How To Deal With Letting Go of Friends That You Love

[@KeeganRusz]

Anyone reading this, its getting better. You'll get out of this. The rewards and benefits are empowering. Reclaim yourself and invest in yourself. Youre your main asset.

[@tball5677]

"If you met this friend right now, would you be friends?" That question really sums it all up.

[@Londya]

I really needed to hear this. The part that hit the most was self-betrayal. We're so busy thinking about the other person's feelings, we don't even stop to consider our own and how that person has been making us feel to get to this point of having to consider cutting them off. Then we miss out on our own growth and evolution. I don't want to do that anymore. From now if someone wants to walk out of my life, I'll let them and if I need to cut someone off, I'll do it. Gracefully.

[@JeanBean81]

Thank you for this! Sitting here working from home, contemplating letting go of every friendship that I currently have. I want to be sure that I’m not over-reacting, however from a spiritual standpoint, I don’t feel like I’m flourishing in these friendships. I’m always sharing spiritual knowledge & giving advice, yet I never receive it on a level in which I need. I feel like I’m evolving yet I can’t talk about it because my friends don’t understand & are not spiritual in the way that I am. I desire to be around more like-minded people, people that I can learn from as well. A mutual exchange that helps us both.

[@AFFTFOMSICHTS]

I can relate to this on so many levels. I screen shotted it bc you described perfectly how i feel. I’m genuinely not interested in my friends anymore. They take so much from me while giving nothing in return. It’s draining. Some people are so naturally selfish that they are incapable of asking themselves what does this person get out of being friends with me ??? It’s always “me, me, me, I need you so we need to be friends.”

[@morningglory.213]

Same I see my friends constantly complaining about life and I mean ngl, I used to do that ALOT and even now, I still fall back to the bad habits.But I just don’t want to be around them yk, cuz I feel like the only way in which we “connect” is when we talk about how “shitty” our lives are but tbh I’m so done w it. Yet I’m afraid like maybe I will regret this.. I feel like I should end this and well I know I should “follow my intuition” but I’m so new to all of this and I honestly don’t know if it’s my intuition or my “impulsive decision making thingy” cuz I once thought it was my intuition when in fact it was my impulsive one and almost fucked up.. I just don’t want to do that again but also ngl, this friendship really does make me feel like limited in a way idk

[@TheSunshinefee]

I'm not afraid to leave people behind but when you are an adult, it gets more difficult to find like-minded friends because most people are busy with their family and relationship. they have no room and time for new people

[@Gaurav.P0]

How are you feeling now ?

[@theteamofmemes6968]

I felt that by continuing the friendship, I was actually not being fair to either my friend or myself. I was finally honest with myself about the fact that something was always off from the beginning, and I now believe that it was us validating each other’s egos. I never wanted her validation at first, but it got to the point where I felt I needed it. After many years of this, I was just done one day. I had to go no contact which sucked, but she would refuse to take no for an answer, turning up to my house and constantly emailing. So, I blocked her, which seems crazy to do to someone you’ve known for 20+ years but unfortunately it was necessary. I wish her the best, but I can no longer participate in the charade. It’s not worth it. Now she can grow too.

[@dante340]

Really needed this, thank you so much! There's tons of videos on how to let go of bad and toxic friends, but that's easy for me... It's 1000x harder to let go of good decent friends who you deeply care for... but your goals and priorities are no longer compatible

[@Gaurav.P0]

How are you now ?

[@Gigi-zd8vi]

Yes exactly! Not all friendships end due to toxicity.

[@WINTHSERIES]

This. 💔

[@JAMANIJAMANI]

YES!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you very much! I have said goodbye to a friendship of 13 years! This is real LOVE!

[@Indigo_newness]

I'm about to do that too as well friend of 12 years she's so fake and fickle as she's meet new people and I know I deserve better it's time to let go of BS people.

[@KuteBlackson]

Thank you so much! We can do it - you can do it 🙏💜!!!

[@FaithFashionFinances]

There is a lot of grief in letting go of people who you thought were supportive. I have lost family members and people who I thought were friends. Thank you, I needed to touch on this tonight.

[@Indigo_newness]

I've had to let go of many lately I finally know my worth and not putting up with BS anymore

[@Gaurav.P0]

How are you feeling now ?

[@vx9237]

My bestfriend moved to another country and I just realized she's not coming back :( she's like a sister to me and we were súper close, I find myself waiting for her to come back all the time but I have to move on and learn to do the things I wanted to do with her by myself.. It just makes me sad to know that things are not going to be the same.

