How to Ask for Help

[@BigHeartNoBS]

As a narcissistic abuse survivor who dreads asking people for help, this advice is gold. thank You

[@rubyseahorseuk]

Yup, I hate asking for help. Having always been fiercely independent, I now have a couple of debilitating illnesses. My requests for help have been feeble and apologetic, and I hate being feeble and apologetic. Henceforth, I shall be upfront, direct and confident. 💪🏻

[@MesmerEyes2]

@@rubyseahorseuk I too had an issue asking for assistance. I was in the hospital for a week. I had driven myself to the hospital however when released, I could not drive because I was on pain meds. I called one of the ministers and asked if he could find someone who could take me to the grocery store on my way home and someone who could drive my car home. He showed up with two of my friends who took me to the store and home. I unlocked the door and as I stood and watched them bring in my groceries, I realized they were smiling and laughing. They were feeling good to have been of service. It also struck me that when I had been to proud to ask for assistance I had denied others the very thing that I enjoy....serving others. It changed my perspective. I am still independent yet when I need a hand, I ask knowing it will bring joy to those who truly care about me.

[@MesmerEyes2]

I have taken the word "help" out of my vocabulary. It is subtle yet it implies one person is better than another. I use the word " assist" for it implies partnership. ❤

[@Mushroom321-]

SAME !!!😊😮 YES!!!

[@ScottieMac79]

Priceless as usual!

[@beverlyblystra2841]

It is unbelievable how your posts coincide with what I have a need for !!!. You have helped me and thousands.. THANK YOU!! For using your God given talents!

[@catsymurphyandrews1769]

This is a joke… See if I learned what he’s talking about sir Jefferson, your eloquent gifts have helped this person and they are helping me. I mean it’s a joke on me because I saw you said the word help you know that’s it

[@catsymurphyandrews1769]

Oops I use the word help😂

[@robinmccartney2016]

I needed to hear this. I have a difficult time asking for help. Ty!

[@BeyondClaire]

I asked my niece the other day, “Sheera warrior princess, will you tackle this jar lid?” 😂

[@lizabuckingham9586]

😂

[@Mushroom321-]

AAWW!!, SWEET !!😮😊😊😅

[@thungadills]

That’s very helpful 🎈😞🤩

[@QueenOfHillCountry]

My neighbor and friend offered to rebuild our water heater. I said we needed to share his experience and tools, so we can learn. Then we can show our other friends how to rebuild their water heater. In exchange, we are going to teach them how to Rumba Dance- so they can dance on their cruise vacations. This helpful advice is golden because it makes people feel VALUED when sharing their strengths, creativity and experience. THANK YOU Jefferson- for your experience, creativity and strength-improving communication and quality of life for those of us who want to learn. Your advice works for people in all life stages. 👍🤠🐞

[@harusu8610]

You taught me a lesson i never got in my life. Thanks a lot!

[@oneness1_]

On the money! 😊

[@BuleLumwira]

Sir Jefferson, thank you for your creative word articulations🤍

[@rhonskibeat1]

thank you!! I love this!

[@JulianS-xu6ff]

I am very pleased with the way Jefferson encourages us to ask for help in a confident way. Thank you .

[@karenvanschalkwyk9593]

I love this advice!!

[@NewBeginningsJupiter]

It is often difficult to ask for help but this advice is very helpful. Thank you so much

[@AGenerationJones]

Love this! 💛

[@Darshie-c9b]

Thank you sooo much Jefferson ❤

[@dr.esingleton589]

This so super Good ❤

[@gwenlindeman286]

You're just...WAY too good at this! Thank you for sharing your expertise. I'm extremely grateful. I use your advice and skills daily 💛💛

[@gaillapointe4075]

I could have used this advice yesterday, next time. 👍👍

[@InkyzMom]

Love this! Something one can use in business and professional life.

[@Sandy4re]

Great suggestions! Appreciate you helping me to become a better, more effective communicator!

