"Being depressed leads to falling behind and falling behind leads to more depression 😔" this summarises it so perfectly
@diannamarie4642 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!! 😢
@elisahrehard4395 Жыл бұрын
YES. I’ve never been able to put it so simply and perfectly
@Michelle020892 Жыл бұрын
Yep, the vicious f***ing cycle
@jyothilakshmi369 Жыл бұрын
Hmm ❤️
@vike9527 Жыл бұрын
I don't understand why people casually talks about depression, it's worse than disease!
@savvysdaze98077 жыл бұрын
Taking a shower is such a hard thing to do when it's at it's worse
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
💙💜💙💜 😵😵
@EternalDensity4 жыл бұрын
Showering is easy, deciding to do it now rather than a little later is the hard part. (A little means a day or two or three.)
@radicalreptilesvic4 жыл бұрын
I have to plan out my showers and I still procrastinate doing it
@chloeauil40274 жыл бұрын
Oh yeah... I either didn’t shower or sat in the floor crying while the water poured over me.
@patience91544 жыл бұрын
I didn’t know what my worst was until one day I couldn’t even lift my head. I couldn’t check my phone, eat, shower, talk- I was literally immobile. I couldn’t even cry because it took too much energy. I’ve never felt anything so awful and I couldn’t even end it because it was so bad. It only happened once, but if it ever happens again- no way I’ll live with that reoccurring
@BeGlamourlicious3 жыл бұрын
Doing normal stuff when you are depressed takes sooooooooo much strength. No one without depression will ever be able to understand this. I don’t know how I managed living with depression for 4 years. I tried to take my life because I couldn’t bare it anymore. I didn’t want to die, I just couldn’t bare living anymore.
@rosesarered40453 жыл бұрын
Hello Sues Anna, You've managed b/c you're a smart and strong person. Those who are burdened with depression or other ailments have to overcome obstacles that others do not. This gives you an insight and an understanding that others don't have. Unfortunately, that insight only applies to the outside world. When it's turn inwards, demand it to be kind and thoughtful. Don't let that inner voice diminish or criticize you beyond reason and prevent you from enjoying moments within a day. Sincerely, Random stranger
@eatfinishwifme9693 жыл бұрын
You are loved
@bouleaneige20773 жыл бұрын
Same sis
@bouleaneige20773 жыл бұрын
Sorry that was a bit insensitive, but really, i know exaclty what you go through. I'm currently desperately trying to read through a mage of a book for class i sould've read 2 weeks go. It sunday, tomorrow i have to go to school, and I haven't done any homework over the Christmas break
@erinhiggins36753 жыл бұрын
Never give up..keep doing the best you can. Love yourself, forgive yourself and know you have every right to be here and to move towards being the best you can...faults in all! You are a beautiful piece of light. We all are! It took a lot of strength to write your comment. You are stronger than you think! Just do your best to the normal stuff....who cares if you only do one thing...celebrate that! Love and light warrior!
@browneyedgirl15425 жыл бұрын
If you have severe depression finding the motivation to “make a plan” can be nearly impossible.
@afakespace4 жыл бұрын
Make a plan on your "good" days
@user-bp4qq7tt1u4 жыл бұрын
@@afakespace people with severe depression very rarely have good days...
@onyxlily22304 жыл бұрын
It's not motivation. It's habit. And it's not really a plan. It's like a list of the tasks you really have to do whether you want to or not. Showering and eating aren't easy, but it's the easiest on the list. I can't do it either. That is why I clicked on the video.
@newbooksmell41634 жыл бұрын
@@user-bp4qq7tt1u That's why *they* get help from a therapist. Most people can do it on good days or even good moments in a day. Saying that they can't or that they don't get 'good days'. Is really enabling cause you're taking all the responsibility off the person to better themselves and that they're 'allowed' to fall apart. I don't know if I 'qualify' as severely depressed, but I have an psychiatrist assessment appointment this week because I'm not letting myself fall apart.
@user-bp4qq7tt1u4 жыл бұрын
@@newbooksmell4163 yeah you've clearly never been severely depressed or suicidal lmao
@starfish06075 жыл бұрын
Have anxiety, depression while being a perfectionist. Really bad combination Edit: back here after over 2 years. reading all of the stories in the comments makes my heart hurt for all of you and i hope you are getting better. sending love and courage
@ArcasDevlin5 жыл бұрын
I'm with you, but add in asthma and random debilitating sciatica and homeschooling a child. Ever want to feel completely worthless? Skip schooling your kid because you can't get up then let the hate compound. I didn't mean that to be so negative. I don't care for this woman. I'm bipolar too, but I don't have normal times. I have very brief, (much rarer than when I was younger,) bursts of manic energy, but usually my mania manifests in short, frequent bursts of rage and the rest of the time, I'm depressed. There is no preparing.
@1nisitha5 жыл бұрын
Being a perfectionist is the main cause
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
Yes it really is!! I couldn't agree more about that. 😟😟😟😝😝😝
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
@@ArcasDevlin hugs to you!!! (((Arcas)))) tgc!! I will say prayers for you!! GBU! 😥😥😥😥
@lenas56134 жыл бұрын
The worst. Why do anything?..."it's not good enough". 🥴🥺😦
@mogotecoyote7 жыл бұрын
I never thought I'd live past 18. I felt hopeless and empty. Well, I'm 33. Still fighting the battle. Some days are good, some days suck.
@reycelchristianson89847 жыл бұрын
mogote coyote I wish you well!
@LetsStopThisSong7 жыл бұрын
It's a rollercoaster ride. Bad days suck, but you always have the hope that better days will come. Keep fighting! You inspire me to get better
@Bree8tiveBEing7 жыл бұрын
Same here! It wasn't that I thought I'd do anything to myself, I just remember feeling like I would never make it past 19. I had a early midlife crisis after reaching 19, all of a sudden I had to think about what I wanted to keep doing with my life. I'm glad you stuck it out; we don't struggle alone.
@kristinabaker44337 жыл бұрын
mogote coyote me too. ♡♡♡
@ScrawnyScout7 жыл бұрын
Same here. Actually planned to kill myself at 21, like one of my friends, but almost 10 yrs later still going..
@averialasin86203 жыл бұрын
For me..... * sleeping way too much * laziness * low self-esteem * lack of self-care * memory loss * hard time concentrating * over-thinking/racing thoughts * anxiety attacks * self-destruct That's it for now, I'll come back and edit if I remember more later on 👋
@timothystrampp33133 жыл бұрын
We could have a conversation
@degrengolada23602 жыл бұрын
psst Check out ADHD
@DonnaBrooks2 жыл бұрын
I'm definitely not lazy. I fight my depression. I do as much as I can in a day. I may feel like everything is completely pointless or I may get derailed b/c of a sudden change in plans and I sometimes come to a screeching halt, but you have to be doing something in the first place to come to a halt. I am a hard worker. I don't lack self-esteem. I just get so TIRED of trying to do things when everything is so complicated and difficult and I have almost no support system (no family or local friends or faith community). I *wish* I could sleep. I got somewhere between 1-2 hours of sleep last night.
@grahambradd38392 жыл бұрын
Hey Averiala. I fully understand what you saying...would you like to text me?..07940967502
@yashikashrivastav42352 жыл бұрын
@@DonnaBrooks I am exactly the opposite of what you are. And thats why I can say I am proud of you. Depression takes away your will to work and get up in the morning. But you still manage to fight it as much as possible and that's an actual inspiration to me. Just one thing, please try to sleep for at least 5-6 hours for starters. It is just going to help you get energy to do more in lesser time. And also help rest your body after a hectic day. It is only a medicine thats going to help. Please try improving your sleeping habits. Everything else is commendable 🥺❤️
@TraderTravels5 жыл бұрын
For me "ticking things of my list" just take energy. If I go grocery shopping that day or make a meal, I dont gain confidence. I get tired.
@daltanionwaves3 жыл бұрын
100% agree
@shahzad18533 жыл бұрын
same but sometimes you have to get out of your comfort zone, healing is not supposed to feel nice and easy sometimes it hurts but i know you can do it! try to start by doing small things like showering or going to grocery to bigger things. i myself am struggling but i can feel myself getting better and its so ncie, i feel good not wanting to die 24/7 lol
@justbeachy20313 жыл бұрын
@Goth Vaush - Jedi Master Engineer Since no one else is asking...How do you know?
@lionelnietzsche39173 жыл бұрын
@Goth Vaush - Jedi Master Engineer Can you please enlighten us about the Banana conspiracy? Who are they working for? Are they some sort of double agent?
@dianarusnov2923 жыл бұрын
@@shahzad1853 But it's not about a comfort zone at all, depression isn't like anxiety in a sense. Taking a shower and doing a skincare routine is completely within my comfort zone and I live for it. If I'm severely depressed, it's just physically exhausting. That's the bottom line. Showering and going to the grocery store feel like enormous things.
@angeloberry10425 жыл бұрын
when I'm depressed I have trouble identifying my needs or feeling worthy of anything I love.
@thequeerbee20264 жыл бұрын
Same
@sugarplum50744 жыл бұрын
Same.
