How the Narcissist Sabotages You

How the Narcissist Sabotages You
In this video, I will be sharing about narcissistic sabotage from a biblical perspective. In particular, I will be sharing how the narcissist sabotages you, why, and how you can navigate it.
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Hi! I’m Shaneen Megji. It seems my whole life has prepared me to do the work I am so passionate about today. Let’s just say I had to swim in narcissistic waters for many years, in workplace scenarios, in my previous faith as a Muslim, in friendships, and even in the church. God truly doesn’t waste anything. Each and every experience and all the studies I have done help me in my passion to set people free from the bondage and oppression of narcissistic relationships, to help survivors of such pain regain their authentic selves and their hope in God’s good plans for them, and to re-educate the church around toxic leadership.
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[@ShaneenMegji]

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[@wisegentle7859]

Narcissists deepest desire is to punish/hurt/shame, you.....if you succeed you are punished, if you fail you are punished....they are sadistic.

[@kimlizotte694]

This video described at least 2 people I was very close to, she was SPOT ON! Of the two, one passed away and one is still alive - I will not have anything to do w/ this family member, no regrets.

[@sandrathomas2893]

The double bind

[@HotSeat17]

God takes people out of your life, because He hears conversations you didn't. 🙏🙏🙏😞

[@patriciawilliams5172]

And he even saw the hearts of these people

[@Hope4Life26]

I think this is the wake up call I needed. I’m walking away. I will pray for my dad, but it’s time to fully walk away. I will pray for my dad because I don’t want him to go to hell but I can’t let him drag me in hell with him and I’m exhausted trying to explain where he went wrong. I want to be around people who seek to take accountability for their lives and not shame those trying to help them. I’m wiping my hands. May God deal with dad and heal him but it’s not my job to walk with a parent who will not take actual accountability. I’m too hurt and he’s caused more damage than peace. I’m gonna have to be okay with not having that father daughter relationship I always wanted&needed but I can have that with God.

[@Goodlk231]

Then,,, He so beautifully intervienes 😊.

[@Hendrix-Jimi]

And sees things you didn't see.

[@dontbelievewhatuc1]

"God can use what the enemy meant for bad to advance you. Doesn't feel like it when it's happening, but trust him." I'm a living witness to that. He used the enemy's sabotage tactics to advance my career! God is good. Trust him.

[@Kathleen67.]

Amen, God uses all things together for good to those that love Him.

[@moniqueberrian5880]

I can definitely agree with you about this. This is exactly what happened to me and my family.🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@jenicarter4190]

Amen en amen my sussie xxxxx ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[@tracihill4386]

The silly little narc didn't destroy me though he put in a large amount of effort. He lost everything only to put me on the right path to living for my true purpose .Thank you

[@JerseyLynne]

I was a professional. My ex was not. Several times I organized a regional conference. As the day of the conference drew near, the abuse started. My confidence drained, what should have been "my day", I could barely function and cried the night before and total brain fog during the conference. This happened with each special event I planned. It happened in 1980. This help wasn't available. I ended up 100% disabled from deep depression before divorcing. Now I know why.

[@shree2ann]

I am so sorry that happened to you. I am hoping you will get professional help to restore your confidence.

[@teresanum278]

Prayers to help and do not give up. kzbin.info/aero/PLPNQdAefzkSOKe3VpFzWkFHZSLwrgb4RM

[@trumpeterswan4177]

I can relate soon much! A ministry called Be In Health out of Georgia helped me heal from debilitating depression and Chronic Fatigue after my divorce. Maybe you want to check it out. God bless you, I understand.

[@steadypace1262]

I understand too. The despicable narcissist in one way or another will spoil all special occasions for you. It makes them jealous to see you in a peaceful state and enjoying even the smallest of things.

[@amandakropen3273]

I got my disability from depression at the age of 29. Finally worked at a swap meet to make enough money to get an apt and divorce him!!!

[@klarestech9068]

Wish I had the discernment about narcissism 38 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of heart ache. But, I'm thankful now that I'm free from it.

[@PyrPupMom]

They can become jealous of their own children.

[@antonivi8968]

I’ve lived this…

[@daniellepearls6714]

It is so sad these people exist. Really its just so tragic😥

[@ShaneenMegji]

Agree. It is a tragic way to live 😢

[@debel1206]

Their proliferation is one of the end times prophecies cited in scripture she referred to.

[@reesedaniel5835]

@@debel1206 Yep. Cain's genetic offspring. Genesis 3:15, Psalm 58:3-5

[@di4085]

It's not about just controlling, sabotaging is trying to destroy you.

[@TanyaJh1]

im loving your videos. Ive been searching for a Christian view on all this, everything you say is on point

[@ShaneenMegji]

I'm so glad my videos have been helpful. Bless you. 🙏🏽💕

[@calmcalm6203]

@@ShaneenMegji wow Ur videos r so good thanku

[@marcuscolon2131]

💯

[@janetarnold5464]

Yes. 100%.