[@samanthasullivan3090]

The universe sent this video to me... Thank you so much . much love to you !!

[@KuteBlackson]

Thank you for your energy 🙏💜!!

[@josephmarcello7481]

Look at that man move... The Muhammad Ali of motivational speakers! Ain't no way you can lay a glove on him!

[@BlackNella]

This is the truth my soul was looking for

[@KuteBlackson]

So glad you enjoyed this 🙏💜!!!

[@MewRarr]

Omg... I wish i hug you rn. this is so true. I was betraying myself that why i feel so much anger when i want to leave my bff. As if i can't let go because i m not done talking about what she do to me.

[@KuteBlackson]

Sorry to hear that, sending you good vibes We can do it...you can do it 💜💜!!

[@MewRarr]

@@KuteBlackson thank you for replying! But tbh after a while, idk. I still feel like I missed my friends and I want to reconnect. But I m not sure if that's the best. Idk if she already trashes me away and never think about reconciling. Idk if what I feel is just 'missing the memories but not the person' kinda type. There is a time where I want to just say hi and like apologize and befriends back. But I don't want her to get the wrong idea or having to risk that I will get a mean and hurtful response. Not to mention the awkwardness. How could I pass this sentiment? How can I really move on 😟

[@TheCosmicPlayground888]

Thank You so Much, Kute! I just completed a deep friendship of 12 years. I declared our soul contract ( this lifetime) complete, I dissolved the chords between us, and released us both, and set us both free. My love will never go away for her. And it was time for us to both let it go.

[@Indigo_newness]

Spot on I'm going through this now.... She was my best friend now we nearly friends now.

[@toriambrr]

“real love is a commitment to serve, not their ego, but their soul”

[@StrunDoNhor]

I'm going through some stuff with a toxic friend. I don't want to divulge too much, because it's a very long and complicated situation, but to paraphrase: I'm a generally compassionate person, having gone through some very dark periods in my own life, and she has been very manipulative towards that side of me (without me realizing). My other friends recently had an intervention with me and aren't letting us talk to each other, which has honestly been a really eye-opening experience. I don't know what to feel. I'm angry, heartbroken and depressed all at once. I don't _want_ to let her go because in a lot of ways she's been one of the best friends I've ever made, but I know I _have_ to let her go because, looking back, at no point has she ever had my interests at heart.

[@kimberlymude9375]

Thank you so much. I am now detaching from a friendship of 2 years

[@elleardani4583]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. This is amazing. Thank you for sharing this.

[@KuteBlackson]

Thank you so much! So glad you enjoyed this 🙏💜!!!

[@abandonedaccountiwontreply2250]

my best friend, we met in 2020, lately ive been feeling angry and stressed around her. and she isnt fun to be around anymore, so i think it would be better for us to part ways because us clinging onto eachother isnt healthy.its hard to let go though and i havent told her yet

[@Lammyomoniyi]

Have you been able to detach?

[@padegra]

I don't understand why this video has so little views. It is pure gold!

[@KuteBlackson]

So glad you enjoyed this 🙏💜!

[@herbbbbzzz]

It took me 2 years to let go of my old best friend. He wasn't the same and I was pain daily over him. He put others before me, would make promises he couldn't keep, would make plans with me then do them with someone else, never do any thing I wanted it was always what he wanted, and I always had to go to him. He never came towards me to see me. Everything I wanted to do with him, he did with other people.. so after 2 years of trying to bare this, I let him go. I have so much pain over it, BUT I don't regret my decisions. He will realize what he lost. They always do.

[@natybynature6231]

This was so good thank you for sharing this wisdom, I got a good cry out of this one !

[@shellymarlenemartin2779]

I was with a guy that I really loved…anyway, he had a TON of baggage but I never abandoned him…in the end he said that he needed to deal with all of his baggage and he didnt even know if he ever would…he also said that he had literally NEVER been single. Alone…which was absolutely not true for me…I had always been single in between relationships. So I knew that we were not on the same page. No matter how much I cared for him I knew I just needed to let him really go…to do his thing… I knew it just had to be over…but we still definitely remained friends…. During the time I was with him I met someone else who I really “felt” something for BUT I didn’t move on it since I was with him. But about a month after we broke up the other guy reached out to me and asked me out….I was really glad because honesty that last relationship had been totally stuck and going nowhere at all for quite some time and I had stayed too long…..it was really over before it was over. The friendship will always remain… Now that I am free and got to move on to someone in more alignment with me, I am really happy that I did not stay trapped in the past.