@Love-Runs-Blind3 жыл бұрын
Same goes with me
@bubthe1Nonlyseal3 жыл бұрын
Yeah me too
@helpcatwawa3 жыл бұрын
same here. when we were babies we did not have to earn people's love because we ourselves were love. and we still ARE love. may we hear our inner child's voice saying his or her needs and know that we are still equally worthy of love , warmth and nourishment now because we humans really just need love beneath the veneer of adulthood :)
@changed5872 жыл бұрын
The fact that she said 2020 will be the greatest year for depression... when it's 6 years before covid is honestly scary and so true. Depression has become so heavy with covid
@moniqueengleman8732 жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly. I wondered if anyone caught that. Covid along with Veterans killing themselves on the daily, climate change and War in Ukraine...... isolation, division of our country, corruption..... *sorry, brain fart. Anyway, yes this was interesting 🤔
@serenasavage98422 жыл бұрын
Depression is becoming the pandemic
@patriciamorgan25012 жыл бұрын
@@serenasavage9842 I agree with you. I found this Ted Talk inspiring and do-able. Hope you find something inspiring in it too.
@jackmax60192 жыл бұрын
Everything feels heavier. Shrouded in fog aslo
@beyondher2 жыл бұрын
Maybe she knew Covid was coming, which is a bit creepy
@popeyepunks19373 жыл бұрын
Worst is when you so stuck and dying that you can’t even muster up strength to do simple tasks, watching your life fall apart and feel like you deserve it.
@moniqueengleman8732 жыл бұрын
I have Cancer and I feel this way every day. Life is Worth Living. I haved LOVED my Life. I just want more. And to feel better. Depression sounds like Cancer.
@narjisbl24864 жыл бұрын
I thought she was gonna give me a tip on how to get myself to take a shower
@jasonvichinsky14584 жыл бұрын
you are not alone. I have been where you are. Have you ever heard of something called the five second rule?
@LyricsVillage4 жыл бұрын
@@jasonvichinsky1458 what's the 5 second rule?
@jasonvichinsky14584 жыл бұрын
LyricsVillage Essentially it goes like this. Choose the very smallest thing that you could do to move you toward that shower. It could be as simple as just standing up next to your bed. You do not consider anything after that step. In fact your mind May start telling you that nothing is going to happen after that small step. Don’t argue with that voice. that voice may be completely correct but you do not care for this moment. you count to five, and immediately just take that small step. You will find that often there is a part of you that will push you to keep moving to the next step, and the next step after that. This has been helpful to me. If you like, I would be very happy to do a voice chat with you over messenger or something for additional examples. I have been where you are. I know how it feels. so if I can help you even a little bit that would be great. Let me know.
@narjisbl24864 жыл бұрын
@@jasonvichinsky1458 thank you, I'll give it a try hope it helps
@supertastischesuper43 жыл бұрын
thought I was the only one
@rvlli23774 жыл бұрын
What I do is lie to myself saying “All I have to do right now is shower.” And after I’m eventually done with that, I say “All I have to do right now is eat anything, just try to be somewhat healthy.” I tell myself over and over that that’s all I have to do right now so I’m not distracted by my other thoughts and get sidetracked. I still struggle, (I’m trying to learn how to take breaks that last 5-25 minutes rather than 15 hour breaks)
@rebeccamooring88584 жыл бұрын
r vlli thank you that’s very very helpful for me.
@lizafield90023 жыл бұрын
Same here! I just erase my opinion about the shower & the mile walk & cleaning out the sink. "Just do this." No room for rumination, then suddenly it's done.
@narimaneme21443 жыл бұрын
so true! I feel the same!!
@supertastischesuper43 жыл бұрын
thank you that's really good advice
@ericgordon37353 жыл бұрын
nice advise
@Dr.Vinnie6 жыл бұрын
"Being in depression leads to falling behind. Falling behind leads to more depression." Sister, you know my current state in life.
@shahnazsony39402 жыл бұрын
Are you okay now? Did you get any better, out of that state?
@Dr.Vinnie2 жыл бұрын
@@shahnazsony3940 omg thankyou for this reply. Yes I am so much better now. Did hit an all time low at one point but these days I feel quite okay.
@shahnazsony39402 жыл бұрын
@@Dr.Vinnie I'm glad you're okay now!
@sheevamirshahi88202 жыл бұрын
haha same
@jyothilakshmi369 Жыл бұрын
The worst case scenario that i am in 🌼🙂 god save me . I am a bit lazy but i can't help it. Or i am coming 🌼🙂🌹🌹🌹
@caitlinweiss88015 жыл бұрын
I just love how she explains how depression is disabling. Lots of people don't understand why I can't finish school or even keep my apartment clean. They are empathic to the way I feel but don't understand why I can't do these physical tasks.
@tanishamadera22375 жыл бұрын
She's trying to help as best SHE can, and she's sharing HER experience, y'all. She's definitely not going to reach everyone and tackle all personal struggles.. I appreciate this video soo much❣️
@mariebible37943 жыл бұрын
If one person is able to hear what she is saying. Then 1 person is help . I have depression depending on my state of mind Just the little thing that comes through for me gets me moving (slow pace) and the more I do move regardless the Pace I reach a point of being able to care for myself and take on other task I am in a good place right now I will take advantage of it the best I’m able At least I do function and feel ok sometimes Yes I’m working on strategies now
@josie32212 жыл бұрын
she’s describing the best way to live with dysthymia. most people don’t understand the difference.
@AKM932 ай бұрын
Yeah because she's just bullshitting
@princessfly117 жыл бұрын
The tips begin at 7:54
@sarahellen58467 жыл бұрын
Nailah Thanks. :)
@rosiecw54887 жыл бұрын
Nailah depressed people be efficient
@12aug967 жыл бұрын
Thx. Why do so many sites make us go thru all the fluff???
@auriianna7 жыл бұрын
Because she is telling her story, which is inspiring and it also lends a lot of credence to her advice, considering everything she has accomplished in the face of so many obstacles.
@MercyMburuNyakio7 жыл бұрын
Nailah this brought tears to my eyes. thank you!!!
@jaimepaiva88477 жыл бұрын
"if you can't say no, then your yeses mean nothing" - that is indeed a great insight.
@-biscuit-72353 жыл бұрын
Her: "by the year 2020 depression will be the second greatest disability in the world" Me and everyone else during the pandemic: "are you sure it aint number one of that list? check again"
@ElaFigura3 жыл бұрын
Agree huhu
@chainsherlock62683 жыл бұрын
COVID bro no. 1. Very disabling, lol
@d.j.holohan48973 жыл бұрын
On the bright side, the stigma of therapy is fading real freaking fast. People who never considered it or mocked it are heading to therapists faster than you can say, "universal healthcare"
@krishawn40863 жыл бұрын
@@chainsherlock6268 actually depression is the #1 disability well of course caused by Covid and all...
@JguitarA3 жыл бұрын
lolol omgg true
@devonk57203 жыл бұрын
When I'm depressed I shut down and just lay on the couch watching TV. Then I get overwhelmed by all I need to get done. Borderline hoarder. Then I'll get anxious and leave the house to avoid it more. Feel disappointed w/myself and isolated. That's a lot. Prayers please
@singingcat47122 жыл бұрын
Omg .same but im just stay at home
@janglass82192 жыл бұрын
Me too.
@missabyssinia22932 жыл бұрын
Me three 😩
@marciaclark3408 Жыл бұрын
I try to get out once a day to the local market but usually go the TV or KZbin route to escape.
@juliaeve7 жыл бұрын
Damn.... my main issue with my depression is that I'm EXTREMELY unmotivated.... to do basic living skills and when I do a "normal" day.. I get extremely overwhelmed and have racing thoughts of how shit my life is... because I can never get things done. I went to school for 6 years and couldn't graduate.. I kept trying different classes and when I went to art school it got worse. I ended up on academic probation and then had to drop out :( I loved art and I want desperately want to graduate :( but my problem was never being able to finish any of my work on time or just not having the motivation to do any of it... then hating myself for not doing it in the first place and wanting to die because I just could never motivate myself no matter how much therapy I had or how many meds I took. The people there were so inconsiderate of mental health issues... bc if you missed one day you would be fucked... your grade would rely heavily on assignments and then there I was slacking and watching Netflix bc of my crippling anxiety and depression It sucks ass. It sucks so much because I know I'm talented and I know I'm smart. Even others and my professional advisors say so and that they all think I'm extremely intelligent... yet I can't get a degree because my project wasn't finished on time :/
@marchfifth17547 жыл бұрын
Dear god. You just described my life in every aspect. I find it hard to do anything productive. I waste my time watching movies and playing games while simultaneously hating myself for doing so. Went to school a few times, a straight A student, I just cant motivate myself to get out of bed some mornings to go to school. So I dropped out, here I am, a intelligent person that can easily get a degree and find a great job but I have no motivation to do so.
@deannachurch50887 жыл бұрын
I know exactly how you feel. For me, it was music - I'd spent years in voice lessons and assorted other lessons to prepare and I was going to be the next big thing in opera, but I dropped out of music school after one year. I spent most of my time in my dorm room watching TV. Came home, community college, many extended vacations and academic probations later and I may finally be graduating this semester. If I passed everything. I'm 34. Anyway, something I've never looked into is the Americans with Disabilities Act. If you qualify as an "A" with a "D", your school would have to make accommodations for you (like later due dates). It's just a thought. It would be extra nice if you had an advocate who could figure that out for you and make any calls like a parent or sibling.