[@marythomas6116]

I wish I knew this 45 years ago, 2000% I am dealing with this, I am 70 years old, retired, he drained me financially ,mentally, physically and psychologically

[@TouvienTapoint-db8xw]

Hope you are doing fine now.Please trust God to meet good at heart people. I 'll pray for you🙏

[@tbakhos]

Add to the list emotionally and socially 😭. Me the same with my husband 😰

[@grace2953]

Wow, so sorry to hear this.

[@angeliqueguerra1631]

I love that you suggested that everyone pray to God for discernment. I would also add that we should pray for courage and strength to be able to withstand the pain that will probably come along with the truth that He shows you.

[@RepentTimeIsAtHand]

Grateful for your comment. In agreement with you.

[@123poohdee]

Yes, amen! September 16, 2023 my husband over the phone announced he's done with me. He started ghosting me, devaluing me, treating our 16 years like it meant nothing, he felt no remorse, left me in utter confusion and shock, forbidding me to talk, desperate for answers as to why this 180° turn of one day I thought loving me to next hating me. I heard God say to 'stand'. I begged God to help me, show me what's going on. After a month of heartache, deep sorrow, betrayal and rejection my health deteriorated both physically and mentally But then God began revealing the truth, vivid flashbacks of the emotional and psychological abuse, areas I excused away. Then HE showed me the truth, the real truth that it was deeper than I thought, it was narcisstic abuse. The pain that came with that nearly crushed me but I see now how God is using it all for my good, for His glory. My husband intended to break me, he successfully did, he smiled with his evil smirk as he watched the woman who loved him weep tears of immense grief without an ounce of repentance. God is now showing me that all those areas that husband broke were infact areas HE would heal, remake, renew, delivering me from strongholds I never knew I had. As of now I'm still with my husband, waiting for his final discard but I'm not waiting on my husband but rather waiting on the Lord, waiting to hear His voice to lead me. And in this waiting? God has been busy, healing me, teaching me, renewing my mind, giving me a strength only HE could give. This is the most heartbreaking season of my life but I know God is with me, I know HE has a purpose for it all, nothing will be wasted. My husband is busy, aligning his smear campaign to protect his image and I feel like hyenas of evil surrounding me, drooling waiting to devour me. I've never known such evil existed and not going to lie, I have days of weariness but Holy Spirit has taught me to bridle my tongue, to not speak to my husband that I know who you are, God is helping me to regulate my emotions to not give my husband anymore supply. I pray for my husband's salvation while praying God expose him as well. This road I walk is hard but I know Who's walking with me, on the days I fall down, my God lifts me to my feet to stand again, HE fills me with His peace once again, and holds my hand, never leaving my side. My husband mocks my faith, almost angers, fuels his hate but that faith in Jesus Christ is my hope, victory is Christ's and His alone. This season of pain will not last forever and God will accomplish all HE plans to do, my strength is found in Him alone.🙏🙏🙏

[@l.5832]

When you put in a grievance about a narc boss, in a workplace that has a zero tolerance for bullies, it is the victim that gets resigned or transferred out of a department they used to love.. Narc boss free to carry on....

[@Kathleen67.]

Power, good or bad, tends to trickle from the top down.

[@EastofEden7]

It's mind-numbing how wicked they are. It's hard to imagine thinking this way. Thanks so much for making it plain.

[@kimmydrury5906]

I had a narcissist cause me to lose 2 high paying jobs back to back and then wondered why I didnt try getting another job while with them hence then being able to say that he works so hard while I'm out having " a good time". I love your videos,they have gotten me through a dark period

[@kodap1153]

I have a baby with a narcissist an she's soo manipulative, even so far as to destroy my belongings an keep my baby from me. But I know that God will come through for me. God is good, in the storm and in the sunshine!

[@ladyoftheveil8342]

My ex narcissist boyfriend had me removed from a writers board , West Florida literary federation. I couldn’t believe that he could turn an entire group against me .

[@ShaneenMegji]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. 😟

[@shiyghansolangesolangenyuy9618]

My friend i looked for employment for in my school turns the whole school against me.they use diabolical means

[@magdalerouge718]

Yes, believe it. They are like snake in the grass.

[@888hereandnow]

It's their subtle specialty

[@reesedaniel5835]

Yes it still baffles me to this day how they do it. Even with (especially) with extended relatives and friends you've known for years. How is it that these people simply swallow the narc's lies and never even ask you for your side of the story? They seem to instantly "unknow you" and forget all the good times and nice things you did for them. It's as though their minds were put under a witchcraft spell. And it also seems they have very weak minds and zero discernment as well. Maybe the truth is, they secretly disliked us all along and that just gave them an excuse.

