How To Be Confident

[@kevincorncone]

I really needed this! I can feel that lately my confidence has been getting better, but it’s not quite where I want it to be yet

[@KatherineKosma]

Awww! It’s a work in progress everyday :)

[@awomanstouchofdiys2441]

This is good advice! 👍👍 I’ve actually been going thru some winter blues lately and it’s really impacted my self esteem!! My confidence in myself and around others - even my family the ones who love me no matter what... It’s crazy how we can over think so much sometimes and forget that we are just human and that we are allowed to make mistakes and not feel like it’s going to be a big deal... accept it and move on! Right? So, this helped 💛🙏😌 This has actually made sense and I’m glad you shared it! We all have phases I think too and they do pass, we need to not ever give in or give up because, it will pass! I just need to get their my phase and get back to who I love being - and not so fearful or negative or whatever it may be! Anyway thanks chicky!🥰💜 Much love from Ontario Canada 🇨🇦 Have a great week! ✌️ ☮️💟✝️

[@_silence_rina]

It is so funny how loud people talk about me and how amazed they are when I call them out on it when passing by ✨ People talk about my bandshirt? 'Yep, really cool band.' People say I have a strange walk? 'Yep, just getting groceries. Have a good day'

[@KatherineKosma]

Hahahahaha the people that talk shit the most get so shocked when someone actually responds or calls them out

[@belle637]

omg i love this channel

[@KatherineKosma]

Thank you!!

[@coldservings]

A while back I went to a local goth/alt event: Spellbound Indy, a "Darkwave DJ Dance Night" at one of the local clubs. This is just about the only goth/alt event here locally (Indianapolis is pretty much a desert for all things goth) and it was an opportunity to dress up and just be myself. (I'm coming to a point here. Trust me.) Well, afterward things happened and I didn't have the money to be able to go on a regular basis (single dad on a rather limited budget). This was disappointing because it was really the only "excuse" I had to really dress up. But then I realized something. I didn't need an excuse. I could dress up just because I wanted to. So now, I dress in jaquard or paisley vests in dark colors, wear cravats, nice platform boots, and so on. If someone asks "what are you dressed up for?" the answer is "Uh, Tuesday." And I feel much better dressing up for me, what I like to wear. I don't need a special occasion to dress "special." And if anybody doesn't like it? That's their problem, not mine.

[@KatherineKosma]

YASSSSS 👏

[@coldservings]

@@KatherineKosma I saw a post on the Book of Faces where somebody describes their goth attire as their "armor", that they feel more confident when dressed up. I agree with that and have used the term "Dark Armor" to describe the dressing up. It's the shield between me and everything else in the world that might try to bring me down.

[@ghostyghoul6368]

Ur absolutely amazing ♥️I hope ur happy safe and healthy during these hard times u r so inspirational thank u for sharing ur own experiences I know it’s common knowledge half of the time with being confident but it’s just nice to hear this kinda love and support 💗

[@KatherineKosma]

Thank you! You too. I figured it might help some people who really don’t know where to start with building confidence as I didn’t when I was younger :)

[@anemicroyalty7561]

You're so pretty x

[@lovegoddess711]

Girl you’re great ✨✨

[@KatherineKosma]

Thank you 🥺🖤

[@constantinmarius4941]

How to be confident. First step stop watching those youtube video you don t need them. You don t need nothing, you already have what you need inside you. Second step: LIVE IN THE PRESENT. The only thing that you lose when you think to much or when you die is the PRESENT. Present is the key, is who you really are, LIVE EVERY SECOND OF YOUR LIFE, whith confidence or not, doesent matter to much. Is simple to be confident: tell yourself every time, speak with you: i trust me, i am confident....and you will be . YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK, because with thoughts we creeate the world. Belive me, just LIVE IN PRESENT and you will discover much more than confidence. In some situation you have confidence, in others situation you don t have and that is only because you don t know to use it, but is there, you have it. Be your own GOD, be ...YOU. Speak with yourself, deceide with yourself, laugh with yourself, BE GOOD WITH YOURSELF, tell yourself what you want to become, belive it.....and this is how it will be. IF you live in the Presence you discover that you don t need nobady and nothing but you connect with everythink, you will see the reality--> here is the problem, you will not dreeam anymore with open eyes to imposible thinghs. People likes dreaming, reality is bad for many of us. Good news is that you put your thaughts, your imagination to work for the only think that matters for you in this life:YOU. YOUR SELF

[@Dribblio]

I've only been watching for five minutes, how the heck did you manage to literally dress everything that's been holding me back? What is this sorcery? ...How can I learn it lol

[@KatherineKosma]

Ahhh I hope this helped! Anything I didn’t cover?

[@tinfoilmcmadnus5784]

You're actually fascinating. You're candid, sincere, altruistic, funny and drop dead gorgeous. You probably shit rose petals. Are you even real? Don't tell anyone this because I've never said this to a woman before let alone one I've never met but I actually don't mind 1Direction.

[@KatherineKosma]

Hahahahahah! Thank you. Shitting rose petals would be great

[@tinfoilmcmadnus5784]

@@KatherineKosma I agree and you're still too good to be true even if you don't. I'm glad I could make you laugh anyway. Thanks for the pep talk!

[@KreeZafi]

Do you have any advice for body confidence? I'm pretty good with the stuff you talked about here, I'm confident in my own abilities and I would 100% confront someone for talking shit lmao, but I'm debilitatingly insecure about my body. It pains me so much I sometimes lie awake in bed for hours crying, tossing and turning, wanting to rip off this disgusting flesh vessel - it's almost panic inducing to be stuck in it and unable to escape! It also somewhat affects my love for fashion, I love the way I dress but it kills me inside that my outfits never look quite as nice as I'd want them to because my body isn't right for them. It's like if you love painting but your canvas is so terrible that all paintings turn out subpar. It causes me immense suffering on a daily basis, and I sure as hell can't see myself getting into a relationship because I feel so horrifically unattractive and the thought of someone simply putting up with my subpar flesh vessel because it's part of the package fucking breaks me.

[@KatherineKosma]

So sorry to hear you feel like that :( I’ll see if there’s anything I have worth saying in a video, but the best thing I did was stop trying to wear what looked good on others, and look for things that flattered my particular body and shape. I still hate wearing a lot of trendy things cuz I feel gross in them, but I found things that make me feel.. less gross! 😂