How To Handle Jealous and Envious People| THE HIDDEN PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND HATERS

[@mosesjones5376]

One thing I've realized a long time ago is that if you're very busy working on yourself and your goals, you won't have the time or the energy to hate or envy anyone.

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Absolutely, that is why you don't find people in a healthy space involved in drama, gossip, hate etc., they are too busy focused on personal/professional growth and bettering themselves. Toxic/problematic/low self esteem individuals not so much.

[@dimedavispresentstalkyospit]

@@messtobestsolutions8738 facts

[@jessitabonita]

@@messtobestsolutions8738 YES! Thank you for your encouragement and effort to make this video. 💛 Not even less than 3 months into my new job, I was recently blindsided by how some of my coworkers (of course all younger insecure and incompetent females...) started cliquing up, stare at me as I focus on work (either my computer or customer), try to copy what I wear and say, and then I hear from my male coworker how they all gossip about me. It's funny, because I'm personally at my rock bottom in life, but they wouldn't know that because I don't talk about my personal life at work like they do. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I've never been in such an unproductive and unprofessional workplace, so best believe I'm finding a new job and leave the vengeance to God while praying for their healing.

[@LaKymana]

Amen

[@marthasinda2101]

You are very right 100% coz I too I've experienced this

[@3dprofessor520]

People hate themselves and they want you to hate yourself.

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Pretty accurate, Misery usually likes company unfortunately.

[@butterfly-sky]

so true 🤡 we're not that bad though

[@Mirkalicious84]

That is so fucking true! Projecting is a tremendous thing in today‘s society. That’s why I keep my circle small and clean.

[@cassanix9093]

Facts!!

[@oracleofdewphi]

So true!!

[@kandiceblu1]

Sometimes you don’t have to do anything at all …and “they’re “ triggered by you

[@lilah7865]

Big Facts

[@rhondastrode2072]

And that's really sad...

[@Loveparfumss]

Exactly 💯‼️

[@janicewilliams4926]

Exactly

[@Meli27w]

I have one of those. For the longest time I was spinning out about WHYYY she has such a problem with me. She stirs up trouble and stalks me online. It’s infuriating.

[@OrahLoves]

I’ve caught a so called friend rolling her eyes at me (twice) and literally making a grimus micro expression at me for no good reason. I am just going to phase her out of my life. I actually feel bad for her because she’s been through a lot of hardships in her life but I can’t let someone bring me down like that. Adult people don’t make faces for no good reason, but jealousy!

[@allisonalbonetti8502]

I had one of those so called friends at work,which we still work togeather, I know she has been making faces rolling her eyes when I talk to a customer ,and I know she says untruths about me,because some customers act like they dont want to talk to me,which I have known for years, I'm trying to get thru a few more months, and I will be changing jobs, but its hard I have been there 13 yrs.This woman at work is old and hateful, and 2 face.

[@found-it0620]

Thank u for saying this, I was thinking of returning to a group begging me 'to come back' yet, I forget the leader would make faces behind my back and seemed to be circulating a neg view of me.

[@OrahLoves]

@@allisonalbonetti8502 That’s terrible. I understand. I am sorry that you might need to quit your job but since she is old, maybe she will retire!! I am praying right at this moment that the Lord promote you and new doors open!! ❤

[@OrahLoves]

@@found-it0620 It seems that in many women’s groups, there’s one or two that are the ringleader two faced gossipers. It’s like there’s a pecking order… I think it’s something evil that comes over them. It's hurtful! The jealous and envious people don’t want to hear about how you’re going back to school and pursuing dreams, or you just simply being a kind authentic person. ❤️ They’re really quite immature; a low emotional quotient - EQ. I recently moved back to my town and I pray for authentic friends that are not stuck in their miserable ruts, Who only live for their vacations two or three times a year, and live to gossip.

[@allisonalbonetti8502]

@@OrahLoves Thankyou

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

If a woman 👠👠 is confident she won't spend her time stalking another woman and hating on her. I'm proud of any woman that shines. We as women should empower each other.

