How to Deal With Frustrating People

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In this episode of The Charged Life, high performance coach and #1 New York Times bestselling author Brendon Burchard shares simple ways to deal with frustrating people (and yourself).
This is Brendon speaking freestyle, recorded in one take without prompter or notes. Post your comments and questions for him below, and he might do an episode answering your question freestyle.
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SUMMARY:
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1. Keep perspective… People are struggling just like you.
2. Ask, “Have I been truly clear with people about what I think, want, and need?”
3. Consider people’s confidence and competence before you judge.
4. Make dealing with others well and with patience part of your character development.
5. Release control.
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ABOUT BRENDON BURCHARD
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Brendon Burchard is one of the most followed personal development trainers of our time and a Top 100 Most Followed Public Figures on Facebook. A #1 New York Times bestselling author, his books include The Motivation Manifesto, The Charge, The Millionaire Messenger, and Life’s Golden Ticket. He is also the founder of High Performance Academy, the legendary personal development program for achievers, and Experts Academy, the world’s most comprehensive marketing training for authors, speakers, coaches, and online thought leaders. For these works, Larry King named Brendon "one of the top motivation and marketing trainers in the world."
After a car accident at 19 years old inspired him to turn his life around and follow his dreams, and then having the blessings to become a multimillionaire writer and trainer by the age of 32, Brendon has dedicated his life to helping others find their charge and share their voice with the world. His posts now reach more than 10,000,000 people per week worldwide, and he is the star and executive producer of the #1 self-help show on both KZbin and iTunes.
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[@shahshreeta]

agree with some aspects of this.. but there are also some deliberately obnoxious spiteful people who go out of their way to be frustrating no matter how much we have helped them cos they r harbouring some resentment toward us.

[@STMARTIN009]

Best Comment.

[@coffeebean3958]

Dont even worry what undercover haters have to say, they will try to press every single one of your buttons to get you to do what they want. Let them fall out with you, let them go!

[@cherylschumaker1366]

Ya my step daughter is harbouring resentment towards me she is 23 and causing me heartache ...My son at 37 can also be a know it all and carries a sense of superiority it really frustrates me but I bite my tongue more than I say something but when I say something I usually say too much it's hurtful all the way around ...I'm pretty good natured and have a good sense of humor ...but lately I am feeling down and been dealing with this for awhile now if I remove them out of my life I will be so Loney as I'm sure they will go to the extreme and cut me out completely....it's a dam if you do and dam if you don't ...hard to let go and walk around avoiding and make yourself not noticed ....really is hurtful....

[@Erzkreutz]

cant help but i think this message is kinda dangerous - because it basically invites people to emotionally abuse and use you while you say yourself: "UNDERSTAND THEM". i did this as good as i could for years and it left my mind pretty bruised...

[@MrRK9295]

Agreed. Are you supposed to stand there while they verbally punch you in the face and think to yourself, "It's OK, maybe they're just having a bad day?" Never worked for me until I started fighting back.

[@mstickle89]

Actually i think what he meant was first communicate your intentions clearly...patiently tell the people who frustrate you that it is not the right thing to do...if they are not ready to listen,then yes its time to fight back or cut loose...i am an introvert myself so i know its really tough to communicate but somehow thats what u gotta do

[@10010011001100110101]

I came to the same conclusion

[@Italiangirlnj747]

Yea its bs

[@Italiangirlnj747]

@••• melodic ••• yes

[@ppd8085]

I don't believe in always appealing to a person's better nature because they might not have one. I carry myself with basic positivity but if someone is a dangerous amoral adversary, I'm not above giving them a taste of their own medicine in spades. "We sleep soundly in our beds because rough men stand ready in the night to visit violence on those who would do us harm." It's not nice but that's the way a lot of the world is. You have to be tough as well as kind and sometimes that means you have to end up dealing with some nasty stuff. That's life.

[@wchampton7112]

REAL TALK!