@reyaneallaoua20607 жыл бұрын
Julia Chernov pllllz be fine ....I wish u all the best u are beautiful 😍u deserve the bessst 👑👑 God bless u 💙💜
@lachatnoir11277 жыл бұрын
oh my goodness. you have described how I feel to a T ive wanted to study nutrition for so long but dropped out becasue of my depression. i work in a shitty job which was only meant to be temporary and has lasted nearly 10 years. i lack confidence and motivation and even brushing me teeth seems overwhelming hard some days. i over think everuthing from my past where i think people hate me which makes me even worse. people say im smart and have potential but fear and depression hold me back. i feel i cant pick myself up to where i want to be. i hate myself for it.
@lachatnoir11277 жыл бұрын
oh my goodness. you have described how I feel to a T ive wanted to study nutrition for so long but dropped out becasue of my depression. i work in a shitty job which was only meant to be temporary and has lasted nearly 10 years. i lack confidence and motivation and even brushing me teeth seems overwhelming hard some days. i over think everuthing from my past where i think people hate me which makes me even worse. people say im smart and have potential but fear and depression hold me back. i feel i cant pick myself up to where i want to be. i hate myself for it.
@SamirCCat7 жыл бұрын
Okay... She talks about how it's difficult to finish work deadlines while depressed, I'm not really at that level. Taking a shower usually takes 45-60 minutes. If I go to the store and buy groceries, the big deed of the day is done. Taking a walk, that's bonus. Cooking something other than noodles or porridge is big bonus. And seeing friends ect is super bonus! Well, it simply doesn't happen... Also so envy at people who say "prevent depression when you feel it coming" - I'm down there all the time! I shift in a few days, sometimes hours, and I'm in different level of depression 80% of the time. And very often at the "I really need to take a showe, haven't done it for three days, I stink" and it takes 2 hour to undress, get in and get out. I'm trying new medications these last 6 months, still no luck. Just extreme anxiety and self harm after 7 years of being clean. It SUCKS to be bipolar. And I've never met anyone with so little "normal" state, I'm either depressed or sometimes mixed. I'm 29 years old, got my first depression at the age of 9. Got super ill between 16-22 with years of hospitalizations, often against my will, and now I live in a dessert. Never worked, maybe will be able to 10-25% in the future. I moved to my own place at 26. I've never had a proper relationship. I don't know... Everything just sucks. And who know - tomorrow I might have some good hours and think all I wrote is exaggerating. And when I get depressed again after that I feel so fake for having been positive. Sorry super depressing story... Just feels like this is a very good place to get some steam of. I feel like the people here might understand.
@Celatra7 жыл бұрын
Aww... I can somehow relate but not fully.. my only advice is.. stop taking the medicines. And just... carry on. I don't know you, but I will always be there for you. I wish I could talk like this to everyone...
@mariemachelle7 жыл бұрын
Linn Samir I understand what you mean. taking a shower is something that is truly difficult for me as well. I feel extremely accomplished when I can make myself do it, which then makes me feel pathetic. I'm lucky I met my husband during a period of my life where my depression/anxiety wasn't so bad, otherwise I would be single too. going to the grocery store requires a lot of mental preparation beforehand, sometimes all day. even though I hate going to work, when I have a steady job I feel like it forces me to have somewhat of a routine, and people to whom I am accountable. that "helps" in the sense that at least I don't become a full-time hermit. I understand you, but I think her suggestions are still relevant. they just need to be tailored to you. I also have a hard time thinking about how these things aren't hard for other people, or listening to people who say that you just need to toughen up or whatever. people who don't have these struggles can't possibly understand. I'm trying to learn to be gentle with myself and not so judgemental. I also think shame or guilt makes the depression much worse. sorry for such a long response with no real "solution" to your question, but hopefully it helps you to know you're not the only person on the planet who struggles with depression to this degree. it can be absolutely debilitating, I know. I do think cutting things down to "can I make myself do this for even 10 minutes?" helps, as well as knowing what is specifically difficult to you and WHY it is so hard. I think for the shower it is a big time-suck and I also don't like getting all wet sometimes. or being alone with my thoughts that long on bad days. so sometimes I'll just wash my hair over the side of the tub, or sometimes I will play music and sing while I'm in the shower to make it seem more doable. I think trying to figure out why it's hard for you might help you in creating solutions. anyway, sorry again for such a long response, and I hope you are having a good day :)
@luticia7 жыл бұрын
I can't manage to do anything you've mentioned. I'm 24/7 in bed. Sometime not even the sense to wear my PJs. My life is just hopeless and meaningless. And the worst thing about that is that it's not only a feeling, not only the depression that forces me to feel like that. It IS my life. My situation is that awful that there's no escape from it anymore. ANd I can't handle this.
@mariemachelle7 жыл бұрын
luticia please find someone to talk to. you shouldn't have to go through life feeling this way. no situation lasts forever, even though it can feel like it will always be this bad. I grew up with an abusive mother and a father who didn't care enough to save me from her. I started counting down the days when I would turn 18 starting when I was 10. I made elaborate plans of running away at 6th grade camp. on the worst days I thought of taking a bottle of sleeping pills so I could go to sleep and not have to deal with life anymore. I tried to escape by calling cps on my mother, but they just interviewed her and took her word for it. my life was hell, and because I was a kid there was literally no way out of my situation. so I understand that feeling. but even though it took years, it did end. I don't know your personal situation, but I just mean to say no situation is permanent and there is always hope for change. if you can't change the crappy circumstance, at least find someone you can talk to (a school counselor, a doctor, a teacher, a friend, a relative, a friend's parent, even a stranger). I hope you find some peace. you are not alone.
@luticia7 жыл бұрын
Jennifer Frisk Hi well-disposed Jennifer :-) thank you so very much for your caring, your time, your effort and your thoughts you've put into this message. Also thank you for being open and honest about your own situation. As I read your home situation and als the things you did, and tried and thought I felt like you had talked about me. It's only 2 weeks ago as I called the police on my mother! 4 came but my mother is so manipulative and a fucking liar (not because she want to be mean but because of her own coping mechanism; she's emotional very weak, can't face the realtiy and her own feelings), instead of talking to her they to me into the award. I was SO angry. But fortunately after 1 hr stay they literally opened the door and I could go because as the docs talked to me they realized that everything is fine w me and It's about my mother. I guess, you were also never respected or even accepted by your mother and always craved for her appreciation, her attention and her love? That's me. For 37 years I've begged my mother to see me and appreciate and love me for who I am. Never happened. Never will happen. Since the police thing I've realized it and don't have the urge to try again. But still I've got to struggle A LOT w all the emotional abuse my mother did to me. I've got also a father like you who can't manage to stand up and speak for me also when he realized what my mother does to me. Yes, I think your idea with talking is great and healthy and this is also my desire and I am a very open and honest person BUT I'm searching and searching and nobody wants to get involved in such problems. People want to have fun and not getting involved to deep into soul stuffs, feelings and problems. They ignore or run away and those who stay, stay only for 5 minutes and are going later. I've got a therapist but not getting along with this person currently. I need her too much and she can't give satisfy my needs. I don't have a functioning family who support me. I have literally nobody. Also no friends. I've lost all as I've become anorexic. People are afraid if you don't eat and get thiner. Thank you again for your message. It was really hearty of you. You've sent some positive vibes into the universe. You'll see it will come back to you!! I'm a strong believer when it comes to universe, vibrations etc. Tight hugs xxxxx
@shalinibudholiya13302 жыл бұрын
I literally loved the last line which says "yes, depression is real,but hope is real, courage is real, resilience is real"❤️✨
@porshahiginio37162 жыл бұрын
Handling depression with a highly stressful job. I’m starting to pay attention when I’m starting to enter into a episode of depression: falling asleep in my work clothes, loss of energy, not wanting to brush my teeth. It’s really difficult, but I’m starting to develop a plan for when it hits so I can get back on track
@patriciashears25 Жыл бұрын
:) ❤
@katyisgone7 жыл бұрын
today I'm going to drag myself to the gym for ten minutes
@ShimmersMuffin7 жыл бұрын
Good on you, your goal is a really good thing!
@katyisgone7 жыл бұрын
Adzie Hlupic took a week but finally did something today 😄
@corinnegermanotta35907 жыл бұрын
Good stuff, I planked a few times today! I'm proud.
@roselyncarroll7 жыл бұрын
d r e a m w a v e i
@bennyton25607 жыл бұрын
I love this thread! Feels connected and supported. I just hope after this week of finals I can drag myself to do some exercise. Wish you all have a productive week! And remember that we aren't alone
@clairesalittleoff13987 жыл бұрын
This all sounds horrifically exhausting. Who has time to keep a planner? Between the crippling apathy, the crying spells, and taking care of my cat, I'm simply all booked up.
@sammyy92237 жыл бұрын
clairesalittleoff Terrible mentality:/
@clairesalittleoff13987 жыл бұрын
that's the nature of my mental illness unfortunately. I don't have BPD though, I have MDD.
@roselimonta5 жыл бұрын
clairesalittleoff seems like you just don’t want to get better. then there really is no point.
@lovez1595 жыл бұрын
@@roselimonta please don't tell someone with MDD that it seems like they don't want to get better. There is always a point, the point is that's the mental illness talking.
@roselimonta5 жыл бұрын
lovez159 im just saying 🤷🏽♀️ if you just change your mindset dealing w depression could be easier. I mean thats how i got better, thats the only way it works. Unless you want to be miserable forever. & I know its easier said than done. I know its an its a real illness trust me. But the first step to treating it is to actually try.
