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0:00 - 1:47 - Heartbreak Is a Form of Grief
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3:56 - 5:12 - “Unattended Grief”
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6:40 - 8:39 - “Anger Is a Bodyguard for Pain”
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10:16 - 11:32 - When We’ve Abandoned Ourselves
11:32 - 13:04 - The Voice We Use
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[@thematthewhussey]

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[@Mark-on3nl]

2 years on and the pain won't go. Think about my ex wife every single day..

[@zachs4204]

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[@bianca-mhteam6237]

Hey @@zachs4204! As long as it's a physical copy of the book and not an e-book, you should be able to access the bonus. However, please email our support team at [e-mail] and they'll be able to confirm this :) -Bianca, MH team

[@Dreamgirl224]

@@Mark-on3nl 2 years is nothing. I had 8 years and I still survived. Focus in on what you need in life. Focus on what makes you happy and fullfill your life ... I am doing the same thing since I am in the Position as you are. Last time thats what helped me.

[@Mark-on3nl]

@@Dreamgirl224 thank you I needed that

[@vampzombiewitch]

I envy people who have never had to experience heartbreak. It literally feels like I can’t breathe, can’t stop crying. Can’t sleep. I feel numb

[@steeeez]

Once you come out of it i'm telling you you'll feel gratitude for going through it to build you into the person you're meant to become. The people who haven't been heartbroken are behind us on the bingo card of life experience.

[@satrch6952]

This is exactly how I feel, can't breathe, can't stop crying, not sleeping properly, so numb but in so much pain.

[@carla6121]

Could be anxiety

[@a_lone_wonderer]

@@carla6121 How to get out of it? Anxiety, depression, I had bargained myself respect like a sane man wouldn't, but to get that crushed and thrown to a waste bin... I can't seem to get out of it...

[@ephemeralitylol]

@@a_lone_wondereryou need to better yourself and prove to yourself that your not the problem and you can do better and you deserve better

[@buda2049]

“Grief is just love with no place to go “ Jamie Anderson.

[@cristinabadea6344]

That hit hard.... speechless

[@Lesane007]

Great quote, love it!

[@snowbirdspirit]

Been reminding myself of this quote for the past five months. Had my heart broken tremendously and have been grieving so much that it makes the other hardships I’ve had in my life seem so insignificant, and they were terrible. Heartbreak is the worst pain to go through, in my opinion.

[@bizzfgl3074]

Ouch

[@razorgg]

i had a Vietnamese GF , we had what the World is Looking for and she died from Breast Cancer,, and i have not been avoiding the issue , but this line does sort of get it because, she died but my love her did not die when died , so yes, Grief is just love with no place to go

[@ElizabethKamau-lp7ep]

I pray I will never be the reason someone needs to cling to such videos for dear life for the sake of their mental health

[@Lilith-9223]

What a beautiful comment! ❤

[@shineonsight6784]

Powerful

[@ramshaaziz6831]

Awwwwww❤

[@PriemSR]

I said the exact same thing, May I never be the reason of this kind of pain I'm going through.

[@jadehamelin9825]

My heart goes out to everyone here watching this video and helping yourself ❤️ I don’t know you or your story but I am so sorry for your loss.

[@ETate-lb3kd]

...thx 🦩

[@bennym1326]

Thank you ❤

[@bradrook3919]

Thank you ❤️ your heart is good and kind...

[@haydenjal2586]

Thank you

[@alfredkoroma8229]

❤

[@Cowkill]

My wife and are separating after 14 years of a beautiful relationship. Even in the end everything was peaceful. She's been devoured by her fear of getting old, her insecurities and traumas and influenced by new people she just met. She did not communicate. She cheated. She chose to live a new life instead of working through it with me. I failed as a husband. This was extremely painful but I refused to numb the pain. No partying, no going out every night, no alcohol and such. I allowed myself to feel all the pain. Now I still feel sad but I'm at peace. I now I did my best, I worked on myself to become a better man.

[@fabovondestory]

Im devastated right now because of a breakup of a 2 year relationship. I cant imagine what you must be going through. Respect

[@Durgatalks05]

Hi.. How are you now. She will Repaint For sure.

[@Durgatalks05]

Time is God. Just move on

[@Larosa1785]

This is my life right now. I wish you increased peace and contentment in each day to come.

[@47high]

I feel for you😢 same thing happened to me, my husband left me for another woman, we have been together for 22 years with 2 wonderful boys😢, my life is upside down, will my heart heal?💔😔

[@anuragbamne2991]

My best friend of 10 years and I were in a serious relationship for 3 years until last year when she just dumped me over a text and got engaged to someone else within a week. It took all of last year to steady myself. To anyone out there struggling with heartbreak and grief, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Be patient and compassionate with yourself. Sending lots of love❤️

[@megabadunicorn8625]

I can only imagine the pain you went through when it did happen to you. My best friend of 6 years broke up with me while we were officially together 4 years. Although there wasn’t a third person. The pain and realization of them being gone is so hard to fathom, but I hope things do get better. Thank you for your comment

[@patrodriguez5568]

I hope you heal soon. Going through this monster right now and it effin' sucks.

[@ChrisEdberg]

Glad you’re steady man. Stay strong ❤

[@DarkWolfWRX]

I have been through some break ups in my life. The longest was a 16 year relationship that ended last Aug. I then met a woman, who was everything I dreamed. We were together just 5 months. I had some underlying anxiety that bubbled through and pushed her over the point of not worth it and she called it quits last week. This has been the hardest most painful breakup ever. We got along SO great when we were together. But when we were apart I tended to overthink or misinterpret texts. When I was physically with her I never felt more safe in my life. I really dont sense any light after this one. She was the one woman who I actually was happy about a future with and not just going with the motions. I miss her in every moment.

