How To Become CHARISMATIC | Russell Brand

What is charisma and can you develop it?
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[@GerhardReus]

Russel saying he sometimes gets social anxiety makes me feel like everything is alright.

[@aandm7772]

does it though?

[@dotdashdotdash]

everyone gets it, no exceptions

[@irfanhodzic8633]

Everyone gets sometimes it's a absolutely normal thing

[@ThePopbanks007]

That's why he cracks jokes. To break the tension. It's basically a reflex. Trust me, I know.

[@SamuelAlder]

me too

[@ProjectHighestSelf]

I'll add on to the point of being of service. There's something you need to understand about it's opposite pole of 'TAKING SERVICE' mindset that most people are stuck in. This is the #1 reason you're ruining your relationships. Because you come at it from a taking mindset instead of one giving service. You take more than you give. For the longest time periods I looked at relationships as how could this person be of benefit for me? once I made the switch of "how could I provide service to this person without taking anything back in return" was the turning point in my personal relationships. Lastly, I'll end this comment with a quote on bible that can be applied to this point. "Luke 6:38 NLT Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full-pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.”

[@CrocPit]

Russel’s not just charismatic, he also has next level verbal skills, and the ability to stay calm in the face of even the most horrendous and hostile people!

[@stevenborg102]

Yeah I feel the skill of eloquence and ability to articulate ideas efficiently are the bigger keys to charisma and it's not really something you can learn.

[@LiaKing]

and his accent doesn't hurt!!

[@Medietos]

@@LiaKing Is it polished cockney?

[@icyx9268]

@@stevenborg102 why cant i learn it ? or could you teach me how to learn how to thuroughly articulate my ideas

[@Breathingmind1]

To all who may read this, remember that taking time for yourself to heal, rest and recharge is the least selfish thing you can do! To make this world a better place, make yourself better first, much love! ❤🌟

[@lgamble]

I am a therapist and if everyone practiced what Russell is saying in this video, the world would be transformed ❤️

[@shoshannahbrynjonessquare7002]

Totally agree! xo

[@sanb9459]

Another therapist here, 100% agree!🙌🏼

[@SmiteKite]

Not a therapist here, but still agree

[@williamnunn8847]

Its how to avoid being dragged down by the retarded ideas and actions around me. I'm blunt but also like a sponge, I absorb things around me, then try to change things and rant.

[@iggmeister4137]

@@williamnunn8847 you dont sound very charismatic at all

[@chriskanetrio9232]

We Need a “How to Expand Your Vocabulary” video from You ✌🏽

[@darknight1676]

exactly

[@louisgardner5580]

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[@runswithraptors]

Read books

[@chriscunningham8807]

Look up words you don't know or ask the person what the word means.

[@lucanreynolds947]

I definitely second looking up words you don't understand, even if that's due to the specific context. And really drill the definition(s) into your mind before departing again. Not a fan of the old 'read books' response. A lot of peeps read books and loove to romanticise it and because of this will never be able to realise when they get to the point where they think they are being productive by reading a book and then starts to become a vicious cycle, an addiction process, just another hideaway from your true self.

[@Jedi_VastImpactGaming]

Russell Brand is slowly becoming a Philosopher, he has always had a charisma and took control every time he was on some show. He is an amazing soul and a very deep thinker, He is also a knowledge seeker and I'm glad he sharing what he gained

[@tiagojordao4105]

An actual philosopher would never make a video called "how to become (something)". Other than that, I agree with you.

[@robin-vt1qj]

@@tiagojordao4105 they would actually. Sometimes a frequently asked question will be the title. And that doesnt have to be correct.

[@tiagojordao4105]

@@robin-vt1qj I see your point. But I still argue that's not the kind of intellectual stance a philosopher takes, because it implies a sort of solution that doesn't exist as such. But I do agree with you, especially in the context of youtube.

[@hindenberg507]

@@tiagojordao4105 someone is green with envy.

[@kevabela6307]

Yes. I agree. I always liked him as a comedian, but he is so much more. I love the way his experiences have helped him evolve into a truly great thinker and leader for our times. His work is deep and truly enriches others and the planet 🌎🙏💛

[@user-nj4vh4qz7q]

I have always been a very shy and introvert...but i found one key to communication and that is "kill your inner monologue and just listen" and it has helped a lot. I hope this helps.Cheers.

[@Breathingmind1]

You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟

[@MarrGalaxy]

Definitely helps thank you

[@TheLivirus]

If there's anyone I'd take advice from regarding charisma it's Russel. He clearly commands it.

