How to break the narc trauma bond

[@gingerzelidon3573]

I hate being screamed at and he does that to me almost every day. There is no such thing as a normal conversation, in fact, there is no such thing as a conversation with him. I have been traumatized by this man, big time! Thanks for your videos, Dr. Clarke!

[@SLLiberty23]

Same …. Ginger … make an exit plan. This is not love, it’s a sickness and it will get worse. Please trust me…. God will orchestrate the details and get you out. Praying for you ♥️🙏🏻🕯️

[@Thepath99]

Sounds like mine

[@gingerzelidon3573]

@@SLLiberty23 Thank you, especially for your prayers! I have filed for a divorce and am in the process of getting out.

[@gingerzelidon3573]

@@Thepath99 Praying for you, Theia!

[@shalanahawley3518]

Same:(

[@johnnacrist8715]

I agree! Many marriage books that Dr. Clarke referred to can be great for a normal couple. But NOT when you’re living with an abusive, narcissist!

[@casperinsight3524]

Ironic that people turn to Dr.Google to fix their relationships and come to learn the definition of narcissm. The shock and horror to discover that you didn't cause it, you can't change it and you can't cure it. It has nothing to do with you, they are projecting and accusatory and you are just the backdrop🎥 to their movie, their narrative.

[@julievdw6748]

Thank you for another beautiful video. My heart is broken. I made a fool of myself. I wrote the narc a heartfelt letter of one last appeal as we begin to try separate in very difficult and short financial situations. I instantly saw the look in his eyes. Cold smirking triumph. No love.

[@charlottemuller2233]

They don’t care, nothing inside of them,!

[@GeraldaZainalvand]

I love how you call them "the narc"

[@marissareitz2009]

I keep on being sick...help me my body can't take this anymore.

[@julievdw6748]

I'm so sorry. I'm in this boat too. Actually I'm not in a boat I feel like I'm submerged and drowning... so physically weak and screaming inside from the horror of a man who never loved me and is so relentlessly cruel and self justifying. I've been married 23 years and have 3 children. I have no family to turn to. I have no money and I'm a house wife. All I can do is hold onto Jesus. ❤

[@SLLiberty23]

Marissa & Julie …. Was me too and same situations … take care of yourself. Breathe, pray, look at natural remedies, take 5,000 UI’s of Vit D a day, Omega 3 at night and magnesium at night. Keep praying to Jesus. He knows it all, and He will show you what needs healing first…. takes time but you will ….I’m praying for you 🙏🏻♥️🕯️🕯️

[@kathebeaver3227]

God Bless

[@marcydelgenio8169]

Hi..I'm so sorry your health is negatively affecting you and why.. I am a fibromyalgia sufferer....been since before marrying my narc husband,, 12 years ago, it's gotten worse. I asked God "how did this happen?" The answer I got, I didn't like, but its true and has led me on a healing journey. Invest in whatever resources, ie money and time, to reparent yourself. There might be areas in you that are hurt and broken that led to being deceived by these evil people. Focus on those areas that need attention. I've been watching Mark Dejesus on KZbin for emotional and mental healing. He has published a few books as well, which I plan to order. It's time for healing..get stronger so you can fulfill God's purpose in your life. Blessings and comfort, dear ones.🙏✝️

[@rabybaby11]

I’m in the same boat

[@reflections.with.rhonda9269]

Ughh I just took one step back. I messaged him after no contact after 2 weeks. I need help with the trauma bond, thanks.

[@Carrie2010-q7v]

How do you get over the thoughts of loving and thinking of him. He wasn’t as abusive as much as you mention but he did control to a degree. Told me I think too much. After 28 years he held onto me and pushed be sideways into the counter. He scared me. The family told me they were concerned about me and said I should leave. I did go stay with my daughter. I thought for a couple days of going back but I just couldn’t. Now he and his family have turned against me. I stopped any contact with him or his family. I know God has a plan for my life. Please pray for me that the divorce settlement will happen. Hard to get over thinking of him. I say to myself focus on Jesus not on him. Thanks for your videos. God bless!🙏

[@daniellenunez185]

Excellent point about the marriage books!

[@roswb5388]

The latest is that my stuff takes up too much room in the house, I said well let’s sell the house and we can each buy our own places. He didn’t like that idea he’s not going anywhere

[@Thepath99]

They never leave on their own. You have to get court involved, police everything and everyone that can help.

[@juneautumn3067]

Dr David Clark is hilarious. He be speaking facts. I love how he be expressing.

[@leilagomulka5690]

Thank you for making a difference in my life 🙏

[@FaithInFullGear]

Absolutley true!

[@laurafranck7668]

Knowledge is power ❤

[@Thepath99]

This is what I learned by living with a narc. A therapy will never works unless the narc have lost everyone and everything. Couple’s therapy …if the victim want to try only have a therapist that specializes to recognize a narc to help You get away from him. If you divorce him get a lawyer specialized in narcissism. A narc it is not a normal person any professional you need it has to be a one that understands how horrendous a narc is. And believe me there is no therapy that works with him. He will even learn a few things during therapy to use against you and if you not careful even will make the therapist believe you are the problem. I believe the devil evolves overtime just like the human race these days you will not see a devil scream, roll eyes or crawl in public he will come as a narc and you can see the devil in the narc ‘s eyes.

[@lisacraig-mcmillan2532]

my issue is money I didnt have money to leave narc and the abusive so called friends I lived with.. I left narc w/no money and I have no money and it took all money I had and no one would help me

[@puritynjeri1946]

You have made me understand that Nabal was a narc. Abigail must have really suffered. She later found love in David.

[@mcamp19]

One question....I've decided to keep my last name the same. Cause we have 5 kids and I want to have the same last name as them...do you think that's okay?

[@Freethnkr]

Hope you don't mind me giving my opinion? But I've done the same, so I think it's a cool idea, even though my ex has moved on and remarried, and I used to worry about what he his family and the new supply would think? But I stopped caring, it's not about him but about me feeling a closer bond with my 2 kids and when it's time, I will change it, but for now it's not harming anyone, nor does it mean I want my ex back or have any feelings for my abuser. But that's just my 2€ 😊

[@ArthurAvilez-b2m]

Here is a word. RUN AND LET GOD HEAL YOU THROUGH JESUS CHRIST.

[@brendarewan7441]

$220 what? 😮

[@Jenccs]

Is this not being abusive back to him?

[@_--Reaper--_]

Shower him with praise and flowers then 🤡

[@gowiththeflow0088]

Never

[@sweetgabrown7062]

You'll spend more than $220 going to counseling with a counselor who still won't understand all the gaslighting and hateful behavior.

[@janerhea7614]

You should say him and her, narcs are female too

[@mtgigi]

"they/them is good enough. Demons have no gender

[@jenicabaker2761]

Youre monetizing off victims?!?! I like your videos but $220 for some advice is kind of disgusting.

[@mtgigi]

So go to a psychiatrist and see if they'll treat you for free. Good luck with that