[@krystalMtn]

My ex tested positive for severe narcissism. He is actually a covert sociopath. As I learned about this dysfunction it explained everything I had experienced with him for 3 decades, including him being jealous of our own children and vengeful towards them while they were growing up. Meanwhile he refused to help raise them claiming it wasn't his job. Ffwrd 20yrs and he told a therapist that he was envious of the children's relationship with me and that they didn't relate to him as close as they do to me. I had to resist every urge to point out to him that he was mean, retaliatory, and would use them to sabatoge and communicate to me, while also being civertly cruel and demeaning towards all of us and had refused to be a parent to them. I left it for him and the therapist to deal with.

[@janetquinn5809]

Always a conflict before the occasion or have to fight before a dentist appointment, dinner or a meeting. Then act like nothing happened once you step out of the car, or get on the phone..laughs like 1 minute ago nothing happened..

[@artskiwendy]

THIS IS EXACTLY HOW MY MR NARKY REACTED WHEN I WAS MOVING OUT. HE WAS GOOD ABOUT FINANCIALLY HELPING BUT THE SABOTAGED MY WELL BEING AND DAMAGED MY PERSONAL PROPERTY. I HAVE NO DOUBT HE BROKE MY ARTWORK INTENTIONALLY TO PUNISH ME FOR MOVING OUT. I DIDNT WANT TO LEAVE HIM BECAUSE I KNEW HE HAD A PERSONALITY CANCER. SO SAD.

[@ShaneenMegji]

I'm sorry you had to go through this 🙏🏽😢

[@kolanuttvillage21]

You are blessed and i feel blessed for deliverance from such demonic plots.

[@thmoney25]

You are so correct. It scary how accurate you are with this information. I'm 2 years away from the narcissist , and can still feel the residual hate.

[@teresanum278]

Prayers to help and do not give up. kzbin.info/aero/PLPNQdAefzkSOKe3VpFzWkFHZSLwrgb4RM

[@suzesinger6762]

'Residual hate' !?!? HA ! ya juuuUUst LAUGH in your freedom from them, HUN !!! X I allowed my 2 Narcs. to self sabotage themselves 6 LOVELY years ago...and I am just exorcising their son - my husband - who was a trainee Narc. ;)

[@markusbroyles1884]

I would add that this actually does help to explain my chronic fatigue. Talking 20+ years of mysterious insanity and sabotage. The realm of this disorder is very much like a hidden schizophrenia in the relationship. Imagine princess Dianna in her impossible relationship. She was snuffed.

[@VoxLesPaul]

I love Shaneen's measure tone in speech and relating holy scripture for the Christian believer. Shaneen's rational points cut through religiosity that the covert narcissist counts on to continue their deception and manipulation.

[@marthaakello2942]

She’s got the best content on the topic. God bless her.

[@betanialacoste7945]

My mother conned me into moving back home to "Help with becoming independant" only to hold me hostage in isolation for seven years.

[@trumpeterswan4177]

This was so enlightening to me! I When my father was dying of cancer, I asked my narc husband to go and be with him for a few weeks. He agreed and I did. Only when I returned did my daughter who is one of his minions, angrily tell me how mistreated she was having to fill in for me in that time. At this point I started to realize how many secret conversations were happening to sabotage me. Shameful!

[@robinbelle5159]

And the secret conversation will not end ever. Them continued damage a narcissist spews never ends.

[@anndillard8681]

On my birthday - we went out with a couple - my friends. All the covert narcissist did was talk about himself. The restaurant gave us complimentary champagne for my birthday & he didn't even toast my birthday. It was as if the evening was about him. My friends could not stand him and at the time I defended him even though I felt hideous all evening. He always ghosted at Christmas.. He fits it all.. and I didn't see it until I did.

[@PyrPupMom]

They keep you off balance. For example, you can do something for them and they tell you they like it. Then when you do it again, they didn't like it. It feels like they change the rules, and that creates anxiety. Changing the goalposts. It's a way of being in control and making you feel bad, but also can lead to striving harder to please them.

[@followjesusonly1]

I have found that my narcissists like to sabotage things I use daily such as causing grounds from the coffee to appear to have overflowed from the filter into the coffee. They have also knocked over the garbage cans and tore open the bags to make it appear like a raccoon did it. They know I have memory issues so they will use this quite often as well, little sabotages throughout the day that can be explained away by something else therefore never being able to be called out for them while causing me to keep getting upset about them. So since I have to deal with them because I am not in a position to remove them from my life I do not let them see me get upset about any of it and they eventually come to the conclusion that it wasn't having the effect on me they desired and start doing other things they hope will work. When they resort to dangerous things, like leaving the stove burners on, I gently tell them what they did and they stop doing those kind of things. What I have also come to understand by the most excellent grace of God in Christ is that the fruits of the Spirit are brought forth from me through my actions toward them in response to their actions. If I call them out on these things I can see they feel they accomplished what they wanted, if I don't they stand in wonderment of me while not gaining anything for themselves. In this respect God has ultimately turned their deeds back on their own heads while bringing forth precious fruit from me. HalleluYAH!

