How The Narcissist Deals With Your Silence | Pep talk

[@johnoulds3003]

The disrespect was my closure

[@EchoBack2Me]

Same!

[@astrialindah2773]

succinctly said! the disrespect for our relationship was my closure as well..... know your worth and don't settle for less!

[@MIDNIGHTSUNALASKA]

I said to her, “ya know…it was your disrespect that taught me the most..” (just didn’t tell her what exactly I had learned). 😃

[@dclarke1896]

Same! 💯

[@tyrinesoil192]

Same!!!!

[@daniellemorse6929]

I don't think that silence bothers them when they are so busy with new supply. I believe I am dead to him. I am suffering and missing him while he is living his life and forgot about me. This healing journey is brutal and I truly hope to one day see the light. I'm still blown away that we love them so much and they treat us so poorly and not care one bit. Reaching out for answers is not even an option. They have no idea how to communicate and can't ever talk about any emotions and don't like it when we do.

[@daniellemorse6929]

@Of the Refrain Yes, there is definitely tragedy in what they've done in their path of destruction. We're lucky to have these videos and a community to help us all heal. Thanks for your words and take care of yourself too.

[@eathanp2044]

Hope your ok

[@curtiscrump6076]

He’s living the same exact life he was living with you,just different tactics ramped up a thousand times worse

[@daniellemorse6929]

@@curtiscrump6076 Makes sense, Curtis. I feel sorry for whoever he targets next and I truly hope this person doesn't fall in love with him like I did.

[@daniellemorse6929]

@@eathanp2044 Thank you. Some better days, some bad days. Just a part of the healing journey. 😞

[@irocwellOO3]

IT DOESNT MATTER HOW THE NARCISSIST DEALS WITH YOUR SILENCE! Why? Because you are living you’re own life of peace happiness and abundance.

[@faustostar9627]

Best comment on here so far.

[@mariposa1933]

Yep!! 🙌🙌👏👏👏🙏🙏

[@bethmcnaughton2503]

Giving them a taste of their own medicine with silence, for different reasons of course as you mentioned; curls them up like a pretzel & drives them nuts….no closure needed!

[@flowersofthefield340]

Silence is Golden ...... 👍

[@ODORpodcast]

I’ve been silent, got a long text yesterday about how much he appreciates me, wanted to express his gratitude 🙏🏾 to me for being there mentally, physically & financially. Yeah rite!!! He thanks God for me… I’m not buying into it. I’m done. It was 6 months of confusion. I’m at peace now

[@freespirithermit]

don't go back to that cycle

[@not2longnow]

🎯

[@DannySainz-o4g]

God bless you. I'm going through it right now. It's killing me. I really loved her. I've never experienced this before so I was totally blind to it. I hope I find the strength you have.

[@kenzo9644]

🌟 Karma is a Beautiful thing 🏖Stay safe all! Cheers from down under.

[@boogie183]

I Like this:"cherrs from down under"

[@susanjaneterry1073]

There is nothing left for me to say. He is sad and wants my attention, yes, but he is grieving over his own failures, not over me. Playing the victim is one of his arrows in the quiver. He can't pierce me through the silence. I don't care anymore. I care about getting my life back together. I care about being happy. I care about ME. Silence is golden.

[@ellasladek3124]

Th ate exactly what I decided to do

[@tinablok5700]

They grieve over their own failures - exactly! Very well said!

[@sharonbartholomew4748]

Your videos are so true. I have a narc. Sister we had alot of talks to resolve the problem and it is the same way, mo change no forgiveness. They always play the victim. Hateful. So to preserve my sanity i give her the silent treatment. Only Jesus can change them.

[@PookiieB]

I thought about this a great deal and I came to the realization that we only suffer for as long as we allow ourselves. Once you take off those rose colored glasses you will see them for what they are and it’s nothing to walk away and never look back. ❤

[@mariposa1933]

I don’t care. Im not losing sleep over them because they never lost sleep over hurting us right? I’m happy, healthy and grateful to not have them around. 😁 Great channel as you are helping us all soo much. ❤

[@annettebaggett]

Everytime I wanted to reach out to my husband, I thought about how far I had come in my healing. I didn't want to start the process over. Reminding myself of the bad things that had happened, helped me over those humps. There were certainly more bad times, than good ones.

[@monicahocking1507]

Yes I did sort of re new contact and it set me way back to start all over again. Get away, stay away. Took me 40 years.

[@annettebaggett]

@@monicahocking1507 oh my goodness !! I can totally relate . Took me 23 years of in and out of this relationship. I didn't know about you tube or Narcissism, until a year ago. What an eye opener it has been. Bless your heart. I hope you stay strong.

