Unlisted - How to be a Powerful Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

[@LinYouToo]

The sensory experiences on this video are uncomfortable with the whooshing and the pops but great message

[@DrDanielFox]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@Jar0Jess]

I've been watching your videos not realizing you're the one who wrote the book that saved my life. Thank you. ❤ was diagnosed with BPD and autism last year. And been learning so much about my life and past and my behavior it's flooded in and has also taught me I can trust my own perspective and myself as long as I take care of my adult life so my kid self can be comfortable.

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm so glad to hear that my book and videos have been helpful for you. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@word_salad_bingo]

Dr. Fox, thank you so much for this one. This was exactly what I needed today. After DBT, EMDR, and now some neurofeedback under my belt I don't think I'd qualify for a full BPD diagnosis but I know I will always be built differently from most people. I think my own (conditioned) reaction to my sensitive subjective experience is what's frightening and this really helped pull me out of a bad headspace today.

[@JagoShogun]

Hello Doc, I was studying a documentary on the evolution of hyper-vigilance, and it's correlation to producing more epinephrine which in turn, metabolizes sugar and produces more muscle mass. And it all plays with fight-or-flight or 'aggression and fear' and all of this correlates to (my) bpd in general. Having lived like this for a long time, sugar does nothing to/for me and I am built like a truck for it, but I am more aggressive or run more than I should from situations. I've also heard people with bpd produce more epinephrine as a natural consequence to their condition.

[@DrDanielFox]

That's fascinating how all these factors tie into your experience with bpd. It's great that you're diving deep into understanding the connections between hyper-vigilance and epinephrine production.

[@caringforall4454]

Elaine Eron wrote the books on HSP. She hypothesizes that high sensitivity is a genetic variance- with only fraction of population having it. Others believe being highly sensitive is an environmental epigenetic adaptation children have to make to survive a toxic or narcissistic family

[@DrDanielFox]

Interest. Thanks for sharing.

[@oregonsnob31]

Are there any books written by trusted sources who delve into this topic of environmental epigenetic adaptation and HSP?

[@wenofzen]

The popping is VERY intrusive to my autistic brain. I understand why it is a part of the video, but it physically hurts to listen to this when the pops startle me. But the content is excellent.

[@Fenjar4022]

I'm not so much on the neurodiverse side and I find it really disturbing too, so you are not alone. The information is very good, there is no need for those audio effects😊

[@regineheine5707]

I am not autistic. Nevertheless I get disabled to listen to your content by these noises.

[@carriehobbes2448]

I’ve gotten overwhelmed with both audio and the sudden zooming in and out of images and dr. Fox :( really puts my nervous system on “ALERT! DANGER!” Mode - I’m quite sensitive but this is the first time a dr fox video has felt frightening to watch and listen to. Being HSP sucks 😢

[@mlewelk]

My trauma therapist just said he thinks I am a hsp.. Great video, thanks for posting. Watching from LinkedIn.

[@carriehobbes2448]

Dr. Fox just started watching the video - but feeling sudden anxiety with the way the screen swooshes in and out especially with the noise May I suggest having a more soothing style of presenting your excellent videos? This one seems designed to grab the attention of a toddler (nothing wrong in being a toddler but this is SERIOUSLY overwhelming for this HSP, I wonder if others are struggling to watch it too). I really enjoy your content and right now I’m having to mute the video and turn subtitles on. Which really is a shame because the calm soothing tone of your voice REALLY helps to take info in I don’t know who edits your videos but please could you let them know that this one is very overstimulating both audibly and visibly? Not able to watch it right through - which is a shame because I do feel cursed being an HSP! Oh dear. Can’t even handle the screen suddenly pushing you left to right, zooming in and out. VERY frantic - just guessing but this feels like it was edited by someone who has become numb to auditory and visual stimuli (eg. Someone who plays violent video games, for one) - it’s the opposite end of the spectrum from people who are more sensitive than normal. Please can we have this video reedited and rereleased in a more calm format? This is a very important topic and I’d love to absorb it! Thank you! 🙂

