How To *finally* Spot a LIAR For Good

How To finally Spot a LIAR For Good

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Frederique Bros

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@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for watching & subscribing xxx Would you like a future video about Narcissist people?

@nillehessy 4 ай бұрын

what´s the point under the surface no matter true or false most people still wanna be a winner (of a by an external entitiy layed-on perception of a winner) and be part of a winners group (presemted in multi faceted and layered ways by the external entitiy projections)

@jessicatadlock809 4 ай бұрын

I would like that.

@deirdrewalsh1134 4 ай бұрын

Yes, I really enjoy all your videos, except for the bermuda shorts one, never could wear shorts.

@MsActor2009 4 ай бұрын

Not worried about narcissistic people anymore. I’m nice, but I’m not a pushover. I’m fun, but I’m not naive. I like meeting new people, but I’m not desperate because I’m also surrounded by kind and intelligent people. I have standards and boundaries!

@bumblebee_ms 5 ай бұрын

The best thing I learnt many years ago was to spot the Micro-Expression on liars. You can't miss it once you see it.

@MsActor2009 5 ай бұрын

Yeah, usually if you know someone well, you know their body language too, so you know when something is off!

@flower-ss2jt 5 ай бұрын

Excellent topic. You did not cover 'women lying to women' - when my husband died unexpectedly a woman really helped me, and as I was such a wreck she convinced me to get professional help. 4 years later I had benefitted so much from that professional help. I had a great job with an important input into the company and was financially secure. This woman who had helped me began getting verbally aggressive to me, several years later she started to belittle everything I did. I did challenge her attitude and was laughed at. For the last 20 years her arrogance and belittling of me has got so bad that in Jane 2024 I told her I no longer felt able to continue being her friend unless she altered the way she constantly attempted to undermine me. Never heard from her since. As we had been friends for 40 years I dread to think of what she is saying to people we both know.

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing - and sorry for your experience

@janiebratt8826 5 ай бұрын

Yes, my girlfriend of 20 years turned out to be a real user....I just thought that we were close until she wanted me to chose between her and my husband.

@flower-ss2jt 5 ай бұрын

@@janiebratt8826 That is terrible. It was so distressing to me when a girlfriend I trusted just turned on me, as it must have been when it happened to you. It seems there are alot more destructive people around that i thought.

@janiebratt8826 5 ай бұрын

@@flower-ss2jt One thing that I have found odd; I would never take advantage of another person even if given the chance. Yet, it seems that some people prey on anyone that they can get the edge on. There truly is two types of people in the world.

@flower-ss2jt 5 ай бұрын

@@janiebratt8826 It is sad when you trust someone to find that the reason they became your 'friend' is because they saw you as 'their victim'. One thing I have learnt is that you cannot be a victim unless you allow yourself to be a victim. It's not about 'fighting back', but just not allowing the person to demoralise you. Take care.

@dianamayfield5615 18 күн бұрын

I was raised by a narcissist and found that I somehow attracted them. A relationship with one is a lie. They know no other way. The biggest lie is when they say they love you, but make you feel that you really don't deserve it. It took me many years to finally understand this, learned to spot them, and recognize how dangerous this is to me. After more than 40 years, I finally recognized that my BEST FRIEND was also a narcissist who always made me feel inferior. I had chased that friendship most of my life when one day I saw it for what it was. It was very difficult to end that relationship, but it is a relief now that it is over. I now realize I am much happier and no longer putting myself down. Thank you for this video. I am so sorry that you were hurt by a lying narcissist, but glad that you were able to share it with us. Take care of yourself.

@ms.frederique 16 күн бұрын

thank you for sharing - a lot of healing and maturity helps x

@bradleys30605 5 ай бұрын

I finally figured out that a friend of more than 30 years was actually a narcissist. After reading "It's Not You," so many things that had bothered me over the years, now made sense. I sent the book to the eldest child of my friend and I hope it helps them come to grips with their life as the child of a narcissist. It's not you and the narcissist will never change.

@flower-ss2jt 5 ай бұрын

The same has happened to me. A behaviour of a friend of 40 years became so intolerable that I can no longer accept friendship on her terms - which is basically me being a doormat for her to kick. I will try and get the book you recommend.

@valeriee8579 5 ай бұрын

This book is really good. It lifts off the guilt one should never feels around a narcissist in their close circle.

@flower-ss2jt 5 ай бұрын

@@valeriee8579 I will have to get it, I do not feel guilt, more like anger at myself for not having the guts to tell her 30 yrs ago that her behaviour was cruel and manipulative. Must get the book.

