How to Become Your Best When Life Gives You Its Worst | Peter Sage | TEDxKlagenfurt

What would you do if you became the only non-criminal locked up in Britain’s most violent prison? That’s exactly what happened to Peter Sage. His world was turned upside-down when he served 6 months as the only civil prisoner in one of the UK’s toughest jails, but ended up winning acclaim, friends and a national award for his work that changed the lives of many prisoners. In this TEDx Talk, Peter shares his story along with how you can deal with the toughest situations and become your best when life gives you its worst. Peter Sage is a well known international serial entrepreneur, author, philosopher, personal growth expert, and teacher. His unique way of looking at and relating to life has inspired millions of people worldwide to reinvent themselves. Whether by improving or turning around a business or developing a new and empowering psychology through practical yet profound shifts in awareness, Peter hopes his insights and teachings can offer something of value to those who seek it. To find out more about Peter, visit his website www.petersage.com and subscribe to his KZbin channel at / petersage007 This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@merlynjagger8080]

"If you're complaining about something that already happened you're wasting your time"

[@DR-nh6oo]

So I shouldn’t worry about anyone else becoming a casualty of the same problematic people? So long as I have survived I can now move on?

[@jakkimassey904]

@@DR-nh6oo There will always be exceptions to "the rule"

[@juavang1833]

The only way I can counter this statement is if you’re at a restaurant you gotta make complaints.

[@DR-nh6oo]

@@juavang1833 How else will they know what mistakes they are making, and if they can’t take constructive criticisms, that is the clue to never go back.

[@AudraGibson]

Not sure this is completely true. Sometimes complaining (respectfully) can lead to having the situation corrected, compensation, better self reflection, communication, or wisdom.

[@kynaatlodhi]

Just what I needed "your environment does not define you, it simply gives you the oppurtunity to find yourself."

[@v.dargain1678]

Well said .

[@gioborges1226]

🔥

[@UPAKHOSALA]

Excellent quote

[@farazrasool2753]

Hello Kynaat

[@danicaredd7490]

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[@greysmatters3116]

I can't even process the dude's mentality. He's so high on the emotional maturity level.

[@CraigsOverijse]

He so isn’t he is just a self promotion freak

[@NN-bv5bk]

People lie, very often people who tout all this postivity stuff, never suffer much in life, tend to have things relatively easy.

[@Scotland-the-Brave]

Right! He sounds like just another motivational speaker. Hence the Tony Robbins quotes in his talks.

[@shantanu9404]

@@CraigsOverijse ugh. Sod off.

[@teacherfromthejungles6671]

@@CraigsOverijse did someone trick you in the past? and you're still sad and angry about what happened?

[@amber8349]

When I was younger I always hated TED talks because they’d play them in school all the time. 15 now and I can’t stop watching. It’s amazing how much you can learn from these people. Props to this great guy for bringing such a great lesson to everyone.

[@hookbeak3516]

It all depends on your approach to learning, at school the teachers try to cram their student with as much as the curriculum demands, which can mentally exhausting. If you maintain the 'yearn to learn' it becomes far more pleasurable, to learn without educational pressures. As you're starting to realise Amber.

[@dusk3315]

OMG same and im 15 and im always listening to them! lol

[@adamt9834]

@@hookbeak3516 yeah I wish I had that desire to keep learning I was smart but hw wasnt my thing and yeah I'd say just all the curriculum I got exhausted and stopped trying as much, big regret I could have easily done way better and absorbed alot more knowledge that I now see in a lot of situations are nice to have

[@sagarharsora6433]

Its all abt who you surround your self with

[@purvasawant6169]

You were lucky that you got all the motivation from your school. I've come here after life lessons.

[@tessdupei3259]

"The strongest force in the human personality, is the need to remain consistent with how you define yourself."

[@henningerhenningstone691]

"Freedom is a state of mind, and nobody can take that away from you" - more important than ever these days

[@ChrisFarrellChannel]

"Behavior follows mindset. Not skillset". That hit.

[@coilyreflections]

Going through something right now and stumbled upon this. I cried during this talk from gratitude. This definitely hits different when you are weathering the storm. Peter Sage always comes through with the wisdom.

[@mariaioanna1975]

i totally agree with you

[@lindakariuki1715]

I equally am. I had to replay this video and take it in word by word. I hope that in one year from now I will revisit this reply and add a like to it after moving past what I am going through at the moment.

