceptable? I'm listening with tears in my eyes.

[@lindaameen]

I appreciate the depth and thoughtfulness of this video. It's a great resource for anyone on a journey of self-healing thank you so much ."

[@peteroxx]

Over 4 years later of NC. First rebellion and healing then re traumatized over loss of old self and a father. Identity crisis. Memories. When I had made my victory it was for myself and the world could care less. It’s unthankful. Gotta stand my ground.. past present future. Keep listening..

[@RuAce22]

This just came out at the right time for me. I had an encounter and yes the reality struck me like a lighting bolt, he told me I was in a fantasy world and delusion to think I would be able to meet him one day that I was not 25 and was too old for him for anything as a real relationship. But that I was his and he needed me. I felt like so little and hurt- and I told him to leave me as he was wasting my time- I have left him multiple times and he is just there. I cried so much on why am I such a dumb dumb and how I love this guy so much- I did use therapy. I blocked him and deleted him and he is still there somehow living in my mind rent free. I wish I was 25 this guy is all I wanted my whole life, and now I am too old for him and we live across so far from each other. You are right its now real, its just an illusional dream.

[@Autodidactz]

I came to this video for myself and will now convert into study notes with Chatgpt (I only use it for converting text into summaries, notes, etc, To save time) which I will share with 16 and 30 year old daughters. I now follow all the signs of my body and breathing. It's been 7 months away from my narcissist, but January is the first month we haven't spoken. Some cultures believe people should mourn for a year. Yoga and meditation are miraculous mind & body healing tools, journals, etc. Curate the things, information, and people you surround yourself with. Be your own Muse.

[@Kristina-w5v]

I want to thank you from the heart for this video (and many others too) but this one really struck in the best possible way. Such a beautiful, almost poetic usage of words and language, conveying all the necessary information in very understandable and applicable descriptions. Thank you.

[@leslierfriedman973]

Your lectures are truly amazing

[@doondock]

Depression is a hard thing to over come i slept for days with no care in the world and i do it quite often i have to pry myself off the bed and. Its a fight with the bad voices and i but i refuse to give up

[@YaLittleFriend]

Don’t give up and listen to the band CREED. The lyrics will motivate you. Hang in there I know the feeling!!!!❤

[@Ttlinda-q8x]

The Power of silence by Eckart tole 🧘🏾‍♀️❤️

[@doondock]

Thank you everybody for the kind words

[@Ttlinda-q8x]

@doondock you're not alone 🙏🏿☀️

[@lolbird2398]

This is me right now. Getting of a work and crawling in bed to myself and letting it out. Like getting an evil spirit out.

[@JonSmall-r4r]

The idea of "gaslighting oneself" made me chuckle!

[@lilithschwarzermond7342]

Thank you Sam. I wish you and all listeners a wonderful year 2025 🎉

[@LHanna-gn3qw]

Happy new year 🎉 ✨️ I hope it will bring everyone health, freedom, positive development and more ↗️😉

[@doondock]

I have come a long way and learned how to pver come and heal and deal with the stages the processes ive delt with and whats still to come from your videos i will always cherish what you taught me and what is still

[@BarbElton]

Thank you for continuing this work. It has taken a lifetime to freely pursue, identify, process and re orient myself to this truth, what I have always known deep down. Truly grateful

[@annalaskowska6570]

Tego mi właśnie było potrzeba w dziś. Dziękuję, profesorze Vaknin Wszystkiego dobrego w Nowym Roku!

[@karengallagher1959]

Thank you for this video. If I was able to cry, I'd be here blubbering after I watched all of it. It puts everything into order to follow easily, to be able to help myself, as I've been in a relationship (marriage) with a vulnerable narcissist who fits the profile exactly. I've been going through all you describe here and in your other videos, which I've been watching. I've been going through pretty much this my whole adult life, and taking sertraline for the resulting anxiety/depression issues which I'm thoroughly sick and tired of. Thank you again - much love to you.

[@joycefiore2721]

Thank you so much for all you do!! 332 days demon free! 😊❤

[@shadydesoky]

On time! Good new year

[@Colouraves]

thank you for your contribution prof. vaknin

[@arwenperea]

Happy New Year, Sam. I appreciate your work for my personal development. Wishing you a prosperous 2025! 🎉🎉🎉

[@DilfuzaKHaydarova-e1p]

Happy new year Dear Sam Vaknin❤ Thank you so much ❤

[@gikmdm2198]

Thank you so much Sam!!!!!!!❤❤❤

[@mavisharris692]

Thank you, Sir.

[@larryparks1520]

Every time you notice the narcs intraject app in your mind, think of it as old wiring. Just old dead wires in the walls of your brain. Helped me. Also, any thoughts of returning to the narcissist should be followed by a litany, such as: Not in a million trillion years, or Not even a snowballs chance in hell. Worked for me.

[@samvaknin]

Introject. Good technique.

[@JeffreyKlein-yg4ib]

With longstanding gratitude, thank you again Mr. Vaknin.

[@mustard444]

This information is pure gold

[@annamaria9899]

I am grateful for this information. Very helpfull !❤ Happy New year

[@marciabray133]

Thank you for the knowledge you impart.

[@verotoday3033]

amazing!!!!!!!!! 🤩 thank you so much and wish you to have your best year ever in 2025

[@merry8092]

Thank you for your concern and care for us, it means the world to me. ❤

[@Arcticpagan]

Happy new year professor ✨️

[@Benster1]

Always love your work and absolutely to articulate this topic in such a brilliant way!

