How to deal with Grief after losing an adult child.

[@meliciahercules1161]

Lost my only son 2 months ago. He was my world. He was diagnosed with sickle-thalassemia. He lived more years than he was given, he passed on at the age of 30. I dont know how to live without him. I know his out of his pain and suffeing, my heart is in a million pieces. He was the best gift from God. I got to love him with all my heart. He held my hand for 30 yrs, now he gets live with Jesus for eternity. I love you always, Junaid until we meet again my sweet beautiful son ❤️ 🙏😢

[@bettylansford]

I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing with me and the group. I'm praying for you. ❤️

[@gingerbee6719]

Betty thank you for sharing this compassionate message. Today December 18th, 2019, I lost my Beloved son Erek... He was 28 . My heart is Shattered & my Soul is Crushed.... A pain so unbearable , there are no words.... I am alone with my Grief as I have no family.... I miss you Erek with all of my Being... Your Momma I Love you Infinity 😭💔🕯🕯♾️

[@bettylansford]

Ginger Bee I'm sorry for the loss of your son Erek. Sometimes there are no words..just tears. I understand. You mentioned that you don't have any family. If possible, try to get out among others if you can, when you're able. You're in my prayers Ginger. ❤🙏❤️

[@nicholasdmello3400]

God be with you

[@cuddlesanddaisy]

You are forever changed after losing a child. I lost my daughter 7 years ago. She was 27. The Lord has to help us.✝️🙏💕

[@bettylansford]

You are right. We make it through the help and strength of God's grace... forever changed. ❤️🙏✝️

[@SusanMedina-i1v]

When will the tears stop

[@wandalowry6448]

I just lost my only child 11 weeks ago from a massive heart attack. He was 33 and had Asperger’s so he always lived at home with me. I’m so devastated.

[@bettylansford]

I'm so sorry. Sending you hugs, many hugs. I'm praying for you. ❤️

[@amberlynnloggins9022]

Prayers with your heart 🙏

[@carolhelmen]

I’m so sorry, I lost my daughter June 29 th 2024 also to cardiac arrest, and she was 38 and high functioning intellectually delayed🥲. Grief support , and reading many books, and support one day at a time…..

[@Lennashome]

I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s so early for you😢 Pain is equal to love, talk, cry, find groups to talk. Tonight 20 months later I broke down really missing my 33 year old son. The shock is wearing off We all love and miss our children….sending you hugs and comfort soon💙🤗🙏🕊️

[@junal27]

Lost my 22 years old son three weeks ago, I miss him very much. I am proud of him. His life was unfair, society did not make things easy to him however he was a warrior. He had a great heart and left a legacy of love. He adored his family. Two things keep me afloat, to believe he is in a better place now and well taken care off and that he had a mission and whenver his mission was over he was supposed to leave. I believe in destiny, we could have avoided it but have not control on his acts. My life will not be the same, I do not want to be the same person, I only want to honor my next years to him and making sure he would feel proud of me, I do not want to let him down. He was the first one, he was the most sensitive one, the most impulsive, I miss him so much. I texted him right after his accident, never received an answer back. I love you baba, forgive me if I did something wrong. I do know you were proud of your brothers and parents, I pray for God taking you, te quiero papi

[@bettylansford]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're in my prayers. 🙏 ❤️

[@RF1972.]

I just lost my son ....age 39.... thank you for talking to us.... you feel like someone understands💔❤

[@bettylansford]

Rachael I am so sorry for the loss of your son. It is not something I want any parent to go through. Thank you for your kind words. I will be praying for you and your family. The Lord is our strength. 💕🙏💕

[@MishasMama]

Thank you for posting your video. My daughter passed away June 29th, 2021. My Misha was 28 years old. The pain and loss is unbearable. I think that one of the things that makes grieving the loss of an adult child harder, is that in trying to understand, people try to draw comparisons. No one's grief should be minimized because death is HARD. In western cultures, we don't talk about death. People just want to talk about "getting over" and "moving on", but the simple fact that you have to bury your child is not something that you "get over". You don't "move on". It is out of order, it feels unnatural and that feeling stays with you. You are not supposed to outlive your children and people don't want to talk about your grief because they don't want to imagine it happening to them. So you put pressure on yourself to "heal" so that you can fit into "regular" society and act like you are ok. I get up everyday and do what I have to do, but I will not pretend to be ok when I am not, or to make other people comfortable. Losing a child changes you, and the loss should be acknowledged, accepted and honored.

[@bettylansford]

Cynthia you are right. It is hard because people do not understand but they mean well. Don't try to push past the grief hon. Sometimes it takes time. Its different for each of us. I'll be praying for you and you pray for me. 🙏❤

[@cindiroberts5652]

Very well put! I feel so isolated. No one around me can understand. I lost my First born son 6 weeks ago today in a car accident. He was 26. I can barely even write that. I'll never recover. I feel so cheated. Everyone else in my family gets to have grandchildren and watch thrir children become parents. I never will now. My only living child has autism. He is a blessing of course. But to see my siblings being grandparents knowing not only did I lose my son but also the chance to ever experience that joy....it breaks my heart even more. No one gets it. They just look at me with pity and don't know what to say. My Dad acts like I gotta pull it together and get on with it. They are completely clueless as to what I'm dealing with and that just makes it even harder feeling like no one can even begin to understand this level of grief 💔

[@bettylansford]

@@cindiroberts5652 without a doubt its very hard dealing with the "what ifs". I'm so sorry that you are having a hard time. Like I've mentioned before, a lot of people have no clue of the pain. Its not easy going through this. I know. I'll be praying for you 🙏❤

[@MelModica]

Yes thank you!! I lost my 22 year old nephew last month and I feel pressure to put on a happy face for the sake of others but I am not ok, and we have every right to be sad and grieving! Trying to be support for my brother, it really is the worst thing ever.

[@reginaserna4548]

I lost my Daughter Valerie on the same date June 29th 2021. Valerie forever 38. I’m sorry for your loss Mishas mama 😢

[@tiaz3069]

Thank you! This is an answer to my prayers. I just lost my daughter 2 weeks ago and I'm not doing well. I am a Christian and appreciate you bringing this video as a ministry. Please pray for me.

[@bettysgospelsounds1205]

I certainly will pray for you Tia. I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. I think this is the hardest thing any of us will ever do in our lifetime. Be patient with yourself and give yourself time to grieve. You may not feel it but I can assure you the Lord will be your strength and He will bring you through. Please stay in touch. I'll be praying. 🙏 ❤

[@mayraconcepcion1565]

Thank you for this video, needed it so badly, buried my son 2 days ago

[@jakenbake9878]

@@mayraconcepcion1565I will add you all to my prayers

[@jeannecroghan3701]

God Bless you.

[@bettylansford]

Tia I pray you are having a good day. You're in my prayers. ❤ 🙏

[@willwilliams3085]

My oldest son dj a kind, compassionate, giving son passed at the age of 39, 7-2023 from covid. As his mother i prayed everyday for his healing for the 2 months that he was in the hospieal. I go to church i pray i have friends who are there but this heartache is so real. He was a musician,🎶 played the drums, bass n rhythm guitar.

[@bettylansford]

Our children are precious. I'm so sorry to hear about your son. It sounds like he had great talent. You must miss his music very much. I'll be praying for you. It's hard to understand, but God knows our suffering and pain. ❤🙏

[@myrtleesther8855]

I pray God will comfort you and give you hope. Jesus took the sting out of death.

[@mellisageorge90]

Thank you for sharing... I lost my son, Dylan, my baby boy, on October 3rd, 2022 he was 25 years old. He was in a motorcycle accident he got hit from behind and was killed on impact. I know I wouldn't have survived this without God. God's love, grace, comfort, and healing are needed to get through this. Prayers for you and everyone mourning the loss of your child or family member.

[@bettylansford]

Melissa I am sorry. Sometimes I just do not have words to say and this is one of those times. Without the Lord to lean on, I just can't imagine. Thanks for your prayers. That's what will carry us through. I'll be praying for you. ❤🙏

[@wendysarnelli2391]

Hi Betty, I lost my beautiful daughter Julia 5 weeks ago. She was 24 years old. My heart is broken and I know life will never be the same. I miss her so much and the pain is immense. I thank you so much for this video, it brought some comfort to me. I pray for you and ask that you please pray for me.

