how to find your style + the confidence to wear what YOU want

Loaf and I are back for another video where I endlessly talk and she just... acts like herself (cute and sooooo baby-like)
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time stamps
0:00-1:14 intro
1:14-14:25 my style evolution
14:25-15:25 you don't HAVE to pick an aesthetic
15:25-16:56 how I found my style
16:56-19:01 ignore fashion trends
19:01-20:07 take inspo from media you like
20:07-21:00 finding my style contd.
21:00-22:38 stop over-thrifting/over-buying
22:38-24:55 you don't need a new outfit for every event
24:55- 26:24 the power of accessorizing is REAL
26:24-26:48 Loaf intermission 1
26:48-29:00 invest in good staples/basics
29:00-29:21 Loaf intermission 2
29:21-32:05 don't let "flattering" limit you
32:05-38:53 how I built my confidence
38:53-40:09 final words/outro
#personalstyle #confidence #plussizefashion

[@avevee9708]

The style journey is really a struggle 😭 but when you get there, it feels amazing

[@lovejessicablair]

it really does! very freeing + comforting

[@abigailw4599]

Makes me so happy to see yall say there is an end in sight, most of the time I'm worried and frustrated that it's just consumerism being pushed into my head making me feel never enough unless I buy different things as my tastes change somewhat dramatically every year, but the more I'm mindful and work on it the less it happens so this gives me hope it's worth it

[@veronicaperez9361]

I grew up in Miami and was bigger too! I remember wearing hoodies and jeans in the summer. Friends and family would ask me why I didn't wear summer clothes as if they didn't make horrible comments about fat people all the time. I'm much more confident now and your content has helped me a ton!!! Keep slaying the style game babes

[@lisa_wistfulone7957]

I’ve had weight changes throughout my life, and grew up where I was the “thin one” in a family of plus sized women who had ZERO self confidence and hid in their clothes. They had all experienced So Much random abuse from strangers and relatives throughout their lives…. It was difficult for me to understand style and confidence, and has been a lifelong journey. When I gained weight again post-menopause/Covid, I didn’t even realize that everything I thrifted for my new plus size was a “desperation purchase.” It was all baggy, bland, hide-me clothes! I was becoming invisible… So I changed that. In my mind, I’m honoring the women I loved by remembering to dress without fear, to express who I am regardless of weight (or age! I’m 55 now).

[@lovejessicablair]

the last part you wrote about honoring the women you’ve loved by dressing without fear is really beautiful, and I also want to adopt that mindset/thought when dressing and just existing in the world. sending you so much love 💗💗

[@mothwood7055]

i completely agree with what you said about not dressing to be 'flattering', i don't care if the things i like aren't 'suited' to me, i dress in what makes me happy, not what you think looks good on me

[@mothwood7055]

also what you said about faking it til you make it, i still don't have the best self esteem but ever since i switched from self-deprecating jokes to self-aggrandizing ones. sure, you might be joking when you say how great you are at whatever, but it's better than berating yourself all the time

[@mercygondwe2545]

this is such a great mindset to have omg tyyy🤍

[@annabeinglazy5580]

Also "flattering" means different Things for different people AND it Changes over time. I remember when lowrise Jeans were regarded as "flattering" and high rise Jeans as "making your Butt Look too big". Ankle Boots going from "unflattering" because the, allegedly Made your legs Look short to being unverisally cute. Eyebrows going from basically non existent to highly stylized Bars in your face. These days i dress mostly in Vintage and Retro clothes (mostly 40-60s, those wideleg trousers are sooo comfy for an office Job) because I think it's flattering. But i know plenty of people wouldnt Like the Long skirts because theyre "oldfashioned". I dont Care. I Like skirts that enable me to sit crosslegged in the Grass 😂

[@lz738]

When you talked about your weight loss due to grief, I totally related. I lost 80lbs after my divorce because of anxiety (I thought if I ate I would die) so I was really emotionally messed up, but everyone around me praised me and told me I looked amazing. It was so psycho and totally effed me up. No one (literally no one - family, friends, etc) could see that this weight loss was nothing to praise because it was only due to mental illness. It also made me realize how everyone thought I looked like crap before my weight loss, and only now was I attractive because I was smaller. I had to drop several friends because I realized their ideas about me were toxic.

[@bella-tt9hk]

omg this advice is so helpful! i appreciate your advice on overconsumption and over thrifting. overconsumption is so encouraged (both implicitly and explicitly), and I think a lot of fashion advice is just “buy more.” i really love your insight in fashion and i always love hearing what you have to say!