[@williamsj4852]

Say that again 💪🏾

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

@@williamsj4852 Amen

[@noanoa8991]

I feel like even a friend who wants the best for you, will never want you to be better than her

[@vodkavuitton]

Don't have to empower but take the forced jealousy on 🤷🏾‍♀️ at least help me take you seriously 🤡

[@DaughterOfGod247]

@@noanoa8991that’s not true. We have different paths in life why would be jealous of a friend who is ahead of me? Nah we can learn from each other and I would be inspired by her. Unfortunately most times I’m always the woman that is ahead and I don’t even realise that these women hate me. It always ends with me being ganged up on

[@fairytears4340]

I grew up being a door mat/ people pleaser with a lot of self hatred and feelings of inferiority. I decided to work on myself instead of projecting onto others and boy ! 😂 The number of people mad. Like HOW DARE you realize your potential???? HOW DARE you step outside your shell ? Even if you have less than them they still mad. Proof that self love and satisfaction is one of the most valuable currencies. You can have all the glitz and glamour but if you attach your worth to it you’ll be in a endless cycle of trying to keep up your imagine and one up people.

[@Alicia-cd9gw]

How did you do it?

[@vodkavuitton]

Sorry I can't relate but keep stalking & making up dumb shit 🤷🏾‍♀️ you don't know me then or now so keep that weird shit to yourselves & stop begging for attention like you have nothing to do with your life. You're not MAD you're BROKE ✌🏽

[@WalkingwithChrist97]

Yes!

[@barbarayates6392]

Unhappy, depressed people who gave up on their dreams tend to be the most envious, I've found.

[@Abstractthoughts007]

People who live to impress others as well.

[@vodkavuitton]

I gave up on mine & idgaf about these hoes that can't rap rather I made it or not ✌🏽 move on & go stalk somebody that cares

[@CC-br9qg]

i feel there is a curse on my life. nobody is happy for me no matter what environment i get into. my coworkers, my friends secretly not happy for me or supportive, this has gone on for years. being pretty, educated, well traveled and financially free i get hate everywhere i go. it is extremely lonely.

[@grazynacohen9067]

Seek out people like yourself to be friends with. They will be able to relate to your concerns, interests and experiences. Don’t make little of all the wonderful blessings in your life to make others feel better. Don’t dim your own light to gain acceptance from your inferiors. Concentrate on yourself and your own growth to become the kind of person you seek as a friend and a partner. Be well. Be grateful for all the blessings already on the way!

[@shinebabyshine.]

Look up your astrology chart and figure out where Pluto and Lilith lies. That’ll tell you a lot

[@Shineurlightlove]

Matthew 5 11-13❤ be blessed

[@sweetpea6230]

@@grazynacohen9067thank you 🙏 im in the same boat as op. And it’s been isolating for years now

[@kilaangelo5414]

You are blessed and they would trade spaces with you in a heartbeat ❤

[@DaughterofZyion]

They like to say you have the darkness over you ,when in fact they're gaslighting your identity

[@cynthialynne1975]

Mine was all by Family & a relative.It*s Not always strangers.Lord please let the right people find this message.Thank You Lord... Amen 🙏

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

I'm so sorry you had to experience this. Sending healing vibes for your heart.

[@timh9278]

Most of it happens between friends and family, people who are closest to you.

[@michellesheridan1028]

I call it “crabs in a bucket mentality”. Not pulling me down to your level. I’m going to keep rising higher and higher.

[@Jessica-ko1eg]

This is great. I lost 70lbs and met the love of my life. I take care of myself now. I’m getting so much hate from my coworkers. It’s been a lot for me to navigate through.

[@williamsj4852]

Happy for you 💪🏾

[@vodkavuitton]

Can't take nobody seriously latching onto someone's weight loss yea you are weird AF 🤷🏾‍♀️ you just want to be relevant & it's not giving. Move on

[@bootsmade4walking]

Any lessons or advice you’ve learned from this experience?