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

Holy shit, how did it never occur to me that "having presence" requires being PRESENT. Wow.

[@phattjohnson]

Yeah, English isn't very creative like that :P

[@lynnfarley7851]

There are a lot of people who are here, but not present. I have a friend who is the epitome of this statement. She is not always like this, but there are days that I don't want to be around her. I would rather have a two way conversation with my cat, "Milo"!

[@lizburgessmb]

I know!! It’s instantly obvious once explained.

[@ken-mb5cp]

@@lynnfarley7851 Because we live in time and not in the present moment. Always thinking about the past and the future which never comes and the past is gone.

[@lynnfarley7851]

@@ken-mb5cp That is a very profound thought. I am going to put this on my mirror so I can think about it daily! Thank you!

[@buckwheat6245]

Seriously, is there a better person to talk about Charisma ?!?

[@ethankickett318]

Nope

[@steezboss]

Since Robin Williams is dead, nope

[@110654GREAT]

Mr. Brand is he def. of charisma!!

[@medicalinterest9091]

If your presence makes women " moist" then that's what he's got.

[@chriscunningham8807]

@@medicalinterest9091 Russell Brand is witty and attracts a loyal following of moist-eyed, and maybe moist-muffed, devotees. What fascinates me is watching the synchronised hand movements and occasional diversion when he hits that trailing plant or curtain.

[@KrisHalpin]

I met Russell a couple of years ago, and this was so obvious - he *really* listened to me; he was so obviously present :)

[@modeverde169]

"Then BANG look at them, then look away a lil then BANG" 🤣🤣🤣😭🤣 Russell you are funnyyy

[@peimanfazli1294]

Charisma - the ability to be able to influence without logic 1. Stay present 2. Listen 3. Be of service of to that person

[@a1lyhall]

p fazli Samadhi, (Sanskrit: “total self-collectedness”) in Indian religion, and particularly in Hinduism and Buddhism, the highest state of mental concentration that a person can achieve while still bound to the body and which unites him with the highest reality.

[@chriscunningham8807]

A great list. Make people feel visible, heard and understood. Help them out without expecting anything in return.

[@dylon8425]

a1lyhall Charisma on command

[@lynnfarley7851]

I am going to write this on my mirror right after the video!

[@butbutmybutt]

@@chriscunningham8807 noooooo, i did it, dont help to much, they take it as weakness and granded.

[@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862]

Making someone laugh without you putting in effort is a very beneficial skill to learn

[@lawrencelord9777]

Karan I’ve been there before bro you’ll make it out. Just focus on adapting to the situation

[@crisaunt]

Karan you’re making girls laugh dude you’re doing good, don’t focus on finding a sexual partner but focus on bettering yourself and connecting with the universe, the sexual partners will then come to you i promise

[@chriscunningham8807]

@Karan Charisma's not all about sexual attractiveness. Most people like the clown and welcome a good laugh. Robin Williams was hardly a sex symbol but millions loved him and mourned his death.

[@lynnfarley7851]

Really!? I just always thought they were laughing AT me. So, I would just "go with it."

[@Tukayo69]

This just clicked, I feel connected naturally as I have fostered the understanding that we all are. The lessons here about presence and getting "outside" of ourselves and into the moment if you will, is the key to flow state, charisma, and honestly, joy in all things. You are absolutely brilliant Russel, and all of you who listen, open up, exercise empathy and true vulnerability are also brilliant. We can all be, once we accept the inner brilliance we all have and share. Thank you for reading one and all, thank you Rusell for your time and contemplation through your lessons. Much love everyone!

[@allofmykek3884]

Man, I just feel like I vibe with you so much Russell. I hope I meet friends like you in my real life, but I'm grateful for you taking the time and effort to share your essence and charisma with all of us.

[@ReynaSingh]

Each of us has an energy to us. Charisma is the ability to attract people to our energy. We do this by becoming our authentic self. Stay blessed everyone!

[@Scribe13013]

You always got a charismatic comment

[@beccakeilwitz]

I think this is chemistry ☝️

[@sorcha259]

love your comment Reyna xoxo

[@merlinidlehands3302]

Russel is a MOVIE STAR and this is just him KILLING time until the next movie all the while staying in the public eye

[@medicalinterest9091]

@@merlinidlehands3302 There is no time. Now is all there is. Sorry, there's not even now. Just nano moments.

[@techytech1907]

Brand has an amazing talent in articulating human behaviour with such accuracy.