[@bettylansford]

Wendy I'm sorry for the loss of your daughter. You're in my prayers 🙏 ❤️

[@marciatreat9081]

Thank you so much. I lost my dear youngest son 5 months ago There is still no cause of death . He was 53 and simply collapsed Three weeks later my husband died from Parkinson’s. As sad as I was when my husband died, it was nothing compared to the loss of my son. I describe it as an atomic bomb exploding in my brain and heart. I am.writing this through tears. I am growing closer to the Lord as each day passes. You are right that no one else can understand unless they have lost a child.

[@bettylansford]

Marcia, bless your heart. That's so much loss close together. I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband and your son. Be aware of your needs.. take care of yourself. You're in my prayers. ❤️

[@3bsjnm]

Thank you for sharing. I lost my son, Michael McDonald, 12/23/20 at age 28 in an ATV accident. The pain is overwhelming. My heart has a gaping hole. I so appreciate you sharing your story, the scripture & the prayer. 💔😭💔

[@bettylansford]

Rebecca thank you for listening and responding. I'm sorry for your loss. I know the pain of grief gets overwhelming at times. Your Michael was just a few years older then Alan. I'm thankful for the 25 years I had with him. With God's help, we will make it through.

[@debbiebragnalo48]

💔🙏😢 I am so sorry, I am an angel mom too 😢 It's been 12 years since my daughter passed 😢 💔 I am still struggling each day and night

[@bettylansford]

@@debbiebragnalo48 I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. It can be a short time or longer but the pain is still there as we both know. We will forever miss our babies. I'll pray for you and you please pray for me. God is with us.

[@cskiles318]

Holidays really hard for you no doubt. Hugs and hope for a better year ❤️

[@freedmm3122]

I lost my daughter in an ATV accident. I.t has been 9 years since the accident she spent almost 4 years could not move from her neck down. 5 years since she past . and i still can not look at one of those awfull machines .they require seat belts in cars but not even roll bars on those sorry things😊😊😊

[@Angela-sh9rz]

i know exactly what you are feeling, i lost my little girl at 32 yrs, only the hand of God sustained me, i had a. stroke over it and ian still here and thankful for the healing hand of the Lord, you never get over it, you learn to live with it, over time it does get a little better, especially knowing God won’t give ya more than you can bear,i am a worrier and proof of it

[@bettylansford]

Angela, it is hard when we lose our children. I'm sorry for your loss. And I hope you are doing better after the stroke. I pray the Lord keeps His hand on you. I'll be praying for you. ❤🙏❤️

[@shilpib7068]

Betty I m so sorry for your loss.. I have lost both my parents..I don't want to live anymore..the pain is unbearable..so I guess I was searching for people in pain and I guess there is no much more than losing a child...so I was searching or connecting with the pain.. They say we go on..but we don't we just learn to live with the pain..we pretend to be fine from outside to the world..when really inside you are tearing apart..your heart is aching with unbearable pain seeking answers and blaming yourself..if only had I had done this or that..may be the loved one would be still there. I think that if you really love someone then the pain replaces the love for them because the love has no place to go so it changes to grief. You just live with the pain till you die.

[@Theresa-ue3dj]

Thank you for this KZbin message. Lost my son suddenly today 9/3/23 , 35 years young. I miss him deeply, listening to you has helped today. Thank you!!

[@bettylansford]

@Theresa-ue3ddj thank you for the kind comment. I'm thankful the video helped in some way. I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. It's not easy but you're going to make it. I'll remember you in my prayers tonight. God bless you. 🙏 ❤️

[@mspurplepatchouli]

Thank you for sharing and offering encouragement and hope. I am grieving the loss of my dear 28 year old son who passed last February, 2021. Thank you for the prayers. ❤

[@bettylansford]

Stephanie I am sorry for the loss of your son. February must not be a holiday that you are looking forward to. I lost my son the 1st part of November 19 years ago and I still do not look forward to Thanksgiving or Christmas. Although I have to say it is getting easier. You will be in my prayers.

[@Zone60]

I just loss my 28 year old son recently

[@mspurplepatchouli]

@@Zone60 I'm so sorry for your loss. This is such a difficult path

[@bettylansford]

@@Zone60 I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your son recently. My heart goes out to you. You're in my prayers.

[@michellelohde8683]

@@bettylansford my girlfriend of two years and best friend of 20 years died stage 4 beast cancer on 8/8/22 her mum is taking it the hardest they were os close her daughter was gay too last night she broke down i tears she sobs she she told me she misses Megan that was her name was how I help her mum out with loss her only child ???. Megan was only 36 year old her birthday this Sunday coming and her funedel this Tuseday how I help her with both events too ???.

[@fieldsendart]

I lost my 29 y.o old beloved only son, Anthony, on January 2, 2023 to suicide. I am shattered 💔💔 My faith has been rocked...I am clinging on and I can only pray God carries me through this devastation.

[@bettylansford]

Contemporary Artist I am so sorry to hear about your son Anthony. Bless your heart that had to be devastating. As hard as it can be, we must continue to carry on. There were days I didn't think I could get out of bed let alone lift my head. But somehow I did. One day I got up and the fog of depression had lifted. I know that you will be able to get through this awful pain. If I can tell you anything, just get up, put one foot in front of another and breathe. I noticed you're a painter; a good one. I hope it keeps your mind occupied. I'll be praying for you. 🙏❤ 🙏

[@sharonpete7661]

I too lost my only child, my son 32 due to Covid. I know the Lord will see us through it’s the middle part we have to go thru the healing process which is painful ♥️😭

[@fieldsendart]

@@sharonpete7661 I'm so sorry for your loss too 😢

[@fieldsendart]

@@bettylansford Thank you Betty. I continue to try to move forward and heal, because I know he would want me to 😢❤️‍🩹

[@bettylansford]

@@sharonpete7661 I'm sorry for your loss. You're right it's not easy. Thank you for sharing your heart. I'll remember you in my prayers. ❤️

[@janthorpe9577]

You are a very sweet person. My sweet girl is on the other side after 36 years in our lives. There is nothing anyone can say. Just being there with respect is comfort.

[@bettylansford]

Thank you, Jan, for that sweet comment. I try to be. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. Sending prayers of comfort to you and your family. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

[@ironbutterfly7777]

Thank you for this video. I can tell you have a beautiful soul. I lost my daughter almost 6 months ago. I feel like I’ve been knocked off my feet and my faith has been shaken. I just joined a GriefShare class. I pray it can help me. I’m also asking God to please heal my broken heart ❤️‍🩹🙏 Bekah’s mom ~ forever 22 🦋

[@bettylansford]

Christian God-bless you hon. You are in my prayers that God will touch you, strengthen you, and heal your broken heart.

[@monicacornish3113]

Hello. Today is June 4th of 2022. As of late last night, I received “that call” that no parent wants to hear. My first child, my son, Laurence age 39 died of a reported overdose, although I believe it was not intentional. I’m having trouble grasping onto reality and I was looking on KZbin for Scriptures on loosing an adult child and you came across just in time, God’s timing. I’m grateful for your belief in Christ Jesus and I thank you for being real here.

[@AngelinaX23]

On June 4th 2022 my 48 year old daughter had the life crushed out of her by her fiance. She was taken off life support on June 8th. She lived in another state and I didn't see her often, so sometimes her death doesn't feel real. I don't believe that your son deliberately overdosed. There is so much poisonous fentanyl coming into our country through the Southern border that it is currently the number one cause of death in our young people ages 18-45. I will pray for you. 🙏💗

[@bettylansford]

Monica I'm so sorry to hear that about your son. Bless your heart. I'll never forget where I was when I got the call about my son Alan. Thats something that I wish none of us had to deal. Life isn't always easy. This is the hardest but God will carry us through. I'm praying for you Monica. ❤

[@bettylansford]

Angelina you are in my prayers.

[@sofiamor5397]

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[@claudettenarine3295]

Dear friend God is our only source of hope in time of grief God bless you

[@bettylansford]

That is true. Jesus is our hope. I'll be praying for you. God bless you.

[@kathy7579]

Thank you this is encouraging! My daughter passed almost 4 months ago😢

[@bettylansford]

Kathy, thank you. I appreciate you sharing this was helpful. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I will keep you in my prayers. ❤

[@karenjantzi7662]

What a blessing you are!! Thank you so much for sharing what has helped you. I lost my 35 yr old son last Thanksgiving and it was a shock. God has always been my strength and he had shown himself so faithful. I shared this video with my grieving mommas support group on FB. You are a gift to us all. Hugs and kisses! ❤️

[@bettylansford]

Karen I want to thank you for viewing this video and sharing it in your group. Its not easy being a grieving parent. I'm also grateful to the Lord for being a constant help and comfort. I'll be praying for you and those in your group.

