How To Know If Someone is Right For You | Jordan Peterson Relationship Advice

[@MIHMediaInc]

The 3 cornerstone to a healthy relationship by Jordan Peterson: 1. You must be attracted to the person. 2. You must have reasonable measure of trust for that person. 3. You must be willing to negotiate through your differences continually. Our own: 4. You must have a measure of respect for the person you in a relationship with. 5. Your happiness is not up to them and there happiness is not up to you. Happiness is a conscious and personal choice. Good luck in your relationship.

[@mvargast]

Great freaking comment

[@davidthomspson9771]

Thank you so much

[@robert88hun]

Yes, those are important for a healthy relationship, but the question wasn't that..

[@nz7780]

Ours: Honesty Faithfulness/loyalty COMMUNICATION 🤩

[@davidthomspson9771]

Excellent synapse

[@FrederickSchnider]

You got me out of depression, I would listen to these videos constantly couple years ago. Now I keep checking if you uploaded anything new. I don't really listen or watch a lot anymore, but this definitely helped, I actually wrote phrases on my bedroom walls that I got from these videos. Thanks for your support and I hope you are doing well. To give a little more detail before I go: I was suicidal, lost my girl, my job, my career, my friends, my place and had to go back to my parents house at 27. I'm 30 now with a really nice job and recieving more offers, studying programming, can save money every month, I'm on the carnivore diet, lost 16 pounds in 14 days, no acne anymore, not body pain anymore, lean and healthy again, got my friends back and I've been dating a girl for the past 6 months. :) By the way, depression is gone.

[@candidlyopinionated19]

Congratulations on not giving up and getting yourself to such a good place. That is no small feat.

[@arnoldschwarzenegger6369]

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[@batmanbruce9266]

Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉 Brother keep up the good work

[@wilmalay32]

👏👏👏❣

[@mrsdixon926]

Trust is a big one. Not just loyalty. Trust that they'll follow through with what they say, trust that they'll help you when you need it, trust that they're here for the right reasons...

[@mvargast]

This is one of the BEST I've seen from Jordan. Short, powerful and straight to the point.

[@serpenteve]

3 things for best relations Attraction Trust Negotiation

[@davidthomspson9771]

Yes

[@OthelloFohn]

The biggest lesson i learned today. Attraction and Negotiation ❤❤ Thanks Mr. Jordan ❤❤

[@stanleymartins-o3s]

Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@emilyclark-m2g]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go,i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

[@stanleymartins-o3s]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@emilyclark-m2g]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@stanleymartins-o3s]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@AlejandroPedrazaPonce]

On the same boat. I would recommend obsessing on getting better. Fitter, smarter, wealthier. Also, try an Ayahuasca retreat. Helps a lot with understanding life (in my experience and opinion)

[@MatthewBester]

Wow. He described my ex-wife so well... So that's not enough obviously. However, then trust followed by negotiation. That's what I've rediscovered in my current relationship.

[@DarraSmith-ul3mt]

Today is my birthday. Thank you, Lord for waking me up to see another day.

[@prairievintage]

Amen☀️🙏 bless you

[@teefrankenstein4340]

I think trust is key. You should feel like you are at home with your partner, that you have each other’s backs and want each other to succeed. You give each other space and room. I agree with JP here wise words.

[@irlandaise5631]

Yes I have met men that I wouldn’t feel safe with and even though I don’t find them attractive , the fact that you couldn’t trust them shattered anything . I keep them as friends only . I can do things with them but I know we can’t really discuss.

[@teefrankenstein4340]

@@irlandaise5631 Yep trust is everything in a relationship. That and reciprocating, give and take.

[@jewelbency5072]

This is the most sane advice

[@Madjailx]

Even though I enjoy like 90% of Dr Petersons work, I disagree with him on the allegation that you should look for someone who has similar personality traits. At least I would say, that it is absolutely correct. I think you need a person that imbalances your weaknesses whereas you have to imbalance your partner's weaknesses in a relationship, so you are complementary to each other and create a whole together. I think there can't be common developement in a marriage if your partner can't show you things you do not know yet.

[@nz7780]

Fair, I do think the part where he’s like if you’re a person with a high level of neuroticism than you should seek someone with a low level, is questionable. And I was in my car listening to it, saying NOOOO, don’t do that to them, take the hit or fix it- don’t drag someone else down with your constant desire to see negativity and force them to constantly listen to you venting and complaining. That’s exhausting, unfair, and enough to put someone else, who’s generally at peace, into a depression or 24/7 high stress environment depending on how neurotic the other person is.

