How To Defeat Your Self Doubt - Lewis Howes

[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you beauties. Access all episodes 10 hours earlier than KZbin by Subscribing on Spotify - spoti.fi/2LSimPn. Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:37 What People Misunderstand about Greatness 06:23 Learning Positivity from an Injured Veteran 10:30 How to Find Your Personal Mission 21:10 Discovering the Source of Your Self-Doubt 33:38 Turn Fear of Failure into Action 40:38 The Balance Between Feeling Enough & Staying Hungry 43:57 The Need for a Strong Support Network 1:00:03 Powerless Mindset Vs Greatness Mindset 1:08:18 Finding The Thing that Fuels You 1:18:36 Practical Tips to Build a Greatness Mindset 1:21:20 Where to Find Lewis

[@L.I.T.H.I.U.M]

Chris, you've never invited any cricketer on you podcast even when you've a deep history with the sport. Plus, a cricketer is views guaranteed especially from the subcontinent. Just contact Ben Stokes or Jos Buttler, I'm sure they know you. One from the subcontinent would be more interesting.

[@luwado]

Nice work, Chris. It would also be interesting if you got an intactivist on the show to talk about circumcision.

[@JoachimMoeller]

@@luwado Yup, and if so, I'll just highlight Morten Frisch, MD, seen on KZbin, courtesy of IntactAmerica: "Circumcision & Sexual Function Difficulties by Dr. Morten Frisch, MD" (8m14s) & his own (name) channel; "2014-10-22 Morten Frisch presentation at Christiansborg hearing on circumcision of boys" (7m15s). He did this study: "Male circumcision and sexual function in men and women: a survey-based, cross-sectional study in Denmark" (published in International Journal of Epidemiology in 2011. Sexasnatureintendedit website is also more than worth a look.

[@luwado]

@@JoachimMoeller Thanks man

[@MarkProdger13]

"Greatness is a we game, and success is a me game"

[@NilanMihindukulasooriya]

Amazing thank you for sharing this man. Anymore content that explore this further?

[@Staroy]

This episode put my struggles way better into context than any therapist could ever have done. Thank you for doing what you do

[@willusmaximus6985]

Probably the most inspiring show yet.

[@jasantosa]

Lewis Howes is such a BEAUTIFUL person. You can see it in his eyes - the humility, the understanding of people, how down to earth he is. Such a great interview.

[@adammeyer7498]

Holy fuck. Thanks you guys. Lewis's openness and honesty regarding his bouts of anger, depression, and negative self-talk was exactly what I needed to hear right now. Keep up the awesome work!

[@kiara4345]

As a teen who is just starting to get out there in the world, this is such valuable content to listen to. Really appreciate it. Did not know this guy Lewis, might as well check his books out too. But yeah, just wanted to say that you, Lex, Andrew H, Jordan P, add so much value to my life. Really grateful here.

[@user-og6hl6lv7p]

My advice: find something that you are good at doing and you don't mind doing it everyday. That is the kind of job you should seek out. Chasing your true passion is important, but putting all of your eggs in one basket is foolish. You need to find the right balance between work and pursuing passion. Too much of either will cause burn out. This is a much more realistic approach to achieving your goals. It's okay to have a desire to follow your fantasies, just know that they can be deceiving. Much luck to you.

[@kiara4345]

@@user-og6hl6lv7p Thanks for the advice man

[@austyn5004]

Teens nowadays have sooooo many resources on how to get ahead early in life because of social media and the internet. The flip side, teens nowadays have such a hard time getting ahead because of social media and the internet.

[@austyn5004]

@@user-og6hl6lv7p I just watched a 40 min video about defining passion and how to cultivate it on channel called “Healthy Gamer”. Don’t feel like you need to find it right out of the gate. It takes time to figure out WHO you are and what your strengths are. I’m 32 and have been working since I was 15. I just figured this out in the last 6 months. Take your time and enjoy the ride.

[@simmojb]

If you are taking your cues from those you listed, you are on the right track.

