How to help a trauma therapy client who wants a quick fix?

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@Rat_Queen86 6 ай бұрын

I have been diagnosed with both CPTSD and DID. It’s beyond hard even on good days and it is true that I am in a much better place than I was 2 years ago, thanks to trauma therapy and sex therapy. However, the CPTSD does flare and it does give me a sense of impending doom every now and again. Recovery is an ongoing process but, as you say, grief is a huge part of it. You have to continue the work even when you have finished therapy. Or it all unravels.

@MillieMoon2024 6 ай бұрын

' I don't know what word fits other than recovery...' How about rebuilding? Thank you for this amazing video 🙏

@billpaterson721 6 ай бұрын

Beautifully said. I have these types of conversations with clients that have experienced significant trauma and have been in therapy for a while. Grief is such a big part of the journey and compassion therapy is so important. The internal critic can be so powerful. I love your work and workshops. They are so accessible and informative. Thank you.

@amandaball7116 6 ай бұрын

We carry so much shame for now having ‘needs’ and for having a long therapy journey. We believe (and our therapist and previous retired therapist affirms/confirms) we generally don’t self sabotage, we don’t lack discipline we show up etc etc but…3 big stuck things - ‘I’ remain sooooo frightened of the enormity of feelings which means dissociated parts are holding heavy stuff, then as you say extra present day life events hit us divorce, long term friend rejected us, illness (probably from suppressing everything!) and last but not least as you have said facing up to the grief which feels just too much. There are some in the community who give us a sense of hope and you are one of them. We find your resources and style intellectually spot on, pace is good for us and it resonates so much that one of MeWe cries wirh relief. We want you to know that our struggle to carry on is enormous but you sharing your lived experience and offering your training and courses is what gives us some hope. Thank you Carolyn

@Marie-louiseNielsen-gu6vz 29 күн бұрын

I needed this... I'm still facing the fear of being swallowed and stuck in the experience, I loose sight of the gains or rather.. I minimize them, my inner critic keeps saying it's not good enough. You're description is useful in managing my expectations

@JinnyWorks 5 ай бұрын

Really helpful to hear you talk about the balance between compassion and challenge. As a newbie therapist, I find this really encouraging. You say it is difficult to formulate, but your way of explaining and the resources you share are fabulous. Thank you.

@AliceRollan 2 ай бұрын

You nailed it! Just amazing. Exactly what I wanted to hear.

@gailchurney 6 ай бұрын

I have worked with clients for years on this journey of recovery and once they are able to accept this mindset you know you are doing something right in the counselling room. It can take years for this process to take place especially if there has been such deep rooted trauma. Thank you Carolyn for all your words of wisdom and compassion.

@traumahealingtraining 3 ай бұрын

I absolutely love this perspective and it has motivated me to nudge myself to go further, and my clients to keep trying! Thank you 🙂 Great takeaway that 'grieving' is different to 'complaining', and that clients who identify with their victim need to be guided towards the former.

@AmyG-qm1gi 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much Carolyn, this is so good and so true! Humour is now also an integral part of my journey also! Looking back it’s so good to see how far I have come. I can truly relate to all you share in this video. Thank you so much for sharing with us all! Keep up the excellent work you do with PODS and your training, it’s been such an integral part of my recovery and so many others I’m sure.

@rhondamarlow574 5 ай бұрын

Trauma is helpful to voice once with a therapist you trust and can relate to. And take responsibility for your self and your actions going forward. I’ve been there. And I know what you’re saying is true for my healing journey. Thank you for this. ❤️

@sophiejay5111 5 ай бұрын

What an incredibly compassionate, intelligent and important video, thank you! 🙏♥️

@owent1166 5 ай бұрын

Needed to hear this authenticity. Thank you. It’s really difficult in recovery to know ‘where am I?’… Am I 50% of the way through this? Am I 20%? Some days it feels like I’m back in the early stages and then I have to remind myself that I have seen improvements in some areas of my life despite this present adversity. I agree with what you said, you can’t really measure recovery in such a manner and by doing so you can end up focusing on a lack of rather than the gains made. Really good video. Thank you for sharing that.

@leannedoolan5463 4 ай бұрын

You explained this so well. Thank you Carolyn, this is very helpful.

@SamadhiTherapy 6 ай бұрын

Really useful, thank you!

@Jjroro73 5 ай бұрын

Thankyou so much for this insightful information. 🙏🦋💖

@grid462 4 ай бұрын

In some hindsight the therapist I was quite briefly with that I'd say was a most frustrating least productive seeming time with most regrets to attach. I can mainly remember her in a visual image going "aww" and playing up a bit visually. It was softer and maybe a bit distracting and I didn't make the progress I felt I needed. I didn't consciously seek being treated brutally but being too soft and careful can vert much have it's downsides, as per your final point. It's all good and well speculation but it has an edge when it all perhaps led in part to consequences afterwards. I have regret and try to put things down to experience and feel I can only attempt to act constructively going forwards. I suppose people acting somewhat assertively had better do it correctly otherwise they risk causing harm and some may be reluctant to risk doing that but there is a balance to strike that I trust the professionals to attempt to hold within a suitable range.