How the Internet Is Changing Friendship

No matter where in the world your friends are, they’re always a text, email, or Facebook message away from reconnecting. But does that mean that we’re keeping friendships alive past their natural expiration date, or are virtual connections actually making friendships stronger?
For more, read Julie Beck's articles, "How Friendships Change in Adulthood" and "Disposable Friendships in a Mobile World".
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[@JonEdwardJordan]

Social media 'friends' aren't friends any more than someone you know from a bar is a friend. Try disappearing from social media for a few months and see how many people notice.

[@mycount64]

amen

[@Matanumi]

a few noticed I found. it was a nice break from all the distractions but tough to contact certain people.

[@tommykovac1360]

If somebody had told me that in 2007 when I first got Myspace and started going to bars, I wouldn't have had my car accident and I wouldn't be climbing the ladder to show business, but I needed to live life and learn and get wise!

[@aegeus5983]

I quit social media for almost 6 years now and no one texting or trying to call me😂

[@yoursoulessmate]

​@@aegeus5983but did u try befriebd them in the first plsce?

[@mcmike89]

I find that friendships on social media are not genuine, just flat with no way telling if that friend is really your friend or just an acquaintance. I tend to lose contact with people I care about. Maybe it's best to not have any friends and delete all social media. A friend you can always trust is your dog or cat. Pets make better friendships more than people.

[@ordinarytree4678]

Thats why Im glad for Facebook's acquaintance label.

[@mcmike89]

Ordinary Tree Now with the Coronavirus outbreak happening in the world right now. We need social media more than ever before sadly.

[@skiphoffenflaven8004]

@@mcmike89 I once thought that exact same thing! But the culture of narcissism is upon us and our “friends” that are weak w.r.t. the “influencers” all over the internet today just become people who are LOOK@MEdia users like those people you don’t even know. The dopamine drip provider has changed. The “cocaine” is different, the “heroin” is different and your real friends are those who refuse to succumb to this new drug. And from my experience thus far it is those who have left social media platforms behind.

[@mcmike89]

@@skiphoffenflaven8004 The best thing to do is move forward and don't look back to the past. It's their loss, not mine.

[@Infinitefox_XD]

For me, I had online freinds that I was not close with But I met a girl online, we been freinds for 2 years, we love each other like sisters She’s the closest thing in my life I have been through so much betrayal from other people to find her…

[@ordinarytree4678]

Great message at the end. Ive definitely learned how handy it is to use Facebook to rekindle old friendships easier and more deliberately.

[@CaylynAdamko]

Stuff like this is so important, and becoming increasingly so. Thanks for sharing!

[@justinjinroldan]

I agree

[@shoulders-of-giants]

I don't even have 20 friends lol

[@r4inb0w5m4k3m3cry]

When you make friends in video games, share life details, become buddies, make plans to meet in real life, stay close, drift a little as life drones on, try to message them now and then, and suddenly they block and dump you to go join a furry cult and you find out that you are disposable friend. no answers: the last thing you said was "we should talk more, wish you well!" and it isn't even your first time! Welcome to Gen Z.

[@stevensong8784]

1:04 - 1:07 Such a great GREAT expression!

[@aegeus5983]

Looking for friends Requirements: Lowkey Down to earth Social media ghost Mysterious😎

[@sweetbambi26]

I’m down add my insta jaylene.gonzalezzz I fit the requirements 😌

[@SALSATOONSsalsasanjay]

@@sweetbambi26 add me too. If you want.

[@MinttMeringue]

1:40 oof hit me there. I move constantly, and easily throw things away while moving. I'd say I do see most friendships as more disposable ... there's only a couple I see as necessary really.

[@archravenineteenseventeen]

Online friends aren't real unless A. You met each other and is /are already friends in real life eg. Childhood, old classmate, old co-worker. B. You decided to meet up and finally know each other and bring friendship to the next lvl. It's called eyeball during the yaho messenger days pre-facebook. The B one is rare in today's society and can be understood due to news about being killed or anything bad during the meet up between the 2 people. You are already a disposable. Its hard to create and maintain friendship and it all goes down the drain if you made a single terrible or even slight mistake. All it takes is a single click block and don't bother hear the apology or his/her side on why did he/she done that. You don't even need to listen to explaination. All experience between both are just like a file, thrown to recycle bin then emptied.