[@kdrogo7933]

Perfectly said

[@courage0243]

I've been in therapy for 6 months and this video gave me better advice than I got in all that wasted time with a certified counselor.

[@elisas2562]

I admire your trust in humanity, but in my experience I found that at work some people are just deeply dishonest and greed and they don't give a fig to run over other people and ruin other people's careers if this can help them to get ahead and make more money. And they have a perfectly smoot life at home. I am sorry to say that, but some people are just really ugly, and that is the reality in which we live.

[@jenniferpiro8975]

That's exactly what I am seeing right now

[@happytobeme5324]

I think he knows but if u are capable be better when u can.

[@tongsesangtam7170]

Alisa S I strongly agree

[@riadechahbouni]

Ahhh...so negative....be positive....do you understand?...BE POSITIVE!!!

[@thenarcissistsenemy29]

Yes. Well sort of. Match this message with knowledge of narcissistic abuse vs self love deficit and you should find a better view. ✌😎

[@yaeljohnson4727]

I'm a person who frustrates people mostly because I over-explain. You just clarified why I always feel the need to explain my thought sequence. I always just want people to understand. The people that get frustrated with me about it are the people who just don't want to understand, they just want things to go the way they want them to go. Thank you for another great point, as always. I've yet to hear one "speech" that I don't agree with.

[@ebaychick30]

brilliant spin...dealing with frustrating people is about re-aligning YOUR OWN perspective and acknowledge, atone and deal with your own "frustrating" traits. Sometimes WE are the issue not other people.

[@SchoolOfTrade]

I really appreciate the fact that Brendon's videos dont have ads at the beginning... that shows true class when it comes to online video IMO. Thank you for setting the example with that Brendon, advertising is the biggest threat to the material on youtube.

[@ABo-jr8pg]

Joseph James I think content like his would deserve a little as revenue

[@JoseSanchez-bp7xz]

Joseph James I don’t think he has anything to do with the ads that aren’t on any videos. I think youtube decides whether to put them on certain videos.

[@film_magician]

I've seen like 10 of your videos. I literally think this channel was made for me and I found it at a perfect time. Thank's Brendon.

[@CanalDoNuki]

Film Magician I swear that i had never seen someone like him, i think he makes a incredible life change at people

[@lsgmail4300]

I told her many times what I needed from her when I shared my day story at work, with people etc was to listen without rescuing, judgements, opinions; just listen. I even had to break down into small bits for her to understand my need but she continued to struggle to listen and reflect without rescuing. We went couple counselling and still didn't work. I left after 9 years!

[@trevsedgwick3324]

This is advise that’s slightly off centre, never ever let someone abuse you,or allow them too much room for them to go on destroying you. The best way to help them is walk away and say this isn’t right. Plus you can often tell someone the truth but are they ready to here it. These are the profound questions that this guy is overlooking. It’s not for you to fix people it’s for people to realise all by them selves opps! I need to fix myself.

[@Dewwood100]

Thank you for this. I must admit, I'm usually patient and understanding, but some people seem to operate on a different level and stubbornly don't want to be helped and that tests the patience of a saint. There's caring and then there's tolerating someone at the cost of one's own sanity.

[@jamesleary-chappell3849]

this man is absolutely superb. he has reminded me to care. and help people. and brought home some home truths. we all need to be told it straight sometimes. he will and has changed me for now and for rest of my life. such a honest man

[@KyleGillis]

Wow. Brendon really put me in perspective with this one.. I've been thinking so much of myself with what I'm doing and how I want to be "different" that I've been creating a bad and un-relatable gap between me and others. Time for some change!

[@HenryDiesel23]

I See You !! Kyle Gillis

[@BananthahallyVijay]

Partly true. I often run into hypocrite junior co- workers, commenting on me now and then as I go about my work. I can't see how to put up with such people by being more patient or in some other passive way.

