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@alexandergrace53506 жыл бұрын
Just a reminder that the name of the channel will be changed to Alexander Grace very soon. I will be changing the format of the videos but I won’t be returning to interview women on the street. When I do interview women, it will be in long form discussion format. I will also experiment with talking straight to the camera. Lots of changes. I understand some people want a return to the old interviews but it won’t happen because it got boring for me. I want to go into depth and make content that is intellectually challenging. There is nothing stopping you from grabbing a camera and heading out to the street yourselves, go for it. I’ll even link people to your channel. I do ask that you now come to terms with the fact that the channel has changed. While I understand you might be disappointed, I now ask that you quietly exit and watch different channels rather than complain about how this one has changed. From now, if all you do is post negative comments complaining, I will consider it trolling and remove the comments because I want the comment section to be a place for genuine discussion. Thanks so much for all the support from people who like the new content, it’s been great to get personal emails from people who like my work. I’ve got some changes coming that Im very excited about and I’m sure you will enjoy too.
@KurtHernandezDunls6 жыл бұрын
Damn, I just commented that It'd be good seeing some Bali woman with the same questions!! lol But I will support this channel as I know you are trying to actually help. Haven't seen a vid I didn't like or get some insight from. Keep it up, mate!
@DoubtingThomas3336 жыл бұрын
Just some feedback, can you mirror your videos and turn on echo cancellation or room correction with your mic?
@KurtHernandezDunls6 жыл бұрын
XGoldenPhoenixX Spot on👌 ... The girls just get hate on in the video regardless what they say. You cannot change the hardcore minds of some.. Instead of hating, maybe we should just acknowledge our faults and find answers!....
@XGoldenPhoenixX6 жыл бұрын
Kurt Cumming. Yes I agree! And that's exactly what he's doing with his new videos, which is great! The ones who complain are not interested in anything really, but to complain about women haha
@The_savvy_Lynx6 жыл бұрын
People are so resistant to change its ridicolous. As if you would try to intentionally make your channel worse. I'm sure 99% of the complainers will like your new content as much, if not more, than your old content. If they give it an open mind, that is. Me personally, I'm stoked and cant wait to see what you are currently brewing up. I'm sure it will be excellent either way! Cheers from Germany ~Andy
@princesspat52393 жыл бұрын
I like this video. When I started dating my partner, i asked him what his sexual preferences were and he was pretty feminine and hesitant to say what he wanted. I'm really submissive and I knew he was really dominant but hadn't discovered it for himself. Naturally, me being really submissive made him take the lead and now he loves it. He admitted to me that he felt like he was using women if he did that and it was wrong.
@ben6591 Жыл бұрын
Yeahhh it's awful how sex is so taboo. Sexual education is essential and it's literally human nature. It should be spoken about more
@nickem65568 ай бұрын
This is equivalient of i forced my girlfriend to do other hole because i knew she wanted it, we did it only in that hole every time until she started to like it. You are psychopath.
@tudorrenegade70524 ай бұрын
We need more women like you.
@JakeSibley-ql9sq20 күн бұрын
I got one that did the same for me. I was always good in bed and did plenty of things but always felt like it was disrespectful because my dad's prejudices as it turns out he doesn't know a damn thing about women or sex and is incredibly insecure so he just made an excuse yo hide it.
@devoncarter37664 жыл бұрын
I love these back and forth videosbecause you ask the questions that the viewers ourselves are not able to ask in the making of the video
@1man2manynotes4 жыл бұрын
Never heard someone explain this concept so thoroughly. The irony is fascinating
@caffemocca88554 жыл бұрын
Irony?
@mindflayer03193 жыл бұрын
It actually sounds gross. Like revolting.
@Juubelimies3 жыл бұрын
@@mindflayer0319 What sounds gross and revolting?
@mindflayer03193 жыл бұрын
@@Juubelimies The whole thing.
@nathanmountford77683 жыл бұрын
I honestly and completely disagree that violence and sex are connected. It is also true that soldiers found themselves becoming physically aroused during intense physical struggle for their lives and felt EXTREME hidden guilt and PTSD... this also does not make sexuality and killing linked/associated merely because chemicals (I’m a veteran). As I understand it, the association of these two are actually the profile used to characterize rapists and this is why movies depicting violence and sex together are ban from movies in Australia, as I understand it. I would highly caution this train of thought and encourage a thorough investigation with professionals before offering advice to men on the topic.
@JohnLannholm3 жыл бұрын
One of the reasons blindfolds are fun is how they allow the blindfolded person to be more in-the-moment rather than anticipating based on what they are seeing. Take away sight and the other senses become more poignant I enjoy both being blindfolded and experiencing a partner's enjoyment of being blindfolded. I suspect a lot of BDSM and other sexual things work this way: people have reasons to enjoy doing them to someone, to enjoy having it done to them, and to enjoy the other person's enjoyment
@kenandrieling58853 жыл бұрын
Most women like to be dominated. It has nothing to do with my insecurities it has to do with feeding her desires
@mystisith39842 жыл бұрын
🎯 This so much! As a sub I don't want an insecure Dom who flees his emotions and fears and will vent his frustration on me. I want a confident Dom that is well in his skin, with control AND self control, not a self conscious ticking bomb that could blow in my face if I look a bit too much at his love handles! From my point of view this is scary and a big red flag. Be relaxed and confident and I will trust and follow you. If you're not there yet, seek a therapist and solve your problem. Then we'll talk again later.
@blueyzblue63912 жыл бұрын
@@mystisith3984 Ikr!? The fearless self-confidence and take charge attitude is where all of the appeal lies. That's what brings out the woman...the feminine submissive side of a female. A woman Needs to be shown who's boss. And that natural polarization is what makes it work.
@ocho81722 жыл бұрын
Excellent!