[@edwinsirima935]

Same as me

[@davidn527]

“Anger is a bodyguard for pain” *instant tears down my face*

[@NetSkillNavigator]

😢bro ..

[@RitaP41]

"Grief is a change you didn't want." - David Kessler Brilliant 🔥

[@oambitiousone7100]

6 months of grieving the man who came along midlife, who gave me all the validation and cherishing I had craved but thought impossible. He lost feelings. I cry most days.

[@amanda_bnrn]

This is what I’m going through now, though it’s still fresh (I’m talking only days since my heart got broken)… the best relationship of my life, they lost feelings and couldn’t explain why or when or how. I’m so lost, numb and paralyzed.. I hope I can process this in a healthy way and ditch the idea that this was my forever partner, I thought what we had was so beautiful 😭

[@rumakalita8278]

I'm going through exactly the same thing. After being in an abusive relationship for 5 years the other guy helped me over the trauma. And we spend 1 year together. And it was the most amazing thing and suddenly he just didn't want to be together without any explanation. I cry most days. Every waking moment i spend thinking about what could have been. I've been in absolute no contact for more than 2 weeks now. It just doesn't get easier. Help me

[@constancegoldwing5867]

My fiance dumped me with no explanation after a wonderful 4 years 2 weeks ago also. 7 weeks out from our wedding. I still don't know why. I am with you, and I share your pain.@@rumakalita8278

[@Isaiah_61_7]

Sometimes the Lord uses someone for a short moment in time to prove to us that the way the last people made us feel about ourselves, were invalid. I have a prodigal narcissist spouse that i was with 10 years. He left me with my 4 children last year and it was the hardest. But last month the Lord used a man that I would never have ended up with to show me, that what my ex had me believing about myself was a LIE FROM HELL. He made me realize not everyone sees me the way my ex did. Soak up the love and affection but be leery not to get into a trauma bond instead of love.

[@gokuwufei99]

I'm about a year into grieving my ex, even tried to move on but realized it wasn't fair to my new partner because my ex was still always on my mind. I feel it's impossible to move on at times, we've tried to be friends and are, but the feelings over the past year just bubble up and my anxious side was pleading again. On day 9 of no contact right now and....yeah....nothing. Its still early, but I battle myself. On one hand I feel used because we lived together for 3 years and suddenly after 2 it's like she hated me. I know she's dismissive avoidant NOW after studying attraction types, but damn if I could go back with the knowledge I have today or at least get a second chance, but no, she's firm we're just friends so....im giving her space, but its HARD! I want to message her so bad, but if it's meant to be she'll reach out eventually, if not? Then it shows I didn't mean to her what I thought I did and I deserve better. I get angry thinking about how she treated me, I wasn't perfect either, but ugh....its in God's hands now

[@jamessmith-ds1ww]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@andrewvasilyev3540]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

[@jamessmith-ds1ww]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@andrewvasilyev3540]

Her name is Chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@bossygaming3465]

@@andrewvasilyev3540do you think the spiritual counselor really worked? I’m scared I’ll never get her back. 4 years gone just like that.

[@AB-04]

hope youre ok same just happened to me literally was my best friend cheated on me left me with everthing we built together been a month since she left for a guy she was ready to be with lmao

[@ellencaroline2065]

To you whom is Reading this, breath❤️🤲

[@Jazzthetruth418]

I’m trying but it hurts

[@ellencaroline2065]

@@Jazzthetruth418 in utter silence,give it to God in Jesus'name We do so, bcs in spirit [they] can hear us

[@travishantz175]

I’m crying

[@alexandraviala1199]

Thank you! 💕

[@cjadeslife4684]

😢 im trying

[@atamakoprayer8588]

Last few days have been the worst days of my life and I felt like the ground should open and swallow me. With alot of pain in heart and no one to talk to, Seeing these comments made me realize am not a alone . thanks

[@srianna0416]

Same it just happened to me. I'm not sure how I exist without the person.

[@atamakoprayer8588]

@@srianna0416 we gonna be fine and look back and be grateful to God for saving you

[@kirstenjavery9647]

😢😢😢

[@dennismuchiri9536]

We broke up last week I can't breath

[@KenDeep-ky8oi]

After my break up I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years. With so much anxiety 😢I can’t let the pain go

[@FletcherHackman]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@Vuitton-uj1hz]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@AnneRodrigo-fz6ks]

Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episodeenough to start working on my mental health

[@HealthyPriestessSophie]

Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@AnneRodrigo-fz6ks]

Is he on instagram?

[@cricketlouise7170]

Losing my parents, feels like I'm an orphan. Violently assaulted by an ex, all relationships are affected and highly triggered. Therapy did not help.

[@sk4swatikapoor]

Hugs. It's ok to not be ok. You are a survivor to be here. Salute

[@ashShadow2121]

I’m so sorry to hear this. Please don’t feel alone, please give therapy another chance it takes some chances to find the right one ❤️

[@PB-fq7rc]

Sometimes you‘ve to survive long enough to make it out of the dark. Then your healing will start ❤ Trust in the process

[@angelacarbon4010]

So sorry. Hope you feel better soon.

[@akshatasn]

Sorry, I understand the feeling. My parents are alive but I know the fact that once they are gone, I will be an orphan. There are times that I wake up in the night and check if they are still alive (worst I know). I know no matter how much I prepare for it, it’s going to be traumatic. Big hugs to you, I wish you peace xx

[@thirdefying]

I recently experienced my first ever heartbreak at 33 years old and I am in such grief and hurt right now. Pain is personal and what I am in now is not easy. Never have I ever felt these real emotions that I am experiencing. Praying and hoping I will be fully healed one day.

[@jamesprentice2894]

Hey bro. I'm 34 and in the same situation. 2 weeks in and it starts to get better but (as you know) we need to be patient over a period of months. Just keep speaking to your close network and do things that help you grow as a person.