[@TempyLyra]

My current manager has this mentality, where he considers this. I feel so lucky. Normally I get people who don't just forget but don't care. But not my current manager, and it's amazing

[@rdewan10]

Brendon- Thank you for the reminder that we need to practice humanity. We usually expect the same level of performance from other people, without realizing that their situation might be different from ours. All we need to deal with is with ourselves. Our attitude and expectations. I love all your videos Keep up the great work.

[@HelenaMai23]

Wow 😳..! This is an eye opener for especially easily frustrated, hot tempered young woman like me. Man! It's so tough to be constantly frustrated.. I just want peace ✌️ but I think all the worries that built up because of what I've been through from young age of my life lead me get frustrated a lot in many situations. Yes, we all making the best we can... thank you 😊

[@ericwolfe5574]

Hey man. I'm literally what you described. I have an IQ of 140, and lately I've denounced my friends for doing things that I would never do. I've become more anti-social than ever because I get frustrated with people I used to be around. Your videos help me keep my ego in check.

[@rainergeis]

what made you announce your IQ? lmao

[@08Stella]

+namdar bleh (namnam528) Wow.. keeping ego in check... someone who is aware of that, is already not operating from the (mindless) Ego Self. Being aware is a great progress. :D Good one! The word is 'asocial' though. It suggests indifference to or separation from society. xxx

[@thelastofyou]

namdar bleh Dude, exactly the same here.

[@Marius1988Roma]

Brandon a personal thank you for this messages. Today I praised God to give me back my good will to do things, in the latest days I was getting idle. For some reason, and I don't know how, I found your video about "successfull people thoughts", I really felt what you said so I opened your profile and clicked on this video, I felt it directed to me. So a deep, deep thank you for doing this for us humanity, we really need someone to remember us certain things which are stored in our heart, but we like to bypass them somehow. Today I finally finished the lyrics of my first song, which maybe I will put on youtube one day. This is what I will do. Music, I am a piano player and composer, and I will to everything it's needed to fullfil my dreams. Thank you so much for your speech, I subscribed, you deserve attention because you really carry the power of Love and Unity, and it's extremely important during this time of passage of human consciousness. If you will need original musics made with heart for your videos, or anything in your life... you know there is a young soul in Rome, Italy, who would be honored to cooperate with you, brother. I wish you the best in your life, much Love and deep Thanks !!! Mario.

[@remindernotetoself6382]

I can be calm, cool and collected and toxicity comes my way depending on their aura is how I react as a self defense to protect my own energy. I cleanse because I get drained easily yet proud of my accomplishment of standing up for myself! Proud and dignified not arrogance as IAM kind overall.

[@remindernotetoself6382]

12:34

[@Emily-uw5tt]

The thinly veiled accusation that I am the frustrating person at the beginning IS VERY FRUSTRATING.... :)

[@MarkBaugher]

It looks like this video is a bit older, and I'm disappointed I didn't find it earlier. I think a lot of us try to remind ourselves that we may have disconnected from others, but we don't do it often enough. This video reminded me at a time when I really needed to find the patience and humility to help others, and do so most productively. Thank you for making this video, and reminding me about perspectives.

[@TempyLyra]

Clarity and guidance is important. All my past managers before this one only ever addressed things once a mistake affects them.

[@DANIELG534]

AT THE GYM I GO TO there is a swimming aerobics instructor and this guy has the BEST SOCIAL SKILLS I ever seen in an Instructor and everyone at the gym loves this guy -->> HE IS THE EXCEPTION I WISH EVERYONE HAD EXCELLENT SOCIAL SKILLS

[@yordankavetsova4232]

Brendon thank you for reminding me what humanity is.i started reading books on these topics and ur videos are definitely a big help for learning to be a better human being and to be the best you can ever be in each moment of your life. And I am learning from all your videos how genuine you are in your words and advise you are giving. Thank you for posting this here and giving everyone the opportunity to gain from your knowledge and to hear what you are saying because I think you are changing not only mine but many peoples lives

[@STMARTIN009]

It's more of a case by case basis. I have found that many people will state up front why they are frustrated and they are easier to work with. Communication is key. The ones that do not state why they are frustrated and act like entitled children need to check their attitude at the door if they want the best outcome or solution to the problem.

