How to know if a Japanese guy likes you..

[@cjstorylines1257]

The problem is..that I’m shy too😅

[@bernadettebenitez7596]

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[@bernadettebenitez7596]

If you are shy dear, try to tell them how you really feel. Maybe he/she will be happy with your honesty.

[@CelineLalla]

Same and I never grow out of it 😭

[@jojopandabear]

"he inhaled because he wanted to smell you" what? 0_0 lol

[@bernadettebenitez7596]

Haha! That’s what guys want sometimes. To know if you smell pleasantly

[@bernadettebenitez7596]

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[@marcuseldridge8675]

If Japan won't wake up, they will soon take the Mark of the Beast. The mark represents sin that will be judged as bad. Mark tells God that you are no longer his anymore and GOD WILL NOT EVEN LOOK AT YOU! Repent because God is coming back and the righteous are the ones that will go to heaven

[@marcuseldridge8675]

I'm a Christian, I believe people like me if dating perfer no sex til marriage. Much love

[@Beautifulutopia22]

What if we are just texting, but we are communicating through texting about our family. Sent me a picture of himself while he’s at work.

[@marcuseldridge8675]

Your telling me that men in Japan are shy but there are videos that says otherwise

[@jaykay5086]

How do they date if they don’t make the first move?

[@CerridwenAwel]

Isn't it sad when any attempt to communicate requires one to break a cryptography and make assumptions on bits of truncated information? And isn't it depressing that this whole game is considered normal and fine? This is why things working out are the exception, not the rule.

[@youshe9121]

I’m Japanese trying to make non-Japanese gf because there are no Japanese girl around where I live. Often, the girls I went out with says they can’t really tell if I like them or not. They said ‘you are very polite and kind, but don’t show much emotion and it’s hard to tell if you are interested’. For me, being shy and taking things very slow is normal, but it’s abnormal in Western culture.

[@CerridwenAwel]

I'm a Brazilian woman, so I speak from my perspective. The excessive shyness and politeness feels not only cold, but gives the impression we're seen as someone not to be trusted. It sometimes feels like we're seen as criminals, unworthy of even a proper talk. Not very nice, nor respectful. And for us to deal with all that shyness and formality, it becomes necessary to develop special tactics, a whole war strategy only to communicate. Everything becomes a diplomatic endeavor, and quite frankly, for me that's a major red flag for any relationship that's worth it. I don't want a partner that creates issues with every part of communication by being cryptic, and creates power politics struggles, because in the end it will go down to mind games. I've got enough things to deal with in my life as is, it'd be nice if we'd be about healing each other instead of being more weight. It's just terrible to need to walk on eggshells to be close to people. I'd appreciate it if people could be themselves. There's nothing impolite in honesty. It's actually top dignity. It's possible to take things slow without acting like a sphinx.

[@youshe9121]

@@CerridwenAwel That's very good point. Japanese girls usually take being polite and careful as the sign of sincerity. It's the sign that a guy is taking this girl very seriously. However, as you do, the western women usually want a guy to open up completely, and it doesn't really matter if things are moving fast or slow as long as they are comfortable with it. And I completely understand what you said and respect it, but after growing up in Japan and spending early 20s in Japan, it's hard to change this. I'll see how it goes, but I still can't adjust to the fast paced dating culture in the states.

[@CerridwenAwel]

@@youshe9121 I guess it's still a little different. Sincerity to me means to not put on masks. If you're uncomfortable then allow yourself to be uncomfortable. If you're hesitant, allow yourself to be. If you're happy, allow yourself to be. Just don't be a wall. Don't hide yourself to sound "nice", because there's nothing nice in a lie. If you wanna be rude, then be rude. We shall address the issue that's annoying you and find a solution. Sincerity itself is a sign of sincerity. If you simply take the person seriously, it in itself will go through, no need to make special signs. No need to use extra flags. Everyone has different ideas of what they find "nice" anyways. Just be yourself. I'm only attracted to people I come to admire, normally for their personality, and to me, any relationship must be first and foremost a friendship. So I simply am unable to go straight to the romantic side of things, it's not even a matter of signaling. Thus, I understand well what it means to take things slowly, and how it is like to need to do it. But just like I am doing now, I don't hide what I mean, I speak my mind. I make myself clear. Need to take it slow? Say it. Say you'd like to grow a well-rounded relationship of human beings, not only of dates. To me this is honesty and a sign of respect. This is what it means to be "open". You don't need to disclose your entire life, all you need to do is to let the other person know how you see and feel about things that matter in the moment, instead of leaving them guessing.