[@cherrybacon3319]

Each time I left my Ex or he discarded me I would send him a last message telling him how I felt, then block him and go no contact. I wouldn't know if he'd tried contacting me unless I looked at a folder in my phone that saved blocked content. I'd learned to wean myself from looking at that content so I could focus on the day at hand. I didn't read any messages etc he would send through my phone in case he said something to trigger me to react and as I said, I wanted to be able to function. As ea h day and week went by as I was suffering withdrawal from him like an addiction going cold turkey, I felt bad but I also felt stronger because of it. I resisted the urge to contact him by thinking of the detox pain I was going through and why. My brain was telling me how far I'd come in healing even though I had a way to go. I don't want to give that up for anyone.

[@annettebaggett]

@@cherrybacon3319 yep. It's a struggle, but it's like winning a race. Each day, week, month, and year, get easier. Keep running , and don't forget to breathe!

[@cherrybacon3319]

@@annettebaggett I will 🙂.

[@nycstarport8542]

You have to accept closure; they will never give it to you. They ALWAYS think that they can reenter your life.

[@cherrybacon3319]

I know that my actions by keeping my Ex blocked and going No Contact are the best ways for me to be able to Self Love and focus on myself. My Ex to some extent won't be bothered as I've caused him a Narcissistic Injury so he'll be looking for new supply, but if he can't find any he will try hoovering me. I don't need to know what he's up to or who with. Good luck to the next Victim as they'll need it. I get a little bit stronger each day. 🍒

[@BCHODOSH01]

You are absolutely correct! She would give me the silent treatment to punish me, and regain control. I finally went no contact, silence, walked away to take care of me, and regain my sanity and respect for myself that were greatly eroded during the relationship. BTW, you look absolutely beautiful! Thank you for these wonderful videos. Take care, be well.

[@NMTDelightfulMusic]

My idiot ex gave me silent treatment and had no idea that I kicked his as.. in the meantime :))) OMG how surprised he was when he came hoovering and nothing happened. I imagine his face ( we talked over the phone) thinking - I don't believe this! Ha ha ha ha ha ha....

[@dalenr8772]

It doesnt make sense to engage them, cos nothing good will come of it. If u hv the upper hand, then maintain ur boundaries to safe guard yourself. U can do much better being alone, n wait for the right mentally healthy person

[@traceybiles6167]

Keep your head up keep silent and 🚫 everywhere look your best and entertain new options.

[@vincentoravec261]

Amen to all of this, every last letter!🙏

[@mosiemi1]

For me my silence will never end

[@DannySainz-o4g]

My ex texted me to wish me a happy Easter. It was hard but i didn't respond to her. I feel really good about it today. Thank you all and god for the support and strength to get through it. God bless you all..

[@OneFaithFilledLady]

1:10 yes, I had to stop reaching out for my sanity... tired of being hurt no matter what I try or do.

[@michellehart3441]

I am in the process of divorcing my narc. I had to go to our apartment last weekend to do "inventory" on items I need to get out. (He is making it difficult through the courts right now). He had the power shut AND brought his new "supply" with him. When I didn't even flinch and just did my "inventory" (as best I could in a dark, hot apartment), he kept trying to pick a fight! I didn't take the bait! I just kept calm and quiet and he didn't know what to do! It was hilarious! Now...hopefully the judge will see what he did and know this incident is proof of his abuse! 25 years of abuse! I'm done! This channel has helped me so much and it is so much appreciated! I won't lie...I've been sick to my stomach since, but I won't let him ever see the weak me again!

[@markyoung467]

25 years oh my goodness. be strong onwards and upwards ✨️

[@annettebaggett]

His new supply hopefully got a glimpse of who he really is is as well. Good for you for being so strong in his presence ! I used to be angry at my ex's new/ next project/ intrest, but then, I realized, they are just victims too. Unaware, poor little uninformed versions of me when I first met my husband. So then I felt bad for them. I knew the abuse that awaited them in that relationship. The scary thing is , Some of these Narcissist, or their empaths,( because sometimes empaths can be pushed too far , or have to fight for their life ) could end up on a Snapped episode ! It's a scary world out there!! Please be safe !