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

yes this book opened my eyes for things I didn't understand for years! a life changer

@janiebratt8826 5 ай бұрын

I was married to a narcissist for 26 years and he would rather lie than tell the truth.

@babycakes1402 5 ай бұрын

Fidgeting isn't always a sign of lying, that one could also show that the person isn't completely comfortable, & some people with autism often fidget, the rest are pretty spot on & yes, I trust my gut.

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

true it's one of a sign between so many

@babycakes1402 5 ай бұрын

@@ms.frederique The rest though were pretty spot on :)

@etakarinae248 4 ай бұрын

Fidgeting can also come from too much caffeine

@lu_re7198 Ай бұрын

@etakarinae248. Yes! Caffeine does this a to me. Love a cup of coffee in the morning. ☕️ 😆

@paulaloew3889 3 ай бұрын

"I'm trying to lift my eyebrow... I cannot" 😅😅😅 you're the best!!!!!

@Janeloriginale 4 ай бұрын

Ils peuvent être pervers/ toxiques envers certaines personnes et pas d’autres. Les aborder avec une force intérieure : ils deviennent presque inoffensifs. Personne ne peut nous blesser sans notre consentement. Merci pour vos vidéo Frédérique !

@michelekurlan2580 5 ай бұрын

Blinking rapidly is an indicator, too. Esp after they lie. These behaviours apply to non romantic associations as well.

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

@DonatellaFtGreene 5 ай бұрын

I had a shattering experience with someone who fits the description of the kind of person you described. It is a long story, too long for here, but he was an amazing liar. What I saw first, though, was a handsome, articulate, charming, intelligent man trying very hard to win me over. And he did. But he turned out to be an incredible storyteller - so many lies about himself. Dr. Ramani's videos and books actually helped me a lot to heal from this experience because you can spend a lot of time angry and embarrassed for being taken in. I, too, learned that I would never ignore the alarm bells going off with people again.

@ms.frederique 4 ай бұрын

thank you for sharing x take care it gets better

@DonatellaFtGreene 4 ай бұрын

@@ms.frederique ❤️

@vtcs1963 5 ай бұрын

Cute haircut Frederique! There’s a problem with trusting intuition that a lot of people (especially women) don’t know about. Some of us are so low on self-love that we intuit a dangerous situation but we ignore our gut because we might not be “nice” or we might be “thinking too highly of ourselves.” One of the most important things is to love ourselves enough to trust our intuition and act on it.

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

Thanks xxx

@lovedandabundant6384 5 ай бұрын

Dr Ramani is excellent isn’t she? Thanks for this- I hope you’re okay 💜

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

she is the best! I'm getting better thank for asking xxx

@lolachlih3136 5 ай бұрын

Great topic Frederique i was with a narcissist for 8 years what a hard lesson that was for me I've learned to use my intuition more ❤

@janiebratt8826 5 ай бұрын

I was with one for 26 years, developed a stuttering problem with all of his 'corrections' of me and he emptied the bank accounts on his way out. Small price to pay to be rid of him.

@lolachlih3136 5 ай бұрын

@@janiebratt8826 I’m so sorry you had to go through this it’s hard dealing with a narcissist they’re so evil. I’m glad you were able to get away!

@ms.frederique 4 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

@Jasmine_breeze 5 ай бұрын

You have no idea how glad I am that you found Dr. Ramani and her book when it was needed 😊❤🙏She also has a great youtube channel and there are podcasts of her available if you listen. This wonderful woman changed my life! This is a huge power when a person realizes that "it's not me..." It's not me who is problematic, bad, too honest and trying too hard etc. but... But, my taste is distorted by difficult life experiences, e.g. from childhood , from trauma or, simply, having a lot of compassion has made you, like me, a magnet for narcissists. Narcissistic people prey on the best of us: people - sensitive, compassionate and willing to help. They exploit them and, on top of that, destroy them psychologically and often financially. I know this experience and how difficult it is. Good that you found a source of a problem and support. It's great that you share your experience and want to help others. It's not just narcissists who come back. The good also returns, multiplied. I really like your channel and I'm grateful for being here 😊❤

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

I watched a tons of her videos and she helped me to understand the 'bad people in my life' thanks for sharing

@tamikaleeryker 4 ай бұрын

Profound.

