How to Deal With Toxic People & Narcissists...

[@MJHarrisSpeaks]

How do you deal with toxic people?

[@shirleygonzales5284]

I love you and your channel, MJ. I stopped talking to them.

[@msmhamilton87]

When I identify who they are, they must stay away from me. I must protect my peace💞💞...

[@mignongreen8557]

I don't. I remove myself from the situation. ♓

[@aireyb5785]

How to know if you're the narcissist? 🤔

[@SDC8686]

I simply do not deal with them. Ghost to protect self. The issue is identifying the person's b.s. early before you feed into their toxicity. That goes for potential romantic partners, friends, and family, too. I just can't deal w the stress and high blood pressure from toxic connections. Family is a little harder. Had to set hard boundaries with my cousin 🫠. Ain't nobody got time for that, lol. Called her out and limit conversations if I need to.

[@Get_a_life]

#1 rule: Never, ever let people know what bothers you! No emotional response!

[@kieronalder5264]

100% true about cutting them off. Have personally experienced this and trying to reason with them is a waste of time. Its like talking to a machine.

[@dougfredricks2017]

Don't walk just Run away like Carl Lewis. Folks. Those narcissists are nuttier than holiday fruit cakes

[@Sharperthanu1]

Whenever anyone insults you always consider the source

[@rochelle3431]

It’s best to leave toxic people alone! They fed off of negative energy. The devil is a liar!

[@msthang5366]

Calling them out can be dangerous. Be safe before calling folks out.

[@dougfredricks2017]

The narcissist will wet the Bed and blame the mattress 😂

[@christinealbrecht-jones8127]

Speaking truth!! I've been there, when I moved on, I set boundaries. Now I am happily married.

[@mastherpeace3256]

It hurts so deep when your own mother is the toxic/ narcissist 😔 but since I ended communication with her, I’m the happiest and most comfortable I’ve ever been. I feel young, happy and full of love to give and receive

[@samxsara]

Me too!

[@samxsara]

I have a question tho... if u have to meet family members u like in a setting where the mother wd be invited too... would u go?

[@patod4]

It is horrible when your adult daughter is the toxic narcissict. They pick on their mother to blame her for their own mistaken choices and frustations believing mothers will never leave. Wrong!

[@Tiseytooreal]

Me too

[@zhmw]

I thought my grown daughter was going to change this time. She was crying and upset, so I believed that she 'hit bottom' and would realize her bad behavior, but NOPE. Just within three months, she's back to her manipulating ways. Yes, it hurts to set boundaries with my own 'grown' daughter, but I can't let her walk all over me, so I'll keep in touch with her, but it's on my terms, not when she wants something from me.

[@wejoin]

#2 Do NOT go back and forth with them.

[@MrsPetal]

If they’re being toxic to you, cut them out cold turkey and let them deal with themselves alone, now they’ll truly understand what they’re doing.

[@IamDanielleGraham]

See I know I wasn’t crazy for dumping my ex! He was the true definition of a narcissist!

[@shasilver]

How do you deal with toxic people, you dont!!! Love you MJ!! I love tuning in to your content!!❤

[@lifewithty6450]

I used to always have problems setting my boundaries, now I can tell them my boundaries and if they don't follow then I don't give chances, I just cut them off and block them altogether.

[@joshuaanzalone2060]

Facts life with Ty get the hint and moveee around

[@a.j.queenhealer4523]

I am the Queen of the Cut Off!!!!!...Why???.... Life is too Short!!!!!....Nope! Cut the Off!!!!..

[@glendaotero3612]

I am going through it as we speak in my workplace. I have anxiety, and I don't like how I am feeling. It is not easy to dealing w toxic people in the workplace.

[@katyhart4491]

I keep a journal and I go back and Read everything that happened when my mid tries yo trick me into believing that I miss them....when I check....nothing to miss! Back to sanity again! Thanks MJ

[@Roxann-qw3nr]

Yes , set boundaries then stop with them if they cant honor you & your boundaries❤ Best advise ever.

