How to actually cultivate self love

[@Lachibolala1013]

“I’m cringe but I’m free” 😂😂 mantra to live by

[@Sam.A.M]

love

[@sonny__19]

Was going to quote that too . I love her 😂😄

[@myriamarturo9125]

Same here😂😂😂

[@IevaKambarovaite]

A lot of people think loving yourself is treating yourself to Starbucks, nice holidays and that new bag, but it's actually more about *setting boundaries and putting yourself first.* Once you learn how to say no, it change everything! Easier said than done. Still learning🤗

[@veronicamcrostie207]

I never thought about using my love languages myself, rather than from other people. That's genius!

[@with.love.mariel]

Me neither to be honest! I'll definitely try.

[@gsiya4023]

True , I was thinking this is gonna be a boring list but it's refreshing

[@dorianeirakoze3144]

“We are the loves of our own lives” such a beautiful sentiment to me, makes me feel whole just saying it.

[@rinciel4999]

yes🌱🍀

[@BrimstoneMoth]

thats a very sad reflection....

[@rachaelj8018]

Literally, she's my therapist, role model, and sister... What a blessing ♥

[@takingiteasydaisy]

agreed! i was smiling the whole time.

[@christopherortiz9330]

That's not a good thing

[@berbudy]

So true, she is such a blessing to many people

[@GiornoLovesDeathGrips]

You're my role model

[@namiko8278]

Sameeee

[@totallynottemirlan1915]

Agreed

[@christopherortiz9330]

That's not a good thing

[@indiecloud100]

@@christopherortiz9330 you don't get to choose who others admire

[@Vim_and_Vitriol]

I'm older than her, and she's still my role model 😄

[@hannahbanana6149]

🎶 I can buy myself flowers Write my name in the sand Talk to myself for hours Say things you don't understand 🎶

[@laviniasnow4494]

Anthem material right there!

[@lucindaelizabeth9742]

Literally the song that popped in my head 😂❤❤

[@JustEyeballIt]

I started buying myself flowers a year ago a bit after I started dating my boyfriend. First I bought some to dress up my apartment for a date night, but I just kept buying more every few weeks because *I* enjoy them! Then Miley came out with Flowers and I was like, YES, she gets me 😌

[@tunitoilolo539]

This. Is. Gold. A tangible explanation of healing. Many childhood traumas will be soothed from this. I can’t emphasize how great this one is ✊tremendous work Anna

[@vishyav]

I think my self love is tied to making other people feel good (similar to external validation) I get way more fun out of giving a gift or writing a postcard than I would if I bought myself something for example. I also think it’s harder for folks who live with other people to perform acts of self love despite what the others are going through. These are great tips Anna ❤

[@benedixtify]

I think it is hard to become aware of the boundary between selfishness and self-love. You can love yourself, independently of what others are going through. A few weeks ago, Anna mentioned the idea that you have to disappoint people to make yourself happy. (Some of the time. When people get in the way of what you need for you.)

[@benedixtify]

I think it is hard to become aware of the boundary between selfishness and self-love. You can love yourself, independently of what others are going through. A few weeks ago, Anna mentioned the idea that you have to disappoint people to make yourself happy. (Some of the time. When people get in the way of what you need for you.)

[@sunny.jasmin]

Choosing self love changed my life. I hope everyone finds their way to connecting with their heart and the abundance of love we were all born with ❤️

[@反鳥]

Daddy Akana Squarespace hit a whole new level😂

[@benedixtify]

That top is great: the middle is structured and simple with a beautiful pattern - flowers, which you love - and the sleeves are plain white but a flowing texture. The colors contrast, and the textures contrast in reverse. Really good choice.

[@talab703]

Learning how to let yourself feel your emotions and validating them is a huge step towards self love imo

[@MorallyGray]

I cant even express how much of an impact you've made on my life. Thank you so much for your content.

[@Chas-OTE]

Mirror work has actually helped me a lot this past half decade (started doing it late 2016 or early 2017 I think) or so. I practically had to force myself to think positive thoughts at least once a night, and it felt amazing when I realized I had managed to reprogram my inner voice to consoling or praising myself instead of the previous which was putting myself down. I mean I still turn negative sometimes, but I rebound so much faster now and I very rarely dwell on whatever thought tried to bring me down.

