I love you and your channel, MJ. I stopped talking to them.
@msmhamilton87 Жыл бұрын
When I identify who they are, they must stay away from me. I must protect my peace💞💞...
@mignongreen8557 Жыл бұрын
I don't. I remove myself from the situation. ♓
@aireyb5785 Жыл бұрын
How to know if you're the narcissist? 🤔
@SDC8686 Жыл бұрын
I simply do not deal with them. Ghost to protect self. The issue is identifying the person's b.s. early before you feed into their toxicity. That goes for potential romantic partners, friends, and family, too. I just can't deal w the stress and high blood pressure from toxic connections. Family is a little harder. Had to set hard boundaries with my cousin 🫠. Ain't nobody got time for that, lol. Called her out and limit conversations if I need to.
@Get_a_life8 ай бұрын
#1 rule: Never, ever let people know what bothers you! No emotional response!
@kieronalder5264 Жыл бұрын
100% true about cutting them off. Have personally experienced this and trying to reason with them is a waste of time. Its like talking to a machine.
@dougfredricks20179 ай бұрын
Don't walk just Run away like Carl Lewis. Folks. Those narcissists are nuttier than holiday fruit cakes
@Sharperthanu1Ай бұрын
Whenever anyone insults you always consider the source
@rochelle3431 Жыл бұрын
It’s best to leave toxic people alone! They fed off of negative energy. The devil is a liar!
@msthang5366 Жыл бұрын
Calling them out can be dangerous. Be safe before calling folks out.
@dougfredricks20179 ай бұрын
The narcissist will wet the Bed and blame the mattress 😂
@christinealbrecht-jones8127 Жыл бұрын
Speaking truth!! I've been there, when I moved on, I set boundaries. Now I am happily married.
@mastherpeace3256 Жыл бұрын
It hurts so deep when your own mother is the toxic/ narcissist 😔 but since I ended communication with her, I’m the happiest and most comfortable I’ve ever been. I feel young, happy and full of love to give and receive
@samxsara11 ай бұрын
Me too!
@samxsara11 ай бұрын
I have a question tho... if u have to meet family members u like in a setting where the mother wd be invited too... would u go?
@patod44 ай бұрын
It is horrible when your adult daughter is the toxic narcissict. They pick on their mother to blame her for their own mistaken choices and frustations believing mothers will never leave. Wrong!
@Tiseytooreal3 ай бұрын
Me too
@zhmw9 ай бұрын
I thought my grown daughter was going to change this time. She was crying and upset, so I believed that she 'hit bottom' and would realize her bad behavior, but NOPE. Just within three months, she's back to her manipulating ways. Yes, it hurts to set boundaries with my own 'grown' daughter, but I can't let her walk all over me, so I'll keep in touch with her, but it's on my terms, not when she wants something from me.
@wejoin Жыл бұрын
#2 Do NOT go back and forth with them.
@MrsPetal Жыл бұрын
If they’re being toxic to you, cut them out cold turkey and let them deal with themselves alone, now they’ll truly understand what they’re doing.
@IamDanielleGraham Жыл бұрын
See I know I wasn’t crazy for dumping my ex! He was the true definition of a narcissist!
@shasilver Жыл бұрын
How do you deal with toxic people, you dont!!! Love you MJ!! I love tuning in to your content!!❤
@lifewithty6450 Жыл бұрын
I used to always have problems setting my boundaries, now I can tell them my boundaries and if they don't follow then I don't give chances, I just cut them off and block them altogether.
@joshuaanzalone2060 Жыл бұрын
Facts life with Ty get the hint and moveee around
@a.j.queenhealer4523 Жыл бұрын
I am the Queen of the Cut Off!!!!!...Why???.... Life is too Short!!!!!....Nope! Cut the Off!!!!..
@glendaotero3612 Жыл бұрын
I am going through it as we speak in my workplace. I have anxiety, and I don't like how I am feeling. It is not easy to dealing w toxic people in the workplace.
@katyhart4491 Жыл бұрын
I keep a journal and I go back and Read everything that happened when my mid tries yo trick me into believing that I miss them....when I check....nothing to miss! Back to sanity again! Thanks MJ
@Roxann-qw3nr5 ай бұрын
Yes , set boundaries then stop with them if they cant honor you & your boundaries❤ Best advise ever.