@TheTektronik6 жыл бұрын
I love the concept of your channel keep up the great work.
@alexandergrace53506 жыл бұрын
Thanks Methane. I appreciate the kind words
@jamil14185 жыл бұрын
man, i just discovered your channel a day ago, and i must say , the work you're doing is fabulous. You really have a gift to explain psychology, so clear !! thank so much for the work , you've made me understand so much !! gratitude and respect from france ! keep it up !
@lou-salomearlandis37425 жыл бұрын
im from france too
@guyfromostrava6 жыл бұрын
I think you can switch to just talking to a camera now...
@duaynedaniels19966 жыл бұрын
Seminko no. This is what makes him dope.
@universeofopulence4 жыл бұрын
.....well he eventually did..
@qx4n9e1xp4 жыл бұрын
No, I like this format.
@micaarzur4 жыл бұрын
Yeah IKR, it was funny the first time 😂
@thechoadic99642 жыл бұрын
He should do one where he is talking to a shampoo bottle while taking a shower (Censored from the waist down, obliviously)
@MrAddex5 жыл бұрын
You spoke a lot about the dominant side of things. Now I'm not quit your target audience, as a gay and very submissive man who likes to step into the more feminine role in relationships, but I think I can speak to a lot of what most submissives get out of this whole experience. DISCLAIMER: As already mentoned a few times in the video, BDSM is always about the individual. Everyone will have different expectations and experiences. Talk to your partner about it *a lot*, if you think about trying this out. **Aspect 1: Rules & Trust-Building** (and also an exercise in communication) While it might not be entirely intuitive at first glance, it's all about trust and safety. Not always in the immidiate acts themself, but on a bigger scale for the whole relationship. For the submissive, the ruleset is the safety net, we let ourself "fall into your hands" and whenever we feel like we're falling too far, the safety net is there to catch us. The common ruleset is basically "Safe Sane Consensual" and the (often two) safewords. I'll explain it shortly(look up more about it if you're interested) Safe is rather obvious, what is being played out should not lead to longterm harm or anything worse. (medical complications or death, also keep mental health aspects in mind) Sane means, all agreements are made while you're not intoxicated and ideally wide awake and aware. Sure, you can be drunk or on drugs when you actually play it out, but it's always a good idea to talk about it first while you're sober. Consensual, well, I don't think much needs to be said here. And the two safeword system is so the submissive can always clearly communicate whenever something that is happening does not sit right with them. Safeword 1: Hold it, we need to talk about something I'm not totally comfortable with. Safeword 2: Stop everything, I'm extremely uncomfortable with what is happening and I want to stop. (Often also involves the request to get someone out of bondage/cuffs/bindings.) Also one common system is the trafficlight, which is often used for quick communication about suggestions. Grean: "I like what's being suggested, you may do that to me" Yellow: "I'm unsure about the suggestion, maybe we should talk about it or go into more detail" Red: ""Definitely don't do that to me, I'm not okay with that" Now here is why it is so important. In most cases of BDSM-Scenes or similar kind of intimate interaction, a submissive will give up a big part of their autonomy to their partner, and depending on what agreements have been made, all their struggle or denial that is not communicated through an established safeword might be disregarded. If that is agreed upon, that is fine, and can even feel very liberating for a submissive. You can pretend to be fighting against whats happening to you and/or enjoy playing out parts of a rape-fantasy So at this point the submissive has put a lot of trust into the dominant partner, hoping to be treated well or mistreated in the agreed upon ways. And if the dominant partner acts within the rules and quickly reacts to any used safewords, even if the submissive partner has been uncomfortable with something in the shortterm, it will reinforce their trust in the dominant partner. The kind of trust that is built this way can last way past a played out scene and enrich a relationship on a very deep level. And I hope this has made it very clear for everyone: Do not ignore the rules you agreed upon. You will break the trust within your relationship, and this will definitely follow you past the playtime/scene. **Aspect 2: Pushing Boundaries & Self-Discovery** This kind of environment can act as a safe space for a couple and especially the submissive partner to push or be pushed in/past their boundaries. We are often not sure how much of a fantasy we really want to translate into the real world. Many things have to be experienced before you really know how you feel about it. It is very common that a submissive wants to be pushed past their zone of comfort, see how far they are willing to pushed, maybe find that they enjoy something a lot more then they thought they would. Quite often it might even happen that at first the submissive still wants to deny having enjoyed something, maybe because shamed of it, but there might be other reasons too, and they will have the easy out to say "I did this because my partner pushed me to do it, I don't think I want to do it again" and after that take all the time to need to work through your feelings on it. Maybe you'll want to do it again, maybe not. Maybe you didn't like it at all, but are still glad to have made the experience. **Aspect 3: Pleasing Your Partner** I know this does not go for everyone, but quite a few submissive people just deeply enjoy being the target of their partners desires that can't be acted out under other circumstances. There are people out there who will gain happines from the knowledge that they have made you happy. So please, dear dominants, if that is what your sumbissive wants, it's okay to act absolutely selfish for that time, without guilts and doubts.If needed you can reciprocate the favour later (during aftercare). There is still a lot to be said about how this can be used to strengthen a relationship, the reciprocal mechanisms that can be had through this. e.g. a "homemaker" might like to submit to the dominant partner often to reciprocate for all the effort of the "breadwinner". A traditional relationship with a bit of a BDSM twist. There are definitely people who would feel fulfilled in roles like this. Maybe a video about this would be a good idea? Find a (or a few) sumbissive women to ask questions about this. (I mean, I'll also be happy to answer questions, but as a man myself, that's maybe a bit beside the channel topics? Maybe not, I'm not entirely sure.) Cheers~ (I didn't proofread, I hope its fine)
@bertille193 жыл бұрын
Gave me more insight...thankyou
@TheHelladood2 жыл бұрын
Yeah...but, like...Wouldn't you rather have a partner who wasn't a sadist? Who got-off on SEX and NICE, GOOD things? Doesn't sadism seem anti-social and pathological? SOMEtHING that needs to be healed rather than indulged? A guy feels powerless all day...THAT'S A PROBLEM. Resorting to hurting another being for feelings of power and validation to COPE WITH THIS PROBLEM...seems pathological to me! So, like...don't you feel at all like supporting and indulging pathology is a sickness itself? I Apologize. I AM A Little bitter here. These are honest questions that no-one seems able to answer so far. They just get angry and avoidant.