[@lovejessicablair]

overconsumption is definitely encouraged (thanks capitalism) but it’s sooo important to be mindful of what you’re buying + how much! ((also thank you so much for ur kind words :”) ))

[@ameliaberthold7375]

Totally relate to the negative weight loss and positive feedback. Recently lost a lot of weight due to severe illness and surgery, and all my family was saying I looked amazing, never looked better, I looked “so healthy” etc even tho they knew I lost weight because I was sick and I definitely was not healthy, and when I started to recover and could eat properly and gained some weight back all the compliments stopped. I’m glad I’m at a point where I feel good about myself regardless of what I get told about how I look, but if that had happened to me when I was a bit younger it would have crushed me

[@lovejessicablair]

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that! I’m glad that you’re at a good place in your life to deal with those comments + know better, though. sending you so much love 💗💞💕💗

[@ameliaberthold7375]

@@lovejessicablair ❤️❤️❤️

[@annabeinglazy5580]

Not a "fat" Girl but i experienced that stuff too a few years ago which was... Not fun. I have Body Image issues and HATE the Feeling to Not be in Control, so when i suddenly lost weight due to Stress (Turns out that really messes with me) and i mentioned it to a friend because it was legitimately scaring me, i got: "oh but it really suits you" My mum Made it worse by going how good i "now" looked. Which of course activated the tiny voice in my brain that told me that If i looked good "now" i must have looked Bad "before". Thanks brain. That was a few years ago. Last year sth similar happened. Had a horrible time and Stress and probably mental health shenanigans and lost a noticeable amount of weight. I havent even bothered telling my Family about my Life because the Last Thing i need is more positive Feedback to Something that is the result of a pretty shitty time in my Life.

[@annecyd2589]

The same happened to my dad. I had never thought about it :/. Thank you for talking about your experience. Also, it's so sad how different people treat you once you regain weight. It's crazy how much people associate thinness with being healthy.

[@sierramcwenie6700]

The same thing happened to me! It's so hard when people say you look good and healthy but you're the most unhealthy you've ever been :(

[@janetmaffy5375]

As someone who didn't allow myself to wear what I wanted to until my 50's, I really appreciate this video. I always let my husbands and mother tell me how old-fashioned my clothes were-I dress very retro now-and then i decided screw that, this is what I like and really suits my body type and I it's my body so deal. Now I get so many compliments and expressions of "I wish I had your confidence!" I feel good in my clothes and I wish I had let myself do so before! And now my partner appreciates ME and whatever I like he likes. I've even had my kids' friends tell me I'm always "on fleek" or so cool! My kids have taken on my confidence as well,or maybe they taught me. Also, WEAR WHAT YOU WANT AT THE GYM!!! Don't let the gym bunnies or elders pass judgment on what allows you to workout in what is comfortable.

[@PooBear423]

To my fellow fat people, ask yourself, do you hate yourself for being fat? Or, do you hate the way people treat you because you’re fat? That’s how i got my confidence. Also knowing that literally you’re gonna be ugly to someone because beauty is subjective and it depends on the person you ask. LOVE YOURSELF! LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!!!

[@mysharona6754]

I hated being fat and how it made me feel. I don't even mean I felt bad about myself for being fat or anything. I mean I was always hot. I was always uncomfortable. I couldn't do basic things like tie my shoes without holding my breath. My legs and back and feet hurt. I felt heavy and lethargic. I hated myself for being fat because it affected my quality of life

[@PooBear423]

@@mysharona6754 I get that! Being fat is definitely on a spectrum when it comes to health. All that matters is you feeling good about yourself, so hopefully you’re able to work towards or are at a stage of happiness with yourself 🥰

[@tula1433]

Hat myself for being fat lmao 😂

[@tula1433]

It’s funny bc fatties usually say society treats them bad bc guys who are 10s won’t date them, but then those same fat girls won’t date fat guys who are in their league either lol

[@alamedadanceparty]

Hate myself for being fat 😢

[@niyahyisrael3021]

I struggle bad with the whole "well it fits me, I should buy it" thought process as a fat and tall person because clothes so rarely fit me properly. I am 6 feet tall give or take and there is like a 1-2 size difference between my waist and hips depending on the size chart. Plus I am broke lol. one thing that does help me is when I do find those "kinda cute" pieces, I take a picture in the fitting room.

