How to begin the healing process after child sexual abuse

Dr. Joseph Austerman of the Cleveland Clinic discusses some starting points for treatment of a child who has suffered sexual abuse.

[@sbhatwa1786]

The worst part is knowing the person who did this to you as a child is out there somewhere free. I literally can’t even report it somewhere because there’s no proof. It happened to me as a child, and had no clue what was going on. Only until high school did I realize what happened to me.

[@sbhatwa1786]

@aylin alz I’m so sorry this happened you. I hope it gets better for you. If you can’t report him then please be safe around the person. Keep your phone on you and surround yourself with your family or people you trust. Try to avoid him best you can. It sucks not being able to do anything but just remember the day will pass and it will soon be over. Hopefully it will be your last time seeing him. Try to focus on your studies and getting a good job after college. For me personally going to college and moving away from toxic people really helped me. I moved out of my town into a big city and made so many new friends and had so many new experiences. It was so healing for me. Trust me it will get better one day

[@chrisysun5343]

This is so accurate. It happened to me when I was around 7 years old and years later I really understood what happened to me. I always hated it to be touched and couldnt stand people getting close to me, even my family or friends. I think when I was 16 everything got a little bit clearer for me and I knew that's the reason why I'm acting that way. I have a boyfriend now and it took me so long to open up to him or even let him get close to me, but he understood and gave me the time I need. He's the only person who can get close to me. I've also experienced flashbacks but he always comforts me. The thoughts are always there but I'm trying to live with it.

[@abcdefg-wn5qb]

@@Ash_Cat9 I hope you have other trustworthy adults in your life that you can talk to about this. Ones that believe you and can help you. I hope you’re safe. I’m sorry

[@magnetofreud32none79]

I appreciate every response and story told! 🙏🏿 I also dealt with this as a 6yro-13yro boy dealing with a older female, my folks don't know it'd crush them (they're the best parents you could ask for) 1. Relationships and approaching women physically isn't easy or natural, public pda is cringe for me, lots of pot holes in those paths. 2. I wonder where she is now her life, how many others. 3. I forgive her because she learned it somewhere. 4. I think 7/10 people deal with this. 5. I've dated about 25 women, 17 have shared stories, 5/9 of my closest males friends also. 6. I didn't remember any of this until I was....23 I'd blocked it out and remember suppressing the images. 7. I'm free now as much as can be, and more empathic bc of it. 8. What happened isn't our fault/responsibility, healing from it is though. I send love to everyone who reads this, and or dealt with these dark days.

[@MargotDemi]

So true 😭 I reported mine last year because I had evidence, my brother witnessed it, there was medical evidence from when I was 4 that I was SA’ed. they still couldn’t get it to court!! She’s out there living her life while she’s destroyed mine & I have crippling mental health while she has a business & I’m struggling to get by each day

[@julianna8638]

Healing for 22 years and I’m realizing this will take my entire life

[@SuSu-so9vp]

It is not easy to heal but I pray for you girl

[@darthrex6267]

Same time for me but I feel like I've never healed. I'm such a mess and I've done things to try to deal with it that were just wrong. Here's hoping the ride ends, I just want to feel nornal

[@melanie2966]

Darth, don't give up. Try different things. I have tried many approaches. It's trial and error really.

[@MargotDemi]

I don’t think we ever will fully heal but more so get less angry & hopefully have a happy life & sadly learn to cope with it :(

[@johnlowe1138]

We are in this together!

[@tqh1786]

One of the biggest struggle of healing from sexual abuse are intrusive thoughts of looking back and wonder if experiences that had gone wrong and added a whole lot of regrets, sadness, self hatred, etc, would have been avoided. Those you’ve hurt and lose because your behaviors were messed up based on effects of sexual abuse. It’s part of a long process to forgive yourself from what you have done. Can’t say it wasn’t my fault cause you did hurt people. It drives one crazy trying to figure out if it would have been different. Some may say to learn from it and move on. It’s not that simple when again, regret is stuck in the head and heart.

