How to Stop Body Shaming Yourself and Others | Eckhart Tolle

Are you constantly comparing your body to others? The essence of beauty has nothing to do with form, according to Eckhart.
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[@JudaBuddha]

I appreciate that woman having the courage to stand in front of all those people and ask a sincere question of her spirit (or ego) or both? :) I needed this. ❤️

[@EckhartTolle101]

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[@AtortAerials]

I’m sure that’s why she paid probably $2k plus to hear him speak….to speak too.

[@santiago1983ism]

I thought exactly the same thing.

[@Jean-db8wq]

I Agree !!!I had the same pattern for Years!! The lady described it Perfectly!Tiresome!..I'm finally awesome of this within myself..and it is freeing to realize it!!I used to Torture myself..Especially sitting on a Beach somewhere in a Hot Country!

[@ladylaymusic7640]

You can see this womens spirit is so good and she is beautiful. It shines through

[@CitrusSimon]

People want more than anything to be seen, and yet they are terrified of being seen because they are afraid of what will be seen. And there is so much we want to hide, and yet we have hidden from ourselves that which is best in us.

[@coolwater55]

True, but that is a sense of the teenage years or early adult years. For such self impressions to extend into mature adulthood is definitely the problem. We should move beyond the body only image and move into growth of spirit, soul and self as well as how we deal with others. But you are correct, we can get caught up in our own personal self impressions at any age.

[@CitrusSimon]

@@coolwater55 Indeed, I agree. That is an insightful reply coolwater 55. I appreciate that. Remaining adolescent even into old age is quite common... This also plays out in other areas of life also. If we have a close look at food, we can understand that beyond our taste buds, of what the egoic mind likes and dislikes, there are foods that deliver energy, and foods that take our energy that are highly addictive. From the standpoint of Natural Hygiene, fresh ripe fruit is considered the optimal food. Yet, many people stay in the adolescent phase of not thinking about what food is going to do them, after they have swallowed it, which leads to all sorts of sickness and disease, that could be avoided by being present. Some call it adolescent, others call it the egoic mind? Still, the present moment remains, it is all we have. Would you say that being present is actually adult consciousness, and constantly identifying with thought is adolescent consciousness? Eckhart, keeps on showing up, week after week, year in, year out, to simply remind us, and help us understand, our unfathomable present moment!

[@coolwater55]

@@CitrusSimon I think you might be onto something, although not sure how to articulate it fully.

[@JimmHugheyM.S.]

Absolutely. It is a challenge to separate form from essence.

[@espera_2192]

Everybody deeply wants to be understood. But in our environment oftentimes judgment is what we get instead. Probably at the end it's the ego, that fears rejection and seeks validation at the same time. It's gonna be a gamble until you grow out of it.

[@harissaspice7402]

I don’t compare myself to others, my issue is that I compare my physical appearance to my former self and I am exhausted.

[@Dancinggirl2020]

I relate to this. All I want is to let it go but I just don’t know how 😢

[@DJ-ll4mq]

What peace this man brings. Truly a gift.

[@saskiakarels4184]

Quite an expensive gift too, aswell as unvaluable 💖👀💝 Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... isn't it? 😂

[@greggergen9104]

As a 65 year old I feel exactly the same as I felt as a teenager, except that when I do certain physical things I am reminded the external no longer has the same capabalities.

[@DJ-ll4mq]

I'm 64 and feel very much like that too!! It surprises me; I always imagined I'd feel like an "old person" at this age.

[@JimmHugheyM.S.]

To me, the biggest issue with body shaming is society's mental conditioning. Beauty is defined within a very limited range of criteria. And this is emphasized everywhere constantly. Notice how a century or so ago, it was okay for a woman to be full-figured. Aphrodite was a full-figured woman. Over time, women were pressured to look ever thinner. Thus the invention of corsets, girdles, etc. Now body shaming has connected with disease as Citrus Simon suggests. In the drive to obtain unrealistic forms, people, (especially young women), develop unhealthy behaviors such as bulimia, not eating, liquid diets, pills, etc. This identification with the ego can and is deadly. I always remember Karen Carpenter. A beautiful young woman with a beautiful voice, but she eventually ruined her own health and died.