[@Jessica-ko1eg]

@@bootsmade4walking There are people around you who will be happy for your success and others won’t be. I think after seeing some things like this video and others it made me recognize what was happening with some of the negative energy I was receiving. Instead of working to understand the rudeness I started just internally telling myself that so and so is unhappy with themselves and take it as a compliment that apparently my weight-loss triggers them. At first I didn’t handle it well and I found it deeply upsetting as I am a person who is “nice” and gets along with others easily. I’m still trying to navigate through handling that energy but I think about that saying it’s lonely at the top… and think it might be true. I realize if you want to be true to yourself you can’t make everyone happy so I keep to myself and continue to follow my path towards my happiness. It isn’t really about anyone else but me and I realize the better you get it upsets some people but the alternative is that I let myself go and be unhappy and fit in with these people or I choose myself.. it’s funny bc I gained 10 pounds back and the main person giving me hell stopped…

[@michellesheridan1028]

You have to learn to “observe” and not “absorb” their toxic/unhealthy behavior. I just put up my armor of god around me to reflect their “ugliness” back at them.

[@FlipFlop-xh9ib]

Thank you! I needed to hear this. Sadly the jealousy I deal with is family members... Always trying to sabotage my intimate relationships and trying to ruin my character through gossip and lies. So called friends who just want to be around me just to get in my business and run my business and try to sabotage me. And my husband's adult son. His envy is so horrible. He's been trying to compare me to his mom since the beginning of the relationship. My neighbors. For some reason they seem obsessed with what I'm doing with my life. Catching them standing by my door listening to what's going on in my house and what we're talking about. It's weird. I don't understand why people are so obsessed with what I'm doing. I don't pay anyone else any mind. I mind my business and stay in my own lane. It's really weird the obsessed people.

[@shimmer410-o2i]

You are manifesting and attracting what the universe has given to you

[@vodkavuitton]

If they won't stop then ask them what are they afraid of 🤷🏾‍♀️ I know a bunch of cowards when I see em ✌🏽

[@Aris-Darling]

Well articulated! I love your mature attitude towards envious people. It is more a reflection of them than of you, and they are certainly the reason for their life, as you are for yours. Keep on doing you!

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Thank you!

[@kimberlyjohnson8124]

AMEN SIS! This is beautiful 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@thecaramelgoddess]

🥰😊🥳

[@pinkkhearts]

Thank you for this video. I have been having a week at work honey. A lot of the females at work are gossiping about me and saying they don’t like me and I have done nothing to them. This just opened my eyes to see that I have something that they want and instead of becoming that, they are projecting. It really bothered me because I am inviting with open arms to all and then to hear what some of the girls had to say upset me. I’m no longer giving it energy.

[@loveinautumn3978]

You're pretty and they could be triggered by that. You can't help that you're pretty smh

[@pinkkhearts]

@@loveinautumn3978 i've come to realize this and its sad. They call me bougie (which i am), but only because i upkeep myself and like nice things. other than that i am very down to earth and welcoming.

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

I am so sorry you have to deal with this type of cruel immature behavior. Always remember this type of behavior speaks volumes about them and not you. Little minds with low vibrational energy love to gossip about others. Even if one does not vibe with another there is never a reason to gossip and play the mean girl role. We always have the chose to be cordial and just keep our distance. That is how elevated minds think. They are just not your people and could be jealous of a multiple of things including your ability to show so much love.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@pinkkhearts]

@@binjilllk thank you so much

[@LJC3276]

It's very hard when it's subtle and mixed in w otherwise nice behavior. It's more insidious. THAT'S very hard to identify. Oooh that's even more challenging to identify.

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Absolutely. I couldn't agree more. That's why it's so important to know who you are, follow your gut instincts and honor your feelings. It will tell you everything you need to know about insidious behavior. If words and behaviors do not feel good it's important to search yourself and examine why.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@danilaroche1156]

@@messtobestsolutions8738 My frenemy was jealous because the man she liked pursued me for a relationship. I didn't know she liked him till after I was in the courtship. I really believe she did witchcraft to break us up. I thought we'd marry. She seemed glad we broke up. How can I avoid her? She's my neighbor.