[@jrthegoat7841]

TQ H omg bro I can relate that’s exactly what I’m doing now

[@tqh1786]

It’s part of the process. Can’t do much to change the pain but part of healing is to feel true emotions. Guilt versus remorse are different and similar in ways. Guilt leads to no hope, remorse leads to hope of making changes. Use healthy ways to cope, which you may not always be perfect perfect applying them, but so what, just always refocus on engaging in healthy coping strategies. Then wait it out, like surfing, there will be some clean sets of waves coming. Then wait it out again. Quitting isn’t a choice, commit to healing no matter how hard it gets. Hang in there my fellow survivors, pain is real but so as healing.

[@jrthegoat7841]

TQ H so u went to therapy

[@tqh1786]

I did about 3 sessions, but I was ready to talk which is something that is not easy but I believe talking is the best medicine out there. I was specific with what was hurting me, then I was open to what my therapist would guide my thoughts to. It helped opened my view. I stopped meeting my therapist cause I felt I couldn’t open up about other thing I didn’t want to bring up. I knew I had lots to still be working on, but I decided to do it my self. I have good support also to put up with my crap, which allows me to continue focusing on healing. I’m still healing and I’m much better than five years ago when the trauma hit me hard. There are many way for healing but therapy was a catalyst in my case. I’m still having to battle at times with my trauma but I thrive more than survival mode. Oh, I did not want to do therapy at all, but my support kept encouraging me to so I went guarded but at the same time knew I would have to get my self to open up if I really wanted to heal. Time plays a big factor in the process. Just don’t give up.

[@jrthegoat7841]

TQ H daam u lucky my mama said it was my fault it happened to me and I’m weak

[@ready2explosivo]

It's so hard to get over this, I try everything even therapy and the thoughts still linger in my brain

[@wl415]

I don't know how to ask for help I've never told anyone in real life but on my own I've been trying to heal but I do think I need therapy I' just don't know how to ask I don't want my family to know it would only hurt them and they would blame themselves

[@VicToriousCollecTion]

Exactly

[@kaylastamps6196]

@@wl415 I completely understand. I really think I need therapy too, but I do know that the first thing you need to do it realize that healing isn’t about anybody but you. You have to do it for you and only you. Your family will be ok. You only have one life to live.

[@meharbansekhon2834]

Mine too really very very very painful 😭😭😭😭😭 even not love for myself

[@furquanahmednazir281]

You all are brave souls. I believe you will heal 💫

[@LodisVlogs]

My sister was touched by my step father and I told my mother when we were younger and she turned her head and mentally and emotionally mutilated me mentally for my whole life for speaking up 😞 it’s been very hard getting over my anger and pain from our mothers abandonment... but now I’m starting to recognize and try to do the work I need to rest my pain and have love flow through my heart and soul again.

[@Dayroom]

I’m so so sorry. No mother is a real mother if they do this to their child. My mom abandoned me after I told her about my father abusing me. I’m 18 and still stuck with them. I hope you can heal and find peace, it’s so scary to have to depend on yourself for it

[@neatmagenta9328]

The memory always lingers. I hope one day this pain will lessen. I’m finally getting help after being sexually abused by my father from ages 4-6 (that’s a rough estimate, I’ve blocked many of my childhood memories) - I’m 21 now and I’m fed up with how this trauma makes me operate in my adult life. I just want peace

[@mechboltxl4591]

I hate it when your own parents abuses you. That's the worst thing that can happen. Parents are supposed to look after their kids, not betray them.

[@soempty9565]

The girl i love was sexually abused as a child. We broke up last year as a consequence. Somehow I broke her trust since I didn't know about it then and now I don't even know how to win her trust back. I don't know what I can do to help her i love her so much.

[@kaiyahollister8910]

these comments are terrifyingly relatable, and its sad that this is so common, yet we all tend to feel so isolated and alone in our circumstances.

