How to Change a Conditioned Behavior | Q&A Eckhart Tolle

How difficult is it to change a conditioned behavior? In this video, Eckhart answers this question and teaches us the steps to evolve in life.
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[@montessorimom6946]

The ego doesnt want to die. Leaving some habits is like you would abandon yourself. Those words are so powerful.

[@shrk7]

bad habits and addiction are like toxic friends. they convince you that you need them, that they’re worth more than your friends or family, but every time you’re with it you feel worse and worse. eventually you have to learn to say “no, i will not listen to you because i don’t have to. you will not make me feel better and i don’t need you to”

[@suzettesharpe6618]

The Song :( I Get Out ! )

[@carterwhite9208]

It’s only your self you’re ever dealing with.

[@Ana-ei7gx]

Yep

[@ReynaSingh]

The mind is a faithful servant but a terrible master. Thank you Ekhart 🙏 blessings everyone

[@maski1]

Faithful servant is sometimes a terrible master

[@tiinaikonen6353]

Blessings to you too🙏🙏

[@sanvirbipulpersad4603]

Sri Krishna

[@djedeye2665]

"The mind should be a gentle disciple" Manly P Hall

[@onreact]

Did you mean "Eckhart"?

[@suzyq3040]

Don’t know what I would do without this guy

[@bronsonmcnulty1110]

you would be yourself .

[@karanfield4229]

Scary thought to be eckhart-less....

[@aidandraper4096]

​@@karanfield4229Someone else would've taken his place, as he is merely speaking the truth

[@PsychedelicActualization]

"The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and the acceptance of Love." ~Marianne Williamson ❤️

[@marquepoolejewer9427]

That is mine, in a nutshell. 😊

[@ArianaReflects]

Wonderful 😊❤️💕

[@m2pozad]

Marianne over Ginger any day.

[@rifatcetin2931]

Or acceptance of now:)

[@onreact]

There is no "spiritual journey". It's a misleading metaphor. You don't travel anywhere. You just become still and look inside.

[@nikitasmarmarinos6818]

Am I the only one who noticed the number of times he had to clear his throat, admiring the fact that he was able to remain focused and calm. So many public speakers lose it when it happens... ❤

[@jermaynclarke7988]

Thanks Eckhart. I hit a very low point in my life. I gave up drugs alcohol and cigarettes 3 weeks ago today. It has been surprisingly easy because I was ready to blossom.. I realize its still early days but I feel stronger then ever and don't think ill ever go back. Thank you for your guidance.

[@Sam-nb8ev]

Keep going friend and be strong. Best wishes from India.

[@AngelGabrielB]

How are you?

[@jayendrabhagat3607]

@Hazel Allison I hope you are doing well too! this channel has lured amazing people :)

[@annwornell7510]

Well blooming done, not easy, how brave you are, keep going you are heading in the right direction.

[@brendanpharrisgmail]

Thank you for sharing! I'm sure you're example of change is inspiring others! It would be great to hear how you are going now?

[@tomdrummy4984]

You cannot force someone to evolve..........soooo true

[@ArianaReflects]

😊

[@ArianaReflects]

All you can do is fully accept them for where they are in each moment

[@MegaSaanch]

Yes.. that is like non- acceptance of reality 🙂

[@flochfitness4271]

I have been a fitness instructor and personal trainer for over a decade and it wasn’t until I started implementing Eckhart’s teachings into my own work did I start to see long lasting change in the clients that I work worth. There is hope through suffering. Thank you for sharing this video 🙏🏻

[@reenasingh-id9zh]

When i am not in trouble these things leave me awestruck but when i am in even slightest disturbances around me i get anxious and doubtful ,feel something will go wrong . Something i am not able to grasp .

[@deeman2200]

@@reenasingh-id9zh just focus on feeling you have when anxious. Take your consciousness and awareness to your body fully, on that feeling. Dont judge, think about it. That's all you gotta do to start the process.

[@reenasingh-id9zh]

@@deeman2200 thanks ,i have started this recently . I used to suppress my feelings earlier but now focus and let it pass . But i am concerned when dealing with everyday situation especially with kids when i am thinking of their wellbeing and they tend to move in random directions ,not safe and i get anxious and fear conflicts in the family .

