how to have quiet confidence and natural magnetism

[@cherrysorbet-it6bs]

1. Shadow work (understand and accept self qualities so nobody can tell you otherwise, undertand what u do why u do it) 2. Dont judge others 3. Accept insecurities(make peace) 4. Accept past mistakes and learn from them GENUINLY 5. ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE PRESENT IN SOCIAL SITUATIONS 6. Nobody is thinking about you more than yourself

[@arswhale]

Thanks❤

[@emmali2265]

I am a very defensive person before. But now, if someone really show no respect and always say to me negative judgement . I ignore them and leave. Don't waste my time and energy on them at all.

[@kdms.3377]

What if they are coworkers and you have to work with them?

[@rburns1182]

what if they are family or people you have to be with for long periods of time. I'm quite a defensive person and tend to get reactive when I feel attacked whether it was their intention to attack me or not.

[@arielzhang3324]

@@kdms.3377keep compassion but draw a psychological boundary

[@catladynikki2024]

@@rburns1182if toxic narcissistic family, go full no contact and get out of toxic for your safety life.

[@catladynikki2024]

@@kdms.3377Get new job.

[@allanpeter7700]

Tbh it is very true that if you’re compassionate to yourself self you become more compassionate to others, I wasn’t taught to be compassionate but after I changed I do feel more compassionate

[@DiaJin]

Not sure why it took so long to truly have that click in place for me - But it’s made the biggest difference on my own journey.

[@allanpeter7700]

​@@DiaJin The thing is it's still weird for me to describe myself as kind and compassionate but I do actually help old people carry heavy stuff down the stairs and etc more. The biggest difference for me is breaking through my trauma and getting an implicit answer that I needed(maybe Idk I feel spectacular and the first time I've ever felt somewhat similar to who I envisioned), the compassion was a side effect for me. For me I dont think I could think could have nurtured my compassion the other way around since it wasnt really taught to me, I am bitter about my family, and generally people dont care about each other anyway.

[@tasleemlaila1478]

I love that- "you kind of look like a horse". "Yeah, I know." Amazing!

[@shraddha9]

I will probably go like " yeah and you look like a dog".

[@jayrichdubai]

David Beckham has always exuded that quiet confidence. I've always admired that trait in him.

[@DessaAtmaStudio]

I love the reminder that we write our own story. It’s up to us to build our foundation of our character within ourselves and naturally over time we will free ourselves from the past identity of who we think we are vs. who we actually are now. Thank you for the weekly practical magic ❤

[@DiaJin]

Yes yes. Thank you 😉🩵

[@sabinastapel7528]

Just came across your video, it got me thinking about a couple of thinks. And just want to say that you radiate selflove and calmness. To me it looks like you are proud of the person you are now. That's beautiful to see!

[@DiaJin]

🥹🫶

[@kaelabetsy]

This is one of my favorite videos I’ve seen on confidence. There’s a time to fake it until you make it, which is what a lot of videos on here talk about, but embodying it, is how you know you’ve found confidence. And it absolutely takes a lot of self awareness. Thank you for your thoughts 🧡

[@DiaJin]

Thank you for the kind feedback 🫶

[@ekuniverse1]

Accept who you are, and realise you're not perfect which applies to everyone so that when people judge you don't care.

[@allanpeter7700]

With social anxiety it’s generally you are so focused on being nervous when in reality you should on asking questions and absorbing information about the other person

[@kathleenkaleookalanismith8724]

This is such a beautiful message. I always tell my children that confidence is always kind. It’s a natural way that confidence moves through life.

[@ruthsandoval7580]

I just stumbled upon your channel today, and this is the second video I’ve watched so far and I can’t tell you how grateful I am to have discovered you and your brilliant approach to this topic. ❤️ thank you so much for putting out this type of content. It took me probably 45 minutes to fully get through this video because I was so inspired by you, I needed to take down as many notes as I possibly could. Again, thank you, you’re awesomeness is so appreciated! 💐

[@adgh256]

I never connected with other amazing creators telling about this self care journey, but you touched my heart. Thank you so much

[@DiaJin]

Aww thank you for watching 🫶🩵🥹

[@ElijahJohnson18]

Proverbs 3 : 26 [26] For the Lord will be your confidence, And will keep your foot from being caught.