[@jerryharrall3080]

Thank you for sharing, I lost my only son Royston age 26 12th March 2022 suddenly. Heart broken beyond words

[@bettylansford]

Jerry thats not been very long ago. I'm so sorry. I do understand broken. Give yourself time to grieve. I'll be praying for you. 🙏❤

[@paulawhipple8002]

I lost my Stephanie a few days ago at age 28 … I was working and received a call at work my baby sister found my beautiful girl in my living room . We will not know the cause of death for months … my daughter lived with me … She loved me I love her forever .. since this is so new .. I pretend she’s away at her friends… it helps me cope .. Thank you for this video… I pray to the lord and never will I blame him .. I need him 🙏… Sincerely a brokenhearted mother 💔

[@1sweetea]

Wow I totally relate to this. My daughter was also found dead in her living room at age 28 May 2nd. I've been on the Internet looking for understanding on how to cope. I wish this was a nightmare. I just want to run away from it all. 😢😢😢

[@bettylansford]

Paula, I know that had to of been such a shock. I'm so sorry momma. The Lord knows what we're going through and for that I'm thankful. Personally, I don't know how people make it with out our Lord. Paula, grief will affect our body so please take care of yourself. I'll be praying for you.

[@MichelleLupke]

Oh my goodness I do the same i don't ever say my daughter passed I just tell myself she is at work or busy with something i don't know when I'm gonna start facing reality

[@rosyloveslearning3013]

You are absolutely loveable. I’m sorry for your loss. ❤❤❤

[@bettylansford]

Thank you Rosy. God bless you.

[@cskiles318]

Thank You for sharing. Support from others so important. My husband and I became so distraught ppl avoided us. Left alone in our grief. Lost our adult son 2020. I’m Here searching for hope it gets easier to carry, We have days that we can function normal. Then the waves come. And it’s back to the beginning. Atleast now we know the waves come and go. But still not living a normal life. I appreciate your strength to do this. I thank you so much. So many ppl hurting. And really not much help. What I have found has sadly came from ppl dealing with the same grief. Hugs to all moms and dads that came here searching ❤️

[@bettylansford]

You are so right Christina. It is hard for people to relate to the grief do the grief that parents go through from losing their children. I have found that helping others not just listening or talking to them has helped me dealing with my own grief. Take care. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[@bettylansford]

Christina skiles I answered you but it didn't seem to go in this in the right place. Hope you found it. I'm praying for you and your husband.

[@bettylansford]

Christina Skiles you yourself are a comfort to others. Thank you for sharing.

[@cskiles318]

@@bettylansford thank you, yep I’m still up 340am here in Illinois hugs

[@bettylansford]

@@cskiles318 me too..awake in Texas..ready for coffee lol

[@jacquelinemcgowan8164]

My daughter passed away 4 months ago at the age of 35yrs and i am like eveyone who has wrote on your channel devastated, we will be because we love our children and i have cried everyday, the pain is enormous and weeping is a means for me to release the pain and heartbreak and i have this little card which has the words on it. Be kind to yourself you are doing the best you can, that says it all God knows all about weeping even advocates it and if the Lord Jesus Christ wept then its good enough for me. Thank you so much Betty for this down to earth video, they are often the best and since you have been in all our shoes you totally get it, much love in your life

[@bettylansford]

Jacqueline, I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. You made me think of a song I used to sing "He washed my eyes with tears. That I might see ..the glory of himself revealed to me. I did not know that day that he had wounded hands until I saw the marks, and the blood, that was spilled on the sand.". The pain is enormous that we have had to go through but our Lord Jesus will keep us and comfort us. I will remember you in my prayers.. ❤️

[@sharlaneb9545]

Thanks for sharing!! I lost my youngest son 3 weeks ago at 24. I can’t seem to get through it. Your strength encouragement comes from the Lord!! God bless you for your prayers and words of compassion.

[@bettylansford]

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son. Bless your heart. This is the time of year where it will be the hardest I think. Or maybe I am just speaking from myself. Just take some breaths. You may Not feel like it Hun but you will make it through with God's help and the prayers of others lifting you up. Thank you for sharing and reaching out. I will be praying for you.

[@sharlaneb9545]

@@bettylansford you are sent by God! Praise him for his angels!

[@cskiles318]

For me after 1.5 yrs. I always need to get outside no matter the temp. To try distract the pain. If only for a bit. I want to say to you at about a year the phsical pain let up some. The mental pain not so much. We are all diffrnt. Good support is about the most comfort I got. Hugs for you and your family ❤️

[@bettylansford]

@@cskiles318 You are so right. Good support is necessary. I realize not everyone has good support. I want to thank each and every one that prays for this channel and prays for each of us that have lost loved ones. Christina I'm so glad that you have found a way that helps you to deal with the pain and hurt. I appreciate your comments so much. As I've mentioned before, people don't know how to respond to our grief. This will cause them to venture away when needed the most.. therefore we need each other. I'm praying for you and your husband. God-bless you.

[@debbiebragnalo48]

I feel your unbearable pain 💔 😢 I know your unbearable pain 💔 😪 I am so sorry 😥 I am an angel mom my 27 year old daughter 💔 😢 passed from a tragic car accident 😢 💔 Twelve years ago 💔 😢 my beautiful daughter left my side 💔 😢 I am still struggling each day and night. There is no greater pain than the loss of a child 💔 😢 I try my best to keep going for my son on earth and my 2 grandsons. We are all different how we grieve. Talk about your angel child honour your angel children. Talking to others who have lost children truly help. Keep your faith in God

[@monicamedina5597]

You are such a blessing and encouragement ❤

[@bettylansford]

That's so sweet of you to say Monica. God bless you hon. Hope you're doing okay. I'm praying for you.

[@donnaacklin8363]

I just happened upon your video and after watching many and reading so much on grief, I appreciated your gentle reminder of hope. Right now I cannot see any light and feel very hopeless. Deep depression is coming on stronger as we approach nearer to his Heaven date. Anyway thank you for your humble and heartfelt message and I am so terribly sorry for your loss!

[@bettylansford]

@donnaacklin8363 Donna, as certain dates closer approached, I, too, would begin to experience anxiety and depression. In fact, I still do, but it's not as severe and much easier to bear. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Give yourself time to grieve. It will get better. One important thing to remember is that the Lord is with you. I'm praying for you. 🙏 ❤️

[@doristyler-b7z]

I lost my first born and only boy at the age of 27 years old. He was shot twice in the head. It sent me into a deep depression and this happened in Dec. of 1992 and i also lost my dad and only sibling such a sweet brother in only 45 yrs. old 2 weeks apart. My brother died at the age of 45 on Thanksgiving Day. He passed away at my house on Thanksgiving Day.. I do have a good daughter and son in law. I also have a good husband, 3 grand children and 3 great grandchildren. We miss Marcus (Mark) deeply all of the family dose and God Bless you and your family . God Bless everyone who has lost a child. I still think of Mark but the day he left our house i did get to hug him before he left and gave a little kiss and hugged him and i told him i loved so very much and he did the same and said good by and i am so great full that. Love you and all the moms that have gone through the lost of a child at any age. Love to you all. Marks Mom.

[@tonyaduvall49]

How your video come to me is unknown but I must thank the lord it did. I lost my daughter last week and the pain is unbearable. I know everyone of us have that feeling but I'm trying so hard to find the way. Bless you mam for calming my storm.

[@bettylansford]

I'm sorry for the loss of your daughter Tonya. I'll be praying for you. God bless you hon. 🙏 ❤️

[@SRMthy]

Thank you so much for your comforting voice and prayers 🙏😞 I lost my dear son in Sept and I don’t want to go on without him 😔😞 I am waiting to see my son again😞

[@bettylansford]

Sharmila I know its hard. Sometimes there are no words to describe our heart. 💔 Let Jesus help you. In our weakness, He will be there for us. He took care of me daily and He will you too. I'll be praying for you.

[@lakishachilds8161]

I feel the same way my son and I had a really strong bond.

[@elishevashaw]

Í have lost my precious son Ríshith last year. I míss him a lot. Thank you for this video. Thank you for the Biblical verses. They are the greatest source of assurance and comfort.