@brdrianas4999 Жыл бұрын
The voice memos help me so much! If I’ve already explained myself I’m not doing it ever again!
@m.d.1395 Жыл бұрын
One tip I got from Uppity Negress was to save the person's number under what they did. Instead of someone's name, save (& block) their info under, say, "Raging Narcissist" or "Condescending Person Who Majes Me Feel Less Than" That's what I plan to do.
@ebonyeyes821 Жыл бұрын
Warn them, cut them off if no response, block and delete in that order, in my mama Dee voice 😂😂😂
@carolkirkland819 Жыл бұрын
MJ thank you for providing us this truth so well put; you are helping SO many people♥️
@flowatress Жыл бұрын
Oh MJ! Perfect timing literally!! You’ve just made my therapist job easy!😂 I really needed this, your view/advice/energy! Thank you ❤👏🏽💪🏽
@ADayWithDeeDee Жыл бұрын
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I have also been a people pleaser and just now (in my 40s) learning to say no and move toxic people out of my life. It’s still hard sometimes but now I can rewatch this video anything I have doubts. Bless you.
@charijones9899 Жыл бұрын
I have let a Narc go and my life has gotten better. I do not feel bad about it.
@vickiehandley9913 Жыл бұрын
Everything you said is on point, I used lived it.
@HajjQaneaАй бұрын
No closure for the a-holes that brought me to searching for videos like this.
@Datb28 ай бұрын
It’s so hard not to reminisce on the good times separate from the toxic behaviour. I wasn’t comfortable calling them out and just cut em off 😢
@joshuaanzalone2060 Жыл бұрын
I cut them all off. I've set my boundaries and they won't be broken.
@arbitrarylib Жыл бұрын
Veryyyy good information. Everyone says boundaries are important but no one explained why. So insightful.
@kevintucker6007 Жыл бұрын
I had to use all of those tactics. Once I was aware I had more control over the situation. I started handling situations immediately, as you stated. Thank you for sharing the wisdom!!!
@meli7315 Жыл бұрын
Hey beautiful I had exactly this situation yesterday and a had a super important day ❤ and I stayed focus for my business and told them I won’t people please this person and will say my opinion and how I feel in a calm way , I felt empowered because I have decided I won’t lower myself for someone and won’t I feel bad for it for standing up for myself! ❤
@deadriaross7466 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much I was w/ a toxic and mentally and physical abusive man, it's been 4 months since he left, I've started living and learned I've noticed each day for me it has become super fantastic,vim living now for DEE DEE BOT THAT TOXIC MFS ANY MIRE THANK YOU FOR YOUR INSIGHTFULNESS YOUR TRULY BLESSED AND REFRESHING 💕💕😎
@darlenecard8522 Жыл бұрын
This is 200% Facts!! Thanks For Sharing With Us Love👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥰
@tami2595 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this wonderful advice!
@happinessibe33187 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I love this man
@JDaniel1652 ай бұрын
Thank you malcom
@joanneedmunds66024 ай бұрын
Thank you for your advice! It's just what I needed to hear! 😊
@DonnaBurke-rz1mv6 ай бұрын
Best Video Ever!
@Blue-Spirit2 ай бұрын
Iv cut allot of people off in my life recently and others have also cut me off in the past. Sometimes when someone would cut me off, I would think there was some kind of misunderstanding when the situation didn't make sense. If I understood what the boundary was, I would apologize sincerely for crossing it but sometimes its just not enough. If somebody crosses my boundaries I usually give them second chances, but I don't forget what it was. Some friends would cross the line, and giving them a second chance was all that was needed to solve the problem. Others just aren't sincere with there apologies and continue to cross the line. I know what its like to be cut off suddenly with seemingly no explanation or an unclear one, so I always give the person an explanation or closure before ending things or giving them another chance. People make mistakes. Not everyone who crosses the line is malicious even if its hard in the moment to see that. In maintaining healthy relationships, we need to be able to reflect on our own actions critically before making a decision while also keeping in mind our own boundaries. iv found that having a conversation with them, more times then not, has a great effect. I also acknowledge others may have the opposite experience, but for the sake of emphasizing my own, If your uncertain about the outcome, it might be worth discussing the situation with someone you trust who can help you think critically about the next steps. ultimately its up to you to decide who you want to keep in your life, however I know from experience, jumping to conclusions never did anything but make me a more closed minded person. make sure to pay special attention to the details, and facilitate communication the best you can. If this fails, remember who you are and stand up for yourself because you've done everything you could.
