HOW TO HANDLE AGING PARENT YELLING WHEN YOU LOVE THEM

[@vivid3605]

🎉❤ Thank you soooo much 😭😇

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

@vivid3605 You're so welcome! Thanks for watching! ❤️

[@nonawolf7495]

20 years ago, when my parent were in their70s, I asked them to move to my state so I could take care of them as they got older. They blew off the suggestion and said they planned to die in their home. With each year that passed I watched them decline, and continued to approach the subject of their elder care needs - but they refused to consider leaving their home. Now it's too late. Now 90, Dad is bedridden, and mom is exceedingly frail. Mom is angry with me for not "being there" for them, and has become increasingly hostile. She recently asked me to leave my job, home, and husband to come and take care of them. I said no. I was not prepared to leave my husband and let my home go in to foreclosure, just because they chose their house over their future. Now she is not talking to me, and refuses to take my phone calls. I am so angry with them for putting us all in this terrible position. Please pray for me. Thank you for your wonderful videos.

[@martinegoddyn6631]

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[@melissalechner8649]

I am SO sorry. I'm experiencing something similar. My parents live 800 miles away. In their early 80s and both experiencing decline. Every time Ive tried to broach the subject of what their plans are, I get shut down. They want to ignore the inevitable but I know they expect me to drop my own life and come to them so they can age in place. It isn't going to happen. And it's gonna get ugly. I dread it so badly. Thinking of you and hope you get some sort of resolution!

[@nonawolf7495]

@@melissalechner8649 Prayers for you, my sister - this is not an easy road! "Aging in place" sounds noble, but it really isn't... it requires your children to sacrifice their lives. What kind of a parent would ask such a thing?

[@sablechicken]

My Mother-in-law has dementia, the best thing to do is to NEVER argue with her, but acknowledge her feelings and quickly change the topic or distract her. I have also helped my husband to do the same thing. The pointless fighting was damaging, we are all less stressed if we apply this approach to every interaction with her.

[@SofiaAmirpoor]

Yay! Less stress! That's such a great tip, thanks for sharing!

[@nonawolf7495]

Great advice. Does your MIL live with you, or is she in a facility?