[@madisonminicozzi9075]

I can’t figure out if what happened to me was real or a dream

[@SuSu-so9vp]

Madison I am praying for you too girl, this is a difficult and horrible experience to heal. Always remember you are loved and cared from people far away too(Myanmar). I sincerely hope you will get better in future. Take your time to heal and seek help from any community help services, Therapist or online. Remember this is not your fault and no one can blame you

[@Aaliyah12394]

Same here

[@skullrose29]

Sometimes you dissociate from your trauma while it happens, and so the memories feel like they came out of a bad dream. My memory from when I was 2 felt kind of fake. Too many uncertainties. I suspected sexual assault but wasn't sure. Could've been something else altogether. Last weekend, my grandmother confirmed my worst fears. So... I'd say talk to someone about it and see if someone can help you come to a determination of whether or not it happened.

[@amiahallen934]

I’ve never related to anything more.

[@elliewuzzup7689]

Honestly children don't have sexual dreams. Period. Children should know nothing about anything sexual. If you remember something like that and it seems blurry it's because your body had to distance it from your memory to cope. Therapy can really help. One step at a time. ❤️

[@selineshanice9499]

I'm afraid to never get over it. It feels like I'm in jail in my head. I just want to be normal 😢

[@mmalone9650]

For few minutes of enjoy they ruined your entire life 😭😭😭😭😭

[@Ayesha______]

I’m sorry

[@kewtea]

i was gr*omed by my cousin and coerced and got m*lested by him through the ages of 4-6, and didn't tell my family until i was 11. they acted like nothing was wrong and kept talking to him. it's so normalised now, i feel selfish at times for wanting them to all burn in h3ll for what they've done to me but i know i don't deserve the treatment they give me. it's so hard, i don't even know what to do. i go to therapy and have intense anger issues but the fact that their first instinct was to justify his actions and defend him still hurts. im still living with my family and im 14 now, i still don't know what to do or how to move on in any way shape or form. my siblings are kind of no longer r*pe apologists now but the rest of my family hasn't changed. i hope they all suffer. i hate them. so, so much. i also didn't know it was morally wrong until i turned 12, and it still lingers till now.

[@plazadechula]

hi there. i've never posted a comment on youtube before, but I am so compelled to do so here. I am 24 years old, and two years ago, I finally told my family that my dad's sister had been m*lesting me as a kid. she gr*omed my younger sister and I until we put a stop to it about 5 years ago. since then, nothing other than my parents being internally upset, nothing has really evolved. my parents told my grandma, who asked that we not tell my grandfather, out of fear of revealing the truth about her beloved daughter who m*lested not only me (a girl), but my male cousins as well. my grandfather died two weeks ago and i am working through the fact that they stopped me from telling him to protect her. it will take years to work through this trauma myself, but i will remain hopeful that one day i will get the justice that i deserve. it has destroyed my relationship with my grandma, aunts and uncles, and cousins who do not fault her for hurting me. i feel extremely disgusted with them over it and do my best to live my life as peacefully and as happy as I can be. it has taken two years of weekly/biweekly therapy to work through this and for me to work on my anger over it. i am so incredibly sorry that you have experienced this trauma, it isn't fair. yes, you may feel alone and incredibly angry with your family, i do too, and that is 100% okay. just do your very best to protect yourself, cope with this trauma in healthy ways, and remember that you do not have to be with them for the rest of your life! you have so much to look forward to. if you want to pursue college, you can move as far away as you want and live your life. the future is so bright for you. there is so much to do in this world. you're ahead of me, since it took me until my adult age to say how i was wronged. i am so proud of you.

[@kaycan8104]

@@plazadechula Thank You for Sharing. It was encouraging.

[@aleee9214]

i experienced this at age 4-6. Im 22 now and i havent told my parents. my cousin who was maybe 20 years old sexually abused me. IM sorry u went through this.

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

I told my mother when I was in my early 30’s that I was inappropriately touched by a cousin, while staying over to play with my girl cousins: age 7-9 and the perp did it again: preteen years, as I just wanted to hangout with my girl cousins to talk girl stuff, do hair and makeup, goals but I never got that. Here I am, nearing 40 healing this awful wound and wanting to attend nursing school- away from home. I know I need to seek therapy in order to move through the emotions and set myself free so that I can be able to love because I do want to bare my own children with a loving husband.