[@joyfulgirl2009]

It made my pain way worse watching this video with all the useless noise. It's funny how people talk about things and have no depth of awareness that will help them understand these things I mean there was thought put in this video this is so frustrating

[@Bobby_101]

I'd give a little addition. The people you are describing are opposite of extroversion. They are intensely introverted, but with the need to be social (being social does not men extroversion). Extroversion is best described as positive emotionality and ability to easily handle and adapt to chaos - having high dopamine and adrenaline. Which is literally the opposite of being highly sensitive. HSP are a specific combination of person - extremely introverted people who need a lot of social connection (oxytocin). (Being social is connected to oxytocin, rathen then Extroversion - which is connected to dopamine - epinephrine)

[@DrDanielFox]

Thank you for sharing your insights and adding to the discussion!

[@Pxliny]

I feel seen Thank You! I'm diagnosed with bpd, social anxiety and ptsd but I feel like I'm also a hsp. Nowadays it's hard for me to solitude without feeling lonely but I'm quickly overwhelmed when I have to interact with people around me that I'm not at least 90% sure if they really like and accept me as I am. I'm always thinking am I acting right or am I too stiff and don't talk enough... I also tend to dissociate when I'm feeling overwhelmed in a group with a lot of people I don't really know but have to interact with like for example in university. I feel like your advice to just watch people or be with someone I'm feeling save with but doing our own things are very helpful so I don't feel lonely and my mood doesn't drop into being sad and feeling disconnected from the world. I think having a partner would help me but social anxiety and bpd make it difficult. (I hope my English is understandable)

[@DrDanielFox]

Your words mean a lot to me. I'm grateful that my content could resonate with you and offer some comfort.

[@akat3628]

Awesome topic, Dr. Fox.

[@magueysunset]

I used to apologize incessantly, and even thank people too much...even if they disrespected me. That workbook called 30 Days to Stop Apologizing by Harper Daniels was helpful, as well as the Tao Te Ching and books about boundary setting. I still do it at times, but getting better.

[@DrDanielFox]

Thanks for sharing!

[@suzanahas4740]

Excellent explanation. I recognized myself in most of the situations. I used to blame my sensitivity and I was trying to toughen up myself bcs I was seeing it as a flaw. Thank you for helping us change the perception.. I definitely need to work on distortions, which I often fall pray to.

[@DrDanielFox]

Glad it was helpful!

[@WTMI]

Dr. Fox, I am so glad I found you. It has been a few years now. And, it seems, every time I really need it, you come out with something relevant just at the right time. Thank you so very much for your compassion and understanding; your ability to shed that light to others and help shake the negative perception of the emotional experience generally.🙏 ... I love a good Americano too. LOL

[@feelingsubconscious3040]

Today, I began to realize i am highly sensitive person, also who has BPD. I have to protect my energy and SET BOUNDARIES. I don't know how to verbalize them to people though. For me, they come up after the boundary is crossed, but too late, i have split on you. It's not like you can randomly bring them up un convo. Last time i told someone your crossing a boundary they said f*** your boundaries. She was my best friend. 😢 i often think of bpd as a lioness sleeping in her den. That day my lion ate her.

[@DrDanielFox]

Setting boundaries is crucial for your well-being. It's important to communicate them clearly to those around you.

[@aquamarinedream8304]

Makes me feel odd because other people tend not to process as deeply. 😅 When I find a thoughtful person I'm so happy.

[@monopthalmoss]

Totally relate to this:) it can be a lonely road sometimes but... We always find others:). Peace and love:)

[@bigyeticane]

This video is a great idea. The ability to determine the intentions or emotional/mental state displayed by others allows us to understand them better, and it could help us to have a better relationship with other people than a person who can't read them so easily might have. Of course this all depends upon a person's mastery of mindfulness, and how far that they have come along the road to managing any affective instability. Thanks for the positive mindset and insight, Dr. Fox. Also, thank you for posting videos that help and enlighten for free. Most other self-promoting mental health content producers on youtube are more concerned ultimately with you purchasing a solution to your problems from their website.