[@StarBright_4007]

I absolutely needed this! Started crying & getting so consumed by it but had to realize that none of this is personal. I am going to KEEP ELEVATING KEEP SHINING AND KEEP BEING ME. 🙌🙏❤️

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

oh so sorry people try to bring you down with words. Absolutely, keep going always!

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@e2j710]

Keep shining stay selfconfident and they automaticaly bow down

[@fabiantr100]

whew! You go girl- I get haters as well- makes me sick because they are so pathetic- it is always women

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Yes, women on women hate seriously needs to diminish and stop for good. We should always support and uplift one another.

[@danilaroche1156]

I have alot of haters. All women. Most women have a scarcity & victim mentality even when they don't need to. It's not the 1800s.

[@truthteller1973]

Queen these women be on my page just watching bunch of haters that fake ughhh thank you

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Keep it up hun and give them more to talk about. Nothing like shine, happiness and success to get a hater in their feelings, more than they are already lol. :)

[@christinalovelyworld3400]

Thanks I needed to hear this..And the crazy part about it I'm so humble and down to earth..and I don't even look at myself like that

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Yes I can believe that. You will be surprise what people envy. It's important and graceful to stay humble absolutely but equally as important to recognize your assets and qualities that others might try to destroy out of envy. A little bit of both is the formula to protecting yourself.

[@christinalovelyworld3400]

​@@messtobestsolutions8738 Thanks 😊 🙏

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@vodkavuitton]

Honestly who cares 🤷🏾‍♀️ you can be straight up conceited just like EVERYONE ELSE & they can still go to hell

[@Steffy-xm7mc]

I’ve had women treat me like frenemies all my life. Fake and never happy for me and never there for me when I would be so happy for them, be so supportive , be a shoulder they could cry on. I never got this back except for a small select few. It crushed my confidence but as I got older, I see it for it right away and now shut it down and move on. They get even more angry when I walk away and show them I don’t need their negativity and projection. Thanks for the reminder ! New sub here.

[@AbsoluteMdot]

I have a co-worker that is new and targeted me for no reason. She is very insecure, jealous and envious and comes off as a narcissist. I had to go to HR about her

[@PolinaP-m2k]

We are now living in a very narcissistic world, narcissism is a financial paradigma of global sellers and financial leaders who are programming today's society for spending more and more money. Jealousy is the driver for envy and wanting more. Everybody is not satisfied. Envious people search for revenge! So we should be aware of it! And about the video - thank you! The content is really great❤

[@44nk96]

THANK YOU! I needed this today. It's always miserable people who try to bring you down.

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

Good morning from Tulsa Oklahoma. Jealousy is alive and well in insecure women. I can understand why women would hate on you. You are intelligent, beautiful, confident, classy, you have high ethical values. My advice to you is allow your hater's to be your motivators. It's sad but true. I'm proud of you, keep shining. Can you also make a video on how dark skin women hate on light skin women. For some reason dark skin women think we light skin women have it better than them It's a subject that needs to be discussed. I'm constantly praying and believing God that all women learn to empower each other.

[@moorliving2703]

Jesus Christ! Get over yourself!

[@DoctorCarrieHall]

@@moorliving2703 Get saved, and embrace your Bible. I'm 🙏🔥 4 U.

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Hello Oklamhoma, I love I touch people from all over. Thank you for those beautiful words and advice. I Absolutely agree-- Always use the darkness of others to pave light into your motivation.

[@SA-xc9hz]

Colourism like racism is not imagined. There are societal advantages that come with being lighter skinned...

[@vodkavuitton]

You need to take your meds & get a life ngl

[@lumedeon8471]

Nothing but truth spoken in this video!

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Thank you - I'm glad you were able to resonate with it.

[@cowoverthemoo]

I'm an observer, but I don't tell anyone who they are. I'm happy with who i am. I've been hurt, I've lost, I've won, I'm still going, my war is with myself, not with others.