[@NMTDelightfulMusic]

Yeah, my idiot ex throw the new wife in my face, laughing in my face. I remember the smirk, he was in high heaven. Like - I showed you now, I am the prize... After the abuse I suffered he was piss.. of that I did not chase back. That fool thought I would chase after I saw him happy in a new relationship. And I was astonished at how he changed from the ideal person to this piece of sh..???? Well karma has done its job - his wife got cancer ( I wonder why) and wanted to divorce him. He is miserable and empty and is hoovering me the last 20 years. I am happily married and he has the privilege of watching my good life, travels and family life. Who is laughing now? 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@LC-gu2sc]

He is looking for a response, keep silent, no response is the best response. It will get easier, I am 4 yrs. Narc free. Piece of mind is great.

[@johnwhatley2046]

Thank you I came off all social media ten months no contact and each day I'm getting stronger

[@TheEyeSeesAll]

Trust me, just stay silent…FOREVER. If you ever contact or respond to them again, the whole things starts over. Silence = winning.

[@markyoung467]

please 🙏don't be dragged back in to there world 🌎 it's s world of vindictiveness and confusion. thank you for these pep talks 😇

[@wendydaniel1110]

Love yourself more that you love them because the reality is, they don't love you. It's all about lower and control Self love changes your life period.

[@fourthgirl5028]

I watch this over and over every time I get the urge to contact my sister. It’s like hearing your best friend say, “no girl don’t do that. She’s just gonna stab your heart again. Take a deep breath, regroup, and do something nice for yourself. You can get through this. It’s just a hiccup. You don’t need crazy back in your life”

[@mariann3885]

PEACE, HARMONY AND SELF LOVE IS A POWERFUL HEALING FORCE. STAY AWAY FROM CONTROVERSY! YOUR ENERGY WILL BE RESTORED.

[@davidhodgson5252]

Getting rid of them is my closer, I'm so much happier now I don't care about her anymore , I hope she has a good day !!!LOL

[@Richard-vq7ud]

For me closure is when they are officially a stranger.

[@PookiieB]

Y’all have to understand what she is saying. Leave them alone!!! Do not be weak and stoop down to their level it’s not worth it and by stopping down to their level I mean contacting them when they purposely act the way they do so u will come to them. I know it’s hard , confusing , crazy but u have to leave them alone. Move forward with your life and love yourselves I promise once u do you will be soo much happier ❤

[@Cali1414]

This video is right on time for me. I’ve been separated from my narc for 2 years, I can admit, he had a lot of control over my mind. Last week, I ask my ex narc to do me a favor; and he text me on Sunday saying he will have everything done by Monday . I didn’t reply back . Because he makes me wait 5 to 8 hours to reply back. I thought to myself . No need to reply back to him. He said by Monday . Today is Tuesday and I haven’t received an email yet from him with documents. He is waiting for my reaction and this time I am walking away.

[@elysanoy1636]

sameeee. i experience my ex told me he will pick me up to finish our business (we have business together for 2 years) , he never cameeeee. not until i text him first where he wassss???? he acted like he just totally forgot. I exactly knew he didnt contact because he knew i care and i will reach out. NOW ITS OVER HAHHAHA. ughhh such a stress release....

[@Cali1414]

@@elysanoy1636 Wow! Glad you get rid of him.

[@vadisquo9094]

I did everything I was warned not to do. I broke contact for a year. Then she contacted me and like a damn fool I fell for her again. She started doing the same things you warned us all about. I broke contact and this time it lasted 6 months, she contacted me and again I tried it again. This time I broke it off and I am going to stay away from her. Yes a female narcissist!!! One this you said that is soooooo true. Going back to them is a BIG MISTAKE!! As true as the oxygen one breath. Going back to a narcissist is the worst thing one can do. They will NEVER change, that you can count on.

[@l.t.2356]

I can't stop laughing. This is exactly what I am going through right now.

[@TheEyeSeesAll]

Encouraging you to stay silent forever. I’ve made this mistake too many times. Silence = winning = peace = happiness.

[@educostanzo]

My narc ex "friend" started trying to contact after I visit her city and did not contact her. It's hard not to respond and finally say that I'm seeing what she's doing, but I can feel my silence tormenting her from here. Your advice is very accurate and helpful

[@HonestyIsAVirtue7]