[@payalk2898]

Love languages words of affirmations: I daily do mirror work, praise myself Physical touch: hug yourself, pamper yourself Quality time: making time for a new hobby Gifts: buying things you always wanted, I bought an amazing handbag last year Acts of service: clean your home or donate to others 4:08 Check in often & PRACTICE

[@dreamer204]

I want to share the things that I do for myself to make myself feel loved (feel free to share what makes you feel loved

[@mandiimorbid]

My partner of ten years broke up with me and I've been really struggling. Some of your videos have brought me some semblance of focus and hope. I'm still really struggling but it's nice to have a familiar voice to talk me through things or explain how to feel better or do better. Thank you.

[@MAGNUMCC]

"You lovingly tell that b**** to f*** off" really resonated with me 😂

[@andrea.dandelion]

I also really loved that part!! 😂

[@mimino_codingbee4313]

I freaking love it everytime you say daddy Squarespace Anna!

[@msjtanne9610]

So true. I've just done dining out alone in fancy restaurant for self-pampering.

[@gregoryhirsch4520]

Thank you for being a generous fountain of infinite wisdom, Anna!!!

[@kikidee9623]

Definitely not the example of self touch I initially had in mind but still a good one.

[@growing.flowers]

thank you! i come back to this every once in a while

[@ClueLessAnts]

Thank you. You've been here since 2012 and I'm really grateful to have grow with you since then. I was 13 when I knew you. My first vid was you in cat woman suit. I'm really thankful.

[@traveler-a113]

Dang, your vids are always super helpful, but todays vid was just… *chef’s kiss*

[@D2J8]

For Acts of Service, you can pay someone to do tasks for you (ex: grocery shopping, lawn mowing, cleaning, etc.)

[@vv4g]

I just thought of this tonight and idk if it will even apply to anyone here, but if so, I hope it helps. I used to struggle with feeling guilty for feeling good about doing the right thing. I used to think that for an action to be fully selfless, it should offer no benefit to me whatsoever. I would even feel guilty for making a hard decision because it was the right thing to do, because I felt that it was somewhat selfish to do the right thing just so I could tell myself I did the right thing. I eventually realized two things that have changed my perspective. The first is that every action has a reaction, and anything I do will solicit some kind of emotion, so why should I not strive to create positive emotions for myself and those around me. The second thing I realized is that by actively putting myself down for my guilt, I was subconsciously training myself away from doing the right thing. If I’d punish myself for doing the right thing, it is only natural that I would subconsciously stray away from doing it because of the added burden. We should do things that make us feel good, and if doing something good because it’s the right thing to also makes us feel good, then so be it!

[@smvamp2188]

Anna's been the older sister/mother I've never had growing up. Loving the guidebook. ILY forever Anna :c

[@sassia2382]

I am so glad I found your channel. You are wise, sympathic and beautiful. Love your style!

[@MagisterialVoyager]

This is a LEGIT advice and I thank Anna profusely for it. I went to check my 5 Love Languages again and here's the result! Quality Time - 32% Words of Affirmation - 29% Acts of Service - 26% Physical Touch - 10% Receiving Gifts - 3% Gonna look up self-love for the first three after this! 'Love you, Anna!

[@connoravila]

My journey has been exhausting,I've begun trying to love and be kinder to myself butbits been exhausting

[@erikohman2294]

I think I'll be rewtching this a bunch. Sometimes I have sent letters to myself from work with notes and such I needed to access online, and I would allways tell myself something kind about my hard work or whatnot. It feels great. Never figured I could just.. do it alot, and in different ways. Man, I am a frog in a well.

[@gabriellechristinewellness]

I just feel like my inner child is so happy. I followed you on KZbin long ago and used to watch all of your videos and skits, inspiring me then. Now I have found you again and to see you making such amazing self growth content it is bringing me so much joy on a deeper level; connected with that inner teen that used to watch your stuff! Thanks for being awesome ❤

[@beingilluminous]

Thank you for sharing your journey and being a living role model for personal evolution 🎉

[@maxzytaruk8558]

Felt this to the core of my soul... I gotta do better for myself. Thank you❤

[@bhwaaaHannah]

One of my main coping mechanisms has become dissociating by either mindlessly scrolling or intensely daydreaming. I've had this since I was a kid but I feel like the ''good'' moments have become less and the dissociation more. When I'm in deep, I can't get out. I can act normal for a while when I'm around people but when I'm alone again I go right back in. Most of the time something ''bad'' has to happen to snap me out of it, like recieving tough feedback or flunking an exam. Stuff like that really wakes me up and makes me want to work on myself, it feels great (after feeling awful). Right now my head feels more clear because I just got some tough feedback, and I am making steps to work on loving myself like Anna is saying, but I always fall back quickly and when I do I don't know how to get out. Being aware of it doesn't help, sometimes it makes it worse. I have these periods where I can speak softly to myself, be patient, but also strict so I do my yoga and sports, make steps towards a healthy and loving mindset, but these periods never last long. Does anyone have a similar experience? How do you guys cope with this?