[@lovejessicablair]

oh, I definitely feel that. as a fellow fat + tall person with proportions that aren’t catered to a lot in plus size clothing, I also struggled with buying things just because they fit me. sometimes it definitely is out of necessity (because we need clothes to exist in the world) and I’m definitely not trying to shame that. sometimes you just gotta do what u can!

[@niyahyisrael3021]

@@lovejessicablair I don’t think I fully came to terms with it until like last year. I was feeling that “I have so many clothes but nothing to wear” hard. But my body also changed a lot in the past year or so and I grew out of majority of my clothes so that was another battle on top of this one. I have given soo many clothes to my smaller friends and it feels nice to give them a new home but whew the body grief is there too. I hope that I can really get to experience my style once I get a stable job and all that.

[@TrickyNano]

You’re my comfort KZbinr I get so excited when you make full length videos

[@lovejessicablair]

aww you have no idea how much that means to me :”)

[@TrickyNano]

@@lovejessicablair AHH YOU RESPONDED I LOVE YOU

[@jovananedeljkovic5811]

I needed to hear that I don't have to be limited by only wearing what's flattering!

[@gransattic]

Ok the part about performative journaling is so real. I think it's a product of social media where we feel like we don't have any privacy... even within our literal DIARY

[@whizzersterriblehorribleno773]

omggg the growing up in miami confidence leech is SO REAL i feel so seen. this video is so good

[@lovejessicablair]

“miami confidence leech” is soooo real and I’m 100% using that term from now on lmao

[@massielcorona3430]

I empathize with you a lot Jess, i was the fat kid (and i’m still fat) but now i’m not afraid to show my body. One of the most bizarre things i realized now that i’m 24 is that when i was a kid/teen i was so surprised if anyone treated me decently even tho i was “fat”.

[@thecanaryfromthemines]

I've had the same two NYE outfits and I just rotate them and accessorize them differently. Same for other rare special events(weddings etc).

[@lovejessicablair]

love that a lot!! reusing ur clothes + changing the accessories is what ur wardrobe is for

[@not2cute4u]

I was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia in March 2023. And because of the pills, I've gained 30 kilos. You helped me love my body more. Right now, I don't have many things in my wardrobe that fit me. I will use these tips. Love your looks and long talk videos!!! Thank you ❤

[@hopebabanskaya2819]

I couldn't agree with your points more! I have caught myself on over thrifting the tops and shirts and anything for my torso cause I am smaller there and it's easier to finding sth that either fits or cute and beatiful looking on the top of me VS how AF hard it is to find a pair of jeans that is at least Ok for me. so thanks for your video. Hope you have a great 2024!

[@lauryn6037]

i’m 24 and still stuck in my childhood mindset of hiding and being ashamed of my body and “tricking” people into seeing my body differently so i love this video so much and thank you. i want so much to be able to wear the clothes i actually like and i’ll get there eventually not only are u an absolute icon in every other way, following u on twitter and seeing ur pro palestine and covid cautious just made me adore u even more. u are wonderful and i’m so happy i found ur content

[@lovejessicablair]

aww I’m sending u so so much love 🥺💞💕💞💗 it’s hard getting to the mindset of body neutrality but I believe in u!!

[@miainelom1104]

I also experienced my first years of life in my childhood because I was a child

[@zannadunstrand6289]

I really need to let you know - and please take this to heart❤- that the way you were inspired by those bloggers: you ARE inspiring young (and us ”grown ups”) plus-sizers today! Thank you so much for that! Everytime I watch your videos my self esteem and confidence grown a bit. Days when I feel off - your videos are my medicine! Once again: please take this your heart: thank you for everything you are and do as a fat-girl-inspiration/confidence-source 💁🏼‍♀️❤ Sending all my love from Sweden❤ 🇸🇪

[@lovejessicablair]

I will be taking everything you said to heart 🥺 thank you my love, you have no idea how much that means to me :”) sending you sm love 💗💞💕💞💗

[@zannadunstrand6289]

@@lovejessicablair to get a answer for you made my day and warmed my heart overhere in the Nordic Cold! 🥶 thank you for that! You’re such an inspiration ❤️🙏🏻

[@courtneygrier2015]

What an amazing comment! I'm glad she saw this. Hello from sunny Kansas USA!