What I am realizing is that silence is an answer too. And, I don't owe anyone an explanation of how I choose to live my life. And, I don't give all of me to another person as a sacrifice for "Love" because that's not love. I belong to God, not man. And, when it's over, it's over. And, I don't go back, I move forward. And, When I'm done, I'm done. And, when it's final (divorce), it's final. And, our actions do speak louder than our words. And, when someone shows us who they really are, we need to believe them. Words (rhetoric) are often used by manipulative people to persuade people with a kind heart to believe in lies, and comply. Trust has to be earned. And, that takes time. Watch their actions, and see if their actions line up with their words. If they don't, then that's all the proof a person needs to know in order to let them go. And, If anyone is rushing, and pushing something on another person it's a huge red flag. Do not ever let anyone rush, or push you into doing anything. That's where I messed up with the ex narc that I married. He came into my life like a whirlwind, and completely swept me off of my feet. I felt like he was Romeo, and I was Juliet. It was all a game being played. He was acting. It was a planned out Make believe scripted act. His performance was to gain my energy and to be applauded. He needed my energy, and attention to feed his grandiosity. He became a star performer from my reaction, and constant applauding, and attention. I was so very young, vulnerable, and naive. He was older than me. He groomed me. He soaked in my whole dysfunctional childhood of abuse by both of my parents. Once he knew that I was broken, he pounced on me like prey. Then, He rushed me to marry him right away. He rushed me to have his children right away. He rushed me for the entire 32 years of our marriage. I put me last, and him first. And, all along the way, he was lying, hiding, cheating and manipulating me, but I couldn't see it. He had me so screwed up in the head that I was living in a fantasy world. I was oblivious to reality. He's most definitely a Covert. So, he hid things really well. That's why it took so long to finally see what was happening. I lost myself due to the mind games. But, God has saved me from complete destruction. God was with me all of the way. Looking back now, I'm seeing the moments where the Holy Spirit specifically warned me, but I didn't listen. Always, Always, listen to the subtle hints. Listen to those gut feelings that tell you that something is wrong. Those feelings are from God.

[@Betscu.]

Yes. They can't stand this silence which they deserve.

[@JankaLeucorrhinia]

Thank you so much for such a brilliant explanation that I needed to hear right now. I already asked myself if I'm not like them (narcissists) when I no longer want to communicate with them and keep silent. And now it’s more clear for me , that It's to keep my sanity. ❤

[@craigmerkey8518]

Thank you for the important details! The NPD will punish you no matter hat you do! Run and disengage, no matter how painful it may be, it won't be as crazy as being in the blast zone!

[@roxanne2977]

Thank you I needed this today

[@tanyamaree6432]

He didn't care when I left after five years. He already had the new supply waiting and moved her straight in.

[@lanashowler5906]

My ex too was leaving home here for work at 4am but didnt start till 6am... He then moves in with her a few weeks later... But worse told our kids he tried to come back but mum wouldnt let him.... Ermmmm no not the case ... Narcs are all the same.... Bring on divorce.

[@Dean-zn8du]

Monkey branching never works in the end it will fall to pieces. The most evil and disrespectful people on the planet. How can you say you love someone and lie and give false feelings for years. Sit back and karma will come.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

You just described my covert narcissist former “friend.” She and I seemingly had so much in common (love bombing), but when any questions were asked, she would go to pieces (narcissistic rage). One thing I noticed in the beginning, she was a busybody who loved to gossip. Suddenly there were “miscommunications“ and “misunderstandings.“ Any conflict where she was the common denominator, she often tried to excuse it away and sweep it under the rug as wires being crossed. She immediately turned it around on me trying to make me seem like the bad guy (projection). Even minor disagreements or differences of opinion, she treated like it was a personal affront to her oft mentioned but never seen “honor” and turned it into a screaming match. I saw other friendships she had crumble and go down in flames. She was more than willing to trash-talk these people that she supposedly cared so much about. Honestly, it made me very uncomfortable. She needed a sounding board and I was her unwilling, reluctant audience member. I heard many a story where she was the victim and everyone else was the butthole. Who was the common denominator? Her. How much of the story was flipped to depict the other party as the villain and her as the innocent bystander? All of it. It was soon that I found out she was trash-talking me too, despite her proclamation that I was her “best friend” or “friend for life.” Then the utter lack of respect for boundaries and trampling all over those boundaries that I laid down began. She dangled her kids in front of me to get me to give her money. It was supposed to be a loan, but, of course, she never paid back all of it. When I pressed her for it, the mask came off and I got to see her true self. It wasn't pretty. The only reason I stuck around, as long as I did, was because I cared about her children. They didn't deserve the existence she had sentenced them to. Tragically, they grew up to be just like her: entitled, selfish, mean-spirited, petty thieves. To make a long story short, in no particular order, a list of the atrocities she committed against me include, but are not limited to: defaming me to anyone who would listen after I demanded she pay back the money she owed, spreading an entirely untrue rumor I caught an STI from a one-night stand, outing me to my extremely conservative Italian Roman Catholic homophobic father (we were already estranged and barely on speaking terms, but her malicious actions caused him to completely disown me and she showed no remorse), the day my father died, she had nerve to say, and I quote, that the two of us “never got along anyway“ and weeks after that repugnant statement, she, without even batting an eyelash, shamelessly asked (demanded) that I share my non-existence inheritance with her because she had lost yet another job due to poor attendance. I cut off all contact with her more than eight years ago and my life is far less stressful without her in it. She didn't even notice that I had blocked her on everything and changed my cell phone number for months. It was only when she tried to use the death of a mutual acquaintance as an excuse to contact me (and turn the tragedy into a story about herself), that she finally realized I had cut contact. I later found out from a mutual friend (who I was fortunately able to wake up to her toxicity and has also since cut contact), that my former friend, then a 50-something mother and grandmother, threw a tantrum that would have embarrassed a toddler. How dare I say enough is enough and choose to no longer be exposed to her viper venom? She wasn't done abusing me. Tough crap. Of course, to her, me taking back the power was not in any way acceptable. She demanded my friend, block me to show solidarity with her. When he refused, she tried to turn him into her flying monkey and get him to spy on me because she was [wait for it] convinced I was talking about her. When he refused, stating that she wasn't as interesting as she thinks she is, she flipped out on him, too. He wasn't used to seeing her like that. It was the beginning of the end that caused him to start asking questions and when she subjected him to the silent treatment, he took it as a hint to cut her off completely. As for me, I hated her for a long while, not just because of the money or the horrible things she did to me, but because of the wasted time. I can't get those years back. After doing some soul searching, I realized that that she is a truly broken and hollow individual not capable of having anything resembling a conscience. I still don't like her, but it is through the grace of God, that I was able to privately forgive her and I repeatedly ask him, when I pray, to give her the ethereal slap upside the head so she will, hopefully, one day finally get a clue. The downside to free will is a person has to want to change. The odds, of my former friend ever admitting she has a problem, are about as likely as a Kardashian winning an Oscar.