[@Retrochick330]

I love this. Especially the end where you ask us to imagine an arc of light connecting our heart to others hearts. I instantly felt a flood of compassion. I’m going to use this as often as I can.

[@Breathingmind1]

To all who may read this, remember that taking time for yourself to heal, rest and recharge is the least selfish thing you can do! To make this world a better place, make yourself better first, much love! ❤🌟

[@juandigarban2251]

00:06 Charisma is the ability to influence without using logic. 01:18 Charisma is about being present and having a real presence. 02:18 Charisma is about becoming your authentic self 03:20 Active listening helps overcome social anxiety. 04:20 Conventional systems restrict us in busy cities 05:07 Practice active listening and staying present while communicating with others. 06:11 Deal with your own neurosis psychosis and fears to be present and charismatic. 07:23 There are more subtle forms of energy than air and water that are interrupted and disrupted when a person comes into a room.

[@gwendolynsinclair]

Imagining an arc of light connecting your heart to another’s heart is a beautiful method of authentic connection. Love this suggestion!

[@medicalinterest9091]

Being able to break the imaginary arc is also useful.

[@donnalaguardia2686]

For me this statement touched me in a major way! ❤️❤️❤️

[@dianadias3]

I loved it too!! I am gonna use it for sure!

[@pandorafox3944]

I adore watching the interviews he is referring to here. He and Conan O'Brien have such a strong connection it's beautiful to watch.

[@ohwellwhateverr]

@@pandorafox3944 Conan strikes me as being one of the very few talk show hosts who is genuinely curious about his guests. He’s astute and observant and I think he also suffered with social anxiety, which might be why he chimes so well with Russell and Joaquin Phoenix and others like them. On other shows they get played for laughs and mocked as eccentrics, but he seems to genuinely understand them and want them to flourish.

[@davidknight8219]

To both be really present together and resonate feels like love.

[@emill2119]

I grew up with russell brand bursting onto the scene during my early high school years and thought he was the biggest douche bag head case. Now years of life and lessons, growth, heartbreak and loss, I admit I was wrong. This man in his entirety is brilliant.. and I am so grateful for you Russell. Bless you! Dont stop putting yourself out there! Takes a special type of person to be able to relay the messages you're laying down. Never in my life could I ever tolerate any of these talks regarding charisma or heart break. Thank you so much.

[@MrDadutch]

This is one of the most important video's I have ever seen and it's not so much about being charismatic, it's about being honest and truly interested. I have worked in child protection services for 10 years and the most people I got to meet and help were people that didn't fit the system, 'professionals' didn't know what to do. In alot of cases I managed to turn the tide and get fitting help just by going there, sitting there and not judging them. I have alot of life experience myself, including addiction, addicted parents and abuse, so i can relate to some of them. It was the most fullfilling job I ever had. This is the way to really connect with people. Be yourself, be honest and be interested.

[@RobinDivine777]

Beautifully articulated, thank you Russell. Being charismatic is something I've struggled with as my mind is often stuck in the past or future, so being present with a gentle warm smile and soft gaze is something I will try and cultivate into my everyday life.

[@MisterPol]

Every single leader is charismatic. Being charismatic isn't only purposeful for dating and relationships, but also for gaining influence

[@MisterPol]

Thank you for inspiring me Russell 🙏🏼

[@lynnedinsdale5009]

Oh yes power over others, he satanic see Tamara Magdalene site exposes them their signalling and signs and agenda its a ruf watch we need to learn this stuff to spot them.

[@jaz8406]

Thank you so much for this Russell!! You are a true inspiration. Incredible to see how you are growing on your journey and offering so much to others!! ❤️❤️

[@dexterquinn9896]

Can't thank you enough, Russell. Everyone of your videos has helped me pull myself out of a great deep darkness. Much love to you, mate.

[@return2innocence221]

I totally agree about the energy thing... sometimes a person walks in and they "light up the room" this is their positive energy/aura which literally sends waves through everyone else's vibrations (but unfortunately the opposite also happens and some people give off a very dark and negative energy and it effects everyone around them :(

[@chriscunningham8807]

Ironically dark personalities like Darth Vader have a very strong presence and can command large groups. Inspiring fear and awe has a powerful effect.

[@rorocio93]

@@chriscunningham8807 Darth Vader 🤣🖤

[@Onmysheet]

Take a look at the Netflix series Better Call Saul characters Chuck & Jimmy. Chuck a highly respected, clever elite attorney cannot charm or make anyone laugh, but Jimmy, a compulsive conman, rule breaker, fraud can light up the room in seconds by making people laugh.

