How to Get Kids to Listen | 5 Minute Video

Why is it so hard for so many parents and teachers to get kids to do as they are told? Because too many adults have followed some very bad advice. Family psychologist John Rosemond offers some useful tips on how to get the little barbarians to listen.
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Script:
When was the last time you heard a child referred to as obedient? It’s probably been a while. That’s too bad because the best research tells us that obedient children are happy children. And, from my experience as a family psychologist, the parents of obedient children are happy parents.
Since all parents want their children to be happy, the question becomes: How does one get a child to obey? Is there some trick to it?
Well, there are certainly are a lot of parents who think so. They believe that proper discipline is a matter of using the right methods, techniques, and strategies: what I call consequence delivery systems. Parents have been using these behavior-modification-based methods since they became popular in the 1960s - seemingly to no avail. Would anyone argue that today’s kids are more obedient than kids were several generations ago? I don’t think so. The reason these methods and techniques don’t work is that proper discipline is not a matter of proper methods. It’s a matter of a proper attitude on the part of the parent.
Let me illustrate the point. Let’s say that for a week I observe the classroom of a grade school teacher who has the reputation of being the best disciplinarian in her district. She consistently has fewer behavior problems than any of her colleagues. What is she doing? She’s making her expectations perfectly clear. Which means, first, she communicates in simple, declarative sentences. She doesn’t use fifty words when she could use ten. The more words you use to communicate your expectations, the less confident you sound.
Second, she prefaces her instructions to her students with authoritative phrases like “I want you to…” and “It’s time for you to…” She says, “It’s time for you to take out your math books and turn to page 25” as opposed to “Let’s take out our math books and turn to page 25. Okay?”
Third, this teacher does not explain the motives behind her instructions to her students. Why? Because she knows that explanations invite arguments.
Whenever parents tell me they’re dealing with an argumentative child I know that these well-intentioned people are explaining themselves. They tell their child why they want him to pick up his toys, for example. And he argues, because you can always pick apart an explanation. If you don’t explain yourself when you give an instruction to a child, then the child, being a child, is almost surely going to ask for one. He’s going to ask Why? or Why not? At which point… get ready for a big surprise… your answer should be “Because I said so.”
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[@CoolCat8927]

“There’s a lot of bad parenting advice out there.” His words not mine

[@Warbuss33]

Lol

[@Oleander2116]

Theres a lot of bad parenting advice out there... so heres some more

[@Pacdad9998]

- Some guy in a suit who isn’t even a psychologist

[@Hannibu]

Yes. And the worst are here!

[@LaluzdelaLunaEsp]

“Teach your youth to obey, don’t give an explanation” I was never a terrible kid, i listened to my parents, but holy shit that sounds like big brotherism

[@iexist1300]

Submit, conform, obey.

[@jonhansen679]

youre right! this man is not a real psychologist! kzbin.info/www/bejne/kIbdYqF5h699eMk

[@pepperonislicer2005]

@@jonhansen679 lmao I just came from that video to check the comments

[@fletcheragenda6014]

This man is a cultist who promotes child abuse. He’s a part of a hate group and is not remotely qualified to talk on this subject. No one around him is qualified either.

[@akorn9943]

PragerU, fighting big government by teaching you to raise your kids to never question authority and punish them severely if they do since 2009

[@inkubus6192]

“You’ll do it because I said so” is the “I was just following orders” starter pack.

[@chunkchips4554]

You can teach your kids critical thinking and how be respectful to the parents authority. Two very important qualities to provide to learning growing children. Try having or being around a child that always asks why and doesn't do what you say because you believe it's the starter pack for not thinking critically. Lol life will certainly be enjoyable and you'll get lots of your errands don't because your kids are distracting you will asinine questions that they ask because they don't want to.. hope you can read into the sarcasm.

[@MasterDrewboy]

Good.

[@cameronpearce5943]

@@chunkchips4554 As a primary school teacher no kid's question is asinine and if you're genuinely thinking like that I worry for your children.

[@thelibertariansith4554]

"Good solders follow orders"

[@francescogirardello9250]

That's litterlay the same thing that Eihcmann said during his trial when asked why he killed thousands and thousands of jews.

[@Archer_Starling]

As a child who was raised on these principles, an "obedient" child is a scared child. I now have lasting trauma because I was raised around the concept of "You do as I say without question or there will be consequences." (mostly it was getting spanked and getting sent to my room, or having my books taken away). I am now terrified to question authority as I'm expecting to get hurt for doing so.

[@Windermed]

i was in a similar boat as you, i know what it's like. thankfully i managed to break out of it but i can't deny that i feel that sense of fear when i question authority sometimes. I am definetly going to ensure that none of my future kids have to endure this type of authoritarianistic parenting ever.

[@eliw.1197]

I believe you completely. This is harmful advice that only exists because of power and tradition. I was not raised with "Because I said so" but I often had the punishment threat for peacefully and calmly disagreeing.

[@garretiswright8532]

Yeah, I had a similar thing. Its made me more spiteful than scared though.

[@jayjaymcfly7475]

Well, you learned a life-lesson: You WILL get punished for disobeying the system. The prageru-system installed out there. So good, you dont question it anymore. (Same story for me, so feel hugged)

[@Demonoicgamer666]

@@jayjaymcfly7475 yes but questioning this is normal. Kids need to learn why you are telling them to do something, if you never do that they likely won’t listen because they will believe there is no reason. When it comes to the law we question our representatives authority all the time. For example whether you believe Donald trump did anything wrong or not he was impeached for possessing and lying about having private and highly confidential information and refused to hand it over immediately that’s us questioning his authority.

[@loganr746]

I don’t know, whenever my parents said “because I said so” I always thought of that as less of an act of authority and more of an abuse of power. Whenever that sentence is said I feel like they are saying I’m better than you so do what I say. I tended to do what they said more often because they explained themselves.

[@darrylokech292]

I think balance is key. Don't explain yourself unnecessarily. But the explanation should be minimal.

[@lokei1326]

I've always seen it as a lack of respect for the person being spoken to or a cover-up for not having a reason to do something.

[@william_SMMA]

@@lokei1326 me too Especially when I got closer to adulthood My dad would walk into my room once in 6 months and command me to clean my room before he comes back downstairs No explanation no nothing So I'll clean the room, he'll not even check... Then 3 days later the room would be worse than before because no one explained to me that I need to stay in a clean environment and it can help me think better and make future roommates and friends like me I then had to learn it the hard way by multiple roommates telling me straight up " bro you're dirty" Now I'm squiggly clean You can't send your kid to school to learn thousands of facts over a 6 year period in junior to high school and expect them not to be able to comprehend simple explanations I honestly think the best way is to be authoritative, then explain FULLY after they've obeyed

[@iexist1300]

To me, saying because I said so implies that the person being spoken to is to dumb to understand reason. Considering the fact that the speaker calls children it, I think he also assumes that.

[@jonhansen679]

Youre right. This man is not a psychologist at all. Seriously he has no degree and is associated with child abuse. kzbin.info/www/bejne/kIbdYqF5h699eMk

[@killingjoke90]

"I want my kids to be independent and critical" Also: "Because I said so! End of argument!"

[@yipyip3173]

En fin, la hipocresía

[@Flying_Spaghetti_Monster]

You see, they will eventually grow to resent you and do exactly the opposite of everything you stand for, which seems close enough. I don't see a problem here /s

[@skb282]

@@yipyip3173 exactamente

[@spacegay9309]

People that wacth PragerU do not want their kids to be independent or critical... lol

[@callidusvulpes5556]

@@spacegay9309 Depends on whether or not they take PragerU videos seriously.

[@vibri_]

"Obedient children are happy children" Yeah, about that...

[@Luksed12]

I think he missunderstood it and it actually is "Happy children are more obedient". He got it all wrong

[@splaar]

@@Luksed12 Obedient children are happy children... when their parents respect them. When their parents don't respect them, obedient children are scared children.

[@deborahjolly2653]

One time I lied to the judge because my Mom told me to.

[@entersandshrew4230]

Obedient children are well behaved… until they turn 18, move out, meet alcohol, develop drinking problems, and never talk to their parents again

[@PresenceMusic]

I can’t believe this isn’t satire

[@diablow1411]

I actually figured this may have been an 'April Fools' joke, but nope! This is real, and quite scary if you ask me.

[@rebelheart4456]

Its actually some really good satire, they just don't know it yet.

[@kristeanruddell1765]

Right?!

[@MurderSkatez]

just wait til your kid hates you, gets tatoos at 16, and then gets an std

[@trashmammal9203]

@@MurderSkatez he'd really do that? Well, better traumatize him and make him despise m- why won't he talk to me anymore?

[@JustinReinhart]

"Because I said so" is exactly when I would know the adult didn't know what they were doing and I should ignore them.

[@caralineg6568]

exactly. especially as an argumentative child. If they'd explained it to me my 3 year old self probably wouldn't have argued back

[@nathanpredmore7577]

@Polite Comments On Current Affairs almost all children are little brats, that is why this is bad advice

[@caralineg6568]

@Polite Comments On Current Affairs I absolutely was, but for other reasons. If people ask questions for why they’re told to do something, they deserve an answer. What’s wrong with encouraging kids to question things?

[@caralineg6568]

@Polite Comments On Current Affairs also your username does NOT check out hahahahah

[@itzyaboi4297]

@Polite Comments On Current Affairs may have been a brat but he was a correct one.