[@bettylansford]

You are welcome. I am glad that the scriptures were a blessing to you.. I am so sorry to hear about your son.. I know it isn't easy, but with the Lord's help, we will make it. I'm praying for you.

[@elishevashaw]

@@bettylansford Thank you! I thank God for your wisdom and understanding!

[@jangau5202]

I lost my son Jacob in 2020 he got ran over by a Amtrak train he waited to late to get off the tracks he tried but the hook on the front of the train grabbed his arm and ripped it off and he bled to death can't even grasp the thought of that the pain he had endure to die my God I can't get past it I'm stuck in a stand still feel like my heart is in a million pieces feels like my insides are going to esplode I life i hate even breathing wished I could be with him I hate so much he had to die by his self God that's just torments me for life my life means nothing anymore without my Jacob he was my everything my life i was so good to him the pain never leaves I think about him every second of every minute I breath I just can't seem to go own wish my life people say it's gonna be ok It will never be ok I'll never be ok or ever be the same I look forward to nothing anymore nor do I want to it has change me too not giving a care about nothing ever again and i know I will never get over this or quit hurting like this or feeling the way I do there's nothing no one can do or say that will get me over this pain the worst thing is there's nothing you can do about it nothing I im here cause I have too be cause i don't have a choice I know I have a bad out look on life now but that's how it's made me feel and i know I will always feel that way no matter what sorry for your loss also

[@bettylansford]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. I have no words that can ease your pain, but I will pray that God comforts you. He knows our grief.

[@courtneyjohnson3247]

I LOST MY ONLY SON IN 2018. I HAVE NOT GOTTEN OVER IT, MY FAMILY HAS NOT BEEN AS SUPPORTIVE AND MY WIFE AND I FEEL SO ALONE IN OUR GRIEF .I LOOK FORWARD TO SE EING HIM AGAIN WHEN JESUS COMES FOR US, WHICH I PRAY DAILY THAT ITS SOON. MY LIFE HAS NEVER BEEN THE SAME SINCE. I MISS HIM SO SO SO MUCH. ABSOLUTELY NOONE CAN IDENTIFY WITH THIS PAIN GRIEF.

[@bettylansford]

I am so sorry to hear about your son. It's been 5 yrs and that's not very long. The pain of grief to ease may take longer for you and your wife but I pray you find comfort soon. Friends and family don't understand and I pray they never do. I wouldn't wish losing a child to anyone. The pain is real. I'll be praying for you and your family. ❤️

[@jacquelinewalker3338]

I really appreciate this video. I lost my 31 year old to cancer . This was October 27, 2022. I am very depressed and would like to talk to someone. God bless you🙏

[@bettylansford]

Jacqueline I am so sorry to hear that about your precious child. I understand about depression. I was there and most of us in this thread understand too. If possible, try to attend a grief class. Thats something I wish I would have done. You are in my prayers hon. 💕🙏💕

[@bettylansford]

And Jacqueline feel free to write your thoughts and feelings out anytime. We're here for you.

[@nitabe8653]

I loat my 26 yr old son on 8/11/23. Body in car 3 days. He took his own life. I cannot describe what I'm going through, but it feels like my heart was snached out of my body. Ive been so angry. Ive been so sad. I've even laughed about a memory of him. I have questions but I know I won't get answers. Thank you for your video. I can only take each day minute by minute.

[@bettylansford]

My dear Nita, I am so sorry. My heart cries with you. You will be in my prayers.

[@sarahmartin822]

Nita I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my son Nino to suicide in March 2023 in his car also. I miss him soo much. This pain I will feel until my last breath.

[@dinakindred]

Tomorrow is her birthday and its been very very rough. Losing a child is just that a part of me is gone forever. 💔 My heart is shattered....very painful. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@bettylansford]

Birthdays and holidays are hard. I'll be praying for you. ❤️

[@dinakindred]

​@@bettylansfordThank you

[@alicetitilayo1330]

Thank you for sharing, I lost my dearest daughter Ronke on 8 Dec 2023 at the age of 36. The pain and the grief I cannot quantify. She is my last baby and very close to me. My faith was shattered, I am still in deep grief but I'm blessed and relieved that I am not alone.

[@bettylansford]

Bless your heart. I'm so sorry to hear this about your daughter. Alice, you will be in my prayers 🙏 ❤️

[@danidago2]

I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your precious words and reading those scriptures because I lost my 32 year old son Joshua Anthony last Christmas 1 year ago and I have been all alone in my grief unbearable uncontrollable crying that hurts my entire being and my entire family has been so standoffish and downright hateful towards me except for my youngest daughter Danika God bless her heart shes 15 and the only reason I am able to get out of bed in the morning and I thank you all for sharing and God bless you!!!❤❤❤

[@bettylansford]

Danidago, I answered you on the post by Misha's momma. Sorry. It took me probably 3 years before I quit crying easily at the drop of a hat. In fact, I don't remember much during that time. I do know I couldn't watch sad movies nor could I read scripture in the Bible that was the least bit sad. I couldn't handle the emotional aspect of constant sadness. The Lord knew what I was going through and He would give me moments of joy and laughter. Jesus also knows your pain. Give yourself time to grieve hon. The heavy cloud will lift and that will make the loss of your child easier to bear. Give it time. I'll be praying for you.

[@selahroseofsharon]

Today has been a month since my 31 year old son passed away! The Lord led me to your channel everything you said is what I needed to hear. Thank you, Holy Spirit you are the comforter. I cry ABBA FATHER your strength be made known in my weakness. Amen God bless you!

[@bettylansford]

Selah Rose of Sharon I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your son. I am thankful to hear that you were blessed watching the video. That was a hard video for me to make. It blesses me to know that it helped in some way. You're in my prayers. ♥️

[@selahroseofsharon]

@@bettylansford It did bless me more than you know. God uses the broken hearted to minister through the holy spirit to reach the other broken hearted. I find joy in continuing to pray for others even now. So I am keeping you in my prayers, and my mama's heart grieves with yours. Hugs I am so sorry it was hard to make but just know God used you today to reach another broken mama and thank you for pushing through. May his favor be upon you and give you peace. We are forever changed we will never be the same, but God can still use us. Lord give us your strength to help us do it! For the glory of our FATHER in heaven.

[@bettylansford]

@@selahroseofsharon Yes, for His glory! Amen.

[@jeanneboudreau8361]

Betty: I know how you feel. I lost my son, Kelly Jr. about 1 1/2 yr ago. It was devastating. I can relate to everything you've said here. Jeannie

[@bettylansford]

Jeannie, I hope you're doing okay. That sounds like such a lame statement but I sincerely mean it because I know it's not easy. You're in my prayers. 🙏♥️

[@sweetjane71]

God bless you and any who read this. Thank you Betty, the scriptures and reminding us of His promise. I lost my nephew 11 months ago, fentanyl poisoning. I was near 17 when he was born, we lived in the same house, he was more like a son. My sister his mom has a drug addiction, she had a part in introducing him to the lifestyle that ultimately took his life. He had a bad car accident, at 18, and then came pain pills and his mother’s lifestyle. Anyways, he moved to a new town to start over and get away from his mom. This was seven years ago, he did so well, nice apartment, a manager at a hardware store. He was even getting to travel, then he shared stories of “partying “ I was heartbroken but never never seen what was to come. I’d tell him over and over on Facebook to come home and he’d reply I need to, I miss you all so much, loving me, thankime for being his second mom etc. I’m sorry, I’m in my sadness deep today. I’m thankful for your video and pray your hearts are comforted. I know this will pass, even if only for a moment. My dishes await me.

[@bettylansford]

Oh Sweetjane I'm so sorry about your nephew. That must have broken your heart. I'm glad the video helped you. For me, when I lost Alan, I couldn't have made it without God. He's still my strength. I'll be keeping you in my prayers 🙏 ❤

[@sweetjane71]

@@bettylansford I keep that scripture you shared and n Matthew. I too will pray for you. Thank you.