[@abdul2009]

If there was no social media, would we all trust and connect with strangers more?

[@Prop8Hater]

Yes.

[@ordinarytree4678]

We would be forced to be more vulnerable, yes.

[@archravenineteenseventeen]

Actually yes and no depends on the situation

[@SarahMcgraw-pi6tg]

thanks for this i think im gonna use this for my ELA project

[@MinttMeringue]

While I don't use FB or Insta or Snap, from KZbin and forums, my online friendships do have their place. I cant tell my family I'm bi and such, but I can get support from a couple of online friends.

[@alicerayne9461]

Face to Face Friendships is gone now thanks to the internet!

[@terriblue9558]

I have no friends at all. Even on the internet, i can't make any friends because nobody likes me.

[@7dogguy]

I feel that I'm pretty much the same keep fighting though we can get through this

[@Galaxia53]

I want to have a genuine friendship. But then again I also want to be happy and I can't quite seem to get either of them

[@Bill0102]

I'm enthralled by this content. I recently enjoyed a similar book, and I was truly enthralled. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@al1383]

We need to define “friend”

[@Galaxia53]

I think the definition of a friendship is subjective and not quite possible to define clearly because it's on a spectrum

[@al1383]

@@Galaxia53 One having mutual affection of another, and vice-versa?

[@KFCJones]

Captions aren't just for the hard-of-hearing, you can use them when the content is interesting but the vocal fry is driving you nuts.

[@JoeM370]

This is peerless content. A book with similar material I read was also second to none. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@marksleeger5061]

Texting is destroying actual communication.

[@smolson8471]

What makes you say that?

[@clover8029]

i like the way you talk.

[@mysigt_]

VituallHooman I do not

[@veeb0013]

some of the friends that i talk to everyday are friends who are online friends

[@YTxARLArham]

Can we make friends in social media

[@user-nf2nu2bz5s]

I can't understand her pronounce

[@omarayyash3275]

the only issue with it is that you can't connect with people face to face. It's not localized, it's world-wide so it actually keeps people apart from each other. It's actually destroying culture. It doesn't bring people together.

[@tamerlane9889]

Goodddddd

[@youtubekiduniya.351]

I want a friend . I have no friend.

[@dudinha-7350]

Can we be virtual friends?

[@user-gy2kk7tz3c]

I'm not sure Internet realy changing friendship. It cam make easy to save connect with your friend, but other depends from your own softskills. You can have thousands followers and friends at your social media and feel lonlyness, bacause you still have no skill to communication in real life.

[@archravenineteenseventeen]

I have skills in communication in real life than in social media even though it's easy to be direct in social media, it's also easy to lose friendship in social media because of block feature

[@whenitcounts8657]

"Is covfefe Vegan?" Tf?

[@rosinaiglesias-traductoral5827]

It's so hard understanding her. She mumbles a lot.

[@hismam77771]

I got a notification but I'm not subscribed to them

[@youyouyoucef6512]

Abarofsoap who !

[@Iquey]

Is covfefe vegan?

[@jimisru]

This is The Atlantic? More like Teen Beat.

[@mycount64]

FB is pretentious and trite

[@Iquey]

AW Crowe I'm gonna try and make it more fun for myself. It mainly sucked because...well the platform's algorithms suck...but also I wasn't gaming the system enough to give me the results I wanted.

[@assiyazhamanbayeva9473]

Why are you talking so fast? Please not so fast, don't rush

[@arslan31]

Hey, are you still looking for friends?

[@dudinha-7350]

@@arslan31 can we be virtual friends?

[@arslan31]

@@dudinha-7350 hey! Sure, do you have instagram or whatsapp?

[@alexselivanov299]

jeez get some sleep woman