[@chcamerica22]

What is the suggested treatment for lingering trauma in the adults who were abused as children and never received treatment?

[@armoryourcastle]

Counseling, Trauma therapy, EMDR, other therapies, The emotion code has also worked for many.

[@synergyvid]

Clinical MDMA treatment supported by somatic experiencing

[@BetaBuxDelux]

I’m hoping to try TMS soon.

[@MG-fr3tn]

Losing trust in someone, being threatened being vilified by another. Blamed for acting out. It's creepy and lonely, if you like someone as an adult you have a bad concept of what that is, it's like your revisiting the shame .

[@roseystudio10]

I was sexually abused by my older sister, really messed me up since. Now my younger sister acts JUST like her, and it genuinely triggers me. I get flash backs, I feel unsafe and vulnerable. It's terrifying, even if she's no longer living with us. My younger sister doesn't know this, and I'm afraid of telling her because she looked up to her. I just want her to have boundaries.

[@elliewuzzup7689]

She may have been abused too. I really hope not but that behavior doesn't come out of nowhere. If you are able, seek therapy. I know it can be hard but it helped me so much. It is important to speak about what happened. Not just for you to heal, but because your sister could do that again to someone else. That being said it isn't all up to you. You are doing everything right by watching videos like this, and wanting healthy boundaries for your sister. My cousin found calling a hotline helped because it is free and you can record what happened for records but they won't contact police or anything without permission. At the end of the day just know you're not alone. Healing takes time but it is possible, I speak from experience.

[@attivamp6435]

This is something I just cant overcome.

[@lonemerkmel6097]

It’s impossible if u want to talk I’m here man

[@attivamp6435]

@@lonemerkmel6097 thanks..really sweet of you.

[@dylane2396]

Speak to a lawyer, or if it’s a family member make them confess to all your family and threaten a lawyer if they do not do so.

[@attivamp6435]

@@dylane2396 I really appreciate that but I have nothing to prove some thing that happened 30 years ago. No lawyer on the earth can help.

[@LutherAEvans]

Mindset is really important. If you think you can't, then you won't. Healing really is possible, so you might as well give it your best shot. Don't give up. I'm rooting for you.

[@ThepookieIsis]

Healing is possible! Don’t give up.

[@aleee9214]

I realized I will die with this trauma. I was sexually assaulted at age 3-6 i cant really remember. Now my childhood memories are dissorted and idk what really happened. whats real and whats not.. was it a dream. I left my brain and the memory of my abuse came back in pieces when i was 18 / 19 years old. Im 22 now and i do not know how to deal with this.

[@neatmagenta9328]

Aleee Im 21 and was abused throughout the same time period. I don’t know you but I know exactly how you feel. Wondering if it was real or a dream. I feel like I’ll die with it too

[@aleee9214]

@@neatmagenta9328 I am sorry. It is the worst pain ever. I feel for u. I have good days and bad days. We just got to push through.

[@fyroblox5059]

MAJOR TW/MIGHT BE TMI BUT: This is exactly how I feel with the whole I can't remember when it happened but I know it happened because my brain repressed my memories trying to protect me from them (didn't work) now I'm 15 and I feel so helpless I don't want to tell anyone like my parents because it just would ruin everything and I don't want pity and I got the some memories of it back around 2 years ago but only since last night have I actually been affected by it I had a i think a mild panic attack when trying to sleep and it just hurts so bad like physically my chest hurts but I wasn't r@ped I was just touched and that's how much it had affected me...