[@brdrianas4999]

The voice memos help me so much! If I’ve already explained myself I’m not doing it ever again!

[@m.d.1395]

One tip I got from Uppity Negress was to save the person's number under what they did. Instead of someone's name, save (& block) their info under, say, "Raging Narcissist" or "Condescending Person Who Majes Me Feel Less Than" That's what I plan to do.

[@ebonyeyes821]

Warn them, cut them off if no response, block and delete in that order, in my mama Dee voice 😂😂😂

[@carolkirkland819]

MJ thank you for providing us this truth so well put; you are helping SO many people♥️

[@flowatress]

Oh MJ! Perfect timing literally!! You’ve just made my therapist job easy!😂 I really needed this, your view/advice/energy! Thank you ❤👏🏽💪🏽

[@ADayWithDeeDee]

Thank you, thank you, thank you! I have also been a people pleaser and just now (in my 40s) learning to say no and move toxic people out of my life. It’s still hard sometimes but now I can rewatch this video anything I have doubts. Bless you.

[@charijones9899]

I have let a Narc go and my life has gotten better. I do not feel bad about it.

[@vickiehandley9913]

Everything you said is on point, I used lived it.

[@HajjQanea]

No closure for the a-holes that brought me to searching for videos like this.

[@Datb2]

It’s so hard not to reminisce on the good times separate from the toxic behaviour. I wasn’t comfortable calling them out and just cut em off 😢

[@joshuaanzalone2060]

I cut them all off. I've set my boundaries and they won't be broken.

[@arbitrarylib]

Veryyyy good information. Everyone says boundaries are important but no one explained why. So insightful.

[@kevintucker6007]

I had to use all of those tactics. Once I was aware I had more control over the situation. I started handling situations immediately, as you stated. Thank you for sharing the wisdom!!!

[@meli7315]

Hey beautiful I had exactly this situation yesterday and a had a super important day ❤ and I stayed focus for my business and told them I won’t people please this person and will say my opinion and how I feel in a calm way , I felt empowered because I have decided I won’t lower myself for someone and won’t I feel bad for it for standing up for myself! ❤

[@deadriaross7466]

Thank you so much I was w/ a toxic and mentally and physical abusive man, it's been 4 months since he left, I've started living and learned I've noticed each day for me it has become super fantastic,vim living now for DEE DEE BOT THAT TOXIC MFS ANY MIRE THANK YOU FOR YOUR INSIGHTFULNESS YOUR TRULY BLESSED AND REFRESHING 💕💕😎

[@darlenecard8522]

This is 200% Facts!! Thanks For Sharing With Us Love👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥰

[@tami2595]

Thank you for posting this wonderful advice!

[@happinessibe3318]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I love this man

[@JDaniel165]

Thank you malcom

[@joanneedmunds6602]

Thank you for your advice! It's just what I needed to hear! 😊

[@DonnaBurke-rz1mv]

Best Video Ever!

[@Blue-Spirit]

Iv cut allot of people off in my life recently and others have also cut me off in the past. Sometimes when someone would cut me off, I would think there was some kind of misunderstanding when the situation didn't make sense. If I understood what the boundary was, I would apologize sincerely for crossing it but sometimes its just not enough. If somebody crosses my boundaries I usually give them second chances, but I don't forget what it was. Some friends would cross the line, and giving them a second chance was all that was needed to solve the problem. Others just aren't sincere with there apologies and continue to cross the line. I know what its like to be cut off suddenly with seemingly no explanation or an unclear one, so I always give the person an explanation or closure before ending things or giving them another chance. People make mistakes. Not everyone who crosses the line is malicious even if its hard in the moment to see that. In maintaining healthy relationships, we need to be able to reflect on our own actions critically before making a decision while also keeping in mind our own boundaries. iv found that having a conversation with them, more times then not, has a great effect. I also acknowledge others may have the opposite experience, but for the sake of emphasizing my own, If your uncertain about the outcome, it might be worth discussing the situation with someone you trust who can help you think critically about the next steps. ultimately its up to you to decide who you want to keep in your life, however I know from experience, jumping to conclusions never did anything but make me a more closed minded person. make sure to pay special attention to the details, and facilitate communication the best you can. If this fails, remember who you are and stand up for yourself because you've done everything you could.