@rubiaramirez7871 Жыл бұрын
Thank You So Much God Bless You
@chochephil Жыл бұрын
This was so timely and accurate!! ❤
@sallycasiano2606 Жыл бұрын
You are so right there are many people that want me not to speak or say what is unacceptable to me and I say exactly what you just said by me not expressing what I don’t like I am giving them permission to speak and treat me in this manner oh I want to be your friend I have finally met a person that has the same values as me and isn’t afraid to speak 🙏🏼👏
@beemonique8466 Жыл бұрын
Love this! Liked this! This was really good MJ!!! I had this experience last week and the person is trying to drag it into this week because, I said what I had to say last week and refused to continue that conversation. Oooo this videoo came just in time! I have a few Narcissist in my family, that's always poking the bear and when called out, they either apologize or say that they was just playing. These same people have been doing silly shit and trying me for awhile now. There was a time when I may have been passive aggressive- now, I don't even get mad. I confront, draw boundaries and exit stage left.
@msvee7314 Жыл бұрын
Love this. Exactly!
@lindaholmes9460 Жыл бұрын
Thanks you I needed to hear this ❤❤
@Shellorena4 ай бұрын
Staying grounded in my own integrity helps me be understanding of people's symptoms and allow them the privacy processing. Speaking simply without judgement, just facts being shared, releases any enabling or disabling or expectation for exchange. Very healthy for everyone especially if there are others present, a neutral party to witness is often wise . Keep it simple as some will take anything you say out of context to use against you. Be your own confessor.I love the recprding idea.I write it out or do some art or music that transmutes .
@TeeTanner229 Жыл бұрын
Luv you so much!!❤❤❤
@gwenbrownlee5854 Жыл бұрын
You're keeping it 💯 all the time!
@wejoin Жыл бұрын
Set your boundaries and call them out early!
@TheJawn_G11 ай бұрын
Wow!!!!!!!!! Nail on the head good job thank you! Stuff I already knew but definitely needed the reassurance
@Michelle....B Жыл бұрын
MJ you spoke the ENTIRE truth in this video...Thank you...
@rafayrafay6530Ай бұрын
Nice video Thanks Allah for giving me❤ courage i was doing right they toxic people does not deserve a vibe from a good person ,u also explain it well .Thanks
@Classyladydiva Жыл бұрын
I love you MJ ❤ Your that big brother or uncle who tells it like it is.....
@user-qk3yz3kp9l7 ай бұрын
I've been following you for almost 1 and a half a year from now, u help a lot of people to learn about their feelings and get them through in any situation, i hope u make another one on how to deal with narcissist neighbor that only wants fight/debate. We all are dealing a lot already and it's hard to go on everyday with neighbors that keep on mocking me and gaslighting me by talking behind my back (they making us uncomfortable and make us feel bad for being poor and not having enough). I can't believe that there are still this type of people in the community up to this time, it's like they never taste the bitterness of life so they bully us for being behind to them😩. I hope in some miracle that you notice my comment to able to help me🥺, please heart my comment as soon as you already notice it so i can remember & come back to your channel🙏❤️.
@lovely87748 Жыл бұрын
I just adore you MJ, Thank you
@MJHarrisSpeaks Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@blaskytis4 ай бұрын
Very good video!
@jjohnson7297 Жыл бұрын
❤😊 Grace n Mercy!! MJ. God bless you🩵🙏
@MJHarrisSpeaks Жыл бұрын
❤🙏🏽
@mswms4774 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely on point!👍🏼💯☮
@hotlipsds Жыл бұрын
the voice memo tool is golden!!!!! Works like a charm. Needed this. Thanks MJ!
@PhyllisDaniely-pk2kc10 ай бұрын
Thanks for the that.