[@DeadEndFrog]

"Honey, when you grow up I want you to be assertive, independet, and strong willed. But while you're a kid, i want you to be passive, pliable and obidient"

[@meineschnursenkel2092]

Just because you want your child to listen to what you have to say does not mean you will make them passive. You will make them passive if you make a problem out of everything they do (hurt themselfs when they play, make a mess) but if you teach them that they have to clean up the mess, they will be organised, and if the child does not listen to you, the mess will be there until they want to clean it up (and if you were ever a child, you know that is never) . One has to have a sence of responsibility for their life.

[@DeadEndFrog]

@@meineschnursenkel2092 Im not sure what your responding to then, because the quote gives off list of traits versus another list of traits. It doesn't say one thing leads to another, but rather that a combination of traits is wanted early in life, and another combination is wanted later in life. So its the parents job to either find a way to transition them from being one into the other if they truely can't keep up with a child. Or they can learn to appriciate a childs individuality from the start. As for the second part If you want your child to take responsebility for the mess they created, sure you can give arguments for and against that at its a minor issue in regards to the bigger one presented in the quote. But saying the child has to take responsebility for their life while being a child is a strech, thats something we learn as we grow. There is a reason as child is the parents responsebility until they are of age.

[@meineschnursenkel2092]

@@DeadEndFrog i agree with this, i did not agree with the fact that the word obedient is in the same group as the word passive, one does not lead to the other although it can, i was just saying how it does not have to

[@DeadEndFrog]

@@meineschnursenkel2092 The quote is a list of traits contrasted with another list of traits. I don't think they have a causal relationship at all, but are rather meant to be seen as a collection of traits viewed together. As for obidience itself- It has always been viewed diffrently dependign on where one stands in a relation to someone else. Politically its been one of those traits which has traditionally been viewed as good. Especially by any ruling class. But has in modern times become a negative one, because of recent history. Now people seem to hold very contradictory views on in, giving spesific instances where obidience is viewed as good, bad, or "natural". I don't view obidence as a positive at all, i think its a stand in for people who can't convince others by arguments, explenations, and reasons. Its the tool of the bad politican, the bad parent, the bad ideology. Of course, all of these will tell you about the importance of obidience, from their point of view, but they are usally the people who temselves don't obey. As before, obidience still only has a place in a relation to someone else when one happens to find oneself in power. Be it a politican, a parent, or a priest. I would much prefer they give reasons, arguments, or explenations for their status, rather then using obidence as an excuse to be bad. I see the issue in culture today that both the left and right seem to like the ideal of obidence for two diffrent reasons. Rather then give us arguments, they expect us to simply respect them without any reasons as to why we should respect them. Like bad parents, they expect to be loved, admired and charished. Good parents get those things for free. Just like good ideas, and good people.

[@meineschnursenkel2092]

@@DeadEndFrog i dont think that you can view adults and children in the same way. Politics is a different topic, i had children in mind. As a parent you need to work on yourself and the rules you want to make in your house, they have to be valid so that the child, when they grow up, can think to themselfs that you had valid reasons, rules and ways of behaviour and that they can respect you. Most of the time a child does not understand some points so even if something makes sence and is totaly valid and is supported by great arguments, a child can take that appart with their own reasoning and think that was a good argumeny because they dont have an image of what works in the real world and what does not, and a healthy adult has and idea of how life works because they have lived it to some extent, therefor it is the adults responsibility to make good rules that are supported by reason and pure, good intentions (that have the childs well being in mind) and to follow those rules themself. As for the last part, i agree, good parents earn respect naturaly, they dont have to make the children respect them, thats why i believe that everyone needs to change themself for the better.

[@mithramusic5909]

Well that answers the question of "what would a video about raising children look like if it was written by someone who admits to not believing in psychology and who has no sources?"

[@fletcheragenda6014]

And is part of a certified hate group and fully accepts abuse

[@turtleofannihilation272]

@@fletcheragenda6014 don't forget suggesting literal trama as a punishment

[@p_rry]

PragerU pretty much just posts pure propaganda and KZbin really shouldn’t allow this to continue.

[@mithramusic5909]

@@p_rry exactly!

[@HDSPKSRecords-gi1ob]

Ad hominem fallacy - look it up.

[@Hahaha-px5ep]

"Obedient children are happy children" Dutch and Danish children being arguably the happiest in the world while mostly growing up with undertones of autonomy rather than obedience:

[@Pepagg8]

But the guy without a doctorate said they arent so it must be true!

[@Durgemann]

@@Pepagg8 Wait until you hear he doesn't have a doctorate and isn't a real psychologist.

[@eliw.1197]

Interesting. I believe you.

[@andrehayworth8911]

Morality is doing what’s right, regardless of what you’re told. Obedience is doing what you’re told, regardless of what’s right. #gentleparenting

[@cakemeister5154]

So you should teach your kids to be mindless immoral obedient drones?

[@gwanael34]

@@cakemeister5154 No. "Morality is doing what’s right, regardless of what you’re told." That means the kid is moral if he does something good REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU ASK HIM TO DO " Obedience is doing what you’re told, regardless of what’s right." And that's being a nazi soldier "following orders" AKA he's saying you should teach your kids to think for themselves and what truly is right and wrong instead of just telling them to obey.

[@jonhansen679]

@@gwanael34 kzbin.info/www/bejne/kIbdYqF5h699eMk

[@eleonorvoncarter6769]

E x a c t l y

[@Idkwhatimdoing_]

what?? commanding your child to do exactly what you want them to do without explaining exactly why is simple closed-mindedness. in what way can you develop both as a parent and as a person when you can’t even consider opposition or critsizm. additionally, using intimidation and the stereotypical authoritarian method doesn’t encourage respect, it encourages resentment. yes absolutely, intimidation can evoke authority, but at what cost? your child’s mental well-being? children shouldn’t be taught “what to think” rather “how to thing” otherwise your depriving your child’s ability to independently and critically think in replace with a child that blindly follows authority even if it would be considered wrong to do so. your basically raising a submissive, unconfident, and potentially anxious child all so you could sleep better. utter BS.

[@arthurchase7716]

every time my mom said "because I said so", I got more argumentative than whenever she would just give an answer

[@anonymouspotato432]

ur just a spoiled brat

[@clodsirelover2501]

same

[@endersdragon34]

Parents should always go to "King Kong ain't got shit on me"

[@akshatmisra767]

"YOU THINK YOU CAN DO THIS TO ME?!"@@endersdragon34

[@garretiswright8532]

I definitely was less argumentative because I was afraid of the consequences... Nice in the short run, but I have trust issues to this day with them. Love my parents, but I am still spiteful of that treatment.

[@Ro-wc1ug]

“Why do I need to clean my room?” “Because I said so” Or “Why do I need to clean my room?” “It helps organize your thoughts and let’s you rest better, it’s a good habit” Debunked the whole vid

[@lexxihd5843]

@Quinzerrak Because all of Prager U's videos are nonsense.

[@lexxihd5843]

@Quinzerrak What do you mean with that. Do you think Transgender people aren't real? While im not an expert on the topic i've seen enough videos from people that thorougly debunk the arguments from anti-trans people.

[@ashleylarsen5294]

“Well mom, I don’t mind living in a mess. I think better when I’m in a mess. I don’t want to. You’re not the boss of me. I like it this way. I don’t have to.”

[@missfazbear8810]

​@quinzerrak4975rent free

[@dan9002]

@Quinzerrak Because children need structure not parents that change there values like they change there underware. No child and I mean child respects a parent that wants to be there friend.

[@Guattari-rz3sk]

Fun fact: In 1992, this guy wrote an article saying that an 18 month old being sexually abused would NOT need therapy because they would be unlikely to remember the event. Keep that in mind when you listen to this video.

[@SN1PEZ_YT_TTV]

Seriously? Holy shit I would not be surprised. If you don't mind, could you give me a link???

[@Guattari-rz3sk]

@@SN1PEZ_YT_TTV en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Rosemond

[@SN1PEZ_YT_TTV]

@@Guattari-rz3sk thx

[@Devils.harp.player]

Investigate his computer

[@cao6500]

"lets put him in a nice outfit so he looks like an actual psychologist"

[@SUGARCRSH]

he lowkey looks like bill nye the science guys snotty uncle

[@derpco.69420]

He looks like trump and bill nye had a child together

[@yvanaluz9994]

He still probably knew better than your parents fam.

[@deltahalo241]

@@yvanaluz9994 A fake Doctor who surrounds himself with other fake doctors and who cites himself? Nah, it's hard to do much worse than that

[@spe3dy744]

@@yvanaluz9994 kzbin.info/www/bejne/kIbdYqF5h699eMk

[@gangamel5979]

0:11 "Obedient children are happy children" literally 1984

[@NoConsequenc3]

no see that's when the "left" does it - when the right wants it, it's just "commonsense" (hint: they have no coherent worldview)

[@alwest4472]

First time I’ve agreed with someone who’s said “literally 1984”

[@disparatebroom7705]

@@alwest4472 did you agree when someone pulled out the 1984 landslide election map

[@neerajgogate491]

@@disparatebroom7705 Who randomly pulls out a map of that election? Also, if you don't know, they're talking about the novel, not about the year.

[@disparatebroom7705]

@@neerajgogate491 Bro that’s the joke, it’s ironic humor. Taking the piss out of the saying “literally 1984” and putting over the electoral map that is literally 1984

[@0g0mogosepikworld31]

Maybe next time they will actually bring a psychologist instead of a... "Psychological associate"

[@10dvvks.d.r.tharun15]

correct

[@engliships2126]

And maybe next time bring a guy that doesn't say that child beating are good and supports a hate group. You know, just a thought

[@niivuk]

Nah, it's PragerU. They only bring crap people

[@gigan1972]

Oh and says to lock 5 year olds in their room for a month for hitting theur mother, and follows the teaching if a woman who says children shouldn't receive unconditional love.

