How to Deal With Jealous Coworkers

[@georgiafrancis9059]

If a co-worker is jealous of me, (and they have been) then that's their problem and not mine. I am not now, nor have I ever been jealous of anyone else, for any reason. Snarky women are a dime a dozen, but my inner strength is priceless.

[@JaatSiddhu]

Inner strength is my armour but what if that particular toxic colleague is trying to bring most of the team members down?

[@rockstarofredondo]

@@JaatSiddhu continue gray rock method with them, get stuff on camera and document offenses.

[@straightoutofstrat8722]

​@@JaatSiddhuI have seen same coworkers and unfortunately I don't care because l am who I am. I have a life, I am marriage, look better, the simply don't have a life. I refuse to help my jealous colleagues never going to happen.

[@Anonymous66890]

I have co workers that are jealous of my talents and I just keep my distances. I’m an introvert person I spend time alone and it’s the best way. They try to get into my personal life and I don’t let them and it’s none of their business anyway. They really need to find their lights in their talents instead of worrying about someone else!!!! 😳

[@yumyumkitty2104]

same. They try to insult my looks, but yet they don't look worth sh*t!

[@PradhanRubita]

Same things happens with me..I feel like not going to office they always insult me..o They are jealous of me my dressing sense and my qualifications and all my boss likes me so they want to put me down 😢😢😢😢

[@donnya205]

At my work, i had 2 major neck operations due to a work injury that i could not report as a work injury. That's a long story in itself.My Human resources sent me in an e mail saying there is no light duty. A co worker and his buddy approached me recently and one of them asked me as i am Senior guy, what to do as he said he got hurt a week ago. He said he had a hernia. I said report it to the boss. But i also said If you are liked by management and Human resources you shouldn"t have a problem. Note He got hired through Nepatism. The next day. He said he was on light duty. Now a month later he was with another worker and when i walked up to them he changed the subject he was on and said I'm getting operated on Monday. Then have to recover for 4 weeks. I could tell he is trying to rub it in my face, given my past experience there. I know that the guys, even management are jealous of my talents and knowledge and e-mail compliments to my bosses from other Dept. I lobe my Job and i am too old to start fresh. I end up just shutting myself off like a computer.

[@donnya205]

@@PradhanRubita im sorry about that. Working life can be so cruel to people.

[@kaylee3867]

Well said

[@ayanamcdonaldofficial]

I’ve encountered this due to being promoted and I’ll tell you that the best response is continued success within the role.

[@ml-qw6qz]

According to my experience, setting boundaries and keeping distance with jealous people is the best way to get rid of them. Taking to HR or telling the jealous people that they are hurting me made things worse. What if the HR is a jealous person too, the same kind of people support each other. Jealous person is making conscious effort to hurt me, telling her to stop getting jealous of me did not make her stop instead she got more jealous.

[@Anonymous66890]

Same here I just keep a distance I like being alone anyways!!

[@rockstarofredondo]

Exactly. You have to just keep them as far away as possible and don’t deal with them.

[@mb-vf3qb]

I 100 %agree..same experience. Got no support telling boses .and I work in a charity shop. 😢

[@SheenaTara]

I'm going through the same thing and thinks that being distance is the best. Talking to the jealous person doesn't help and going to HR may not be the way forward (depends on the circumstance obviously). They do on a sneaky level, being passive aggresive

[@hoagieheadz5445]

It happened at my current job, dude would disrespect me, invade my personal space and more. 1 day I had enough I followed him to the bathroom it was just me and him and I told him. "I COME HERE TO GET MY LITTLE PAYCHECK AND GO HOME, I SWEAR ON EVERYTHING IF U STOP ME FROM FEEDING MY FAMILY I WILL MAKE SURE I STOP YOU FROM FEEDING YOURS!!! AND YOU CAN TAKE IT HOW YOU WANNA TAKE IT. ...Yea i made whole violent threat but i never had a problem with him again. And we both are still coworkers but we dont talk at all. He avoids me now just how i like it 💯

[@jvcarter21]

Dont blame u bro! Sometimes being straight up will make them realize. I dealt with a narcissist boss and I told his ass straight up how it was! Eventually he got fired for hooking up with little girls. Dude was such a manipulator bro and everyone thought he was this great person until he got caught up.