[@Gaurav.P0]

She is so beautiful inside out. Beautiful soul 💯😍

[@strawberryxstarlight]

Youth being equated to beauty is not the deepest truth in my eyes.

[@Floor7586]

Really grateful for the honesty of this woman. I have suffered from this all my life, worrying constantly about my looks (weight, prettiness, clothes) is stressing me out so much and now more that ever because I am dating somebody that I really like. This clip came just at the right time...

[@Tzaltochnie1]

Its called bdd

[@teamginger6359]

This is odd becausee the first thought I had when this young woman asked the question, was how beautiful she is. However, the true beauty is the fact that this young woman is becoming aware. This encourages me beyond measure. Thank you, Eckhart Tolle for bringing this awareness to all of us.

[@jameshetfield5894]

I'm always touched by the openness and candor that some questioners show. You're beautiful, by the way😊

[@bobyk87]

I think anyone who struggles with that, after following those instructions and start apreciating oneself as a whole being, not only social status, age and appearance, be in touch with God and the spiritual realm, can develop some sort of magical magnetism, a sparkle in the eyes, that more than compensates for those old comparison habits. It's a personal paradigm change.

[@biancamb1045]

What a brave woman! 🌸

[@janelliot5643]

And what a wise woman you are, Bianca, to recognize her courage. Thank you for pointing that out. Brava!

[@mindfulnesswithmatt]

When we shame others, our ego also shames ourselves, grateful for this video. I find that catching ourselves first when we start comparing with others then wishing others well is a powerful habit to weather away the ego

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[@karennoble1168]

Jiddu Krishnamurti who according to ET influenced his teaching re: awareness used to say Catch the thoughts as they arise and then there is nothing to control.

[@rogerthat9869]

Also a way to reinforce the ego in a “positive way” same thing but opposite

[@simplysara123]

The beauty that is within you when you see it out there. The lady smiled and turned beautiful instantly when she caught what ET's saying

[@autumnb7135]

“The ego is there as a substitute. It’s to seek yourself in some form - that’s the delusion and it creates an unhappy life”.

[@hopsingsinghope374]

I watched her eyes while she was listening and how amazing beautifull they are❣️

[@JimmHugheyM.S.]

Great question young lady! You are on your way!

[@user-yx1uf5gf7b]

Her skin is so beautiful! She is beautiful!

[@ConsultancybyTS]

I was passing in a very tough time on a personal level and family level as well when i read your book "The power of now" (i chose it randomly from the bookshelf that we have in it more than 200 books), i was also before that moment trapped by a huge unconsciousness, and after that moment, something great started to happen inside me, yea it started because the road is long, but as you always say, the awareness begins once you start noticing that you are aware... i am trying to enhance it continuously, i read your second book "a new earth" and enjoyed it as well, and i am keep listening to your talks on youtube... i can't thank you enough for everything you gave me from awareness and enlightement, and self-peace... i realized that the happiness is inside us and nowhere else... thank you million times, Eckhart

[@amyhodges5464]

I catch that same pattern going through my mind at times - when I notice, I tell myself out loud - I am not better than anyone else. I am not worse than anyone else. Not better than, not worse than - we are all one 🙏🏻❤️

[@poppymoon777]

I think older women can look beautiful and I don’t see them as less pretty than younger. And I couldn’t care a less what anyone else says as it’s my real perception.

[@NN-fz4pd]

Why would you feel the need to say this

[@alisonf6478]

@@NN-fz4pdwhy do we feel the need to say anything? We are human.