[@deeman2200]

@@reenasingh-id9zh that's great, keep continuing! Do read power of now. Especially the concept of resistance. When we suppress feelings or worry, it's usually that we live in our minds not reality. We are afraid of mind made situations. Since we identify with mind so much, we think its real. This is also when we try to control situations or outcome. Because fear overpowers and we want things to be right. Make a habit of watching your mind silently, each thought that appears and how mind builds a story will help you realize this. I am also practicing and realizing this. Good luck :)

[@mars1783]

I concur

[@ArianaReflects]

Oneness ❤️❤️

[@lindakoch9524]

It’s not easy for me feeling alone, but I’ll keep trying

[@ArianaReflects]

Allow the feeling to exist, it’s not about getting rid of unpleasant feelings, it’s about simply being the observer of the feeling. Be the witness of the feeling instead of the victim of the feeling❤️take care beautiful friend❤️

[@lindakoch9524]

@@ArianaReflects Thank you. 💖

[@ArianaReflects]

❤️🌎

[@sagar1257]

@@ArianaReflects Umm... Never knew a single comment on KZbin can make me feel connected to this much. It has so much of positivity and deep sense of awareness. I don't subscribe to channels easily, snob about my choices, but hey.. I'm your 200th subscriber. Wishes to you!

[@NemeanLion-]

The hard part is embracing where you are……wherever you are. Even the suffering. Your heart exists in this entire human experience. Becoming enlightened doesn’t mean you no longer have problems, or are beyond mental challenges.

[@carolcollins3108]

This reminds of my pregnancy. How I loved my baby growing inside me. How afraid I was as time came to give birth.. Then suddenly I just wanted the baby to be born. The fear of giving birth left. And she was born. The joy of new life the pain of letting go of the pregnancy and accepting with joy new life.

[@stunnedmulletblah9714]

That's really nicely said. )

[@sassi7966]

🥰👍

[@cichra1]

"Go to the place of not knowing" I really like that, that i can do.

[@epiclifechangingdevice]

Seeing this video at the moment not wanna go to sleep, the smile I got when she gave that as an example.

[@danacheong9966]

People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar. -Thich Nhat Hanh Change happens when the pain to remain the same is greater than the pain of change. -Tony Robbins

[@TheDhammaHub]

Many times the wisdom that results from trauma-like situations has the power to permanently change conditioning - it's definitely not nice, but very powerful. Cheers to all suffering from trauma =)

[@jo-annebellamy5983]

-marred, -mar*ring.

[@antiv]

The caterpillar analogy is quite accurate and helpful.

[@onreact]

And funny!

[@laleeeah]

you are glowing, master

[@kaushikaterrin2149]

Listening to his speeches, makes a calm mind 😊👍 Thank you Eckhart 😊👍👍

[@deezymoe7702]

The mind made self loves drama and problems so much it can go on and on with fake arguments but you have to focus a lot more to keep it interested in something positive

[@kennethcarvalho3684]

The lady who asked the question has an amazing presence and honesty about her..like I can feel it merely by watching the video...

[@ikezutabunkyowa4628]

I was thinking the same thing. I really liked her question and how she framed it as well.

[@viktornitriansky9653]

I was about to say that lol

[@beastmode8569]

It’s the presence in her that you feel within yourself...we are all connected on some level 🙌🏻

[@_.blue._]

Perfect synchronicity.

[@swhite8381]

It’s the human desire for pleasure in the moment that causes us to break our healthier choices . I know I feel much better eating healthy but sometimes that cake is what I want in that very moment.

[@dumitrascurazvan1209]

The temptation of staying in fantasy world is huge. I became present for some days. It was a awsome, I loved it. But the pull of the thoughts brought me back in the hole from where I came from.

[@davidholm645]

Until now..

[@dumitrascurazvan1209]

@@davidholm645 until now👉🤯

[@ErikisOfficial]

Every time I watch these videos it feels like the first time Good Morning and happy Friday y'all ☮

[@tiinaikonen6353]

Good morning to you❤️ here in north Europe it is evening ☺️☺️

[@ErikisOfficial]

@@tiinaikonen6353 I'm late but Good Evening from Los Angeles! ❤☮🤞

[@susancrowshaw9878]

I was guided to this. It is exactly what I needed to see. Thank you so much.