[@jamesmarie33]

god i love that response ❤

[@SheenaTara]

good on you bro

[@kishageorge7788]

I did something similar, but I reported her to her line manager. These people are unhappy and they suffer from superiority complex

[@reginagordon4246]

I’ve tried these steps. A jealous person will always be jealous unless they do inner work. Except reporting to HR.

[@Ebeenjazzi]

Man jealousy in the workplace is something serious

[@sephwa6124]

I tolerate them, but they won't leave me alone!!!

[@yumyumkitty2104]

Give em a taste of their own medicine. No more Nicey Nicey. Be indirectly rude, cold, but don't make it super obvious. 😊😊😉😉

[@rockstarofredondo]

That’s why I just don’t tolerate. I completely ignore them and keep major distance.

[@swatirawat3131]

Ignore my dear. Don't add kindling to the fire. It will fizzle out on its own. Don't go out of your way to avoid them as this means you are thinking about them. Just focus on other parts of your life. Maybe planning a date with your partner, focus on any hobby...just kick them out of your life and mind...the saying pay them no mind and be literal about it 😂

[@KellieDauwcer-mp9jp]

I have a jealous coworker, but I believe she is a narcissist, so I don’t think speaking to them and explaining to them normal. Things will work. I know this because I’m divorcing a grandiose narcissist right now. I’ve been in therapy learning about narcissism for the past year. I never knew after finding out about narcissism through my husband that I would be dealing with more narcissistic people including family members. I believe she enjoys starting trouble and being antagonistic and I don’t believe me getting agitated is my insecurity. I just believe people should be nice to each other. I am the type of person who will confront a bully , but your video was helpful and can help certain situations.

[@ShiannMurray-do3tp]

Ignore her stay far away

[@Anonymous66890]

It’s insecurity with them I always distance myself because I don’t want to get caught up in no mess with them. They be in groups talking and I keep busy like I’m cleaning up or collecting trays and stuff.

[@AthiGeleba]

Distance yourself and just stay away from them. Change environments as soon as possible.

[@rosemiller6388]

That’s doesn’t help. In fact that gives them more of a signal to bother you since they believe you won’t do anything about it

[@MiddleEasternInAmerica]

I’m watching this at 7:13 AM before work and I really don’t want to go to my office because of my coworker. Help me God

[@mb-vf3qb]

That's awful. Experiencing the same. Hope u r OK. ❤

[@curlindahodge3588]

I am going thru the same 🪬🙏🏼

[@PradhanRubita]

Exactly 😢😢😢even those two girls make me discomfort in office they gossip about me they always dominate me they try to put me down 😢😢😢I don't want to ho office 😢😢😢

[@user-pr2eb7nx2g]

I’m watching this in the work parking lot with 8 mins of lunch break left. Dont feel like going back inside dealing with these two jealous guys. They are so passive aggressive and ANNOYING! Probably lowkey racists too

[@anneloubangert7740]

Try to get another job. They are the problem, not you.

[@LMoreno621]

Thanks for this video. I’ll take what’s going on as a compliment and then I’M MOVING ON. My mental and physical health and time is too important to me. They will have my sympathy once I leave. This person is my supervisor.

[@huggybear441]

When l first started working coworkers dislike me because l was very green in the trade and a nobody. There were times supervisors or managers would join in laughing how amateurish l was. I am now in my early 60s, most company wouldn't pay me my previous salary so l have to downgrade to a lower position. Now, my younger coworkers, and managers feel threatened and jealous that my years of experience would outshines them. You'd never get rid of jealousy as long as you're still working.

[@AutumnBRreeze]

A Jealous Narc coworker does'nt want " your help" they want you GONE..at the least they want you deflated & miserable, so that they look better.

[@indunilB]

This is an extremely difficult situation and work can be so tough. It is not that easy.