[@zannadunstrand6289]

@@courtneygrier2015 Im so happy she did too🥹🥹🥹 it’s the first time some of my influencers have interacted with me and that it were for just this one - that came directly from my heart - is so amazing ❤️❤️ Hello from cold Sweden to you, sunny Kansas ❤️🌍

[@zannadunstrand6289]

@@courtneygrier2015 im so glad too! hello sunny Kansas! Would love to be overthere with ya 🥶🥶😍

[@LittleRedTeaCake]

I totally agree on the over-consumption of thrifting. I used to go at least once a week because it was my only hobby outside of my home and something do to when I just needed to get out of the house. I've scaled it back, not only in going but what I am buying. I went yesterday for something I actually needed (pocket dictionary) and grabbed a couple of clothing items, walked around with them and then realized, I don't actually want them. I have a skirt in the same color as the shorts I grabbed, also I don't really like shorts. I love the idea of those jean skirts that look like they were DIYed from pants, but I know that style of skirt, doesn't look good on me or make me feel good. So I put them back. This was wonderful. Thank you.

[@chappellgroan]

This might be my favourite video you’ve ever made! Your content brings me so much joy and confidence, and these tips are super helpful. I’m 27 and the personal style quest feels never ending ❤

[@beepwrld]

I could listen to you talk forever, I just love hearing your thoughts and point of view it's always so insightful and good

[@tamkingshorts]

I started experimenting with my style for the first time in quarantine. It was exciting at first, but gradually became more frustrating as i struggled to match the aspirational imagery I found online. Thank you for sharing your journey! It’s encouraging to see that your style is something that you found over time. Just because I haven’t found my style yet doesn’t mean that doesn’t exist :)

[@kaitlynvictorino4353]

your video popped up in my feed and i have a similar experience as you, got more comfortable with my chub and dont take the criticism of my body to heart no more helps, fake it til you make it helps, letting go of people that are not in my best interest helps, and living out my teen dreams of being a cute fashion girl with fun makeup with my big girl money has been really nice 💖💕 you're making me more motivated to post more to share that joy of dressing up with everyone, i wish everyone that stubbled into this video to take this as an opportunity to really Do What You Want (so long u aint hurting anyone nor urself) 💖

[@SockPuppetTalksYT]

i struggle with body dysmorphia and just lack of confidence in my chubby body, especially because i am trying to find my style. this video helped me a lot, and i love your content and really appreciate the type of vibes you put out into the world! (:

[@videoenjoyer236]

making your own clothes/accessories, even "just" a scarf, belt or trapezoid skirt, is very exciting - as a fat person with a colorful, wacky style it is so affirming to make the clothes i want to see in the world! :D the fat sewing community is beautiful, vibrant and very supportive of newbies

[@floramii]

Thank you very much for this video! Your insight into personal style and how it doesn't have to be a specific aesthetic was so helpful to me 🥹

[@amielynn8506]

I PLATONICALLY LOVE YOU!!!!! I love your shorts but I really appreciate your long ones. Thank you for being a voice for us fatties because we are baddies 😎

[@Horsefaire]

Such a confidence builder! None of us are perfect. You are showing us how to enjoy our selves with our fashion

[@matzoballbaby]

this was so unbelievably helpful :') watching this while getting ready for the night made me feel so amazing. u need a podcast girlie!!!!

[@redrose8840]

This is possibly my favorite video I have ever watched. I can relate to so much of this it’s crazy.

[@mysunflower2006]

OMG!!!! I asked you if you could do a video about this topic but I never thought you would ACTUALLY do it, ly♡♡♡♡

[@jayheretoslay]

the perfect video to chill to on a rainy afternoon 🩵

[@Maria.0.1]

I get so excited when you upload!! ♥️ please keep them cominggg!! 💕💕

[@lovejessicablair]

the encouragement is very much appreciated!! I’ll definitely be posting on youtube way more this year 🫡

[@melaniegorke5936]

I love the part of giving a f*** about flattering. That is something I struggle with. I used to be very skinny and now that I've become a mom my body changed a lot and I don't feel confident anymore to wear that crop tops I used to. And I'm somewhere in between "crop tops are just for the male gaze and they shouldn't be worn at all" and "I need to wear them anyways to normalize bodytipes that aren't the beauty standard" but I'm not confident enough to expose myself like that. Thought I admire women who wear crop tops even though they aren't in the beauty standard range! Go for it big ladies! ❤❤❤

[@katekowhai]

The myth that “flattering” is objectively best - agree!!! Talking about what’s flattering is just a less overt way of talking about what’s sexually attractive (on a very one dimensional level that doesn’t even begin to really measure the complexity of sexiness), and that’s such an outdated standard to be boxed in by! No shade if you want to dress for sexual attraction but it’s only one of many many different values that might make an outfit worth wearing. And dressing to accentuate a conformist body shape has little to do with expressing personal sexuality or sensuality either.