@QuinquetPourpre2 жыл бұрын
@@TheHelladood you can like both, and be well rounded. What Alexander explored is why it's even more appealing in some situations (when someone usually feel powerless and all). Furthermore the dynamic leader/follower is really interesting, especially for building trust. Not one role have it easy, you may think the leader have it easy, but there's a big difference between being a bad and a good leader. And for the follower, giving in can be tough. Once the setup is done tho, it makes things much smoother, a democracy of two equal votes is doomed to face constant status quo.
@TheHelladood Жыл бұрын
@@TIOLIOfficial old coment. I assure you I watched the video. Care to elaborate? I don't just will-nilly say things just to say therm (or type, whatever.) Tell me what is stupid about my comment and I can try to explain to you how it relates or why it's relevant. I don't evern remeber what the video says. No need to be bristle-y friend.
@amriksinghtziripouloff86279 ай бұрын
To be dominent wile caring for the woman well being is one thing, to want to hurt or humilliate a woman is a criminal tendancie manifest by Sadism in bdsm wile avoiding going to jail . What is told here is garbage that can take you to jail exept if the masochist is a client paying to be hurt and humilliate and doing so is self-arming: hurting oneself to suppress a bigger psychological pain. That could lead to worst.
@doesitmatterwhoiam88382 жыл бұрын
Mix tenderness with dominance, and I will be yours until the end of time.
@obsideonyx76047 ай бұрын
The Noble Savage
@mikeexits2 ай бұрын
@@obsideonyx7604Not quite. But, kinda? If you hold a specific lens of perspective, yeah that sort of makes sense as a phrase. But as an idiomatic expression that phrase doesn't seem entirely appropriate here.
@louisc67436 жыл бұрын
Keep up the good work and do what you know is right. Don't worry about the haters because they will always be there
@ruralsquirrel51586 жыл бұрын
This was fascinating to learn about, thank you. I had no idea the subject was so complex. It seems to me, from your analysis, that a woman who is willing to be a submissive is showing a level of understanding, empathy, respect and love on a whole other level. Or they're just plain nuts.
@Floandrews Жыл бұрын
youve gotta watch the 'my non leather life' channel - it's fascinating
@EternalAzhrei6 жыл бұрын
I feel like once we get into the descriptions of individual kinks there's a lot lost in the name of exploring fears. Yes, safety is important, but you've forgotten the voluntary nature and how THAT is what is turning on these men; how a woman's enjoyment of the specific acts, not just lack of fear or willingness to let a man dominate them is an important driving factor. For instance, you list the gag as being safe because it means she can no longer criticize him. Your exact words are, "Well, you can imagine that that sort of thing would appeal to a man who fears that women will criticize him. If a man's frightened of what a woman might say about him, what better way to establish a feeling of safety than actually removing her ability to speak." But there's nothing in there that turns him on if he's looking for her voluntary action, her enjoyment of the gag. A more productive agreement would be for her to promise not to speak, yet people still use the gag. There has to be something about the gag for her to enjoy in order for him to be aroused, something from her side. For a second example, you discuss the blindfold and list it once again for safety, when in reality many people enjoy the blindfold because it creates a very spontaneous and teasing atmosphere. If one partner cannot see exactly what is about to happen, the other partner not only has more control but also has the opportunity to be creative and tease, heightening the acts and the relationship. It provides enjoyment, and thus fulfills both the safety AND the arousal. So half of the equation is missing in the observation if you solely look at the specific examples from his side. Could you do another video on why her side is exciting to her and why they work well together naturally, or something similar? After all, safety is where one CAN be aroused, but safety is not the thing that arouses, enjoyment is.
@witcheater6 жыл бұрын
And your comment proves his point. You are seeking validation... even from this video. But this video is not about validation, but it reads in your words that this video is about you too.
@EternalAzhrei6 жыл бұрын
I never said it wasn't about validation. = P Goodness you come on strong. My point is that it isn't JUST about fear, because healthy relationships aren't just about safety, they're about positive growth together. And seriously? If my words read about validation, then yours read about trying to step on others. Take your idiocy elsewhere, bud. Enjoy the only reply you'll get from me on this, you're not worth any more time than this.
@witcheater6 жыл бұрын
Ahhh... so you choose the victim mentality to protect yourself. From you I do not expect any time at all from you, it was you that needed to validate yourself by responding... then like a girl you chose to claim a faux closure by that I am not worth any more of your time. That is so cute, but it is not anything a man would do... that is, being cowardly. I do not come on strong so much as you are weak... a pussy. Do not waste your time dealing with the reality of others, but do take the time to correct your weaknesses... your fears... your feminisms.
@CallofWar56 жыл бұрын
EternalAzhrei I get what you are saying, it isn't only about fear but I don't think Mr Grace thinks fear of rejection would be the only motivation in that particular example of gagging. He is just giving a possible reasoning for a certain inclination. The purpose of these discussions is to open the door to self exploration and legitimize male sexuality. He is doing a huge service
@EternalAzhrei6 жыл бұрын
Fair enough. He doesn't think it's just fear, he's simply outlining how the fear propels someone to that action first. Thank you for explaining.