@matthewscott10913 жыл бұрын
“As students stepped over my limp body in a rush to get to class. So...” *Uh, hold up...What?!* She collapsed, fell down the stairs & people just stepped over her? How could everyone not be concerned & try to help her? Who does that!?! 😳
@DonnaBrooks2 жыл бұрын
I thought the same thing! I don't know any situation except a panic (getting to class is not a panic), like getting out of a burning building, in which people would behave like that. Even in emergencies there are people who are kind & courageous & level-headed enough to help others! So for people to just step over someone who obviously needs help is incredible.
@rainej70132 жыл бұрын
The selfish young people of society today!!! It says in the Bible in the end days people will be lovers of themselves! There it is!
@swissuz2 жыл бұрын
@@123litera4 in the beginning of time, we did not have mass communication and social media to read or see this played out to form a visual imprint in our heads of how selfish and narcissistic people are. Today it's in our face every day. I'm an artist, and it's even very hard to turn off those images to immerse ourselves into being in a state of creativity. I think you can relate to that. The younger you are, the more you don't get it because you don't really know life without that that behavior played out daily.
@mascara17773 жыл бұрын
I watched this 4 years ago when I was going through a bad agoraphobia and depressed time. I had 20 seconds of inspiration one morning from I don't know where, and I emailed a nonprofit asking to volunteer. They emailed me back the same day with a very friendly email and asked to meet me. 6 months later, they offered me a fulltime job and my whole life has changed. Nutrition was also extremely important to my recovery. My vitamin D was very low, that causes depression. And my faith in Jesus of course also helped. I hope this helps someone else. If you have even 20 seconds of some energy, take a chance like I did.
@bengbeng2005 Жыл бұрын
Happy for you , but is low vitamin D a reason of depression
@VermaFe Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing how Jesus helped you.
@jyothilakshmi369 Жыл бұрын
Happy for you sending blessings 💖☺️💖☺️💖
@SpecimenX-9000 Жыл бұрын
@@bengbeng2005 it helps improve mood and can also enhance the effectiveness of SSRIs
@euachoque1261 Жыл бұрын
❤❤ so happy to read your comment. Reminds me of all the times i could have done the same but got stuck by fear and anxiety. Hope u good
@hahanicebroskie7 жыл бұрын
I asked last night that I'd die. I don't want to die, I just don't feel like living. That's how I feel. Guess I got some work to do...
@drunkonlife.7 жыл бұрын
breathe! we're here with you :) Feel your body alive. fuck all these rules we humans made and focus on what makes you apprechiate it all... this precious life! For example it is nature for me! Even just looking at damn good documentaries and the way the wild works, makes me feel so precious and so alive. Like we humans are part of this rustic nature and always will be. I truly hope everyone who reads this finds his or her true reminder of this magical life
@hahanicebroskie7 жыл бұрын
berrybluee Thank you. It's time for something different. I got up, fed myself and I am going to walk my dog. I'm already feeling better. I have a plan and I'm going to get my old job back, just for socializing and connecting. I'm going to finish the chores I should have done yesterday.
@drunkonlife.7 жыл бұрын
Sam Banfield That's great man :)
@hahanicebroskie7 жыл бұрын
Things are changing, hugly. I can't even explain, but I will say that when you go to rock bottom, you can only go back up.
@Detomidine7 жыл бұрын
Sam Banfield Don't let that feeling lead your actions, it's not real and it's not you. I wish you strength and resiliance to overcome this. Please seek help.
@marissab41147 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I'll get shower, get dressed, put on make up but then can't bring myself to actually leave the house. Sometimes I'll sit down to write or accomplish something, get everything I need in one place, make a plan and then can't seem to do it. It's so strange. Most of the time I try to power through and I always feel better once I've actually accomplished something. But even logically knowing that, it's hard to do. I think my depression triggers when I lose direction and purpose. When I have a job and I'm working toward something, I do great. But once that job ends I'm in the wind again and it's hard to get it together to get another job.
@justindavies73175 жыл бұрын
i think your spot on. its all about direction and purpose for me too.
@fayrenlodoratu54925 жыл бұрын
Same like me😭 I really don't know what to do now..
@fredbyrd635 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I'm going through now! I can't function without work and it becomes so hard to pick myself up in between jobs.
@anceamarilla35945 жыл бұрын
I feel you... I dont feel like I can control it
@MaryInWonderlandd5 жыл бұрын
Marissa B oh my God, Marissa. I thought I was alone in this. I’m a songwriter and everything you described is exactly what I’ve been going through for the past few years. I don’t know what to do. I’m miserable because I find it so hard to write. I’m just so unmotivated. I hope you find your inspiration and motivation. Much love.
@jeffreyalcuizar4 жыл бұрын
It's just so hard to find hope when you're depressed. I can't even get out of my bed. 😔
@jayceecole55693 жыл бұрын
I love how she is talking about getting to know YOUR symptoms of depression and getting to know the signs early on. For me, it is waking up and getting out of bed. If I stay in too long, it will get me. :)
@3k4452 жыл бұрын
Wow so true!
@zoejaspers45032 жыл бұрын
I just now realised it’s the same for me, I’m watching this in bed at noon and realising that maybe it’s going to get me today… nice insight, I must get out now hahaha
@loriamora52907 жыл бұрын
eating breakfast or taking a shower..? i can't even get out of bed..!
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
I hope you find a place to get help!!! Or something that helps you. Thanks for saying this here. GBU girl! 💚💚💚😸😸😸
@addee2344 жыл бұрын
I know right😂😂😂
@eileenkenney4 жыл бұрын
I know... I consider getting out of bed an accomplishment of the day, when it takes me hours to get up after I've woken up.
@monsterswampstudios5 жыл бұрын
I have both depression and anxiety. Sometimes, the only thing I want to do is get up to use the bathroom, and even then, I wait until I absolutely can't hold it anymore because my bathroom is in an upstairs area. My family, and people who are like my family, don't understand how hard it is for me, and people like me, to even get up in the morning. Taking a shower, eating, putting on clothes to even get through the day... these are all things that are challenges to me. I work at a pizza place in my town, where it's busy all afternoon; the line is to the door all the time. Since waking up proves to be a huge challenge, going to work, in comparison, seems like the biggest challenge of my life. I break down and cry, and go into a panic attack every day before going into work. I go in, work, and come home exhausted, contemplating how I'm going to survive the next work day. Getting out of bed, when I absolutely need to, takes about an hour. Showering takes about an hour, maybe an hour and a half. Getting dressed takes another 30 minutes. Getting ready the rest of the way takes about 20 minutes, which isn't bad compared to the rest. This process also involves a lot of crying, self hatred, and panic attacks, so eventually, the time just increases more and more. I don't have a bad life. My father yelled at me a lot when I was younger, and didn't really hang around me when I was over at his house (shared parenting) because he would've rather slept. I didn't understand this as a kid, but being grown up... I understand that he was in pain too, and I think that's where I get it from. My dad now is nothing like he was when I was younger. He's a lot nicer now, and actually stays motivated, but I digress. My mother is nice to me, even if she does call me lazy, and yell at me when I struggle to do something, or get upset when I barely get to work on time. She's nice to me most of the time, and my family tries to be supportive of me whenever they can be. There's no reason I should feel the way I do, but I do anyways. I contemplate dying on a daily basis, and realize that I don't necessarily want to die, but I don't want to live anymore either. I'm constantly in pain, and I can't seem to make this sinking feeling in my chest go away. I've been this way since 5th grade, and it has never been any different. I feel bad for my girlfriend because she is probably the most supportive, and most genuine, human being I've ever known, and yet I'm still this way, and it's only gotten worse. I'm 18 years old now, just graduated, and am now going to college for accounting, which is about to change to marketing instead. I still live at home, and I'm hoping to find a place to rent within the next year. I'm ashamed of who I've become, and how many people I disappoint on a daily basis, and I just want to feel happy again, but I don't think I ever will again. I know this is all kinda scattered and depressing, so I'm sorry for all of that. I just needed to get things off my chest.
@inspectorbudget5 жыл бұрын
Monster Swamp Studios I totally get it. Hope you're doing better.
@grmpEqweer5 жыл бұрын
I hear you. I understand. I hope you can keep going. I have found meds and therapy to be somewhat helpful. I found electroshock to be quite helpful, but it's obviously harder to get.😕 Best wishes.
@moebiuscreative3 жыл бұрын
I’m just reading your post 2 years on and hope you’re doing okay. Can I just share that I don’t think your childhood and upbringing were okay at all? Your parents may have done the best they could, but their best was still incredibly damaging. I would encourage you to look into developmental trauma, also known as Complex PTSD. A lot of depression comes from this - most people in the comments section here probably have it, honestly - and without getting to the root of it, all other treatments and medications will only be a band-aid. I hope this reaches you and is helpful.
@laylamarie12183 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way, not that I feel a lot of anything anymore. You may never read this, but if you do is there any way you can tell me how you got through it? I'm 16, but I don't know how many more years I can live feeling like this.
@laylamarie12183 жыл бұрын
@Samantha Payne Thank you for replying and I know that I should get help, but I have a hard time doing so when I feel guilty for feeling this way in the first place. I was never traumatized or anything, nothing bad really happened to me. I guess I feel I'll be judged because there is no real reason I feel like this.