[@CozyToni]

👏🏽👏🏽 yes!! I agree about the "flattering" clothing. Wear what makes you comfortable.

[@DanielaGonzalez-ex5mv]

This video helped me so much!

[@amandas7808]

Girl- THANK YOU ❤ this is just the video I needed to see. Thank you for the real talk and gave me a lot of constructive food for thought.

[@angel-ge7pb]

i am in love with all of your insights, advice, and just you being you!! i do not see enough influencers actually talk about these things because.. it's usually them (atleast the majority that i see on my feed) promoting the fact to buy like every single new item that's cute and trendy especially from fast fashion brands (that are unethical btw..) when they have like a bajillion clothes already 😭😭 i so so agree with you when you said that repeating outfits or clothes in general is normal!! i do not know who INJECTED the notion to society that clothes we've seen before equals to like being not trendy or dare i say it, "poverished" !! LIKE laundry and washing machine exist for a reason 😭😭 we should fr normalize outfit repeating and clothes repeating more it's the bare minimum

[@lovejessicablair]

aww I’m speechless!! thank you so much angel 🥺💕💞💗💞💗 you’re soooo sweet and I sooo appreciate everything you said

[@angel-ge7pb]

@@lovejessicablair I LOVE U !! your reply just made my day- no- my entire week 🥹🫶

[@maybelilybelly]

My favorite fashion girly at it again 💕 love you jess

[@Jade-po1yf]

I never felt so seen by hearing someone else say that they have a lot of feelings and emotion, but don’t know how to explain them verbally and this is also why journal and I also was a journal hater. Much love from a fellow water sign.😊

[@Abi-zs9ff]

OMG YES BOTH NANA AND HACHI ARE MY FAVE STYLE ICONS TOO!!

[@victoriaranja]

You are helping me so much with my self love journey. Everytime I feel insecure about wearing an outfit that I like, I just think of you (like i genuinely think "what would jessica say to me?"😭) and I tell myself to wear it, bc my opinion is literally the only one that matters. And btw I love your outfits and especially how creative you are with accessorizing, I take a lot of inspiration from that because we actually share very similar styles. So thank you so much for all of your content and thank you so much for literally just existing you're amazing ilysm😭💘💗

[@lovejessicablair]

stop you are such a sweetie pie 😭 you’re gonna make my cancer ass cry

[@freyahbatten8207]

Ugh thak you for talking about over-thrifting. My style advice/moto forever has been if you have somthing in your closet that you think is ugly literally find a different way to wear it. SHOP IN YOUR CLOSET. Like i belive that like 90ish% of clothing in thrifts end up in landfills anyway!!!!! I'm definitely not saying don't donate to thrifts but think about your clothing crittically. If your cleaning out your closet TRY ON EVERY PIECE and whenever i go through my closet i like to keep it one for at least 10 minutes AND try it with other combinationd and acssessorys. Ugh thank you for bringing up acssessorys they can make or break an outfit. Also thank you for touching on trends its ok to like somthing thats trendy, if you want a stanly because you think they're cute and you genuinely like them than go get one but if you let whats trendy dictate what you like i'm sorry but your doing it wrong. (And I'm a strong believer that there is no wrong way to do fashion)I cant even begin to talk about how bad the trend cycle is for the environment in a youtube comment. Anyway no matter who you are or what you look like if you try your hardest to love yourself then things will get better. Also also also thank you for talking about journaling. I have been jouraling for almost 4 years and as a teen whos uber conservative parents dont belive in therapy journaling is straight up the reason im still in this plane of existence. Anyway i didnt even get to all the thoughts that were circulating in my mind during this video but this rant has gone on far to long. Honestly just love yourself and if you dont then i will. 🐛😘 Edit: I just read this and realized that nothing I said made any sense or flowed in a normal way🤠. Edit again (ugh i know shes back): today i went thrifting and bought 6 peices and i was feeling really guilty and really hypocritical. But then i watched this video and i turned my phone off and i was like come on babe you havent gone shopping in 7 months its ok you havent bought anything firsthand in almost a year and a half. Like your doing great babe every little bit counts right.