[@BasedBrothers]

Happened to me at 31. We were dating for 3 months but they were intense. It’s been over 7 months and I think of her every day, but the pain is not nearly as intense anymore. It has helped me immensly to pray to God, to trust that He has a plan for me and that if it’s meant to be he will unite us again OR he has an even more amazing women in store for me. Trust God/The universe/Higher power that you will experience even better things in the future. Trust this with ALL your heart. When you feel loss, anxiety, depression, turn to that higher power and with CONVICTION believe that Better things are coming. Hope this helps, it really has helped me. Take care guys

[@thirdefying]

@@jamesprentice2894 Thank you! Over a month since I was devastated from my heartbreak but I believe I am progressing well. Baby steps and I know I will achieve my healing from this but still not gonna lie there are days where I feel awful.

[@thirdefying]

@@BasedBrothers Because God is love. He knows he has better plans for all of us and what happened to us, what we experienced were all charge to our personal learning. I also think about the person who broke my heart everyday but not as much as the early days of my heartbreak. Prayer is a powerful tool to aid us full healing.

[@pearlmendez836]

Same at 30 boyfriend of 13 yrs said he saw no future with me .

[@drparvathyrajeev]

never betray anyone.

[@jdeebz303]

I am in a position where I am 7 months removed from my break up, and despite being kind to myself, working out, meditating going out with friends and trying to learn a new language, I still find myself thinking about her every hour of the day. I remind myself all the time how lucky I am to have experienced that love, and I have taken ownership of my mistakes and have grown so much since the day I lost a part of my soul. I am young (33), fit and healthy and I don't really struggle to meet women or go on dates etc, I live in a country without war and I have a supportive and loving group of friends and family that have shown me how loved I am since this happened. I'm so proud of myself and the man I have become. the past year I have completely flipped the way I think, and have learned how to guide my negative self pitty thoughts into positive and kind ones, but despite all this, I still think about her every hour of every day. I am often able to catch myself and just say to myself that "I hope she is happy and healthy, and lives a long and full life and that I am thanksful for all the lessons I learnt through her and am now a better man because of my experience", but still 7 months later I will just randomly break into tears from something unrelated to her or a break up and just feel so sad for a good 5-10 minutes. I work out, I meditate and I love myself, but I feel like there will always be part of my sould missing. I don't know if I have gotten to the point where I have let go, as I still think about her all the time, but I never am mad or angry at her. Maybe letting go doesn't mean not thinking about them, maybe it means being able to be okay with the feelings you have and moving forward despite those feelings.

[@sharonnyoni177]

So proud of you 🫂

[@beautyfromtheheart2785]

Anger is a bodyguard for pain. Too True.

[@archieanderson2945]

Wow. My wife says she can see my anger as no one else. But never knew why I was so angry. ❤

[@user-kx8kx9sj3k]

The one who revived our heart just to leave it broken into a million pieces... It hurts...

[@bradrook3919]

Exactly 💯 ❤

[@iceriahikari4707]

As soon as I watched the video, I started crying. Then, as the video progressed, I started feeling calm and hopeful. Thank you so much for giving out the message, Matt.

[@thematthewhussey]

That makes me really happy. Just wait til you see the whole thing!

[@is.b.1185]

Me too, dear. Me 2. Can't stop crying about everything. Especially about something happened 3 months ago. Even for Mathew though .. seeing his sadness.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Good luck in your healing ❤

[@ragingspeedhorn]

Great message, thank you so much 🙏

[@ankh111]

Me As Well...

[@marthayanez6816]

My husband cheated on me and divorced me and then my mum died for sudden cardiac arrest while I was w her w my kids. And after 7 years my heart is still is broken

[@oghoghookundaye1493]

I’m so sorry, sending you peace and comfort

[@ftcmush__roomm5080]

Words won’t begin to express how deeply sorry I am for you not only because I can relate to some of the things you’ve gone through but because no one deserves it. You have the strength to get back and build back up

[@Ajgsydodkdlclcjjs]

This is so terrible. I'm so sorry

[@ishayaamari2104]

This is sad, I'm so sorry. I pray God heals you

[@madbu6669]

God only knows why things happen... you're stronger than you know. Heartbreak sucks... you won't ever be prepared to deal with it or get through it as quickly as we'd like. You're going to get through this for you and your family. My prayers and thoughts are with you❤

[@jovycastillo3386]

Loosing a child is the most devastating heartbreak i felt,been a year now and feels like yesterday,still painful until now,and maybe forever,but i still trying to accept til now

[@Scheherazad100]

Blessings❤

[@roxanahutchcroft1236]

Pouring love into you ❤

[@audreycooper9739]

Praying for you

[@bradrook3919]

God Bless you..I too lost my boy in Afghanistan in 2014...10 years in grief time is like 10 days ago. A psychologist told me I you will never be the same again. You lost part of your heart when he passed, you can never get it back. But through grieving, you'll bring back the love and life lessons your child gave you while he or she was here with you...there is never a time limit to grief...One day you'll be back in the arms of your child so will I...God Bless you...I know your hurt...❤❤

[@Heavenlysky89]

🙏🙏🙏

[@leeannvolker8579]

My son died a month and half after my husband died. A double grief. It was in 2016. I would like to have had help emotionally and other people also could have help with these emotions. 😢 😅 Thank you

[@jzz1019]

Thinking of you. Sigh my friend.

[@Keeva-]

My partner was killed in 2014 and my best friend died while I was at my partner's funeral. I never got to say goodbye to either of them. I didn't find any help at the time either and I know I have brought a lot of that pain with me to the present. I cannot imagine losing a child, I'm so sorry. I truly hope you've been able to find peace.

[@BeADad2447]

God be with you always.