[@anitataylor4287]

@@chriscunningham8807 yes

[@a1lyhall]

Samadhi, (Sanskrit: “total self-collectedness”) in Indian religion, and particularly in Hinduism and Buddhism, the highest state of mental concentration that a person can achieve while still bound to the body and which unites him with the highest reality.

[@ethancarter5568]

I'm sitting here watching this on a sunny morning. A week back, I was diagnosed with a terminal illness. I've been feeling depressed, lost, and despondent. This morning, while reflecting on how I wish I'd have been more charismatic in my life, I stumbled upon this video. I loved watching it. The content is brilliant. But what really got me, what inspired me to write this was the part about eye contact (timestamp 5.03) how you should look away for a bit then Bang! A bit of eye contact! Just made me smile to be honest. This small jovial moment unplugged me from how down I've been feeling. So I just wanted to say Thank You for making me smile. I really appreciate it.

[@Ps3992]

Hoping you doing great buddy

[@ethancarter5568]

@Reynaldo Paredes Still fighting the cancer, but staying positive and digging daily for strength. Thank you for asking, it really means a lot!

[@thesteph8925]

@@ethancarter5568hey! Keep fighting bro. Life is beautiful and you deserve to experience more of it. You are such a positive dude even in the face of such a huge adversity. Be strong bro

[@appletise]

"Charm is a way of getting the answer yes, without having asked any clear question." - Albert Camus

[@tima7756]

Russel teaching charisma is like a fish teaching how to swim. They're just like ok do a little of this and a little of that and bam you got it

[@anic5805]

Actually, he did a fine job of guiding people to gradually reveal their own shiny charisma... not by focusing on "being charismatic" but by being fully present, listening fully attentively with a blank mind (no agenda, strategizing or other "mental noise" ) and coming from the heart. I've been on this path for quite some years and, well, it does make communication as well as navigating through all kinds of challenging people and situations a lot easier 💖🐬☯️

[@nosohoentertainment4642]

Sure, it's like a fish teaching (other fish) how to swim. Charisma should come naturally... A lot of it is unlearning certain social habits to etch our presence down to a more authentic self. By no means is it easy, but I believe it's simple.

[@King9tails]

Russell Brand is the master of charisma! I always looked up to him and glad he talks about this.

[@palkys.]

Amazing how he's describing what I eventually went through after being shy for most of my life. However, I do not believe I would have understood this the right way back then. A blocked mind is the worst.

[@charlottenugent8647]

Just a note: I am not reacting specifically to this video but just wanted to comment on a feature of the series as a whole. I am so impressed with you Russell when you allow your guests to talk without any interruption. I know there is an aspect of compulsion for you when you talk. It is difficult for you to be so silent but it is awesome!! What a gift to your guests. You show them such graceful respect when you do so. I am REALLY impressed knowing as I do, how hard it is to do that when compulsion is present. Your growth is really on view, congratulations. 👍🏾💋🙏🏾🤪

[@maggiesmith6013]

I loved the river metaphor. I grew up with a river in my back yard. My favorite spot was to sit on the roots of a big willow tree with branches arching over the water and skimming its surface. So sensitive to the slightest of breeze or wave.. Sometimes it's just noticing.

[@MattAngiono]

There are entire channels on charisma and this video blows them away in 8 minutes.... If only everyone watching them could see this! I wish I had known this growing up, and hope this message gets more attention. It's the least narcissistic advice possible in a culture being ripped apart by self centered values. It's the handiwork of a true sage! This is why I love you so much Russell!

[@TechographyTimes]

Seeing you speak in this video was captivating. I was hanging on your every word which speaks to your power of charisma. I am grateful to have watched it and will try my best to be the same and to attract others like minded in the leg of life’s journeys. Thanks 🙏 so much for taking the time to share your wisdom. I hope that you and yours are safe in these times and look forward to your next video.

[@Breathingmind1]

You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟

[@Kailiria]

I needed inspiration and support, and a weird, seemingly insignificant series of events sent me right to the literal words I needed to read. Brought tears to my eyes.

[@brunerrob]

I think it also has to do with how open your energy is- your open heart and mind. People are drawn in more by your energy than anything else. Some of the most charismatic people I’ve encountered have big ideas and are great communicators, a result of open flowing energy, but it’s their big open hearts that make me want to listen and receive. Russell has a big open heart.

[@SoFkwHat80]

I would love to make my conversations flow like Russell , effortless .

[@SoFkwHat80]

@babajohn100 Well you seem to be pretty good at that .