[@samwhite2012]

This is just the beginning Madam. There’s much much more in life.

[@twodirection8388]

I can relate to that experience where you Know you can be free but also at the same time feel lost . Because its like entering in complete emptiness! It takes courage to dive into that unknown emptiness and leave everything behind which you can never get back once you dive. It happened to me once but I will dive this time. 🤞

[@karennoble1076]

How well said, two directions, I feel like you!

[@nasimshakil4682]

Conditional behavior can be changed by living in the Now intensely. Living in the present moment leads to the acceptence of the reality.

[@karenkasteler942]

Wow....could I relate! To lose that edge of enthusiam is painful....I have to give myself a pep talk most days....because the pain of the cater pillar did get THAT unbearable.

[@RemasterYourLife]

I have a lot of admiration for Tolle, having said that I don't actually think he answered the lady's question that well. He gave a good theoretical explanation of the forces that keep people locked into deep seated habits and conditions, and how people don't want to let go of their suffering, but I have to wonder if the answer he gave actually helped her change her habits or not. I feel like the audience may have benefited more if he actually explored her specific situation and the reasons she was asking the question in the first place. I got the sense that there was a very personal element of suffering behind her question but it was never explored. I don't have many criticisms of Tolle, he's a beautiful human being and a wonderful teacher, it's just that his live seminars feel like footnotes to his books when they could be so much more.

[@honeyfungus4774]

I like and admire him a lot too, but I've noticed he often does this when asked questions. It's sad when people are asking about their suffering.

[@Grace4ever22]

The question is overwhelming and this is where we can see the limit of his spiritual depth- I admire him very much but I think there needs to be more digging to be done in the human psyche- in that sense I really like the Belgian ISA PADOVANI- she really speaks about listening to the different parts of ourselves and finding harmony before taking up anything brutal- if you push some of your inner parts like a bully to do something without opening a real discussion or understanding, they will make you pay for it later on - I can't explain it as well as she does but her basic work comes from NVC - non violent communication and the idea of "listening to " the other could Also mean listening to the other part inside us that doesn't want to go with your idea.... I know that I feel divided so often between my parts wanting so many different things that I end up blocked, doing nothing, lots of time pass especially... like writing Looooong replies to sub-replies that no one will ever bother to read.... 😒😔😎😉

[@lindagracechurchill786]

Stephan Anemaat - Remaster Your Life perhaps take his suggestion. You stated you "think" and I heard Tolle suggest "intuition " then your judgement here may be different?

[@RemasterYourLife]

@@lindagracechurchill786 I'm not sure what you're saying could you rephrase it?

[@Tinamar65]

I think he answered accurately!

[@gurudra]

To awaken, to see the truth about the world and about yourself, it's very important to destroy all unncessary conditionings within you

[@karanfield4229]

I saw 2 women at wrk killing an insect that was right next to an open door. They could have put it outside. It upset me. They think im insane . To quote one of them.. "you're one of 'those", i presume they meant a hippy, or something. They dont recycle or learn anything that could benefit the earth. They drink coke, eat terrible food etc etc. I'm judgmental and harsh even thinking like this.....but omg awakening, it's changed me. I realise I have so far to go.

[@suthashantharmarajah9864]

Had my own condition behaviours to let go off, thank you for this wisdom ❤

[@teachersikhumbuzomoyo5419]

My first time here! Per oprah Winfrey recommendation, I must say I love this man of enormous depths of life practicality

[@ArianaReflects]

😊

[@m2pozad]

Lordy, where have you been!?!

[@anz10]

Welcome :) eckhart will teach you how to calm your nervous system and therefore be calmer and happier so you can enjoy life from a deeper more present moment :D his teachings are the basis mindfulness and meditation etc

[@now3210]

Through living out of consciousness, you understand the behavior of egoic and conventional thinking.

[@onreact]

Understanding still implies mind activity though. See through it and don't get caught up in ego activity - even by understanding it.