[@williamsj4852]

Love that 🙏🏾

[@gloriamoulopoulos2925]

Thank you for this great video. It made me realize that haters are projecting all their garbage on to other people. I've had more than my fair share of them over the years, sadly most of them have been other women. I always felt really bad about it in the past, but have recently decided not to let them dim my light anymore. I'm also a nice person who's a good friend and doesn't deserve the hate

[@Brightlightening17]

I love your message. Everything you said is sooo true of envious behavior. Keep doing what you are doing. I love your approach. Thank you for your inspiring video.

[@aliviaa7480]

This made me realize the people In my life making me feel financially small. I make good enough money to support me and my daughter but people are always looking at us like I’m in such a sad pitiful position and tell me I’m too broke to do certain things and I remember someone tried saying to my daughter when she asked me to go out and said no you guys can’t go your mom is too broke and I just picked her up left and went to do whatever made us happy. Constantly people are putting their money fears into me and I get stuck in that thought process for a little then I correct myself because I’m not poor or hurting I can afford my wants and needs for me and my daughter and I think it’s others trying to hold me back when I do talk about experiencing and making moves in my life they remind me always that I’m just a single mom and it’s so hard but that’s their perspective of the situation. I love getting help but not for the reason that everyone thinks I am in dire need of assistance. Idk if this really relates to this but to me it seemed like another psychological fuckery that makes me think I’m smaller and less powerful that I really am because those people giving me advice and stuff never took the time to work on their inside so the outside looking perfect and rich is all that matters but for me it’s working on what’s inside that matters and then that will reflect on the outside.

[@7PurpleSkies]

sounds like they choose to try to put u down to make themselves better, were prolly just envious of u....keep doing you for u and yours! God bless u n ur daughter!

[@thephoenixphobia]

You are beautiful !!! I love this

[@kimmullins337]

My apartment manager can't even talk to me without literally glaring with squinted dagger eyes. I thought something was wrong with her eyes but its only with me. It reminds me of elementary school. She has been on my ass trying to evict me also. The problem is she's married and has been 30 years but she's screwing the maintenance man who is always kind to me. She keeps trying and i have CPTSD. I could really use encouragement. I have nobody in my life.

[@thecaramelgoddess]

I liked this alot, finally a girl/ woman who understands! It's complex, but you got to the ❤ heart of the matter, and I appreciate it, their are others on you tube who are getting better in explain different issues as well, thanks 😊

[@thecaramelgoddess]

Thanks to the 8 people who liked & agreed with my comment, it's really how I feel at times/ most times🥰💖✨️✨️

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

I appreciate that! I'm glad you found substance in the message.

[@elijah1797]

I know this is off topic Ma’am, but you are very beautiful, and your energy is pure and amazing. Jealousy is as cruel as the grave - Solomon 8:6

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

thank you

[@pooty8712]

Thank you. I feel back on track. 😊

[@delaineb8436]

Thank you for this video. I’m going through this and I’ve reached the “straw that broke the camels back”, and I’m letting this envious and bitter person who can’t be happy for me or anyone doing well. Thanks for the advice of not letting them getting me down I think I just need to let them go and not engage w them anymore.

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Glad it was helpful! Absolutely, if you know someone in your life is not generally happy for your successful and wins - it's time to decided if they deserve a place in your life. Keep your head up.

[@delaineb8436]

@@messtobestsolutions8738 thank you! I will keep my head and appreciate your kindness.

[@chocolatesmyjam8480]

I love your message💗 So powerful, so insightful🙌🏽 Words of wisdom💙

[@21evalina]

Great message 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 thank you for spreading awareness. Also keep pushing girl, haters gonna hate all the while they sit around and do nothing. 😂😂😂 you’re a breath of fresh air

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Thank you hun.