@Sharon-sw7mr3 жыл бұрын
What she says is helpful if you are in a mild or medium level depression, but not for a severe depression.
@trixie9777 Жыл бұрын
I 💯 agree with you. She said that she exercises “more than normal” when she starts to feel depressed, yet she has this chronic muscle disease? The myasthenia gravis episodes must not overlap with the depression. I find this story hard to believe.
@shubhechhapaudyal8026 Жыл бұрын
@JJT 07 True, also when your stomach is grumbling and you know you're hungry and you have food literally 5 steps away from you, it's hard to actually get up, take those few steps and eat. Happens to me so often. When it's that severe, the only thing that helps me is planning the next 1 min activity like I'll write 1315 - inhale 1316 - smile 1317 - sit upright in bed, 1318 - open youtube 1319 - stand up 1320 - plan again and so on. This has immensely helped me with eating food and drinking water. Showering is a level 2 activity for me and by now I have accepted it - dry shampoo and perfume to the rescue when I still have to go out. Ugh it's hard.
@shubhechhapaudyal8026 Жыл бұрын
@JJT 07 I know right... and on top of that I'm in denial most of the times thinking I'm fine or I'll finish something super quick when I can, now and then it works but most of the times it doesn't and it sucks. I took medication last year and it felt really good, but i didn't want to take it for the rest of my life so I went off of it and every now and then it's like the depression comes back....
@shubhechhapaudyal8026 Жыл бұрын
@JJT 07 Aww Thank you, I really hope and wish that it gets easier for you too 😊 I sometimes think of a bigger picture and how many things I enjoy and love about life in general and that helps in the long term too. I had my meal, I hope you eat something as well!
@biterface03 Жыл бұрын
It’s like depression is quicksand, & the more I try to actively fight it, the deeper I go. Yet somehow the moment I stop resisting it, I stop sinking so fast; but I’m still sinking nonetheless.
@marciaclark3408 Жыл бұрын
Great description Kame. I hope you're feeling better thesis days. I really thought this video was going to help me but came away feeling a bit worse for all her energy and sorting thru and categorizing all her chores and grading them on difficulty. I was exhausted by her accomplishments.
@Josecito777 Жыл бұрын
Yes, I compare it to a car moving with the handbrake active, yes you can press the throttle harder, but it consumes that much more fuel and the car takes damage on the process The solution it to release the handbrake
@AJ-rj3rj5 жыл бұрын
I procrastinate a lot it's horrible. I didn't study for any exam this semester and barely got passing marks. I don't want to be like this I feel useless
@florenomorence14924 жыл бұрын
That’s how I got through high school.
@iNSAN1TYCS4 жыл бұрын
i procrastinate so much, i have to do homework right now and im procrastinating.
@Dialogos19893 жыл бұрын
@@iNSAN1TYCS procrasurbate
@Anna-ug8cq3 жыл бұрын
I’m so behind on schoolwork. Right now I’m procrastinating an essay due a week ago. The teacher even changed the deadline for me. Yet I am still sitting here on youtube when it’s due by the end of today. I don’t know what to do :(
@kriziaracel_3 жыл бұрын
@@Anna-ug8cq Same :( Sending hugs :(
@luvlylittlemonster927 жыл бұрын
I think you just saved my college career.
@JessicaLynnGimeno7 жыл бұрын
wow - I am so happy to hear that, @Lindsay Brunson. I have a book coming out that goes into more depth than my TEDx Talk. It has a special section on school. Keep fighting!
@Alnilam477 жыл бұрын
Jessica Gimeno My last two years I was always depressed, anxious, my stress developed asthma, I have an impression that I just can't do anything. You brought me hope. I want to fight, even if it takes a lot of time and strenght... Thank You.
@AdrianMei5 жыл бұрын
@@Alnilam47 hang in there.
@marytadros6942 Жыл бұрын
I’ve Been depressed for over 20 years of my life. I’ve lost jobs dropped out of school etc. Working out was my outlet and now I can’t even bring myself to do that anymore😢
@regerniquerasco7428 Жыл бұрын
God bless you! ✨✨ I totally understand! I currently have to pack up my entire apartment and I promise you I am considering leaving everything behind, honestly.
@loner87132 жыл бұрын
You know things are getting worse when brushing your teeth takes so much energy to do
@lawrenlovely7 жыл бұрын
I knew I was depressed in 3rd grade, never thought I'd live for my graduation. barely did but i did it.
@nh44187 жыл бұрын
Lawren Lovely Keep fighting :)
@missflorencek85697 жыл бұрын
Lawren Lovely good for you!
@joycekim2047 жыл бұрын
i'm so proud of you for fighting your way through. you're so incredibly strong; remember you're not alone
@Lexicakes7 жыл бұрын
That's amazing. Keep being strong
@visionareechimprescuenonpr94307 жыл бұрын
Lawren Lovely 💙you're not alone .🙏🏽💙🙏🏽💙
@amandagrace65697 жыл бұрын
all i wanna do all day is lay in bed and do nothing
@janina8734 жыл бұрын
Amanda Grace Fine to do now and then I think :) Recharges ones batteries.
@miaminnie86024 жыл бұрын
You so me😭😭
@jennymullins5934 жыл бұрын
Amanda Grace, just don't give into that lazy spirit! You were designed to be more than a conqueror! I hope things have improved for you 2 years on. If not, ask God for His help. One little decision at a time with His help, you will be amazed!
@escapistreader38604 жыл бұрын
Me too
@jennymullins5934 жыл бұрын
don't give in to that voice. Talk yourself into being productive...even if only in a small way. One step at a time. It sounds insulting when Jessica says: 'Depression takes practise', but don't allow yourself to feel offended. Instead think, 'productivity or positivity also takes practise'...& force yourself to make the right choice. One will drag you down, the other WILL lift you up. Choose wisely & you'll feel so pleased with yourself. That's something those of us battling depression lack: feeling pleased with ourselves! Let's give ourselves something to be proud of. It's not what others say or think about us that counts. It's what we think, do & say about ourselves that counts. Bragging about ourselves when we've done nothing to be proud of, doesnt make us feel better about ourselves. It's making an effort that counts! Remember: If at first you don't succeed, try, try again!! :)
@pariahsgrit3 жыл бұрын
I wanted to say that this video has really practical advice. While, YES, in the midst of depression this advice isn't going to cure you, but if you suffer from episodic forms of depression then this is thoughtful advice that could help alleviate your next spiral to the bottom of despair. I appreciate this video.
@elisabethn79624 жыл бұрын
What she's talking about is not reality for severely depressed people experiencing it.
@jennymullins5934 жыл бұрын
Actually, Elisabeth n, that's exactly who will benefit most from her talk, so long as you try & don't mock it & cling to the depression as a friend you need to protect. Depression is NOT your friend. It's your enemy, stealing your life & forcing you to co-operate. Give it a kick in the pants & just try one little challenge each day & see how good it will make you feel at the end of one month! Just try & don't give up
@self_learning_guide3 жыл бұрын
maybe,, however it's your choice to keep searching for that thing which your inner-self telling you it's the right solution, it's your own life journey.. make it to the end whatever happened/happening..
@Rustybear593 жыл бұрын
@@jennymullins593, You have obviously never experienced real depression.
@jennymullins5933 жыл бұрын
@@Rustybear59 real depression or not, best to try a positive approach, than curl up with depression & convince yourself there's nothing that can be done. Better to cling to hope than hopelessness.
@aliciasegunda35553 жыл бұрын
@@jennymullins593 and this is why when one has depression prefers to isolate themselves. You can’t be really positive with depression. It makes everything worse, it makes you feel worse for not being able to do so when people keep telling you as if it were an easy goal to pursue; but for you is almost impossible, drowning you more. Sometimes, having someone being there willing to listen to you when you need to is way better than those positive coaches speeches
@peaceandlove5447 жыл бұрын
Vicious cycle= depression causes procrastination that causes more depression. Stop the cycle.
@peaceandlove5447 жыл бұрын
Baby steps.
@peaceandlove5447 жыл бұрын
+peace and love Inspire yourself
@karenwademan96467 жыл бұрын
peace and love I agree 100% it's so hard to get stuff done and I always put things off and end up more depressed that I didn't get something done on time.
@theheididoll3 жыл бұрын
🤌👏 Just like that! Sheer genius
@Rhaifha7 жыл бұрын
I'm 25 now and dealing with a major depressive episode. Just recently I realised that it was depression and that I've been living with it all my life. The one thing I struggle with so much is the inertia. Just getting up or taking a shower, or putting yoghurt in my breakfast bowl somehow seem impossible.
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
I understand!!! Hang in there girl!! GBU!! Thanks for saying this here and sharing! I will pray for you. 👍
@E3E3E2 жыл бұрын
Yeah this video just made me feel more depressed because of all her accomplishes versus mine and then the fact that she saying she’s depressed but can achieve all these things yeah my depression doesn’t work like that
@JM-hd3lr2 жыл бұрын
same
@tyraekstrand5114 жыл бұрын
I have ocd and depression, so my half of me need me to stay in bed, and half of me needs me to get up and close the bathroom Doors and check things.🖤
@nordaenord20943 жыл бұрын
Keep fighting, both are no joke. Sending love your way
@4EverEtched3 жыл бұрын
I am EXACTLY the same!! It's bloody exhausting!
