How to Get Rid of Unwanted Fetishes (cuckold, trans, femdom, etc.)

[@Traceur2008]

Thank you for the video! I developed a fetish because of porn and had it for many years. Now, after 9 months of porn-free I noticed that I am attracted to such things much less! It motivates me to keep going.

[@joebrat6809]

I feel the same way, I had a massive relapse in december but been hard mode since then, i was porn free for about 7 months after a 10 year unwanted addiction that had me suicidal and with a sexual identity crisis. Now i find a lot of those fetishes gross and disgusting and i definitely wouldn't want to do them in real life. But screens can be very deceiving because you have no real person in front of you.

[@heiltecn9ne]

Thanks for sharing with its very motivating

[@sharatnair6069]

@@joebrat6809 same here i have a femdom addiction. Is not going away. What to do?

[@ankithg3101]

Thank you for this video. I had reasearched a lot on this paraphilias and found that i need to stay clean for atleast 5 years to stop the obsession to act out in that way. Previously it was so daunting that i had to stay clean for that long when im hardly clean for 3 days. I had to accept the fact that this is going to stay with me for life, but just because i have these thoughts I don't have to act on them and enjoy vanilla type. This has helped me changed the way of thinking and to not get triggered easily cos ive accepted that I can't indulge in that thought and just move on with my life.

[@sirsobrepensador]

Good video. I had some fetishes that developed years into my porn problem that I used to get off to all the time, but now I’m innately disgusted by them like you talked about as if my brain has gone through a reset. That crazy thing is I haven’t even quit porn yet, I just consume it less often and when I do relapse it’s on standard vanilla content and that’s the way it’s been for a bit. I still am committed to quitting but this was a good reminder that I have made a lot of progress. I find that the longer I stay away from porn entirely, pretty much all the unwanted fantasies quickly began further dissipating until all I want sexually is to be intimate with a beautiful woman. Turns out I’m naturally most into I used to call basic and vanilla lol

[@ArnoldFreeman-n9g]

Similar to me. I went 60 days last summer and few 2 week periods. I’ve change to vanilla solo porn, I feel in some ways thats helping. Like replacing the drug with a slightly healthier drug because watching anything with two or more people habing sex makes you a cuckold, this activates the envy brain circuit and its not good for your mental health to sexualize your envy brain circuit. Soon I’ll quit the porn altogether

[@noahb.e.church]

Thanks for sharing!

[@intelligentspeculator7327]

Great video-analysis and advice. I think the subject of fetish porn does not get enough specific coverage in the NoFap/NoPorn community, possibly because it is such a shameful taboo. However, if guys are opening up about their porn addiction/PIED, then I believe there is no point in keeping any topics off the table and they should just open up. I would even dare a guess that fetish porn addiction *may be the main reason* of PIED, greater than PMO to regular porn. Fetish porn gives you much stronger thrill, it's more shock + disgust, more taboo and excitement. It messes up with the brain much much more than regular porn and it conditions you away from real sex. That was at least my case. All my life I thought I was either asexual, or simply very weird when it comes to sexuality. I only learnt about porn addiction and PIED about a year ago, from Noah, Gary, Gabe, etc. and it immediately *all made perfect sense* . Maybe half of porn I watched was "regular", "normal" and half was some kind of fetish. Anything, with just a few exceptions, the more thrill, the better. I always had an OCD personality, with tendency to obsessiveness and digging into something, so it was a bad mix for porn addiction, as you can imagine 🤦‍♂ And I got quickly bored of one category, so had to switch, then at some point going back, and so on. If I had only known how much damage I was doing to myself and that the solution was as simple as quitting porn completely... Please keep spreading the wise words 🙏

[@sharatnair6069]

@intelligentspeculator7327 exactly same here. Cant get out of my femdom addiction. What to do?