[@Meli27w]

Something u said really helped me. You said that the haters are intimidated by me and that’s why they are triggered by my presence. This is so true. I’m just minding my business & here comes my stalker watching me behind an anonymous handle liking other peoples negative comments about me. Haters! I just have a really hard time not responding. And it sounds really bad if I say what I want to which is…”stop being so jealous! There’s plenty to go around!” Hopefully this video with help me let it go this time. I’ve just spent like an hour stressing out about it & what to say in response.

[@grittygoddess]

Don’t say anything be graceful

[@thydarkmaiden3447]

Such a lovely lady, with talent and grace. Thanks for this!!

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Thank you for the lovely words, energy and time you invested.

[@thydarkmaiden3447]

@@messtobestsolutions8738 Very welcome keep up the astounding work!

[@JNYC212]

🙌🏽 Just about everything you've said, been there.

[@charlenepatterson3742]

Ya really when you have haters you must be doing something right!

[@stephensinclair9330]

This is so true. I'm so glad to hear this, thanks for the motivation. Can't let people bring you down because of their insecurities. Always see yourself for who you are.

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Absolutely!

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@Estie.Simone]

Amen!! 🙌🏽🔥 I felt every word you said with my soul. Keep shining and stay blessed! 💖

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Aw, Thank you hun! You too! Happy to have you.

[@tamekae1755]

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[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Thank you so much hun for the lovely words, so sweet I do love home decor. I do have to start sharing more :).

[@Phyllisjordan2006]

Thank you so much, i needed to hear this. Im so glad I came across your page.

[@fabiantr100]

Yes! Keep walking in the light- that really drives em crazy-- this video helped me so much!

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

I'm so glad!

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@michellegraham3185]

I am in my late fifties now and I’m finally learning to stop people pleasing and focus on myself and the things I like to do. However, I have come up against so many haters in my self love journey. I thought I was the only one until I saw your video. Thank you so much for making this video, it resonates with me so much. I Love your positive energy and encouragement!!! ❤😅 God Bless!🥰

[@rhondacollins5089]

Thank you for speaking on this subject 😊

[@lindazeisky3845]

Amén 🙏🏼 sister. Thank you! Lots of love 💚

[@rollemalsoknownas2pac.880]

Legitimately speaking legitimately means honesty we legit.

[@kayamen2021]

You were WHO I needed to hear around 10 years ago...

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

aw so sorry you had to go through some harsh lessons.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@danilodavid7738]

Amazing. Some new perspectives for me and also a few things you say, are already floating in my head ...BUT you have an amazing way to articulate these thoughts crystal clear! You got a new subscriber. Cheers from Toronto, Canada

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Wonderful! It's great to hear from my subs from around the globe. Welcome.

[@OrahLoves]

This is a great topic, information, and your presentation is so beneficial to many people! ❤ Thank you!!

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Thank you. I'm happy you found benefit in the message.

[@joannhochrine8262]

Thank you!! I needed this❤

[@Red_Tiger_Eye]

So glad I found this channel!! Can you do a video on people who Penny pinch, but have the money they just want to use other’s so they can keep saving their money. I have a childhood friend, he wanted braids at 52yo. I braided his hair, he kept trying to talk me down on my price. Finally I stopped braiding his hair. He’s had six people braid his hair in the past year all of which stopped for whatever reason. He called me last week and said, “I whatever you charge for braiding can you braid my hair.” His hair has fallen out instead of grown in the past year. I told him I charge $60 and he needs to have his hair braided every two weeks, consistently! . . . I went by his house the other day, he was showing my son and I photos of him in France, London, New York, and all these other places he’s traveled. I’m not hating on his travels, I just felt like you skim on paying folks to do your grooming but you take these lavish trips. I braid hair for a living, along with doing massage and nails (licensed by the state). I couldn’t help but feel a certain way. When I see that client’s haggle or try to talk me down on my price, I usually don’t do the service because I feel so disrespected. How do you get around these type of people. This guy and I grew up from children (5-yo). He’s a blatant user to me. Now I see why barbers don’t line up his hair and other braiders, do his hair once and then they are to busy to do it the next time. Oh, and I sent him the video, “Fuk around and find out.” With the guy making a chart. He asked why I sent that to him. I said, “Oh it was an accident.” But he did FAFO when his hair started falling out.