[@reesedaniel5835]

This is what Jesus meant when He said "turn the other cheek"....He definately didn't mean for us to lay down and become their door mat as a lot of so called churches teach nowadays.

[@deeevansnola8178]

Omg so true. Me and this man talked about and agreed to get a puppy. Got the puppy and this ninja ignores the dog doesn't have anything to do with the dog. When I saw how he reacts to the dog. It was a major turn-off. Now he is threatening to get rid of dog thsts not gonna happen im getting rid of him.

[@brooke5395]

[@JasonManners]

I’m confused about who is a narcissist. After watching a bunch of videos, it seems like everyone is a narcissist.

[@ShaneenMegji]

Lol. 😂 I think you might be on to something.

[@foxiefair123]

I think it’s becoming the norm, and as a Christian, I think it’s the spirit of the age-Antichrist spirit. It’s so culturally normal now that they almost left it out of the DSM V.

[@The_Will_Brown_Show]

I’m not trying to speak negativity or death over myself but honestly after having watched this video, I realize how completely damaged and shattered I am after 4 years of what you just described…I SERIOUSLY DON’T KNOW IF I WILL EVER BE “OK” AGAIN AFTER WHAT MY SOON-TO-BE-EX-WIFE JUST PUT ME THROUGH…. 😭

[@qq84]

Furthermore around those people you always have to assume that everything is recorded, edited and used against you; regardless if that's legal in your country. And they do other things to literally sabotage you like: hiding things from you or going to your car at night to drain the battery so you can't start it the next day when you need it - and yes, someone even showed me a video of that one.

[@shawnmarie1912]

Shaneen, Wow, appreciate you so much! You're understanding of narcissists is in depth, and insightful, a grace from our Lord, i believe. You are very encouraging and uplifting, including verses from the Bible,, reminding us of God's love for us. Thank you so much Shaneen!!! Blessings!!!

[@ShaneenMegji]

Aw...thank you. 🥰 Bless you too! 🙏🏽😊

[@junegeary6584]

My x is soooo good at this that I second guess that it’s me. I’m still trying to figure out what just happened! 30 years! Whew. Shared custody- and EVERYONE loves him. He’s the greatest showman. It’s soooo confusing. Thanks for clarification.

[@felicity5272]

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[@felicity5272]

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[@marthaakello2942]

Totally 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@janetquinn5809]

The narcissist knows to choose people who don't feel sorry for themselves and take advantage and exploit that.

[@TheLiterateLyoness]

Yep. Yep. Yep. Yep. Finally someone understands!

[@MJ-qb5ph]

I’ve been doing the deep dive into narcissi since I was entirely emerged in it seven years ago. It almost brought me to suicide - my family in particular when my mother passed and I have only recently included The Royal We and this channel from a Christian perspective. Finding out that the Bible has numerous storylines on narcissim means this nightmare was deemed pretty serious eons ago and maybe in part the rock star status and mythology attributed to Jesus might be due to him being the original recorded and still most famous scapegoat. Just a thought and thank you

[@reesedaniel5835]

King David was also a scapegoat. Most of the Book of Psalms is about his dealings with the workers of iniquity (narcissists).

[@lucybraun8969]

My narcissist brother has, 3 times, sabotaged my jobs. It's key to not give them any information, but he would follow me to work, & pretend to be a dissatisfied customer. After his wicked deeds, he would start the smear campaign to family members, saying I can't hold a job. The only way to combat this scenario is to work from home where they cannot find out your employer. Also, get a mailbox that locks, because they will retrieve your mail when you are asleep, or not home.

[@judithbaboram7109]

OMG.. EVERY SINGLE VIDEO IS THE LIFE AM IN.. EVERYTHING WHAT YOU ARE SAYING IS EXACTLY MY HUSBAND.. I CAN'T WAIT FOR GOD TO DELIVER ME.

[@cryptojoecoin5480]

You did an amazing job of describing pretty much every place I’ve worked. We now have so many of these parasitic people in the culture that it’s baffling how anything functions at all. They are naturally drawn to institutions where they get a false sense of control. Thus, all projects/goals take a back seat to their unhinged needs. After 35 years of this, I’m done. Im starting businesses and educating myself about crypto. My prayer is that God brings this system down because we need a detox to move forward in peace, joy, & love. It’s funny that you say to ‘’ get away from such people.’’ It’s taken me a long time to learn this, but a believer CANNOT work in ANY organization theses days and obey the scripture about having nothing to do with them. They’re are just so many of these clowns that the work world is a dysfunctional circus.

[@Josef-K]

What are you doing with crypto?