[@marksheraton5953]

As soon as i was arrested i thought (Who i am and what i want is now irrelevant) I did not turn my self back on until the day i was released. Ashamed to say i was a Criminal that deserved it, but now proud to say i am not any more.

[@user-gz4ko4lj8h]

The first step to transform yourself is acknowledging and being able to call yourself out when you know you’re in the wrong. Big steps ahead of you my brother continue to be a student of life. 💪🏽

[@marksheraton5953]

@@user-gz4ko4lj8h Yes

[@visionaryqueen4876]

Your environment never defines you, it simply gives you the opportunity to define yourself. Wow

[@planetx5269]

You have taught me to accept where I am in life today.

[@v.dargain1678]

Uh-huh . If there was a light at the end of his dismal tunnel , then there's probably one at the end of mine . I've never done any jail time .

[@zi_4dpy]

How do you do that ? How do you cope with big career fail and regret? I am in such pain due to a catastrophic career choice and dont know how to deal with it..

[@angelmcmurray]

My eyes popped open when he said change the mindset! Exactly! A close family member of mine needs to watch this! I’m so happy I clicked

[@sottosotto4056]

everything i needed to hear after years of panic attacks

[@tanzilaleeya]

Me tooo...

[@v.dargain1678]

Same ! Chronic migraine sufferer here .

[@Serratosteven]

I fucken hate panic attacks I yousto think people were bs about em but karma came around and I was having em didn’t even know what tf was goin on it came when I least expected it still tho as bad as they feel I always try to fight it every time 💯 never in my life has gave me that type of feeling it’s different from any other pain I’ve felt (anxiety & panic attacks) I’ll never underestimate em again i really had to work to at least get through them I’m glad I don’t have em constantly nomore

[@sottosotto4056]

@@Serratosteven I also did not understand panic attacks and by mistake have told a few people just to "get over it". "It's all in your head". But once i had my first panic attack, i completely understood the sheer terror they were going through. It is a type of feeling that I would not wish on anyone. What helps me when I experience these is immiedetly grounding myself in the moment by calling out three objects around me. And then touching three objects. And then I'm back.

[@Serratosteven]

@@sottosotto4056 never thought of that technique hopefully i won’t have anymore it’s been about 6 months but still it hurts to the point where I’m like damm I never new I had these feelings before stowed away and I be boxing and was always a stand up guy a lil cocky I had to-humble myself after those incidents I just knew that I wasn’t as tough as I thought I was aha still tho the last time I had one it was like the 3-4th one that month and I was already adapting a lil to it not saying I couldn’t feel the pain because I forshure did but I was Conscience of it and my self talk was my way back to reality

[@Yogs365]

AMAZING talk, so very inspirational! (Best part? “I’ve never seen anybody so happy on their first day of prison!”)

[@snipershotsphotography7915]

Simply coming into acceptance to where you are right now.

[@parkerjaylazeski]

Anyone who has read the famous book Think and Grow Rich knows that every adversity carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit. Peter’s inspiring story is a stunning example of how to apply this concept in the real world and turn an obstacle into an opportunity to help others! Bravo!

[@Gia_Java]

This man is so powerful. THANK YOU!

[@Hana-zr1nn]

"Life is not a comfort centric experience but a growth centric experience"

[@karentrace03]

❤

[@rachaellouise2666]

KZbin always gives me what I need

[@markrebollido5551]

Perks of having a personalized algorithm for your suggested videos.😄

[@andreamonroe1214]

Thank you for sharing this video, I am going to play it this week in my groups. This is awesome, thank you "Mud or STARS"

[@toneo6710]

Very powerful mindset shift.

[@JohnMulryE5]

So many powerful messages in this video. Thanks so much for sharing!

[@raho24]

Thanks Peter. You are the real deal. There are only a few coaches outside who are able to walk the talk in those circumstances. You live what you teach and its a pleasure to have you as a teacher. Thanks again for this inspiring video. And btw I think it was a gift for the inmates to have you there.

[@andressgricai4704]

well said

[@aylamorris]

I really like this man, he speaks the truth and delivers it in a way that makes me want to work harder.

[@phyllismknapp6038]

He is very handsome too!

[@divyanshuji6879]

@@phyllismknapp6038 😂😂😂

[@AmareProfunde]

Wow he's the most positive person ever. That's a super power

[@Subayal]

Great talk ... I read the book of Peter "The Inside Track" and it is one of the best books I read !!!