@alskndlaskndal7 жыл бұрын
Does anyone else find this kind of demotivating even while admiring and appreciating her? Just the fact that with 5 diseases she can be so productive and polished yet with no diseases I've done nothing with my life. WTF is wrong with me? How do I stop being totally useless?
@missunderstood12617 жыл бұрын
R.D. Dragon I thought so too!
@bigbuggie56 жыл бұрын
I couldn't help but feel envy at how productive and aware she is on how to tackle the problems.
@psalm32886 жыл бұрын
i feel the same.. i'm now 22 and i think that i can't do like how she did it.. plus, i'm struggling with my university life and much worse when i just only have a year left to finish my study. but here i am terrified to do anything
@tanial.williamson80826 жыл бұрын
She's too young to give this talk. I was able to cope at her age just as well as she does. I'm over FIFTY. Once I hit menopause, life just started going downhill. And the meds? They don't make new meds fast enough for people like me. You end up going through ALL of them and you're SCREWED.
@JudgeyJudgeyable6 жыл бұрын
to be fair we don't know her whole life story. we don't know about every single one of her failures the way we know our own. comparing her to ourselves is unfair
@breezainebigeagle86957 жыл бұрын
when she classifies taking a shower and eating as an easy task when you're depressed.. i laughed
@DonnaBrooks6 жыл бұрын
I know. I didn't laughed, but my eyes bugged out and my jaw dropped. I was like, "Easy?" No, that's the point. Nothing is easy. Whenever I think about taking a shower, I think, "Why bother?" Making decisions like what to eat or what to wear are exhausting. I do take my meds and keep all my medical appointments. And I do stop myself when I start having thoughts I know are going to make things worse. I will say, "No! No, you're getting up. We aren't going down that road." And I'll get up and start doing something constructive,- no matter how minor, like putting one thing away. Something that can just be temporary or something that has a definite place I keep it. The point is that it either requires no decision or I allow myself to put something away "for now", even if it's not in the best place or the final place, just so it's out of my way and I feel less overwhelmed by having to constantly move around stuff. (I rent a room and I often don't even have a flat surface on which to eat that isn't covered w/ stuff, and I don't have a chair, so I use my bed as a table and chair.) Decisions are crazy difficult for me. It will take me a couple of hours to buy food at the grocery store when a normal person could do it in 20 minutes. I am just exhausted afterward.
@Brutik55 жыл бұрын
Other tasks that she mentioned are more difficult.
@nickforbrains5 жыл бұрын
They are the easier than all the other ones you have to do. I know what you're saying tho 😔
@juanab.64565 жыл бұрын
Those are "normally easy" tasks that became very hard to do during an episode. That's why they are labeled "easy" to remind an ill person that their disorders are just telling lies. And what do we do when we know something's a lie? NOT GIVE IN AND BELIEVE IT.
@ekinbaysal5 жыл бұрын
:-D
@JimmyGorgeous5 ай бұрын
Lack of love and support kills
@annadough5309 Жыл бұрын
For anyone who wants to know, the 8:00 minute mark is where she starts giving tips!
@Biiku_7 жыл бұрын
Sometimes, putting on pants is the only thing I can accomplish. I make sure to throw my arms up and think "Yes! Pants!" because I'm out of bed.
@Celatra7 жыл бұрын
Feel you, and I'm not even depressed, just highly anxious.
@vandanapandit70077 жыл бұрын
Jessica Oudbier hey, how u doing now? I can totally relate to it....even m facing similar problems..it is so difficult for me to take a bath or to cook food or to clean the house...and so many more things....I spend most of the time inside my blanket...I wish this gets over soon...m falling behind at my work too 🙁
@Biiku_7 жыл бұрын
I'm still in a depressive slump here too. Thank you for asking! Today, I put pants on and then immediately auto-piloted back to bed. It feels like a car stuck in the snow. You start, spin wheels, shut down, try again. But you know what, it does end. Eventually it has to end. Sometimes your options to make the pain stop are literally just suicide or wait. A lot of people don't like to admit that depression gets to that point, but it does. In those instances, I advise waiting. If that means saying "I can hang on for one more youtube video" and then repeating that until you can get help, go for it. I've been there. As for work, tiny chunks. Start with getting your work out. Your papers, your pens, your computer. Whatever. If you need to stop for blanket time, cool, you're operating on depression time, not mythical normal person time. Does any of this help? I just washed three dishes before crumpling into a sobbing heap. In a few, I'm going to do a few more. It sucks. But eventually, I can say "Yes! Dishes!"
@j.s.18167 жыл бұрын
Jessica Oudbier "Yes" "Pants" -- that made me smile!
7 жыл бұрын
Jessica Oudbier starting anything is hard because you have to make a decision. i rented a studio with a drumset for 4 hours and i have one left... I'm lookng for motivation so i can start practicing but i ve wasted 3 hours doing that.
@ElyzaHalpern7 жыл бұрын
This is extremely important. "We need to move beyond a diagnosis and start giving people coping mechanisms."
@marieociskova61463 жыл бұрын
Late but still... Hard to believe that she didn´t get that with all that therapy she underwent. Coping is one if the basic topics.
@samerinaa2 жыл бұрын
I make a “goal of the day”. I start with one, and allow it to be the only one. Something simple that I know I can do that day. Usually what happens is, after I complete that goal, I feel just a little bit better. so I make another easy goal. Completing little goals makes me feel better so that’s why I do it this way. Also, I leave the option open to be glad I completed the goal, and then rest for the remainder of the day.
@keatongroom Жыл бұрын
I try to visualise myself happy, and doing the things I want to do. The other thing is. Don’t let “feel” dictate what you do. Not always easy. But just cause you don’t feel like doing something, doesn’t always mean don’t do it. Just do it anyway, and you’ll feel better about yourself after and for sticking to you discipline and winning.
@elliejenkins81477 жыл бұрын
oh my goodness, it's kind of comforting to read some comments and know you are not alone with your problems. We must keep fighting, sisters and brothers🙌
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
👍👍👍👍👍❤❤ yes!!! GBU!
@sapphirepokemonfan4 жыл бұрын
So comforting
@stephy3697 жыл бұрын
preparing for future depression episodes would also take not being depressed. You can prepare all you want by rating tasks, etc, but when you are depressed what would make you follow your self-prepared steps for stopping the depression? How can you make yourself do the things that will help you make yourself do things? I feel like I learned nothing from this, except that this woman fought her depression. Good for her.
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
I don't think she really knows what a bad " or serious depression is like. IMHO, Anyway. I don't get that impression from her really . Everyone feels blue or down at times, but a real depression affects you allot! You can even tell by many of the comments on this thread!! Well, whatever, I guess. 🤕😓😣
@DoorKaRaahi Жыл бұрын
I too respect her achiements but thats about it. All her socalled pep talk seems useless.
@amberenergyhealertarot6617 Жыл бұрын
The most important thing to realize is this.... She is so unique and special that she is only like 1 in 50million. That's very special.
@juanmeyer3798 Жыл бұрын
😢 all I can say is that she is stronger than most humans .... thank you for sharing your story 🙏
@Julzmaniac7 жыл бұрын
"Yes, depression is real, but hope is real." Goosebumps. :'(
@rebeccasalter40817 жыл бұрын
This woman is very inspiring, even if her tips are much harder in execution. I've struggled with depression all my life. It's so hard to be positive - it's simply not natural with this kind of mental illness. A huge part of it is the lack of recognition from others. It's 10x harder to motivate yourself and get things done when the rest of the world trivialises or negates your suffering.
@miyadora99574 жыл бұрын
How is blowin' your own trumpet going to help people with depression especially those who are in their 30's and up? People who haven't accomplished a thing because depression is too crippling they could hardly move and get out of bed.
@dcoci4 жыл бұрын
I mean it's aimed to be inspiring and hopeful, but its up to you how you receive the message
@FormlessJKD172 жыл бұрын
My depression began when my fiance didn't want to work things out anymore and we had a 5mth old baby too. We sold our house because I couldn't keep up with all the bills thought we could start over and rented a house but one month into it she didn't want to do it anymore. Then 2mths later my daughter from a previous relationship had her own mental issues and tried to hurt herself. And this all started when the first lockdown began. It affected my work and I had many fleeting suicidal thoughts at work and on my drive home which felt like forever. Then I became physically ill beginning of 2022 Dr said it was septic arthritis not sure how it happened either. Being in the hospital with covid restrictions added to my depression. Almost dying on my birthday because my heart reached 217 and my birthday was on Feb 17th was a terrifying coincidence and I accepted I was about to die and die alone. Being out of 2 hospitals, then finding out I have superficial thrombophlebitis, gout then covid was the last. But also being in a current relationship, with all the back and forth arguing because she worried all the time about my health and worried about her health and mental health as well. I blamed myself for being sick. I didn't know and understand what I was feeling. I denied it. Buried it. It's been 2yrs feeling worthless, useless, sad, alone, unmotivated, lost, etc. I accepted it. I accepted the depression but I didn't want to believe it and didn't want to be weak. But I did and I cried so hard. I just thought it was too late to get help but I am.
@orlandomorales54237 жыл бұрын
This just gave me so much life right now. Thank you so much Jessica.
@JessicaLynnGimeno7 жыл бұрын
You're welcome @Orlando Morales!