[@bettylansford]

@@sweetjane71 thank you Sweetjane! That means so much to me. 😊

[@mayraconcepcion1565]

I lost my 24 yr old to the same evil 2 was ago. It's been hard. Sorry for your loss

[@aliciapotts4366]

My only child Anthony passed away 38 days ago I can’t believe it at 30 years old from sickle cell it hard the pain is unbelievable I lost my faith my family is there for me I miss my son so much thanks for your video Betty

[@bettylansford]

Alicia, I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your son. The hurt can go deep because our love is deep. Alicia, I'll be praying for you and your family. ❤

[@aliciapotts4366]

@@bettylansford thank you

[@melissajiminson1132]

It’s been 3 months since I loss my son age 22 for complications of sickle cell… I’m in disbelief. I can’t believe this is my reality 😢

[@aliciapotts4366]

Hi melissa I no how you feeling it's hard I still don't no how to cope with it my be we can reach out to each other

[@aliciapotts4366]

​@@melissajiminson1132am sorry for your loss hope we can reach out to each other

[@kathrynschultz1634]

Thank you for making this video. Today was a hard day, my first Mother’s Day without our adult son, who died suddenly and unexpectedly last month. Thanks for giving us hope.

[@bettylansford]

Thank you for sharing this. It was a very hard video for me to make but it's hearing from others like yourself that let's me see it was needed. I'm so sorry for your loss. The first holidays we go through are the hardest. It will get easier Kathryn.. maybe not better, but, easier. We have hope in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Jesus has been my strength. I'll be praying for you. 🙏♥️🙏

[@josephlalmond8874]

Thank you for sharing your story and how you dealt with the grief of losing your son Alan. I lost my son as well at 28 years of age a by his own hands. Truly it is an unimaginable pain that cannot be described but most definitely at the highest level of what mankind can seem to endure! After 4 years I still Grievous so it was just yesterday because she was my one and only son. He was my best friend and we were close to one another hugging before we went to sleep praying together and always telling each other that we love one another. This is a Time when hope and Faith in God above and the afterlife I survival says our most truly needed. Those who do not have this type of face I can only say it is important to have and you never know when you will need it. I need God everyday to walk with me to get me through the toughest time of my life. May God bless you dear lady and all those who have suffered the loss of a child and may we see them again as promised in God's holy Bible

[@bettylansford]

Joseph, sir, to say I'm sorry doesn't seem enough. That breaks my heart. We will always miss our children. But this i know, with faith in God and trust in His Word, we can make it. We have to trust and believe. Thank you for sharing about your son. I'm sure it wasn't easy. I'm praying for you and thank you for your prayers. 🙏❤

[@nadinedaoud2538]

God bless you 🙏🙏❤️ A friend just lost her adult son last night. It’s truly sad and I don’t know what to say but God will help me give her hope, faith, and love. ❤️

[@bettylansford]

Nadine, my apology, but I just saw your comment. I'm thankful to hear you have faith and your trust in God will help you give comfort to your friend. Again, my apologies. I will be praying for your friend. God bless.

[@nadinedaoud2538]

@@bettylansford Thank you so much. Yes, we must believe and pray for others. May God continue to bless you 🙏🙏❤️

[@bryanherr5359]

Thank you for making this video. I lost my 30-year-old daughter in a car accident in October 2021. Every day since has been a struggle. It gives me comfort knowing I'm not alone. Again, thank you and God bless, thoughts and prayers to you also.

[@bettylansford]

Bryan I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. Bless your heart. Some days are still a struggle for me too but they're getting further in between. With God, we're not going through the grief alone. God bless you. I'll be praying for you. 🙏❤

[@leonardramirezjr]

Bryan, we lost our 28 year old daughter in a car accident in March of 2022. Every day has brought something new that I haven't expected. Just last week, the sadness and pain seems to have next leveled. I didn't know what grief was until we lost Megan. I haven't begun praying again yet, but when I do, I will pray for you.

[@bettysgospelsounds1205]

@@leonardramirezjr Leonard I just saw your comment. I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. Grief has its own way and it comes and goes. Its been 19 years since the loss of my son. The pain of Grief has eased. I now have to watch depression. Certain things will trigger it. At least now I recognize the signs and if I catch it early enough, its easier to break the cycle. Leonard, I will remember you and your family in my prayers. 🙏 ❤.

[@bettysgospelsounds1205]

Sorry I just noticed that I was on my music channel.

[@crow4130]

Thank you for sharing your story ...I am sorry for your loss ... I lost my 28 y/o son 2 weeks ago... I am beyond devastated as everyone here... I can't do this and I don't know how to go on .... He is gone and that's my entire reality. 😭

[@bettylansford]

I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Alan was 25. That was 19 years ago. My husband lost his youngest son 5 years ago. We know its hard. Give yourself time to grieve. I'm praying for you 🙏❤

[@cindiroberts5652]

I'm right there with you. I don't want to live in a world that my son isn't in! I can't do this!

[@bettylansford]

@@cindiroberts5652I just saw that you commented. I remember the pain I felt. Give yourself time to grieve Cindi. I'm praying for you 🙏❤

[@throughmyeyes9940]

@@cindiroberts5652 you CAN and you WILL, get grief assistance, G-d bless you.

[@cindiroberts5652]

@@bettylansford thank you so much❤️ I'm doing much better lately actually. He keeps leaving me signs left and right showing me he's still with me and it's so amazing! I truly feel him right here with me still. His spirit is alive and well and that gives me so much peace! Thank you for the prayers😘

[@JustMe3232Me]

I lost my 34 yr old son a month ago. I am not okay. This video has helped. Please , pray for me.

[@bettylansford]

JustMe3232Me I will pray for you. I'm sorry for your loss. I know it's not been easy for you. The Lord is our strength. He will help you through this. There are others here that will also pray. You're not alone. ❤🙏

[@angel-fv9ii]

Thank you for sharing ,Im grieving silently, I lost my only beloved son from covid last Sept 1.The pain is unbearable. I pray each moment for strength to live each day.

[@bettylansford]

Angel I am so sorry to hear about your son. I will pray for you to have the strength and you will in Jesus's name. It's not easy I know. Believe me I know. But we can make it through with the help of the Lord.

[@bettylansford]

Angel I answered you but not under your comment so it may be hard for you to find. I'm so sorry. I know it's hard. I'll keep you in my prayers.

[@angel-fv9ii]

Thank you so much for your prayers Send power strength to my heart. God bless

[@emmataylor405]

I'm so sorry! It's so hard I know.

[@bettylansford]

@morganch247@gmail... com thank you for your support. It means a lot to Angel and everyone.

[@nancyp631]

Thank you. I’m so sorry for your great loss! My husband’s boss just lost her grown daughter tonight in a car wreck, she was just about to be married -it’s so sad & I searched KZbin for guidance & how to help. Please pray for the mom her name is Ann…she just lost her husband a few years ago & is still grieving greatly! Now this! So hard! Thanks for your encouragement & prayer. ♥️✝️♥️ may God bless you always!

[@bettylansford]

Bless her heart! That is a lot of loss. Nancy you sound like a good friend and employee. I will be praying for Ann. When she's ready to talk, there may be times she will just need a listening ear. Whatever you say, don't say you understand. This is a club unless you're in, you will never understand. I hope you never do. Thank you for watching my video Nancy. You have such a caring heart. I appreciate you. ❤

[@bettylansford]

Nancy I also thank for for becoming a subscriber. I teach Bible studies on this channel. My family likes my singing so I also include music. One day maybe I'll do an art video when I'm brave enough. I'm an acrylic artist. If you're interested, I have an art page on Facebook... Betty Lansford Art. I like your compassionate spirit an thought I'd share more of my life with you. God bless!

[@jtsmomforever217]

Thank you for this. My son was just killed and this did help me feel a little better. Please pray for him, that God is holding him in his arms and has mercy upon his soul. Thank you again for trying to help others.

[@bettylansford]

Susie I'm so glad that you were helped in some way by my video. That was the purpose in fact the only reason why I was able to get through it. It's hard losing a child of any age. I'm sorry to hear about your son. I will be praying. God-bless you honey.

[@jtsmomforever217]

@@bettylansford, thank you. I’m sorry for your loss too. Life seems so cruel. I hope God blesses you with some pleasant dreams of you and your son together once again. 💔🙏🥺

[@wendyapplegate3628]

Thank you for all your comforting words, hugs to you. I lost my sweet son May 2019 in a diving accident at a party., he was 24yrs old. He was a mama's boy and a had the biggest heart. I'm devastated and totally broken. I had just remarried 5 months before my sons accident and was homeless and lost by the end of that first year. I'm not doing much better at this point in my life but I can say I'm totally shock that I'm still here still fighting! I've lost pretty much everything that was dear to me just because my sadness is too much for them. No one talks to me about my son or acts like they want to even listen to me..it's soul crushing..