[@notyourophelia]

It's been 8 months since my relationship ended. I do still get their thoughts once in a while but it's so much easier now, I don't wake up and sleep with his thoughts on my mind like I used to before. My mind plays tricks and brings in happy memories of us as well, I appreciate those days for a moment and let it go. I always pray to God everytime I feel sad and time and time again I forgive my ex for hurting me. It helps me to move forward.

[@badcheetah5927]

This is me. 😢I thought I wrote this! Can we be friend?

[@Scheherazad100]

😅

[@shirleyblaisdell9445]

Same here🥲 It’s not even a month, since my soon to be ex left me.

[@wijasi2059]

Just came on the year we parted ways, with no reason or closure, but excuses spanning the entire spectrum. I process a little longer than most, hard to brush under the rug as I gave and went all in and still feel the sting...one day at a time, some better than most. Thanks for your post.

[@Ada_03]

My boyfriend of over 5 years just broke up with me. I loved him more than anything and he was the most stable thing in my life. I lived with him and have no one else. I am only 20 so i grew up with him in a way, but it feels like this pain will never pass.

[@mateuszkrakowiak389]

It will

[@hidingplace5409]

It will, i can assure you that, it gets better day by day.

[@stevefarrell7211]

Plz use this situation as a warning to gaurd your heart! Never allow anyone to have all of you ! The pain your experiencing is the result of your heart all in on this relationship! I know this ! I’m sixty years young! Been there ! Understand people change and should! But as you see being all in leaves you absolutely vulnerable to a broken heart that can take years to heal ! And that’s if you let yourself heal ! There are real good guys people who are good for you! Maybe god has a better boyfriend for you ! Everyone you meet isn’t meant to be always in your life ! God puts people in your life and removes them ! Allow yourself to grieve and don’t hesitate to move forward! There is a good young man out there for you! ❤️🙏🏻 praying for you !

[@spartanuss2211]

My girlfriend over 7 years just broke up with me over a stupid reason. It's hard to realize, but live goes on.

[@king_lombo5070]

I started when I was 15 as well mine lasted for 13 years I’m only 28 and divorced and lost the the absolute love of my life at least that’s what she was to me. I still don’t know if I meant that much to her. She cheated and left me pretty much all at once it was soul crushing but as they explained I went right into the storm of pain and explored it and after months of doing so I’m finally getting better keep your head high we will get through it

[@bennym1326]

8 years on, and I still feel the pain... the world is just not as colourful as it used to be

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

Watching this video stirred up old emotions, leaving me longing for my ex and struggling to move forward.

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

Saying goodbye to someone dear is hard. When my 12-year relationship ended, I couldn't move on. But with help from a spiritual counselor, we reunited. Now, I'm happy and grateful

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

Could you advise me on how I can meet the counselor you've mentioned?

[@user-yy9mt6kl3h]

I'm glad you're interested! To connect with Suzanne Ann Walters, the spiritual counselor I mentioned, just look her up online. Her guidance is worth seeking

[@user-sk7kd8vs2w]

thanks a lot. I will do just that

[@isadorav6914]

stupid pathetic bots

[@eliotttownsend3828]

I've been dealing with having my heart broken for 6 months now. I had to quit my job due to breaking down all throughout the day but in the end I feel as if I needed to feel this pain to heal from everything thats been inside me for such long time. Every time I feel my emotions coming I just let them go unrestricted and I feel as if I am healing from years of holding my emotions inside.

[@Haley497]

Hope you can get back to work, maybe not at the same place but back at work nevertheless. My healing started when I got a full time job to help me not have enough time to allow myself to sulk. Retraumatizing myself reviewing and revisiting the heartbreaks everyday was hindering my recovery. Hope you are as lucky as I was to land a job you love, adore and makes you happy on a daily basis. I teach ESL to small children. Of course I can never love them more than my own child, my son, my Sun and everything for me, but it is incredibly uplifting and amazing to make so many chidren's lives better and spark their minds with thirst for knowledge. Quite challenging as well, so it gives me purpose beyond next morning. Having not much time left to linger on too much heartbreak has done wonders to my peace.

[@AR-zn1uy]

Bro there's billions of women. God did u a favor. Look at the positives. Work on the things u enjoy and qhdn you're ready start dating. You'll be surprised what u find.

[@warriorqueen9792]

I've had to suppress my grief to keep going through a difficult situation and I know how damaging that can be. I've just been through months of worry and anxiety after years of waiting for an end to a particular situation that's been hanging over me. I'm glad you've been able to take the time. When my situation was over I kind of collapsed on the floor in floods of tears while trying to clear out some old paperwork. It was such a relief to finally feel the tears come. Better out than in is what I say. But find time for 'functioning' too so that you can have some distractions. Just to take some time out from the grief here and there and let some 'light' in. At my darkest times I challenged myself to leave the house for at least five mins a day and to find one thing to make me smile. Acknowledge and heal the sadness but also see the good things. Hope things get better for you.

[@snowbirdspirit]

I’m in the same boat as you. Mine was 5 months ago. Nobody really knows just how deep the pain goes and you’ve had your own struggles that are personal to you, and so cry and grieve in all the time you need. Letting it all out is one of the best ways to heal and it takes bravery. It’s easy to stuff things down and ignore things but when it is just too big to do that, letting it all out is going to save you in the end. Proud of you!

[@AR-zn1uy]

@warriorqueen9792 Trust me I felt the same pain. Dead inside. Absolutely broken and shattered. Reality torn away from me. But I'd rather know the truth and eat that fucking pain then dump a big giant dose of motivation in my life that will elevate me to a level I otherwise couldn't. Yes I might suppress. I just ignore anything related to her. Help the people who were loyal to me and snapped me out of that hypnotic bullshit relationship I was in and put me back on the path to rebuilding myself. I had no business being in a relationship which is why I got the result I got. Same with you guys. GOD DID NOT WANT THIS TO BE YOUR TIME. There was a lesson to learn and growth to be had. Once that is accomplished you will love yourself and who you've become. Then you'll attract the right one. Be happy it happened now than when you meet the love of your life.