[@albertbecerra]

@@niivuk That is a huge assumption. Jocko willink ain't crap, and there are actually good segments. What platform or individuals do you follow? I guarantee they have made shitty piece before, that doesn't completely destroys the foundation, simply because you might disagree with this individuals piece.

[@corysowers6326]

40 Years Later Parent: Why are you putting me in this retirement home? Why can’t I see my grandkids? Child, now an adult: Because I said so.

[@honkyjesuseternal]

Statement of the year. Yeah, it would be like any person in authority never being questioned. A Prager wet dream.

[@jonathandown9617]

Parent: Fair enough. Sometimes it needs to be that way. I have raised you well. *dies

[@corysowers6326]

@@jonathandown9617 ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!1

[@spongeintheshoe]

@@jonathandown9617 Nah, they'd be more like "NOOOOOOO, YOU'RE NOT SUPPOSED TO SAY THAT TO _ME!!!"_

[@laravioliiii2832]

Child: Obedient Parents are Happy Parents.

[@AnunGuy]

“the best research tells us that obedient children are happy children” source(s): Dude trust me

[@Offdopp]

"I only use THE BEST research, nobody does better research than me." - Goddamn, do I even have to put their name here?

[@smugofbishamonten1447]

Source: because i said so

[@Worms_]

@@smugofbishamonten1447 funny thing is I’m pretty sure this dude literally used his OWN “articles” as a source

[@asterix8443]

@@Worms_ yeah he does which really says a lot

[@leahstewart3559]

it’s funny bc it’s literally true, all of his sources in the description are his own “articles”

[@arlo7301]

Few things: 1) This guy isn’t a psychologist, as he doesn’t have his PhD in psychology. 2) The only sources cited on the website are articles by him, none of which cite any sources. This is important because the vast majority of academic studies come to the exact opposite conclusion than the one he makes.

[@cupid3890]

and those sources being written and cited by the same guy mean there is lots and lots of room for bias which is something you'd want to avoid if you were looking for credibility.

[@SamuiGame]

isnt that technically fraud?

[@gerbilpanda1703]

@@SamuiGame Depends on the state, sadly, and he lives in a state where it's legal.

[@cookiemocher388]

I see you Zoe Bee fan

[@SamuiGame]

@cookie mocher i am to i guess and i think a lot of people here are

[@jackwilde1986]

Right just to clear this up I'm a psychologist and this is accurate advice of how you train a dog not a child. This will encourage an Authoritarian personality to develop which will cause your child to become cold and detached from anyone they are in a position of power over and submissive to those above them. This form of parenting will also stunt problem solving skills and the verbal and emotional communication between a child and their parent.

[@ihavenoidea2805]

actually it's not even accurate towards dogs either, i mean they need discipline, yes, but not overtly because they also need to feel loved by their owner and those... "methods" seem rather cold lmao

[@UserOfTheName]

I had a dog who suffered from trauma because of being raised like this. She was literally locked in rooms as a puppy by her abusive first owners (the thing this guy recommends you do to kids) and because of that she would become incredibly anxious whenever in a room with the door closed even if only for a few minutes. His advice applied to dogs would still be considered abusive and abhorrent.

[@HDSPKSRecords-gi1ob]

You're not a psychologist, you're a liberal. You didn't pay attention to his real message because the language offended you too much. Kids need to learn to listen to adults and to trust their parents' authority. Any successful parent could tell you that, without needing to brag about a psychology degree.When kids have learned to listen and respect adults, then it's time to start questioning - not before.

[@ThePrinceofHisOwnKingdom]

​@@HDSPKSRecords-gi1ob What if the parents are wrong?

[@bladehero8490]

imagine admitting that you can't beat a 7 year old in an argument

[@missk1697]

Imagine thinking a 7 year old is going to use reasonable, rational and well articulated arguments. (Yes, I know such kids exist. I've met them in person. But let's be real here, if you are a parent of such a child, you probably don't need parenting advise.)

[@Thechillilover]

@@missk1697 Imagine thinking that telling your child to shut up makes them better human beings... Oh I cant believe that's not true, almost like I have anecdotal experience.

[@HDSPKSRecords-gi1ob]

@@Thechillilover No one said tell them to 'shut up". But when a parent is talking to small children, no one is getting any communicating done if there is a lack of respect. A kid is not on the same level as an adult.

[@HDSPKSRecords-gi1ob]

Imagine admitting you see arguing with a 7 year old as productive.

[@alistor1213]

No one should ever obey for the sake of obeying. Isn't that the concept of liberty this channel purports to support? Blind obedience is only slavery.

[@emilmullerv3519]

This channel will go from "liberté liberté liberté" to an almost Nazi ideology depending on if they are talking about s business doing something, or a gay person doing something

[@Sam-gx2ti]

They'll gladly critisize the left for encouraging blind obedience, and while this may be true, here they're telling parents to bring their children up that way.

[@akorn9943]

By now I’m convinced that PragerU loves Big Government, they just don’t like having to pay for welfare, so they convince their audience that helping poor people and preventing someone from saying the n word is authoritarianism so they can do this stuff behind the scenes.

[@jaketimberlake9023]

Kids under PragerU parenting: “Good soldiers follow orders”

[@akorn9943]

@@jaketimberlake9023 “An obedient soldier is a happy soldier” -Sheev Pragertine

[@lovelytigress227]

"You can always pick apart an explanation." explanation: "because i said so" ok but why do you say so lol

[@quadsingularstudios5909]

i say so because I said so

[@ghosty3494]

@@quadsingularstudios5909 then why did you say so if you said so

[@HDSPKSRecords-gi1ob]

@@ghosty3494 This conversation is over. Clean your room. If you don't, then there will be no dinner for you. Child cries and learns that questioning parental authority has consequences. A good life lesson. - How to raise a kid that isn't an obnoxious douche.

[@ghosty3494]

@@HDSPKSRecords-gi1ob Oh I was just bein silly man, I don't know me two yesrs ago, is a very.. strange thing, I'm not sure.

[@ghosty3494]

@@HDSPKSRecords-gi1ob Anyways have a good day! (Ooohh.. you wanna play rain world.. on the pc.. and buy the DLC.. maybe the soundtrack toooooo..)

[@im9550]

Explanations do invite arguments, but the lack of them invites laziness and confusion.

[@yoyoyo7189]

im when someone's says why, people could always say the truth like I have to teach you about this to make a living for myself so it would be nice if you would sit back down and do what I say so we both can be done with this early.

[@Beefnhammer]

Lack of explanation also invites resentment and in a worst case scenario, total rebellion. You can explain yourself without undermining your authority as the parent, it just takes some nuance and skill, something that a lot of parents (shocker) are unwilling to put the effort into developing or are too stupid to comprehend.

[@elfpimp1]

I'm too lazy to argue with that.. ;0)

[@арефнар]

Да

[@John_Carguello]

Then weigh the situation, and find the path of least resistance.

[@i.j.dragonfly3123]

"Explanation invites arguments" *fails to acknowledge that "because I said so" is an explanation that can easily be picked apart by the words "so what?"*

[@franzferdinand5150]

Exactly! Why should you listen to someone if they don't listen back to you?

[@Jackdeadcrow]

This is why parents who employ this explain also physically abuse their children

[@foteini-fg9xv]

Yes... let's see how the "happy obedient" children how they will behave when reach puberty!😅

[@HDSPKSRecords-gi1ob]

I was raised by parents like the presenter describes. I never dreamed of saying 'so what?" because I loved and respected my parents. I trusted their authority because, deep down, I knew they wanted the best for me, it was obvious. When I was about 12 years old, they began to encourage me to question blind obedience and unearned authority. That way, I learned to listen before I learned to question. Now, if arguing with small children is your idea of how to raise them, good luck when they get older and louder.

[@roa4969]

I guess being too strict oftentimes causes rebellion in a child. Respect should be the number one rule or principle.

[@makeromaniagreatagain9697]

It shouldn't be "respect", it should be " love"

[@memymo1310]

again respect and love are the same thing when it comes to a child. If they dont respect you then they dont love you and Visa versa.

[@henrycurran1672]

@@makeromaniagreatagain9697 no because sometimes you can't love everyone love comes out of respect.

[@BlaxeFrost-X]

@@makeromaniagreatagain9697 those two things are related, if you talk about the "partner" type of love, if you don't respect it you're up to hurt or be abandoned

[@JonathanToolonie]

Unfortunately, I would argue otherwise. You can never be too strict, only abusive. I grew up from a very strict family and let me tell you, you will learn real quickly as a kid if you do not cooperate you will have a bad time. When I got belted for misbehaving, I learned rather quickly who has the authority and to obey. On the contrary to that, I saw a kid next door who got beat up just for spilling milk on the floor. My Dad went in and (I swear I am not kidding) belted the Dad of that kid for that. That was my first lesson of the difference of abuse and discipline.

[@Vospader21]

Funny how prageru likes to scream about diversity of thought and then go ahead and give advice to parents to teach their kids not to think or question.

[@wurttmapper2200]

Well, it is not hypocritical

[@connorthompson66]

@@wurttmapper2200 I've seen a lot of comments about dystopian thinking and 1984 in this comments section, and you advocating for Orwellian double-think won't help their case.

[@fishcandy3345]

@Boo Boo Boo lol I see you posting this IN EVERY COMMENT CHAIN AND I ***COULDNT*** HELP MYSELF I watched this video to understand whatever points you wanted whoever was reading/commenting to hear, yet i fail to see how it connects to the comment explaining how these parenting strategies are bad. weirdly enough this video you've linked is pretty solid advice motivation isnt what brushes your teeth or keeps your room clean, however this kind of self discipline that Jocko is explaining. I do have to ask, however, he advocates for being confident REGARDLESS of what youre doing but I'd like to know how you could raise a child to feel confident and have a strong character by shooting down their questions and not encouraging their explorative nature? kids build confidence by having creative thinking or general thought provoking questions asked. if you do not encourage their explorative nature by building projects or playing with them, then how would they have the confidence needed TO BE ABLE to self discipline?