@bonnie3937 Жыл бұрын
I love that my husband is dominate. Not in a mean way, or demeaning. Strong and passionate.
@xanpops34605 жыл бұрын
I started this video before leaving by car and i was so confused because the voices of the interviewer and the guest were the same.
@drunkendragon1820026 жыл бұрын
If you would like a idea to switch up, perhaps display the questions /argument on screen with text and you speak to the camera and reply. You can also add pictures and music to provide immersion and atmosphere. Not being critical, just trying to be helpful.
@martinsaunders79253 жыл бұрын
At the risk of reducing complexity to simplicity for those professionals in the sex therapy trade. An incompatability of perversions is a leading cause of relationship failures. Given that the overwhelming evidence for sex among all life forms that engage in it is for reproduction, not pleasure,makes a large percentage of us perverts. So choose wisely
@carbondioxide72393 жыл бұрын
This just helped me a lot. I am a grown ass man,confronted with a girl that wants to submit so me on a level I couln’t handle. This video was my bdsm 101.
@StaaaaNzHD3 жыл бұрын
Your a coward 😂😂
@the-based-jew68723 жыл бұрын
@@StaaaaNzHD not really. When you get metoo'd don't cry too hard in court 🤣
@youtoo22335 жыл бұрын
You're exactly right! My my wife and I were very sexually active When We Were Young and eventually she got to the point she didn't want to have sex at all so after about two years of no sex we were talking about it and of course once again she was rejecting it so I became aggressive with her and start kissing on her neck aggressively and doing other things and she kept saying stop why are you doing that I told her to shut up and she eventually got quiet and began to enjoy it and next thing I know she was begging for me to be in her it may have been the best sex we had ever had
@mattbabb.4 жыл бұрын
You Too wow good thing that story had a happy ending haha
@Floandrews Жыл бұрын
@@mattbabb. was thinking the same thing lol
@VivoVivo-un5zj18 сағат бұрын
@@mattbabb. Happy ending 😂
@financialbuttplug7606 жыл бұрын
The whole interviewing yourself was cool once or twice, but doing it 50x times is kinda weird. Don't you have a friend and just give them the questions to ask you?
@nobobonobo6 жыл бұрын
nigga it's cost efficient
@joske78046 жыл бұрын
Blast From The Past i like this format a lot.
@DrTrickyBacon6 жыл бұрын
delete this comment please. these are easily his best videos
@financialbuttplug7606 жыл бұрын
Saul Silver nah lots of people seem to agree with me. Get a friend to ask the questions.
@DrTrickyBacon6 жыл бұрын
Blast From The Past youre getting an ego because your comment got 24 likes get aids. these are his best vids
@Andosier6 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the insights into all of this and giving me a basic framework to understand why my sexual partner is into so much of this yet it has little effect on my interests. Something I can now talk about with them easier.
@alexandergrace53506 жыл бұрын
Exactly what I wanted to achieve. So glad it helped.
@andre_karavia3 жыл бұрын
Can you pleas explain the psychology of dominance and submittion of women ? Especially why some women want to be dominants
@grell51083 жыл бұрын
Speaking as a switch, I love the idea of seeing a big, strong man kneel before me. The power gives me a high. I love hurting people and seeing my marks on them. It's a possession thing I guess. I also have a feminisation kink. Basically forcing a macho man tao wear female clothing and makeup and I'd call him things like pretty pet, little sl*t etc. (consensually). It's thrilling to control someone that powerful, men tend to be bigger and stronger than me so to get them to the point of begging, seeing them submit to me and seeing how I hurt them is a sort of trophy. I did that, I defeated him, I brought him to his knees.
@blueyzblue63912 жыл бұрын
@@grell5108 Please seek Help.
@grell51082 жыл бұрын
@@blueyzblue6391 nope, already got mental help. And kink isn't a mental or physical illness, so how in the nine hells could she have "helped" me. The only way something like kink becomes a mental illness is when someone displays a disregard for their own or others' wellbeing (usually end up in jail) or they dislike the thoughts they have (intrusive thoughts). And since I have neither problem (technically I have intrusive thoughts about being buried alive, but like I said, I got help) in my kink life I don't in fact need it. And the psychologists seem to agree. And there is also the fact that studies show kinksters generally have a better level of wellbeing than their vanilla peers.
@blueyzblue63912 жыл бұрын
@@grell5108 Lie to yourself if you want.
@grell51082 жыл бұрын
@@blueyzblue6391 hhmmm, so the psychologists are lying, I am lying, the science is lying... Mmmm, have you ever thought that _you_ may be the one who's lying. Or at least have no idea what you're talking about.🤔
@keirankainth3 жыл бұрын
Had a BDSM experience as a Master/Dom with a submissive chick and it was one of the most liberating, powerful and enthralling experiences of my life. Every Dom needs his Sub.
@lorihaskins97892 жыл бұрын
Lmao really
@keirankainth2 жыл бұрын
@@lorihaskins9789 Yes. Now a specialist in providing Master-sub sexual experiences to females looking to explore their deep inner feminine submissive side. Never realised how many females actually do crave it.
@doesitmatterwhoiam88382 жыл бұрын
Every sub needs a Dom. Unfortunately, most the men I know don't have balls to do it.
@grell51082 жыл бұрын
@@doesitmatterwhoiam8838 what, for being a sub? Eh, I know a couple of em. And do remind yourself that being a sub is sometimes scary and lots of men feel like they can't express that side of themselves. Of course it's going to go a bit slower
@doesitmatterwhoiam88382 жыл бұрын
@@grell5108 it was liberating to be a sub too, get to express my vulnerability, to simply be able to ask what my dominant wants (I usually want to please my guys anyway, it's nice to just ask). I love it when I can trust my dominant to make the best decisions for both us, that is so relaxing for me, because I don't have worry about all these things I don't like to think about. I love it when he treats me like a beloved child, with tenderness firm but gentle. I once had a dom like that and I loved wearing his collar. God, I miss him.