[@DrDanielFox]

Glad you found it helpful.

[@lisanapoli257]

I work as a psych NP and enjoying your videos. Thank you for the excellent work and sharing your knowledge.

[@jakebull2496]

and that sound effect is irritating...

[@alund1975]

The popping is causing me not to be able to hear what you’re saying very well

[@DrDanielFox]

It shouldn’t be popping. Sorry about that.

[@gluten-freevegannutritious8522]

Whoosh! Over and over every transition hard to focus

[@nunyabznz3029]

As an HSP the annoying noise that keeps rumbling through the audio is so bad I could not follow your talk.

[@carriehobbes2448]

For me it was the noise AND the sudden swooshing visuals pushing Dr. Fox to the right and suddenly zooming in - dreadful. I’m trying to listen now while staring at comment just to be able to hear his voice but can’t follow along :( Thank GOD his older videos aren’t anything like this or I never would have been able to watch them!

[@gregorverstraelen3347]

Please cut out all the useless and annoying noises. Otherwise much appreciated topic.

[@KristbjorgNymann]

Yes, I most certainly struggle with managing my emotions. I have BPD, Mixed Bipolar and ODD...along with other comorbidities.

[@celestyn05]

Shout out to all the ones who had to look at the whole store before "picking something out" as kids! 😂 Decisions are hard sometimes!

[@DrDanielFox]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts

[@WhitePelicansareReal]

Definitely a Highly Sensitive Person. So sensitive while watching this great video, I found the sounds, photo changes distracting. Not a bad thing, just a current moment situation. I believe you are spot on about this! Thank you for speaking up about this also possibly stigmatizing situation we can find ourselves in. 😊

[@angiekleindl8012]

Same!

[@Horseshoemagic]

Me too HSP! Too many pops, wooshes and photochanges.

[@d.nakamura9579]

That could also just be ADD TBH

[@ja2de769]

Interesting feedback on this video. Behavioral health, mental health, personalities, etc. Our understanding is evolving, and I hope that continues. In reference to Autism, there may be some traits of HSP. Or maybe not. And, someone may have traits of HSP and not be diagnosed with Autism. Many things are on a continuum. My thoughts are that these categories of sensory and developmental differences will change anyway. Thank you for the video. :)

[@monopthalmoss]

Yes:) more information and videos that extol the virtues of being sensitive.and not the potential drawbacks! Theres a richness to life experience that is..worth everything in my opinion wheb youre sensitive and start really honing your focus on positive asoects snd learn to stay "grounded"..no matter what Im a practicing energy channel/healer

[@ArchanaMehta-pn4hm]

Very helpful thankyou somuch

[@Cadmeeyum]

THIS was the one. The breakdown, the compassionate accuracy without stigma- this was so helpful to understand how to care for my powerful heart and mind that also needs solitude, art, and regulation 🤩

[@debbiecarter5824]

I’m confused . Why are people acting like HSP is parallel to autism?? I am a HSP and I am not autistic. Did I miss something?

[@oregonsnob31]

The slide changes sound is super scary to me. Guess this makes me highly sensitive?

[@DrDanielFox]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! It's always fascinating to hear different perspectives.

[@joyfulgirl2009]

As a highly sensitive this video and all the extra activity in it in REALLY annoying holy moly. No need for constant noises and pop ups during a presentation dang

[@DrDanielFox]

I’m getting the video redone. I know people are bothered by it. I apologize.

[@MrBungle900]

The irony of making a video for people who are highly sensitive and filling it with such annoying pops and swooshes that we can’t watch it. The unnecessary sound effects are drowning out your voice and I can’t focus on anything else but the next popping sound. And the next. Who made it like this? It’s frustrating me so much. I’m sure the content is great but I will not be able to continue watching it. Had to give up after a few minutes. 🤨😩

[@AJ22-80]

You just pathologised HSP.

[@DrDanielFox]

Sorry you feel that way but I don’t see like that at all.

