How to Know She's not that into you ft. Hausa Chocolate - Menisms S2E21

[@NigelDPresents]

This was like talking to a brick wall.

[@2xMethod]

This is a discussion to share our life experiences, debate on the causes, and how it can be resolved to an extent. Lady has a lot of talking points. However, she doesn't listen to respond. As men we have to pick our battles. A man recently died from a gun shot in the Us for defending a woman from her abusive boyfriend now he has left his own family without a father. I mean, I'm not asking you to ignore every wrong doings but you have to be logical before reacting. Great show.

[@chinwenwaeze9219]

If as women we invalidate the experiences of others because they belong to a certain group, I really can’t understand how we can expect sympathy in our own experiences. It’s sad that attack the good ones, who are sympathetic to our cause while the bad ones are left to hide. At some point the generality becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.

[@oghenerobortutumor3302]

This is too cerebral for some people.

[@sandraronke7876]

As much as this topic was interesting I felt that Hausa chocolate was insensitive to the experiences of men, there were several moments she completely disregarded the abuse of men using terms like 'oops' is completely sweeping Murewa's experience of being punch for assisting a helpless girls by her partner. We want men to understand our experiences but will not reciprocate the same empathy! I do agree in gender roles and masculine energy but men do go through their own battles and we as women must allow men to be expressive and empathise with them. How can we expect men to come to our rescue if 'some of us' (Hausa chocolate) disregard or minimise their experience to little or nothing. Women go through a lot in terms of abuse, lack of protection but there is enough space to also allow men to open up too. PS, we also need to learn to listen to each other the amount of times the guest cut of the host and vis versa just goes to show the root of the problem!

[@swatsiesugar5527]

Didn’t even see this when I was typing.

[@buikeonah1735]

you deserve a bottle of something good

[@jeriemayaoh1]

Thank you 😩

[@kekangwisdom2947]

I didnt listen half to realize this. Had to run to youtube since spotify doesnt have a comnent section.

[@samiahassan2218]

In my opinion this was a great episode. She is very very honest and right and isn’t afraid to say her views. Everyone saying she’s not listening to the men aren’t actually listening to her. Men are in their own world. They really think the world revolves around them. I love this episode and I’m glad she wasn’t afraid to say exactly how so many women are feeling ❤️❤️

[@lauramconyango7233]

Loved it as well. People just don't appreciate it because women are expected to be silent about their oppression by 'watching their tone' loved how honest she was with herself.

[@samiahassan2218]

@@lauramconyango7233 exactly!

[@xtinedike4334]

The truth is that this topic is deeper than the platform it was brought to no shade tho, but it was refreshing to see.

[@jayescreated]

Nice conversation….we need episode 2

[@tobiimohimiosifuye5758]

Never seen Michael's serious side, though in a chilled way ... the guest brought out that part of him. What a conversation Cheers to the Michael, Murewa and the Guest

[@Adabekee88]

So refreshing to hear her! I agree with her 100%!

[@killmongerC-137]

A conversation needs to be had about men's sexual abuse cause it seems a lot of women think it doesn't happen often. There are lot of brothers and uncles and fathers who were all touched by their aunties, female cousins and other older females but never said anything about it

[@oluchiemenyonu]

A man is a man, a woman is a woman Your podcast is your podcast, This podcast is for us Do whatever thing you like on yours , and leave this for us. You don’t get to dictate what content should be posted or shared. She made this particular episode so hectic and tiring for me.

[@Rumbu_P]

I blame them actually, when you invite someone...you frame questions, you don't just allow guests say whatever, dictate to you.

[@May-xr1jl]

Lol, baba said 'against my will, I see your call'

[@inioluwatolufase9391]

I'll reserve my comments about this episode. Let me go and watch the next😅

[@theboringone9076]

pleaseeeee bring her back 👏🏽👏🏽

[@lumeg7777]

This was an amazing topic! Halima had her foot on michael’s neck the whole time😂 but she had her own views and was not entirely ready to accommodate the mens’, overall, great topic and guest to come on

[@mr.increediblle7964]

I remember watching a social experiment on youtube where a man was being abused by a woman and not a single person stopped her. Then they changed the scene and had a man abusing a woman, everyone rushed the man, some people started to beat up on him. This chick is the type to laugh if men are abused

[@chisoma]

Great topic of discussion, but she doesn't seem to be listening to learn and THEN teach in order to move the topic forward. Just constantly on attack/defend mode, my opinion

[@ollyezeja352]

I noticed it too . She was arguing with emotions and her points were not coming along. Even tho she had great points.