@TheSexHealer2 жыл бұрын
This is a good video. I like that you interviewed yourself! 🙃
@Isam1133 жыл бұрын
I'm a guy and I like being submissive, but I don't feel powerful in my day to day life, it's more of the opposite so how would you explain me ?
@vishnumoorthy81143 жыл бұрын
What a handsome man. Many girls can fall for this masculine blue eyes and chest hair
@benwismer91645 ай бұрын
Having children is a huge transformer of energy from the woman to the child. Thus her cup must be kept as full as possible. The man is the one who fills her cup. She wants to express her love to the man and our bodies know that submission is the ultimate give to the other. I believe both partners have that ability and it goes hand in hand with the ability to dominate. This mutual give and take is an expression of oneness and this makes a woman very fertile which is her end goal. Basically by domination and submission the pair can trade enough energy back and forth that you are both now made of the same stuff.
@JonathanCarterSchall5 жыл бұрын
It's 04/19 and this is, maybe, the fourth vid of yours I've watched. I needed to hear this. I haven't been intimate in almost nine years, and I can't take it anymore -- I've got to get out there and find someone to dance with -- your thoughts on these matters is what I needed to hear.
@deepfriedsammich3 жыл бұрын
So, it's a great theory about why men have the fantasies that they do, but now explain why a books like John Norman's "Gor" series or "50 Shades of Grey" are purchased and read mostly by women.
@HannahKosoff3 жыл бұрын
I think its because its from the view point of anastasia
@peke18224 жыл бұрын
That's exactly the explanation I have been searching for. I couldn't explain myself why some men find this arousing and are actively looking for a partner who would accept this kind of practice. For dominant men out there, I would like to know if you actually know why you like this (before this video). If you consciously know about the insecurities or fears that the video shows?
@evanwave Жыл бұрын
I love this video I always come back to it
@CallofWar56 жыл бұрын
It's so true that our sexual desires reveal the truth of our beliefs. For those who are self aware their is much to learn from this self examination Seems to be the same few people who think they have the right to constantly complain about how you do your channel, and tell you what to make. I feel like many of them just want to hear their worldview confirmed over and over again. Alexander I love your channel and your particular method of creative expression. Do whatever man I love your content.
@alexandergrace53506 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother, much appreciated. I feel I could be more popular by confirming existing belief systems but it would not be authentic or satisfying. Thanks for the support!
@ashishkaushik17906 жыл бұрын
Mr. Alexander...I am absolutely loving all the critical analysis with all the scientific facts . This series on male sexuality is ABSOLUTE GOLD Trust me on this one...Here I find such wonderful content I don't find anywhere else. Keep it up !!
@alexandergrace53506 жыл бұрын
Thanks Ashish glad you like it :)
@dalitshiv8343 жыл бұрын
Acha
@chrisw73476 жыл бұрын
I somewhat disagree about pornography ,as a very regular consumer of it for over 20 years. It's not uncommon for me to encounter a woman in a porn video who isn't enjoying herself on the most mainstream porn sites, in videos that are presented as completely vanilla porn, that is to say non fetish/kink videos . I'll often see a video where it's clear to me that the woman is in pain, but says nothing and pretends there is no issue to finish producing the scene. There are many more videos where it's suspect whether or not the woman is in pain. The most common genre of porn where this occurs is the very standard and polished, Alpha male fucking an Alpha female sort of high production porn. From my eyes It makes sense to assume our current pornography industry is structured so that the woman is incentivized to keep quiet or pretend shes enjoying herself if something is painful, otherwise she may lose work, or have to worry about getting a bad name for herself as being difficult to work with. It's difficult to imagine that the power structures in the porn industry aren't toxic, would be my intuition, as well, but I admit I have not seriously looked into this topic beyond scant reading. I also suspect the treatment of women in porn has massively improved over the years, to be fair to it.
@AngelLPena4 жыл бұрын
This video is so eye-opening! Thank you!
@mirchole15 күн бұрын
I'm a woman and I will say (even if it's 6 years late) that there are a fair amount of us that do enjoy varying amouts of dominance from our men. If youre unsure of how to proceed, try holding her arms down at first and see how she reacts lol
@annileimcgregor752810 ай бұрын
I love this video, it shines a light on some aspects of male sexuality in an intelligent , clear, non judgemental way. I will be sharing this video and look forward to seeing more content from your Chanel. Well Done ✌🏻
@kumbela.2 жыл бұрын
actually i've been thinking of introducing to my husband this kind of fantasy of mine. im afraid he will criticized me, since i was recieving negative response whenever i was joking about it. This is the very reason why i was denying him of intimacy for almost 3 years now. I dont care if he is getting it outside of our marriage now. We are married for 30 years now, and has been my fantasy eversince to have bdsm even before there was a 50 shades movie. i dont where it came from but i have that kind side of my sexuality.
@mctow85545 жыл бұрын
Just when I thought I knew it all...this next level shizzle. Much respect Alexander the grate. Been watching for a while and sometimes thought you just had a chip on your shoulder even though you were right about most stuff. And then u go and psycho analise my ass
@kh-wg9bt4 жыл бұрын
I've never been into bdsm activities. My girlfriend has got me into spanking and a little dirty talk but it honestly does more for her than me! Sounds like I'm in the minority?
@mattbabb.4 жыл бұрын
Karl Humphreys give it more time. You might get more into it. But maybe not!!