[@katerinakosatkova7728]

Books.

[@phattjohnson]

Increase your vocablatorial knowledgacation. Read more books!

[@SoFkwHat80]

@@phattjohnson I do read a lot of books ( honest) it's confidence i need as well. Love "vocablatorial".

[@Medietos]

@@SoFkwHat80 He got confidence by working the 12 steps. Have you done them? Might help!

[@dylanappenfeldt2442]

"How Can I Be Of Service To Someone ". Brilliantly Simple but Thank You!

[@HeatleyBros]

In my own contemplation on the subject of influence, I think I came close to its essence. I realized that to be influential, I needed to stop thinking about influencing, but rather, focus my attention on being influenced by others.

[@timinno]

Hi Russell, be interested to hear more of your thoughts on social anxiety!

[@SquirrelThis]

I love that he is talking about the responsible helpful side of charisma. The idea that charisma is a tool and can be used positively or negatively. It all comes down to intent. I'm also glad that he touched on the potential cost of charisma, in that if you have it, you need to keep a handle on it, or it can over feed the ego it can become a huge deficit to your own growth and then negatively affect the people drawn to it in you. Just like money... It a powerful tool but also a pretty enticing trap. 😬

[@Breathingmind1]

To all who may read this, remember that taking time for yourself to heal, rest and recharge is the least selfish thing you can do! To make this world a better place, make yourself better first, much love! ❤🌟

[@SquirrelThis]

@@Breathingmind1 I was gonna flip past this, cos it seemed random. But it is surprisingly spot on to what I’m going through at the moment. I look after my mum who has dementia but a couple of years ago after a series if highly traumatic events I broke down… and I haven’t been able to pull myself out of the depression pit I fell into. Sometimes I pull away from mum if I hit a really rough spot, but she gets upset and feels frustrated if I do this. I feel so guilty not being able to do more for her. My mate told me the other day, it’s ok for your mum to get bored if it gives you space to breathe, but I still felt bad. Your comment basically says the same thing. So thank you for that. I did read it and it feels a bit like a timely reminder from the guys upstairs to say, you’re friend is right. it is ok! So cheers ☺️ ❤️

[@Breathingmind1]

@@SquirrelThis Your very welcome. May all your wishes come true. God Bless. 🙏🏼✨ I hope time will heal all wounds that you are caring. Be strong stay strong.💪🏼

[@iHezza]

Going through all of your content is kind of helping me deal with a bad break up. 10 years with someone who I thought was my soulmate, 2 young children with her too.. haven’t eaten in 4 days and I still feel like my heart has sunk to my stomach 💔

[@anarmorarm]

I just want to take a moment to say how GRATEFUL I am to be hearing about charisma, something I entirely lack, from someone I would consider a master at it. I will struggle to adapt your words (I'm usually the person who makes a room silent and closes off communication upon entry) and escape the trappings of my own head the next time I remember you spoke them when in a situation during which they can be applied.

[@Medietos]

Ray Man: I am too tense from sleep-deprivation, endangered and isolated to have access to most of my humour. We may have other qualities that are worthwhile until humour bursts out.

[@petju7]

I’m going to try to stare psychotically at people while yelling ‘BANG!’ That genuinely made me think of how charismatic you are so hopefully it works for me too. 💥💫⚡️

[@medicalinterest9091]

Tell me what happens next time you do that.

[@petju7]

Medical Interest lets just say I guess there’s more to charisma than just that. 🙄😬😂

[@lynnfarley7851]

Funny! Now that really made me laugh out loud!

[@hedvigaminoff295]

😂

[@angaeltartarrose6484]

I've never had the sense of Russell being a narcissist. Yet, he has genuine charisma, & has always been himself. It's like it breaks barriers, to be reveling in being yourself. I really like him, & have from the first time i saw & heard him. He has matured beautifully!

[@DeirDreAmWhispRing]

I love your podcasts Russell, I have gotten wis-bits(bits o'wisdom) out of every one I've listened to. I would love to see an interview with you and Louise Hay-just curiously, because of her views about what addiction speaks to in our relationship to our general health. Thanks for your stand in compassion and clarity. You set such an excellent example in your own eloquence and charisma!

[@othyton8346]

Russell You have a very beautiful, poetic way of articulation and presentation that I've always truly enjoyed, having been a fan of your comic / acting career(s) since my introduction to your work years ago, and after watching you're KZbin channel, I find myself even more impressed and captivated by you as a person, I'm sure I am one of millions and you hear this at least once a day, but I'd absolutely love to get the chance in life to have a full conversation, just watching your videos Alone is so stimulating that a conversation would likely be a mind blowing experience, a real Jeffrey so to say. Thank you for being you!