[@kims1912]

My husband has PTSD, he's in an episode and he's very Narcissistic. He's sabotaged everything I've tried to do to heal our marriage. He blames me for him leaving me while triggered and everything is my fault. I personally believe he has a demon. This is completely opposite of who he truly is.

[@teresanum278]

Prayers to help and do not give up. kzbin.info/aero/PLPNQdAefzkSOKe3VpFzWkFHZSLwrgb4RM

[@knewkirk7048]

I think most narcs are demonized

[@dinekevinke3384]

Thank you Shaneen, this is exactly what was happening at my work. A coördinator would also sabotage me, showing narcistic rage, and surely was so yealous. I just left the job and thank God have another job.

[@joltjolt5060]

They need you with them but nobody taught them to play nice. If you do too well, they lose their slave. You should talk about narcissists playing with only one member of the family.

[@debi6598]

This is one of the best videos I have seen explaining the Narcissist or toxic relationships! Thank you! 🙏 I'm asking for prayers please for my 51 year old brother dealing with kind of woman. They have been off and on again for years and he has lost himself. She recently bought a house a couple hours away and my family and I thought thank God it's over! But nope she is wanting my brother to go to her house this weekend. He lost his driver's license so he will be stuck there until my other brother picks him back up Sunday. I am praying so very hard he will see the truth! He is Trauma Bonded in my opinion.

[@ShaneenMegji]

🙏

[@ido2ido2]

Thank you Shaneen. Thank you for always taking me to God and his word when my heart is breaking. I am trying so hard not to go back to my ex. 12 years … I do miss him. But I love God more. Please Shaneen keep your videos coming.

[@ShaneenMegji]

I'm so glad the video was helpful. I pray God would completely heal and bind up your broken heart. 💔 He is so able to do it. I did a video on how to resist the temptation whenever you feel tempted to return to an abuser. In case you are interested, here is the link if you haven't watched it already: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bZOkZIt9jtlkqqM. Many blessings 🙏🏽🤗

[@imagine1974]

This video is so spot on. Point after point. It’s like a checklist. Thank you for the clarity it has given me.

[@ShaneenMegji]

I appreciate your feedback, and so glad to hear that you got clarity! God bless you! 🙏🏽😊

[@AmaranthineIntrigue]

This is THE BEST discription of a narcissist I have ever heard. This video sums up and decribes the narcissist and their behaviors shorter and more thoroughly than many videos I have watched. I thank you and God for your wisdom and the work you are doing. ❤

[@truthwillsetyoufree2024]

The narc I was with has done everything to destroy my Christian ministry position. I left my career as a teacher years ago and started a ministry to serve the poorest children in the world and she's done nothing but going around to our donors and spread false lies during her smear campaigns. It's really been challenging. But i have hope and joy in it all miraculously

[@3skeetr]

This is the piece of the puzzle where I knew there was something going on but couldn't put it into words. This is what has plagued me for years. We would make plans and then when the time came to follow through-omg the rage. Now I get it. I cannot thank you enough for being able to explain this to me. God is answering my prayers through you! I can see how I stopped making plans with him and have pulled away because I know what will happen- training me to not want anything. I just didn't know why he seemed so into the ideas to start with but if it was about image- it does give him the appearance of being everything he wants to be but isn't. also- he supported me going back to school but when it came time to get a job- so much discouragement. Makes so much sense now-his behavior-life will be different now- God is giving me my life back........I can fight for what is mine.

[@shirleyhunt8769]

Thank God for your support and love I am really suffering in my marriage and you have given me hope instead of despair Thank you so much

[@teresanum278]

Prayers to help and do not give up. kzbin.info/aero/PLPNQdAefzkSOKe3VpFzWkFHZSLwrgb4RM

[@mariaandreinatovar4844]

This is absolutely true. They make you to believe they have good intentions and they are so helpful and supportive and when you accept their help they take their responsibility for a while and then in one day to another they just start complaining, making it difficult till they make you drop your plan. Fully evil!

[@kylielogan8771]

You’ve given the best explanation of my exes bad behaviors I told my therapist who I had to keep quiet I told her he was sabotaging everything and would try to humiliate me all the time. I’m so blessed Jesus led out of this 3 year marriage ugh 😑

[@888hereandnow]

Did you feel any hesitation before you married?

[@neysadejesus6336]

wow good!

[@artskiwendy]

I LIVED THROUGH HIS SADISTIC SUPPLY. AFTER I MADE A FEEBKE SUICIDE ATTEMPT AND SPENT 6 DAYS ON A PSYCHE WARD, WHEN HE CAME TK PICK ME UP 4 HOURS AWAY, HE BERATED ME AND USED THE SILENT TREATMENT TO UPSET ME WHEN I WAS STILL TRYING TO PROCESS THE UGLINESS OF THE SUICIDE ATTEMPT.