@tbrown8374 жыл бұрын
I’m in the same boat man. I’ll go along with it if my girlfriend wants to be choked, pushed up against a wall or spanked but I have no interest in it. Kind of a turn off when she wants it too much but obviously don’t want to look weak haha
@Sisabella6664 жыл бұрын
@@tbrown837 don't worry about looking "weak" to someone just because you're not turned on by playing certain roles. That's the problem with making blanket statements like "all men have violent urges and are aroused by viewing violence." People in general have violent urges, some more than others, sure. Blanket statements just make people feel shame when they don't align with what is expected of them.
@amoses5854 жыл бұрын
@@tbrown837 I feel you... Should I just focus on those who like the kinda sex I'm into l? I've had the same concerns bc so many I've come across like some type of rough play and if I cant give them that or wanna do it, I feel all self conscious and worry if I come off weak. What do I do here?
@gentlebabarian3 жыл бұрын
Can just be that your sexualy blant and like basic sex. Or you never explored your fetishes.
@nolame1003 жыл бұрын
You are the best dom and you don't even know it, but I am a man and wish to be with you sir!!!!1
@vincentpham86053 жыл бұрын
Finally! Ive been looking for a video that describes this! I love bdsm and always wondered the phycology of certain kinks! Thank u!
@ctpaula2 жыл бұрын
Answering a question in the final of the video. Yes, I think that my taste for BDSM can be related with fear..
@wasblind48355 жыл бұрын
Very good information. It explains a lot.
@TheSmurfPenis694 жыл бұрын
Great upload!! Loved it!! Im at 13:54, just wanted to say- when my partner is blindfolded she reports much more feeling, like pain is much more vivid since she’s only focused on that and there is much less distractions. And gagging for me is more about not having any opinion sounded but mine.. much more dominant;)
@roberttraverso73524 жыл бұрын
Actually, in terms of dominance and submission, especially with professionals, the woman is more commonly dominant with the male submissive. In fact, there is not even a male word for dominatrix. There are a lot more adds in the classifieds by dominatrices than whatever the male equivalent is called. This is also true in porn videos which feature a lot of dominatrices. A lot of rich powerful men pay dominatrices for there services. What probably makes it kinky is that this is a role reversal of their daytime roles where the men are more dominant.
@divestedkonservativekarame42693 жыл бұрын
but who's to say you'll have that partner forever what if you lose that person and you're no longer able to act it out with a willing participant? That's why to me it's easier to just let it sleep than awaken such a part to one's self
@seanman220016 жыл бұрын
I’m skeptical of the natural inclination to rape women after a battle.. I don’t see a connection.
@ruralsquirrel51586 жыл бұрын
Personally, after battle, I'd want to go out and get shitfaced with the bros. Maybe it's my old Viking genes speaking.
@seanman220016 жыл бұрын
A freebie from a local lady may be better.. but not holding down a 13 year old while she’s crying. Depends on how you view your cause and what background you came from. Depends on the battle too,.
@yeetspageet56796 жыл бұрын
+Shawn Davie I'm fairly sure after a battle the most fucked up things can happen. You've just slaughtered all the men. You are already in a violent state and both the remaining women and standing men know anything to go forward will never be spoken about EVER again. While I'm sure many of the "rapes" were certainly as dreadful as the word implies I wouldn't be massively surprised if some of the women were secretly, or outright consenting to the act. If no one was to know that you gave into your most terrible desires would you necessarily hold them back? Just to clarify. No I don't condone rape. Rape to the dictionary definition is possibly one of the worst crimes you can commit. It takes a special kind of weakness for a man to ever commit such a crime.
@adielwilson87494 жыл бұрын
Physical arousal of any kind can lead to sexual arousal
@Gnosticization2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this video . really it answered a lot of questions that I had .
@heretostay45652 жыл бұрын
U sub?
@benigifford2 жыл бұрын
Love the bit there at about 7:30 where you explain that it's so appealing for the woman to be enjoying it because it finally validates our natural masculine tendencies, without acting like they are toxic. They are only toxic when they are applied without consent.
@christinecarrington37462 жыл бұрын
This is interesting. Also, what's the lower forms of sexual primalistic nature and whats a higher form of sexual empathetic nature? Can you combine the 2, or will it make a man feel inferior?
@mothership29172 жыл бұрын
Thank you, this helps me.
@andysmith59975 жыл бұрын
I had a woman say to me that she would be my slave for the rest of the night( wed been at it for a couple of hours by then). I said ok, I’m done I’m going to sleep, I have a busy day tomorrow,she seemed surprised so I told her that millions of women have said the same thing to their men over the years. Hey,in for a penny,in for a pound 🤪, I wonder what she’s doing now
@sbapungi15065 жыл бұрын
Just wow
@vennapermatasari87834 жыл бұрын
Lmaooo not all men loves submissive women 🤣
@redpilled48723 жыл бұрын
@@vennapermatasari8783 i love submissive women 😾
@Chrsboling5 жыл бұрын
This is really good kid. Good work!
@pyesd73163 жыл бұрын
You're a good kid :)
@tamaniraramaladygaga3 жыл бұрын
This is a very insightful interview. Thank you for your valued time to educate the mass. So appreciated!0
@divestedkonservativekarame42693 жыл бұрын
Some stuff to me is like well there's someone out there that likes to sub which is so healthy and cool that the bdsm community has that thing for everyone kind of thing
@divinicus3 жыл бұрын
Its good that you guys part your hair on opposite sides otherwise I'd confuse the two of you and not know who's who
@VivoVivo-un5zj18 сағат бұрын
Look colour T-shirt😂
@generoush38233 жыл бұрын
I feel empowered in my life but I still enjoy being a Dom
@AhmedBodhi6 жыл бұрын
I wanna start a channel like this on spirituality :)
@mikeexits4 жыл бұрын
Check out Ryan Cropper.