[@fishcandy3345]

@Boo Boo Boo ah, yes. when backed into an intellectual corner the only prose that one will resort to is the use of a half minded insult. maybe you're the "whiny little brat" if you're not willing to indulge me in a meaningful conversation. judging solely by how you responded to me and your stance on the matter; its clear that you don't understand what brings about confidence in early child hood. As a matter of fact, you just perfectly demonstrated why children will disrespect their parents when only told "because i told you so" either provide an actual substantial response or don't reproduce; humanity could benefit from the lack of genes so underdeveloped and simple that they qualify as a virus rather than an actual person.

[@fishcandy3345]

@Boo Boo Boo I mourn for your intelligence, sir. Please, get well soon :-)

[@stuckonaslide]

replace words like "child" with "citizen" and "parents" with "government" and suddenly it sounds like 1984

[@splaar]

Replace "parent" with "government" and "child" with "citizen" and suddenly, PragerU is warning us that this is a dangerous, authoritarian message from The Left™

[@thegamerator10]

"Obedient children are happy children." "War is Peace" "Freedom is Slavery" "Ignorance is Strength"

[@jenli142]

I suppose this depends. If a child is told… Don’t eat candy (because you’ll get fat), do your homework (to get a good job one day), and don’t be mean to your sister (because she’ll be there in old age) I think in the long run these kids would be happier in life.

[@Ponera-Sama]

"These are the undeniable truths of this world and you all must learn to accept them..." "YOU PIGS IN HUMAN CLOTHING"

[@itshagtf]

literally 1984

[@mlh5434]

@@jenli142 Wrong. Try telling a 4 year old not to gorge on Halloween candy "because you'll get fat!" All he/she is going to say in return is "No I won't!" and keep eating it. Rosemond has it 100% right here. The parents are in charge and get to make the rules.

[@Thechillilover]

@@mlh5434 Wow I cant believe you think children are slaves to their parents. I feel like you have a lot of trauma to unpack if that's your position here. Or youre just a psychopath

[@demonwolf570]

"Because I said so" isn't a good way to teach your child. You should teach them to always question authority but in a proper way. Not by arguing but by inviting debates so they become a strong thinker.

[@BCAlpha-gg2vc]

EXACTLY!!!

[@farber207]

"Because I said so" is for toddlers or children that you've already explained it to before.

[@danfoxdude]

"GET OFF THE ROAD!" "Why mother? Let's discuss thi-"

[@demonwolf570]

@@danfoxdude Mother: "I bet they got hit because those damn phones!"

[@cyruswang9354]

@@danfoxdude attempts to initiate Socratic dialogue at a BLM riot

[@gangamel5979]

Alternate Title: "How to get your kids to hate you instead of building a relationship with them"

[@anthonymanzalji]

Please explain why you think this and remember that any explanation can be picked apart.

[@ArthurProMax5G]

@@anthonymanzalji Please explain why you listen to a person who is not a real psychologyst, is a member of a certified hate group and has people on his team that promote hitting children and remember that any explanation can be picked apart

[@anthonymanzalji]

@@ArthurProMax5G the burden of proof is not on me.

[@ArthurProMax5G]

@@anthonymanzalji Ok, here's a whole video dedicated to debunking his dumb ass claims kzbin.info/www/bejne/kIbdYqF5h699eMk

[@anthonymanzalji]

@@ArthurProMax5G do you have an issue thinking for yourself?

[@siguy6412]

The only thing this guy got right is “there is a lot of really bad parenting advice out there…”

[@je1342]

for egsaple his own video sorry for the gramar i am froom poland and i am getting the hang off the langwidzi

[@babyyoda7417]

This PragerU video is an example of bad parenting advice

[@3_eyed_magician]

The words "child" & "obey" put together sounds extremely awful, its not about following rules, its about humiliating your perceived subordinates solely for your ego. Thats called opression

[@livlyfe3272]

"Obedient wives are happy wives." "Obedient slaves are happy slaves." Does this guy realize how abusive and out of touch he sounds?

[@frank8917]

Holy cow

[@babyyoda7417]

Yeah, it sounds a lot like things like that, kids are not pets, or slaves, they’re human beings, and we should still give them great respect

[@Chris_winthers]

A mindless worker is a happy worker

[@Idkwhatimdoing_]

your basically raising a submissive, unconfident, and potentially anxious child all so you could sleep better. utter BS.

[@hypnozpie4071]

they want their kids to be slaves instead of actual people lol

[@ggen3934]

Sub and dim kink starter pack

[@Idkwhatimdoing_]

@Polite Comments On Current Affairs of course there should be boundaries in place, after all it’s still a child. but commanding your child to do exactly what you want them to do without explaining exactly why is simple closed-mindedness. in what way can you develop both as a parent and as a person when you can’t even consider opposition or criticism even when it is your own child. additionally, using the stereotypical authoritative method emphasized in the vid doesn’t encourage respect, it encourages resentment, shutting down or at least discouraging communication. yes absolutely, evoking authority can shut your child up at night, but at what cost exactly? your child’s mental well-being? parents are a child’s way in expressing emotions and their views and when that’s gone there’s nothing to do but to disregard all emotions eventually exposing psychological/mental issues due to never having enough time to acknowledge such emotions. children shouldn’t be taught “what to think” rather “how to thing” otherwise your depriving your child’s ability to independently and critically think in replace with a child that blindly abides authority even when it would be considered wrong to do so.

[@mastersonogashira1796]

@Polite Comments On Current Affairs lol I love how you goes around try to defend a stupid video

[@enzoforgets9456]

I can confirm this, i am very much unconfident AND anxious due to being raised for a long ass time

[@inachang5394]

psychiatrist: “just say because I said so, short and sweet” The parent: but why- psychiatrist: *because I said so* the parent: okay. fine

[@margiedenavarre7919]

August Hi he did say the reason why that is a proper answer. He said explicitly that it is because this establishes your authority in their lives. We do not need children arguing with us when we tell them not to run into the parking lot by themselves. Maybe you need to listen to the lesson again yourself.

[@timgomolka644]

@@crookshanks1454 but there's a time and a place to do that. At the immediate time of giving an instruction you want it carried out without argument or explanation. The explanation can come later on.

[@alistor1213]

Because I said so is the weakest excuse you could possibly make. it's a perfect example of the appeal to authority fallacy. It's utterly hollow.

[@theexistenshield]

aaand that'll be $300 ... but why if it is $100 per hour? yes but I consulted three people: parents and the kid why do you charge like that? well... we haven't learned much today yet, have we? let's book another session...

[@kalkithekilla2290]

my dad said that to me once then I broke his ribs

[@Ark4nin3]

Idk man, I wouldn't take advice from a "psychologist" that says that ADHD doesn't exist lol.

[@CatchTheMarmosets]

And that is anti lgbtq lmao

[@Ark4nin3]

@@CatchTheMarmosets Wow a Prager U endorsed spokesman who is anti-LGBT. Now the weather.

[@mizukana]

From a self proclaimed psychologist that thinks that no mental disorders exist, is part of a hate group and knows people who think that child abuse is ok

[@IsiahM]

@@Dragnulls You don't have austism or ADHD because I said so. You're welcome.

[@plaguedoctor1188]

@@Dragnulls same! i am not diagnosed with adhd but maybe the cure to my autism was just not having it!

[@jeremykrane4855]

*35 years later* mom/dad: i took *very* good care of you were little! why are you putting me in a home!? son/daughter: *because i said so.*

[@haskeymorrison]

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

[@bubbabluehorn]

I find my teachers who are the nicest and less strict the most respected and listened to. But they do punish you if you do something wrong.

[@randomfriction7231]

When I was in school that wasn't the case, the teacher everyone loved and was the nicest didn't actually "teach," anyone she would do some people's homework for them. Then on the flip side the teachers everyone hated forced everyone to learn, wouldn't move on until she was confident everybody understood what she was teaching, and the only reason I ever caught up with math. She was very nice but strict and children need that.

[@sadmanpranto9026]

My school had different types of teachers. Some were gentle, some were prince of terror, some were discipline fanatic, some were compassionate, some were straight up dictator. All of them used to beat the crap out of us when we did something wrong and only if we did it because we did it not because of a mistake. We students don't hate them, we never did. Yes we were angry at them sometimes but that's part of a good relation. I've passed school 5 years ago. And even if we see any of them in the street, we greet them with respect and have a nice conversation with each other about how the school is doing now and where did i ended up after school. This happens with. All the teacher. That getting beaten in school is like a happy memory to us students. The punishment disciplined us, made us morally strong and conscious about the consequences of our actions. They too knew that just yelling at us or insulting us won't do any of that to us. We were that much ignorant.

[@randomfriction7231]

@@sadmanpranto9026 Well they completely failed at educating you considering you can't write and you support communism.

[@sadmanpranto9026]

@@randomfriction7231 Current studying Computer Science in a prestigious University. There might be some grammatical mistakes which should be excusable considering the fact that English is not my first language. And the Commie symbol in the profile picture is a running joke in my friend circle (started as a way to tease one of my commie sympathizer friend). So basically your reply is just as empty as Bootes void.

[@randomfriction7231]

@@sadmanpranto9026 Touche.

[@ElShmiablo]

As an certified ECE (early childhood educator) I can verify that literally everything in this video goes against good parenting and is on no way based on any sort of sound scientific reasoning. Keep up the good job, PragerU.