@Jasmine_breeze 4 ай бұрын

@@ms.frederique I'm so glad that you were able to help yourself.. I was stuck for many years, but I already feel relieved because I stopped blaming myself for the bad behavior of others. It's hard to believe, but I felt guilty when someone treated me badly.. As if I was the mother of the universe responsible for all the children. Narcissistic people have zero sense of responsibility for what they do to others. Their victims - on the contrary, may feel guilty for everything.. It's a huge relief to know that it's not me and everything is fine with me. Once you look at it, there is no turning back and you will not be manipulated any further. Knowledge is power and freedom 😊❤▶️

@paulabowman3320 2 ай бұрын

Oh yes, Dr. Ramani. She has many KZbin videos on narcissism. She is excellent in explaining this personality disorder.

@Gigi-qm2oy 5 ай бұрын

I, after attending therapy, Realized that the person whom I thought was my “Best friend “ was actually a Covert Narcissistic who had been taking advantage of me my whole life! Thanks to God, I realized the reality and was able to break a lifetime of ties x

@MsActor2009 5 ай бұрын

Learning someone is a narcissist is a big growing up experience - but it makes you wiser about the world.

@maddscientist3170 4 ай бұрын

narcissism is hard to read in another person whether they are male or female UNLESS you have had an experience with that & are educated in that type of behavior

@elizabethpace1591 5 ай бұрын

Unfortunately, there are too many narcissists in this world. This is a very interesting topic. If something doesn’t feel right then we need to address it. We should always follow our instincts.

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

100%

@tamikaleeryker 4 ай бұрын

We are told to love ourselves and be good to ourselves. It makes us question our own selves, but it's NOT us. I can feel it to the core. I have been friends with two top narcissists. I think my narcissist friend was having an affair with my husband and later, when I left him, with my narcissist bf. I got all three of them out of my life; however, I don't believe in just cutting ppl out of our lives if they occasionally hurt our feelings.

@elizabethpace1591 4 ай бұрын

I am sorry that they did this to you and wish you well.

@stoicepictetus833 5 ай бұрын

If someone's trying to convince you of a lie, they tend to keep their eyes fixed on you with their eyebrows raised to keep an eye on your reactions. Got this tip from The Behaviour Panel - FBI experts on Body Language. 😘

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

I will heck the book thanks for sharing x

@tamikaleeryker 4 ай бұрын

I do this out of habit. I hope ppl don't think I'm lying.

@SandyCheeks63564 5 ай бұрын

I don't realize at first, but later it comes to me maybe the next morning, just pops into my head, how certain things don't make sense about what people said. Or the reason for the subtle manipulation. Like why someone is going on and on about a really uninteresting topic.

@MsActor2009 5 ай бұрын

Usually it’s delayed. Our intuition is first and our mind realizes later what exactly is off!

@ivanamartignoni9697 5 ай бұрын

you're making more and more useful videos, congratulations! I have very high sensitivity and emotional intelligence, fortunately for me. I recognized each of the little clues you pointed out. Thanks Frederique

@immortalasthestars 5 ай бұрын

Really enjoyed this topic. Would you consider doing a follow-up video on what to do when you know someone is lying? For example, when/how to call them out or not? what to do when it is your boss or a client who is lying?

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

its' a great idea

@MsActor2009 5 ай бұрын

Best to say something diplomatic like “that different to what I remember”. When you front someone about their lies they will usually deny deny deny…

@IRC1026 5 ай бұрын

@@ms.frederique Dr. Ramani has a video specifically about NARCISSISTS who lie - which is different from "regular" liars. Her video is called: When YOU call out a narcissist for lying

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

@@IRC1026 thanks for sharing

@janiebratt8826 5 ай бұрын

There is a saying, 'you can never make a dishonest man, honest and you can never make an honest man, dishonest. I know there are some good guys out there, somewhere.

@MsActor2009 5 ай бұрын

Frédérique, I hope you found out after a few months, not several years later.

@ms.frederique 4 ай бұрын

Yes I did

@annettemurielle 5 ай бұрын

Very useful information, Frederique. Thank you so much for sharing it with us.

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

thank you lovely xxx

@annettemurielle 5 ай бұрын

@@ms.frederique You're welcome. 🙂

@mariacernov9172 5 ай бұрын

Dear Frédérique, thank you so much for this video and the points to be especially attentive to😉. Human relationships are so difficult sometimes that I start appreciating my me-time more with every year...💃🏻😄😘 Have a beautiful week ahead! ❤❤❤

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

My pleasure!

@barbararowan8738 5 ай бұрын

Thank you.I will use your idea's 😊

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

You're welcome 😊

@dajla_teamYah 5 ай бұрын

Yes I can concurr...It's crazy. Nothing we can do or say can fix it. Merci pour ces videos lady!! From a former New York girl :)

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

@elenalevchenko3275 5 ай бұрын

This can be a book, Frédérique!❤ love this video of yours as it is so true !