[@Ken_Johnson]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

[@EricScofield22]

I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

[@Ken_Johnson]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@user-vh1fu2vt1y]

Really? How do i find one please?

[@EricScofield22]

Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@user-vh1fu2vt1y]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@xenramirez8142]

I am 28 with my first true heartbreak of almost 6 years. It is unbelievable how much I hurt. I have lost what felt like home wherever life went. I’m sure like most I can’t wait to be happy again.

[@snowbirdspirit]

I am sending my love to you. I’m in the first true heartbreak of my life as well. I’ve had, what I would call, heartaches. Many in my life, but this one takes the cake and has definitely shattered me. I’m so sorry you are going through the same thing. If anything, I want you to know you are not alone and I admire your positive outlook on saying you can’t wait to be happy again. I admire that because I can’t say the same for myself as I don’t believe I will be, but you will be for sure. I wish I had the same outlook as you do! I know you are in such great pain, and I am praying for your healing. But during this temporary darkness, just know that you inspired someone today 😊

[@buggus0034]

You have to approach every relationship knowing it will end. It’s the natural order of everything.

[@user0m170]

It can't be, there's people who die together... who stay together til the end Surely

[@how_you_talk]

Not really... don't fall for this trick else u ll never feel the beauty of the relationship.

[@buggus0034]

@@how_you_talk I’m married. I wholeheartedly expect my marriage to not last forever because death will eventually take one of us. Or divorce, which statistically is the more reasonable thing to expect in our lovely modern age. You’re busy with feelings, strip those out of the equation and start thinking.Love is evil, I’ve lived long enough to know it.

[@user0m170]

@@buggus0034 why is love evil

[@buggus0034]

@@user0m170 Because you haven't figured out what it is. Love is the most destructive power on the planet. It can be wielded and make you into a shadow of who you should be. I would know. I live it every single day. If you are a guy, my suggestion is to never get married. If you want children make the kind of money you can get a surrogate. It means you can probably pull women with the kind of money, but make sure your children never know their mother.

[@dagingflowerchild733]

I had my mini Australian shepherd put to sleep she was 16.5 years old and I've had her since she was 6 weeks old.

[@youcanhealyourheartbreak5999]

Oh my 😢 I’m so sorry. My cousin just did the same for his 15 yr old pittie.

[@soyandoat4106]

Rest in peace to your four legged friend and my condolences to you, hope you have love and support system around you in this hard time

[@spl4028]

So very sorry!, they are such a huge part of our lives

[@rebeccagroves1096]

Losing a pet is one of the hardest grief I've ever had. Just know you gave your baby a good life.

[@audreycooper9739]

😢😢

[@prekad9691]

I just wanted to say THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart that is now healed because of you. It was exactly one year ago when I broke up with my girlfriend, I was so heartbroken that I tried absolutely everything to change my life from the roots. I was so depressed, I didn't want to get out of bed. But I never gave up on myself, I started watching your videos and every day I worked on my mental health. Now I feel better than ever and I know this is just the beginning I just wanted to say thank you and I know how much comments like this can help others, believe me, I know this from experience. Keep your head up, take care of yourself, never give up, put your life in God's hands and everything will be alright in time.

[@biggurl8876]

❤❤❤

[@Sunnyfield323]

Well done ! Never gave up

[@shakhzosh]

Hiii. It's been 6 months for me and I still have days when I feel really sad. I do hope that one day soon, I can also get over them completely. Sometimes I feel like I am disappointed in myself that even after half a year it still affects me

[@prekad9691]

@@shakhzosh Hi bro, don't worry, it's normal I was the same. Even after almost a year since brake up i wasn't fully over it, but there is no roles Someone will deal whit it faster, someone slower. A year is average time for your heart to heal. Just focus on yourself and u will see after some time how good you will feel Keep your head up 💪

[@kellycious88]

One of the best videos on internet and believe me I am working as a psychologist/ psychotherapist, I have seen tons of videos.

[@thematthewhussey]

Thank you!

[@marianellaarguedas2196]

me too sister

[@user-wb3es8hz1d]

This video caught me off guard. It is a very good one. My long-time therapist is this kind of kind human. The real thing. Rare!

[@franciskaori-pakay3654]

How many times we hear "Move on", "Get over it" after a heartbreak. Nobody knows that is truly a pain, not just emotionally, but often physically. Noone will tell you after you loose somebody, who died, that it is time to move on... So strong and deep ideas. Thank you!

[@Tactical50]

I broke down the moment he started talking. I’ve been going through the grief of losing my dad and the grief of losing a person I love! So painful!

[@sandravascellari5188]

I wonder how this works when after 25 years I still miss the love of my life and the only one to blame is myself as I left him for another man. I live with regret to this day!

[@ediedonohoe7512]

I have been dealing with a heart break I was feeling anxious I couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't concentrate in work it took over me. Everybody in work noticed a change in me but I was too ashamed to tell them it was over an x boyfriend. We think we should be strong enough to deal with a heartbreak but it's too painful. Thank you so much for this video very powerful it really made me think of myself and how I accepted someone who wasn't worthy of having me in their life. I feel empowered now thank you❤

[@deanne240]

I am going through this same heart break as well...I can't eat..I can't sleep, I cry all the time...I just want to be numb...I don't want to feel anything 😢

[@katjasaukkonen1874]

"You know how staying the same feels like" -David. Thank you

[@madhurmotwani9935]

A woman was once that voice for me. I hope she stays happy forever and nothing touches her.