[@rubiaramirez7871]

Thank You So Much God Bless You

[@chochephil]

This was so timely and accurate!! ❤

[@sallycasiano2606]

You are so right there are many people that want me not to speak or say what is unacceptable to me and I say exactly what you just said by me not expressing what I don’t like I am giving them permission to speak and treat me in this manner oh I want to be your friend I have finally met a person that has the same values as me and isn’t afraid to speak 🙏🏼👏

[@beemonique8466]

Love this! Liked this! This was really good MJ!!! I had this experience last week and the person is trying to drag it into this week because, I said what I had to say last week and refused to continue that conversation. Oooo this videoo came just in time! I have a few Narcissist in my family, that's always poking the bear and when called out, they either apologize or say that they was just playing. These same people have been doing silly shit and trying me for awhile now. There was a time when I may have been passive aggressive- now, I don't even get mad. I confront, draw boundaries and exit stage left.

[@msvee7314]

Love this. Exactly!

[@lindaholmes9460]

Thanks you I needed to hear this ❤❤

[@Shellorena]

Staying grounded in my own integrity helps me be understanding of people's symptoms and allow them the privacy processing. Speaking simply without judgement, just facts being shared, releases any enabling or disabling or expectation for exchange. Very healthy for everyone especially if there are others present, a neutral party to witness is often wise . Keep it simple as some will take anything you say out of context to use against you. Be your own confessor.I love the recprding idea.I write it out or do some art or music that transmutes .

[@TeeTanner229]

Luv you so much!!❤❤❤

[@gwenbrownlee5854]

You're keeping it 💯 all the time!

[@wejoin]

Set your boundaries and call them out early!

[@TheJawn_G]

Wow!!!!!!!!! Nail on the head good job thank you! Stuff I already knew but definitely needed the reassurance

[@Michelle....B]

MJ you spoke the ENTIRE truth in this video...Thank you...

[@rafayrafay6530]

Nice video Thanks Allah for giving me❤ courage i was doing right they toxic people does not deserve a vibe from a good person ,u also explain it well .Thanks

[@Classyladydiva]

I love you MJ ❤ Your that big brother or uncle who tells it like it is.....

[@user-qk3yz3kp9l]

I've been following you for almost 1 and a half a year from now, u help a lot of people to learn about their feelings and get them through in any situation, i hope u make another one on how to deal with narcissist neighbor that only wants fight/debate. We all are dealing a lot already and it's hard to go on everyday with neighbors that keep on mocking me and gaslighting me by talking behind my back (they making us uncomfortable and make us feel bad for being poor and not having enough). I can't believe that there are still this type of people in the community up to this time, it's like they never taste the bitterness of life so they bully us for being behind to them😩. I hope in some miracle that you notice my comment to able to help me🥺, please heart my comment as soon as you already notice it so i can remember & come back to your channel🙏❤️.

[@lovely87748]

I just adore you MJ, Thank you

[@MJHarrisSpeaks]

❤❤❤❤

[@blaskytis]

Very good video!

[@jjohnson7297]

❤😊 Grace n Mercy!! MJ. God bless you🩵🙏

[@MJHarrisSpeaks]

❤🙏🏽

[@mswms4774]

Absolutely on point!👍🏼💯☮

[@hotlipsds]

the voice memo tool is golden!!!!! Works like a charm. Needed this. Thanks MJ!

