How to Heal Toxic Relationships (with Communication Scripts)

[@northerngaltrue]

Thank you. This is wonderful. Thank you for approaching toxic situations from a healing instead of labelling standpoint.

[@TheToddJason]

I'm so glad you enjoyed the recommendations!!

[@mhlox654]

This was really informative , I’ve notice a pattern in my relationship that every Sunday a conflict occurs. I’m gonna put this to work. Thank you 🙏

[@TheToddJason]

That makes me HAPPY! It's weird how something like 'day of the week' can reveal mood patterns. Shows us how 'not in control' we are of certain things.....

[@Flyfreenow]

Non attachment to having a connection with them and it be a certain way.. I stopped needing anything from them or them to be a certain way to be with me.

[@TheToddJason]

That sounds like a lot of wisdom right there. While this approach sometimes feels like we are 'letting them go' it's actually the pathway to building a deeper connection.....

[@victoryamartin9773]

I like your ideas. I tried the curious questions and got so many answers that I don't know where to go from there. It's obvious she and I have different ideas about child rearing, and I think she's setting up her kids to be unprepared to navigate life as they get older. I don't feel comfortable telling her this, however, because this all started with her screaming at me for trying to teach her daughter how to avoid hurting her mother's feelings. I think anything I say in contrast to her views will illicit more screaming even though she apologized for over reacting "a bit." I'm not sure if I can cut off the relationship without hurting the kids. The only thing she will accept from me is my silence. She wants me to play games with the kids w/o trying to teach them anything. I don't see how that can work.

[@TheToddJason]

I totally get how hard this is for you, and thank you for sharing. I know it can be difficult, but really be curious and just allow her to share the (many) ideas that flow from her. If you can, try and 'let go' of the idea that you may have a better solution. That you 'might' know what is better or more right for her kids. Just toy with the idea and say to yourself 'maybe I don't know what's best' and your role now is to be an open mind to let her process her own ideas. Help HER get clarity. This is how we build trust with others. It's hard to share more here in this YT comment section, its definitely more of a coaching session, LOL, but I hope this helps!!

[@victoryamartin9773]

@@TheToddJason Yes, that sounds like the safest way of dealing with it. Thank you for your response.

[@TheToddJason]

let me know how it goes!!!!

[@victoryamartin9773]

@@TheToddJason It might be awhile, since every time I think of contacting her, I feel anxious and confused.