[@Uuuuuuuuuhhhhh]

"Because I said so" never worked on me when I was a child, I always questioned it and said that's not a proper answer.

[@vgpharaoh1344]

and then he'd suggest the parents beat the kid for daring to think xD

[@Olivia-W]

CheradineFans Yeah. When a teacher did it once I went "why? Your rule makes no sense." and the teacher just blew up on me in anger. I tried my best to be nice and cooperative, but in the words of another asshole teacher, I seemingly couldn't "shut up my genius." The idea is sound: being firm, calm, and setting appropriate boundaries, but the execution is somewhat lacking.

[@Meeko58]

That is definitely not always true. I was obedient because my mother was abusive. Everyone complimented her on how well behaved I was, but truth was I was scared to speak or do anything due to a good beating at home, or being tied up and forced to stand in the corner for hours, or being forced to stay in my room until I am spoken to. I was a very quiet, shy child due to loads of anxiety. I didn''t speak my first words until 3, and I hardly spoke a sentence until around age 6. The teacher who came to evaluate me for kindergarden thought I was a mute, autistic, or slow... and told my mother not to expect anything from me, in other words, I won't amount to anything. Fast forward to today and I can speak, and I have a masters degree while my mother never even graduated high school due to her narcissism and thinking she is better than anyone and doesn't need a diploma since she has life "experience". The same person that decided it was healthy to keep me locked up in a hot car while she drank at the bar until her friends complained that I could die in the car from the heat so she started leaving me at home just to make her friends stop harassing her over me. I hit depression at age 12 and had no one to talk to and almost committed suicide. Not all disciplined children are happy children, that is a dangerous notion. They might be utterly abused to the point they cannot speak more than two words, if even that.

[@ispilloil]

Thank you for sharing your experience. This video is dangerous to future generations. I believe slavery has caused most of the generational trauma in the US, and this video is not helping to reverse that. That's why I love that gentle parenting is on the rise. Children are not lab rats, they're people

[@Thechillilover]

Youre a bit wrong here. "That is definitely not always true" More accurate to say that its not true for almost a 100% of cases

[@lizasaakadze5411]

I want every parent to watch this before they have kids. Listen carefully, Take notes. Congrats now you know how NOT to raise your kids.

[@cookiemocher388]

"They had us in the first half not gonna lie"

[@spongeintheshoe]

Wouldn't count on them realizing that they were meant to take this as an example of what not to do.

[@ThatOneDude521]

Alternate title: how to make your kids hate you and never want to speak to you ever

[@thesrilankanguy3652]

Or turn them into murderous mental zombies.

[@crapposter8201]

@bananapalmtree The game was rigged from the start. For them authoritarianism is when government does to them the same they do to their children.

[@briantimotiuspratama2151]

Or how to make your kids put you into an old folks home to rot

[@dwarvenmoray]

I literally don't see the problem here. What is wrong with this? I was raised by obeying my parents & doing what they said, & I love them with all my heart. They always made it clear that they loved me. I don't see the problem with this style of parenting.

[@crapposter8201]

@@dwarvenmoray bro you need to see a shrink

[@yayyo3226]

This is literally, and i mean literally, the worst parenting advice I have ever heard.

[@yipyip3173]

Totally

[@Shyftus]

The amount of likes this video has is concerning. Poor children.

[@supermetanix4988]

THIS VIDEO SUCKS

[@NewWaveEnthusiast]

@@Shyftus I came here to laugh at the dislikes, jesus christ I'm disappointed.

[@ScaledAnd1cy]

100%

[@davysauseslayer1294]

This video is great for parents who want their children to come out of school like in a factory, all coming out the same. Depressed, anxious, antisocial, and prone to conspiracy theories.

[@bedrock30_]

This is abuse. Only do this if you want your kid to cut contact with you the second they move out of the house.

[@DanQZ]

46k likes vs 6k dislikes? The comments tell a very different story... if there really is a silent majority of people agreeing with the things said in this video, it gives me a sense of dread not matched by much else.

[@fantasticbeast9962]

These are the people who need to be reached the most.

[@cheydinal5401]

No, it's just that most people who watch this happen to be PragerU supporters. PragerU is well-hated by many on the internet, but still the vast majority of people who bother watching them are genuine conservatives, not lefties who hate them

[@mcd4984]

Their following is basically a hive mind, they probably liked the video before getting a quarter of the way through it

[@spongeintheshoe]

I guess most people who would see the problems with this aren't watching PragerU to begin with.

[@TheDragon4775]

It's probably because prageru fans think that he's right 100% of the time.

[@wpown7564]

I have a feeling this dude was just abused by his parents when he was a kid and is projecting because he internalized the belief that no child should ever be able to have fun or feel like they have any self-worth because he couldn't.

[@gforce97]

a lot of boomers were raised this way and want to raise their kids this way because they went through it

[@TheVibes101]

Honestly why not work towards making the world a better place by raising kids better, the way ACTUAL psychologist instruct instead of this absolute malignant shit funnel spewing garbage in this video? I don't really get that mindset of "If my life sucked yours has to as well. Instead of just projecting your own hurt you experienced as a child onto your own kids, why not let them have a better life? I'm not a parent though and I had a healthy family life, so I don't know how it feels to be abused or what goes through a parents head when they abuse children.

[@chiko4536]

@@TheVibes101 hes just got that NPC logic, he just needs some kinda backstory to be a villian

[@arpansaha2111]

@@TheVibes101 I think he thinks that the kind of parenting he went through is the right kind because he never saw anything better

[@TheVibes101]

@@arpansaha2111 Yeah, it's quite sad when you actually think about it.

[@michaelthebishop5290]

The real title should be "How To Get Your Kids To Never Talk To You Again After They Turn 18"

[@ozymandias3329]

Fun fact, this guy isn't even a psychologist.

[@valnoname]

he studied community psychology, but he doesn't even have a license and has been criticized several times for his bad takes also community psychology has jack shit to do with the ways to raise a child

[@ezbody]

I doubt anyone at PragerFU has a degree related to the topics they "teach".

[@duolingobird8196]

hes a columnist and author nota real psychologist

[@TherealSpacer-yi4ir]

He should be in prison

[@megachad6916]

@Stanky Tree also he sited "sources" as just people who's science and beliefs have been debunked

[@ToxicSocks24]

This is actually quite useful advice.. Just do the exact opposite of what this guy has to say and your kids won't hate you.

[@ΝικηφοροςΚιροσκα-υ4ν]

*"Because I said so"* That damn phrase.

[@thesaroscycle_archive]

@Scott White Who doesn't? If you're above even 9 or 10, this statement instantly communicates "I can't think of a reason for you to listen to me, so I'll just spout a few sounds and hope you listen." If a child is mature enough to understand, and there is a reason for what you want them to do, *freaking tell them.*

[@Chimpanzaayyeeaaahhno]

@@thesaroscycle_archive Yeah, you cant just fcking assert authority because ur the parent. thats how you make ur child hate you. You should be big and mature enough to have honest reasons. Fit the shoe god gave you

[@roykong7024]

@@Chimpanzaayyeeaaahhno Please don't expect this from 5 year olds, they know it's bad but they just don't care, when they show they have matured then you stop doing that FOREVER, and start using higher reasoning. The change is very important, some parents never change to use reasoning, some parents started off with reasoning with no real foundation of authority

[@jimjames8660]

Sergeant - "Do not walk over there soldier" Soldier - "Why not , it's less muddy over there" Sergeant - "BECAUSE I SAID SO" Soldier - "But your not the one who has to clean my boots late...BOOM" Sergeant - "Because saying there's land mines over in the drier ground takes too long...."

[@mattesyl33]

Have you noticed the title of this, or maybe watched it. This is how you deal with a kid. Even with older children you should NOT need to explain yourself. You are the parent, the child is going to think like a child. They can not understand the full reasoning behind "Keep your room clean"(for an example). If you try to explain that you are teaching them to be responsible, they WILL NOT GET IT. The brain can not fully comprehend ADULT ideas until the individual has an ADULT BRAIN. An 8, 9, 10 year old will NEVER think like an adult, nor will a teenager. Their thought process is too much based on the now, expecially now a days. Generally, you WILL be wasting your time, and will definitely be inviting an argument. We as parents should NOT be our child's buddy, we SHOULD be the authority on rules of the house. #1 Make the rules and the punishment well known. Then if the kid breaks the rules, they chose it. They knew everything ahead of time, and there's no miscommunication. Therefore zero reason to explain. Children NEED structure to become adults that are welcomed by most in society. If you want to raise a jerk or a future criminal, then go ahead, keep allowing you KID to argue over the rules and responsibilities they should be following. Just because you didn't like hearing, "because I said so," doesn't mean it didn't work. Grow up, this is not about YOU. This is about being a good PARENT to your CHILD!

[@Uhhhhhh_Idkman]

I would always argue that "because i said so" isnt a real response, but I WOULDN'T argue when my mom gave me an actual good explanation

[@crw662]

My father saying "because I said so" always led me to rebel against it.

[@Ro-wc1ug]

Fr

[@gardavexthegreat1702]

Truth. As a kid I always felt commands were out of spite or simply arbitrariness because i didn't know why.

[@zsuzsannacircleedge8416]

"The parents of obidient children are happy parents" - WOW who would have thought that?

[@maxiandrea7902]

Also, where is the proof of that, AM I RIGHT?

[@Matthew_Klepadlo]

Zsuzsanna Circleedge Mind indeed blown Left wing destroyed Shots fired Cops called Hearts broken

[@maxiandrea7902]

@@Matthew_Klepadlo really?