[@tiffanyannejocelyn6908]

I can remember when I was seven and my cousin received a big wheel for Christmas. That spring she and I was outside playing when she brought out her big wheel. Being a child I was of course enthralled by this really cool toy! My cousin being a good girl asked me if I’d like a turn on it. I started to get on and my aunt came outside screaming at me to “Get your fat ass off that before you break it!” That was just one time, I remember hundreds of times each and every member of my “friends”, and family enjoyed their fat and/or ugly jokes at my expense. I am not fat anymore but the memories still hurt. The pain never go's away.

[@alisonf6478]

The pain is in the pain body. Can you watch it and let it dissolve? ❤

[@DG-ph4rw]

I love to see and hear people being the essence of who they are. No matter the age or external appearance, they radiate the truth of beauty rather than the veil of beauty. Both humble and confident, the inner light is one that they can share freely to others without diminishing any of their own brightness. They are illuminated with an eternal Faith in the One universal consciousness 😌🙏✨️🐋

[@ContemporaryOracle]

Thank you, that used to be an issue of mine. So beautiful to hear this. My Philosophy is this, "Never compare yourself to others, compare yourself to yourself and you'll always be making progress." -Never shame yourself into self hate or eating disorders or anything negative. Loved how Eckhart spoke to the audience here. 🌸🌸🌸🌸

[@BecomeConsciousNow]

This is very much a teaching for my oldest brother. He is trapped in ego and seems completely unaware of it, even when I tried to gently, softly and kindly point it out to him in a non direct way. He has always been very competitive with me and was always very happy to see me fail and sad when I succeeded. Needless to say, I had to cut ties with him to protect myself.

[@TEM14411]

Everything is a teaching for everyone. I find it best to flip the lens back to myself anytime content makes me think of someone else. Everything is a mirror. All growth comes from within....

[@veraintuizione6497]

When I hear that brothers are moving away, it breaks my heart.I lost a very young sister . Cancer. I would give anything to be able to hug her again. Protecting oneself is being able to hug a brother. Think about it...🙏

[@bakkermaarten007]

I just will point out that, judging by your comment, the ego is also strong in you.

[@TheOriginalCameron]

I believe Jesus had a very relevant and practical teaching of remove the splinter from your own eye before trying to remove one from another's. Pointing out another person's ego is only your ego resisting its own removal

[@MrRedcat4]

Maybe his need to compete and "win" was his coping mechanism to boost his self-esteem. I can relate to his through my stories.

[@roneythetube]

That is just a beautiful interaction between them ❤️

[@mariatheuns550]

You are right, Eckhart: it is essential not to compare yourself with others, but celebrate yourself. This is confused with arrogance. I object.

[@debunkingfaddiets]

Hahhaha yet all most modern women do is compare your body to other men they've been with, the inevitable endless list of massively endowed ex-boyfriends that they bully, body shame and go instantly running back to their friends to publically humiliate your body for things you can neve help or change. Yet these women go around claiming don't compare yourselves to others hahahha

[@jbreezy5959]

She must recognize she is also beautiful as she is ❤

[@yellowjellybean121]

Love the example of how when we may be older that we will not compare because we will see it as the essence of life. It made me think of a baby. A baby I see is perfect but that is not through comparison it's just acceptance. Very fascinating.

[@garyhobbins4746]

People who body shame are not happy with themselves. People who body shame have never reached compassion or their heart chakra has never truly opened.

[@richardbayne7566]

Isn’t it amazing that she feels like that, even when she is actually very physically beautiful?!