[@MariaBadalloPrieto]

Amazing!!! And, what about the EGO? is our ego, that is touched by those frustrating( or just complicated) people. When we reach to leave our EGO outside, we keep our connection with humanity, it´s my "I AM" walking with theirs.

[@seanalvord5397]

You've made me feel happy about being a garbage person as ridiculous as that sounds.. This video has shed a lot of positive light on my outlook and gave me a chance to be able to look at myself reflect, and see that many of the problems I blame on others comes from within. Thank you. Very good stuff

[@elimarc3891]

Very clear msg man! The value of what you say can't be missed by people who really have GOOD intentions towards other (and not just them selves.) Good gets paid with good; bad with bad, no matter the reasons.

[@miguelreynoso8437]

I work collections and this opened my eyes not only with coworkers and management but also in my personal life. Thank you

[@CocoTiu]

You gave me a lot of good pointers. I wish I had someone give me such good advise a long time ago. Very wise man

[@yvonnamit7772]

Patients, tolerance, faith,caring,loving,understanding, compassion, merciful, I get it now.♥️😃

[@otroleonarbe]

This guy is amazing. You can feel his leadership skills radiating us when he speaks, including non-verbal language. Good job Brandon! now I'm one of your followers

[@ceciliacruz4884]

Thanks God for creating a man like you Brendon..you are very amazing person!!! Thank you so much for enlightened people around the world including me.

[@HussainFahmy]

He who tastes the pleasure of good health, surely the bitterness of patience will become easy for him.

[@senang1788]

I come from VietNam, my English not good now, but I can understand what you talk... Thank you so much!...I get a lot of useful things! Thanks again!

[@RainVanisher]

i love his expression when he says lets assume you are not the frustrating person !

[@Gogoma68]

Galatians 5:22-23 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

[@mellomusic7]

Very glad to have found out about you Brendon ! I listen to you everyone morning before planning my day. I deal with people daily and present classes so sometimes you do need to direction. I look forward working on my newest projects for 2016 and continue listening !

[@mariavolkhonskaya712]

I go crazy when I'm interrupted again and again while I'm working on an urgent project. I'd love to help everybody but I need my work to be done in time. And sometimes I see people prefer asking for somebody's help to doing something themselves just to make their lives easier. Oh, and there is a colleague who I'd say is brilliant in finding questions which can easily frustrate you. So she will ask you the same question day after day and just watch you going mad. I tried to answer her question as I'd normally do to any other person. But the next day she asks the same question. I explain the situation in other words. The next day she greets you with the same question and you ask yourself whether she has a bad memory or is just kidding you. I tried to leave her question without any answer at all but it didn' t help...

[@cornelito]

I think the message is not to agree with everbody's bulshit, but just not to loose control everytime.. so probably the best for you would be just to say this person what really you think about him/her, but calmly ... like: hey, I'm glad you always ask for help, but I answered you this question a lot of times. if you cant understand what I'm saying you should probably ask for somebody else, I have a lot of stuff to do myself and I cant waste my time everyday with this shit .. most probably, this person wont speak to you anymore, but, really, why you need such a person anyway

[@rubiurrutia7804]

Tough stuff i think you should really take brendons advice and be clear with ppl,, for instance if someone asks you a question try and respond as best to your ability and politely explain your issue in finishing your project on a dead line and they most likely understand and didnt know how much it really bothered you really were in the fisrt place communication usually fixes things without ever being rude,, just think about how those ppl see you as a go to person and look up to you for resolving an issue and youll probly feel a bit better about it:)

[@mirzamirza3035]

Present, Patience, patience, patience, patience, patience and love = character ... over and over again, till it becomes my habit. Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself. (Rumi ). And That is the only way to serve better.

[@Holly-sq5uv]

Thank you for the wonderful reminder to simmer down, get centered and be the light. I really appreciate your positive intention and articulate message. Keep up the great work!