[@artskiwendy]

THIS IS REALLY PANFUL TO HEAR AND REALIZE THAT HE WAS SO ABUSIVE AND DESTRUCTIVE. NOW I AM TOTALLY ALONE. IT SEEMS THE WHOLE WORLD IS NARCISSISTIC

[@ShaneenMegji]

@@artskiwendy I'm so sorry for the pain you are suffering right now. Just know that God sees you and loves you so much. He is nothing like the abusers in your life. He has a plan and a purpose for you. You are so invaluable to Him. ❤️🤗🙏🏽🕊🌺

[@forensicfaithinprofiling]

I completely understand and send you such care and love. I understand about 85% of victims attempt or commit suicide. Suspect up to 25-30% murdered. They cannot measure that stat. I survived 3 near death experiences. A coma. Adrenal failure n during the discard it was so cruel every one him the new girl the family the community telling me I was worthless hated crazy so I attempted suicide too. Under great suspicion mind you but that's another story. I was shamed n degraded further. Left for dead just to gain my assets and successful they were to strip me of everything I worked so hard for 22 years. Turns out they couldn't steal my life my soul or even my truth. I fought the devil and minions of demons. To this day 3 years later I'm still hated n berated but I'm healthy and stable. Rebuilding my life. I smile again. I laugh again. I wear what I want. I make my own decisions. I'm not abused or gas-lit anymore and no ones hatred or lies bother me bc I'm nothing like those accusations. I send you such care. Such love. Such encouragement. And reminding you how beautiful deserving valuable and worthy you are to know who you truly are. A shining light that couldn't be snuffed. ((((Hugs of healing())) You're not alone. We survivors support you. God loves you and I know you domt know me but I love you too.

[@suzesinger6762]

@@forensicfaithinprofiling ...WONderful support - for us ALL, SIS !! Many blessings on YOU - TOO !?!? XX ;)

[@forensicfaithinprofiling]

@@suzesinger6762 👑❤👑

[@errinmora]

I LOVE these biblically based videos…secular psychologists have no idea what they’re dealing with.

[@garethwest9069]

Not only that, many secular psychologists are narcs (leftists) themselves that actually make their clients far worse. John 10:10, if you get my drift. God bless you.

[@stephm5877]

Amen. Great biblical video with truth. It can be lonely, but we are not alone. Hardest thing I had to realize in my journey was that I need to guard my heart against my own husband, but it is his choice to behave that way. Thank you for speaking out about this. God bless.

[@redskyalice2529]

Wow! You're such a blessing. First time I see online where someone talks about narcissism from a Biblical perspective. (Many naïve Christians don't like to admit the evil in men that the Bible reiterates time and again). Thank you so much. I'm on my 4th or 5th video already lol. New subscriber. PS: If you do happen so see this comment, I'm looking for a video/info on how I may have contributed to being stuck in this situation as a Christian? I've done so much soul searching ... did I initially act in fear? Disobedience for not seeking God's Will? So much unpacked, but I'd love to hear your views on it. I'm on a month fast. My son and I need to get out! Thank you so much Shaneen. Do not stop with these videos. You're helping so many people. God's richest blessings 🧡

[@teresanum278]

Prayers to help and do not give up. Pray I renounce all soul ties with person name in Jesus name. Pray I renounce all covenants with person name in Jesus name. Pray I loose all trauma from my heart in Jesus name. Pray lord baptize me with your fire in Jesus name. kzbin.info/aero/PLPNQdAefzkSOKe3VpFzWkFHZSLwrgb4RM

[@adanaryjacques7776]

How are you doing? My son and I got out. We are on week 3 of our freedom. It isn't all over yet but the hardest part was deciding to leave. And finally we did it.. it's the best feeling. Not looking back! This video is on my top 10, Thank you Shaneen #Unleashed

[@tissaspeight3212]

1st do what is safe and best for you and your son. Continue to seek God's will for your life. The soul searching showed me that I'm a codependent. Fear of abandonment, rejection and failure. God is healing me and ordered my steps and led me to a Christian therapist...and this site.

[@Simonisfat]

I managed to leave my narcissist husband of 14 years just 5 months ago...I have watched so many videos that have helped me transition, but your videos have helped me tremendously. To see it through spiritual eyes has brought me such peace and so much closer to God. When my narcissist was sober he was the neglectful narcissist, but when he drank which was often he turned into your more mainstream narcissist. I would really love to see you do a video on the neglectful narcissist as I am having trouble with the trauma that comes along with years of being in that kind of relationship. I would also like to see you do a video on narcissist and pornography as my husband had a porn addition through our whole relationship and withheld intimacy for all these these years.

[@lucybraun8969]

The thing that helped me most was coming to an objective real9zation that what I had thought of as lp e was actually my being in love with the illusion the narcissist created, rather than who they really were.