[@RYXPfan]

You can feel the positivity coming from Lewis. I’ve heard him interview others many times and it’s really cool to hear him being the one interviewed

[@malsypright]

This really helped me take a step back and reevaluate everything. I struggled a lot with doubt and self-confidence for a while, and I think a major contributing factor was the fact that I moved around a lot between schools and jobs, for years I was rarely in the same job for more than 4 months and I was shifting back and forth between towns. Thus I was always the new guy. I was always out of the loop, an outsider entering into an established clique, someone who needed mentorship, and that contributed to me seeing myself as incompetent and socially inept. My failures were inevitable, my successes were just me getting lucky, etc. Doesn't help that I'm a perfectionist, and I'm realizing I should unlearn that at least a little. But I'm someone who never truly did quit, and someone who put in hard work, and has continually improved his station in life, and has plans for the future. Would a useless moron have achieved everything I have? I don't think so.

[@dirivial_]

I rarely comment, but I want to say that I really like this episode. Feels like I really needed to hear this right now as I am soon done with uni and I'm kind of unsure of what's going to happen in my next season. Thank you Chris.

[@ix1481]

“The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.” Marcus Aurelius.

[@redboy8883]

Need more talks like this. Time are tough. Not just for ourselves but those around us. Reminds me to be stronger. For myself and those around me

[@gordoncameraon]

Yeah, this one's great. I've literally just taken Peterson's advice of 'focus on one thing and give it your all' and I've never felt clearer. Still have those down days but I'm still productive because I know sitting and wallowing will make it all far worse. This was a brilliant listen, sure a lot of people can learn from or relate with it

[@DouglasAlford_FS_Films]

Words cannot express how helpful and awesome it is to see two men’s words and thoughts I highly respect having this discussion. Every time I watch Lewis Howell talk it seems like it is at a moment in my life I needed to hear the words.

[@nomadic_orthodox]

Dream-combo 💚 two of my most favorite channels.

[@olamide2009]

Lewis Howes is a greater speaker and he is very relatable and authentic 👍

[@nurrnena7798]

Your interviews are so on point - you get to the most important questions straight at the start. I can pick a random podcast of yours and it's always great, informative and precise. Seems that you really get to know the person's fundamental ideas before an interview and find some hard questions that really make them think, instead of letting them present ideas they already know.

[@hhumh6911]

Some strong Pisces energy here 😄 I think Lewis's chemistry with you is better than with any other one of his guests!

[@TheHealingPlace-j2o]

Loved every second. I can't wait to have yall on my podcast that will launch soon! Keep up the amazing work!

[@francisbikandy5788]

thank you Chris and Lewis wisdom and greatness fusion out here!

[@HeyyyitsBell]

I really, really needed to hear this. Thank you both

[@Denmosocial]

This was inspiring af. Thanks boys

[@BookOfOrion]

This is exactly the episode I was looking for today. More great work!

[@MrShafdaddy]

Thank you so much for doing this podcast. This couldn't have come at a better time as I was feeling insane lvls of self doubt and just being direction less.

[@DirtyMike124x]

"Just look around and have fun." Thanks. Im existentially 100% better forever now. Literally the smartest most wisest and most kindest people I've ever known and will ever know.

[@Nah-ah]

I couldn’t click fast enough! Love Lewis, been following his content for 7 yrs now 🧡

[@heatherk569]

I love both of these guys!! So much!

[@badian37]

Great Show! Really hits home in my personal journey in this life!

[@ignoranceisstrengthpodcast3294]

Same!

[@SirGalaEd]

I am screaming inside! ME! ME! I am the person you're talking about. Overwhelming evidence of competence, but constantly trash talking myself. How do I change!? Ok, so let's mix Goggins and Howes. I can record all my negative self talking ( my hater if you will) then make a mix tape like Goggins does of His haters. Use that to inspire my own movement forward. Brilliant!

[@areki3852]

I wouldn't rid the world of self-doubt completely. A lot of it is unnecessary and unhelpful, but self-doubt is not wholly useless.

[@DirtyMike124x]

You got that right.

[@bensherman2499]

Thank u for the podcast.. i really needed this! Also.. realised that chris and lewis have matching outfits lol

[@natalia_00123]

I love the intro. Two men who are secure in their masculinity. 🙏

[@Surge_prod]

This is one of the best episodes so far. Thanks!

[@bschultz44]

Couldn’t have listened to this at a better time. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@jl9205]

This is a great interview! I am nearly 60 and I'm definitely hearing some things that I can apply to my life. Also, my youngest daughter is in a transitional period, where she's trying to find fulfilling work. I'm going to share this video with her. I think it's what she needs to hear at this moment in her life. Awesome positive advice here for making life more rewarding and meaningful.