[@meggie2192]

Thank you so much ❤ I've always been plus sized and my journey really parallels yours. You are beautiful and so is your style and its very inspiring.

[@Mybougiehippylife]

Yes I love love love your videos and style! So excited to see another upload from you. ❤❤❤❤

[@noctelupus]

I feel the basics struggle, I dress goth/alternative and very much found it was very easy to get a hold of 'fun' alternative clothes I might not be able to style easily but then finding the more simple pieces was a struggle but now I think I have a decent balance now. i've also noticed it's not just an alternative fashion problem it seems to be a plus sized clothing problem in general, plenty of the time I see plenty of 'statement' options for plus sizes and yet trying to find say a basic t-shirt or something is near impossible. Also the not really developing a personal style until you're a bit 'older' as due to the clothes you actually wanted just didn't exist in your size. Also to this day I've found in terms of plus sized clothing, belts. Belts are so hard to find in larger sizes I guess they assume 'fat' people don't need belts but no sometimes we need belts.

[@Oliver-765]

I'm starting to think that confidence is a habit more than a trait someone has. Its my favorite way of explaining why fake it till you make it works, at least.

[@emmelinesprig489]

I grew up in the midwest, and though we were in a city, I still viscerally feel you on the collective pressure to wear clothing that’s as bland and as possible 😂 I love how this video has me reminiscing on my own style history. Growing up poor, we’d thrift just in order to be clothed. My mom bought me ugly coats several sizes too large so they’d last a few years. In the recent few years, I’ve really struggled with climate-anxiety, and obsessing over my choices before purchasing. You gave me some perspective with your thoughts on balancing consumption with expression. I’ve made a couple dud purchases recently, but I don’t need to feel guilty, because ultimately I’m purchasing vastly less than the average person in the US.

[@theoddbody1856]

Thank you for sharing your journey

[@dayzofblue8794]

i found that i was buying clothes i wanted to wear even tho i didnt have time or energy to wear them due to work so ive started to actually wear the clothes i have and seeing what i actually need

[@chokeonachickenbone]

✨️fake it till u make it✨️is the mantra of my style era istg💅

[@miainelom1104]

I love your life. I’m so glad I follow and watched this

[@claressadubs]

A bunch of great advice in this video! Also Loaf is one of the best pet names I've ever heard. 😄

[@redrose8840]

Also Nana is Fr my fashion inspo

[@Matthew-bu7fg]

I love your hair and your coat! 😊 very cute !

[@BexSanderzon]

i feel like youtube is a lowkey for of therapy and im not mad aabout it.

[@roadkill7821]

Feel like I`m just in the middle of finding my style with 26. Quite recently, I made an effort to declutter my wardrobe from really old stuff (party still from teenage years lol). So rn it`s the struggle of what to buy and not wasting my moneyyyy😂 You always wish to be unique and searching can also be time-consuming to be real. Loved your thoughts on self confidence!💅

[@fatimavillegas738]

As a 23yo with a full time job in education/therapy, it is sooo hard to implement any sort of style in my outfits for work bc i want to be comfy and mobile but also look cute and serve looks so its been hard bc for a while all i had were crop tops! hopefully i can find my style and implement it in work fits too

[@DaniLane-1028]

The "fuck it I'm 25" does indeed happen more and more as you age--I'm almost 36 and have gotten moreso like that as the years have gone by 😊 loved this video, thank you for being so genuine!!

[@tirzah9929]

Love this video

[@americafirst9144]

You are gorgeous!

[@alexandrafreja1249]

Dressing for your body is like working with only one medium for art. Like yes I could only use acrylic paint on my canvas, but adding crochet, cutting it up and using pencils? Thats more fun for me personally.

[@ali5997]

Even though I’m in the extremely early stages of accepting myself and finding a style I like, accepting that As Long As I’m Fat, I’m Gonna Look Fat has been insanely valuable in just getting me out of the house without wasting an hour cycling through outfits in search of something that makes me look smaller

[@AlicesRealDaze]

I completely agree about style changing all the time and not fitting a certain aesthetic or trend although I do think that would be so much easier and cheaper sometimes, it can get out of control being a maximalist that likes to changes styles on the daily and I’ve had to work a lot to keep control on my need to collect clothes for every occasion

[@lovejessicablair]

I definitely don’t think your style should be changing all time! I could’ve worded it better but I just mean that my wardrobe doesn’t fit into one aesthetic and I don’t necessarily want it to. as someone who also likes maximalism, it definitely takes a certain level of discipline to not go overboard + that’s why I think becoming a lot pickier with what I do purchase for my wardrobe helps a lot!