[@fionalennox408]

I'm so sorry you went through all this❤️

[@iononcantomascrivo]

@@fionalennox408 Thank you very much for reading. I'm hoping and sharing my stories, others will realize that individuals like my former friend are not worth the hassle. For all the reasons stated in these videos, people like that don't ever change. After all, they're perfect and everyone else is the problem.

[@floww2683]

This is exactly what I just went through. Absolutely to a tee. I’ve now gone no contact, blocked and deleted on everything for almost two weeks. I already feel way less anxious and am at peace in my daily life. I do think about her but then I quickly remind myself of the hardship she put me through and that gives me strength to keep going. I sympathize and understand what you mean about having time wasted. Fortunately for me it wasn’t too long but still, it sucks. I’m trying to take it as a learning experience as none of this was ever taught in school or by my peers or elders. I have to forgive myself first, and know that it wasn’t your fault. This person is not mentally stable and has no business raising children or manipulating, and abusing people. I’m glad you got out of that situation with your life. I pray God will bless and protect you brother 👊🏾❤️🙏

[@Liveforwhatyougive]

Thank you for sharing this, this is basically a carbon copy of what I went through with my covert narcissist girlfriend. Everything described here happened in some form or another even down to the rumor of me having an STI and her attempting to contact me through the death of a mutual friend. 😳

[@iononcantomascrivo]

@@Liveforwhatyougive You're welcome. Keep in mind: they're two steps below a psychopath and one step above a sociopath

[@mannazpsychicconsultant3125]

Your videos are really helping me my eyes are open now and I can see what has been going on thankyou so much for your knowledge

[@alcudiababe1]

I understand, I understand now. It's like why the Narcissist will very rarely if at all apologize because they know if the roles were reversed they would hold what you did above your head and would drag you over hot colds because of it until sufficient time had passed for them so in their minds that's what they think you'd do if they apologized to you for anything, but you wouldn't, you'd just want a recollection of wrong doing so you can move forward to get past it to be healthy - but that's what the Narcissist fears because they are very punishing people so generally that's why you won't get them apologizing which is why it leaves a normal person frustrated

[@simonsteadman3276]

OMG Anoushka what an amazing video, absolutely 100% accurate and sadly true.x

[@bobbyfox3013]

The more I watch your videos the more I understand how a narcissist operates and looking at back now I went through everything the way you explained it. This is very therapeutic!!💯

[@Piscesmermaid]

I blocked him nearly 2 weeks ago for the lies, the selfishness, the manipulation and the hurt. I hope he has seen my Facebook (even though he blocked me) because I climbed snowdon. He promised to take me up there and then denied me that because he’d done it and couldn’t be bothered. Even took a photo of me on a smaller hill and told me to tell everyone id climbed it. Well I did it on my own 💪💪💪

[@desireebryant9523]

The best thing to do is block and delete and thank the lord for your strength!!!