[@PhyllisDaniely-pk2kc]

Thanks for the that.

[@Keli-nw8fy]

Thank you may God and yours bless you

[@asmrearthchild3315]

THIS VIDEO🎉🎉THANK YOU‼️

[@t.mccullough2240]

PREACH!!! You better take that "L" and keep it moving you will LOVE YOURSELF down the road for it!!!😊😊😌😝

[@t.mccullough2240]

Once I found out why I was getting headaches, I STOP, DROPPED, AND ROLLED!!! I don't have time nor the space to entertain someone else's mental disfunction. hmh!!!

[@karenlim2603]

Thank You! MJ. Your Video was very helpful. I will try to use it and cut off the people made trouble to me. Keep up your good videos and wish you the best 🙏 Health.

[@DavinaJordan.]

Thank you so much.

[@AntoniaToniaa]

I love you…..you covered everything in jus those minutes….you’re amazing….thanks for all you do for us…..and your skin is glowing🥰😌

[@helenhowell8297]

I agree with you 100%. I like you because you talk real and God bless you and have a great day.👍💯❤

[@nicholecornes1915]

Thank you bebe

[@eggxecution]

brilliant

[@bks13]

I love that voice note tidbit! Duly noted MJ!

[@MJHarrisSpeaks]

it works so well!

[@WowDaniX]

I needed to hear this message. I cut a 😅gym associate off. They were TOXIC. MJ your message was on point. You described the toxic person to the tee.

[@LisaSmith-sc7by]

you just blessed my soul. thank you

[@f.maria7835]

Mamita let me tell you something, your skin is so flawless, your gorgeous, I love u so much

[@mariahflowers9009]

This Is Right on Time

[@ethhangs]

Dang, underrated channel, +1 sub my man, thanks

[@MartinaSands-dv5cg]

Please help me out MJ is true what you saying I believe in God I have love in my heart🙏♥️.

[@rubiaramirez7871]

Shared

[@bloomgan5519]

Heavy on flip the narrative

[@vanessaa.chisley362]

Thank you 😊 I needed to hear that

[@kantamehan7112]

The best best video on this topic you are amazing

[@Brightestlightt]

Perfect timing

[@user-pi7rr6re5z]

Great advice !! Well said !! ❤ your work !!

[@pengini933]

Thank you!!!!!! Great advice

[@HealthyLifestyle68]

Thank you great explaination

[@thymetastedwithsnehal9348]

Omg! Spot on.

[@lisasmith4835]

Goodafternoon MJ Thamk You for This Video everything you said is 💯 ❤

[@jonygspot]

Excellent points made in this vid 👏

[@MrsPetal]

In today society you tell people you don’t like certain aspects of themselves and they say screw you and then karma bites them in the ass and still nothing changes. Change comes from within not when some busy body pointing out your flaws and faults.

[@topandtale]

Well said

[@iartfam]

Thanks Mj! 😘 new subscriber! I love your vibe

[@falishatucker3486]

I’m so exhausted by attracting these narcissistic men

[@wifey8752]

how to deal with them? YOU DON'T!!! lol Leave

[@ilenefuller1319]

Where have been all my life❤

[@tamarabitter2877]

Well I don't like people like that and what I don't like is when they say your being rude when there the ones that are rude and not nice I wish I can call them out to also to make them feel small to but if I do that then it will come back to me but I'm talking about bullies

[@Corri.dr.K]

Love the outfit, are you coming out with a new clothing line? Is so please include plus sizes. Appreciate the information. Thank you. Love you.

[@laken1804]

Great tips.

[@happinessibe3318]

I had some friends both men and women believe me, when I fully decided to cut off from them am happier now

[@jensteroneR]

That outfit is beautiful ❤

[@zaviervereen7359]

I can't stand toxic people around me at all cause they really irritates me a whole lot like I'm about to retaliate on them if they say anything out the way or look at me wrong