[@JohnMulryE5]

It's an amazing book Subayal

[@psadventuretravels6487]

@@JohnMulryE5 q

[@WILMA_]

@@JohnMulryE5 - - what is it about?

[@JWill951]

I got his book and mail and I can't wait to read it

[@kevindunne9461]

Really good speech I was in prison in Ireland for 10 years I can relate to that speech, very good and smart positive bloke

[@jeremykermott537]

14:58 "...the best trees don't grow in the best soil, they grow in the strongest winds. So if you want to be the best version of yourself, start praying for strong winds, and don't complain when they show up." I've heard that many people pray for patience...and then they proceed to go through situation after situation where their patience is pushed past their limit. As for myself (already knowing that about people who pray for patience), a few years back I prayed for strength. Guess what happened...I ended up going through situation after situation that was like those "strong winds", so that over and over again I have felt like I was pushed so hard that I was at my breaking point. (A few times, I did feel like I had been broken.) I still don't feel like I am strong-enough to bear the burdens in my life...but I'm stronger than I was before, stronger than I was months ago, stronger than I was years ago when I prayed for strength. It worked, but I had no idea what I was asking. This is a good analogy in the video. It clarified and gave me words for what I already realized had happened. Now I understand that when I prayed to be stronger, I was praying for "strong winds" to come, I was inviting change to come in my life. I don't like the wind...but I now know that I don't have to fear the wind or shrink back from it. _____ Another important tree analogy that I have learned from is from the Bible (Jeremiah 17:7-8) about being "like a tree planted by the water that extends its roots by a stream, and does not fear when the heat comes". Like how this presenter, Peter Sage, had a purpose in mind when he went into the prison, ... I think that it is important to know where your strength comes from. It matters that you know what you believe, and that no matter the circumstance, you can choose how you face it.

[@johannevanderghote7577]

♥️🌟🌷

[@felicity681]

Thank you Peter for this gift. You are generous and inspiring.

[@olivergrimbly8785]

Refreshing to have such profound principles taught through the lens of experience not theory. Seeing amazing results in my life having applied the principles mentioned in this ted talk. Thanks peter!

[@keithpotter7366]

He is very powerful and drives it home.

[@gemmaatterks]

I love the Mud or Stars analogy, really got me thinking.

[@philandjomasters5587]

Truly inspiring story. It’s one thing talk-in the talk but quite another walking it. I will be sharing this amazing story with my all my family, friends and business network. God bless you Peter.

[@ianrendle]

what a great ted...

[@stanhopeishere]

Yes it is, loved it, I am also sharing it.

[@charlesaddington]

This man speaks very powerful words.

[@PatrykWezowski1]

Thank you Peter for sharing your amazing story! Very few inspirational speakers would have passed the test of applying what they teach in such hard circumstances. You're a huge inspiration for the world!

[@yannwithayahuasca5858]

Awesome, as usual from you, Peter. Currently reading your book, The Inside Track (got a signed copy from our friend Elliot Reeves, of Inspired Edinburgh, ex Edinburgh Real). Not a page without some valuable insight. I wasn't expecting it to be this good, yet i've been a bit of a fan for 5 years. Still remember the day i stumbled upon your words. Changed my life. Thank you.

[@samuelygeissler]

I'm glad I've discovered this guy, straight talk no bs advice

[@samuelygeissler]

agree!!!

[@georgiarouse]

thank you I needed this today

[@theresarives]

this resonated with me on so many levels and the end made me see things so different.

[@deanpatton9753]

The Inside track Audiobook or physical is a great book about Peters experience and others very encouraging

[@fredbrodersen2734]

this guy crushes it.

[@IAmTheRealJoker]

looking for it now.

[@Jules-dn9jl]

Oh gosh, this man is amazing.

[@GlennSM28]

Well done Bro. Excellent as always x

[@sonalkumarsingh9601]

The way he has expressed is just Phenomenal and his journey reflects positive attitude.We always complain about our adversities.

[@jabulanisamuel5450]

I just lost a friend of mine from suicide on Sunday( 28/05/22) at Rhodes University in South Africa. I’ve been looking for an inspiration to move forward because my exams are here

[@flowtoolz5554]

Wow, he really did create something out of that horrible situation!

[@tinatina-tq4tj]

If you enjoyed this, you should get his book, The Inside Track. I’ve been doing personal development for almost two decades and everything I need is in this one book. I’ve read it four times and it’s my go to book when I’m being tested by “earth school” Peter’s teaching add significant value to my human experience which isn’t always cupcakes and awesomeness

[@nicholaskolokotrone]

think I will, is his stuff still working for you?