[@youshe9121]

@@CerridwenAwel I understand what you mean, and I respect you being that way. In the states, I actually met girls like you who are very open and direct about their feelings. No offense to you or them but I didn’t really find it attractive. Being open, transparent, and direct is nice but not all the time. Japanese people usually like subtleness. It could be taste of food, art, music, fashion, etc, and it also could be the someone’s personality. When it comes to dating, I don’t really like someone showing their emotion or how they are way up front. Instead, we usually want to see their character subtly instead of all at once.

[@CerridwenAwel]

@@youshe9121 I used to be like that in pretty much everything I did. I'd expect people to "get" things out of nuances and gestures, I've always thought it's inelegant to spell things out. But what I've learnt is that people just don't get what we're thinking and feeling only by looking at us and our behaviour, because most of the time they don't know us well enough to do that. People have their own worldview and experiences through which they see. If anything, all they can do is project their own thinking on others, assuming others are the same as them. They'll see what makes sense to them, not to you. Can you imagine how diplomacy would be possible if instead of talking, countries would just stick to "reading the atmosphere", being subtle, not expressing their ideas and intentions? Everyone will read a different thing, looking at things from different points of view and interests. The world would end itself in war. To not speak, to be "subtle" seem to make sense in Japan, where people are all educated to think the same way, but even there i see miscommunication and isolation going rampant. It's not easy to find two people who are even willing to understand each other. They often get into relationships thinking about themselves, their wants, what they want from their partner, but hardly looking into them as human beings. Just as a partner that can fulfill some duties. The married couples I see are often so distant, their marriage sounds like a limited company, and they actually would not manage to coabitate if they actually spent too much time together. Things tend to get limited to superficial exchanges and their roles in their home company. Most people have no connection beyond a contractual "let's agree to do this". The japanese are educated to avoid confrontation and standing out, and so, they feel the need to go around things, "subtly", as imperceptible as they can manage to. A Japanese person will probably see it as an egoist thing, too much self importance, to speak out one's feelings so openly, like a lack of humility, making it about themselves. And a western will think the same thing of the Japanese: so clammed up, unwilling to connect, they're seen as self absorbed, people that think anyone else is unworthy of their effort until they prove good enough. An arrogant stance. And so, the same thing is seen in opposite ways. That shows: The big problem with not speaking how you see things is that, there will be no understanding, but rather assumptions, and assumptions always lead to disaster. This causes estrangement, not union. The person you will get to love migt be an illusion of the one you think. The west draws from a different tradition, of questioning, discussing everything, trying to figure out the truths of things, on top of not only allowing, but celebrating different points of views. To us, harmony can only come from such openness, tolerance to be measured through reason, which rejects assumptions. This makes us see speaking our minds as a necessary step for connection, make us generally willing to hear the minds of others, much more tolerant of differences and willing to negotiate them. And even that is not enough. miscommunication is a constant problem. It would be all there is if people didn't share the way they think at all. It is a culture shock. But it is only through talking that we can come to an understanding, and perhaps get a chance to reconcile the differences. My plea is that even if you find frankness unnatractive, at least try to see what's the thinking of the other side. Sometimes, we find out about things we weren't even aware of.

