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“My husband isn’t a spiritual leader,” is one of the most common complaints I hear; therefore, how to encourage your husband to lead spiritually is one of the most common topics I teach. Watch this video for suggestions and for godly words of encouragement for your husband.
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Here are the recommendations I’d give a wife whose husband won’t lead…
1. If your husband won’t lead, keep reminding him.
I’ll be the first to say that as husbands we can be oblivious and forgetful at times. God has called you to be your husband’s helper, and this is one of the best ways for you to fulfill that role. The obvious danger is that your reminders turn in to nagging. The woman who sent me the above question said she makes an effort to prevent that from happening. That’s wonderful!
2. If your husband won’t lead, keep inviting him.
Ask him to lead and let him know how much you would appreciate it if he would pray with you, read the Word with you, work on the questions with you, etc. If he accepts your invitation, make sure you let him know how much you appreciate him doing so.
3. If your husband won’t lead, accountability and/or a mentor could help.
I haven’t met any husbands who say they want to be bad spiritual leaders. Although, I have met many men who say they want to be godly spiritual leaders…but they don’t know how. I believe them! Your husband might be in this category. Maybe he could benefit from another man’s example or accountability. Is there a man in your church (perhaps an elder?) or in your lives who is strong in this area and could come alongside your husband to help him grow in this area?
Brief note to any husbands reading this: when husbands tell me, “I don’t know if I can read the Word with my family!” My response is, “If you can read, you can read the Word with your family.”
4. If your husband won’t lead, keep praying for him.
I say “keep,” because I’m sure you’re already praying for him. Luke 18:1 says:
[Jesus] told them a parable to the effect that they ought always to pray and not lose heart.
It’s easy to become discouraged while praying. Don’t lose heart! Keep praying! One of the benefits of praying is even if God doesn’t answer your specific prayer and make your husband the spiritual giant you want him to be, He will give you the grace you need to endure the situation you’re in. When we pray, sometimes God answers our prayers. Other times He simply gives us the strength to handle the situation without Him answering the way we want.
5. If your husband won’t lead, keep 1 Peter 3:1-2 in mind.
Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
God says your behavior will win over your husband. Make sure you’re reading the Word, praying, and doing Bible studies with your children. Rare is the man who will not be convicted if he is not doing these things, but he sees his wife doing them! Jesus said, “[The Holy Spirit] will convict the world concerning sin and righteousness and judgment” (John 16:8b). Let the Holy Spirit rebuke your husband that his wife has to carry much of the load that belongs to him.