[@judico5525]

So uplifting and inspiring! I love the gems on his FB page too.

[@therealmr.unicorn]

Ive seen him live - his talks are good, very powerful. Like this lots Peter, got your books

[@levshalazar]

I'd like to see him talk live too.

[@ishathalwar]

Agreed

[@hasnain-jeelani]

love to watch great powerful speakers like this.

[@marissabalidoy2449]

God works in wondrous ways! He turned your adversity into an opportunity to make a big impact in the lives of people... just like the prisoners you helped. I pray that more people would be like you... helping to make the world a better place to live in.

[@valenciaponomarenco]

🙏🙏🙏Bless this man wonderful speech🙏🙏🙏

[@paulseaward4916]

Peter's Ted talk combined with his recent book release "The inside track" will most definitely raise the level of consciousness of every human being that reads/listens to them. The best 10 dollars I have ever invested.

[@agnespuentes]

I'm glad I've discovered this guy. Great speaker.

[@sygb.550]

Imagine this guy goes to a work interview and they start by "tell us about yourself" And he says this

[@DudeSaint]

So interesting

[@pradeeptavirlleypv2335]

I will hire him :)

[@mukthatumkur3324]

What an inspiring orator! "Many of the gifts in life that come to us come wrapped with a thin layer of problems. Probably to stop somebody else from stealing our gifts."

[@imchl]

You’re such a great man Peter. Your attitude is admirable. Wish I could bring myself to that level of optimism, it’s really astonishing!

[@TheRealPeterSage]

Honoured. Thank you. Though remember I'm just a mirror, here to remind you of your own greatness my friend.

[@romankoppel2989]

Amazing guy, amazing share, just like his last ted talk ! keep it up Peter !

[@bernadettejones7597]

Peter Sage - A Beautiful Gift that keeps on Giving

[@charlenealger5770]

There is a always something good in everything challenge in life. It is seeing a reason and purpose. Your perception and attitude is everything! Love this story Peter! You planted seeds that changed lives! God bless 🙏 you!

[@prospersamva1070]

Valuable life lessons, great job Peter Sage.

[@RoryKilmartin]

Such a powerful story and such an inspiration for overcoming adversity in all our lives. Thank you Peter.

[@v.dargain1678]

Same . I Thessalonians 5:18 . Here made it pragmatic .

[@mineshpadhiar9518]

Super inspiring how Peter turned such challenging circumstances into ongoing impact around the world! Wonderful principles to help anyone overcome adversity in their own life. Thankyou! :)

[@briannavantifcampen]

He is an amazing man and very handsome too.

[@serene1486]

I REALLY NEEDED THIS TODAY

[@wandamccauley]

One of the best talks I've heard so far. I applaud you sir.

[@gazioktay441]

very powerful

[@rickyohe]

I like this a lot.

[@sarahedwards3342]

I loved this Ted Talk Peter. You always manage to turn the negative into a positive. Forever my mentor

[@theoallan7474]

Have you met him?

[@sarahedwards3342]

@@theoallan7474 not in person. I had the pleasure of interviewing him online.

[@faiyazkabir41]

I consider myself to be very lucky to come across this talk... life wasn't going very well, but now I will use my tools...

[@technana3.141]

What an incredibly gifted beautiful man. Peter , I've been going through a very tough time the last while and you miraculously showed up on my phone feed a month or two ago. You have been comforting me and helping me get better at viewing life as an adventure without even knowing it. Your wisdom is so far reaching.

[@michaeleveleigh2479]

A true sage! Wow contrast frames are cool.

[@v.dargain1678]

Absolutely . Experience mixed with sagacity , patience and kindness . That's a sage alright . That's what I see too .

[@MorfMusic]

Yesss Peter!

[@Nathan250494]

One of the most valuable tools that I've learned from you is that Life is a growth-centric experience. It's still hard to realize what an example that you've set in such an environment and thanks for showing and inspiring me what's possible!

[@stanforeman3951]

yes agree.

[@sudarshanbadoni6643]

Freedom is a state of mind is ultimate which I will remember throughout my life. Such a personality achieved every thing even if has nothing. Thanks for such a great real life story of the presenter.