[@aries-seventhseal2473]

Thank you Mr. Tolle. I love you. 🕊️🌟😇

[@willdenman999]

She totally caught me out, I’m watching this after midnight 😂

[@sssutube1]

To be free you awaken to who you are and go beyond your history and your life situation

[@sophiestj]

This made me laugh so much... I can recognize myself in that caterpillar... I hope I moved on at last, but if not, I shall be patient with myself as I grow more aware of what still holds me back, until I am ready to become the butterfly I am meant to be!

[@mrcookie0890]

You will get there. Patience and self respect are the ingredients

[@edwintepuendikum3527]

Wow, Thanks so much for your words of wisdom. Life-changing message 🙏🏿🙌🏿

[@sudeerbabug9934]

observing mind on the spot it talks is a great revelation

[@aditi5027]

Thank you Life, for you are an amazing teacher!

[@christinestone3552]

I can so relate to this…thank you for enlightening me on this topic Eckhart 🙏💜

[@nalinisingh2684]

Thank you Love and Peace

[@mathijsvanabbe2293]

This came in the perfect time for me. Thank you.

[@rubywilcox7405]

Thank you! Love. Love. Love!

[@heatherhall3452]

Omgoodness - I literally just asked you that question at the coffee machine whilst making my morning coffee 10 mins ago! 😄🙏🏽

[@johnmccann8319]

A perfect answer to a perfect question.Thank you for both.💚

[@einsteindarwin8756]

Thanks this is great! I think I can actually get through the night without self medicating.

[@humancumalienhumancumalien3947]

Change your heart to change the world. Shams Tabrizi

[@naglamohammed1111]

❤❤

[@humancumalienhumancumalien3947]

@@naglamohammed1111 🌹❤️

[@humancumalienhumancumalien3947]

@Catch545 dusty 🌟

[@ManuelaChristina1]

Thank you Eckhart 🙏💗🤗

[@TQC1212]

Such a beautiful and honestly asked question ❤️

[@mca3001]

...and Answer!

[@juliavanrun-kilic1744]

That was incredible timing! I needed to hear that! Thank you!🙏🏻

[@diggleda2952]

No better time than now

[@giselar.12]

Vielen herzlichen Dank 🙏 🧚🏾❤️😊

[@gthejaskumar1761]

Thank you so much for other video sir!!

[@neelammorey5317]

Thankful and grateful for sharing this video

[@Paul-kn4ez]

I am impressed by Eckharts' knowledge and his Spiritual growth. Even Jesus attends his seminars!

[@rainbowgirljules]

😄

[@vincechopard6481]

Thank you for this deep and interesting talk 🙏❤

[@loejewis]

His impression of the wife made me laugh so hard

[@RashidTheMC]

I “stumbled” across this at the perfect time. Thanks Mr. Eckhart Tolle

[@juliasommerfeld5997]

Thank you, came in the perfect moment. Butterflies.

[@bavgill8730]

Perfect timing! Thank you!

[@abhijeetdubey4787]

Yes

[@YouRobin111]

Thank you Elkhart

[@dedenespoli92]

A lot of wisdom.

[@icu71]

Love that caterpillar story

[@lisandroge]

Thanks you for the wisdom

[@marysmyth8288]

Thank you , Eckhart, such a profound answer to the great question 🌌 Mary Canada 🇨🇦

[@jojobinks70able]

So wise. Psychotherapist for over 20 years, he is dead on.

[@karanfield4229]

Jesus, in front row, checking to see if Eckhart is doing his job properly🤣 And he is my Lord. Believe me, he truly is.☮

[@sarakar4041]

Thank you eckhart Wonderfully explained

[@MaxHarden]

Accumulation of negative experiences or embodiment of future promise in imagination.

[@lyannawinter405]

Ah, thank you for this.

[@corinabaicoianu]

Best answer ever! I put it in practice already! It works! Is a process

[@beckymorris7292]

If eckhart is good enough for Jesus , he's good enough for me folks......🙏

[@punxsutawneyphil3944]

Jesus sitting in the audience again.

[@fourtails1192]

Lol..noticed him straight away and scrolled down comments to see if anyone else noticed ...😃👍

[@sharonshrum8693]

I saw him too! 👀

[@The-Other-Guy]

B.S, Jesus was born in Middle east, he couldn't have white skin with blond or red hairs. use your head instead of TV.