@ms.frederique 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@soultraveler1111 5 ай бұрын

What a great topic thank you for sharing. Oh, I had so many stories that I learned to listen to my body and voice in my meditation routine and also signs from the universe such as if things don't flow naturally too many delays and changes, and canceling things that prevent me from doing things in that time I get upset but later on I understand clear that it was guided by the universe and it's for better. Frederique life is ongoing learning and each experience teaches or elevates our personality to the next level it's up to us to stop and absorb and get wiser. Thank you 😘

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

thank you so much xxxx

@audreyso1201 5 ай бұрын

Toujours de bons sujets Frédérique. Bonne fin de journée

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

merci Audrey bonne journee x

@etherealenigma2008 4 ай бұрын

Frederique, I just found you and am loving your content-- all of it. The fashion is great and even though I've been a fan of Dr. Ramani for years. She also has a channel on KZbin. Hearing your story was sad but, common these days, it seems. Glad you found Dr, Ramani. Thanks so much for all the videos, I know it's hard work, but I'm watching all our older ones now and loving them. You're such a elegant and eloquent woman!

@ms.frederique 4 ай бұрын

Wow, thank you!

@tracifin1 5 ай бұрын

You look so stunning Frederic 🥰 And great video thanks.

@ms.frederique 4 ай бұрын

Thanks so much!

@janetstraw191 5 ай бұрын

Fantastic info, Frederique! Thank you‼️👍👏👏👏🙋‍♀️🇺🇸🥰‼️

@ms.frederique 4 ай бұрын

My pleasure!

@pebblem4612 5 ай бұрын

Love your channel! Your topic so valid ❤

@ms.frederique 4 ай бұрын

Thank you so much!

@deirdrewalsh1134 4 ай бұрын

I don’t think I will ever get the hang of picking when someone is being insincere. I trust everyone unfortunately. I have tried and tried but never pick it. I wish it were otherwise, but… 🇦🇺💕

@tamikaleeryker 4 ай бұрын

If they do it to us, do they do it to others too?

@maddscientist3170 4 ай бұрын

@@tamikaleeryker OF COURSE they pick their victims...don't be a victim

@vkngwmn6636 5 ай бұрын

Dealing with so many narcissists can start making you into one...

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

I do not agree - I'm an empath since I'm a child and sadly attracting narcissistic people - you can do some test online to check :)

@MsActor2009 5 ай бұрын

Hi Freddy, I’ve heard narcissists do prey on kind, nice, people, but they love to prey on the naive and love starved. The naive and love starved become the best door mats for romance scammers, too.

@penneyburgess5431 5 ай бұрын

Thank you Frédérique!❤

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

thank you so much for being with me x

@FrancesStrange 4 ай бұрын

By the way, fabulous hair cut.

@thespeechlady 5 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

you are welcome xxx

@jessicatadlock809 4 ай бұрын

I love Dr. Romani❤

@elizabethlarrison8819 4 ай бұрын

One guy I dated always put his hand up to his forward and touched the center of his forehead when I asked certain questions. That was always a sign he was thinking of a lie. It was so obvious I wanted to laugh.

@ms.frederique 4 ай бұрын

lol

@MsActor2009 5 ай бұрын

With intuition, usually the body understands before the mind does. It takes the mind a little while longer to get what’s going on. Had an experience with a liar where every time she told the story the details would slightly change. Inconsistent stories are a big clue! Most people have told a lie at least once. You don’t need to be a NP to lie. Children do it to avoid getting into trouble, friends occasionally do it because they want to be liked. Sometimes people do it because they don’t want to tell something personal about themself. Usually, it’s best to say “that’s personal, I’m not telling you that”!

@ms.frederique 5 ай бұрын

100%

@hollyescandon8356 5 ай бұрын

Here's the thing with Narcs: they lie for sport, lie when they don't really have any reason to lie (like the reasons you listed out). Pretty sure that for them it's a way to feel superior and more in control of you or the situation, in general. And here's the kicker, they're really good liars because they BELIEVE every word of their lies. Get this, they will never, never, ever back down from their story, even if they are caught. Instead they'll 'word salad' their way through some nonsensical diatribe as they condescendingly smirk at you. Result? You leave, wondering "What the h__l did they just say??!??!!" I know... I'm trying to divorce from my 34 year marriage to a covert, passive aggressive narc.

@janiebratt8826 5 ай бұрын

Yeah, like half of a lifetime!