[@user-pr2eb7nx2g]

Either ignore or crush the prospects of the jealous person. Don’t be empathetic and don’t use energy trying to walk on needles around them or giving thought into a person who’s not thinking about your wellbeing. Be professional, nice or nice-nasty and WRITE DOWN EVERYTHING they do to you and your response if any. Most importantly learn as much as possible to advance beyond them and possibly become their manager or reduce your prospects of being fired due to politics. Have a backup job.

[@matahary0007]

It seems like you work for yourself and dont have coworkers hating on you. Its easy to say what you are saying than experience it.

[@davidaikman2968]

Jealous people are stuck in their child ego state. It’s exhausting to work with them. Leading them even worse. It’s imperative to remain kind and patient but never shrink.

[@georgiafrancis9059]

Kara, please be aware that not all of us have "HR" in our company. It's a small office and there's no valid reason we all can't just get along

[@sacuv5704]

So very relevant for me the last few years. In my case, i'm a chef in fairly high end restaurants. A fairly brutal and and thanksless enviorment for the most part, but in a way that is what i have always loved about it. I moved out from home and started working full time at the age of 17, straight into 80-90 hour weeks and giving it all I have, and some. Because of this, i was very good from a young age. These days at the age of 30, approaching the peak of my career and ability, i am encountering a lot of alienation from young chefs. Starting small but ending up spreading amongst the ranks. My leadership style is by example, and i like to think i am careful with my words and respectful. But why do i keep encountering this? I am starting to realise it comes from a place of jealousy. Is this just a thing of modern day? What happened to working for stuff? People much sooner shit on someone that outshines them than pay attention and learn from them.

[@ezebentivegna1676]

my view in the origin of this problem, is one person who started and try to convince others , and is allways a extrovert agains an introvert. but in my experience time always shows the true.

[@swatirawat3131]

You know just move on, focus on other things. The more you watch such videos, you will find your self focusing on them as you are trying to find a solution of which they are the problem; a problem which is neither of your making nor in your control. Hence, stop watching these videos, focus on other things especially hobbies, as they help with your focus because you like them, and move on with your life. Just stop thinking about them, and the dread will disappear.

[@BarbicideSmoothie]

I think acknowledging our strengths shines a candle on what doesn't. My coworkers have been itching for any type of failure outta me to justify their lack of buisness. I believe everyone has potential, and it shouldn't rest on my the shoulders why they've chosen to do certain tasks obviously unwillingly not happy they've signed up for the job. I just can't wrap my head around the fact that if I was doing horribly, it wouldn't be a problem. But somehow, it's an issue because I'm thriving. I guess I answered my own question. Thank you so much for your help

[@tired2sleep]

Exactly what I needed. Thank you

[@Anonymous66890]

Then I had some female’s coworkers that tried to use deflective tactics of trying to blame me for something but turn around it was them and the supervisor notice it about her and she got written up with a letter of reprimand

[@dystanysam9896]

That actually is happening with me now at my job this female had tried to put herself into a situation that ,wasn't even about her in the first place, so she started the whole drama. My manager had thought that it's was me but after her keep coming back the second time that when they had called her out on it. The whole thing wasn't even a huge issue.

[@albinataggart4846]

This is good advice for a reasonable person. Do this strategy to catch them in a lie.

[@EpicDreamer_]

Just straight to the point if they are causing a mess - I’m saying “I see that you have certain problems with me. If I can’t help you with this, I will tell this to our LM how we can solve it better.” And never ever go back because they want that. And problem solved. 😊 They change so fast hahaha Thank you so much Kara for great advices! This is pure gold.

[@kararonin]

That's a great response Ana! If it works, stick with it. Thanks so much for watching again!

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@kararonin I'm from Canada. What is your advice? Same here being bullied, mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. I've happened to be the top worker for 38 years and have never been suspended. These bullies are jealous and miserable people. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. The biggest mistake since they removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroyed my reputation. I will never quit to make these lazy bums ever win. If I decide to transfer to another hospital and may start gaslighting, smearing and bullying me once again, I don't know all the new managers etc. like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. I will never let bullies try to control me from quitting. Just don't react and not try to defend yourself which will only go back and forth making me look even more guilty. Action always speaks louder than words. Just best ignore them and find another easier target. Never let these low life lazy bums win ever win.