[@AlicesRealDaze]

@@lovejessicablair yeah sorry I also didn’t word it super well 🙈😅 I mean the same, and also more that for me personally as an ADHDer (and maximalist) I really do flit between which style or aesthetic I’m into on a near daily basis and so yeah practicing my discipline and trying to be pickier has definitely helped, also trying to invest in more quality pieces and trying not to buy into fast fashion when my maximalist side wants to buy tights in every colour, for instance. But it’s a learning curve and all I can do is try to get better a day at a time 😅

[@alexandreaschramm5231]

Hit the like button just so Jessica and loaf can wreak havoc. . . cause I'm here for it.

[@rowanszblvn245]

i have a lighter flowy style and a distressed and dark style ✨✨i just cant decide and i wont✨✨

[@violatodd969]

love

[@whatever3145]

People really underestimate how difficult it is to be confident and fat. And they really dont get just how vital representation really is. Im 32, wore jeans and sweats for 15 years straight even through BONAROO MUSIC FEST IN TENESSEE I WAS SO MISERABLE FOR SO LONG. and there was NO WHERE to shop but catos or fashion bug ... And youre right. When you realize the baggy clothes are not hiding the fact that youre fat the whole concept falls apart. Your body is your body no matter what you wear. Also becoming chronically ill at 21 helped. I long for the days when my biggest concerns about my body were external body image issues. I wasted so much fuckin time letting myself be dehumanized and de femenized. Fat girls were not allowed to be femme or fashionable, you drew attention to yourself and put a target on your back. Keep doing what youre doing. It's important. And every hate comment you get is proof that what youre doing genuinely matters.

[@idkwuzgoinon]

Love you ❤

[@lovejessicablair]

💗💗💗💗💗

[@annabeinglazy5580]

Ok sth that i might want to add regarding the term "flattering", because i do think it can have value beyond the boy type bs. To me, flattering doesnt mean an item that makes you look smaller, or that gives you an hourglass shape, or whatever is fashionable atm. To me, its about fit. And that can be useful. So when i think about whether an Item is flattering on me, i think more about these things: does it fit properly. And by that i mean: - do the shoulders fit? If theyre too narrow or broad, is that intentional or just a bad fit? - does the material bunch up in weird places? - is it restrictive in the wrong places? (That one happens to me a lot with blouses, since im on the... More endowed side) - do jeans/trousers cut in (hello lowrise jeans, may you rot in hell) - do jeans/trousers gape (again, f u, low rise jeans) - are the sleeves long/short enough? Plenty of tops are not for me because of sleeves that look on me like they shrank in the wash Basically, flattering to me is something that accomodates my body, not necessarily sth that gives it a specific shape

[@hailey37926]

im 16 and i have an ed. my whole life i thought i was fat, even when i wasnt, and then i went from 120 to 150 in one summer and i realized "oh.. this sucks. i was fine and now im not.." the styles i like to dress in are only worn by skinny girls because they show a lot of skin or depend on a skinny body.. its really hard for me to love myself and i compare myself to all the skinny girls at school. this video helped me love myself mentally but im still working on physically..

[@Stepheroussnape]

You are so freaking beautiful 😍

[@Luftballon1970]

I really have a shopping addiction. I have ADHD and dopamine deficit in my brain, so I crave these kind of stimuli. I thrift, order and send stuff back, so I get the dopamine rush.. I enjoy shopping. My life is a bit dull. Sometimes I think why would I save save save money all the time, it is so boring. As long as you stay in budget and don't overspend, it is okay to shop to have fun with fashion.

[@canaldabi2024]

I love your style, girl. Kisses from brazil 💛

[@aroilyace]

you said miami and I’m like I grew up there immediately understand

[@tylersatterley3219]

Sabrina Spellman is legit my style muse 👸🏻

[@henlokitty2591]

Thank you for inspiring me to be more like a plus size hottie like you! I’ve been recently dressing more like myself and comfy but cute is definitely the vibe. I felt called out when you mentioned 25 but I think it’s true!! I have been giving less of a fuck because whose opinion really matters besides my own?? ❤

[@lovejessicablair]

lmao I’m 25 too so don’t feel *too* called out 😭

[@AmberOrtolano]

Omgggg yesss I remember GabiFresh and Nadia!!!