@amanda-ok1ww7 жыл бұрын
vaccine injury? Plus food sensitivity? I have a similar story and I am vaccine injured- not realised until adulthood. lazy eyes as a small kid, stomach problems, ear and tonsil infections constantly- asthma- fatigued- over weight and had ups and downs. I was also clever and creative. A bit odd and often described as an old soul, I was very sensitive (i now have autistic kids and see similarities. We have had genetic testing- NAD which concludes loosely, that we have the same environmental sensitivities that lead to autistic symptoms) As an adult I am seemingly bipolar 2 although bipolar is often the diagnosis given to adult autistics who have not been previously diagnosed. I also have Psoriatic arthritis (auto immune problem) and I'm in my 20's. I'm a nurse, artist and entrepreneur. I sincerely hope the Jessica comes across what I have realised to be neurological injury further irritated by food intolerance that disrupt tight junction function causing leaky gut syndrome which causes neurological symptoms such as anxiety, twitches or ticks, irritation and mood swings in varying degrees( inflamed brain). If your brain is inflamed one must think about autoimmune response and how it can effect other areas of the body. In my self I have manifested Psoriatic arthritis and chronic sinusitis and Bipolar like symptoms ( possibly ASD). I know this is a mouth full but I hope it is helpful to someone
@anitasseo7 жыл бұрын
Very well said; the ending is formidable. Let`s not rely only on pills and resign ourselves for the disease to domain us. Let's keep on trying. I hope we can. :)
@rose9617 жыл бұрын
Orlando Morales
@guerillahag7 жыл бұрын
i have the wonderful double whammy of depression and anxiety with no way of get help/medication and this helps a lot thank you
@rahuldas24oct7 жыл бұрын
why not?
@rohinimalhotra69317 жыл бұрын
+ashima rajput if you need a friend,email me malhotra.maria@yahoo.in
@Isabelle-fh3yr7 жыл бұрын
This is totally unrelated to your comment, but I just noticed you look really beautiful. I hope you'll experience more of what helps you in life!
@ppsh437 жыл бұрын
I am not a big fan of self-help books, but "Feeling Good" by Burns helped me a lot.
@justletmelisten2437 жыл бұрын
Ashima Rajput my favorite books are the hardcore self help books by Robert Duff for a sort of intro into CBT and help. and then The Upward Cycle: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the course of depression one small step at a time. neither is a replacement for mental health, but are good stopgaps. also maven healthcare let's you video chat with medical professionals and has a mental health option and there is talkspace which is online therapy if you can afford either if those options
@francesdowney68048 ай бұрын
I just watched your Ted Talk with the hope of helping a friend with depression. It's wonderful and it helped me immensely also. I have a chronic autoimmune disease. I have good days and bad days and I do get down sometimes on a sick day. When I feel like this again I will think of your tips, your struggles and how you're killing it. I will say to myself if Jessica can do it, so can I! Thank you so much for sharing your personal story that I will carry with me always as a tool to help me cope with my incurable disease.
@beyondher2 жыл бұрын
I find I can still complete most tasks when I'm depressed, only they take me so much longer and get drastically delayed. Also, I find I don't feel fulfilled after completing the tasks, so there's no sense of reward for my intense effort. Depression for me is like going through the motions of living like I am an actor in a movie. A movie such as Groundhog Day. There seems to be a screen that blocks my soul from my experience, I'm removed from life somehow.
@Y_Canada7 жыл бұрын
This video hasn't gotten as many likes as Justin Beaver's "Sorry", but I want Jessica and the entire TED team to know, that this was remarkably helpful and inspiring for a lot of people. Even if you help ONE person, that's already an accomplishment... You helped hundreds and probably thousands of people with this video. Thank you.
@robbyphelps32435 жыл бұрын
To anyone and everyone one who is reading this, you are beautiful, you are kind, you are loved, you are special and you will make your amazing mark on this world and the world would be a darker place without you. I love you. And giving you a big hug right now. Hold your head up high, know that you have a purpose in this life and the next, even if you might not have found it yet. You are amazing and I hope you have a beautiful rest of the day. XOXO ❤️
@cg54915 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@rare93525 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for these lovely words ❤❤ I really needed sth like that ❤
@blessedasiam5 жыл бұрын
Thank you and please take these warm words for your self too!✨
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
Thanks!!! GBU. 😇😇😇💚💙💚💙👍👍👍👍👍
@sandeepbhadani79315 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤
@GreenStarMidoriBoshi2 жыл бұрын
very true and encouraging what she said at the end, that depression is real, but hope and resilience are just as real
@veronicaherrera75862 жыл бұрын
She’s so inspiring. But we must remember to not compare ourselves to others. Love this gal and her ideas. Stay strong 💪🏽 we deserve it. 🥄🦋🙏🏽
@j.i.weyllandin74396 жыл бұрын
I seriously get the notion she has no idea what a clinically depressive person feels like. Plus, I can't stand people who rub their achievements under my nose for the first half of their talks, just to show me I have no right to be unproductive because I just have to learn how to deal with my condition. Maybe they could, because maybe they are stronger and somehow better than others, or they lucked out, or were at the right place at the right time. But the mistake people like this repeatedly make is to assume that everybody can do what they did. Heck, almost nobody can, otherwise everybody would. So just shut up about it. All you do is raise the expectations of healthy people, making everybody with depression or anxiety just that much more uncomfortable. The greatest flaw of our time and society is that we measure the value of people by their economic productiveness. So if you are not born to be productive, you have basically no chance to be accepted as a valuable member of society. This is the issue that needs to be addressed, so that people with different needs can feel okay about them and themselves. Not how to make people with different needs a productive work force. Everybody, it's okay if you're not productive. You are valuable still!
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
I really agree with you on that!!! You are really bright!! And thanks so much for saying this here!! We are ALL valuable, of course!!! Couldn't agree with you more about that! And God loves you!!! GBU! 👍👍👍👍👍❤💚💙💛💜 (her attitude and acting like she's suffered allot turned me off 2) 😝😝
@Kedar7524 жыл бұрын
Agree. I kept getting the idea that she's a bit narcissistic when I started to focus on the number of time she says "I", "me", "my".
@ImTheMargo4 жыл бұрын
Kissing your brain
@irisrose47324 жыл бұрын
Agreed. It came off as if she truly has no idea what real clinical depression is.
@lotusluo46944 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@mediastarguest7 жыл бұрын
Depression is a war that you have to keep fighting. For many of us it is a war that cannot be won. But you can win battles. You can fight to see another day. And another. And another.
@emh88614 жыл бұрын
Exercise makes a big difference . I found that out when my car broke down. I had to exercise and never felt so happy.
@alyssastarr68572 жыл бұрын
Try having combination ADHD, PTSD AND depression..... no meds ! I wanna cry just typing this..... lol but "EYE OF THE TIGER" is my motivational song! I play it EVERY time before an interview i swear
@willowisp91507 жыл бұрын
and i'm here lying in bed like a potato
@monsteri45 жыл бұрын
call this place our home me too haha
@allisonfellows55165 жыл бұрын
me three. I want potato chips
@Rustybear593 жыл бұрын
@@allisonfellows5516, but I don't want to make the long walk to go get them from the kitchen which is 5 feet away.
@skyrasmus47605 жыл бұрын
*Is dealing with major depression and having a hard time just getting out of bed* *Finds KZbin video about being productive while depressed* *Listens to someone shamelessly plug their own nonprofit and flaunts their own achievements for over half the video* *Quits watching out of disgust* "Wow, thanks I'm cured!" Seriously though, maybe when making a video about depression don't take up half the video talking about even though you're really depressed you got all these wonderful awards, nonprofits, and achievements then in the middle of talking about yourself just say, "find things you enjoy doing of course! That'll help you so much!" Right....... Social media is for talking about how amazing you think you are, not Tedx.
@oliviacadena20365 жыл бұрын
Yes I really agree with you. 🤗🤗🤗🤗👍👍👍👍
@austingode4 жыл бұрын
Sky Rasmus Nah .... Tedx is shite .... very shallow platform ... I've dozens of videos trying to understand depression and they are all useless narcissistic shite just like this
@maitemsm9094 жыл бұрын
What would help or motivate you?
@jennymullins5934 жыл бұрын
Damn Fiddle, Spot on. The day a Psychologist told me I was the only one who could help myself, & then wanted to give me the time of my next appointment, was the day I thought: 'Well why am I wasting time & money speaking to you, then?' I haven't been back since. It actually made me feel very depressed to think of going back & talking about the rubbish that upset me. I prefer to move on & think of what needs my attention most, each new day. Must admit, without God's help I wouldn't have the strength I have, emotionally or physically, each day! Just forcing yourself to do something that's difficult or that you don't want to do, is a MAJOR achievement. And YOU feel the benefits of it...no one can take that from you, & while free, it pays outstanding dividends! You get to keep ALL the 'profits'!
@gb9174 жыл бұрын
The way I see it. She was able to achieve what she wanted life despite struggling with mental illness.
@seasaltine5 жыл бұрын
Edit 11/27/2020: it's been well over a year now but uhhh things are better lads and lasses :) good luck out there “I had a happy childhood” can’t relate lmao Also, I wish that stuff like showering or eating or even just taking my meds was easy. I wish I could do things, be motivated or happy and be able to get things done. I can’t do that. Nothing is easy, nothing seems to help. I try and try and try and try and I cannot do anything and not doing things I know I have to do makes things worse
@itsjkforreal4 жыл бұрын
I also have trouble showering, doing regular tasks; especially in winter. I've got decent roommates. I'm in a group. I try to think less about what I "have to do" and more about "what can i do now?" People kept telling me i was too hard on myself - that was tricky! I had to correct myself withOUT being harsh LOL. Good hunting.