[@bettylansford]

Bless your heart Wendy. Grief puts us in a state of mind that will totally change us. Our personality and state of mind changes. People we're close to find it hard to accept. I understand perfectly. I'm changed still. But don't quit. There are people that do understand and will be there for you. You need comfort that only God can give. Wendy im praying for you. ❤ Thank for commenting. I've only done one follow up on this video but I feel like I need to do another. Theres so many of us hurting. Hang in there. Jesus can help with the pain. ❤

[@myrtleesther8855]

Jesus listens.

[@coldmountainpix]

I just found you and you are very comforting, I love those scriptures. My son Jordan just died 2 weeks and one day ago, he was 26, I know ill miss him until the day I die. I find comfort in knowing I will see him again, it just gets so hard sometimes. Im still waiting for his ashes. thank you for this video, it meant a lot- maria

[@bettylansford]

Maria I am so sorry to hear about your son Jordan. Bless your heart. I will be praying for you. Thank you for watching my video. I have to say it was the hardest video I have ever made but I'm thankful you found comfort. That blesses me.

[@sharonpete7661]

Thank you everything you said is so true. My son passed Sept 1, 2023 my only child! God has him now but the pain! The pain! There are days it’s like I can’t believe you’re gone😭😭😭! Jesus I know you’re with me. I no other children no legacy 😢😢😢😢. It’s very hard today. He can’t come to me but I can go to him one day.

[@deannaparamo]

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Never in a million years would I have dreamed of meeting a stranger due to similar circumstances. I lost my daughter Heather on Sept 28. She was 29. My heartfelt prayers are with you. Please feel free to reach out to me if you need to talk. You're not alone on this.

[@sharonpete7661]

@@deannaparamo I thank you so much and I am very sorry for the loss of your loss it’s hard but one day our morning will come.

[@mrstukutela5126]

I lost my 50-year old son and only child just less than 3 weeks ago. Thank you for this counselling. I try to be too strong and suppress the tears, but now they are coming freely. Yes, I miss him terribly, but I know that Jesus also said that there would be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous. John 5: 28 and 29. Revelation 21:3 and 4 is very comforting. It is on my mom's gravestone.

[@bettylansford]

I'm praying for you ❤️

[@michelleceballos1756]

Last May 5, 2021 My son Zachary turned 31. Last May 14, 2021 a police officer came to my door at 8 am to inform me my son was dead. Later determined accidental overdose. His one year death day is coming up. I was already grieving my mothers passing that happened several months before my son’s death. I have been so numb. Just numb. I can’t work. I have only enough energy to take care of my other children and tend to my husband and household. As I expected all support from friends and family to not lasted a little while and now it’s silence. My older sister called to ask how my elderly very ill pet was doing. I told her that I hoped my dog does not pass away as I just can’t take that after losing my son. She said “ You can’t continue to compare current situations with the passing of Zachary.” Her saying that has really had an effect on me. I feel I will be better off to avoid sharing anything with her again. He was a Persian Gulf veteran and suffered with ptsd. Our relationship was up and down. Thank you for making your video I really needed that tonight. Sorry you also lost your child. It’s such a difficult thing to go through.

[@bettylansford]

I'm so sorry Michelle for the loss of your son Zachary. Oftentimes our family can't support us because they do not know how. It's sad but true. My son has been gone quite some time now but last year my 15 year old cousins died from a freak Accident. I went to the funeral thinking I could handle it but I wish I hadn't gone. Grief on top of Grief on top of grief is hard. In our mind, it doesn't matter if it's a person or a family pet, we just cannot handle another loss. I understand. I'm thankful that you have commented. You may have heard grief is like a wave it comes and it goes. We never know until it hits us. I'm so thankful for my relationship with the Lord Jesus. He has been my strength. I'll pray for you and you pray for me. You're going to make it.

[@kriskillian4156]

I lost my two sons this year. I would give anything for a living child or grandchild. Anything. Please treasure what you still have.

[@chrisrousseau1984]

I lost my son Oct 28th 2020. He was 34. He was walking home when someone hit him with a car. His name was Nicholas. So sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers to you and your family

[@bettylansford]

Chris I am sorry for the loss of your son Nicholas. They never found out who hit my son Alan while he was riding his bicycle that night. Guess whether we know who did it or not doesn't matter. To me its the fact it happened and we don't have our babies because of it. Its hard regardless. I'll be praying for you and your family. 🙏❤

[@cindybuntain9361]

Thank you for sharing. Your a beautiful soul!

[@bettylansford]

Thank you Cindy for that sweet comment. I appreciate it. I'll be praying for you if that's okay. ❤️

[@MarthaRae1]

Thank you for sharing. I lost my husband of 55 years in September 2021 and on December 1st 2021 our youngest daughter passed away from an anurisom. My heart is broken and I can't quit crying. I'm a Christian and I keep praying to the Lord to help me get through but I just can't seem to get over or rather through this unbearable grief. I love Jesus and I know He loves me so I know one day things will get better. It's just that I lost 2 precious loved ones so close together. Thank you for your prayers and thank you for making this video.

[@bettylansford]

Bless your heart Martha! I am so sorry to hear you lost your husband and daughter. I am thankful to hear you trust in God and believe that he will take care of you. You are going through a tremendous grief right now. I pray that you have family members or friends that will be support to you. I will be praying for you Martha. Please keep in touch. Thank you for sharing. 🙏♥️

[@bettylansford]

Martha Rae I just wanted to let you know that you been in my thoughts and prayers.

[@noraponce9353]

Just prayed for your dear Sister Martha

[@MarthaRae1]

Thank you Betty for your prayers. I'm not doing so good physically or emotionally. All of this has taken it's toll on me. I keep trusting the Lord to bring me through or let me go on home and be with Him. I feel like I can't deal with this pain anymore. I just want to go see Jesus, my husband, and my daughter...also my mother and father and all the rest of my loved ones.

[@bettylansford]

@@MarthaRae1 I can understand how you can feel that way. I pray the Lord will ease the burden of grief and depression Martha. Try to give yourself time hon. It hasn't been that long. Bless your heart. Griefs pain will ease for you but it probably doesn't seem like it right now. I'm praying 🙏

[@jennebeattie3168]

Lost my 14 year old son 15 months ago. All I can say is, pain and despair. I am actively working on my grief. It HURTS.

[@bettylansford]

Yes without a doubt, it does hurts. I felt like I literally had a hole in my heart. It's healed now. It's not been that long since your son passed away and you're still grieving. Each of us are different and some work through it faster then others and thats okay. Don't lose hope Jenne. I'm so sorry about your son. I'll be praying for you.

[@carol7149]

I lost my daughter, 19 years old to pneumonia, in 2016. I miss her every day. She was my best friend. My depression is so bad. I've been in the hospital 3 times now, since she past. I AM SO LOST!!!

[@bettylansford]

Carol7149, I'd so sorry. It's painful, I know. I'll be praying for you. ❤️

[@bettylansford]

Carol, I'm so sorry. The Lord Jesus knows what we are going through. I'll be praying for you. ❤️

[@susanmurray6209]

Thankyou so much. I lost my 45 year old son to Covid last year. 3 weeks he lasted in a very long coma and in so much pain and unable to breathe and we were unable to be with him at all until the day they took off life support!😢 I have faith in God and it has gotten me through but I am still a wreck without him. He was my best friend and son. I feel such an emptiness. Please pray for me. I will pray for you! I am Sue Murray! ❤

[@bettylansford]

@susanmurphy6209 Sue, I'm so sorry. I will be praying for you. You may need more time to grieve, and that's okay. The Lord will carry you through. 🙏

[@1ArtieFufkin]

You have such a kind face, my beautiful son Cameron tragically died six weeks ago, I’m completely and utterly heartbroken and devastated, it feels like a life sentence of sadness. I’m so sad 😞

[@bettysgospelsounds1205]

I am so sorry to hear about your son Artie. I will keep you in my prayers 💕🙏💕

[@lefatanemabitsela4072]

I lost my son in December 2022, he was 34yrs and it is a tough ride. Oh yes! I try to be strong but it kills me every day. I remember every minute of that day. I miss him so much. Thank you so much for this post?