[@toosweet0303]

Maybe tell someone you trust and have them keep you accountable . I’m kinda like this and I need accountability . Since you are aware when you are scrolling mindlessly ask yourself why am I doing this is this helping me right now and maybe just switch your phone off or set it aside and go do what you should be doing . It won’t be easy but it may help

[@sarutucigash]

I wonder if she had a color analysis done or something related to style. Because she always has amazing clothes and the colors compliment her a lot and makes her look sooo beautiful and glowing

[@BrimstoneMoth]

ah what???

[@maimaivaj91]

Love this advice. I've been doing this myself for several years now and it's made me a lot happier, especially after having been in a toxic relationship with an abusive narcissist. I'm now in the most incredible and healthy relationship I've ever known. It's beautiful what we can do for ourselves and see the world around us evolve to lift us up even more. 😊

[@georgepalmer5497]

I once heard a woman say that the key to living for her was learning to love herself no matter what. Words to live by.

[@4biz]

i prastice 3 of the 5 i give myself aforrmation,gifts&quality time each&every night.thanks again anna.

[@iamandraelove]

Awesome share, took the test many years ago and mine is acts of service. For me, that is the umbrella of all the languages as they are all an act of service 😊🙏🏾🌿

[@marialynova6316]

Thank you for walking me through the process of knowing myself more. It's complex experience. AND knowledgeable. And sometimes you just need to hear it, even if you don't want to 😣🎗️

[@AnanyaLikhi-qp5ej]

As someone, who is going to counselling sessions and have emptied all my thoughts there, I need to refill myself with love!

[@angiepie111]

One of your best videos! Simple, to the point and very informative (and still funny).

[@clairemabutol651]

Wow every time you’re always here when I needed you the most

[@shemarlosscott2656]

I Most Love Myself Alot because im a Cool Guy

[@willyct207]

Thanks for the lesson dear I used to swear at myself big time when I was younger!!💝💝

[@nohemigomez9338]

I just realized I love myself more than I thought ❤😊 Thank you, Akana SquareSpace Fam.

[@Tanaconasaperson]

I’m gonna go off topic and say Anna you look so slay😍 ur outfit is everything

[@arcana-vb3lb]

It comes from the heart. I love myself because I am trying to incorporate my shadow and ideal ego self image together. Work hard towards a goal, and be thankful for the lesson learned when it fails. Forgiving is the patch for the soul. Don't do anything over and over, while expecting a different result. That is insanity, it is not bad to cut off toxic people from your live. Their bank account does not justify their toxic actions. There are 8 billion people out there, pop your bubble and go out there and seek new people....

[@ttmt98]

thank you for these beautiful words, anna. you are amazing 🌹

[@victoriale2792]

you’re the big sister I always wanted and needed. thank you

[@Kr0mpus]

This is very helpful, thank you! 🌹

[@Cool-hu5ze]

i can think positive, love, forgive is better than revenge, i love you, we love you, real friends say do not think about suicide.

[@stuff5652]

My favorite channel on YT! You freaqueen rock, Anna!

[@Monkayg]

Writing yourself sounds interesting, I get allot out of watching your content. So glad you exist! Thank you girl you awesome!

[@kelechiezenwa6986]

Become your own best friend. Couldn't agree more . Self hate is a MENTAL PRISON. ... Good insight. --Peace

[@RayneHiramis]

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH THANK YOU FOR THESE ❤ thank you for existing

[@hnmAck]

Easily one of your TOP 10 practical videos

[@kashtheyoutubeguy9807]

You are the one to give me comfort i feel good about you

[@insafmokhtari8192]

Girl you amazing been following you for 5years now ❤ I'm happy i did

[@theskullhead100]

Anna never misses on her videos

[@williamdodds2403]

Thank you so much for posting this!!! I hope to start some if these ideas myself and make them habits

[@lauraparrillo5365]