[@epicmonkey6663]

i was around 6 or 7 now im 22 and struggle to cope i just smoke weed watch shows movies or play video games and pretend im not me for awhile its not the best way to cope but keeps me from having emotional freak outs and thinking too much i even do feel like different people sometimes because i have no idea who i am

[@chubbypanda3398]

Idk but iam 19 and only this year the memories came to me ,they are not very clear but idk it's the worst pain knowing that you didn't know anything, it's not your fault but why I deserve that ,iam hurt iam angry ,iam sad that those people are free and living easily while iam left to deal with the pain they have caused me . 😭😭

[@speedtrialss]

i feel like i've tried so much but it just won't go away i wish i could forget even if it meant forgetting everything

[@SidratulMuntaha-zk8zc]

My maternal uncle abused me when I was around 7 years old. It still haunts me. Worst part is that I let him doing what he wanted to do. He was my role model back than loved me very much. I thought it was normal until I realized that it was all manipulation 😭. Feelings of guilt shame. Also I have to see him frequently as he's a part of my family. I never told anything about that to anyone until I was 22. But my mother didn't pay attention at all 😭

[@deku3i]

I was sexually abused when I was younger and my parents didn’t believe me. I still live with my abuser and it hurts seeing my mother act like nothing happened, this will stay with me till I die.

[@Dayroom]

I’m so fucking sorry, no one should live like that. I live with my abuser too and I’m 18 it’s so endlessly scary

[@abcdefg-wn5qb]

@@Dayroom I hope you can tell a trustworthy adult in your life who will believe and help you. I hope you’re safe. I’m sorry

[@abcdefg-wn5qb]

I’m sorry. I hope you have another trustworthy adult in your life who you can talk to about this. Someone who believes you and can help you

[@skullrose29]

Why would anyone sexually assault.a child? Shame on you from the time you took that child innocence away, for the rest of your life.

[@fyroblox5059]

TW/TMI: I'm now mentally fucked because of it, i really don't understand people especially after it happens they're so nice to you and build a relation with you and your brain repressed those memories and suddenly they come back and now you're confused because you love them and hate them

[@alamahdi2191]

I just wish I could make it go away. No matter what it’s always there. Everyday it effects everything I do.

[@neatmagenta9328]

I hope it gets better soon Im wondering when the same

[@siraloistragedy]

I got molested a few days before my birthday by my cousin, this happened a few months ago. Im scared of him, i think he's under my bed right now but im too scared to check, he was 17 and i was 11. My neck, i want to scratch it off because the way he kissed it, i can't explain how angry i get each time i feel his disgusting lips on me, i can feel it just thinking about it. I hate it so much, please someone make it stop

[@blackgreen4171]

Have you spoken up about it?

[@siraloistragedy]

@@blackgreen4171 Yeah, but I live in a home where I'm mentally abused, my mom did nothing when I told her

[@Tali_b]

I used to think growing up after the fact that is was my fault and that it was all my idea, that I was messed up. It wasn’t until he apologized to me 10 years later that I realized that it wasn’t on me. I still get that feeling sometimes but I’m still trying.

[@garimakumari1806]

It happened to me when I wasn't even a teenager. And I thought I had maybe pushed it at the back of my mind. But recently a few months back I started feeling all those things. And those feelings just keep getting stronger and stronger. And I don't know how to deal with them.

[@narcissisticabuserecoverys8732]

I am a rapid transformation therapist and I specialise in helping people heal from the trauma of sexual abuse. I use hypnotherapy to uncover the root cause and I can heal without reviewing the scenes specifically. This is all about how the experience has left you feeling about yourself, others, life and the world. My process has a 1 session shift component, it means we always get a big shift in the first session.

[@linmillymae3546]

SallyG TV , where are you located? Do you accept patients remotely?

[@gautierh2486]

I don’t think this works

[@user-lu6yg3vk9z]

Where are you located at?

[@sarahgriffiths9750]

@@user-lu6yg3vk9z All of my work is online, my clients are worldwide. I do my sessions via zoom.

[@ccwccw5624]

Do you realize that this childhood trauma, especially when occurring within the first three years of life, leaves the victim in a permanent fight or flight mode and so they can't be hypnotized because the frontal lobe is always engaged in that mode. This therapy was a huge waste of money and time for me. Do you have this trauma in your own history or are you just going on a script of recommended psyco babble?

[@charlenejames3154]

I need to watch this ! Cus I’m still struggling with my childhood trauma . Raped by my stepdad and mother believed him .