[@Lehanii]

My goodness, wisest words I've heard on the internet in a long time !

[@linniefish]

This is so freeing. Thank you. God bless you.

[@KuteBlackson]

Thank you for your energy 🙏💜!!

[@hiccup7457]

i move a lot, like, every 1-3 years. i love my friends so much but it's made me really sad and i cant be positive anymore because of how much i miss them, its really hard to let go and change is really scary but its been like this for months, almost a year. its time for me to try.

[@icelatte2]

Thank you. I have learned deep lessons from this video that you created. Yes, now I have to acknowledge I have grown out of the relationship. I will not limit myself from growing. I will allow myself to go forward. Thank you for helping me sir.

[@Chefo.]

u are amazing! greeting from Bulgaria

[@KuteBlackson]

🙏💜!

[@iansullivan6229]

Jesus man I felt like I knew all of this but hearing you say it helped thank you

[@koosmangat]

values is the reason friends or love ones stay together

[@chloelitchfield7089]

THANK YOU, I needed to hear this!

[@KuteBlackson]

We can do it - you can do it 💜💜!!!

[@cotegt]

this is such a great message, i wanted to hear this. Thank you for doing it.

[@KuteBlackson]

So glad you enjoyed this 🙏💜!!!

[@emaloubael6581]

let go of the person so love but don't let of your love for them. love them in a different way. give them space to grow, love them far away

[@oceaflow]

Thank you for speaking such wise words 🤍✨

[@lauraseely7335]

Beautiful Kute!!! Being true to ourselves and our journey is the most authentic way to love ourselves and each other!! Being true to our hearts isn't always easy, but you're so right that it is always worth it!!! Clear out what doesn't align, and make space for what does- and get ready for the next level of AWESOME!!! Got it!!! Thank you Kute for yet another amazing video!!! Love you!!! 💖💖💖💖💖

[@estefyhengja]

What a video. Thank you !!

[@chelle6185]

I just loved this message! It was so inspiring?

[@KuteBlackson]

Glad you enjoyed it!💜💜

[@perfectlyimperfect1733]

Thank you so much Bro... Awesome one.. really so helpful to realize something..

[@faddyhakaj]

very powerful 🙏

[@KuteBlackson]

Thank you!! 🙏💜

[@apdroidgeek1737]

I keep losing a friend, idk if its because of me, i didnt do anything wrong with our friendship we just parted ways, i thought we could still communicate but obv thats not how it works, people will forget you the sooner you no longer seeing them in person, but not me for some reason, i cant make friends anymore though im just gonna teach myself to live alone.

[@raymoun1]

Man i dream about my old friends almost all night and in that dreams i am the one who is fully guilty of the seperation (i am in a way because there where some serious issues to seperate). I just want to go on in my life and let go of the past, but it is so hard to stop thinking and dreaming about them.

[@briannajackson4326]

So needed to hear this. Lost a friend today 😢

[@sumitaipg]

Thank you 😌

[@KuteBlackson]

Thank you!! You’re welcome 😊💜💜

[@sumitaipg]

@@KuteBlackson 😁💪

[@heelgill]

It hurts as I type this but I don’t want this anymore.

[@ctto9525]

Thank you. Your words are like music to my spirit .

[@laniblack8807]

..... thanks, that make sense!!! so wonderful pearls of wisdom regarding friendships. what strikes me most is when u said.... let go of friendship when you are no longer aligning.... pain can be so excruciating, but one needs to take such a relationship into a different form, yet love remains...... in this kind of friendship, one needs to die to herself in order to grow.... nice !!!!

[@ladymorgana8439]

I know it's an old video but anyway, thank you for the message. Not so long ago, I've ended a 12 years friendship, and felt a little bit guilty about doing it, thank you so much,I needed this video,you are just brilliantly explained that I already know deep inside of my heart,kind regards from Russia 🇷🇺🙂

[@snehaannthomas7436]

Thank you so much ❤

[@KuteBlackson]

Thank you for your energy! 🙏💜

[@iamclbonline]

Timely message. Thank you Kute ♥️

[@KuteBlackson]

Thank you so much 🙏💜!!!