I have had a hard time with self love in the past, and not many good examples around growing up. The transition, which I’m still going through, towards loving myself has felt very awkward and difficult.. but one thing that has helped me, were two very good relationships in my life. One was with a relative and one with my fiancé, and in both situations, whenever they were around, they’d say kind things, build me up, and give me gifts or acts of service. When my fiancé and I had to do long distance for a while, whenever I would pass a rose and think how pretty it was, I would pick it for myself. Not because I felt like I deserved it yet, but because I knew If he was there he’d think I did. And the same with my other relative too whenever something that reminded me of their love came around, I would take it in as if they were there giving me the support themselves. This especially helped me after they had passed away a few years back, to remember their kindness. And over time, now when I see good things, I’m more welcoming of that into my life and take a more active roll in self love because of the examples they gave, so that help in learning to do that for myself made a big difference, just by framing it in my mind as what they would want for me first, until I could decide it’s what I wanted for me too eventually

[@QueenJules888]

We love you, Anna ❤

[@eggxecution]

you're a big sister for all of us. Thanks for guiding us

[@MrReese]

Anna's wisdom these days is off the charts.

[@savanaahava7647]

You deserve it ❤❤ I love you tons!!

[@bang_rik]

Your videos are always very helpful, thank you!

[@ryanmorejon5813]

Good to know Anna that's really helpful advice thanks 🙏❤

[@Cool-hu5ze]

i can thinbk positive . self love, we can not kill ourself

[@searayb]

Needed this! Love u 🫶🏻

[@PoKingi]

You’re good love the energy u have 😊

[@sarahg3550]

I have just had therapy: this is a great reminder ❤

[@aaronclemons2287]

Thank you for this!

[@jakegreen2409]

Thank you Anna. This is very important and something I need to work on more than I do. Thank you for providing tools we can all use.

[@patrickbbale]

Thank you for that, one of my goal for 2023 is to start to love myself and to have a better mindset in general. It seems that reaching the moon would be easier 😅

[@andrea.dandelion]

Anna's sponsored ads are the only ones I watch 😂 We all love Daddy Akana Squarespace!!

[@ulysisxtr]

Thank you so much... You have no idea how you are helping the anonymous joe this side of the screen

[@sophietaylor1972]

the dress is absolutely killing me it’s stunning

[@BrimstoneMoth]

thats a blouse....

[@anjali9524]

This was so good❤Loved it.

[@kmontagna1]

More to like this Anna! Thk u!

[@nc1195]

I’m so obsessed with how she keeps taking the daddy squarespace sponsor joke farther and farther

[@emwhaibee]

@ 01:23 - That giggle though, adorkable!

[@Mikeab23]

❤ Thank you so much! Very helpful 😊 Have a great day!!!

[@AK-nj9cd]

I love your videos, It's so soothing❤❤

[@drsakshijoshi]

I love this girl! ❤❤

[@awesomeadamfrom2099]

Awesome job anna.😊

[@BkhammoYou]

"I'm cringe but I'm free." - Anna Akana

[@christopherortiz9330]

You get what you pay for

[@laraleveuvre886]

every time i hear "love yourself" i always cringe... "eew I dont love myself" and i love Anna, I will always supoort her and take her videos to heart. but like standing in front of a mirror saying "you're beautiful and worthy" or writing it down, literally makes my skin crawl.

[@julzamidala2865]

I love this so much, thank you 💕💕💕

[@aliciaphoenix9925]

YAAAASSSS Preach Queen ❤

[@Mideezhanti]

This is great advice. Anna, you're the best.🥰

[@andi-roo9426]

🤯🤯🤯 I always look at getting a mani-pedi 💅 as frivolous and thus seldom indulge despite how much I love the feeling of someone else taking care of me (those hand and foot massages are GLORIOUS!). My Love Language is physical affection🫂 so this should have been completely obvious, but I never said I was quick🧠 (I, too, am cringe but free). I've been trying to justify a trip to the salon (haven't been in a couple years) and you just not only gave me permission but clearly explained why it's imperative that I schedule an appointment immediately!!! I honestly love the experience itself more than the lasting visual outcome. I need to think of other ways to deliver myself the gift of Touch. This was legit eye-opening👀!

[@Ringo-starrrr]

Love your videos! P.s. that choker DEAR LORD, is gorgeous.

[@_Diggler]

I just applied my love languages on myself today 🔥❤️

[@mistermister8636]

thank you that was very helpful

[@chzcakelova]

0:57 I think the five love languages is Gary Chapman not John Gottman

[@irisshuttleworth7681]

gottman didn't pioneer the five love languages. it was an evangelical minister named Gary Chapman. understandable mistake, gottman's work and the love languages are often discussed in the same spaces