[@Scribe13013]

I got a lot of charisma. I've been told that I'm full of it...i assume they meant charisma

[@ayeshak6822]

Hahahahaha

[@verasmith1900]

LMAO 🤣😅😂😂🙃🙃

[@chriscunningham8807]

Taking the micky out of yourself works wonders to put people at ease.

[@jayjayjay4788]

@@chriscunningham8807 What about you, Chris Cunnilingus? - :P LOL just kidding.

[@RussellBrand]

I get the same comment brah🤩

[@1STBUCKLEY]

Look forward to every talk. For me it's meditative just listening. X

[@NotUrAverage786]

Thanks for this Russell, made me laugh and cry within the space of a few minutes. I love this perspective, it's not a contrived formula so often found in self help videos. I also love how you honestly address your personal struggles with anxiety and confidence, as we all do to varying degrees at various times. Thank you for sharing 🙏 We could all do with giving ourselves permission to feel those, sometimes, uncomfortable and paralysing feelings that get in the way of us being our best selves. We are most charismatic (and powerful no doubt) when our social mask/persona/ego can loosen its grip and melt away in favour of our essence, authenticity and uniqueness to shine through, and in doing so we can recognise the essence and uniqueness of another. The key is to be present and self aware.

[@Ericarothwellunravel]

I'd be so grateful if you could take the time to check out my guided meditations and subscribe if you enjoy them x

[@Breathingmind1]

You will heal, recover, and relive life again in a new happy joyful body… every thing you have been through will make sense to you.. it takes back to your soul ❤🌟

[@hindenberg507]

Russell release an audiobook on this subject please, you have an excellent voice for audio

[@Sandalphon13729]

I really respect and love this channel!!! Mr. Brand has become quite the philosopher... I have to say though “still one of the funniest guys in the history of funny” to me. Always excellent timing and extremely funny. Btw, the accent is amazing too!!😇

[@emperorlelouch5696]

Absolutely wonderful. I believe that with enough practice everyone can be able to be like Russell and share the joy and bliss of presence. What I've realized lately is that for me being an overthinker I have to love to forget things and love to not remember what I have to do. That's the best way to be present. Of course you have to know when it's appropriate to do this but with just step by step I think it's possible to find the balance.

[@PrDannyRomero]

WOW, that final example of imagining an arc of light between your heart and the other person absolutely connected to that person. I imagined trying that with him and I felt it. Crazy.

[@simplynazou]

Thank you for this poetical message Russell. I needed this today.

[@marshaalison1569]

“Don’t do it psychotically” 🤣 Good advice

[@CherylMuir]

"There is a great force of energy within you that is unlived, untapped, unlocked..."

[@lynnfarley7851]

And I lost the key!

[@ead1361]

@@lynnfarley7851 read the comment before replying she said it’s unlocked who cares if u dont have a key

[@claire360outdooradventures7]

This is brilliant , thank you for sharing your knowledge, I find it hard in group situations, especially when people are talking all at once or over me plus I pick up on peoples feelings drives me nuts lol ❤

[@nikol7951]

Wow, beautifully said Russell, thank you for sharing. Looking forward to practicing these tips! Warmest wishes.

[@sarahswetlik1034]

Brilliant! Anxiety can definitely get in the way of proper listening..

[@pmkaka]

Charisma quite essential, if we are to enjoy the journey. Yes look into the left eye! Focus!

[@therealgigi7838]

I'm changing for the better slowly but surely thank you Russell I appreciate you.

[@rohansrivastava6224]

Thank you for addressing these questions finally. We want more on this

[@SmartStr33t]

One thing I've noticed we're less interested in developing our own charisma than we are finding other people with it. The reason for this is it's hard to feel the benefit of your own: you can think, "wow I really engaged with that person and asked insightful questions which helped them know I'd really heard them and also helped them see a new perspective." but you still leave feeling like you did not have an authentic encounter because you were the one trying to be all those things. So you've given your charisma but not received any in the transaction. So we seek out charismatic people to be near because it feels uplifting and nourishing to us, but being charismatic is less immediately rewarding.

[@Ominousbean2024]

Yes exactly

[@moonpie1240]

Give some of the energy that resides within you to the person you are communing with, but always reserve some for your own presence

[@brentsta]

There are so many of these videos out there. This one clicked with me for some reason. Made me actually interested in becoming more charismatic.