[@shimmer410-o2i]

Honestly it's so annoying. I feel like all of the time,especially during the summer time I'll get attacked from girls,being a black teenage girl myself. No not even just girls but literally grown ass women that are either in college,graduated from college and even have children. It's so annoying. They'll literally be messing with their hair purposefully in front of me. Either something about me (I have no idea what) triggers them or perhaps it could be they're extremely racist and just hate black people hair especially when it's just in it's natural state.

[@prophecyrevelations5653]

I started a business I became successful bought homes bought luxury cars now they are extremely triggered and I love it. I really am a boss it's not "a saying "for me anymore. What's fun is they are powerless to do anything about it and I keep getting richer.👍

[@Croiz143]

Yes I aspire to be like you.

[@Ghost310-rp2hn]

Be low-key because the snake will sneak around to catch what they cannot have

[@brownsugarjasmine1737]

wow my first time here and i'm loving it already ☺ let's gooo my QUEENS we don't have for nonsense

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Welcome aboard! Happy to have you and I'm so glad my words spoke to you. Hope to create more soon that speak to you Queen.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@IdellaAnn]

Preach!!!! FACTS!!!

[@destinyinvest364]

I agree with you on every word I just needed to hear this from someone else I needed to make sure I wasn’t tripping Thank You 🙏 for this upload

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

You are very welcome. Never doubt your feelings after searching yourself. They tell you everything you need to know about a situation or person.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@rollemalsoknownas2pac.880]

I corrected honestly to honesty

[@chattinwithmsjaxn]

First of all!!! I listen to a lot of motivational videos & THIS one came at the RIGHT TIME!! You literally NAILED every single thing that I just went through last night & on a daily basis!! OMG!!! I wish we could be phone friends!! 😆 I’m totally subscribing! Thank you SO MUCH!!🙏🏽

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

aw thank you so much. I am so happy it really spoke to you. Don't you just love when you find your kind of people :). I feel the love even with the distance. Thank you for the beautiful comment. Happy to have you.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@pola2216]

My friends made me feel so low and bad about myself that I had to go to therapy to understand that they were abusers:( if it wasn't for my family support, I don't know what I would have done. I let them take away from me all of my happiness and motivation. They got to know my trauma and then theyexposed me to that😢 They still gossip about myself even though I separeted myself from them. They use our friends in common to hoover me back and keep abusing me, but after therapy I'm a different person and I know that I'm as important as other people and I don't hurt anybody by being happy and trying to achieve my goals. That's actually what we should be doing. Everybody has right to work, to dream and to pursue meaningful relationships. I only prey that God will protect me and that He will give me enough wisdom not to fall into this trap again and not to get bitter. I don't want to treat anybody with disrespect and I want to maintain only healthy relationships❤ i don't know why people would be so cruel

[@AMA-ec1gr]

I don't know you but u speak the truth blessing to yr work

[@archfordmusademba100]

You have said it all, in the beginning, l used to think that there is something wrong I am doing. But l later realized it was not about me. Thank you very much for a video like this. Thanks

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

So happy you enjoyed it and it confirm something for you.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@laurat.4791]

its not even about money..money is easy to get and replacable. Its about deeper things like light + innocence + authenticity - all the things they had to sacrifice to "make it to the top" -

[@onovasv]

Loved it I’m subscribing now¡

[@mparkerdrums]

Id have done it this way, I’d have done it that way…. But you’re not doing anyway so youreynot part of the team! Great video. Great advice. Very nice, thank you.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

You are very welcome.

[@ms.bur10]

thanks so much for sharing this ❤️

[@elizabethayew]

God richly bless you.. This is eye opening

[@munajama5436]

It is beyond me why anybody would want to be on the devil's team!!!! On a serious note though, thank you for sharing your thoughts as they are very helpful😊

[@rouge_queen]

Thank you beautiful!!! ❤ I so needed this! Xoxo ✨🙏🏾

[@dorothymatthews6690]

Amen Sister for sharing your insight on jealous people. Its sad people act that way. I just pray for them and give it to God and i keep my distance.