[@justincooper142]

I really felt him on being passionate but not knowing what to put that passion into

[@andrewking8123]

For me from about 25 minutes into this are some particularly great tools to use!

[@lemmybongo8611]

Such a brilliant interview and discussion. A lot of insights that will take a while to process. Thanks guys!

[@lemmybongo8611]

Edit: learning that I was responsible for my reaction to a traumatic event, and not the person who caused it, was extremely hard but essential for my own growth. At first it was depressing as hell - the realisation that it was all on me now and that blaming that person was not going to cut it any more. A great life lesson!

[@debe9114]

Thank you so much for this podcast!!!

[@rubyelfcup9685]

What a great surprise!

[@mattanderson6672]

Brilliant interview Love you both

[@ET_LWO]

This episode has some replay value

[@VertexCarver]

Love both channels. I just really, really hate the word "healing" as a concept for a resilient mindset or well adjusted expectations. I'd be the first to admit that I'm a very imperfect soul but I'm not an incomplete or damaged one. However, I do wholeheartedly agree to the point of intentionally developing your character by performance in the "now". Edit: Semantics I guess. Fantastic ep!

[@mentalidaddeimpacto2110]

@lewishowes Man!!! So so TRUE all of the salsa social dance...I dance for 10 yrs now and happened to me the same stuff as you! @chriswilliamson thank both of you for such an AMAZING episode ⚡⚡⚡. GRETTINGS FROM ARGENTINA 🇦🇷

[@komoru]

Lewis has interviewed so many successfull people. He's like a modern day version Napoleon Hill, so when he speaks, listen and take notes!

[@CJWolf-st1qi]

So good boys, thanks!

[@wilbeugre]

I needed this! Thanks a lot!

[@rileybrownai]

lewis is the goat

[@luwado]

Nice work, Chris. It would also be interesting if you got an intactivist on the show to talk about circumcision.

[@Rakyr]

The thing is I 100% agree, failing and learning is important, but now because we end up locked in with a family/morghage and a job with a boss watching our every move, it feels harder than ever to fail and learn because you are walking a tight rope. You almost have to be fearless with little to lose in order to be willing to fail as many times as it takes to succeed. 1stman talks about the male advantage where you go solo without trying to settle down with a wife/kids until your late thirties/early forties. That way you give yourself more time to figure it out.

[@eomoran]

The willing to fail is about losing your insecurity, confidence isn’t something you gain, it’s something that gets overwritten by insecurities you learn over your life

[@mgoldberg1234]

Hey there Chris. Nice bumping into you at the golf course. Enjoy Miami mate!

[@CloudyNebula]

Great episode as usual, Chris! Keep it going, you're killing it lately. If you're up to a suggestion, I'd like to see a bit of content discussing the carnivore diet (the one the Peterson's do) with a professional, at least to showcase the pros and cons, and to just have someone in your podcast that counters the overall medical narrative around nutrition and the history of the current guidelines. A couple of great options could be Dr. Paul Saladino (@CarnivoreMD) and Dr. Ken Berry (@KenDBerryMD), or others such as Dr. Rachel Brown. Hope you find this topic a valid and compelling one for your content! I am a patient with an autoimmune condition (ankylosing spondylitis) and this diet pathway absolutely turned my health upside down, in the best possible sense, so I really am an advocate for it.

[@marcosromo7640]

I think depending on how we were raised, culture, experience, etc. it’s hard to balance self doubt with not thinking too much of ourselves. Some just get all criticism never feel like enough

[@somethingclever8916]

This was very helpful

[@johnkeane2786]

@16:50 Chris literally going through all my experiences as examples 😅

[@Pet123fly]

Thank you so much for this conversation, I really resonated with his message. I feel like it combines the approaches of "just do it" and "just believe in yourself", both having merrit but the first missing the menal componnent of the second and the second missing the action of the first.

[@gratuitousfootnote1183]

I so wish I could have accessed and benefited from conversations like this growing up as a man with little to no guidance. Can i make up for lost time in my late 30's? Let's find out...

[@gialamhuynh5448]

So cool. Thanks.

[@luminousconfetti2674]

Love Chris

[@lennard5393]

Hey man we need self doubt so we can have winners and losers 😉

[@StarsServent]

Good episode, some will greatly benefit from this. I Wont do anything with the info to better my life cuz I'm a coward.

[@champboehm7863]

Thanks for this one.