@danadevries9563 жыл бұрын
lmao on the can't relate,
@shake18893 жыл бұрын
Well, great to see things have improved for you :)
@jeffgarney15605 жыл бұрын
I am the male version of Jessica. But, I look and do feel very ill. She looks good. The problem in my case is I have a severe autoimmune illness that has no name. It makes me feel bad because of the wide-ranging symptoms. Some days, I just hurt. But it’s not fibromyalgia. I’m not chemically depressed, but I do struggle with insomnia because...I hurt. So, I’m here with all of you, humbly sharing a bit of my experience.
@giannine187 жыл бұрын
I have been living with depression for 7 years. My family denies that depression is real. But I know that denying the existence and debilitating effect of depression won't do anything good. So I decided to stop asking them for help and started taking steps to deal with depression. I don't know how I'm still alive but I am.
@malibubarbi017 жыл бұрын
This is wonderful. I was diagnosed with depression when I was 13, rapid cycling bipolar disorder and adhd in high school, major anxiety about two years ago to the point of agoraphobia, and polycystic ovarian syndrome and ocd this year. She is very strong, I have a lot of respect for her. Not everyone will understand the struggles of mental illness and it's frustrating. I know anyone watching this video is most likely going through something themselves and I want to let you know that I believe in you.
@Monique-hz1si6 жыл бұрын
Sarah Surowka Hello Im 13.. Im depressed because of family issues and many other issues can you please tell me how you got diagnosed? I really need help, I don’t know what to do. I want to see a doctor but I don’t want to mention anything to my family.
@kelb60736 жыл бұрын
Go to see your guidance counselor at school. Because your 13, they have a right to know if your counselor thinks they need to. But it's good that you want to seek help, and no matter what, see your school counselor.
@mykiea51566 жыл бұрын
Sarah Surowka :)
@Zakco01235 жыл бұрын
Sarah Surowka By the time I was 13 I was also diagnosed with ADHD, Dysmithia, Bipolar and an anxiety disorder that I can even pronounce. I'm 18 and I've graduated high school with honours. Do I feel pride because of that accomplishment? No not really. But I know I must fight my mind everyday, every hour and every minute of my life and I do not often win. I know I will keep losing battles but I must win the war with my mind
@fernanumero35 жыл бұрын
Monique101 Hang in there, i know it doesn't seem like it but it does get better
@nilufarbaratova29603 жыл бұрын
Amazing human being, loved her encouraging speech.
@ValwithaVee3 жыл бұрын
Wow she really achieved a lot of things. No wonder she has so much confidence. Unlike us average people with crippling depression and scars on our arms.
@jordanhunt47888 жыл бұрын
I've never heard anyone speak this way about depression. It's extremely powerful. Life changing.
@caterpillarnana7 жыл бұрын
I have toothpaste in my hair. I can't brush it out and I don't have time to shampoo this morning. The day is going by and I have errands to run and people to see. I'm trying to take notes from your TED Talk in my Mental Hygiene Journal. I made a mistake, got up to look for the White-out, but I couldn't find it. Instead I found the butter wrapped up in wax paper, left on the table from the night before. I noticed how small of a piece of butter that it was. I put it in the refrigerator and open to the freezer for a new stick of butter. I still haven't found the White-out. I don't like scratching things out in my journal. It makes me feel less than. I want to finish listening to your Ted Talk now. I want to enter my notes in my journal before I forget. Getting out the door has more stars then the things I want to do. I also have a laundry list of health problems. We're not alone. Only your own Ted and I'm sitting here in my kitchen with toothpaste in my hair. Thanks for the advise. You're a good kid. I wish you all good things.
@nonih93387 жыл бұрын
caterpillarnana 💓💓
@lombmusic077 жыл бұрын
you could write short stories very well, you know.
@user-eu5rs8ev9p6 жыл бұрын
I can relate to you! Please, continue giving, you have a gift with words and conveying feelings in a quick way.
@lakshmin85232 жыл бұрын
Yes !! Depression is real Hope is real Courage is real Resilence is real..
@khalid82714 жыл бұрын
This story is inspirational. During the times that I'm deeply depressed, I can barely function. I struggle to clean myself, sleep too much and eat too much. The thing that stood out to me is that you need to address your issues as soon as you see them (before it turns to full scaled depression). I think for everyone struggling it's definitely good to start with just getting up and folding the bed. At times that's a big win and can help you continue to do more good for yourself.
@Swanky954727 жыл бұрын
Wow, that woman was an EXCELLENT speaker! I'm depressed right now that my boyfriend broke up with me, but thankfully I am very healthy.
@keldraalpine70917 жыл бұрын
Dudes are desserts--your health is EVERYTHING.
@nappyqueen867 жыл бұрын
keldra alpine excellent response
@sakurachristineito64287 жыл бұрын
God bless you!! I also broke up a few years ago and I went into depression and was even suicidal. And then I thought that life has so much to offer, so many more places to travel and most importantly so many more and better people to meet (: life will test you for sure and it's not the smartest people who'll succeed but it's the ones who are the most compatible with changes and can bounce back after they fall. Good luck with life!!! We are all together.
@chippotatoe21687 жыл бұрын
Sakura Christine Ito wow that's a good way to look at it. I will remember that when I feel like not going on.
@santos46135 жыл бұрын
I love this video. Here’s a timestamp outline to make it easier for everyone: Proactivity: 8:00 Urgency: 10:36 Difficulty: 13:06
@carlam2605 жыл бұрын
Thnk u!!!
@lindsayc.75725 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@Sophia-cd2ci4 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@grafplaten4 жыл бұрын
You forgot: Blathering on and on about herself: 0:00
@_..kit.._2 жыл бұрын
thank you this should be pinned
@SYWang-hw5re4 жыл бұрын
The strategies she talked about are really applicable
@ueblay4 жыл бұрын
I found this really helpful. Here's a quick summary: 1. Be proactive know the symptoms of your depression and undertake the strategies that work for you ex. under/over sleeping and eating, exercise and therapy (or faith or friends or family or reading) 2. Urgency rate tasks on a to-do list: today: 4 stars, tmrw 3, this week 2, next week 1 when depressed, only do 3 or higher 3. Difficulty easy tasks, like eating or taking a shower, 1 moderate, 2 difficult, like making a work deadline, 3 when depressed, do all the easy ones first to gain momentum also, turn your hard tasks into easy ones by breaking them down
@frilly357 жыл бұрын
8:08 "Do you have a plan for the next time you get depressed?" ... Okay but I'm always depressed ? So. ?
@jesseishere99598 жыл бұрын
I have extreme depression. Sometimes I can have positive thoughts and the I switch to bad thoughts. Depression is a extreme challenge.
@mspixiedust1007 жыл бұрын
please don't get mad but, maybe go get a bible, and just to humor, read it in your spare time
@ellietischler7 жыл бұрын
mspixiedust100 I have chronic depression and I read the bible at least 10 minutes every day. It doesn't make me any less depressed, but maybe it counts for something in the long run. I am still alive, after all, however much I may hate the fact, I have no plans to change it.
@fenderguitargod17 жыл бұрын
Nothing makes me more depressed than reading a bible
@Ocinematique7 жыл бұрын
Hope you've asked for professional help. It is extremely important since pathological depression becomes worse with time, if not treated.
@Ocinematique7 жыл бұрын
+ Eleanor Tischler - I respect your beliefs. But have in mind that pathological depression is like cancer, in other words: it gets worse if not treated, so treatment is crucial. I suppose the bible brings you calm and hope, but if you are dealing with disease, professional help is required. Good luck to you.
@antaradey25 Жыл бұрын
For me, getting proactive is listening to affirmations, or reading comments of people going through the same when I feel isolated, or watching videos like these. It helps most of the time.
@louisesumrell63313 жыл бұрын
I was judged and certified by a psychiatrist, psychologist and a panel of Social Security Administration doctors, 22 years ago, to be "Totally and Permanently Disabled, Unemployable", due to Major Depressive Disorder and Major Anxiety Disorder, with suicide attempts and panic attacks and Agoraphobia... I'm doing well just to be still alive, but I persevere...
@outdoorsnaturengod92763 жыл бұрын
Strong firm wise worlds That is great example of a life warrior I'm with you... Keep it up! God bless🙏
@anushkas84337 жыл бұрын
Thank you Jessica. I've been looking for a light for so long. You're inspirational.
@JessicaLynnGimeno7 жыл бұрын
You're welcome :)
@ajazahmednaik88606 жыл бұрын
I have also been suffering from depression and anxiety will u help me
@musically_insane7 жыл бұрын
I think I have been depressed for about 2 years now, but only just got the courage to go and see a therapist 2 weeks ago. Tomorrow, I go for my third session. I blamed myself for years that I am lazy and unambitious for not being able to take a shower regularly or not being able to comply by deadlines. This only started happening once I moved to college and I thought I'd changed and that I lost track of who I was as a person. Reading the comments here makes me feel that I wasn't a blatant deviant, that it's normal and natural to feel this way because this is an actual disease, just like common cold may be. The sad reality of today's world.
@martiangirl94115 жыл бұрын
I have nothing more to say than 'a thank you' from bottom of my heart! I really needed this thank you so much Jessica thank you so much! 🙏❤