[@nz7780]

then*

[@d.m.8848]

Phillip Brown, collaboration and delegation go hand and hand. This Video assumes there are only two people in this relationship. This is the type of relationship I prefer. The person delegating will need to collaborate on occasions to become keenly aware of the strengths and weaknesses of the other person. Only delegating yields the "you always", and the "you never" phraseology, and is clearly not informed. In your relationship you will encounter an issue that is bigger than the both of you. In that moment, you will need someone that is willing to negotiate for a equitable solution. Negotiation in good faith requires both of you to leave your egos at the door. If egos are abandon at the door, you will discover common ground.

[@TheRoadrunz]

The best relationships are predicated on : attraction, trust, and negotiation. -J. Peterson

[@junevandermark952]

Thanks for honoring freedom of speech. Women who have been married to serial killers for years had no idea what was going on behind their backs in their husband's private lives. All a person can do ... is HOPE for the best ... and not be surprised when the partner you thought was wonderful ... lets you down ... or when you let your partner down. Life is full of illusions and disappointments ... and it doesn't always happen just to other people.

[@danimoonie]

I couldn't stop crying the whole video,and im still crying,not because what i heard its sad,but because im trying to understand how to see life form a pov that its more simple than life and that doesn't exist,idk how to explain it,but i wish i understood life better,i guess im still innocent. Silly me

[@HaitamBakkali]

Life , is a learning journey , along the way you will be faced with many different realities , and even how your reality is actually is ! I would say follow your gut feelings , & keep pushing forward , stay hopeful & strong

[@danimoonie]

@@HaitamBakkali thank u :')

[@whimsicalaubrey1413]

Look to God for Truth, and you will find Truth (capital T Truth)

[@samikalendar]

Işinizi hakkını vererek yapıyorsunuz ellerinize emeklerinize sağlık

[@keithcaldwell8524]

Thank you Jordan for distilling and sharing your personal and professional experiences. Thank you.

[@gamzen6847]

Deneyimlerinizi paylaştığınız için teşekkürler güzel anlatım

[@darkpenink6730]

Thanks Sir.

[@Thomson311]

Finding/making a good relationship is the hardest thing ever. Absolutely exhausting.

[@alex-ander-13]

Thank you for posting it!

[@CaseyHolden-kh5nf]

My friend danelle told me this you can't trust someone you can't be with them. That's a good point.

[@charlottebruce979]

Isn't it an obvious point?

[@Brad_Sisson]

Just ensure that your lack of trust is based on actions rooted in reality and not your own trauma generated assumptions.

[@davidthomspson9771]

Excellent video

[@quotesthroughouttime]

These are Great quotes that really make you think about life ❤️thank you

[@EmreYlmaz-tp3ef]

Kaliteli iyi video olmuş gerçekten. Ya beğendim.

[@yenigulbalc9838]

bu değerli bilgiyi paylaştığınız teşekkür ederim

[@kesiafiya1347]

Such a great answer! ❤

[@melel527]

Such a brilliant, inspiring man

[@DarraSmith-ul3mt]

We aint a relationship you learn in each other so just Be and remember you love each other.

[@Robert_H_Brown]

Thank you Jordan Peterson

[@hybridviol]

great advice

[@GoddestPitcher]

(FACTS OVA FEELINGS). If a person wants a relationship with you they wud not want bad blood to exist between eu. They wud want to feel good again and they wud want to occupy the same relationship az eu and both their words and actions. (not just words will demonstrate tha

[@PsychicJaz]

spot onnnnn Jordan!

[@ayhanakalp4399]

Tebrik ederim insan psikolojisini iyileştiriyoruz Emeğinize sağlık🎉

[@tacomanreturns2463]

A rare Instance where I have to watch the video at least 4 times ;)

[@griffydz1789]

Damn! So this is the last video you posted, it is indeed very very very interesting, for me at least, As I am having an argument with a suppedly future significant other.

[@allanlangat2813]

there's good reason to get on with it😄

[@adhdartist1994]

Seriously, the idea of finding someone that is perfect for you is very unrealistic, the difference is if both of you can become a team or a tragedy

[@shootajack654]

“Life doesn’t last forever so there’s real reason to get on with it.”