[@MeaningSeekerPod]

Profound. 👏👏👏👏

[@renjithomas8088]

Great episode

[@lastskywalker2481]

What do you do, if you have no real interests? No problems, that haven't been covered a thousand times, to solve?

[@riquipoo5578]

Starting to think the alpha male success story is just a t-shirt away 🤔 😂😂😂

[@natereal1484]

And a necklace

[@ninobecirevic7135]

I'm too internally arrogant to doubt myself.

[@L.I.T.H.I.U.M]

Chris, you've never invited any cricketer on you podcast even when you've a deep history with the sport. Plus, a cricketer is views guaranteed especially from the subcontinent. Just contact Ben Stokes or Jos Buttler, I'm sure they know you. One from the subcontinent would be more interesting.

[@olivalucia9666]

Chris, I know that you keep saying that fatherhood is not yet on your current agenda. I disagree; I've gone back over your Q&A's and the change in you in the last year is phenomenal. Find the girl and make babies; you'll grow even more.

[@alelectric2767]

This interview or whatever sounds more like an Amway sales pitch. Had play arena football. Oh no poor baby.

[@saul1629]

Let’s go

[@anshsingh5640]

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[@xx_carnage160_xx9]

What book is the book he wishes he had?

[@willusmaximus6985]

Learn how to juggle. It's fun and can make you money while travelling. Beware though, many won't tip you due to being glued on their smart phones or they're envious and jealous of you, and/or they only use cards.

[@juliannetalbot7015]

Who wore it best? haha

[@SirGalaEd]

Is it self doubt or self loathing when if you make the smallest mistake, even on that others are NOT even inconvenienced by, but you still spend hours telling yourself that you suck and are useless? Serious question. I hope there answer is herein. 🙏

[@NicholasPR]

Yes

[@elmarwolters2751]

Men, we are still on this journey to being amazing , grand , special, extrem, so strong , huge biceps, successful , wealthy and of course WHITE ........ the same old same old narratives of ...... this is where I was at the bottom of the ranks .... and look at me now , the Superman that I have become . Where is the space in this world for the ordinary , the everyday, those of us with self-doubt , with a social environment of discrimination and structural inequality ...... ? Are we still peddling this story that everybody can be a winner , things will get better , progress is the name of the game ? Yes , lets be hopeful but this self-congratulatory chatting about the things to do .... I have some real issues with that . We live in a very complex world , guys.

[@Jnvlv247]

The whole self help and mindset/motivation and be better thing is a big money maker these days. It's all over social media. I don't get it. It's boring. It's just people talking about life lessons you should know by the age of 30 or so. It's always wrapped in a pseudointellectual ribbon but it's barely thought provoking or deep. I don't claim to be an expert or someone with all the answers but I found nothing of what they said to super shocking or life changing

[@juhel5531]

The world HAS screwed you over. The collective leadership of the world has determined the calculus of risk and they've decided whether actively or passively that you are an acceptable loss. Your trauma, the wrongs you have endured, the injustice there is in the world etc. was deemed "acceptable losses" and the people that have deemed your pain "acceptable" will never be held accountable for it. This is why you need to hold onto the pain, squeeze the collective peoples of humanity and get your just recompense. Work as hard as it takes to compensate yourself for all the injustices the world has given you. Work extra because the world will fight you for every inch and you deserve to give yourself every bit of interest for the effort that you should never have had to exert. Work hard until you set the balance books right. Every single wrong paid back to yourself achieved, then and only then can you rest. You owe it to no one else but yourself. Is that a toxic mindset?

[@shapeshiftingpanda]

A whole industry of bullshitters. Sad reflection on society that these “life coaches” are able to make a living

[@DirtyMike124x]

That opening line made me be like "Oh God. More grifting to the poor aimless youths without decent dads who somehow haven't already heard this shit ten times over." Im being a bit hyperbolic but only so much so.

[@cappedvillain2522]

A lot of life coaches these days

[@heywoodjablohmei5324]

Necklace party. Wut.

[@heywoodjablohmei5324]

@Chris__Williamson gargles balls

[@Brochacho619]

Oh no. Not this goober.

[@DirtyMike124x]

I'm more depressed after listening to this guy than I have been in awhile lmao. The most vapid guest I can think of Chris having that I've seen. I want to see SOMETHING that justifies this man's public existence outside of another personality cult breeding petri dish.

[@artwha0]

Love Chris. This Lewis guy, however, says a whole lot of nothing

[@anshsingh5640]

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