[@danielluna7648]

I liked who you were, but love who you've become. We need more transformations like this. The world would be a better place is people evolved more.

[@lauraaqui219]

Good to see you on KZbin Russel, I enjoyed your thoughts and talk. Quote: your calling card is your smile, your Business card is how you leave others feeling after having spent time with you. That's my moto! Think about the effect you have on others when you meet them. Laura in uk

[@aboveall9180]

You have Instagram? What’s your @ if you do

[@charlessampson5319]

Do the inner work then the energy will flow outward.

[@TheHSoko]

I saw Conan had you in his show again today Russell... April 16, 2021. I notice that every sho you have been a guest on...You always try and connect at heart level. You do it always with good humour and lots of love. I am so inspired by this and will try and emulate this in my life.

[@nourxnf]

I adore this man, and im learning a lot from him, im lucky to be living at the same time as him.

[@rossybink]

Being of service to other people and being selfless is a good thing. Being taken advantage of is another.

[@RobHollanderMusic]

Russell, I'm glad you're not in movies like "Arthur" anymore. You've found your true calling over the years and I appreciate your videos.

[@therealgigi7838]

I love you in those movies its acting skills you have them love you just sitting and talking or on the movie screen.

[@LosAngelesBeast1218]

Russel is so right, we even do this when we watch KZbin videos, we go straight to the comments and are distracted from that actual information in videos

[@withnailsnails]

Hitching a ride on the collective consciousness, always leave a tip. Love ya Russ, full flow forever forward.

[@henrye6245]

Russell is so charismatic, he could set up a cult... In fact maybe he already has 🤔

[@christydyson4516]

I was JUST going to post this. I never could understand how people could fall for shit with cult leader. Until I started following Russ..LOL I got of a 30 year drug addiction, because of him he rocks!

[@henrye6245]

@@christydyson4516 that's amazing, you should be absolutely proud of yourself

[@katjaxxx7353]

agree

[@Malepresentingtimelord]

I bet his cult would have really good catering

[@boreduser12]

He'd lose his mind being near all those illogical people around him.

[@danielkaewdonprai8869]

ESSENTAIL TiME Stamps: 00:06 Charisma is the ability to influence without using logic. 01:18 Charisma is about being present and having a real presence. 02:18 Charisma is about becoming your authentic self 03:20 Active listening helps overcome social anxiety. 04:20 Conventional systems restrict us in busy cities 05:07 Practice active listening and staying present while communicating with others. 06:11 Deal with your own neurosis psychosis and fears to be present and charismatic. 07:23 There are more subtle forms of energy than air and water that are interrupted and disrupted when a person comes into a room.

[@ramlinshoes]

You just great. Always reaching for your better self and sharing what you’ve found to help us on our journey.

[@videowatching9576]

Love the 7:20 onwards - notion of charisma through to imagine an arc of light from your heart to the other person, yourself absolutely connected to that person, deep truth that we are all one, that we are awareness looking at awareness, that all material things through entropy of the universe - but that this great awareness, subtle energy, and this awareness will remain, this bridge between us, as a way to approach being more charismatic or present.

[@allthecommonsense]

It also probably helps greatly to be generally informed, knowledgeable, experienced, and "bring something to the table". Doing 1,2, and 3 at 6:12 will only take you so far with "charisma" if you are an empty vessel.

[@lkeefer3825]

Russell is the breath of fresh air in the world of mish mash. Tip my hand to you dude.

[@SteveGriendling]

I, like Russell, am always trying to soak up knowledge and understand the world around me for many reasons, one of which is personal growth. what he said about listening is so relatable. I'm aware I sometimes skip organic flow of a conversation and talk over people. I'm checking myself on it more and more as time goes on, but what I find so freaking hard is that because I am actually listening, as I'm digesting it all I have questions...usually a lot. sometimes they're pertinent, sometimes they have nothing to do with the conversation directly, but it's always a genuine curiosity not meant to cut someone off. I can't help it. and I know of I don't ask those questions right away I'll just forget them. but i'm trying, I'm aware of this flaw, and I am really trying to give up the floor when someone has it and -listen-.

[@manuel8617]

If you're interrupting to clarify what they're saying or because you're genuinely curious about something they mentioned then there's nothing wrong with that , it actually signals people that you are extremely present and intrigued about what they have to say.