[@jsmiles3942]

I had this lovely conversation with an Uber driver the other day - it was beautiful 😍. Even that day I was feeling a little down , slightly frustrated, and especially in the midst of the COVID flow, it was soooo refreshing, heart warming & calming to have a HUMAN conversation, with a random stranger, with such depth & compassion. I just want to continue to do this , as I did pretty much in my everyday with little moments / interactions -> KEEP SPREADING the LOVE. It takes a mere moment. And if it veers towards something yucky, dangerous, toxic, worrisome for your well-being, speak a word of kindness & leave it there. It’s those moments missed that make it harder during this time , but that little moment of about 20 mins made an impact , however minute, and a lovely memory in our life make up :). It’s tricky & gut wrenching right now but KINDNESS in the smallest of forms is MAGNIFICENT 🥰🤩

[@PeaceDayCortez]

Ty! I needed this. I came here dealing with someone who takes things out on me when things aren't going well for them. I'm trying not to take it personal and be supportive. It's a difficult spot to be in and challenging to navigate. 😬🤔😒

[@proacct22]

Excellent content. You are so right, patience (an attribute of love) is the key to being less frustrated.

[@dreamphoenix]

This has helped me hate my control freak psychotic mother a little less. For that I'm eternally grateful to you Brendan. Thank you.

[@mexicanjl9703]

Thank you! This hit me like a wall of bricks. I was having a little "riff" with one of my coworkers at work and we sat down and "cleared the air". That was one thing she was saying was that when she works with me, she doesn't know what to do. At first, I was thinking she should know, she got all the training when she was first hired and all. But after watching this video and your "What Great Leaders Actually Do" video, I can see what I've been doing wrong and how I can improve. I can communicate better with her and I need to continuously coach and evaluate her and the other coworkers. Thanks, Brendon! 😉

[@marshalljackson3461]

You just inspired me on so many levels, I'm nose diving into a frustrating situation and I feel like I can make it through now. This video will be in mind on repeat as I sit in a cell for a number of days. I was recommended to your channel, specifically this video. Brendon I really thank you seriously.

[@whitetiger5181]

Marshall Jackson what happened man ?

[@marshalljackson3461]

White Tiger I got into legal trouble back 2014, been on probation and I violated it. Now I may goto jail for a few days unless I cough up the money I owe them. It's aggravating, I'm not jail material

[@RovingRoy]

The problem is that most people are just happy not wanting to improve themselves. They get up, watch TV, drink beer, then die. Brenda said everyone has big dreams. That isn't true. Most people are content with the status quo.

[@rajmalhotra420]

I used to let people walk over and become a doormat when I was younger. Now I don't let anyone to personally make me inferior without my consent. The best way to deal with frustrating person whether they are bosses,managers,co-workers,clients,customers or even family and sometimes close friends is to learn to be Assertive rather then being 1.Submissive and 2.Aggressive. I have sometimes in the past been both 1 and 2. These responses are neither effective!! and will not lead to a practical resolution!! Learn the skill of being "Assertive!"

[@focustheinner]

I love it when you say "The charged life" at the end of your videos.

[@tommychappell6359]