@Keli-nw8fy Жыл бұрын
Thank you may God and yours bless you
@asmrearthchild3315 Жыл бұрын
THIS VIDEO🎉🎉THANK YOU‼️
@t.mccullough2240 Жыл бұрын
PREACH!!! You better take that "L" and keep it moving you will LOVE YOURSELF down the road for it!!!😊😊😌😝
@t.mccullough2240 Жыл бұрын
Once I found out why I was getting headaches, I STOP, DROPPED, AND ROLLED!!! I don't have time nor the space to entertain someone else's mental disfunction. hmh!!!
@karenlim26039 ай бұрын
Thank You! MJ. Your Video was very helpful. I will try to use it and cut off the people made trouble to me. Keep up your good videos and wish you the best 🙏 Health.
@DavinaJordan. Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much.
@AntoniaToniaa Жыл бұрын
I love you…..you covered everything in jus those minutes….you’re amazing….thanks for all you do for us…..and your skin is glowing🥰😌
@helenhowell82979 ай бұрын
I agree with you 100%. I like you because you talk real and God bless you and have a great day.👍💯❤
@nicholecornes19154 ай бұрын
Thank you bebe
@eggxecution6 ай бұрын
brilliant
@bks13 Жыл бұрын
I love that voice note tidbit! Duly noted MJ!
@MJHarrisSpeaks Жыл бұрын
it works so well!
@WowDaniX6 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this message. I cut a 😅gym associate off. They were TOXIC. MJ your message was on point. You described the toxic person to the tee.
@LisaSmith-sc7by Жыл бұрын
you just blessed my soul. thank you
@f.maria7835 Жыл бұрын
Mamita let me tell you something, your skin is so flawless, your gorgeous, I love u so much
@mariahflowers9009 Жыл бұрын
This Is Right on Time
@ethhangs8 ай бұрын
Dang, underrated channel, +1 sub my man, thanks
@MartinaSands-dv5cg Жыл бұрын
Please help me out MJ is true what you saying I believe in God I have love in my heart🙏♥️.
@rubiaramirez7871 Жыл бұрын
Shared
@bloomgan55199 ай бұрын
Heavy on flip the narrative
@vanessaa.chisley362 Жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊 I needed to hear that
@kantamehan71129 ай бұрын
The best best video on this topic you are amazing
@Brightestlightt Жыл бұрын
Perfect timing
@user-pi7rr6re5z9 ай бұрын
Great advice !! Well said !! ❤ your work !!
@pengini9339 ай бұрын
Thank you!!!!!! Great advice
@HealthyLifestyle689 ай бұрын
Thank you great explaination
@thymetastedwithsnehal93487 ай бұрын
Omg! Spot on.
@lisasmith4835 Жыл бұрын
Goodafternoon MJ Thamk You for This Video everything you said is 💯 ❤
@jonygspot10 ай бұрын
Excellent points made in this vid 👏
@MrsPetal Жыл бұрын
In today society you tell people you don’t like certain aspects of themselves and they say screw you and then karma bites them in the ass and still nothing changes. Change comes from within not when some busy body pointing out your flaws and faults.
@topandtale8 ай бұрын
Well said
@iartfam7 ай бұрын
Thanks Mj! 😘 new subscriber! I love your vibe
@falishatucker3486 Жыл бұрын
I’m so exhausted by attracting these narcissistic men
@wifey8752 Жыл бұрын
how to deal with them? YOU DON'T!!! lol Leave
@ilenefuller1319 Жыл бұрын
Where have been all my life❤
@tamarabitter28773 ай бұрын
Well I don't like people like that and what I don't like is when they say your being rude when there the ones that are rude and not nice I wish I can call them out to also to make them feel small to but if I do that then it will come back to me but I'm talking about bullies
@Corri.dr.K Жыл бұрын
Love the outfit, are you coming out with a new clothing line? Is so please include plus sizes. Appreciate the information. Thank you. Love you.
@laken1804 Жыл бұрын
Great tips.
@happinessibe33187 ай бұрын
I had some friends both men and women believe me, when I fully decided to cut off from them am happier now
@jensteroneR Жыл бұрын
That outfit is beautiful ❤
@zaviervereen73594 ай бұрын
I can't stand toxic people around me at all cause they really irritates me a whole lot like I'm about to retaliate on them if they say anything out the way or look at me wrong