[@estheranthony7539]

This is just what I needed at this moment. I started a new job and I'm trying to retool my life. Your insights have been incredibly useful, providing me with productive areas to focus on. You speak in a realistic, down-to-earth way without resorting to overly optimistic platitudes. Thank you for your valuable advice.

[@DiaJin]

I’m so glad to hear this! Thank you for leaving a comment 🩵

[@therese8658]

you truly embody that quiet confidence and magnetism that you are saying because that is what made me click this video. i've come across several thumbnails nd i was quick to brush them off but when i saw this video, i was like .. woah. i know that each person has their own energy that radiates and shine on its own but i like your energy best :)

[@DiaJin]

Aww thank you so much! I definitely still have many moments of self doubt and feeling uncomfortable but grateful for the progress. 🩵

[@zarinsubah9331]

You’re literally so gorgeous ❤

[@TiffanyKuo-ps5fc]

It may be beside the point, but she is sooo pretty in many ways ~

[@rik-keymusic160]

I agree 😅

[@oumaima418]

So amazing to see you have overcome alcoholism etc. Even tough I don't know you personally, I am really proud of you. I can definitely see you have done a lot of inner work. Thanks for sharing < 3

[@arbueshelena]

She's so pretty and calm, don't really know if I want to be her or marry her 😂❤

[@DiaJin]

Girl stahp 😂 🫶

[@aquacrystal03]

really appreciate the included captions in video❤

[@miriamtm369]

You always speak to the deepest part of me and seem to spark a light in the darkness, thank you for your message❤

[@DiaJin]

aww thank you for such a kind comment. 💞

[@nise0421]

Good point well said. When we start doing the shadow work & truly accepting who we are, and trust me that’s not an easy task, that’s when we learn empathy, understanding & kindness for ourselves & others.

[@strawberryknfe]

I've watched a few different self help videos made by multiple ppl abt this similar topic and so far you're the only one that has not made me feel guilty abt my lack of confidence. Your confidence and the way you speak is so uplifting and your advice is so grounded and realistic. Rly loved this video

[@DiaJin]

Aww I’m so glad it resonated with you 🩵🫶

[@rawauthenticvulnerable]

This is great thanks for exposing this , all the fake it til you make it , and to encourage people to really be authentic and vulnerable -

[@lucasbittar]

What an amazing video, Dia! Great timing as well. I've been going through some stuff in my life recently (breakups, getting rid of toxic people) and this video really gave me a different perspective of things. Really appreciate it! Love the Arrival poster by the way :) Cheers from Brazil!

[@DiaJin]

Wish you all the best! 🩵

[@laras1716]

I love this video so much. It aligns a lot with what I've been studying in my major. I hope this reaches a wider audience ^^. I'd like to just add that past circumstances do matter. It determines the nature and amount of obstacles that we have to overcome to achieve this quiet confidence (based on its quality and quantity, as not all "tough upbringings" look the same and will have different effects. Also these effects interact with so many different factors like genetics and influence from other significant social relations). I also understand how people correlate going through tough situations with building thicker skin and I think there's some truth to it. But it may give adults justification to abuse their kids when that correlation is not so simple. A warm and loving environment can absolutely build that thick skin: e.g., a parent who teaches their child that their worth as a human being is inherent, that it's human nature to make mistakes, and that making mistakes do not affect your worth but that you absolutely still need to fix it to prevent hurting yourself/others. Another example: a parent who teaches their kid how to handle nonconstructive criticism, such as by separating what is shaming (a verbal attack that includes judgement about the person's worth as a whole, e.g., you're a bad person) and what actually informs how to change/improve (a comment about a person's actions/tendencies, e.g., you are often late) and by not taking personally the shaming part (cause it may be reflection of the critic rather than you, they might just be as harsh on themselves or have a very all-or-nothing way of thinking). *It is this skill- and/or perspective-building that forms that thick skin, not the trauma*. I get where you're coming from though, I think you make a great point in suggesting that we can choose to not let trauma break us.

[@shilpa99]

Hi what is your major???

[@prerika_23]

15:22 I really needed this...I haven't stayed in contact of ppl for like 10 yrs

[@kish2187]

I've watched 2 videos from you and can tell I love your content. You are a therapist but you do the breakdown to detail and I appreciate that a lot. Will be following and listening 🎧

[@DiaJin]

Thank you so much 🙏🏼

[@rishikashahi2187]

This entire video, you've spoken and explained beautifully. You exude confidence and I can feel that being passing on to me as well. The first video I came across of yours and truly loved it. ❤️

[@DiaJin]

Thank you for your kind words! 🫶

[@eccaetchings5587]

I appreciate the timelessness of this video. ❤ This was a gentle and respectful one, while also abundant in wisdom. Thank you. Wishing you happy holidays from a new subscriber.