That's exactly why I hate discrimination, it makes me feel so ANGRY!!! because people are blaming you for things that aren't you fault, making me feel like I am an insult to myself. prejudice is just as bad. it just makes me feel resentful towards other people Because in reality no human is intentionally or deliberately bad. you see my ''right'' could be your ''wrong''. a poor person who robs from a guy walking down the street in order to feed his family or pay for medicine for someone who is sick could be seen as ''wrong'' from the victims point of view but ''right'' from the guy who robbed it because he is doing his best and is desperate to help his family. if the victim truly understood why someone robbed him he would understand why, rather than feeling angry because he is too busy focusing on his feelings and being a victim. we are all doing are best to survive. I believe everything happens for a reason. no guy INTENTIONALLY does something wrong for the pure sake of doing something wrong. it's also annoying having a disability because people who bully you or put you down and blame you for being ''weak'' when in reality you aren't weak you were born this disability and having coped with it actually makes you a stronger person than most people realize. your disability isn't a character of who you are, its not what you are, its what you do. I just hate people that pre-judge people with disabilities and see them as outcasts/weak .etc./ shun them because they think that people with disabilities are deliberately acting their way to cause offense. They think that these people are deliberately being offensive when they act like they do. That's probably the NUMBER 1 thing I hate about this planet, being punished by others because you are being Misunderstood, so because they think THEY understand you that makes their action e.g. criticizing/bullying/being angry at someone justifiable. So you feel that being damaged by others is justifiable because THEY MISUNDERSTAND YOU, when in truth you deserve better but no people will never see you for who you truly are. that's why you should always treat people not how you think YOU should treat them but how they SHOULD be treated, because you don't know what anyone is going through. don't ever feel that your action is justifiable because you have probably made them feel a lot angrier. people have their own boundaries and handicaps and you can't ever apply your own onto another person to see how they are succeeding to your standards. we are all part of our own game and have different difficulties than a lot of people.

[@k.m.4971]

I tried this so often, but so many are not willing to really take help . And they didn’t ask for it either so sure they don’t take it. It’s a devils circle you can’t break through. It would be nice if this would work but often it really doesn’t and than people like me are designating and giving up ... you get beaten up so much with a helping personality .

[@joyh.729]

This really hit home. I have to be more understanding & consider other points of view rather than my own. The truth sometimes hurt but is necessary for growth. Thank you for this!🌟

[@disha.m123]

So comforting to watch this. I LOVE YOU!

[@sagnikchakraborty1613]

I came by this video by accident, and i'm so glad that i did !

[@kusumpathaniananda]

This is about people who frustrate you because they had a bad incident so are Ina bad space but how about people who are that way in general because of entitled or narcissistic attitudes..

[@jeff186sc]

Thanks so much. I learn so much about myself and how to be a better person watching these.

[@dnbmate4902]

I know for a 100% fact the person i'm dealing with is not having and troubles with their life and everything is fine and dandy for them and the still make me explode all of the time.

[@maysamugharbel3998]

Amazing insight. Thank you so much

[@maysamugharbel3998]

Amazing insights. Thank you so much

[@viviertv7349]

this was so accurate it brought me tears

[@wheres_bears1378]

You don’t deal with them, you give them three chances and bounce especially if they are personality disordered

[@EduardLopezGimeno]

Patience and willingness to help. Wonderful! If we would only remember these two things during our day, how different our reality would be.

[@CaptainSoftboy501]

Today in sixth period I dealt with a student peer (mind you I'm in high school) who was acting like a five year old, mocking me and basically repeating what I said and not doing what I told him to after I told him to stop. and after watching this video all I can say is "you poor soul. you're glad I don't wish you dead now... you'd better thank Brandon for making me see you as a human.." XD thanks Brandon, I'm gonna do my best to see these... people... as somebody going through something instead of somebody who was born to ruin the happiness of others. it won't be easy as you can tell but I will do my best. for the betterment of humanity ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ

[@devinhinkson3798]

All of the negative comments about him being too hard or not getting it is defensiveness because the truth is hard. People who are in a good place aren't hard to deal with. Its the hard things we go through that make us frustrating people. I promise if there is someone who is frustrating there is something you don't understand going on that make them that way. He is right. Its ego that disconnects us with humanity.

[@Femininelovevibes]

Sometimes people have nothing better to do, usually they are bored and like DRAMA.

[@anitamateo5584]

THOSE PEOPLE HAVE NO REMORSE IN THEIR LIFE.THEY NEVER SORRY FOR MISTAKE THEY'VE DONE.IT SEEMS THAT THEY ARE OVER THE TOP IN THE WORLD EVEN IN GOD.