[@delightfullyjoyfulmiracl3255]

*obedient

[@zsuzsannacircleedge8416]

@@delightfullyjoyfulmiracl3255Thank you. I am always grateful for people who tell me how to write properly. My last failure was: "boarders" instead of "borders". I am not an english native writer so can you forgive me? :)

[@killerboypoor]

well my asian parents did not had to explain why... the stick on their hand meant authority.

[@KevinSmith-qi5yn]

Every student paid attention because the teacher had a ruler and a paddle.

[@AugustineFaithDefender]

Dileon Asia is huge, look at those folks in Middle East! How many quality job do they get except islamic political mouthpieces?

[@shadforthw3535]

Asian- as in China, Japan, Korea, (not the middle east)have education as their religion, their god. The middle east has Allah

[@bluboxes]

Child abuse isn't the answer to structured parenting.

[@iandrsaurri625]

My parents tried doing that. It worked for a couple years. However, I eventually learned I could use anything as a weapon and when a kid learns how to use anything as a weapon after the parent had instilled the value of beating disobedience out of people, the child has all the power. This is why beating your kids ends up terribly if you have a smart and resourceful kid.

[@Drewsel]

My partner works as a counsellor and she found this video incredibly useful. It's currently circling around her department so it can be used as a cautionary tale on terrible pseudo-scientific parenting techniques from fake universities.

[@iantkach6640]

“They had us in the first half, not gonna lie.”

[@adamjezewski654]

this is not true, I have lost most respect for my parents "Because i said so", i font know the correct way but this definely isnt it.

[@tikusblue]

What he's suggesting is textbook "authoritarian" parenting. It typically degrades trust between parent and child over time and damages the relationship. The positive alternative would be authoritative parenting, based on clear expectations with communication and teamwork.

[@DJ-369]

as a child if i was told " because i said so" my mind instantly goes into resistance mode and im still like that today, I do not blindly follow instructions.

[@cohco9320]

DJ your a kid. Kids that I know to think like you where usually the brats and there parents where push over. It was hard for me to tell who was the parent, them or the child.

[@liobu3097]

DJ Do you really think your parents would command you that will cause you to be in a bad place? No! This is why the ten commandments exist.

[@jordanh9668]

@Yujiri finally, someone in the comments that understands

[@BlaxeFrost-X]

@Yujiri you know that obeying is not everything and you have to educate your child? you could teach them to trust only certain people, not everyone, and with time, when slowly becoming adults (teenagers), you can guide them to make the right questions "is it worth it to obey? is this person try to hurt me?" at that age, they'll understand

[@cream1955]

@@jordanh9668 No not exactly. By saying "because I said so" the child would want to know what the actual reason is for which his/her parents are making him/her do or not do a work. Andit's better if they understand it on their own.

[@neatoburrito9045]

Should be titled “How to get kids to never call you once they move out and abandon you in a nursing home the instant you say you need using the restroom.”

[@englesledgehammer]

I have never before seen a face so ravaged by gravity.

[@isaiahromero9861]

Conservatives: in a world of sheep, I am a wolf Also conservatives: raise your kids to be unconditionally obedient and to never question authority

[@darakin2219]

As a fellow conservative, his ideas are whack, dont mind this crazy idiot with no psych degree, constant bad takes, 0 sources, and the only person with an actual psych doctorate got it from an unrecognized seminary. This dude is not a gold source

[@goldenfeather3687]

Mmm yes constantly obeying people will TOTALLY get you far in life.

[@bigmad6791]

@@goldenfeather3687 it could if you play your cards right

[@Pacdad9998]

Also also conservatives: DO AS TRUMP COMMANDS

[@orcashamudeluxeu567]

@@darakin2219 Modern day politics has devolved into staying in the nice comfy echo chamber, and not entering the loud other echo chamber. tbh as someone left leaning, its hard but needed to look to the other side sometimes.

[@Sathrandur]

The most important key to parenting is consistency in my opinion.

[@cringelord9568]

Sathrandur I agree, I hate when my parents will flip out on me for leaving my stuff in the living room (which I'll have to come get and put them away) but then expect me to clean up all their half-drunk Tim Hortons and constantly fetch stuff for them.

[@stegokitty]

Hmm, so consistency in constantly explaining things to your kids is important? Yeah. Mm-hm

[@yrm1594]

stegokitty What are you talking about? He never said that. Consistency sets expectations very clearly

[@william_SMMA]

My parents are going to pretend they didn't see this

[@ArthurProMax5G]

So constantly hitting your kids is key? Damn, I didn't know

[@gerardofede6922]

*my mom* : Gerry, please can you bring me that thing? *me* : no *my mom* : so... you choose death.

[@chidoman1595]

You will die braver than most ...

[@MAGA47-24]

Damn!!!

[@boatsandhoes4381]

My favorite was "Since you asked so nicely ..... No!"

[@Mathwayb]

Oh man that gave me a great laugh. Thanks.

[@ezioauditore9922]

this is Golden hahahaaha

[@jacobkimble9413]

I'm a strong Christian and conservative. I am also VERY dissappointed in PragerU for uploading this. Children need to have healthy (not fearful) respect for authority, AND they need to be taught to think for themselves. There's literally no reason why both of these things can't happen.

[@x-popone6817]

​@TheFrostyPhoenix How so?

[@capncake8837]

0:09 No, they just say they’re happy because they’re obedient.

[@wurttmapper2200]

Also it would be weird for happy children to have a pattern of disobedience

[@tikusblue]

Also the children may be obedient BECAUSE they are happy, and because their parents take time to understand them.

[@TomorrowWeLive]

Actually, speaking from personal experience, "because I said so" had the exact opposite effect on me- it made me determined to to be as disobedient as possible.

[@TomorrowWeLive]

We should treat children like future responsible adults- independent people with rational minds that just haven't quite developed yet. "Because I said so" is the "might makes right" response of a tyrant. Force is not an arugment, and dominating your children through the exercise of arbitrary power outrages their (actually keenly developed) conscience and sense of fairness and justice, and brutalises their burgeoning independence of thought and will. We shouldn't expect blind obedience from them, or hold them to a standard we don't live up to ourselves. Being a hypocritical tyrant is the best way to make your children hate you. Again, I say this from experience.

[@robert123ro]

Actually, no method is 100% successful, there still is a free will factor, as well as other factors. But these principles are good. Sure, it depends on HOW the parent is saying "because I said so" , what kind of a person is he (a model is more powerful than words), how is his the relation with his kid and what else he provides to the kid besides authority. Unfortunately, most people cannot imagine authority AND love. They think authority equals tyranny at all times, so they strongly oppose that and the result is anarchy and changing the society on the basis of how someone feels or get excited.

[@TomorrowWeLive]

and?

[@conorbyrne7474]

Tomorrow We Live True but there is different circumstances and different kids sometimes one way or the other works or a bit in between works but in any case there is a time for obedience .

[@robertargent8475]

Carlo Valente > Implying that fascism is inherently totalitarian Haven't read anything by Mosley, I'll bet.

[@coochieinspector3258]

“Don’t get on the child’s level” Lmao when I was 10 I was the same height as my mother already 😂

[@spongebobplushiestuff8612]

14 and I'm taller than my mom

[@hedgehoginacanoe5838]

Only short one in my family is my grandma rest are big so 17 I beat my mom

[@coochieinspector3258]

@@spongebobplushiestuff8612 same 😂

[@AzixxSeraph]

ｘD me too

[@empiricalpanzervii1556]

not unusual

[@lizard9876]

WE GETTIN PUT INTO A RETIREMENT HOME WITH THIS ONE 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@cupkin4850]

Real

[@joshuaramirez5399]

PragerU: always question authority and think for yourself Also PragerU: obey everything your parents say no matter what

[@spongeintheshoe]

Or to be more specific, raise your children to obey everything you say no matter what.

[@matthew8153]

“The more words you use...the less confident you sound” This is why I can’t stand the concept of multi-page college essays.

[@yukitakaoni007]

Matthew this make introvert the most confident people lol...

[@BlaxeFrost-X]

@@yukitakaoni007 well, yeah, when i was in school, i was respected as someone who only talks when (i had) has the right argument, and a good reason, or that knows what he (myslef) wants... i said it simple, if i have to explain myself, is because i'm not sure it's okay to do/say so

[@thewatcherinthecloud]

I remember having a math professor who faced the following essay question: "What is the hardest decision you made in your life?" His answer: "This." He got the highest grade in his class.

[@imagin.e.ternity]

@Scott White economics 101: Market works like this supply>demand=low perceived value Supply

[@noskalborg723]

Preach it

[@jIguess]

“Just beat it!” -Every parent in the 1980s

[@thekrunchysponge6490]

Also that’s what he said

[@a_businessman]

As someone with ADHD, this would utterly destroy my relationship with my parents.

[@spongeintheshoe]

Note that this guy doesn't believe in ADHD.

[@ultrajorge]

"as someone with made up disease I would wah wah cry cry cry im the victim, im so fragile!" that's why we are going to conquer your country in the next century.

[@losalphaenterprises]

@@spongeintheshoe Wait, are you serious? In fact, is HE serious?

[@spongeintheshoe]

@@losalphaenterprises “First and foremost, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder is not 'real' in the same sense as leukemia or diabetes. The latter can be objectively verified and measured. Not so with ADHD. It is a concept, nothing more. No test will reliably identify it. The diagnostic criteria are entirely subjective. Therefore, a person diagnosed as 'having' ADHD does not 'have' more than a diagnosis. [...] All that being said, the behaviors that define a diagnosis of ADHD - short attention span and its cascade - are indisputable. Given decades of research failing to definitively identify a biological cause, the most likely explanation lies with a combination of environment and maleness. People so diagnosed, and especially parents of ADHD children, tend to have a knee-jerk PAR (pronounced agitation response) to that suggestion. Therefore, falsehoods rule.” As for your second question, it's hard to say. He's not actually a psychiatrist, but I don't think he's being sarcastic.