[@ginniepaardenkooper5216]

I started crying a few minutes in, and kept crying. This video was very cathartic for me, thank you.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

❤

[@MsYingyang2]

I have been married for 49 yrs to a man i thought I knew. He betrayed me by having an affair for 31 years. We moved away from this person some 1200 miles. Her husband dies and she moves to our state 7 miles from our home. My husband has always denied anything between them. Now he has dementia. I suppressed those feelings all those years. Never did I suspect anything. Perhaps I didn’t want to believe that. I am truly experiencing the grief, anger and heartbreak. I purchased this book because I expect I am going to really need to read all of it.

[@shalinipathania518]

Hey I hope you are okay and you'll be okeyy you're so strong!

[@MsYingyang2]

@@shalinipathania518 Thank you so much. I need all the encouragement that I can get.

[@melusine826]

I think im still grieving for the me i didnt get to be

[@thematthewhussey]

I understand that. That’s hard. We all could have been someone different had our circumstances been different. I’m sorry you’re hurting. But remember, if that had been the case, then we would have been missing some of the vital parts of us that arose out of our circumstances. Also, imagine what you have YET to be…that’s always exciting to me. So much possibility.

[@annieb8521]

My anger is why dint I protect myself better....I had a toxic childhood,it wasn't my fault, I have to forgive myself ,it wasn't my fault, love myself,have compassion for myself and move on and never give permission to let anyone hurt me again if I recognize toxicity.❤

[@sandratomlin1477]

WOW. So much heartbreak - relationships, deaths, all of it. Im so tired of being pissed, hurt, so ready to heal

[@cyndijohnson5473]

I’ve been crying every day for the last 3 months… and I’ve known the majority of the time only some of the tears are for that relationship that ended then. I feel like I need to cry for a year at least. It’s daunting.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

Let is out! wishing you the best in your healing ❤❤

[@markyoung5635]

Chin up, be proud of the love you gave. The sun will shine again,the birds sing ,you'll smile, laugh and love again x

[@Sunnyfield323]

When I was depressed and walking out of it baby steps and held hope that one day it wouid be different I used to remind myself I couidnt see the next good thing but that’s because I’m in the middle of the cloud , I’m Surrounded by the cloud of course I can’t see anything else. So you too might feel like that .. try not to get daunted , it will get more bearable xx

[@native_beauty1340]

Going through exactly the same right now

[@MiaCarter7]

I’ve been through so much and couldn’t afford to have my heart shattered impossibly further. For my own sanity, I’m not trying anymore. No one will get a chance to date me let alone ghost me, again. I’ll pretend romance and relationships don’t exist.

[@adityabhatt7859]

I see you love fries and soda now. It's just as dangerous, I think.

[@janillrodriguez8030]

I was dating this girl for 6 months. Never felt any love like this. It was magic, she broke up with me. 16 days ago, came around but after a huge argument she said stop texting me. I never experience a pain like this. Everything reminds me of her.

[@tammy_lynn1628]

I saw myself as a little girl on a mountainside.. I saw my parents walk past and abandon me and within a flash all my abusers use me, hurt me and leave me. God is the only one that hasn’t used me, abused me or left me. I pray my heart will heal from all the grief 🙏🏼

[@BeADad2447]

If you are trying to say something, don't keep this to yourself. I learned of a horrific abuse of a child a few years ago and this person began healing after talking about it. (It was the worse case of childhood torture). Free yourself from these people that hurt you. God bless you and you will heal.

[@mirelaklisuric6959]

I cried. This video is a whole blessing. Yes, David’s analogy, his voice, everything. Thank you ❤

[@thematthewhussey]

❤

[@freesoul0109]

I cried. Actually, I have been crying from time to time, especially when I think of him. There are so many memories, and everything I see triggers me intensely. I don't know if time can heal me in the end. All of life is a process of recovery that never ends.

[@NguyenNguyen-oq4rx]

Maybe he just someone that come to you life to teach you smth, and if it meant to be it will workout. I move to another city by myself had a gf there and we raised a cat together know im alone with all the memories and an always hungry pig but it will get better or you will get better at handling it, wish you the best

[@propro693]

There is a reason behind your grief. You will get stronger Trust me. What is situation now can you tell me?

[@freesoul0109]

@@propro693 I just thought about the happy times I had with him and started crying again. I'm feeling so sad and wanted to find someone to talk to online, and then I saw your message. I think it's the synchronicity.

[@propro693]

@@freesoul0109 Maybe. You can talk to me any time you want

[@freesoul0109]

@@propro693 Thank you, you are a very kind person. How can I rerach you?

[@dianakurland2500]

Estranged from my adult son is heartbreaking

[@gloriassali3367]

I am going through heart break since last month after dating someone for 2yrs but he betrayed me. The emotions are raw and are on and off. One minute you are feeling OK, the next you are in a v sad place, v tearful and lost. I am v hopeful I will overcome

[@JoelleJTeeter]

I feel lIke I'm going to struggle with this for the rest of my life.

[@ronengreen7210]

Me 2.. its been years since the break up.. still painful.. very much

[@elemartynova]

This is heartbreaking even to listen, not living through. I hope you'll overcome your storm soon, Matthew, and I wish you all the best!

[@rafaeljp]

it's been hard, I was going out with a girl, but she ghosted me, I thought we got along so well, she was a perfect match for me. I haven't been well lately, I trying to keep my mind busy and don't think about it but sometimes in the middle of the day I catch myself thinking about her and what I might did wrong. I hope with time I can heal myself

[@joshharvey5464]

My babymama went to rehab and left me for a heroine addict because they could relate to their addictions. I wrote her an empowering message every day to tell her our daughter and l were proud of her for going to rehab, that way she could see all the support when she got her phone back. We even originally had plans for me to pick her up when she was done to celebrate. Didn't matter though, rehab daddy had her locked on some mistakes l've made in the relationship and that the grass is greener with a new person. Sometimes you can do everything you feel is right, and to the other person it may be too late or not enough. I don't know who needs to read this but I want everyone to remember that you won't be enough for everyone and that's okay. Be enough for yourself. Even if you can't see it, your effort will pay off eventually, even if it's with someone else.