[@KrystalKrunch]

I’m sorry but distancing yourself doesn’t work, at least not for me. I stay out of the way on purpose & it makes them talk even more, because I’m not in their “cliques”. They say things like I think I’m better than them. Well honey if you think so - gee thanks. If me being unbothered by you makes you think that then obviously I must be.

[@blueflame3531]

Just say: " hehe, I am!"

[@Highheel-shoe-review]

I work as a therapist and now they are trying to turn my clients against me. Another coworker told me they heard others talking about me and said they are asking clients to request another therapist. Now they have clients writing a letter saying they don’t want to work with me with no specific reason just saying they don’t feel a connection. It’s really causing me distress and HR doesn’t know I’m aware of the scheme but I want to reach out to HR because they are trying to get me fired.

[@lexy4983]

Its the worse when they lie on your name because higher up was out. Just ignore and state you are busy. Unfortunately people there are haters at every single job.

[@Anonymous66890]

I went to the supervisor and everything and manager it turned out the jealous one was in the wrong anyways. Then not only that they made their own self looked dumbfounded in front of everyone and got the last laugh lol!!!!

[@gabbymiles5655]

Great video thanks for sharing ❤

[@gabriellerobles2168]

my coworker is jealous because my family bought a new vehicle that's expensive. She wants to buy too. Everything I bought she wants to buy too. She's so envious of what I have. I think she's insecure. She got a nice house and nice things, nicer than mine but I'm not envious. I don't get peer pressured when I was in school. I just don't buy it. But maybe my coworker is someone who get swayed easily to have this or that. She's having a loan and she got money problems because of her buying this or that just to keep up with the neighbors or me. I think she got problems. As for me, it's hard to share something about myself like if I bought something new. I'll just stop sharing my personal life with her so she won't have to be envious of me and stop me looking like a braggart to her.

[@CeciliaOlomo]

Thank you for these strategies 🙌

[@kararonin]

You're welcome! Thank you for watching Cecilia!

[@jovettepatricksugui7024]

Thank you ma'am from the philippines i'm newly follower of your channel i'm so impress to your strategy and speaking technique i hope you continues to make videos to help us.

[@rockstarofredondo]

This is the worst advice. This type of person does not care how they harm you. They are glad you disclose your feelings. Don’t be a doormat and wear your heart on your sleeve.

[@monter8495]

It’s very easy for me to ignore them and I love it so much.. the God in my has given me power to over taken all the jealous people!!

[@izzysim9363]

Unfortunately my colleagues talked ill about me behind my back to eachother and the supervisor, let alone casual staff. It's funny because none of those people could actually tell when , where and what happened to give me the title of not to be trusted. Says a lot about them more so than me

[@CKS999]

Unfortunately HR is the same team with that jealous co-worker. They won't help me but back them up and want to eliminate me out of the company

[@GM-py4vt]

I am two weeks in my new workplace now. I tryed to fit in by following the rules, asking my coworkers of there is anything specifi to do. If not I would ask the other guys or just search something myslef (retail). After only some days I realised that my words have been twitested making me look like I am complaining in a hidden way, or cutting my independence in several ways. When I had something like that, I came up to her to talk about it and she kinda doesnt explain herself/defends her desicion which is confusinig me.

[@kararonin]

If you want other ideas on what to say to a jealous coworker, watch this video next kzbin.info/www/bejne/ooC2i3mgbtlqp5o

[@31alaana]

Never complain to the boss or HR. They are useless at first place, and that's why jealous coworkers keep targeting people. I'm going through this for 1.5 years.Hope to get new job soon.

[@huggybear441]

You did the right thing. Don't complain to anyone, don't respond to their rudeness, just find a new job and leave.

[@ray_hk]

Your voice is charming and attracted me deeply ❤💕

[@somprad4362]

Thanks Kara

[@SAS_786]

Take workplace bullying as a compliment ?