[@nickeisha6905]

Real talk

[@apoorvahans4815]

This man is a fuckin genius. Such a blessing

[@darkmistress1980]

its funny i found watching this. im a gamer who has a significant other of 17 years (i live with him full time). when im playing games mostly MMO's (right now FFXIV) i will find one gamer i can hang out with do content with and then spend "personal" time with (chatting, ERPing etc). i have done this with 3 men so far. but recently i have found this one gentleman (hes a real life BDSM dominant) that tickles all he parts of me to the point i would love to have him as another real life partner (not just an "in game" one). i started to talk/ERP with him and i wasnt remotely attracted to his toon/character/in game avatar (whatever you want to call it). he was a blonde bombshell that was a pure himbo, as the more i spoke to him and got to know him the more i wanted to be close to him in a relationship way. and now i cant see my life with out him. ive had these type of attractions to ppl before but as long as i never met them my "in real life" partner was fine with it.

[@selfless-esteem]

I have respect for Peterson but I disagree with him on this. A small percentage of people accidentally end up with the right person, and those people think they're good at relationships. Sometimes you have a fantastic spouse, Peterson is one of those people.

[@heliotsucane5317]

I love this man's speech's... By the way, what does ineffable mean? 🙈

[@linda1234G.]

immense

[@heliotsucane5317]

@@linda1234G. thank you sis...

[@OboriNN]

Could you please provide the name of the song playing during the video? Thank you 🙏

[@fffhahaha8521]

fantastic

[@vanessajoycecollett6607]

The thing is opposites attract unfortunately😅The good person always attracted to the bad one trying to lead them to a better happy life n bad one wants to be happy but doesnt want to leave the things that are making them unhappy.They prefer to be stuck in loneliness n despair.

[@ximenamikhailova]

I wanted to ask, is it really possible to bridge that gap of intimacy with a romantic couple that isn’t very compatible personality wise if they tried? I asked the man I recently started a relationship with if he believed we would be close friends if we didn’t have a romantic relationship. He said he gets along well with all different types of people (he’s very extroverted), so he said we could be friends but not close friends. I asked him to elaborate on that, because I thought having that type of intimacy with your partner, being close life partners/friends, was critical in a relationship for me. I told him that was the reason why I was asking. I don’t feel like he likes my personality, seems like he isn’t too interested in the things I have to say, my opinion. My hobbies, my conversations. This really upset him, and he felt bad for making me feel like that and started to cry. He said it was his fault for not trying to get to know me more, and said he would do better. I told him that was precisely what I wanted to avoid, having a forced relationship where one or both of each other feigns interest in the other. If you have to will yourself to want to follow certain conversations, engage in similar hobbies, ask follow up questions, show interest, then maybe the relationship isn’t for you. These things should come naturally as a by-product of spending time with someone you really like. He said we could build on this, but I’m doubtful because this really is the baseline for having any type of intimate relationship with someone. What’s funny is that we have the 3 key things Peterson states: attraction, trust, and negotiation. We trust each other, are attracted to each other, and do our best to see each other’s point of view. Heavy on the last one. I would like to get your thoughts about working on liking each other’s personality - is it possible to work on becoming close as friends or is this the very base of a relationship?

[@Shaarda17]

Am I crazy or didn’t you have some lectures of David Hawkins and Robert Adams? Cannot seem to find them now. Did something happen?

[@briegookin2112]

My second marriage is on appreciation, respect, communication, and adoration for each other. Without those, the marriage is doomed. see my first marriage.

[@mehndimj]

Relaxation

[@estidabesti9573]

Im feeling very conflicted about my partner at the moment, she is amazing and loves me unconditionally, but im not sure. Can anyone offer some advice?

[@charlottebruce979]

Not sure about what? Being with her? Can you trust her, are you attracted to her? Is she reasonable so you can negotiate any differences and conflicts? What are you not sure about?

[@kathydoe9287]

Pray for guidance 🙏

[@JohnDoe007]

📍 wow. excellent video.

[@michaelgarrow3239]

If it flys, flirts, or floats; rent, don’t buy.

[@davidthomspson9771]

Agreed

[@gfsfyfy426]

"If you want, be careful who you trust" right!?

[@southland34j]

Okay.....I need a freakin dictionary to watch & completely comprehend this video 😮

[@JacobDover-s4m]

The people that are in my life right now aren't the right people they don't step up their game and aren't on my level.

[@JoshFNTZ]

Wow. Almost TOO many variations, exceptions, compromises, wall way, and calm downs, etc… and I’m not even married. Lol

[@TheRealDebbieH]

I love strongly but it's not enough. I will never trust them and could not give the the freedom of our past happy life. We have no ability to negotiate because one cannot speak their feelings. Then the spark is weak

[@michaeladronsmith6043]

All i have to do is go out with my camera they come out of the woodwork.