[@enwe6487]

@@The-Other-Guy Uhm? All of my family were born in the Middle east, my dad has white skin, green eyes and reddish hair, my mom got the palest skin too and light blue eyes. How about YOU use your head, especially the brain and eyes, instead of Tv? :D

[@raff6261]

@@The-Other-Guy Just a joke

[@RA717TAROT]

Needed to hear your message ❤thank u

[@farrahfawcettmajors9272]

I had grown-up I guess and I will share this with any one who will hear it I was younger and my friend got me smoking.....and as a winner abuses things I maxed out smoking and was doing so much I realized it was not giving the satisfaction anymore because I did it so much and I quit cold turkey....because I decided to move on and a lot of times I have heard if u have a good reason and good habit to take the place of the bad habit couple with your will strong commitment to changing for good or the better that may work....but as things go a into talk yourself out of change....great question she did a real awsum job of explaining her question thanks

[@madeline3013]

Thank You.

[@sassi7966]

This is so helpful! 🙏 I can do so much more if I live mostly in the now. Like for example healthy eating: Because I only have to do it *now* . Not for the last ten years (that's just a story) and not for the next 20 years (the future never arrives, it's only now when it happens). Honestly how hard is it to do something *now* ?. It's only about 1 second. Choosing to eat cake or salad takes seconds. It's so easy to say to myself: just make the best choice now. That's all. And go off and do something else. Wow. What a revelation.

[@montessorimom6946]

I agree. Morover also bad eating = part of ego. Blaming yourself, telling that we are weak etc. Let the ego die

[@Aquablu39]

Live in the Now. That's how!!! ❤❤

[@midnightblue2893]

That was profound thanks Eckhart! 💜

[@armass631]

Thank you!

[@jaxsonlee05]

…We want to be free…and we need a very safe environment to ‘let go’…and go to that place of not knowing. We’re so used to telling people, being told rather than simply Being with each other...that’s what would be so helpful-to see being with one another. 🙏🏼

[@autumnlady77]

I'm going to try fasting and being silent for 3 days. I want to let go of everything! I want to become a healer.

[@Paul-dw2cl]

Hmmm

[@nOw.thyself]

@@Paul-dw2cl with feeling it AS IF real, imagine already having. Our subconscious believes & attracts like vibes, bringing our desires to our circumstances. Be sure to have gratitude for all being good, or we get our desires in unwanted ways.

[@wrackable]

I just ask how the fasting was, did you enjoy your reflection time?

[@angelgutierrez3943]

Wow amazing video. I love how amazing technology is & how we can use it to transform our lives with info like this 🙏🏼 I learned that many people are not ready to let go of self harming habits because its who they think they are which is comforting for them. Most of the time until life becomes unbearable by those habits they won’t change, so what we control is sharing the triggers but its has to be taken by them at the end.

[@trinamurray222]

I don’t like people who try to make others believe in what they want them to and not letting them believe in what they know and see within themselves so who’s to say what they see and know within themselves is not right believe me their are a lot of people who know who they truly are without ever being told by others. I know the same thing he is speeding without ever being told by any advisor this I s why I started listening to him because we were speaking the same thing. Now when someone tries to get me to do something that I don’t trust I have a problem with that.❤️😀

[@tomekgorniak]

Thank you.

[@farrahfawcettmajors9272]

I love the catapilar analogy

[@aditi5027]

Thank you life

[@cutechiangels]

The title has nothing to do with the content... 🧐😒 But, the subject is interesting, and ever so true!! One can't push a person to evolve. Only show a way or direction. 🙏

[@kasia4919]

Thank You Eckhart ♥️😁

[@Omnipresence10]

Thank you

[@C_gar]

gracias...

[@tokesnationpropagandaminis1665]

What a brilliant question.

[@donnaleecriss5023]

love the story about the catepillar so true to life

[@amin_abdollahi_369]

Thank you❤🌸

[@LoveOfWisdom_WisdomInLove]

💖 Thank You Thank You Thank You 🙏🏻

[@Stephen-zq2wf]

Friendly Reminder: Those "Voices" that You Hear in Your Head .. Are NOT You !

[@snoozyq9576]

Thank for you the reminder ❤️ Wish they would stop harassing me

[@TheVera123456]

Brilliant!!!