[@yumyumkitty2104]

Why? They try to make you feel like you're the biggest loser on the planet 🥴

[@lookwaticando909]

@@yumyumkitty2104it’s def a compliment they can’t control themselves around you in a world with cameras everywhere just be smarter than them 😂

[@mcleanroom7997]

Haha. HR is not your friend.

[@lnjlearning8313]

Thanks!

[@kararonin]

Wow! Thank you very much!

[@juliaoconnor5798]

Sometimes maybe there is a reason for them triggering others perhaps others have their own insecurities however 99% of the time the one being toxic is deliberately purposefully trying to trigger others thats their goal, their aim, that is what they are focusing their energy on its not a random incident its their lifes work to do that with others

[@EpifaniaTure]

I hate jealous people

[@kevinmathew2973]

Especially when they leak our salaries

[@mwanatz5980]

Thank you 😊

[@Humanity_alive9]

Well said

[@Ramon-dc9hq]

Hi Kara, thanks for this video, you are so beutiful!

[@kararonin]

I'm glad you liked this video!

[@NostalgicNathanOfficial]

There’s one coworker of mine that is so envious of me that he’ll say hi to everyone else but me and says I’m unreliable. Says the one that goes around the building and talks to people in different departments for 10-15 minutes at a time.

[@huggybear441]

At the fourth weeks, before starting my 2pm shift, I thought maybe l could catch up with my team at the staff canteen. I say hi to everyone by the time l returned with my tray of food (less than 3mins) the entire team (7 of them) already dashed out, leaving me alone. That day, I quit at the end of my shift.

[@SlaggyGaggy]

7:18 you just contradicted yourself. How do you convey that a jealous coworker has been harassing you without saying they're harassing you? The rest was of the video was enlightening but that one was definitely weird.

[@robertoreynaga2381]

In this video you look so beautyful Kara 🤗 ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

[@kararonin]

Thank you Roberto.

[@robertoreynaga2381]

You are so Beautyfull inside and outside 🤗 kzbin.info/www/bejne/ooG1YpueibJrnsk

[@electricbutterfly1]

Do not go to HR!!!

[@kalyandasari7476]

Hi, Kara !! I have received a mail regarding my internal manager post stating that your interview will be on so and so date (1st time). I was very much excited and prepared for the same. later they postponed the date(2nd time), I have been preparing and waiting for them to be interviewed, again they have postponed (3rd time). This time I thought that finally the day has come for me to give my interview test. Later they have cancelled the interview itself. I couldn't understand and for some time I was shocked. Can you pls help me to whom I should ask and what could be the general reason behind this.

[@kararonin]

I recommend asking the person who organised the interview, either the recruiter or the person in that company. Emphasise how excited you were for the interview and ask them for a reason as to why the interview won't take place. As to my thoughts on this: well, companies are going through a lot of uncertainty at the moment. That company may have intended to interview you before, but with changes in the wider economy, they may not have the budget to hire any new employees. They probably won't tell you that, but I would say it's related to the difficult economy we have right now. Regardless, keep trying for the next job!

[@aruva8995]

How can I stop professionally when someone interupt me while I present my idea. They judge the my idea in a wrong way before even I complete. Since I could not stop them the conversation go so confused ... I need help on this please.can you do a video on that

[@kararonin]

This sounds like a problem of people interrupting you then taking control of the conversation. If people misunderstand your point, it's important you tell them. Say something like, "I think you've misunderstood what I was saying. Let me clarify before we all get confused" and then clarify your point.

[@carolynmerritt7100]

It's because I am single and free to go and come when ever I want. I am happily single. I have no empathy for that person, and I won't dial down to make them comfortable. So thanks but no thanks. They actually make me laugh 😅 because they can't change anything about me. They clearly have difficulty changing this about their own self. So be jealous af. Idc. Ftb.

[@AshtonStands4Awesome]

That strategy did not work.

[@Wilbert907]

If u ignore me I do the same. I’m not going to ask u why u don’t talk to or nothing.

[@stanescuana3021]

So it's Me?wtf ?

[@doyoumind.atall.stopspying5572]

This person totally hated me. I will never know why.

[@HeiseSays]

Seems like women problems.

[@nurseannesinspirationalwellnes]

Thanks 🙏🏽