[@smudita]

I cried for how true this video is… I just had my heartbreak; my boyfriend betrayed me. I’ve been angry for quite some time for what he did. But right when you said “anger is a bodyguard for pain”, I cried instantly. I realized that I avoided the sadness of losing our future together…

[@TraceyBarracloughInspiration]

I’ve had more grief/loss/heartbreak than hot dinners, and in many different forms. I thought the suicide of my brother had to be the worst of all and that nothing could touch me after that. Wrong! I also thought that I’d be used to it and therefore each experience would be easier. Wrong again! Would I change anything? No, it’s made me who I am, but of course I didn’t want any of it. Thank you 🙏

[@Nina-ur3ld]

OMG, that sounds very scary to me. I don't want to get into a relationship anymore because that sounds very difficult. How did it change you?

[@TraceyBarracloughInspiration]

@@Nina-ur3ld for the better. Stronger, more resilient, more compassionate. Never give up on love ❤️

[@wandusky]

It’s like reading my own life. Lost my sister the same way, I’m still grieving, but that’s not all, my bf doesn’t love me anymore so I just had the worst heartbreak again

[@TraceyBarracloughInspiration]

@@wandusky I feel you ❤️

[@Jacky06]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger 💪❤

[@user-ej8qn6nm7l]

Only you can decide when you are ready to heal and move on. It doesn’t take time, it takes you and you being ready! Your heart deserves all the attention you are giving it. Usually an initial heartache opens the chambers to past heartaches so it becomes an entire life healing process. Dig deep! You are worth it! Don’t let anyone rush you or pressure you to go back to “normal” or how things were before you got hurt, either. There is no such thing as normal anyway; trust that the new “healed” you will thrive!! Trust yourself and who you are❤ You are the greatest miracle in the world and someone’s most precious blessing. 🙏🏽

[@MarieB-DSM]

Love the buffalo story! I’ve learning that the only way to get through the grief and heartbreak is to let myself go through it with love and care!

[@user-dz4zb4dj2u]

Heartbreak 💔 if we narrow it down to one simple term, its about not seeing eye to eye or on eye level with a partner. people want to see themselves in others or want to get something they dont have, trying to change them or idealize them, but they have to learn to see the other for who they are and what they bring to your life should be more positive, more good, to enhance your life, not to complete you, not to validate you. You owe it to yourself to feel complete. The other person is to help you be the best version of yourself and vice versa. No person is perfect but the person should be able to perfectly fit in your life organically.

[@finitachiinga1482]

Thank you Mathew 🙌 It’s not your mind that is broken,it is your heart

[@ilovebabybelle]

This is so good! We are all in grief. All the time.

[@eashadas7776]

Thank you Matthew. I have been heartbroken now a few times in my life and every single time that I am, one of the few videos that can give me any semblance of comfort is yours. The soothing and compassionate voice that David had when he was talking with you is the same voice that you had in this video and it was also so kind to hear. I am very excited to watch the interviews and please always continue what you're doing because you are genuinely helping me and so many other people :)

[@germanrenthel4225]

I have been going through a heartbreak for a very long time now. I´ve been trying different things to get through it but I always come back to the pain it feels mainly because I´ve been alone for a very long time. My ex girlfriend moved on very fast from our relationship and is now soon to have a baby. Eventhough I am very happy for her, she really deserves a lot of happoiness, I don´t feel I am able to overcome my heartbreak. I once felt it was a something i could control but i still find myself having the same issue, which affects my self confidance and my own self love... for which i have none. It is very tough. But i thank you for your words Matthew. You are very kind.

[@sandroairj]

the "abandoning ourselves" as well as the buffalo parts really hit me! Well done Matthew! Thanks for this amazing video

[@rahmahwatirosidah5714]

I always feel thankful to Matthew. I love by how his content is not only change my relationship view, but also my life in general. I thought what I am dealing with everyday is my relationship, but I realize it’s myself. Without seeing your contents, I probably will ruin my life when the bad situation happens. I am so grateful that I can see your work and gained so many positive impact on me.

[@A_Negative]

This couldn’t be posted at a better time. I appreciate this video so much.

[@user-nm6bs9ru6x]

I am old enough where I can see things from the end. I have seen these things before and I know what to expect under various situations.. I avoid getting invested until I feel safe. If it falls apart it falls apart. No love lost if it really wasn't there to begin with. I try to discern these things before it goes to far. As a result, people have become very transparent over the years, so I no longer get disappointed.

[@dslatts5361]

I have had a friendship break up recently & this makes sense. It has been make worse by the fact they don’t seem as bothered & i am about it & aren’t missing me. Mainly because it was there choice & we didn’t have a conversation .

[@plumia89]

Your video made me cry because I felt intensely everything you were talking about and David too. I become aware that there is a lot of internal work to heal with love and compassion. Become aware and start doing something step by step to lighten our path with these life experiences that come to us for some reason

[@beautybyeunhye2254]

Oh, my heart needed this today. The comment about his voice…that spoke to me. Reminds me of Kristin Neff when she modeled self compassion, I completely broke down in tears when she modeled how to speak to ourselves kindly just from her tone of voice. I think I will need to take advantage of this deal to heal my soul. Thanks Matthew 🥺❤

[@karenauborn9821]

Thank you for this beautiful truth Matthew. I lost my life partner 12 years ago and every relationship since has opened old wounds when they ended. It hurts and I’m a buffalo and stuck it out head on. I’m now healing again with a spiritual Buddhist leader. Many blessings to you.