[@clrify]

I’m dealing with the same thing…the porn, fantasies, lack of intimacy, the drinking…he moved out a year ago (after 21 year marriage) has been acting changed to come back…it’s all gas-lighting…wish I had left when kids were small.

[@wesmeyer4491]

I've been subjected to this behavior my whole life...starting in my home was the attitude..learn to take it..get over it..years later, and countless setbacks, my personal growth has led me to awareness of toxicity in pretty much every area of my life...spiritual rebirth and subsequent growth has blessed me with trust in scripture, especially when I ask, God, now what do I do...He directs me in dreams to scripture verses that give me a truth to stand on..Jeremiah 1:19 says it all..God is with us and can see what's happening to us...this is what I cling to now as I'm being continually attacked by toxic people...don't give up hope. I tell my therapist, if what I'm experiencing, and surviving can be a help to anyone, that makes the suffering worthwhile...God sees the end..and waits for all of us, because He wants everyone in His kingdom...it's our personal choice..and the consequences are eternal...choose wisely. Bless those souls who, ask, seek, and knock..don't give up.

[@kimberley5592]

My abuse included all this but also played mind games.. hiding things on me that l need ex. Glasses.. medications.. making me think .. did l do that.. thinking l was going crazy.. he’d say he found them saving the day when he actually did it.. l had to hide things all the time.. he come in my bedroom and throw things on the floor.. one time he said ghosts were in my room doing it.. that scared me.. not because l believed that but because it came out of his mouth

[@melissaherrera940]

I had a narcissist friend who I also shared a codependent relationship with. He essentially liked to emotionally isolate me from other people so he would be my only friend. When I said I was joining my Bible study at school or went out with another group of school friends, he would say it’s a good idea. But later on, he would bad mouth or put down the other people he said I could hang out with to make it seem like they were inferior friends when compared to him. Little did he know, he was making himself look like the inferior friend.

[@shiyghansolangesolangenyuy9618]

A narcissist friend sabbatage me that no one around me could priced but in the long run she was exposed

[@heatherbamber3097]

Thank you, I can’t comment as I would like but your reassurance that Our Father will use this for good is so reassuring. I have watched several of your videos and they have brought a clarity and a peace that I so needed. I thank God for you,and I thank you.

[@RoughDraftChristianVids]

I really love this channel and the solid Christian education on this topic! You are a blessing! And. . . you describe the narcissist accurately.

[@ShaneenMegji]

Thank you! 😊

[@rosariovaz7353]

So good.

[@crystalclarity4318]

I so needed to hear this Godly encouragement and support. Great content!!

[@JadeNanton]

Hi Shaneen, I appreciate your Ministery so much. I love your positivity and lack of bitterness. God's love in your heart shines through. I'm sorry that you had to suffer but Father is more than redeeming you now. He is using your pain to help others get free too. Thank you for starting your channel and may God bless you tenfold for all that you have suffered at the hand of one that should have cherished you.

[@munimunus6141]

this is my sister. what is disturbing to me is that she was doing most of these things while we were small children. how can someone be a child and already a narcissist? Im trying to figure if she was just born this way, or is it my fathers influence and parenting that led to it. But I will never know, as I no longer tolerate her in my life. When I went no contact, the moment she realized I figured her completely and am not engaging in any of it anymore, her face is what gave her away. It was a face of a thief caught red handed. In that face is everything you need to know - there was never any sisterhood.

[@msmatlou8900]

Have nothing to do with them!!

[@sunshine-db2zm]

My mom is exactly what u said....she sabotaged my child s 1st birthday just because i didn't invite the person who she wanted to invite...she did it very covertly that i never even realized it for many years....

[@Newera2023-h4m]

God sent. May our good God bless you for the courage to obey and come out and use your own journey to free millions of others . I love it that you base everything on the solid Word of God. What a blessing.

[@terrim9885]

Thank you, Shaneen. You hit so many critical points and understand these situations well. I have been amazed by the ones who have tried to sabotage so much good in my life in the ways you mention, But, as you alluded:What some mean for evil - even when they seem to succeed - is often the very thing/s that God uses for good, to move you forward and make you stronger. I have found myself taking a few calculated/protected risks in some areas lately, more from my knowledge that God is the one in charge, a track record of being protected when I didn't realize what was happening covertly, and as a test of my faith, rather than wanting to "poke the bear" carelessly. I have learned not to tell anyone everything that is important to me. I am not the only trustworthy person in my life that I know of, but I have no problem taking things slowly. Thank you, again!

[@djroth22]

It's like you're a fly on my wall 😩😆.....this is soooooooo accurate!!!!

[@elainesmith5313]

I listen to you shortly after my Narcissistic spouse died. Within 17 months from his death, I realized that your advice was the best thing I could do was to go no contact with his narcissistic family cult. They treated me with distain and contempt after he died and discarded me. Thank you!!

[@emmanuelamoh182]

Extremely helpful towards my decision. The scriptural based explanation makes me comprehend. God bless you.