[@rune2O2O]

the part about over thrifting is so real i have some pieces i dont know where my head was at when i bought them 😐 and it was always at overpriced places like Cow

[@cloepollo]

Renee Rapp vibes in the nicest way

[@happytofu5]

One of the hardest things is to not know enough plus size fashion youtubers to have a role model similar to my proportions and taste

[@lovejessicablair]

I get that a lot and it’s something I’ve struggled with too my whole life. sometimes, unfortunately, you have to be your own role model!

[@lilithz]

your videos make me feel so comfortable and happy and confident. we are the same dress size and seeing how hard you slay really helps me recognize my dysphoria when i look at myself. thank you for sharing your mastery of kuntservice, you inspired me to stop sucking in my stomach in public

[@AmberSunny1]

I love that you say we are allowed to be eclectic because I feel like I have a different aesthetic every day 😂. You are wonderful. ❤

[@Softscorpi0]

I'm on my own fashion journey, im (small) fat, tall, non-binary and autistic so im juggling finding clothes that fit, are sensory friendly, give me gender euphoria AND look cute. wew its a challenge. but just wanted to say thank you for this video, sometimes i get really stuck that i dont fit one aesthetic but thank you for your advice!!!!

[@clairewulfstudio]

if you're struggling with self confidence, find someone who hypes you up and tells you how great you are constantly (shout out to my wife)

[@araven2266]

omg I grew up in south florida and I also had no confidence!!! lol!!!

[@pickle_pearl]

oh my god... i need to rewatch nana lol

[@lovejessicablair]

just recently watched the live action movies and they were pretty good!!

[@juliadiotti]

and remember... not everyday had to be a slay.

[@leticiateixeira5936]

U are very pretty☺️ what would really be good is like ppl like our chubby bodyes and aplause to us too. I mean good ppl!...🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️💜💓💋

[@lovejessicablair]

aw thank u so much :”)

[@leticiateixeira5936]

@@lovejessicablair i understand 🥺☺️💜if u lived here where i live now..ppl will so much laugh on u bcs of your stile +u chubby 💋portugal by the way😠😡🤬😒💔

[@HanBlack314]

my style really evolved when I saw a piece or thought of a combination with the thought of "haha wouldn't that be ~weird~ to wear that" and then I did and I loved it.

[@ttayebro]

i’m in philly from nj, slim chance you see this, but you’re so cool if you ever need even more friends lol

[@SH-ok7ov]

6:44 Omg! i follow you on tiktok and this whole timeI thought you were 17 or 18😂😭 (ps. ur my personal style inspo

[@sammiisdead8965]

my mom was getting congratulated on her weightloss and it was due to tumors from endometriosis so....yea ive had a chip on my shoulder abt that ever since then

[@lovejessicablair]

my mom received the same treatment after developing severe depression and losing weight after her dad died. it really sucks how people treat weight loss as an inherently good thing. sending you and your mom lots of love 💗

[@AYalize]

I love you

[@caturpillah1046]

I find it very difficult to not dress in a way that is flattering. I have a small back and waist and a F cup size, so when i wear a high collared top, it makes my boobs look very large and low hanging. As well as shirts, normal loose t-shirts vs baby tees or cropped tees. The latter two "flatter" me but it also means there's not much room for me look masculine and flattering at the same time. I can't really cover my boobs without it looking unflattering. I will always look boxy unless i hug my curves. For some reason this really stops me from wearing what I want. Like high collar sleeveless tops. They are so delicate and cute until I fit my bazonkas in them. :')

[@SpringLoverYT]

Hii! I’m a 15 year old girl, all my friends are kinda smaller than me and always have been, I’m the taller big bonded girly lol. Just a few months ago I hated myself, I hated my body and everything about myself, but now I have come to realize how amazing I am and I really just didn’t see how beautiful I am because I was so focused on being smaller because every girl I knew was smaller. Anyways, I’m beautiful, I love myself from top to bottom, are there things about me that I’d like to change? Yeah ofc! But I love myself still. Anyways! I love your nail polish shade so much!!! What’s the color if I may ask?

[@lovejessicablair]

aw I wish I was that wise at 15! sending you sm love

[@SpringLoverYT]

@@lovejessicablair I am so sorry for the late reply! I didn’t see your comment. Sending you lots of love! 💕and thank you!😊