[@MelissaLove-WeRgr8]

… goes to make a comment and ADHD spd bpd brin is not functioning … returns to video… it’s the whooshing sound for me 😖 .. took my loops out under my studio beats and I’m like nopeeee back in . .. also anyone do this guys bpd workbook??. Realized rn that I have it and still have not gotten into it, just learned I have aphantasia and cool to know now what he looks like and can at least “ hear” the authors “voice” 😂

[@NancyMichaels-mk3st]

I don’t like the background sounds

[@DrDanielFox]

Sorry about that.

[@joyfulgirl2009]

Toi MUCH SWOOSHING AND NOISE WHY?????? Why didnt you think about this???

[@gofai274]

It is literally curse, same only most evil corrupt ppl get to power as tolstoy already realized... 0.00001% decide everything you can help only yourself that is hard truth...

[@DrDanielFox]

It's disheartening to see the influence of a select few, but remember that small actions can still make a big difference.

[@gofai274]

@@DrDanielFox Sorry that is not how anything works, everything is pre-determined 0.00001% decide who goes to places of power and everything. RIch will have AGI soon. I know smarter ppl than me and they couldn't do absolutely anything... High IQ ppl withdraw from society as they know this shit is over...

[@gofai274]

@@DrDanielFox Sure even you cannot even believe this, you are better than this cmon...

[@PiePaivi]

Right, when one is HSP, as I am, it's not good to have those funny sound effects...I jumped many times. Next time, forget them. I had to stop listening.

[@DrDanielFox]

I appreciate your feedback and will keep it in mind for future videos.

[@ArchanaMehta-pn4hm]

🙏

[@lynnh1682]

Highly sensitive... 🤔 Are INTJ highly sensitive? Haha.

[@LjiljanaDdd]

Hsp is the same Bpd

[@sfaye5548]

😱😖🥴noises unbearable!😵‍💫

[@DrDanielFox]

So sorry.

[@becky2470]

Everything was great except for the part when you kept saying “highly sensitive person” instead of autistic.

[@DrDanielFox]

Interesting feedback. Thanks

[@becky2470]

I don’t mean to sound rude; it just pains me to hear an in-depth description of trait after trait of autism and have it called something flippant like “highly sensitive.” Autistic women are so often villainized with a misdiagnosis of BPD or, conversely, we’re dismissed as highly sensitive. This implies that we’re overly or hyper-sensitive, rather than asserting that we’re having a different physiological experience through our senses. I also wonder how someone who fits the criteria for highly sensitive would not quality as disordered. Overstimulation, intense attention to detail, and hyper empathy are all debilitating in their own right. It’s difficult to imagine someone with this profile feeling empowered as a minority amidst “averagely” sensitive (neurotypical) people. My prediction is that someday HSP becomes an outdated misnomer for low support needs autistic. But I mean no disrespect and think your video offers helpful advice for anyone who is more sensitive than most.

[@akat3628]

@@becky2470 Hi Becky, my understanding is that HSP and autistic are two different things. I identify as being an HSP, but not autistic. I appreciate your different perspective, however. Take care.

[@debbiecarter5824]

What ??? I’m confused . Why are people acting like HSP is parallel to autism?? I am a HSP and I am not autistic. Did I miss something?

[@jordsupp]

@becky2470 surely HSP covers a broader cohort than ASD? ASD = HSP, but I don't see that HSP = ASD. But I might be wrong.

[@BobbiFarren]

Nice topic. Please, stop (or at least greatly lessen) your sound effects for every split screen, zoom, pan, cross-fade, and lower thirds. It's simply obnoxious, excessive, distracting, the uneven audio cross-fade between your lesson and the audio effect, loses its intended "accent" to a bullet point, ad nauseum.... ....and your talking to/about HSP's....

[@DrDanielFox]

I made a note of it. Thank you for the feedback.

[@attheranch873]

The popping sound and the sudden movement backward and forwards is very distracting from what you’re saying. Why have this on a video for sensitive people?? it’s disturbing so I stopped watching it.

[@DrDanielFox]

Sorry about all that.