[@Mandooze]

Anoushka🙏...thankyou for being you and doing these videos❤

[@catz8XinTheHat]

The only time I want to hear anything of them is when he's dead. I'm entirely indifferent of them I wish that would sink in so they STOP contacting me

[@barishankhonglah4690]

Thankyou so much. I needed this.

[@Nightmare_-ix7dk]

I kept my silence when she disrespected me and devalued me through text. Now she stalks my social media stories without being in friend/follow list.

[@mosiemi1]

I don’t ever want anything to do with them.

[@DG38594]

If only she knew I could care less whether she contacts me or not lol No one is on control of me, no matter what kind of crap she is thinking she is doing. I'd laugh at her.

[@gaithalbadarin6774]

Anoushka is the BEST , THANK YOU!

[@mikerozic7225]

Anoushka Thank You!

[@irenelee1866]

I think you're brilliant.... it really makes sense as I'm all over the place ....

[@robanjel]

Even as we parallel parent, I keep minimal contact. About our child. She has me “unfollowed” on social media. We have a nanny that loves to keep in touch with us. But it’s beginning to be a bit uncomfortable that word gets to my ex. If there’s so much as a scratch on the child, she will contact me and harass me about it. She also heard I was at a childrens bday party with friends and commented about that also. It’s scary when a narc may use the child as means of contact and harassment. I want to tell the nanny that I’m uncomfortable but it’s hard and it will also spark rage. Damned if you do dammed if you don’t.

[@IanBond007]

I feel your pain. Our 4 year old child is not seeing me at the moment due to ongoing coercive control and abuse by her mother. The children are the ones who suffer, it is abusive in the extreme.

[@IanBond007]

@Of the Refrain best wishes, hope all works out. The key is not reacting to abuse and keeping all communications civil, even when provoked. They need your negative reactions to make their case against you and reverse victim and Offender. Good luck my friend.

[@IanBond007]

@Of the Refrain hope all goes well in court. Stay cool.

[@veenaomdhawan6115]

I have in terrible abusive relation ship for seven long years as a mother in law.80 yrs old sick woman was constantly insulted and mentelly tortured.did not have the courage to walk away as it would break up the family.physically suffered thank god now enough is enough.i am in NO CONTACT at peace and happy.Since few months.will dis inherit her Totally from my wealth that she is waiting for.that Loss will be her down fall.Hope so😢😮😅

[@desireebryant9523]

I just thank GOD i didn’t fall in love with him and I found out quickly. He was the second narcissist in my life the first one lasted 7 years omg I didn’t no what a narcissist was then !!!

[@LC_H]

❤️❤️❤️The only people that the "narc" can manipulate are people that allow/accept b manipulation. The real question is... Why do you allow yourself to be manipulated??? It takes TWO people to participate in an unhealthy relationship. They aren't the only ones emotionally broken. It's time for people to begin evaluating self. You're blaming them from treating you wrong, while to remain in situations that allow them to treat you wrong.

[@monikaschroder2328]

It is not the only reason, but a very importamt one.

[@robertchriscoe5830]

Proverbs 26:20 sums it up. Verses 21-28 describes what you’ve been dealing with.

[@GreenEnvy.]

"They're literally doing somersaults." Finally, an easy way to spot a narcissist.

[@coldawson8486]

You do not know at all Just get rid of them. Evil 😈

[@JustMe-zv8po]

They get even nastier in my situation, endless.

[@MikeL-7]

Everything you described happened like that with my narc.

[@yakovisaac6984]

I use the silent treatment to show a narcissist his place which is that he's not so high up on my list of priorities. I also use it post him/her discarding me to make them feel vulnerable sans my high quality supply and to make them return after a time to me. I'm always prepared for the second discard by a narcissist and by then I'm emotionally detached. I never block a narcissist or any other trouble maker because it's immature and cruel. If they want to contact me, welcome. If they're abusive on phone, I listen until they get it off their chest and I offer soothing suggestions. I say, let's talk either superficial matters or personal while I busy myself with my life activities. I could visit a narcissist after his/her return but with reduced contact.

[@rociorizo8469]

Correct

[@mayankagarwal4987]

Mam I like listening to your videos and have a question in mind what is the difference between a Narcissistic and Schizophrenic people and what can be the similarities between the two.If possible can you make a video on it please.