[@bettylansford]

Lefatane I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Bless your heart. I know its not easy. I'll be praying for you dear. 🙏 ❤️

[@leonardramirezjr]

Thank you Betty for answering the call to share your story and offer hope and encouragement. We just lost our 28 year old daughter in a sudden accident in March of this year. I used to think I knew what heartbreak was. I didn't. We've been attending a Griefshare group for 7 weeks now. We missed a week because we couldn't bare to feel anymore sadness. In many ways it has been helpful, but in some ways we have found it has not. I have not had a desire to start praying again, but when I do, I will pray for you. Thank you.

[@bettylansford]

Leonard I'm sorry to hear about the tragic loss of your daughter. Grief doesn't affect everyone the same. My brain was so overwhelmed I couldn't bear going to funerals or hearing any sadness of any kind, even in a movie. It took a while. I think it's wonderful you and your wife are going to grief class together. Missing class when its more then you can bear is understandable. Probably best to deal with what you can at the moment. It's important we allow our brain to process this heavy loss. Thanks for sharing Leonard and don't worry about praying for me. Its okay. I understand and the Lord truly understands. If you can, please keep in touch. I'll be praying for you and your wife. 🙏 ❤

[@lisamorgan9582]

Thank you so much for sharing. I lost my beautiful daughter just 4 weeks ago December 19th 2022! I am walking in those footsteps. It hurts worse than anything imaginable 🙏

[@bettylansford]

Lisa I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your beautiful daughter. I agree with you it hurts worse than anything imaginable. It may not seem like it but it will get better honey. Give yourself time to grieve however long it takes. You are in my prayers.

[@deanietaylor2861]

Hi Betty, thank you so much for making this video. I lost my oldest son in April of 2020. Your story reminds me so much of my last visit with RJ. Our visit wasn't festive, but three days prior to my youngest son and I finding RJ dead, we were involved in a car accident. I was sore all over with recurring headaches. I really did not feel like going to take my son the toiletries he requested. After dropping the items off I asked him if he felt like taking a short walk to a nearby park. He agreed. COVID 19 had everything on lock down so we did not stay at the park, but we were with each other, although I was in pain. I'm sure he was too. To make a long story short, my youngest son and I returned to the group home to drop off a couple items to him and we found him....deceased. The worst day of my life. I have struggled with depression including insomnia for two years now. I am forever changed since the death of my son. Pleases pray for healing for myself and my other children. We are all suffering, especially at this time of the year. It is so hard. Thank you again for sharing. God Bless you.

[@bettylansford]

Oh Deanie I am so sorry to hear about your son RJ. I know that you are so glad that you went to see him regardless of how you were feeling. Yes hon I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Our life is forever changed but the Lord is gracious and will give us the comfort and peace that we need in this hour.

[@deanietaylor2861]

@@bettylansford ❤‍🩹

[@roseregalado48]

I lost my son to a motor vehicle accident and he was only 27 years ( year 2016 ) the pain is still unbearable even at this time … i miss him so much …

[@bettylansford]

Rose, I am so sorry to hear about your son. It has been many years since I have lost my son but I can still get depressed. If I let myself. They are always dear to our heart ... forever. I will remember you in my prayers mama. I pray the Lord help you during those difficult times. 🙏 ❤️

[@soniaanderson16]

My son left at age 42 it was sudden,the doc.sent for me to look at my baby son's body and i died a 1000 times,i am still mourning and i think i will for ever😢😢😢😢

[@bettylansford]

Sonia I'm so sorry to hear about your son. It is hard. My prayers are with you.

[@michaelderbisz9296]

Thank you for thise words of hope. I lost my 21 year son last year i an accident. I felt crushed and wanted to give up on life.

[@bettylansford]

Michael, thank you for responding to my I video. I am sorry to hear about the loss of your son. Grief is an individual thing. And it takes longer for some of us. It seems that it took a long time for me. But with God's help I made it. You will too. Just give yourself time. I'll be praying for you and your family.

[@sandytrzaska8314]

Thank you for sharing your story I had lost my adult son to a horrible disease he had MS he was 50 years old I am a single parent me and my son are very close very close I had to take him off the ventilator and I can’t think if I did the right thing he passed away February 5, 2020

[@bettylansford]

I feel your pain and understand how you may be questioning your decision. When my son at 25 was in an accident, a hit and run, he had brain damage and they watched him closely but after 2 days I had to make the decision to take him off life support and it crushed me. I wanted to hold on to him so bad but I knew in my heart that he was gone. I'll pray for you Sandy and you pray for me please let's keep each other prayed up because this will eat at us if we're not careful. Our babies are with us always. 💜 I'm thankful God knows our pain.

[@AngelinaX23]

My daughter was on life support for 4 days before the doctors determined that she was brain dead. I had a Zoom call with her several hours before they took her off life support. I talked to her as if she could hear me, even though I knew she couldn't. I told her that I loved her and would see her in Heaven soon. Taking her off life support felt like an easy decision for me. I had a long talk with the doctor in charge of the ICU and he said that once they are certain the person is brain dead and cannot breathe on their own, it's best to remove the machines so as not to prolong their suffering. I asked him if they suffer even though they are brain dead and he said that there is some evidence of feeling in their tissues while they remain on life support. Of course, there's no way to know for certain; however, if there was any chance that she was suffering, I wanted to eliminate that. Somehow knowing that gave me some comfort. We made the right decision. 💗

[@learningwithharry4996]

Thank you for sharing Betty.

[@bettylansford]

@learningwithharry4996 You're welcome. If it was any help at all, I'm thankful. You're in my prayers.

[@Eireman_on_Twitch]

Thank you. Today is the 1st anniversary of my oldest child's death, PFC Liam McDermott, US Army National Guard. He was 23, a new father, and proud of his new career in diesel engineering. I still can't even remove him from my phone contact list, as I feel like doing so will make me forget him. I have an artificial heart valve, am a stroke survivor, and live with fibromyalgia day to day, but despite the miracles that kept me here, God chose to let the cancer take him. It was quick, thank God, but I find myself crying at the strangest times, often while falling asleep. I don't think I was a good father. People tell me otherwise, but... I know I could have been better.

[@bettylansford]

I'm so sorry for your loss. The grief process is different for everyone. I wouldn't remove your son's phone contact until you're ready. If never, ever happens, its okay. Talk about him. You won't forget him. It was so much better when I began to think of the good memories that I had with my son. It kept him alive in my heart. I'll be praying for you and your family. If you would like, keep in touch. God-bless you.

[@emmataylor405]

Thank you for sharing! My son just passed away a few days ago I'm dying inside I don't know where to start.

[@bettylansford]

Emma I am so sorry to hear that. I know your heart is breaking. When I first lost my son, I remember exactly how I felt. I felt like someone hit me in the stomach and that I had a hole in my heart. Alan has been gone over 16 years now. I still miss him but the pain is better. Trust your heart honey and grieve because when you love somebody as much as we love our babies we will hurt. I will be praying for you and asking the Lord to give you support and comfort during this trying time.

[@emmataylor405]

@@bettylansford Thank you! But it's not easy.

[@lakishachilds8161]

I truly understand 😪 your pain.

[@oldonetwoable]

My Daughter passed 2 weeks ago in a sad and lonely way. My heart is torn to bits, I can't bear thinking of her last day all alone. The guilt and sorrow is more than I can bear it feels.

[@Alexrefreshed]

Hello Betty, thank you for sharing. My grandma just past away couple of days ago and going through the grieving process is very difficult. I lost my biological mom at the age of 3 and now I’m 37. But I couldn’t imagine my grandma going through my moms passing by suicide at age 20. My grandma said she didn’t want to live but she stayed strong to live on to take care of me and my oldest brother we are one year apart. Thank you for your story that life is so important especially spending time with your loved ones and always telling them I love you. Please pray for me and my family. Alex k.

[@bettylansford]

Alex I am so sorry that you had so much grief in your life. Family relationships are like any relationship that needs nurturing and love. I'm thankful this video was helpful to you. Yes hon I will be praying for you and your family.

[@lorenaalarcon1439]

Thank you for sharing and giving us Hope. I lost my 22 year old son in January 2022 and this pain is so deep. I'm sorry for your son's loss and I will pray for you 🙏

[@bettylansford]

Lorena I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. The pain is deep. The hole that's there will eventually heal but of course we will forever love them. This video was hard to do but knowing it gives you hope makes it worth it. Thank you for your prayers and I'm praying for you. 🙏❤

[@medilainemarc9836]

Hi. Betty. Lansford. I'm Medilaine. I just wanted to say, I miss you and I love you .May my God lord continue to bless you and protect. Thank you so much!