[@RobHMastiffDad]

The Gabor Mate book "In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts" should be required reading for anyone considering the privilege of being a parent. It shows how our childhood environment impacts us as adults. It is far more than a book on addiction and a fascinating read.

[@alissia8767]

This video deserves more views 💗

[@DiaJin]

Aww thank you 🫶

[@stanley_looby]

Dearest Dia...you said something absolutely brilliant... Quiet confidence...is humility. This is just so so beautiful...I just don't know what to say. I love you...Stanley ❤

[@monica95275]

Thank you for this amazing video❤I am currently 23 years old and loving myself had been such a huge topic in my life, and I often struggle to comprehend what it meant and how exactly I should achieve it, but watching your video definitely helps clearing my mind a lot! looking forward to see more of your videos in the future❤

[@DiaJin]

I’m glad the video can add to your journey 🫶 and thank you for watching 🩵

[@dirtbaguette]

You're absolutely gorgeous! I appreciate the realistic advice that there's no quick fix solution to this, and that real confidence is not detached :) Love the honesty and wisdom.

[@DiaJin]

Thank you for your kind comment! 🩵

[@Theawakenedsomnambulist]

You speak so beautifully! I love listening to your wisdom. ❤️

[@DiaJin]

Aww thank you 🩵🫶

[@dreamerzstorie]

Ahhh ❤ another amazing woman to be followed/subscribed, im on my self growth journey rn and the latter half part of this video resonates so much with me. Almost all my life ive been avoiding to get out of my comfort zone and making the term “introvert” as an excuse for everything. Thanks for this. You and some other amazing people out there really pushes me to take accountability with my life and live for the better. Love from 🇵🇭

[@DiaJin]

Aww thank you so much for the kind comment. I resonate with this very much, as a self proclaimed introvert. 😉 wish you all the very best 🫶🩵

[@juliamurphy5943]

i really needed this video today, thank you

[@DiaJin]

💞

[@bhavnaaggarwal1563]

This is a gorgeous video Dia, it all just comes down to accepting your whole self

[@hairnloveproducts8915]

Loved this segment this specifically resonated I think I’ll watch this every morning thank you for this Gem 💎

[@DiaJin]

Awww I’m glad it resonated with you🫶

[@dreamergirl1140]

Unrelated but I love your artwork in the background! It reminds me of something from the movie Arrival. It looks super cool!

[@DiaJin]

It is from Arrival! One of my favorite movies 😛

[@dreamergirl1140]

Wait wait wait!! I think it says "time" or maybe "there is no linear time". That's so cool!!!

[@J3an_j3an]

Luv you’re absolutely gorgeous. 😊

[@Isabel-fb2zs]

love the cuality of self explanation

[@Anastasiabruno]

I just wanna say, I am currently working on this aspect of me with a professional communication expert (she is amazing) currently at my 2nd encounter. She is making me work about returning to the present, since I don’t notice how many times I don’t listen because my mind is wandering about my future and the answer I will give. I have a lot of anxiety. I worked with a therapist about it, but now I need to work on my quiet confidence. She is giving me advices like “do your shower every morning start from your feet, trust me, it makes sense” she told me “ don’t talk negatively about you cause for the whole time you just yapped about how you look at everything as a big huge problem, BACK IN YOURSELF, BACK IN THE PRESENT AGAIN “ she is making me work about THE PRESENT MOMENT!

[@Poppitywoo]

This is a wonderful video, thanks for making and sharing it with all of us 🥰

[@dianabratu6177]

You are absolutely beautiful just in every sense of the word, had to share that.

[@DiaJin]

🥹thank u

[@TheGarnetObsidian]

Subscribed. Thank you for making this video. Eloquently stated with compassion. ❤

[@paulrivera5231]

Ooo Dia your views are exploding. Great job !!!

[@samanthanoeliaferrer]

Incredible video just what i needed to hear😭 ill pravtice everyday

[@dolibbom]

thank you ❤ i’ve learnt a lot from this video

[@bglv306]

Good talk ❤

[@kadeeeartiaga]

This is so inspiring to listen to

[@LovingHypnoASMR]

I loved this! Thank you ❤ subbing 😇

[@danelyabizhanova1191]

this video made my day😄 thanks for sharing!