[@dianepinkyharman1346]

Silent treatment is for my survival. If they get a narcissistic injury that is not my fault. I need to concentrate on me. Remember when you were in the narcissistic relationship they did the silent treatment to you. You don't do it for revenge, but, to take care of yourself. They can think all that want that you are doing it to hurt them, but, that isn't the truth. I don't hate the person, in fact, I am happy because I know now why I picked toxic people in my life. Remember they have the maturity of a 7 or 8 year old. Don't worry about how they take the silent treatment it is necessary for your healing and growth.

[@dreamgurl056]

I knew it was done when he put my health at risk ,sleeping around... the best thing i could do for myself was to walk away and block. He took advantage of my vulnerability! I was so naive and gullible in the beginning and I get so upset that I had no clue about the narcissistic cycle 😢 i never knew what a supply was or love bombing, or discarding phase was ... sad that I fell victim to one ... now I am here looking for answers and really sad there are garbage people out there that can hurt & do this to innocent people 😏

[@nathangunapalan8057]

I was recently accused of being a narcist by a person putting relationship issues on tiktok, we had deep feeling for one another i had come to the town on at tempt contract to deal with the pandemic, however despite feelings i had to withdraw due to a genetic condition not conducive to a relationship, in my estimation she was too young to understand so i said i have my reasons for not reciprocating and was accused of many things, it was catch 22. possibly i should of brought up medical, either way i was getting hammered due to affection.

[@nicselectronics81]

They can try their damnedest, not getting anything from me ever again 🙅

[@Ill_Stay_In_My_World]

I know definitely I hold not one ounce of guilt about disconnecting all my communications from a very cruel and heartless Narcisist Before my mom passed she saw through him what kind of person he was and he hated her for it and after she passed he had the guts to say to me if you mourn over her don't bother me I gave him exactly his wish never talked to him ever again Do not know how he is coping with my silence but as you said he is and always has acted like the victim when he was the one that has hurt me all the long

[@peterdunn2704]

Hi, just wondering if they come to the house you once shared to get the last of their stuff but then steel the others person's stuff while there. Should you contact them to make them aware you realise they have stolen from you or are they wanting the reaction when you have been no contact for several months? Thanks

[@coldawson8486]

NO I do not care. They are horrible people

[@suzannemiller594]

Ouch.

[@michaeljonas7604]

Don t reach out in anyway especially text,it gives them the opportunity to ignore you which is a huge boost to there ego,and gives them a reason brag about it to other people there's no up side to it

[@jadorecheerleading]

Even if they discard you ? Does the silence still bother them ?

[@Richard-vq7ud]

They all discard us one way or another, so yes, even if they discard us. They give silent treatment, we give no contact. According to this lady, no contact strips them of their mind control over us and no, they do not like it. No contact is the only way we can BEGIN to heal.

[@jadorecheerleading]

@@Richard-vq7ud Thankyou ❤️

[@adbernhardt1700]

Good point Steffie.

[@peace1729]

@@jadorecheerleading yes because they want you too beg and chase there sad asses baby when they energy get low n they feel that soul tie gone here they come

[@Yokaisenn]

Yes they want us to chase them it's called the reverse hoover

[@eottoe2001]

What is the journal club?

[@jannlewandowski5540]

My ex narc rebounded in 2 weeks, and married her the 2nd week. This was after being engaged to him for 5 years. This was 11 years ago. Never saw him again. How sick is that? By the way, I broke up with him, not that it matters.

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

Holy shot it is the devil 😈 for sure

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@josievaccaro]

Good they feel that way... let him get all the supply he wants!

[@mohamedaliahmed338]

Please help, how can I realize your thought??? I’m suffering!!!! Please

[@marcharsveld2914]

No contact and radical acceptance is the key to happiness. And self love ofcourse. It hurts but its the only way and there simply is no other way. Your life will only improve when you leave your narc, cause narcs don't want you to prosper, or to be happy. The narc only feels good him/herself when you are in misery. It makes them feel better for a short while. Beware. Your misery is their supply. There is no future for you as long as you stay with your narc. So keep watching those videos, The more you know how bad narcs really are (very bad), the easier it becomes to leave them behind you. And never believe what the narc says cause they will say anything to keep you around. They will even tell you they love you. Haha. You have a great name Mohamed Ali. Life your life according to it and everyting wil be fine in the end. Best wishes from the Netherlands. You are not alone.

[@DannySainz-o4g]

Does it bother or hurt them if they already have someone else ?

[@beccawhite1887]

They just replace you.

[@marcharsveld2914]

Narcs grow older too. Their world gets smaller in the end and people will abandon them as they get more grumpier. Most narcs die bitter and lonely.