[@bettylansford]

Thank you for watching my video.

[@tonypadilla9933]

God bless you, thank you for giving inspiration and hope to others. Peace be with you and your family

[@bettylansford]

Thank you I appreciate those kind words. I will remember you in prayer. God bless you.

[@bettylansford]

I'm so sorry to hear about your son. Sharon, it's not easy, I know, but the Lord is our strength. I'll remember you in my prayers. ❤️ 🙏 ❤️

[@lolaleighcoe5535]

Thank you so much for your comforting share. I lost my only Son and youngest . He was 31 and we were so close. I thought I knew what pain was until that happened. I had no idea how deep and dark it could be. God is so good though and I've always thanked him for the 31 yrs we had together ❤ its been 7 yrs now and I prayed that the time would go by fast because I knew it was the only way I would feel less pain as I healed. I'm so grieved to hear of anyone going through this 😔. I'm so sorry for the family because its never the same. My Daughter was so close to her Brother as well. And to make matters worse my second husband of 13 yrs at that time refused to bury my Son. I have recently come to realize I'm married to a covert narcissist. A wolf in sheep's clothing. But once again is so good and he will not abandon nor forsake me. God be with you and yours .someday we will all be together again. Amen 🙏

[@bettylansford]

Lolaleighcoe I'm so sorry to hear about your son. The loss of a child often will change a family. It's hard to process this when going through grief. It affects everyone in different ways. I'll be praying for you and your family. ❤️

[@karenmarian9341]

I lost my daughter October, 2022. It was good to hear that the grief will lift. I thank you for that. Every other parent I have talked to has said the grief never goes away. I certainly appreciate your post and I am truly sorry for your loss. God Bless! 🙏💔

[@bettylansford]

Karenmarian9341 I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. The deep hole in the heart grief will get better. Now when events come up (like bdays, etc) they become triggers, I have to watch myself or I'll get depressed. I think that would be normal.. we miss them. I celebrate my son's bday and that helps me so much. I'll be remembering you in my prayers. ❤️

[@Chillipfeffer99]

Thank you for sharing, I lost my youngest son 11months ago, he will be 25 forever 😢💔🙏💙

[@bettylansford]

Oh my Misty, the same age as my Alan. I'm so sorry. Sending love and prayers. ❤

[@Chillipfeffer99]

@@bettylansford thank you, it's been a struggle.I miss him so much.

[@gradosa8272]

Last night, I dreamt that I was hugging my daughter. How much I miss those moments when she wanted me to hug her and snuggle very close to me. 😭😭😭🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Rest in peace my dear Sofia. Forever 33. God is hugging you and giving all that love you deserve. ❤❤❤

[@bettylansford]

Gradosa I love when I have those dreams of love ones. I believe that is God's way of comforting us. I'll be praying for you 🙏 ❤️

[@candyryan6052]

I lost my husband March 29, 2023. A couple years past he had been very sick and I almost lost him then but this was something totally different. He was in a single car accident and died at the at the scene. I miss him so much. I was 16and he was 18 when we married. In this November we would have been married 50 years.❤

[@bettylansford]

Oh, Candy, yall have been together many years... how you must miss him. You're in my prayers. ❤

[@Wendy-LeeRattenbury]

My son was 31 , also a hit and run - tomorrow 3 years - still heartbroken, I miss him. Thank you for your video.

[@bettylansford]

Our boys will always be in our hearts. I'll be remembering you in my prayers. ❤️

[@Wendy-LeeRattenbury]

@@bettylansford Thank you Betty , most appreciated - a hard day to get through - awake all night remembering each year.

[@NoMoreTears64]

Thank you for your sweet and understanding words of comfort. I am not doing too well right now. First, I know it's a pet, but I had to put my beloved Carmel Cat (age 14) to sleep, 3 and a half months ago. His brother, Mocha has been sick since that day and is nearing the end of his life in a matter of days. That is the context within which I am NOW grieving the sudden death of my only child (age 29) who passed away 2 days ago. I have been a Christian my whole life but I am beginning to feel that God is removing all I hold dear. I'm in disbelief over my son. All I can do is sit around and cry. I tried to journal today and I found myself being very very angry.

[@bettylansford]

@NoMoreTears64 It's hard to understand the "why" behind the things we go through in this life.. I get it. When I think of things being taken from me, I think of the Book of Job. That man literally lost everything. His wife undoubtedly became bitter. She asked Job to curse God and die, yet he never blamed God. I do not want to become bitter. What I desire to do is praise God in the good and bad times. Let yourself grieve. You're missing your baby. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you. ❤️

[@vickeyfoster3483]

I lost my 22 year old 4 1/2 years ago in may 6-2017 - I am in the deepest valley

[@bettylansford]

Vicky I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. I remember The Valley that I was in and it seemed so lonely. But I want to encourage you. There is hope. You will begin to feel better and when it happens allow yourself to to feel better. Our children would want that. I answered you earlier but it was under someone else's name and you may not have see it. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

[@traciemarsh1611]

betty you are a beautiful lady. rip to your son. so sorry for your loss

[@bettylansford]

Thank you. Tracie, I'll remember you in my prayers. ❤️

[@traciemarsh1611]

@@bettylansford thankyou betty xx

[@catherinesoyland3811]

I lost my adult daughter age 53. Three months later I lost my husband. What a journey it has been. Thanks for sharing. The pain is unbearable at times, but, my faith has helped me so much. Again thank you for sharing.

[@bettylansford]

Oh my dear lady you have had so much to happen in such a short time. I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter and your husband. Our faith will carry us through. Catherine, you're in my prayers 🙏 ❤️

[@catherinesoyland3811]

@bettylansford Thank you so much.

[@bettylansford]

Oh dear Sissy I'm so sorry. We're here for you. Maybe not physically but i wish we were. Just pour your heart out if you need too. Everyone here will understand. I'm glad you're finding a support group. God bless you hon. ❤

[@Redsnapper123]

Heavy betty. Sorry for your loss. May I ask if the hit and run driver was ever caught? Not too many cameras back in 2003.

[@bettylansford]

No. Never found the driver.

[@donnamontanarella2403]

Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I am so sorry you lost your son. I lost mine 2 1/2 yrs ago. It's a pain like no other.

[@bettylansford]

Yes Donna that is true. It is an unbearable pain that I wish on no one. But we have hope of a better tomorrow through Jesus Christ. I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your son. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

[@donnamontanarella2403]

Thank you for your response, Betty. I am so appreciative of my relationship with Jesus Christ to get me through this grief. Wherever there is Jesus, there is hope. I do believe we will be together again. The thought of my son, being in the arms of Jesus is what consoles me. Behind the way, I appreciate your very calm and soothing tone when you speak. It’s very comforting. Being a part of an in person support group called Grief Share has been life-saving for me. They have groups all over. I highly recommend them for anyone grieving. It is spiritually-based.

[@bettylansford]

@donnamontanarella2403 I have heard of grief share but have never attended any of their groups. I'll look into it. Thank you. 😊

[@KeepHealingSis]

Thank you for this video. It is so helpful and encouraging to hear the words, “you’re not alone”. Although I know this, it’s so healing to HEAR it. I’m grieving the loss of my 2nd child. Yesterday, Mother’s Day it hit me hard! This 2nd time around of grieving the sudden loss of my 32yr old son is harder. Yesterday I had to finally acknowledge his passing which allowed me to leave the denial stage of grief (phase 1) and I entered the anger stage (phase 2). I’ve been an Angel Mom for 11yrs now. I have a list of Bible verses including the ones you mentioned in this video that comfort me. I guess I just needed to write this out today. Sending love and prayers of peace and comfort to you as well as to anyone on here who are grieving the loss of a child. God bless all ♥️🙏🏾❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

[@bettylansford]

It is not easy going through the grieving process. As you probably know, grieving comes in waves. It is often when we least expect it. This Mother's Day it came in an unexpected way for me, yet, it was just as hard to go through.. There was no crying but there was nausea. That was totally unexpected. The main thing that I need to do and we all need to do, is to keep our chin up; keeping in touch with our feelings and to know that... Yes, we are not alone. I'll be praying for you sis.

[@bettylansford]

TamaraJane thank you. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your son. You're in my prayers 🙏 ❤️