[@SteveGriendling]

@@manuel8617 i must admit that it's not always that. like for example if someone mentions a film and starts talking about it, my mind will start compiling a backload of questions, relatable points, add-ons, etc. and in the middle of them talking they'll mention the director's name and i'll try to make an association, but the backload of info leaves me drawing a blank. so i'll have to get to the bottom of it before i can continue to listen, even though it really isn't all that important to what they're saying. i'm confident saying i listen intently and with genuine curiosity, but i can tell when i interject that often times it's not very welcomed by the person speaking. that's what leads me to believe i'm speaking out of turn too much.

[@WHITELIONNYC]

People (offline in the real world) regularly describe me as charismatic. I just used to read a lot of books. I used to spend hours after school in the library and on weekends as well. So when I speak I am confident that I both know and understand the subject matter; and because I have studied so many different subjects, ideologies, etc. I am also confident in wherever the conversation may go and when I'm delighted by something new or something I am unfamiliar with I listen and ask many questions. Also, there is a bunch of back burner stuff that goes on: body language, observing reactions, listening to changes in the voice of the other person, and feeling their energy. The way I see it is basically be true to yourself, truly listen and be open to what the other person/persons may say and receive it. I believe for a person to be charismatic is not a one way street. It's our souls meeting at a very specific frequency which allows the charisma to flow and continue the connection.

[@annh1615]

Love this. I think I have no problems to be present with another person face to face. I can be charismatic in single encounters. But I have a real difficult time in group settings. There are so many different energies I have to deal with at the same time that my brain is overloaded and I feel super uncomfortable sometimes even at the edge of a panic attack and I can't think of something appropriate for everyone to say. What to do about this?

[@lebronramsay13]

Ann H Yeah kinda same here

[@victoriatoner5082]

Yee me too I had that problem in uni in 2019 I couldn't relax in group settings very well sadly just did what I could to go and do it when I was able too just about I always feel nervous before going.

[@vincemaria3981]

I think it’s sort of letting go of caring about the distractions and thoughts of the group and allowing yourself to just be…and do and say what you really think. Maybe?

[@TheZippyMark]

I think they key is not to talk to the group as a whole, rather talk to individual people, cycling around the group.

[@davidbrobb]

Here's my take and it might not suit everyone, but I think about it like bringing in my own energy instead. Rather than trying to cater to individual dynamics and the crossovers you get with sub-groups within groups, just be yourself and say what you would say if it was one person. Respond to the energy that multiple people create as a single energy rather than multiple. Kind of just ran with that thought hope it makes sense haha.

[@CommonSenseProject]

What a charismatic guy. He should start his own podcast.

[@frozengamer3030]

He does

[@return2innocence221]

Lol

[@prodbyastroboy]

Russel… you are changing my life. I am so thankful for everything. You are like my fahr her that a never had in my childhood…

[@christinetuttle8975]

God bless you Russell (voiced in my head the way he imitates his Mum, lol) trying to help others with charisma, lol. For all the years I have been entertained by you I have never seen anyone exude the natural and commanding charisma that you have. I liked you more when you were funnier but I still can't seem to resist you even when you get a bit preachy. Your heart is so big, I wish you the all peace and happiness you, as we all, still seem to be searching for. I hope everyone that watches this gets a little more charisma and imagine our hearts connecting - I am going to practice because I have so much social anxiety I babble like a lunatic around people, lol. Thanks Russell!

[@JohnnyWalkerBlack142]

Best to learn charisma from the most charismatic man alive

[@jessicag4929]

So much love for this human

[@nickmcinley6712]

? he is a rapist

[@Deadwetgothuncle]

@@nickmcinley6712Be gone BOT!

[@nickmcinley6712]

@@Deadwetgothuncle lol dont take my word, look it up

[@DebraWilderMeditation]

Be my best version and charisma are much needed topics with insanity of world right now. Russell and Bear are master teachers of both.

[@mdntctyvlcn]

It's amazing that this is the same man in _Get Him to the Greek_ and _Forgetting Sarah Marshall._ We truly live many lives in one lifetime. Everything he just explained is SO profound! Thank you, Russell!

[@rinhu8864]

There's a book, the greatest salesman, I recommend, it won't work for everyone but I found it very good

[@return2innocence221]

Sounds interesting

[@yoelpixula6298]

In my job i just thinking all time about any other thing than be in the moment. I think is why im always alone in lunch xd. Saludos desde Chile

[@goldfishy3925]

Thank you for that wonderful advice, every time you speak it's just so refreshing I look at you like I look at mushrooms I think of them as teachers.

[@dabaest_EG]

@russelbrand Please make more videos like this. Your character and thought patterns are admired and would benefit a lot of people. Beliefs, behaviors, and thought syntax is valuable.