[@intelligentspeculator7327]

@@sharatnair6069 Yeah I know this one too. Ironically, in real life I would never allow anybody to have any power over me, but porn is like another universe. Anyway, although I can't say that I'm fully rebooted, I do not have urges any more and porn starts to disgust me. You have to decide that this behaviour is no longer part of your life, any porn, especially any fetish porn. Then you have to endure. Don't give up after relapses, I've relapsed many times, until I gained control. Nobody is going to save you from this fight. Meditation helps a lot, it made me stronger. Don't look at women on the street or gym, train yourself not to look. You have the power over you, your weaknesses only control you if *You* allow this. I know this sounds like spiritual mumbo-jumbo, but it is true.

[@noahb.e.church]

Great comment, thanks for sharing your story! I'm glad you found this info and were able to put your life on a different track.

[@akf6511]

Excellent Content !

[@PunchPerfectPlayer]

porn free 2025

[@splitfries69]

u mean being dumb for no reason 2025

[@jerrywalace2897]

💯

[@tonysaborio1150]

Thank you for this. I bought the book in hardcopy on Amazon.

[@purpose6113]

IMO karezza is the magical fix to all of this. Great vid Noah! Do you think the sissy p. genre is becoming more mainstream?

[@noahb.e.church]

A lot of niche fetishes are becoming more mainstream because of their easy availability and mass audience desensitization.

[@prismatic1239]

Trans Porn was number 6 on Pornhub’s top 10 most viewed categories. Sub-genres like sissy and femboy are definitely up there in popularity too. So yeah no doubt.

[@heiltecn9ne]

How can you differentiate the difference between porn induced desires and otherwise? I imagine some of those genres could be porn induced or ones that stem from a younger age that we maybe aren’t aware of?

[@noahb.e.church]

Generally if during your early porn use or fantasizing you gravitated to that desire, it's probably innate. But if you only arrived there after many months or years of PMO, it's possible to be largely porn induced. There is often a degree of crossover of course.

[@heiltecn9ne]

Thanks for your response and your great content. I appreciate how you talk about such difficult and often taboo topics and articulate your message so well.

[@_Trakman]

I cannot relax enough. But I had SA at 2 years old

[@TheKarkian]

Can romantic fantasies or thoughts (not sexual) delay the progress? Sorry for my english :(

[@noahb.e.church]

I wouldn't worry about that, as long as you're not spending an amount of time fantasizing that it gets in the way of the rest of your life.

[@_Trakman]

I can’t go one day without

[@jimpim6454]

Yes... Join SAA online groups or physical groups and get help. It only gets worse...

[@sharatnair6069]

I am from India. A severe femdom addict had a slap fetish since childhood which turned into femdom now. I am trying a lot . Can i ever be normal? Pls reply

[@noahb.e.church]

As I described in the video, it's likely that you can greatly reduce the extremity of your desires, even if the core remains a part of you. There's nothing inherently bad about that core desire however.

[@sharatnair6069]

@noahb.e.church actually i dont get the arousal for vanila i only get hard to femdom thats the problem

[@gavinmontague7170]

Hello Noah b church I was wondering I’m on day 25 of no porn and for some reason I feel terrible. I feel fatigued my anxiety is up and I feel like I’m just stuck in a big brain fog and I can’t find joy either in my life right now. could this be from porn withdrawal? And if so how long can withdrawal last. Thanks

[@noahb.e.church]

I'll answer this in my upcoming live stream! kzbin.infoG6v4q5Ghq7E

[@Tonyredgrave0727]

You are in a flatline brother, it means your brain is healing. It is sexual exhaustion, trust the process

[@Howling-at-the-moon]

Desires that are rooted in an early childhood experience, if they are lessened by doing semen retention, does that mean they are actually a paraphilia? Thanks in advance.

[@Andrew-xx1fv]

I've noticed many fetishes have subsided since giving up porn, but also so has overall sexual desire/libido. Is this a transition phase?

[@MarculEnie]

In my experience, I am interested in a loving, trusting relationship. Lust is no longer a part of my being.

[@noahb.e.church]

There are multiple possible explanations for that. You may be in a temporary lower period of libido as is often experienced during recovery. Or it may be that this is your natural healthy state, and your sense of libido was artificially inflated before by addiction and constant novelty from Internet porn.

[@cosmicprankmusic]

Great video!