[@jerilynthompson2211]

Dear Brendon, if I could order a cup of your wisdom every morning rather than a grande latte with two sugars, the world would be a better place. Thank you for giving us tools to think, reflect and regroup before judging people. The funny thing is, once we exercise your ideas, those same frustrating people come to our rescue with their experiences. Please come to Oakland. I MIGHT miss a Warriors game to attend a lecture.

[@donnaballantyne8062]

I am so happy that i have time to improve myself by listening to you. Thank you Brandon 😊

[@arantebw]

Brendon, thank you!

[@sergiojimvi1]

I would like to start my comment thanking Mr. Brendon for this explanation on Frustration towards people. I find his method of delivering and sharing his knowledge very fresh and appealing to a lot of people, young and older. I understand we all have to consider other people might have problems and troubles, and all of that, (that is actually what empathy is all about), but in my point of view I have to disagree with Mr. Brendon in one point: He says people are just trying to do their best. Now, I know he is generalizing, but let's be honest here. I have found that some people don't pursue knowledge as an important part of their lives. They don't care for wisdom. They neglect all of this beautiful things, not only it hurts, but it's often frustrating since, as a teacher and also as a Christian preacher my duty is to motivate people to pursue wisdom and knowledge, but some of them don't even care. It is frustrating because most humans are selfish, difficult to live with, some of them are so uneducated that they don't even know about the importance of preserving the planet for example, people who think living in the street doing drugs and mugging other people is an "alternative" lifestyle. I understand them, it is just difficult to accept that we are so small, we motivate, we preach, but humanity's doom is inevitable, so many problems done by so many people who don´t know and won't care to know what they are doing. That's my frustration (or perhaps I can call it, pain or suffering). What do you guys think? Do you feel the same way?

[@rubiurrutia7804]

I know there is ppl out there like you mention but i believe that everyone behaves a certain way because of past experiences,, because they are caged ppl like brendon explains ,,because every one is different and get influenced to better themselvs in different ways,, but at the end these ppl will get judge no matter of ignorance or any other reason and the beatiful thing is to see that there is still good ppl out there trying to better the humanity with insighful messages like brendons videos and yourself as a preacher.. Keep up the good wrk!

[@Thinkingforwardinc]

Once again Brendon great advice at the right moment!

[@Drum3Matrix]

I just wish everyone would watch this so that people were more happy more often

[@Nancy-x3Nancy___fx]

Sending you heartfelt smiles from my soul.

[@Liliann31]

This was amazing, I am speechless. What a beautiful, meaningful talk you've shared in this video, thank you for sharing your insight it really puts things into perspective. God bless

[@valjean2036]

Doesnt give ppl a right to treat you abusive.

[@mansorghani3165]

your communication is next level

[@roberthall6454]

When people try to get you angry, that they don't feel to good about themselves,so they won't others to suffer

[@jaimiemarie434]

Reeled me in with the title, resonated within and changed my life with your message. I just clicked. Thank you... You are brilliant or should I say Charged.

[@namastecolorado]

Again, thank you. In that space where I was brought to learn so much.

[@DARKhorses73]

lol! I sense some sarcasm. I believe everyone is battling something. Sometimes we just don't place compassion first but selfish motives.

[@sherrybisset1798]

Such an awesome vedio. I have been trying hard to become a positve and motivating person, but when I face "stupid" people, I just could not control my anger and frustration. So good to watch this vedio, as Brendon said, always remember that you don't know what other people might have been going through their life, just like sometime myself would behave stupid when I was not thinking straight; make sure what you expect from them is clearly understood by them, our words can be so confusing that what you said may mean quite different from other people's perspecitve; altitude is important, we need to help people, upbuilding their confidence and competence, as that is what we would expect from other people too. Always be centered, be present, be more control of our thinking and response to outside rather than the outside world which we cannot control. Love this vedio, need to practise more from now on. Thank you Brendon.