[@juliamayumi9961]

Thank you for this video ❤

[@LAdreaming19]

Wow you are stunning

[@quynhchi4201]

love this! thank you Dia

[@25kishkish]

So informative, thank you!

[@ellawishnya]

very smart and useful!

[@МарияЛесникова-о1н]

thank u🤍!

[@Magicalhooman]

This video is amazing!!!! ❤❤

[@semo_amg]

you are so pretty

[@ProsperousBhavna]

so nobody's gonna talk about the ARRIVAL movie's painting behind her??!!!!

[@trashcat95]

I was looking at that the whole time too!

[@iamthecozyking]

Fantastic video 🎉

[@compact-disc]

If somebody walked up to me saying I looked like a horse, I'd actually laugh about how random that comment'd be 💀 seriously who does that??

[@DiaJin]

Haha my retelling lacked enough context, this person was a friend of her friend.

[@compact-disc]

@@DiaJin ohh I see.. well shame on that person anyway, it's cool of your friend that she could react this way :)

[@wbts7475]

hmmm satabishac girlll✨✨✨

[@hobsyllwin2562]

Thank you ❤

[@Shrilaraune]

Oh my gosh the art in the background--is that from Arrival??

[@DiaJin]

Yes! One of my favorite movies

[@richardgraber1477]

Awesome!

[@Akk162]

You and I might need to be friends. I'm not someone who's 'bubbly' at all, and quite honestly I can't tolerate people who are that hippy-hoppity, but thats okay. Ive hardly lived an easy life, so I am someone who is very tuned into the nuances of everyday life, and I like ym conversations to be cognisant of that. This has meant that I largely have friends that are a little older than me because I appreciate the introspective approach + outlook to life.

[@aishas1712]

love this ❤

[@Ashley-e8s]

You are extremely gorgeous💕🥹

[@DiaJin]

Thank uuu🥹🩵

[@Fieldsplanet]

Thank you so much ❤

[@Nocturnal_Lorena]

Tysm! 💖

[@hohanh1452]

This change me

[@ivanasancort]

Hiii, can i ask where do you get the poster in the background?

[@DiaJin]

Hi I ordered the print off of Etsy I think and then bought frames on Amazon

[@ivanasancort]

@@DiaJin Thank you!

[@studymusic403]

You are amazing wow - feel like I want to be your friend :)))))

[@weier_populus]

The picture on the wall, is that from film Arrival?

[@DiaJin]

yes! :)

[@patgrl]

Tkssss❤❤❤❤

[@MChavez90]

Great video ❤

[@lavatr8322]

I am a very Quiet guy. I like my own space & peace. But outside factors make me react....

[@Helios_808]

Good take

[@xwhy888]

Who read the title as "magnesium"? Anyone?

[@DiaJin]

I had to triple check my own eyes when I typed it you’re not alone 😆

[@ProfessorHamachi]

1st🎉❤

[@DiaJin]

Woo!!🙏🏼💖

[@assemsmagul5266]

this is a great video but I want to say you are soo beautiful!

[@DiaJin]

Thank u 🫶

[@borednow]

why is your plant shaking the whole time?

[@DiaJin]

Ghost

[@Shrilaraune]

😂 ​@@DiaJin

[@catladynikki2024]

I think from AC air. Or from light windy from window open. 😺

[@Carolareyes__]

🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@stephanie387]

❤

[@meluhdyw]

you look like an asian sade!!!! so pretty

[@amberlee8074]

2nd❤

[@DiaJin]

🩵🩵🩵

[@alissia8767]

3rd :))

[@StudentofFlames-me3ie]

It's John Wick.

[@alimarpelolargo]

Hola guapa, que cambiarias si pudiera en el mundo

[@ericaknox2715]

I love Arrival I want a poster like that too now!! 🐙 🪨🪐… I think the main character played by Amy Adam’s has quiet confidence…🩵

[@AwakeningTigerxx]

I agree it really takes committing to this journey of healing to shift! 🤍

[@divushypnotica5955]

Please let us know why the plants in your room keep moving 🍀🫶🏻 thank you for the video

[@DiaJin]

😂there’s a fan in the room, I almost wanted to just let the mystery remain but seeing this is the second comment on the ghostly plant

[@paulacesarini9591]

❤