[@Lyddiebits]

Being 4'11 in the grocery store, I say, Can I borrow your tallness for a second? :)

[@Mushroom321-]

AWESOME!!!😮, 😃👏🏻👏🏻😄

[@1frisma]

I really love the third point. Thank you Jefferson

[@gailwilson8727]

Best advice ever. Thank you.

[@Sherry1092]

Brilliant, game. CHanger, thank you so much’

[@moonbeam1967]

Thank you so much everything you share is so helpful ❤

[@crissycobain8361]

Love it Jefferson! You've helped me figure out so much! Thank you. I can surely use this. I'm getting better. Your voice make boundries sounds so normal.. it's actually so relieving.. your amazing. So glad the world has you! So glad I found you!

[@keniacruz4392]

That’s true when I ask to my husband for help , he sometimes refuse to help me 😅, and when I ask him using different words I got his help

[@cherylanderson1308]

Thanks

[@dolittle6781]

Brilliant as usual!

[@kitkatz9984]

Awesome 😊❤

[@carolebruyns5683]

Thanks, great advice 👍

[@luvindaopera111]

Excellent!!

[@koenigxolo]

If a coworker or manager starts with "I need your creativity to.." it's a red flag I'm about to be dumped on.

[@Mushroom321-]

Sounds familiar !, 😅😮🤔😬

[@ViorelaSoulCafe]

Very helpful, thanks a lot!

[@mariakelleybianchi]

Sooooo true & helpful thank you ❤

[@patriciacole8773]

I like this one (too)😁

[@steevemachine118]

This is perfect! Thx Jefferson!

[@cindyrhoday]

😊🙌

[@kathylinderman9339]

I think you can combine things. I believe it's polite to ask someone, not just say "I need". You can phrase it like this " Will you help me with your creativity to come up with ideas for the meeting tomorrow?" Otherwise, to me, it feels like an order.

[@SuzanneRobinette]

I think most people respond well to “I need your advice” if said sincerely with a smile. But you could say “I’d like your advice” if you feel more comfortable with that. In any case, it needn’t be said as an order. I understand your point of view, but I’d be complemented if someone asked for my advice! It shows respect, humility, and a willingness to profit from another’s expertise, experience, etc.

[@Jkn-rz4mj]

I always thanks myself for subscribing you 😂

[@evaherrey5038]

I realize when using this method people “ grow a few inches” 😂. Thanks for validating 🤟

[@PhamAnn-r1t]

❤

[@sharonhainesNumber1Red]

Being only 5’2”, I hesitate to ask for help reaching something. I’m afraid a person might say no, or give me attitude about having to stop and help me. Even customer service people working at the grocery store have grumbled and had a bad attitude about having to get something off of a self for me.

[@BlessedHope7.7.7]

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[@judyheath1591]

As a short person, I ask taller people to "borrow their height" to reach something. I generally get a chuckle out of it.

[@mifmif5572]

Ok, Jeff, on this topic we may need more options. Why? Because these days people don t even look in each other's eyes😔!!! I fell to the ground in need of medical attention and nobody came close to see if I was dead or alive!!!!! Yes, this is the current atmosphere!!! So, please base Your suggestions on the current social status. The past is...way past!!! If you get my drift... Oh well....

[@themurnane7]

It’s really sad people don’t make eye contact anymore and smile I try so many times throughout the day and get very little response

[@QueenOfHillCountry]

That's a whole different situation! What to do in an emergency when you need help from strangers. There might be a video for that in Jefferson's archives, or in his book. I do believe that there are more good people out there that want to help...depending on the situation and environment. Sorry that happened in your medical emergency.

[@Mushroom321-]

Needed this !!!, 👆💯🗯Always THE perfect Time !! 😊jefferson !! MY MENTOR in life !! 🎉🎉😮😊

[@minimalist279]

What's goin on? Jefferson pops up in my feed at the right moments.. Trust human, not a bot! Love and appreciate the channel. 🥰🙏