[@joeb5578]

Here's what happens to me. My narcissistic gf will be silent for about 3-4 days. When she reaches out to me, I don't respond for almost the same amount of days she was silent with me. Then she reaches out again and is all upset saying, Where are you? Why aren't you talking to me? Did you block me? And I reach out after about half an hour. She's so happy to hear from me. She's very talkative and we Video chat for several hours then end it. She then goes back to her same rountine of ignoring me. I repeat the same tactic again. I really hate doing that but it works, every single time.It's always pretty close to the same time when she comes back. Again, every single time. It's really getting old. I don't want to keep doing this so eventually I might just go full no contact, forever. She was abused by her father up until 6 years of age, when he died. He was beating her, her 2 sisters and their mother. That's probably where she began to develope her abusive and controling ways. Her husband left her about 9 years ago. He was cheating on her for a long time. She hasn't married nor has had a physical relationship since then.

[@mightycritic1602]

But what if the narcissist had already overlapped you with another? Will it matter to them that you're silent?

[@tinablok5700]

Yes! They want to have their cake and eat it. They feel entitled to have it all. Not because they want you, but because they enjoy to see you suffering. Do not give it to them.

[@CC-ze9of]

Please, either Men or Women that feel they are not strong enough to believe, you need to wait for something more. The song “Faith” Written and performed by: George Michael. I believe he suffered at the hands of a narcissist. This song could only have been written by one that has experienced the abuse.

[@tm.l313]

I asked my husband for the divorce, and he is giving me silent treatment for one month. What I should do? We have a teen boy

[@robertcorona1064]

Can they be part schizophrenic .. she always wants me back but one moment she sounds normal then later that night . She thinks I developed a plan to ruin her and she start to think I'm after her n she's goin to get me back .. when I'm so lost of what she talking about cause when I left her house every thing was cool. Then they forget anything we talked about only think that it was a set up for some imagery story .. is that sign of schizophrenia?????

[@marymessano3974]

My husband left out over 8 years ago. But being married for 43 years. Can a marriage still be salvaged?

[@twentytwomiles238]

I’m wondering, are all cases final? Lot of fluidity upon different people, different dynamics, different parameters of supply, amount of supply, vs the nominal supply… because I’ve seen a relationship, very similar to mine and the ones you describe…. She came back, and it’s been ok for a long time, they chalked it up to confusion, cold feet, but if iwas guessing, the supply he offered was so much more extraordinary then what she’s used too… too much so she sank the rest of her supply… because even healthy relationships have flying monkeys, friends to please, peer pressures, not a lot separates the 2 except cycles… that’s the red flag, timing n cycles…. I too am the biggest supply, she’s never had anything like this, so her narcissistic cycle is very wounded and confused, she’s experiencing a fork in the road too…, but I think, they all go through it ,but it’s how long in life do they meet a supply not known to them? Is the reactions and filters the same?

[@craigy691]

I’ve been no contact for 2 weeks and my wife is saying us not speaking or seeing each other is effecting our child we have a mediator to speak for us and hand over child but it’s my fault again that our child is being affected by her decision to end the marriage it’s been 5 weeks since I moved out and went no contact when she said to the police I was harassing her !!! I’m done I need to heal for me and our daughter

[@nicoladouglas3270]

I got 2 Narcissists how unlucky is that...one Narc stalking for over a year...the other my next door naighbor who wants to stab me....

[@marymessano3974]

My husband looks at it as God saying wives be in subjection to your husbands. We once had a goood report going on. But than it turned into control.

[@prestonfreeman8443]

What if I change my phone number?

[@edgreen8140]

Oh you make me laugh. Their lack of judgment means everyone does the same behavior for the same reason. It's concrete thinking.

[@robertaurens5665]

I wrote her off as a failure to communicate

[@hasukeas5749]

This video helped me to reconfirm by beliefs I kind of know this already Living with him for last 36 years Act like a lion bt he is really a pussycat Just bring unnecessary caous in the marriage

[@williamwindex3890]

AS ALWAYS THANK YOU

[@birgitschwaika4761]

I want my money back that i gave him over a time of 5 years. Go to court? Or would that make him happy again?

[@Gerald321]

Turn away and never look back

[@cherylg.3465]

They hate it when you win in court !!

[@caelreed3067]

I was tempted to contact her las year but im glad i did not. I see now she was really crazy . That is 6 months away. Please give yourself the chance of breathing again. Also if you contact her then you just validated a new cycle of abuse

[@worldsyoursent.1635]

🙏🙏💚

[@Mandooze]

Honestly Anoushka, it becomes a tit for tat really often because of the push pull dynamic