[@micha_el0815]

That’s the type of human to „rule“ our futur world! 😇❤️💫 Imagine how wonderful this will be! And it will be! 🙌

[@ElizabethReninger]

True beauty is more than skin deep. Yet women especially (and more and more men) feel they need to paint their faces, put on a mask, compete with others on this most superficial level .... Connecting with the felt sense of what Eckhart calls the "inner body" and enjoying this natural vitality as a portal to Presence .... is one way to directly experiencing true inner beauty

[@ellenthompson3950]

Many Thanks Eckhart. For all the lessons, you pass on. Blessings

[@veraintuizione6497]

We are all the manifestation of Consciousness whether we perceive it or not. You can be born rock or rose. Actually, there is no difference. Our heart makes the difference. The love we give the courage we have are the eternal beauty that Consciusness has given us. You don't really need anything else. So grateful 💓🙏

[@giselar.12]

Thank you very much, for this teaching.🌸🙏😊

[@aviksharma423]

🙏🏻to the lady 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@baum7des7lebens7]

Look who's talking. It's easy to speak like that with your good looks and inner beauty, Eckhart 😁 but you are right ❤

[@cynthialittle5759]

Eckhart: I would be interested in your take on The Great Reset. A higher perspective.

[@bilanharawa45]

EEckart himself is love manifested.

[@mspattycakes1954]

I feel so beautifully calm listening to Eckhart. His words go straight through my ego to my essence. Grateful doesn’t begin to express….

[@hitler98700]

A video in which I saw the ugliness of the ego and what it can do to a person. I saw the most beautiful, innocent girl, and the one who owned her was very happy. I saw the most beautiful person and the most wonderful laugh from our great teacher. And I couldn't see my ego clearly. Thank you everyone. 😅

[@shakirbaloch9505]

It would be the level of saints and higher spiritual growth, and beautiful experiences. Thanks again. Shakir Baloch Islamabad Pakistan

[@hannahvanwormer2009]

❤if I could have sent this video to someone 27 years ago, I would have saved myself a lifetime of grief. I suppose now is the time to learn better language! Shalom!

[@EckhartTolle101]

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[@nieves571]

So wise Eckhart thank you

[@lovebaileymarin]

I’ve been needing this, thank you 🙏

[@acmulhern]

This is some very valuable advice.

[@Mariana-ve2or]

Beautiful woman you are for real❤

[@Gaurav.P0]

Beautiful video 🤩

[@suzannesimm7293]

Thank you Eckhert 🙏🏽

[@christinagior42]

Thank you 🙏🏼

[@Dengee]

Thank you, Eckhart ❤❤❤

[@dulceclassica7139]

Grateful for this vídeo!

[@brookeharrison16]

She's so brave and beautiful, I did what she did as a child somewhere in Australia, says my Dad I might be on film but ha ha LoL I wanna listen to Eckhart Tolle thankyou many blessings 🌈☮️🐱🌙🌒🌒🌒🎼🎶

[@michaurban9046]

Beautiful talk!

[@ramadevi2017]

Thanks🙏 you Eckhart.

[@user-pe5mo8hu5n]

Wow....Very touching!!

[@fida6166]

Beautiful talk and beautiful comments too ❤️

[@richardbayne7566]

Thank you Mr Tolle. You have helped me and others for sure.

[@lelle1068]

Perfect timing 🙏🏽

[@lelle1068]

@Tej No actually, that's not it. Assumptions are not part of the conscious way or the new earth. You've got work to do

[@lelle1068]

@Tej no worries 😉

[@consciouspresence5880]

@@lelle1068 There is nothing wrong assumptions. No one has any work to do.

[@lelle1068]

@@consciouspresence5880 😒

[@ritapeters1330]

Thank you Eckhart, thanks so much for your help

[@JudaBuddha]

Thank you Eckahrt!

[@EckhartTolle101]

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[@garyhobbins4746]

Thank you, Eckhart! If you do not feel beautiful (man or woman) you have the tendency to body shame. A bully (coward) body shames. Body shaming is not a one time deal. A person who body shames is struggling with continual malevolent thoughts until they accept themself. When you accept yourself you realize about others.

[@jeannemuller7625]

Thank you. ❤

[@shineyourlightwithraz]

We are the only can deem yourself to be worthy or unworthy..Thanks for sharing

[@mansoorahmad1450]

She has such a good personality, by the way .