[@happinessyogateacher]

Thank you so much. My brother at age 43 was unjustly sentence to a similar prison in America since then my mother and my sister have died from heartache because we can’t believe that someone innocent like my brother will be trapped in a prison he’s been there for 14 years and we worry about his life every day

[@TheRealPeterSage]

So sorry to hear that Debbie. Send a copy of this message to my assistant at D E A at petersage dot c.o.m and I'll have a copy of The Inside Track Letters Sent to him with my compliments.

[@miriamhilley]

Great 'talk'. Really well structured and delivered with wit and passion.

[@Michael-dt9im]

Truly one of the most inspiring talks I’ve ever heard! I listen to it every few months and no matter what’s going on in the world this video always lifts my sports

[@thamarkay7721]

i don’t know why this video has under a million views… this man is brilliant!

[@nl9805]

💯

[@andrewaupositivepsychology]

This is a powerful speech combined with real-life experiences that is one of a kind. I'm thoroughly inspired.

[@jasonrobinson9997]

Terrific talk, very moving, look forward to seeing more of your work

[@jemimahsanggo2470]

One of the best ted talks, this is so inspiring and compelling

[@sandeeppal5186]

Thank you so much. You are always surprising us with your energy and motivation. Again one of the best talks by Peter Sage.

[@maureenbrown7065]

Such a strong talk, this is why I like Teds.

[@mariannemortimer7724]

Me too, this was a surprise.

[@maureenbrown7065]

@@mariannemortimer7724 yes sure was

[@mariannemortimer7724]

@@maureenbrown7065 haha great minds think alike

[@daveallanthedave]

very powerful, amazing talk

[@tammykinsella7983]

Very powerful and inspiring. We need to have this as a course in our secondary schools to help give the students the resilience they need to move positively and purposefully through their lives

[@daverotheroe]

This was great! It takes a lot of guts to take a situation like that and turn it into something positive. Awesome.

[@stuchristie8798]

Awesome, inspirational talk. A man that truly made the most of a bad situation and helped a lot of the guys inside to get through their situations.

[@KathyMcDevitt]

Yessssss!!!! Peter Sage so proud of this talk, you made me cry and you inspired me at the same time. I am so looking forward to seeing what you are going to do next and i am glad you are out of there my friend. Big Hug.

[@tamiya384]

I loved this as usual!! Peter Sage has a way with his words and his analogies, so we can better understand the way of life and the situations we are put it. Really just gave me a different perspective on the way I will now look at conflicts in my life so thank you 🙏🏽

[@lenatbrown]

So powerful! Thank you!! 💝

[@lillianndambuki7513]

Just came across Peter Sage last week and I am now following him. Amazing teacher, coach, person. He was created to better others. God bless Peter Safe.

[@jodikennedy8886]

I really love this talk, empowering!

[@helenkinson9063]

Love your attitude! So inspiring! Thank you for helping me see things from a different perspective😊

[@romamohammed1317]

Thank you for your true share ..life is a battlefield for everyone and we all are warriors in this unique battlefield world we all go through, everyone has their unique battles to fight with by ownself abilities ..thank you for your unique the hardest battle lifetime journey shared..great RESPECT for you..God bless you.

[@spaceman6541]

Dear Mr Sage, You are a true inspiration. You have the art of untying knots without actual touching the knot! Thank you.

[@bluecatjay5229]

I need more of these Desperately

[@tammymatsu8873]

Amazing Talk. Thank you Peter for shining your light in this world so brilliantly.

[@hsuwaiphyo8392]

Thank you so much❤ I really need this

[@lacarioca151]

Wow, what a story! I cried from half of the video all the way until the end. So inspiring!

[@piglo318]

Thank you for this. I believe that conquering patience and like you said unwrapping the paper to see the gift in adversity are top notch to living a life with meaning

[@Gratefulden]

Thank you🙏🏼 I really enjoyed hearing this today👏🏼

[@coreykansasbell]

Great talk, I have head him a few times, always delivers.

[@charlesdonstand]

thanks bruv for the link

[@karlopeternel7685]

My enormous respect

[@robinmohan9202]

This is without doubt one of the best Ted talks I have seen. Some wonderful lessons for us all!!!

[@josensi1583]

Wow, what an incredible talk! His words hold so much power and truth!

[@odeshsingh2330]

My criticism of inspirational speakers has always been that these are people who put together nice speeches without knowing what people in the real world have to face. But you walked the walk in that prison. My hat is off to you Peter. Two questions: 1. How did you control your fear in that environment ? 2. How do you stay humble after that experience ?

[@pamelajordan7116]

I needed to hear that, thank you.