@StaaaaNzHD3 жыл бұрын
Spirituality is horseshit
@Globeguy13374 жыл бұрын
15:22 Power is also contextual. The most powerful man in the world in the realm of hydraulic systems integration engineering may not feel powerful in attracting and pleasing women.
@stephaniefunes43943 жыл бұрын
I'd like to give my opinion about this topic since I'm a woman and person who enjoys bdsm relationships. I can say I practice some forms of bdsm with my boyfriend and it makes me feel so connected and loved by him. It's also kind of a tabu where we come from, people is not opened minded about these stuff but I can say is the most healthy relationship I've ever had. He feels free to explore his sexuality with me, as he feels, as you said, 'SAFE' because I love him a lot and I love his ideas and we share lots of fantasies. He's the most kind and lovable man I've ever met and because of the way he treats me and loves me, I feel so happy to please him and letting him dominate me is what I love the most.
@graveyardghost26033 жыл бұрын
Great video! These things need to be said.
@motorola59 Жыл бұрын
I like the question and answer, interview type of format.
@1990ate4 жыл бұрын
I need to think about that but I think I have some kind of mindblow right now. Thank you Alexander, u r the best! 💪
@robkitchen53445 жыл бұрын
B&D is ok.... But being aroused by hurting someone or veing hurt..... Is a mental disorder..... Unless its a playful spanking over my lap.... But that's a "DADDY" issue that might need to be addressed by a professional... Or some role-playing a professional.. 😜
@caffemocca88554 жыл бұрын
I'm quite dominant IRL, or at least not submissive. I'm always the leader of my pack, and I can almost always shield myself from being dominated by anyone, even those who are in more favourable position than me. I always pay attention to power dynamics in social setting and keep my guards up. Basically I care so much about power but not about controlling other people, it's more about protecting myself from being controlled or submissive to anyone. In bed, however, I'm total submissive (though I can be dominant as well). I prefer submission so much either vanilla or BDSM terms. I favor erotic humiliation and being a submissive servant to my partner. I'm also bisexual so those things apply to both men and women. Why is that possible?
@seth_53946 жыл бұрын
Most commenters would be well to relax. He said himself that the ideas were generalizations. No two people have the exact same reason for what turns them on. Anyway, my experience has been that in my past relationships in which our intimate lives involved BDSM, it was a hugely beneficial dynamic because of how vulnerable we made ourselves to each other in expressing and sharing our kinks and fetishes. It takes a lot of trust to share kink and/or fetish desires, for ALL participants, let alone to act them out. There is one common factor that connects all BDSM play and my enjoyment of it with my past and present partner(s) is my partners WILLINGNESS TO PLEASE. For example, sometimes my partner and I will participate in a kink which is not in itself a fetish for either of us, but do it specifically for the purpose of her showing her willingness to submit to me. It is a beautiful thing shared together. Again, there are way too many psychological factors to explain BDSM participation than can be spelt out in about 15 minutes. I think this guy did a pretty good job in that time period in covering certain ideas.
@seth_53946 жыл бұрын
A cop out, lol. I would think with the name April that you're a woman and would certainly hope that you're qualified to talk about your qualifications to talk about being one. You are certainly also qualified to know what the specifics of your sexuality say about you. When you say that you think he's being closed minded do you mean closed minded or judgmental? I don't know enough about Alexander to tell if he's being judgmental. But to call him closed minded I think is incorrect other wise he wouldn't be having a discussion about it at all and trying to understand it. There are not always direct links between an individuals kinks and fetishes and the underlying cause(s) of them. But again, the relationships between the two are about the individual person and not understandable with an algorithm or reference chart. I do find, without attachment to Alexander at all, after years of experience and observation that much of what he said is accurate from an evolutionary base of human behavior and societal factors. Cheers!
@seth_53946 жыл бұрын
Ok, now I think I get what you mean about generalizing and the such. Good point. I'm not calling Alexander's points (any or all) wrong, but I get your logic. And now looking at the second part of my last post I did not articulate my thought well. Let me try this again... There are not always obvious or easily explainable links between a persons kinks or fetishes and the underlying causes of the them. For example, I've heard more than one person make a link between violence and sex in media such as video games, movies, certain genres of music, resulting in a conditioning response so that if sex or violence comes to mind then so does the other. To my mind this idea has the possibility of holding water. Things get more complicated though. For instance, one can't claim daddy issues being the cause of a person longing to bottom in degradation play when another person with same said daddy issues has degradation as a hard limit. Those things don't reconcile, at least on the surface with only a view of certain pieces of a persons life. I wouldn't say that there is a pattern because a pattern would be predictable across the board. But I think there are factors with greater weight than other factors, derivative of evolutionary needs and/or impacted by societal influences which can spark kink interest or be a catalyst for a fetish development in a person.
@mctow85545 жыл бұрын
Question....I'm with a sweet smart submissive woman who hasn't said no to any sex act yet. Should I show her this vid and ramp things up or just ramp things up??
@mctow85544 жыл бұрын
@@olivia1uk Thanks but she's already cool with it and talking might take the spice out of it. I'll wait untill I want to get really crazy with her and use it to convince her it's normal and natural :)
@lindamceachern546723 күн бұрын
Talking about their fears and anxiety with a mental health therapist would integrate the parts of themselves that they reject. It would prevent many from acting out and causing harm to others, would it not?
@bobbygoud5518 Жыл бұрын
What I noticed with my experience of women is … most women want to get Graped by the man they like .. they want man to have total control and they just want to be passenger
@nickem65568 ай бұрын
replaces most women with ALL. This is built in human nature fetish in every women, to be graped, cut, humiliated, choked. All fetishes are built among this one, being dominated, and its opposite in males, they want to stick their dick in every hole alive or not, same species or not. etc.