[@rooa9547]

I love this

[@melbadee8301]

Thank you 🌹

[@ritapeters1330]

Conscious awareness of myself, without my outer self, yes, I feel like that, my inner aliveness is in me

[@BasedNation]

When this channel gets 1 Billion subs the word will light up

[@user-pg7em7pu7t]

thank you 😘

[@marianntringale4594]

Love this ❤..

[@mariatheuns550]

"When a growing girl becomes aware of the pleasing effect that her blossoming womanhood is beginning to have upon others and takes the credit for this to her own ego, she has already gone a little crazy. She has misplaced her identification. What is causing all the excitement is not her own astonished little ego, but the wonderful body growing all around it." (Joseph Campbell, Myths to live by, p. 231). Quite. Some beautiful women, especially when they are young, think that they are, or at least should be, the centre of the universe. Their main goal is destroying all other women, at least the ones who are in their neighbourhood. I have done some very interesting experiments with them, witch as I am, sitting next to them on a terrace, f.i., not allowing them to take away my inner balance, and going on enjoying my own beauty, just as if they didn't even exist. The effect of such an approach is remarkable. You see those young women just shrivel away before your eyes. In fact, you destroy them, or at least, their desire to destroy you..

[@brookeharrison16]

Yes , 💓🎹🐦 thankyou Eckhart Tolle

[@amin_abdollahi_369]

Thankyou❤🌸❤

[@mayhtoo3576]

Wonderful 😊....Sir..thanksss

[@eduardveres3501]

She looks good.

[@mariatheuns550]

A common, and extremely evil way of insulting any woman is saying: "How beautiful you looked when you were young!" It is an insult disguised as a compliment. Women do that to each other often enough. And in general, men do not even notice that.

[@mindyk5094]

wonderful

[@joelklevnas3234]

Incredible!

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[@ariannapagni798]

Ti stimo tantissimo

[@stellawilliams9303]

Exactly

[@_N0_0ne]

♥️thank you

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[@laurel.whitneyhjoseph7651]

Thank you for this VIDEO!!! VERY INFORMATIVE INFORMATION 11/17/22 1:15PM CST

[@user-vm4zn6pt6v]

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[@rogerlin9602]

Comparison is a common egoic tool. It's tiring. Go beyond the surface appearance. Appreciate other people's essence. You go beyond the surface to the energy, aliveness, and consciousness that permeate your being.🐦😇🐦🎪🚣‍♂️🐰🎷💰 🎷🥇🎷🎪🦒👍🌞 You can recognize and appreciate other people's manifestations as expression of life, and acknowledge their underlying essence which you also are. Your beauty, essence, is formless! 👻🐇🦒🦒🍰🦑🌽 It's liberating. Know thyself. Those who compare know not what they do. 🐿💖🐦🐧🐦🚣‍♂️🐇👻 Thanks Eckhart. 18 November 2022..🐞🏆👻🎷🐇🐰🎪🌽

[@dandieman7470]

Waw what a lovely looking woman, pure natural beauty. Where has this person been all my life?

[@kittywalker2944]

On good days, I too can snicker about being a faded rose from days gone by, but sometimes it is not the least bit funny 😄 I long ago discovered that I can find beauty in a woman of any age, by looking past the surface.

[@MG-47223]

shes actually pretty ❤

[@Mariana-ve2or]

If you reach that outside body beauty and realization, garanty you will be very attractive any age.

[@Premayogaworld]

Yeah

[@aronuchukwuezugo615]

If we would be honest, a lot of ladies experience this pattern.

[@mariatheuns550]

By the way, the Lady revealing herself to you here is wearing an absolutely stunning dress. I don't know if it would suit her sister to. If she is anything like her, it most certainly will.

[@juergenbloh45]

To seat beside the guy in the background would be my spirituell practise..:)

[@brookeharrison16]

Yes I can feel that ha ha lol Many blessings 🌈☮️🎶🎵🎶🎼🎼 Australian Christmas

[@hansmayr4600]

🙏

[@Mariana-ve2or]

Just perfectly sad❤