[@ottaylinesmart3736]

I can’t trust anyone anymore, I don’t believe that they view me as something other than an object. Sexual abuse also lead to my asexuality, I get to watch people fall in love and forget I exist, whilst I can’t even stand someone touching my shoulder. How fucked up is it that I blame myself, i was a little girl, hoping someone would look after me after my father abandoned me.

[@eddiegranberry5276]

I still love my big brother but I can't quite let it go because i am stil suffering from my own thoughts of being sexually abused by him.

[@drstinky8396]

Dude I totally understand I can't love my brother after what he did I get scared and cry but we got this man I'm so sorry all love man the worst part is is the they never get that we are so badly traumatized I don't know how old you are but I've learned that we have to try and move on. hard I know I can't even begin to think about having s*x because I get scared I'm so sorry I understand

[@neatmagenta9328]

Is it me or since COVID have many people realized and started the healing process of childhood sexual abuse….

[@andreaclemente6291]

I was abused by my brother so my family cant help me

[@noracellehcim]

You can always go to someone!! Please know you are not alone and people care about you! If you aren’t comfortable sharing it with your family talk to someone else like someone in your school who can get you the right help or a really close friend!! Please know that you are a survivor!! 💕💕💕

[@glorias8451]

No one will ever understand my feeling except, maybe, those who were also abused during their childhood. I struggle every day because so many things around me remind me of what had occurred to me 41 yrs ago. The damage is severe and irreversable. Sometimes I just pretend that it never happened. But it's a lie and it's so mentally draining to keep lying to yourself and to pretend that you're ok when you're actually not. I know I was the victim, I was just 4 yrs old when it happened 😭😭 yet I can't help but thinking that I was the one tb blamed all the time. I despise myself, I really hate myself, I just want to torture myself all the time. The only thing that keep me from killing myself is my love for my mom I don't even know how much longer I can hold this feeling, I don't know what is going to happen when she's gone. 😭😭

[@epicmonkey6663]

i was around 6 or 7 now im 22 and struggle to cope i just smoke weed watch shows movies or play video games and pretend im not me for awhile its not the best way to cope but keeps me from having emotional freak outs and thinking too much i even do feel like different people sometimes because i have no idea who i am

[@crismattos1888]

It’s very sad to see you children go through situation How painful for the mother see the children so hard 😔😢😭

[@Selen304]

I was sexually abuse by younger cousin girl. I was 4. And she kept doing this whenever possible until I was 15. Everyone used to tell me that she was smart, beautiful and I was black, weak. Even my family is dysfunctional and they will accuse me for this. I am so so familiar with their guilt tripping. She still keep touching me whenever she get chance. I don't have confidence to tell her off.

[@itswaytoosandy777]

How old are you and have you ever told an adult that you trust and feel safe with ?

[@Selen304]

@@itswaytoosandy777 I am 25. I did never tell anyone about abuse. I won't. I have no one reliable. I haven't attended college for 2 months because I get harass in bus by particular people. I just cannot tell anything. I am too ashamed to tell this public abuse to mother.

[@S.alt_lowkey]

Literally happened my whole life. I'm not going to speak up and talk about it when I grew up not believing it was wrong. No child would ever tell anyone as soon as it happens. That's death right there.

[@tortoisepetforest3875]

I just want to forget if but I can't. If I did I could be happy after all these years

[@YourNosesShadow117]

Same

[@clararosalinda1146]

What do we do if we are the victim yet our parents didn't care to take any action to heal us

[@starshibe4231]

So true

[@FraserTheLaser123]

I have almost convinced myself that I’ve dreamt the whole thing up even though I know it happened, it’s still on my mind almost everyday. Does therapy actually help you in overcoming it?

[@j3nsnow]

im on the same boat

[@FraserTheLaser123]

@@j3nsnow but then I think there’s no way I could make up being molested at like 6 years old, I wouldn’t even know what that was and I remember it so clearly. I always make jokes about it when it’s on my mind and it definitely help. It really affects me when I’m getting with a girl and it pops into my head. I literally get a cold rush down my whole body and it puts me right off. What helps you? Feel free to private message if you want to talk about it

[@justiona7972]

@@FraserTheLaser123 your story sounds exactly like mine, i cant tell if what happened was real or not. but why would i dream that at 5 years old?