[@resmisadasivan878]

Thank you thank you thank you Shaneen. I needed to hear this. It sounded like GOD was talking through you. Excellent video from start to end. You're a precious gift from GOD. May GOD Bless You abundantly. 🙏

[@resmisadasivan878]

Sorry typo Shaneen, you're a precious gift from GOD.

[@theyrekrnations8990]

They bad rap you behind your back. This is a fact. They win people to their side this way. To them there is always competition and never allegiance. There shouldn't have to be any sides. What ever happened to "All for one and one for all"?

[@patrickbradley7360]

Shaneen, I do believe you are sent from heaven. Thank you very much.

[@janetquinn5809]

After 35 years I feel like I have to cure / teach the narcissist they no longer can get away with their drama control.

[@cathyvoegele1589]

Shaneen, this is so good and ends with such hope in God!

[@ShaneenMegji]

Thank you Cathy. I'm so glad! 😊

[@makenziepolston1220]

They believe feelings are facts unstable in all their ways

[@lidiagoodinson3098]

Love your videos. Would really like you to do one on adult narcissistic children

[@Mel-j1f]

This completely describes the whole 40 years of the marital regime I wad under. I'm free now, but I swear my brains are scrambled.

[@keyonabraxton5133]

That's what i been dealing with all my life

[@sherrymckinney2753]

Everytime I watch one of your videos, a bell goes off in my heart and head because you are helping me process the events I've experienced with a narcissist. Thus, I'm able to respond according to Scripture rather than my hurt and anger. This video was particularly helpful, as I was feeling a lot of guilt for cutting ties with my narcissist, even though it was actually her who cut ties with me because I set forth some reasonable boundaries. Thank you for your relevant and godly ministry. You have been a blessing to me.

[@lorrainelee3]

Thank you for making these videos. I have a better understanding of someone in my life. You have answered so many questions. I pray that God will continue to bless.

[@ShaneenMegji]

Lorraine, I’m so happy my video was helpful. May God bless and guide you! 🙏🏽💕

[@JB-qp4sg]

Thank you. You have been a blessing to my life. I am in the middle of a situation and is super difficult. Only God knows if I react wrong, but sometimes is difficult to be content.

[@Mianzi-bloom]

Gosh, so with this kind of abuse is one able to accomplish his/her God given life purpose with such a spouse in their life?

[@smonaful]

Everything about a narcissist is anti spirit anti godly anti truth and anti self 😒😔

[@reesedaniel5835]

And anti Christ....

[@AuthorAngieDeLisi]

They like to lie and it’s devastating and they like to devastate you and smirk it’s so awful for an honest person. Honestly you don’t catch it right away but that’s where the confusion comes in and drives you crazy and to act badly it’s hard to pin point that’s what makes you so angry after it happens and you become emotionally dysregulated and you become the bad guy and they act like isn’t it ok that l changed my mind and they are serious things that honest people would never go into and agree if they weren’t certain. This video explains the children of the lie… thank you l love your channel ❤

[@reesedaniel5835]

They push your buttons, then act "innocent" with self righteous smugness. Makes me want to punch their teeth out....😣

[@jackreston8188]

Makes sense. You just helped me understand a failed 10 year marriage. I didn't stand a chance from the word "go." Unfortunately, it has affected my life and relationships with all family members for the last 25 years after the divorce. I can only hope God has a "special" place for an ex wife who would do this sort of thing.

[@catfour34]

I feel like I need to listen to this video over and over and over again until I can spot one of these freaks a mile away. Ok then, I need to pray for them.

[@anndillard8681]

Mine would fall into depression.. victim mode.. excuses.. whiny.. 'oh poor him'

[@SS-co3wl]

What about protecting your child from a narcissistic parent/ spouse? What does narcissistic parenting look like when parenting a 6 year old?

[@lucyodiwa5331]

The preciseness of which you explain this only tells me 2 great things. 1 it is a revelation from the Holy Spirit & 2 it is the same spirit(2) that works in all these narcissist, how else could they all exhibit the same behaviour so precisely? God bless you Shaneen

[@KJCM-56]

You have so described my husband of 49 years!

[@andidemattos2632]

WONDERFUL video. Refreshing . Nice to get a truthful approach about how to deal with this issue. Other approaches from the popular psychology experts on narcissism dull in comparison...in fact I am turned off by their lack of concern for the wounded fragile narcissistic soul...thx for listening to the Spirit of Holiness! Blessings!

[@Goodlk231]

I have certainly experienced this very thing with people that i thaught were my friends 😢. It's devastating.

[@bobyk87]

Wow this seems like hard earned wisdom. Great work.

[@yuilin981]

This video point out the exact situation in my 30 years of abusive marriage

[@TerriKaus]

You rock Shaneen! Thanks for doing this much-needed work for our Christian community.