How to Give a BEST MAN SPEECH (Delivering a Toast to the Groom)

[@royalvarado3972]

Man im starting to panick I have a week and a half left to write a best man speech and im completely terrified!

[@wadepaterson]

Hey! The fact you're watching videos like this and doing your research (even if it is only a week out), is a good sign! The vast majority of people don't do any research at all. My biggest suggestion is that you start focusing on your speech now. Hopefully this video gave you some good ideas for how to build the structure. Personal stories are key, so start to put together a rough draft of a speech (it doesn't have to be perfect). The next step is to start practicing every day. Let's say it takes you the next couple days to build the speech, that still leaves you with a full week (7 times) to rehearse going over your speech. I promise you that's enough time, but you need to get after it now! Best of luck, dude! Let me know how it goes, or if I can be of further help :)

[@Bonk-A-Lonk]

How did It go ?

[@libertariancountry3920]

I'd finish the speech with an actual sincere toast... Marcus Aurelius style wisdom. Definitely agree with opening up with some humor or a funny story.

[@wadepaterson]

That’s a good suggestion!

[@joehelpern5221]

Nice job! I’m about to give one this Thursday and that was one of the clearest breakdowns I’ve found on here.

[@wadepaterson]

So glad this video was helpful for you! Best of luck Thursday! Feel free to comment afterward and let me know how it went.

[@formulazealot1938]

I’m about to make my speech right now, as a 15 year old this was easy to understand thank you

[@wadepaterson]

Good luck with the speech, dude! Thanks for watching this video and taking the time to comment. You're going to do great!

[@GrnChli]

I’m giving one in 3 days thank goodness I found this video!

[@wadepaterson]

Best of luck! You got this.

[@feedshank8207]

Did one in 2017 and basically got told to get off stage by a very rude lady on the front row, got one in under a month so the anxiety is high

[@wadepaterson]

I'm so sorry that happened to you! Why did she do that? Was she intoxicated? That's so upsetting. I can understand why you're really nervous, but just know that the situation you described is really rare, and it's definitely her issue, not yours. Keep your confidence high, follow the tips in this video, and you're going to do great.

[@feedshank8207]

@@wadepaterson Hi Man, just to let you know all went well :) it flowed that smoothly and quickly i still now 2 weeks later keep getting worried thinking i've still got to do it, thanks for your kind words

[@wadepaterson]

@@feedshank8207 I'm really glad it went well. The more successful public speaking opportunities you have, the quicker that rude lady moment will fade from your memory and your confidence will continue to grow!

[@skyisthelimit246]

This video really help me a lot as a best man! Thank you very much bro!

[@wadepaterson]

So glad to hear that! Best of luck with the speech :)

[@kqly69]

My introduction will be Michael Scott's definition of wedding..

[@wadepaterson]

Nice! My best man actually did that at my wedding believe it or not...

[@andrewgriffin1383]

That sounds hilarious!

[@t0masibrudoctor534]

Best man is down sickand its the day before and im here for tips. 🙏

[@wadepaterson]

Yikes!! That’s a tough situation!! Good for you for stepping up. Best of luck with the speech (let me know how it goes).

[@t0masibrudoctor534]

Was a success thanks, I started with a childhood moment, went on to do the groom's qualities, briefly followed by an endorsement on the bride and their relationship I had more than one compliment. But it was more heartfelt and positive speech, thankfully it wasn't entirely my responsibility in the end - the other stand in best man did a neat comical finish. So between us both we covered it all.

[@wadepaterson]

@@t0masibrudoctor534 way to go!! Glad you went with a speech that was authentic to your relationship. Coming up with something last-minute is incredibly hard, and it sounds like you knocked it out of the park. You should be very proud!

[@roymilford4386]

i have a few months to go an i am very nervous. my friend/coworker just tells me i am going to be the best man for his wedding how do i cope with this?

[@wadepaterson]

Three things: 1) Remember that nerves are normal, and part of the process. Even the best public speakers get nervous. The key is to transform that nervousness into positive energy. 2) Practice. A lot! Run through your speech a number of times until it becomes second nature. 3) Remember the purpose. The goal is to give your friend/co-worker a special memory, and to honour that individual on his big day. So deliver the message from the heart and do your best.

[@Christians9955]

Me next week, absolutely stressing.

[@wadepaterson]

You got this! What's stressing you out most?

[@Christians9955]

@wadepaterson to be honest, drinking to much before the speech and what people will think of me. Judgement.

[@wadepaterson]

@@Christians9955 That's fair and totally normal. A few tips: -Practice as much as possible between now and the speech. If you haven't finalized the speech yet, make it a priority to get that done today, then practice the speech once or twice each day between now and the wedding. -If there is drinking the night before the wedding, try to get in a practice session prior to having any alcohol, and don't drink too excessively the night before. -The day of the wedding, there will surely be pressure to drink, but I really encourage you to either not drink at all prior to your speech (ideal scenario), or set a limit (like one or two max) and stick to it. I'd suggest sipping on a zero beer or a mocktail so you still have to social aspect, but aren't making your head too foggy. -Try to make the audience laugh early with self-deprecating humour. My best wedding speeches are the ones where I poke fun of myself and put the groom in the best light. -Remember you've been asked to give this speech for a reason, and people want you to succeed! -You can still drink, but delay the vast majority of those drinks until after your speech. You can think of it as a reward for getting through the speech.

[@Christians9955]

@wadepaterson thanks. I will let you know how I get on

[@paulogotera4412]

Having to give a best man speech as an introvert with absolute stage fright. ☠️😔😫

[@wadepaterson]

You've got this! Practice a lot and try to get the audience to laugh in the first 30 seconds... I promise it will relax you!

[@Heinz-z1z]

Thank you My Daughter is getting married on the 19th May,my Husband passed away 6 months ago, and l would love to give a short speech, thank you for some guide lines.

[@wadepaterson]

Hi there! I'm so sorry I didn't respond sooner, for some reason I didn't receive a notification of this comment. I'm so deeply sorry to hear about your husband passing. I think the best advice I could give is speak from the heart. This will certainly be an emotional and difficult speech to get through, but at the same time, there's an opportunity to celebrate your daughter and honour your husband's legacy. -Write out things you'd really like to include in this speech. These notes will act as a reference point of the message you're trying to convey. (While I usually suggest not to rely on notes, I think that structure will serve you well during this difficult type of speech.) -Speak from the heart. Be sincere and honest about how things have been, but transition to the positivity of your daughter's special day. -Include a personal story. Was there a special memory your late husband and daughter shared? This may be a nice thing to include within your speech. -Conclude with optimism and positivity. -Practice. Because this is such a difficult subject, you will likely be emotional on the day. Each time you practice, you will build that bit of confidence... because communicating what you want to communicate to your daughter is what really matters... and practice will help you do that most effectively. My heart goes out to you and your family. Best of luck this Friday. ♥

[@ianlancaster183]

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