[@losalphaenterprises]

@@spongeintheshoe That makes me sick. My sister has been struggling to get good grades for years due to her ADHD, and he's like: "Yeah it's her fault". He should be kept far away from being a psicologist

[@quotemock]

"The more words you use to communicate your expectations the less confident you sound." This is why everyone hates politicians.

[@TheFan630]

James and why Trump sounds so appealing: Simple words for simpletons

[@TheFan630]

aussiebear22 aussiebear22 found the salty, hardcore Trumper. I don't wonder why he won, only lefttards claiming his minimal chance of success do. There's a difference between using simple words and words sparingly. Reflect on it for a moment.

[@aoli8142]

Also why people like Trump: The first politician to talk with words a toddler can understand. Not that I really like him. But it's true. Film Theory said so too.

[@decutthroat]

I agree with this thread. People don't care about politics for three major reasons; 1) they don't understand politics (politicians use too many words) 2) politics bores them (politicians use too many words) 3) they don't think their voices are heard Enter Trump, who speaks simply, invokes emotion (good and bad), and tells the American people their voices have been heard. It's why so many of us, myself included, voted for the first time ever in 2016. Whether people want to debate his politics, his racism/sexism/xenophobia/Islamiphobia/what-he-puts-on-his-steak, or not, it cannot be debated that his "not a politician" approach to politics is what got him elected. Also, for added relevance to the video, has anyone thought about his choice of words? We *will* Make America Great Again. Mexico *will* pay for the wall. He speaks with authority and confidence. This is why he appeals to older generations, that remember what it's like to live in a nation that valued the rule of law. And why he is resented by millenials, who were led to believe that being told what to do was the same thing as being enslaved. DISCLAIMER: Though I support the POTUS, I am not going to debate Trump's standing as a president here. This video is not about our POTUS. APPRAISAL: I applaud anyone able to stay on topic while using our President as an example.

[@notallthatbad]

As others have said, this is why Trump has appeal. He doesn't smother you with lofty, pretentious double-speak and double-standards. You know exactly what you're getting with him.

[@TTheDDoctor]

As soon as a child learns critical thinking, _"Because I said so"_ translates to _"This is completely arbitrary."_

[@abardini]

literally was thinking the same exact thing XD

[@gotgunpowder]

Yeah, exactly. Speaking from experience, "Because I said so" just made me think my parents had no good reason to make me do anything, so I never listened to them. You need reasoning, or your kids won't take you seriously.

[@alexanderwhitehorse8934]

developed a critical perspective a bit too early myself

[@xxxXLopesXxxx]

Unfortunately most kids don't actually have good reasons not to obey their parents in most cases. The advice on the video is for stubborn children who refuse to obey elementary stuff such as put your toys in the box, go wash your hands, it's time to go home etc. Still, "because I said so" is indeed not a good reason to obey someone from a rational perspective. I say that if the kid is intelligent and comprehends what the parents are say it's appropriate to give it the explanations. But I don't really know anything about actual parenting.

[@TTheDDoctor]

+Pedro Lopes Intelligence and comprehension tend to imply a child understands critical thinking, so... thanks for agreeing with me? XD

[@is44ct37]

"Why waste time say lot word when few word do trick" -Prauger U

[@bryanruiz1874]

@Epic Dude 69 Kevin malone said it from The Office

[@ianrobinson4210]

They see..

[@joeschneider3894]

😂🤣😂😂🤣😂

[@TheScrowlingFender7]

"Because I said so" becomes "I was just following orders."

[@joemelara502]

I disagree with saying "Do as you are told because I said so". As a child I grew up being told those words and now as a father I refuse to use those words on my children. As a parent you should not be afraid at being questioned by your children. Explaning yourself creates a greater understanding between you and your children. I teach my children to question everyting but at the same time be respectful and respect other peoples opinion even if you dont agree with them.

[@barchetta575m]

There's a time and place for an explanation. If your kid is refusing to complete a simple task early in the morning before going to school, are you going to spend the entire morning going back and forth with them, and why they need to stay on task for their sake and yours? Fo example-- "Jennifer, you ask why? Because I am asking you to do it, simple!" She may roll her eyes at you, however, if you deliver it with confidence and a sharp tone, she will do it and both of you will not be late to work/school. Later that night you can go over what her responsibilities and expectations are every morning and if she has a problem with them, you can listen and then she can listen to you. There's a reason the military creates individuals with strong character and why institutions such as Air Force Academy and Naval Academy want students that are capable of following commands on the spot without questions and with a wide scope of understanding for the respect of higher authorities.

[@papahajek5383]

So, hypothetically if your child is standing in a busy street, drinking a poisonous substance, or reaching for a poisonous reptile (I won't go on), you would have him or her question you as to why as they continue or what. In Christian beliefs the basis (beginning) of wisdom comes from the fear of God. Then, as we mature we begin to learn the background of the commands and gradually gain a deeper understanding of the why's with that comes a more adult relationship. You can't put the cart in front of the horse. The tail can't wag the dog. These are just 2 of many sayings that point out that a proper sequence of events is critical to success.

[@emmytweetie2177]

barchetta575m being a stubborn kid 'because I said so' confused me and I started asking why a LOT more, but I actually gained from the experience.

[@sparrowhawk5673]

papa Hajek , Your explaination reminds me of the method of loving fear my parents used to raise me and get me to obey: "Do what i told you to or get a spanking"

[@papahajek5383]

That approach worked well in my day. Now I see my own grand children losing privileges or earlier on, being given time outs. I can see where corporal punishment became less popular because of spankings or worse being administered in a rage of anger. I still believe that the parent's responsibility is to be fair and just in choosing their methods of discipline just as they are careful to properly show affection. Both should be done consistently and with explanation when possible.

[@nixthelapin9869]

"Because I said so" actually made me argue more... I always liked to hear the reasoning. Just so I know they have good intentions. If the kid asks why, then tell them, but make sure they know that they have to obey, especially now that they got their reason.

[@alexlloyd9201]

agreed. I think the "because I said so" should be used after you've helped them understand the the reasoning, and when they still say no, then you say "yes you will, I said so"

[@garciajon117]

A conversation about the fact that you're not going to tell them to do something that is bad for them and that it is best for you to have a relationship of trust so that when you tell them to do something, they know they will learn why by doing what you told them to do. And if they do it and still don't quite know why, they can ask after the task is complete and you will help them understand. But children and teens are not stellar examples of reasoning and critical thinking - when they want something, it usually doesn't matter what the explaination is because it won't trump their desires in their mind... so sometimes "because I said so" with the backing of your authority and consequences for defiance will have to be all that stands between your child and the electrical socket (toddler) or hanging out with their drug addicted friend (teen).

[@allegeddevil1956]

no, kids always ask and then enter a emotional state where reason does not work, kids will understand afterwards once they have calmed down, believe me

[@metro_5017]

Child: why? Parent: because i said so Also parent: its a simple spell, but quite unbreakable

[@bruhidk3069]

Lmaoo I hated when my dad said that though

[@NotBigSurprise]

"And why do you say so?"

[@BlaxeFrost-X]

@@NotBigSurprise **changes the topic and hastes his child, dismissing his question**

[@thedugdugman45]

I'm not gunna do it cause *i* said so

[@gavinmaretzki6675]

"There's a lot of bad parenting advice out there." Actually, no, it's right here. Seriously, "obedient children are happy children" sounds like a straight-up cult chant.

[@l-DrFizz-l]

Because a relationship based on mutual respect is too much effort?

[@Godconsole]

Ha, in my Latino family we rarely disobey or else we get the sandle

[@Godconsole]

@Neris Velasquez no NO!!! Not the chancla

[@roastedpie4496]

Get the tsinelas

[@sergioiglesias6783]

In Portugal it's "Chinelo" same effect.

[@bigestman3625]

En mi casa usamos la "varilla"

[@noice2606]

Chancleta

[@kevinroberts9580]

Parents try to be their child's buddy instead of a parent. I dealt with this with my second marriage which came to me with three kids. I would tell the kids one time what I wanted them to do and they would do it or they would have consequences. She would tell them the same instruction 25 times and then get mad and fly off the handle. She told me once, the kids always want to do things with you even though you punish them quite often. I said because, kids need structure and you don't give them any and you are their mother... I am their stepfather and they respect me more than you

[@SquashDaBeef]

Kevin Roberts or scared of you

[@kevinroberts9580]

Meh yeah, that's why they always wanted to be around me and go and do things with me. I taught them all to shoot archery and took them on camping trips all the time and we had a great life. You go ahead and be your child's best friend I will be a parent and lead by example

[@SquashDaBeef]

Kevin Roberts it's not about being friends. Yes they enjoy spending time with you as you did cool things with them. But they're obedient from fear and not respect. Enjoy.

[@SquashDaBeef]

Kevin Roberts were you the military?