[@RichflixInc]

Interesting concept of putting on "humanity's hat", thanks Brendon! Much love from Bali ❤️

[@ronewgalt7516]

With all my respect for Mr. Brendon, the reasoning in this video is: They are not idiots or jerks, .the viewer is. The message sounds nice, peaceful and intellectual but reading between the lines, the message is empty and is away from any reality check. He tends to blame the person who is frustrated mentioning one does not have patience, love, character, and personality. No sir....I recognize your message is a mixture of 50% truth and 50% being politically correct.

[@markonovakovic3838]

When person frustrates you because he/she is is selfish and if they know that what they say will frustrate you and they say it anyways because "they have to" and you get frustrated, they see that and after 15 minutes they come back and say "sorry", if they really mean it should you accept they apology when you know they will do that again next day. Are those people worth you being there for them and accept every apology they have?

[@abdoamkiye3374]

Due to the Bullying though that is linked to many negative outcomes including impacts on mental health, substance use, and suicide. And yes I'm one of these toxic people and if you got bullied you'll be a bully.

[@Multiverse_Crew]

I can't believe, every time you talk about subject that i have in my life in the moment you get your video out ...You are fantastic !!! :D and a real Guru of living :)

[@NatashaMonacoFitmamafitwife]

I enjoy everything you share with us! Thank you!

[@tellmesumthnggud188]

I am so grateful for your points in this video. Thank you!

[@lonedeafpig-dog2846]

I've watched plenty of your videos and I like what you have to say but I disagree with you here. When it is nice people who are being frustrating then this advice might work. When it is a toxic person who is being frustrating, they won't take you seriously no matter how much compassion you show them. Ask a toxic person to help you, and they probably will, and it will be a mistake. Communicating clearly with a toxic person to tell them what you need, and they won't care or listen, and might even mock you for it. Toxic people don't care about building character and doing their best. I agree that building patience will help yourself deal with these people but maybe not extend so much compassion, as compassion won't be returned to you. I also agree with not controlling everything or everyone. It's better to let go and move on.

[@lucypeng4403]

Really appreciate what was said, and 100% agree. However, I wonder, how does one deal with someone who is acting up in an attempt to control their environment? A particular example is a man acting up in the workplace because he does not like to work with women. In this case it seems like whatever their background may be, the act is unprofessional. Brendon, would you deal with it?

[@TekkLuthor]

my question is, how long do we stay patient before we define the relationship poisonous? Also, as these people who take in negative energy, where do we redirect it too? Because I have the patience but eventually when things keep going in circles it starts to add up...

[@savanahmoorer2333]

I mean I would try not to anything wrong but sometimes it feels like it is out of my control and I even get mad with myself

[@EricStandlee]

So, what about abusive relationships? I am sure you don't have people in powerful positions around you like fathers, bosses, etc who abuse you, but certainly we cannot just tell people in abusive relationships with drunkards or narcissists or control freaks manipulating them to be nice and be considerate about that person at the expense of their self, right?

[@peachez982]

Eric Standlee I think he is referring to the vast majority not the one odd situations you are describing.

[@peachez982]

*off not odd

[@CocoTiu]

Brendon. Since I discovered you, I listened only you in my 45 daily commute

[@edwardsiwalejr2213]

You just hit the nail on the head,thats sweet Brendon.

[@MartellThaCool]

I get angry at people for doing me wrong and think they get over on me. I don't like rude people at all. I got anger issues with rude a** people since I was a kid 😡😒

[@gonzalorenatoquintanazunin6984]

Thank you, I will definitely repeat this video many times, and subscribe!

[@Sarah-pj4vo]

What if you have reached out, wanted to help once and again but the other person isn't interested? And when they communicate, it's very exaggerated and nitpicky. Of course, me and everyone in this lovely planet has flaws, but I've learnt that sometimes, it's best to move on in our own personal journeys because some people just bring us down ( due to their own insecurities).

[@rsj9701]

The only understanding this poster's missing is some people are a**holes regardless.. He has a way of making the one being bashed, mentally abused, attacked emotionally etc. as the ones to blame - not the straight up jerk.