[@serenitymoon3214]

Not only do I find you absolutely hilarious and adorable, but also I love your amazing descriptions that definitely come from your soul ♡♡

[@anaisrk]

Once I met a Japanese guy who was staring at me constantly but his girlfriend was there haha then he took me some photos awkwardly so me and his girlfriend realized that he was interested in me 😂 Now we’re interacting frequently but as you said, hot and warm conversations that confuses me 😅 also he’s workaholic and single now btw

[@hongxingming]

Recently I noticed someone I’m not quite sure he is interested in me ,we are not in same group but happened to meet occasionally.There was a time I catch his staring at me and often walking around.The problem is I start to notice him and found out myself that i like him.But I’m not into those games. Seriously why he makes me so confused

[@kitagawamarykaren1038]

Same here

[@taigaaisaka3374]

Me : I like you Him : Thank you for that you told me your feelings . so what is okay? Does he reject me. He is also a japanese man.

[@Zyoran_Dust]

Hahaha I also get the same response are they all like that or what?

[@dreamylificent2731]

Hey! Same here 🥺😭 It hurts me really

[@adrianunderwood9391]

Talking to a Japanese I met on an app. Asked him if he wants to meet up next weekend. He asked when (time), I said whenever works for him (I am a student so weekends tend to be free). He asked if I drink, I said seldom since I am not much of one. I suggested a place that lets us play games (billiards, Ping Pong etc also this place has food and alcohol so figure it's good for both of us). His response was if I like playing those games which I said yes. He hasn't responded yet. I am not sure what is going on, if he is interested or not, and wants to meet or doesn't.

[@dreamerdream7929]

I’m sure he ghosted you, lol. Classic Japanese behavior..

[@claudia73472]

@@dreamerdream7929 tell me about 🙄🙄

[@sheenachavez4743]

Asian men regardless if they are shy if they really like you tend to chase you up and do the first move, so you need to be patient and let the “men” do their role, if you do the first move they view it to be “aggressive” as most of them are slow burn. You can give them subtle of hint of interest to encourage them but let them do the chase.

[@Umeshukitsune]

Oh I heard something about this. He had second thoughts when you mentioned billiards and what kind of person you are. Annoying and judgemental as hell.

[@Beautifulutopia22]

Sounds like he wanted a serious relationship with you. Personal relationships.

[@guzelsirine6747]

thanks for sharing this informations ...you are so cute

[@bernadettebenitez7596]

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[@jonathanconsuelo8572]

Wwoow ! Galing best ! Sana ol vlogger na . Keep it up bes missyou

[@bernadettebenitez7596]

Thank you bes 😍 miss you

[@sheenachavez4743]

Thanks for sharing! I have a hot and cold treatment from a guy a like! Now I understand!

[@bernadettebenitez7596]

Yes. Exactly. Don’t forget to subscribe

[@rehinrehin9686]

You are like a detective! 😄

[@noorur]

Are you talking from experience ?

[@kitagawamarykaren1038]

How to confess 😭 I'm so shy

[@nyahb3242]

Thanks Nad this was really helpful I'm looking to make Japanese friends in London and can't speak a word of Korean or Japanese except 'Konichiwa and Kawaii!!!.....so I can go around saying 'Hello Cute'! Haaaaaaaa

[@jacobr6503]

Bahah, we both are shy... but he did the first move, he gave me a peck and I hid myself in his chest lmao and then I gave him a peck back and... yeah. It wasn't even date! He's not clingy, he doesn't text me that much, but he's always trying to make up time for me. On our first date, he didn't hold my hand or kiss me, even though we did it before... And once I put my head on his shoulder, we kissed! But he didn't put his hands on me or anything. I thought it was low-key... cold? but maybe he was just respectful?

[@ぶりこきザムライ]

I guess it's a bit hard to hear your voice :( it'd better if you could use a mic or something!

[@Blueiesky4069]

❤ so cute i want a japanese man

[@estelaobillobenitez9183]

Ang galing ng anak ko

[@alejoannabellebellasasobic5035]

Got all the Clue 👍you’re clever Stay as it’s is for life

[@sokkie3]

😉

[@christinawong1141]

Jesus is coming soon pls share and repent,

[@marcuseldridge8675]

I love girls to be honest and I hope Japanese men love girls because God made them for us men

[@marcuseldridge8675]

My other things come into mind, are japanese gay?? How is God going to bless a land with generations if there is no subtle drive to it. Without kids Japan bloodlines dies