[@bootsmade4walking]

Great insights!

[@demetriahewlett6508]

Speak sis!! 🙌🔥❤️

[@leniseclay569]

Truth! Loved this video❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Thank you hun. I am glad it resonated with you.

[@wuffgoezbella]

Thank you for this video. I was having an argument with my husband and ended up crying in my room. For some reason my sisters in law called the cops on me, they lied and said I was trying to hurt myself and I needed a mental health check which obviously wasn't true. I didn't know and they opened the door for the cops to come in my room while I was still comfortable in bed in my underwear. If they cared about me they would check up on me themselves and not call the cops to humiliate me when I'm not even wearing a shirt. I see now it's because they don't like their brother spends more time with me than them. But it's not my fault he loves me so much. Thankfully, my husband was on my side the whole time. I'm sure that made them even more furious LOL

[@williesmith3466]

I am just like you. “Blessed and highly favored by God” A lady told me I was lucky and I told her that I am blessed by God. Most of the time I just don’t say anything and walk away.

[@user-jt2vv1zj6z]

You are speaking truth!!❤

[@Angell_Lee]

Omg you are so beautiful, thank you so much! You glow xo

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Oh thank you :) !

[@Monica_706undercvr]

Thanks I need this ❤❤

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Love it. Your awesome😁... .🎶🎶 This little light of mine I'm gonna let shine..... 🎶🎶

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Thank you so much, back at ya! Yes don't ever let any one dime your light!

[@ProfessionalBrat]

Love love love this message ❤

[@aquariuschild0710]

I had hate thrown at me when i was writing about my grief- that i was romanticising it. Made me think twice about what i was doing and shrink myself and stop expressing myself

[@danilaroche1156]

Keep writing and expressing yourself. We are not people pleasers but God pleasers. I'm a 3 times published author. Focus on the Lord.

[@aquariuschild0710]

Thankyou x

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Fhis was good thanks for posting❤❤❤

[@baileygemma]

I love this!! I know my assignment 🙏💕 Yas!!!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@sattiabangura7966]

Amazing Video

[@pinknotebook]

Love your energy!

[@Gracie-ll7lw]

Great wisdom! I needed this🙏

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Glad it was helpful!

[@stephenw.9647]

Good video, truth

[@matilda4406]

thank you, good video

[@misslrose841]

Love love this! Now, this is valuable content, and guess what I'm here to stay for more. I really love your attitude and energy; so classy. New subbie here!!!!!💃💃💃

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

Yay! Thank you for the wonderful words! Welcome aboard. I'm very happy to welcome you to the tribe and hope to create more valuable content you will love.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@charlenepatterson3742]

Gracias Mami!❤

[@Silent-Moon]

I literally numb out because I take everything personally. Never did before social media. Used to be a free spirit.

[@balozhende5727]

Excellent

[@LiLi-so1vl]

This is a great video I couldn't find anything on KZbin or anywhere else explaining about the topic and the circumstance I feel at this moment. Me and my partner have a tiny convenience store here in Mexico and idk I just feel so awkward and this strange sensation of some people (customers) having jealousy. My partner now is working to be able to buy products and we even have a roommate to be able to pay what we need and I always feel money is not enough we are always struggling, for some reason I feel these negative low energy people have something to do and I have never really paid much attention to stuff like this. Any recommendation like any prayers , any advice? I just started feeling uneasy w this and a little fearful, also disgusted by some people, it's strange. I want to focus on positive but it's hard for me. Thank you in advance, awesome video by the way,. Have a blessed day.

[@marianaoctubre]

Thank you so much for this. My anxiety dropped 100% after watching this

[@messtobestsolutions8738]

I'm so happy it was helpful.

[@binjilllk]

Forgive and leave everything in God’s hands: Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the LORD. Romans12: 19- 20

[@leonmcpherson330]

Love this ❤

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