@Seveni776 жыл бұрын
But what about women's perspective to this topic?
@rumpleneck4 жыл бұрын
I didnt really consider degradation and dehumanizing plays a huge inti sexuality enjoyment..
@brendamaldonado33904 жыл бұрын
VERY insightful. Now tell me about why I like submission which by the way, I am ashamed to enjoy. Soooo?
@mikeexits4 жыл бұрын
I don't know anything about you, but my guess is it has to do with some kind of powerlessness against someone of the gender(s) you're attracted to at a young age traumatizing you in some way? Maybe you grew up feeling powerless and self-deprecating which, combined with that previous trauma, and perhaps sexual repression, it leads to a fetish about it. It seems to work that way in my life, though I'm actively trying to feed that neuropathway less and less because I know it's not healthy for me (might be different for other people). I've been thinking about this for a while and that's the best I've got right now.
@makaylasanai2 жыл бұрын
this was wonderful and educational thank you !
@robe.24243 жыл бұрын
My brain hurts. I wonder if I’m a psychopath or not human. I still cannot understand any of this.
@ivanerdelj2 жыл бұрын
I'm a male in my mid thirties and none of these BDSM turn me on too much. I enjoy just a regular sex - is that normal?
@kennedym2635 жыл бұрын
♥️♥️ very nice video thank you
@endoftheword28206 жыл бұрын
An interesting amount of commercials....
@karjala.6 жыл бұрын
Please make interview of other random people, the way you used to do it.
@lawshorizon3 жыл бұрын
Why not just say people like being naughty?
@summerisonthursday52394 жыл бұрын
Men should exhibit more power and force fulness I think anyway but that's only my opinion 😕🤔🙄
@StaaaaNzHD4 жыл бұрын
Yep
@vivvpprof3 жыл бұрын
And end up jailed :D Listen, nowadays a man will be reseated on the plane if he happens to have been allotted a seat next to a child. Because he's automatically a potential rapist. Power over what?
@dalitshiv8343 жыл бұрын
Jai Shree Ram💪🏼😎⚔️🚩
@redpilled48723 жыл бұрын
@@dalitshiv834 Ram Ram bhai 😂😂🚩🚩
@Walkingtour1192 жыл бұрын
the best video ever, keep it up buddy
@chadillac420692 жыл бұрын
That all makes a ton of sense
@sciencejoker66945 жыл бұрын
This is so hard to hear because it is the truth.....
@askurgirlaboutmee3 жыл бұрын
Look at my playlist lmao
@luckyp75562 жыл бұрын
My partners always afraid to make me hurt.. But I really want to get hurt!! They can't do that😭😭very gentle on bed. But out of bed they are so mean and abusive😒😒😒
@alspezial274710 ай бұрын
Did you tell your partner
@pereirakaio953 жыл бұрын
I do really conjoin to Alexander’s narrative and it is important to take extra precaution when discussing this subject around because it is to understand male nature and not to be used as prerogative for any non consented behavior. I’m such a believer that specie-wise we can one day overcome any sights of predatory aspects in our composition.
@hugster4176 Жыл бұрын
What if you feel safe no matter what?
@roberttraverso73524 жыл бұрын
How about the opposite view that men who prefer the submissive role and are aroused by dominatrices are also afraid of women because they fear rejection and are trying to integrate this into their sexuality.
@askurgirlaboutmee3 жыл бұрын
Look at my playlist you won’t be disappointed
@evolve1013 жыл бұрын
I watched this randomly and i just don't agree. fear is not a thing why some men like to dominate at all.. They just like the feeling of feeling dominant. Simple.. Not out of fear. And they can be switches also.. It's like a dance.. If some men use bdsm out of fear that's weak men. That is my view on this. A mask can be sexy.. tying up can be sexy and so on.. No fears needs to be the cause of people liking that at all. That's my point. It can just be fun and sexy you know. ;) Talk about over analyzing in this video, but its mostly your opinion so yeah, everyone has them. It's mostly a nice feeling of dominance and no fear. So yeah i don't get that part.
@Stephanie-692 жыл бұрын
based
@lovorka33212 жыл бұрын
Do you have video about why women accept and enjoy being submissive
@chachaslid33 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@the-based-jew68723 жыл бұрын
Ah, a woman of culture I see.
@blackpanther-wr7mm4 жыл бұрын
I'm a woman and I like being the dominant one. I guess I'm in the minority.
@osamatass11744 жыл бұрын
How to spot someone like you?
@basil-li1jw4 жыл бұрын
Same here
@Globeguy13374 жыл бұрын
2:17 I have heard that women search for and watch that stuff more than women. I don’t recall the source, but they were citing statistics on it.
@dinosaur00734 жыл бұрын
Great video Alexander...thanks
@bizbite26 жыл бұрын
I see most of these desires be brought up by women, I never had this I learned majority of women prefer this... this comes from female end imo... 50 shades was most read book of the year due to women... not men... 🤔
@ChaoticButterfly6 жыл бұрын
And the Romance genre is the best selling genre of books... also due to women... to the tune of about 1.4 billion a year. To put that into perspective... Crime/Mystery is the second most popular (also largely purchased by women, funny enough) at about half of romance. What I can assume from that? Women want excitement... which makes me want to watch True Lies. lol
@witcheater6 жыл бұрын
Women of the scores of years before today have not a clue what they want, but they do know what others say that they should want. Oh oh... another medical disorder for women so they never have to fix themselves.
@Aivottaja Жыл бұрын
I get tired of womyn just from thinking about them. To interest them, you have to be just the right amount of aggressive. Be just enough of a prclik and keep them guessing to have them interested in you. Be too nice and they get bored and leave. Do all this at the right time. The time and the mental energy that goes into this. And what does it amount to?