[@luisalupo9793]

Your emotions pulled at my heart strings 😥 and your vunerability is so admirable. You deserve inner peace and happiness with all you give to the world. 🙏❤

[@BestAndFuckTheRest]

“Anger is the bodyguard of pain” This really made me look at things in another perspective. Will keep this quote

[@bradrook3919]

I lost my son in 2014. He served in combat in Afghanistan. Ten years is just like 10 days. Im now going through a breakup with my wife. To me the pain is very similar right now, but this video helped me know the pain of this failed union won't last like the lost of my boy. Its important for me to stay active bc the grieving is and will always be there. I work with veterans dealing with P.T.S.D. I also ride my Harley with Patriot Guard Riders and escort fallen Vets to their final resting place... By grieving you allow the sunshine of that lost child to remind you of the lessons of love they gave you while they were here...the one thing I want to emphasize to parents...always hug your kid, show them how much you love them even if they shrug you off as being korny..

[@108Isabel]

I experienced my 2nd heartbreak at 32 and I hope the pain goes away soon. I just cry and my emotions are up and down and I'm trying to heal and move on and try to be happy and be myself again

[@Durgatalks05]

Which is not in our control,we should not feel about it. Just forgive and move on.

[@marwinjucker9864]

Hi there. I'm 32 too and also going through a heavy break up process since January. Better times are comkng, hang in there. It'll get better. ☀️

[@LilyT51]

This made me tear up, thank you for another amazing video, Matthew ❤ The world needs your talent.

[@renaharo5267]

Pain is difficult to address especially if the wound is still there n has not fully healed there’s things only u and God can face unspoken pain …. Be kind to urself heal again your worthy of Love ur worth it Heal

[@Pandaluvthemusic]

Thank you, Matt. I really needed to see this. I've been watching so many of your videos on heartbreak and this one was like the cherry on top. It's beautiful to see how you can relate to this grief - something so human. Glad I was already ahead and pre-ordered your book last week!

[@QueenV14]

‘Yours’ profoundly beautiful, thank you Matthew 💜🙏🏻

[@Lionhearttarot]

Heartbreak and grief i feel is the contribution to the start of that concrete jungle inside of us, you never know what you are going to face next. Matt thankyou

[@manthansingh1]

I prepared myself for 2 years to become an athelete but on the final week got hamstring tear , prepared 2 years to crack an MBBS entrance exam , I failed it , then again prepared another 1.5 years to crack MBA entrance exam ,I failed then fell in love with a girl she left me she destroyed it gave me hope then left me stranded , I feel darkness all around me I feel that I am done I am not able to move on I loved her with everything I had !

[@suzysanchez8312]

Thank you Matt for this beautiful video. It was much needed as I had a one year relationship suddenly end, lost a job and lost my father all in a 5 month span, so I know grief all too well. I get tired of people telling me to just keep going, I think you have to process how you're feeling or you can't heal in a healthy way.

[@dinofrediani]

Thank you so much Matthew for you kindness, wisdom and vulnerability. You are an amazing person. We are so grateful to have you.

[@gabiz6768]

Thank you so much for speaking out that truth in such an empethatic opened way, it touched me deeply. I hope a lot of poeple can benefit from your wonderful heartfelt work you are doing!

[@ayalashoshani986]

Matthew, I think this is the most meaningful video you've ever released. Full of insights worth more than gold. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@MichaelAkoneto]

I've been with her for the past 18 years but she decided to be with a younger coworker and never informed me about anything....did everything behind my back... She rejected me.. ignored me... stopped calling me... stopped texting me... stopped seeing me.. she literally removed me from her life...but i forgave her and let her go..i wish her well

[@magickbytheocean23]

"Feeling for yourself" Boom! 🙌

[@huthaifa.da94]

Thanks to God, I consider myself as a person who really healed moved on. it is just an incredible feeling, it is like you are not caring anymore. 🙏🏽❤️

[@sharbelzoghbi1638]

Just hearing someone talk to me in a soft sweet voice made me emotional. I cant wait for the release. Thank you.

[@meera1860]

This video was something that brought tears in my eyes especially when I saw your eyes which were filled with tears and yet unable to drop them.... Moving towards the storm is something I truly learnt and this video was very much healing... Love your Smile Matthew.... May God take away all your sorrows and may your eyes always keep smiling

[@Epati84]

Video came at a perfect time. Almost made it to 4 years-I grieve the girl I was before we met but it’s ok to grieve and then look forward to better things.

[@bosphourus]

The worst grief is yours… this resonated so much. Seven months on from the unwelcome reality that the love my life is no longer a part of my future I am still heartbroken 💔 it’s time to attend to my grief thank you for the video

[@elsquibbs]

Great timing on this video. The pain of grief is like the pain of exercise. The pain is part of the process and you need to experience it in order to get stronger. Avoiding the pain of exercise is as harmful as avoiding the pain of grief. You'll never be healthy that way. I really like how Matthew articulates his points. Very refreshing.

[@annaemeralda]

I've been watching your videos for years, but this is your best video so far. So authentic and real. The Buffalo analogy is just genius.

[@V.S.745]

I hope you get through your storm(s) soon, Matthew. Also, I wanna thank you so much for your great and empathic content. I'm going through a divorce right now, after my husband cheated and infected me. Thank you for your beautiful words, they helped me so much. 💝

[@verenamadeo3588]

Wooow Matthew you are the best coach I‘ve ever come across. You are so real and not afraid to show your true self. I‘m super excited for your book! 🤩 Keep up the great work 👏

[@SBM459]

It's been a couple of days and I finally understand the quote "Nothing takes more patience than trying to heal yourself". I have dated an affluent and very powerful man. We broke up and it just feels like life has no meaning anymore. The worst part is that I know no man is going to compare to him and I can't talk to anyone about it because I have signed an NDA. Maybe no one will see my comment, but I just needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for reading.