[@tulinbeyduz920]

and if they have that but don’t want to spend much time with you because they like their alone time a lot

[@crystalthow5533]

Did he say, you cant???😮

[@nuez23747]

Watch out for sexual spark. Toxic partner or full avoidants not just a bit, omg there was so much chemistry going there there was traums bond dramas and little to no commitment. Chemistry is a wrong indicator and psychological blind ppl do take it easily for love especially young females. Everybody could see the chemistry between us so many times but they never wanted to commit

[@denishang24]

❤️❤️❤️

[@davidthomspson9771]

Truthbomb

[@JosephCable-c7d]

SOUL MATES are NOT who we decide to join ourselves to, but about who God decides to join you to. Yes, we have freedom of choice to choose who we join ourselves to, as does God also have freedom to choose who he chooses to join together as one. The difference is people say everything on the topic and are NOT ABLE to PROVE that the one they chose is ones soulmate, UNLESS one is given knowledge from God, as to where God IS ABLE to PROVE IT through Declaring THEIR END from THEIR BEGINNING. In Marriage through the children (blessings) given them by God, is the WHOLE BODY fitly JOINED TOGETHER and compacted by that which EVERY JOINT supplieth, according to the effectual working in THE MEASURE of EVERY PART, MAKETH INCREASE of THE BODY unto the EDIFYING of ITSELF in LOVE. The Creator tells his creation HOW this process happens. He is the Absolute Authority of Absolute Truth in which ALL THINGS he does. In your PATIENCE possess ye your Souls. Receiving THE END of your FAITH, even the SALVATION of your Souls.

[@nick2232]

I am In love with mark

[@imsadwhy-o5v]

🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@codedlAnguage]

Word. 👉 💓💓💓💓💓. 🍄. 💓. 💣. 💥

[@michaeladronsmith6043]

I currently have Miss Universe from colombia contacting without direct contact. They like my photography.

[@DarraSmith-ul3mt]

😊❤

[@karenholtzclaw3135]

😊

[@clarkwatson3217]

This peterson is way better than the current weak and passive peterson of 2022

[@Aria-nl3xp]

Yea fucking tell me about it!.....fucking tell me!!

[@michaeladronsmith6043]

This is not my problem. I was dating bikini models because i don't have much closet space. There alot of women in world. They have murdered over 30 women i was dating and just not trying get anyone killed.

[@janaenae1338]

What do you do when you know some people are married oh and also are ultra sensitive to disgust when you feel like your a mess maker and

[@DarraSmith-ul3mt]

😮😮❤🎉

[@motivationeyes2852]

The hardest thing a small KZbinr can feel is when you wake up in the morning and nothing has changed on your channel, so plz i need your support very badly 🙏🙏

[@thesoundofmellow2915]

Subbed :)

[@DarraSmith-ul3mt]

👀😊❤🎉

[@erikbudrow1255]

And I'm screwed because I don't trust women...and I hate negotiation. Hell, I don't fully trust anybody enough to join lives together permanently. But I hate being so lonely. I just don't understand why it's so difficult to have healthy close relationships.

[@everythingja5812]

Seek therapy. You not being able to trust women is one thing but there must be one woman you can trust. If you cant then there is something you need to develop to allow you to weed out the character of women quickly. Work on you. Follow Dr Peterson, he helps us figure out what we need to improve to get what we want out of this life

[@erikbudrow1255]

@@everythingja5812 I do see a therapist. It's tough since my mom screwed me over big time more than once and I saw her manipulate other men too. And I experienced my sisters doing some sketchy stuff over the years as well. I want to be able to separate what they did from what other women could possibly be like but I'm sure you can understand that it's easier said than done...you're supposed to be able to trust at least your mom...the psychological damage causes some real strange thought patters and habits sometimes that have taken me a while to recognize...still working through a bunch of it...

[@everythingja5812]

Truth is. I am a woman. I grew up seeing my mother do it too. I dont do it. And i have friends that dont. Dont stay a victim. You find healthy people by becoming healthy

[@MrWhatever1234567]

Go away. Your a distraction

[@vh2906]

Follow Peepal farm

[@LouiseIngram-hd5yc]

Mind games and sadism tells me someone is wrong for me. Someone has attached themselves to the idea of me maybe he resembles Carl or Simone and believes that he should be pulling my strings . It’s weird effed up obsessive behaviour and an absolute waste of his time. Get a life harassing the idea of someone is sick twisted behaviour. You are not Carl or Simone .

[@DarraSmith-ul3mt]

😊❤