[@FraserTheLaser123]

@@justiona7972 exactly, it definitely did happen. Apparently it’s a defensive thing to tell yourself it didn’t happen but it definitely did. I’m on a night out just now but message me if you need to talk about anything bro

[@justiona7972]

@@FraserTheLaser123 oh wow that makes sense. thank you will do :)

[@Sugah2009]

I’ve learned to forgive her for doing it, not just because of my religion but it helps me going forward, not her. It’s not for her. It’s for me to forgive and helps my mental state

[@YourNosesShadow117]

Never

[@Dayroom]

The ptsd is horrible I’m 18 now and so dysfunctional

[@topnotchbauce]

Somebody i love now had went thru this she sometimes get triggered I really need help to figure how I can help her & in a way move pass this I had the urge of harming that person many many times

[@cowabungga]

I was abused by my step father. He wouldn't let me do anything fun unless I do sexual favors for him.

[@neatmagenta9328]

I hope you find safety and peace

[@cowabungga]

@@neatmagenta9328 thanks a lot, im in a better place now.

[@SovietUzbekistan]

Have you been healed?

[@basicbase749]

I am trying to forgive my dad. I am helpless.

[@terryrwyatt]

What if a person block out their sexual trauma from 1 years old til 5 years. Blocked it out til they were 47 years old???

[@shineyourlight111]

Same, but from 3 yrs old til 13 years old. This year forced me to have the time to slow down and not be so busy with work to where I'm exhausted to think. I'm 42 now and now wanting to heal from this. I don't even know where to begin.

[@di5833]

You’re whole life is a mess if a parent hurts you. I’m a victim as well and getting along with things is really tough. After being bullied at home.. as an adult I’m bullied at work. My mom still picks on me routinely and I don’t know how to stop it.

[@terryrwyatt]

@@shineyourlight111 I innerstand where you are coming from. What has helped me is knowing from spirit it was chosen by the higher self for whatever reason. Ive noticed so many personalities through all my triggers. I examing them so much from a third party point of View its helped me to innerstand why my uncle did what he did to me. He had a very tough childhood him self. From that trama creates a mind set that is rough living with until I figure it out. Now I listen all night when i sleep and much as i can during the day. Great audio books and rebuilding affirmations. Like powers of the subconscious mind to self love, you are enough, gratitude amd the list goes on. See our minds were wired for lack amd self hate. The way to change that is habitually Listen to Wonderful audiobooks and affirmations as much as possible cuz everything we listen to what we watch it all programs us so all I've done is change what I program myself with but having self-love is the most important thing to have

[@mamiyah2934]

True. Some Mental Health Therapy Centers does not help. A metrocard is the highlight of the day

[@mellowmation9027]

My boyfriend was sexually assaulted when he was younger. The man didnt take his pants off or anything but I guess the guy was humping him. How do I help him through this? He psychosis because of it. I need to help him. Any suggestions?

[@cg2kgod903]

Coming from me as a man that was sexually abused when they were younger is just try to make sure he knows that your really there to support him because trusting people is super hard for him and he'll do the same if you are going through anything in life as well

[@jasontodf8837]

Agreed trust is very very very difficult you must establish this constantly and ease into it. It's always gonna be there but it doesn't with you if you earn his trust and he is relaxed with you it will be ok.

[@mellowmation9027]

CG2K God I’ve been with him for a month and he’s been doing okay

[@plantplanetearth509]

Give affirmation that he experienced something that was inappropriate. Validate that what he went through was wrong. Assure him that he is no longer in that situation and that it is safe for him to express his feelings about what occurred. Thank him for trusting you enough to share what happened. Let him know that you are sorry that he had to experience that. He definitely needs to report to authorities what occurred.