[@redslept6253]

Helped big time

[@beecleary1240]

I lost my bff and so I hope she won't Tell anyone my secrets its gonna be hard for me let her go since she's my crush

[@auramaa2672]

Beautiful. Thank you

[@KuteBlackson]

So glad you enjoyed this 🙏💜!!!

[@adrianaavila5230]

I'm crying

[@Gaurav.P0]

How are you feeling now ?

[@KuteBlackson]

Sorry to hear that - sending you good vibes!

[@akila3572]

Week ago I said good bye to frienships of 9 years and 6 years.

[@marielgodinez2850]

Hi what can I do if someone I love doesn't love me back ? But I want that Guy he always says No

[@Gaurav.P0]

How are you feeling now ?

[@josephmarcello7481]

Friend Kute, The content of your message quite aside, and perhaps you have had occasion to observe this about yourself, or else to hear it from those in your world but, man, you never stop moving! Impulsive, compulsive motion.. perhaps a playing out of your particular interpersonal energies and mode of relating to your world.. perpetual motion! However, whereas, in person, this kinetic tendency would be just fine to countenance, because it would be no frame, no camera in which the motion would be oscillating, in the world of video, there is a certain dizzying aspect, which, well perhaps intentional, is ultimately destabilizing and done stressful from the viewer's point of view. In the situation where you yourself are holding your camera in hand, you are often passing it back and forth from one hand to another, which alone creates a great deal of crazy shipboard motion, and, when the camera is staple, you, within your body, continue to oscillate nonetheless!.. challenging those who wish to hear you, who are impacted by your gospel, to hang in there and hold on to the door or the wall or the floor in order to give themselves some semblance of stability within the rocking of your boat, or the boat of your viewer. You love your listeners come here watches? Good, love their nervous systems as well, their brains and eyes, and seek not to provide needless stress to them in your, yes, spontaneous, and, yes, animated ministrations, but show them and teach them as well the deep beauty and subtle motion of stillness and, within that stillness, the infinity of motion on deeper and higher levels. As a lifelong composer, there are many musical analogies to what you're being is seeking to do.. which, innocence, is to dance and to invite your virtual friends to dance with you as well. What you may yet need to further and more deeply understand is, that the dance which you need to be happening from your angle is distinctly and definitely not the dance which is there by happening from theirs. Yes, we understand that there is so much percolating within you, that the motion is spontaneous, instinctual, organic, unintentional, but there's no test like the acid test of placing yourself in the moccasins of others in your world, and so, watch two or three of your videos and look at the rocking man and feel the heady lurching of the camera in which he videos himself, and ask yourself if you're cerebral cortex and your inner balance mechanisms, are as happy as he thinks he is. And just possibly, you may discover that friend Kute is dancing in his own bubble my wishes to stinkly different, not only neurologically, but psychologically, cycles spiritually, spiritually and transcendently, of his own making or unmaking, quite unable to penetrate the transparent surface of his particular bubble matrix and to enter yours thereby, transmitting the lofty truth which he's so feels impaled to shares. A dip into the good book might be beneficial to such a peripatetic soul:. 'be still, and to know that I am God.' May you find, in your future explorations, the inner motion within stillness, as well as the stillness within outer motion.. Namaste!

[@antheapeter7843]

Amen

[@tankthepitbull520]

I just lost a 15 year friendship because of political differences.

[@MrRussianGerman]

This is what I’m going through too.

[@donteven3860]

Jesus Christ I can’t even imagine

[@gutigames4132]

i miss my puppy

[@orthodoxy6470]

:( damn pray to God bro ✝️☦️🙏🏻🇻🇦

[@hispaaniasseoppimajajalgpa9637]

What if kids are involved...it's not only about You anymore

[@raygman899]

Binb Zniz how do you mean? Living one's authentic truth is an absolutely WONDERFUL thing to exemplify for one's children. If we're talking about *adult children*, then they have the same agency as any other friend or relative.

[@KismetSKinNurse]

Kids doesn't not change the truth that things no longer works. You have to find peace to choose the level you are going to involve with him or her. Kids relationship with them is different from your relationship with them. In all you do be very kind and fair to find your clarity.

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

Toxic advice. It is okay to get rid of an encouraging and helpful and connective friendship and move on.

[@tracierendell4422]

Crikey. Half way through and ou still don't talk about HOW to let go.

[@filmspilloganime6591]

Phew, this guy is exhausting to watch. He sweats and talks loudly. But the message is good though.