[@tf902-f3p]

Thank you very much! Happy New Year!

[@katface28]

Thank you Sam, for everything you do.

[@user-rm4ye7fp5d]

This video made me cry within the first minute. I moved away from my covert narc sibling a few weeks ago. now I've got into a situation with my sister in law, which we ended up agreeing to disagree on the issue, but it just feels like i continue to attract negativity. idk if I'm having cognitive dissosance because I'm thinking I'm the issue (or the negativity) in the incidents I'm having now. My unemployement atm doesnt help, but definitely feeling less confident and possibly depressed (hopefully not) ever since i moved. Will be taking the advice in this video and hope for the best.

[@Kelty-yy5lp]

Happy new year Professor, and huge gratitude for your generosity.

[@DamianSeverin]

Thank you Sam for this amazing and helpful work. Dankeschön 👍🏽❤️. Damian

[@debdesper9963]

Yes, Yes! The beauty of aging. I’ve had to learn the hard way.

[@cecillekinnear4585]

Thank you so much

[@francescavitaliani2337]

Thank you dear Professor

[@Greyrock88]

What a master class. Sooo helpful. Thank you Sam!! Wishing you an amazing 2025.

[@blueseaswimmer1]

woah - the first 2 minutes 😮😢 it's so true and so sad and that's why i have a hard time just getting through the day

[@TheHutch000]

I am so greatful thank you so much Prof S.V.

[@joybarton3460]

This is an ultimate gem. Thank you, Dr. Vaknin

[@fabianarreolalopez892]

Feliz año nuevo prof Vaknin. The shraring your knowledge about narcissism, psychology and yourself through this is LOABLE.

[@kohannaflute1159]

Perfectly said .

[@SusanMoini]

Thank you so much and happy new year 🙏🎇

[@TheEvelyna69]

It is amazing how to the point Prof. Sam Vaknin talks. I have endep up, addicted also to his videos, except for the shared fantasy. Hope this torture app.the narcissist installed in my mind, in just one month, will soon stop .

[@sarayoung1354]

Can we address the real elephant in the room, the question everyone wants to ask but doesn't: what does "shoshanim" mean? Google tells me it means "trumpet" but that answer is so unsatisfying. Great video, as always.

[@elanbair4571]

Roses

[@a_new_life_41]

In Hebrew, the word Shoshanim (שׁוֹשַׁנִּים) generally translates to "lilies" or “roses." It’s often used poetically in Hebrew literature and songs, and symbolizes beauty, purity, and sometimes love.

[@BlueSky-ff4oy]

So it is kinda how a British guy would say, "hi love" to a complete stranger.

[@dunken27]

He was 'blowing his own Trumpet'..that's what he meant.

[@YaLittleFriend]

Sam you are a virtual oasis in the vast desert of stupidity out here. ❤

[@crazymema23]

Your videos have been more than helpful to me is realizing and separating from my narcissist if have loved and lived with. you say your video is the only one I need to watch to regain myself, how many times before I believe I can mentally individuate and silence the phrase "you are a waste of life"?

[@caguorg3685]

thank u professor.... thank u :( ITS SO SAD I AM CRYING

[@Plutosheir]

Thank you, prof. 🖤🖤

[@SusanMoini]

Thank you so much🙏🎇

[@colibri7-m1h]

Thank you.

[@nicoletacherechesu1576]

Happy New Year , in 2025 !!!

[@CsarDestroyer]

a new year, L'chaim, Sam!

[@marem1842]

Thank You & Happy New Year I hope to have the ideal venue to host one of your lectures someday 🙂

[@888A44]

Thank you

[@goodpony1971]

what if you can't get back to "who you were" bc you never had a chance to be or "be-come"? i'm in multiple states of anguish that just cycle through me. i feel like i've gone completely insane.

[@lolbird2398]

This feels like a crucifixion.

[@sophiajohansson5736]

How do you get your own identity when your narcissistic mother has victim blame you your whole life?

[@samvaknin]

Watch the NA Healing playlist and the therapies playlist.

[@selfchemy]

How to make a distinction if one is both overt and covert is in the face but not is kind but doesn't understand basic kindness.

[@MathildeCostello-zp5fk]

Can you make a video about schizophrenia ?

[@samvaknin]

Not my field of expertise. But I do discuss psychosis and psychotic disorders in some of the videos in the comorbidities playlist.

[@MathildeCostello-zp5fk]

@@samvakninok thank you for your genius mind it has helped me tremendously, do you have any recommendation regarding schizophrenia?

[@malaren]

Hi professor, I follow all your posts but can't find if psychopathy and Aspberger can exist in the same person, is that possible? Kind regards

[@samvaknin]

Search the comorbidities playlist.

[@malaren]

@@samvaknin Trying to get a grip on who I am. Thank you

[@Atanasisa]

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[@malaren]

@@Atanasisa Found it, but thanks anyway. I'm 55 and trying to figure out who I am. Because I cried like a child when my dog ​​died but nothing when a human died. But everything else fits for antisocial.

[@BeckaHearts]

It can and I’ve met him

[@killiasi]

I have a question that has nothing to do with the video, can a narcissist hear voices telling him things/calling his name/laughing at him? or is it all his own invention, a lie?

[@samvaknin]

It is a symptom of a psychotic disorder such as schizophrenia.

[@killiasi]

@@samvaknin So he might be lying, he doesn't suffer from schizophrenia. Thank you! For everything.