[@only1_negus]

I was abused by a family memeber when i was a kid he was 2_3 years older than me i have never told this to anyone im sharing thi for the first time a decade later

[@fearless6734]

When i get a bit older and understand what happened to me i was so scared to get out cause maybe it will happen again i was so scared i might saw the person who did that to me I felt such a shame

[@Ishallnotbezesty]

what if its the grandmother that is doing it to my male child and we live in her home? Then she plays it off and tell my child not to tell, she acts normal and her and her friends treat me like am crazy.

[@compactcontent1150]

What if it's your own mother?

[@dylane2396]

Call cops or a freaking lawyer , if they are denying demand a polygraph test. The only closure is the perpetrator in prison.

[@LutherAEvans]

Is the situation the same? Don't let the abuse continue first and foremost! Protect your child. It is one of the worst things in the world anyone can go through. Not only because of the abusive situations themselves, but because of the long-lasting affects that it has. Move out. Eliminate her and those other people from your and the child's life. Do whatever you need to do to keep your child safe from this point forward. You already failed, but you can't change the past.

[@LSDANNY7x]

Thank you

[@randomgirl3396]

I am grateful I never went through this 😳

[@tylerf.145]

You're lucky.

[@ma.alexandreatuazon4932]

your lucky so take care... don't trust anyone

[@MB-nb7yq]

That Guy With Unfiltered Opinions I’m sorry. 🥺 I keep hearing stories about boys being dismissed about this unless they’ve been victimised by a adult male. It’s disgusting. Society must do better

[@lonemerkmel6097]

Ur very lucky man I was really stupid lmao

[@dylane2396]

It hasn’t happened but it’s not out of the possibilities, do whatever u can to get out of any uncomfortable situations.

[@mamiyah2934]

How about the empty chair threapy. We don't want to hear the counselor problems or they falling asleep in your presence. Because they have Diabetes.

[@sudarshanachand3303]

Good video

[@JadetheGoober]

Weird, today i called a doctor’s office that he used to work at to audit appointment availability for him. That is extremely weird.

[@ishaq177]

Pls do some research or make documentries on gay psychology in Pakistan Northern Areas.

[@leomenna-ongtampos6935]

Hi doc.. I'm asking you for the very important questions hopefully you gave for me an answers Do you beleibed sexual abused for not seeing people liked an invisible people's How can find a real justice for this kind of Problems

[@mamiyah2934]

Therapy

[@davidk.7264]

So true

[@fatmaibrahim4196]

Thank you

[@Stjepko15]

Help pleas i said to my parents and they said it will be ok and im SOOO scard now pleas help do im gonna die im spooo scard😓

[@kyndalpettis4486]

Fear not.

[@megadoodoo3194]

My mom blame me instead of the person that sexually assaulted me... i wanna fucking cry rn

[@Fluffadoodle]

@Ephraim Samuel George have you ever thought that they don't believe in Christianity? Just because I'm pagan and you're Christian does not mean we will not end up happy in the end. Give them an option. If they don't like it, move on. Don't preach.

[@jeffreyrichardson]

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[@jonathanfunnell4167]

i'm looking for a video i saw on child sexual abuse where a girls teacher or coach offers her a ride, a girl's neighbor tries to make an inapproprate video of her, and a boy tells his teacher or principal that he has to go stay at his aunt's while his mom is at work and that his aunt likes to put her hands down his pants. does anyone know the name of this video and where i can see it?

[@jonathanfunnell4167]

@IamHere XD I'm not trying to be disgusting I just thought it was an interesting subject

[@jonathanfunnell4167]

@Ephraim George me too she's sick

[@ytb8361]

This is disgusting.

[@ytb8361]

@Jonathan Funnell why would you describe it this way. It’s really disgusting. I hope you heal from sexual abuse and that you will be able to stop focusing on trauma and instead start focusing on things that help you live a good life.

[@jonathanfunnell4167]

@@ytb8361 sorry im not trying to be disgusting i was just describing the movie that i saw in 5th grade

[@queenamo7624]

😥

[@sarahcox51]

What. a clueless approach

[@sarahcox51]

Clueless