[@kevinroberts9580]

Meh no they do not fear me you don't know me at all so keep your holier than thou opinion to yourself. Not going to respond to idiots anymore on best thread

[@marionette7738]

My parents did this to me, I was NOT happy it actually screwed me up in the long run, i felt like I had no free Will to listen and was not able to do things for myself

[@josiahnguyen8792]

Can't help but wonder if these critiques are from people who actually have children. I have 2 kids and I totally get it. There's a time for explaining things, and a time for obeying authority, depending on age and circumstances. It's not about just blindly trusting any authority out there, it's about trusting authority FROM THE PARENTS, who have their child's very best interest at heart, unlike other forms of authority in this world. The basic, "Because I said so," should not be used in anger or frustration, but is only sparing the child from long, drawn-out explanations of things that are beyond their understanding anyway. It's saying, "Trust me, honey." This isn't to say that children are too stupid to understand, it's that they're not MATURE enough to understand. If you have a 5 year old and you tell them to clean their room, to which they reply, "why?", and to which you say, "B/c I said so," it's totally appropriate. They're too young to understand that's it's because you want to teach them responsibility for their own space, as well as instill in them the importance of cleanliness and hygiene. As they grow older and have the capacity to understand and see the fruits of your parenting, then you'll be able to reveal the WHY behind it, so that they can use this method on their own children one day. The lesson here is tried and true, and this video is spot on.

[@terraformingthesubconsciou7131]

Tuan Nguyen trust me honey is still better than just 'because I said so.'

[@haruki5360]

youngjnick it's actually depend on the tone. In fact my mom used to use that kind of sentence in my native language ofc, never think my mom is an evil person or tyranny or anything like that.

[@SquashDaBeef]

Tuan Nguyen it's not really "their own space" if you're dictating how they have keep it. It would be better to explain why keeping things clean is important and agree together how often it should be cleaned.

[@mendistudio]

Well said. As father of three I totally agree. It’s a matter of trust and respect for your olds. Children often get lost in explanations they wouldn’t understand anyway.

[@SquashDaBeef]

Diego Mendi so a kid should trust and respect you because you're older?

[@Smith-re6jq]

This is more like how to get your average adult in the work place to listen.

[@knackfornonsense4959]

Lol ya

[@filthydegeneratescum1522]

Smith3025 cattle prod

[@00coyote60]

that's why I watched this

[@abbysaito5348]

Adults in the workplace are ironically the same as kids... Lol

[@lukewood2662]

If you use this method on both places, you get both to respect you.

[@Breadlord87]

“Don’t treat your child like a human, that will teach them they are a human”

[@anotherpersonfromnorfolk1587]

"How do you make your child obey" If this is a question that has ever crossed your mind as a parent, maybe parenting wasn't the best choice for you

[@johnathanhass7413]

Middle school music teacher here. This video is how you get kids to obey, but definitely not how you get them to think analytically or trust you.

[@fernandaabreu5625]

The video also didn't tell us how to get children to eat vegetables.

[@powers6253]

Yeah. Adults need to set clear rules but they need to do it in a way that teaches kids how to follow authority for the sake of order and they're own wellbeing in the long-run and think for themselves.

[@BlaxeFrost-X]

That's probably because they are becoming less like children, they are becoming adults, they are teens, not childs

[@BlaxeFrost-X]

@@powers6253 i would think like game designer, and make rules that challenges the child to think, like a puzzle, example: "You can do 3 things, cleaning your bedroom, doing your homework or (whatever you can think of, i'm not a parent yet, nor a full-fledged adult) and if you do more than one, you'll recieve more than one prize (whatever your child ask for) So the child will have to decide how to use their time, how to use their energy, is the prize worth it?

[@ToniM10]

Noooo!.. Trust comes from LOVE!!!.. And if there's ANY Love u have for children as a Parent or a Teacher.. U will discipline them... As adults they will respect u and love u in return for that....

[@bitterwork959]

As a 16 year old in his sophomore year of high school, I find the response of "because I said so" to be extremely binary and simplistic. If the goal is for your child to just obey their parents every word, then yes maybe that is the correct method. But I found that once my parents explained themselves, they were usually right. My parents disciplined me by instilling morality into me. They taught me what was right and what was wrong, and I mostly made my own decisions from that point on. Oddly enough, my decisions often aligned with their wishes because of our shared idea of morality and what was right and wrong. I'm technically not being obedient, since I'm not obeying anything they tell me to do. I'm making my own decisions and taking consequences for my own actions; My parents are just there to guide me and set me on the right path.

[@papahajek5383]

At 16 your parents have expanded your boundaries. You might still have a curfew but it's gotten gradually later. If you're driving there may be rules concerning the use of the car. School grades are still important, but A's and pictures aren't on the refrigerator any more. Obedience to loving parents is a very light burden to the child. It is just returned love.

[@kostasz7z]

Well then i hope you are a religius person and know God exists (yes you can have knowledge if you have any clue what DNA is) because if you dont then you are paranoid because morality doesnt exist in a secular material reality. Statistically speaking im betting in you being paranoid since the majority of people are blind ignorant fools who think that nothing exploded 14 billion years ago.

[@whitepatriarch1708]

Parenting at 16 is not the same as at 4... This World is not all about you

[@Mo-jy7zs]

Obviously by 16 you'd be able to explain things to them because they should already know you're the authority if you did this when they were little. Jesus people, you need a step by step handbook on what n what not to do?? My parents were strict and I'm thankful for it, I'm doing a lot better then people who had shitty parents.

[@ri3m4nn]

You're more articulate than most 30 year olds.

[@johnrickard8512]

When I was a child, I never accepted the "because I said so" argument. I would pester my parents until they gave me a viable explanation(and this usually worked). True, you can pick apart an argument, but you're not teaching your child how to hold a logical debate if you can't bulletproof your explanations to the point where every counter-argument can be debunked. That being said, it is definitely a good idea to make your instructions and explanations clear and to the point; otherwise, the child will not understand what you want.

[@Sorain1]

Honestly, it is remarkable how unfair any argument between an adult and a child is. You should be able to crush a child without effort, because you are an adult. If you can't, either the fact's don't back up your argument, (Then you have a _problem_ don't you!) or you have a crappy reason to give that order/rule and need to rethink it. If 'Because I don't want you to get hurt.' doesn't cover it, then you should be able to give a coherent explanation easily.

[@user-td3uj8is5i]

This advice is for little kids, not teenagers.

[@cyruswang9354]

@@user-td3uj8is5i then whys this guy using vietnam war torture methods that are no longer legal on 5 year old girls that are probably mentally ill. Seems a bit far fetched

[@abdiabdi3225]

@@user-td3uj8is5i it doesn't matter because if anything that would encourage me push even harder and harder back they didn't stop me from questioning they stopped me from trusting anything they said until I have checked it myself or hide it until I can't

[@GeneSimmons-ol3kb]

As someone who grew up with this parenting style, albeit to a lesser extent, I constantly have problems with telling people no and setting boundaries which have led me to the point of self harm. If you are a parent, please don't do this.

[@jaywish2822]

3:13 my parents said this all the time and i just always answered "im not going to do it because i said so."

[@architjain8715]

I would have been thrown out of my house for this. 😅😂😅

[@nymusicman]

I would have been hit for saying something like that. Spare the rod, spoil the child.

[@bobybimberbod8500]

@@nymusicman my son got hit by his grandson for saying "because i said so" one to many times, this was after he gave up on the belt and throwing toys away

[@lokei1326]

@@nymusicman doesn't mean they'll be obedient.

[@shaneoblack1672]

Whenever my parents said "because I said so" I would always reply with "That's not a valid reason." I don't know whether I was a smart kid or just an asshole. Point being I hated being controlled, I could figure out what was right and what was wrong. I could at least tell I wasn't stupid and willing to obey without question, because that takes away free thinking.

[@pie7057]

Just goes to show how children have changed over time. The "because I said so" reason is actually a pretty good way of showing your child that you are the authoritative figure in the relationship. Over time, as a child gets older and is able properly to understand something like a reason to clean his room, then a brief reason can be given after the child has cleaned his room. This way, after they have done what they need to do, the child will now understand why he had to do that. If he argues, you now can probably show the results of a clean room. The idea of free thinking is still there. Your parents are your parents, not your friends. Of course, they should support free thinking, but that doesn't give a child the right to become disobedient. Giving a child free thinking could be in the form of solving problems, or being creative. Although it is right to question some things about what people tell you, if it is as harmless as cleaning the room, then maybe an explanation isn't needed at that exact moment. In my opinion, giving a child too much free thinking to the point of allowing them to consider a parent as their friend, rather than their parent, only gives them room to then disobey other higher figures. This can probably lead to disruptive children in schools who demand an explanation at the simplest of tasks or maybe a child who is able to think rationally, finding a way to balance respect and free thinking. But of course this is just my view on things and I actually have no experience with a child. I also just realized I've typed a whole paragraph as a comment, something I never thought that I'd do. I enjoyed it so I guess that's all that matters. A discussion is also something I enjoy doing, so you can totally open up if you don't agree. I'm pretty iffy about somethings here as well, I learned the opposite of what he is saying from online parenting websites.

[@janky477]

God I wish I did that. I could have had my free thinking at a young age, but I was too submissive.

[@dodopson3211]

@@smokingcrab2290 an argument from authority is actually a fallacy, especially from scientists. Scientific facts &results can and should speak for themselves.

[@steverliu1886]

I also appreciate understanding “why”. As kids grow older I believe this is important, I believe the context of the video is referring to younger children.

[@eeveegaming4798]

You were smart. Always question authority.

[@thepiggyprophet]

Remembering when I was a child I used to hate when my mum used to tell me "cos I said so" after I asked "why?".... 🤣 In my mind I was thinking "that's not an answer, there is always a reason for all"....

[@BlaxeFrost-X]

i know, right? just because of mere luck my parents don't like explaining themselves, it worked with me until i was knowlegable enough to guess their reasons, and they wouldn't explain or argument with me, so i started disobeying... At some point in life parents have to understand that their child is growing and becomeing everyday a bit less childish, so their behaviors as parents has to change accordingly

[@CNcityera-yt6oi]

Remember kids, when an authority figure tells you to do something, just do it. Don't think about it. Don't question it. Just do whatever they say. No matter how strange the command. I can't imagine how that could go wrong.