[@olamide_lawal]

Uhm this babe and Michael 😂😂😂 what did he do to her?? The conversation is so real and relatable!! I lovee🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@madeauxafrica]

ENERGYYYY 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@scarlord9999]

Yes we need more variety

[@peculiarediomo-abasi6304]

Regardless of the facts or stats, I think it is still ideal to try to be politic ally correct regardless. So yes, co-emphasying: 'SOME'.

[@margaret6089]

Asides talking over them and not letting them finish, she was on point 👌

[@abdul-jaleelmohammed7151]

same thing i noticed

[@ikedifeemeka5870]

Muriwa I see you ohh😂

[@killmongerC-137]

If majority of men were abusers then women would be living in hell, she probably won't even be in her current position because the abusive men would have her locked and not let her leave the house unless it's for errands.

[@DynastyEmory]

Can't believe she kept the bros on the defense. Damn!

[@simpa102001]

Honestly! Lmao

[@JR-ek4xy]

SHE'S TOO BLOCKED AND DEFENSIVE, PLEASE DON'T BRING HER BACK, HARD TO DIALOG

[@oluchiemenyonu]

I totally agree with youuuu

[@billie.]

I totally agree. So bad

[@okikioluwakitansokoya8010]

She schooled micheal and I’m so happy

[@mr.increediblle7964]

Schooled is a reach.

[@okikioluwakitansokoya8010]

@@mr.increediblle7964 not really lol

[@Rumbu_P]

It's tough being a woman & it's tough being a man. So if i see a girl getting drunk in a club, a full adult..i shoukd go & tell her to stop (so she doesn't stand the chance of being abused), girl wey no be me carry her komot...what if she insults me? Worst still i talk to her & i am being labelled misogynist for thinking her low..'if na man you go tell am make e no enjoy himself'? Long! I like her passion though & i get the general sense of her message.

[@mr.increediblle7964]

This girl acts like there are no toxic female podcasts or talkshows. The men's podcasts is still a new space and yes there is toxicity within it but other men are trying to hold them accountable. It is not something i hear happens in the female space. It is like this chick wants everyone to pay the sins of a few Also, she only cares about being right and doesnt care about other people's viewpoints. She is the sort of person who generalizes about men and uses other people's experiences to argue. I want to see her on the honest bunch because they are better at calling out people's BS whether male or female. Murewa and Michael are too nice. Honestly, i feel sorry for whoever ends up with her because she has a rotten mindset Lastly, I remember watching a social experiment on youtube where a man was being abused by a woman and not a single person stopped her. Then they changed the scene and had a man abusing a woman, everyone rushed the man, some people started to beat up on him.

[@joshuaegbure8796]

Na law go fit this lady..Very opinionated.... Shout-out to you guys Mure and Mike

[@maybellsaliu690]

Abeg do your podcasts how y’all want to do it

[@Neloemeka]

I don’t think she was being realistic in this conversation, how can you always accurately read people’s expression(s) to figure out if they’re okay with something or not? Someone can be “squeezing” their face and still not appreciate you intervening unsolicited.

[@queenlizz8745]

Please don’t bring this girl here again, she talks too much and she doesn’t listen 😂 Aunty allow the men talk small…this girl can beat a man in the house

[@tunde5605]

immediately a lady start talking like this around me, I just tune off. Just muddying the conversation with her "men are evil" energy. men are the oppresor vibes. Can't have a meaningful conversation.. lol who hurt you?

[@ashleyulaikere9222]

Now I understand why this podcast doesn’t like having female guests, because they know that if they do, any rubbish that they say will be checked. Shoutout to Hausa Chocolate for telling it as it is.🙌🏽

[@lauramconyango7233]

Loved it.❤

[@emmanuelyakub1140]

The whole checking behavior can go in a very different direction....you neva meet people wey dem no dey check before.... Me as a person...i respect women.... whenever I'm able to protect or defend a lady depending on the situation or the context that is surrounding that situation believe it... I'm jumping in to help but i also have to be careful and there are so many reasons why 1. For example there is a lady that you see..is obviously getting harassed by a man... First of all you don't know what their relationship is with each other basically you don't know who is whom to who and you're jumping in ....e fit just shock you I've jumped into that kind of situation before and the lady yabbed me and almost slapped me Note: This lady had a black eye from the guy beating her apparently the guy is her boyfriend.... apparently she doesn't want any help Doesn't need saving That situation could've gone in a very terrible direction for me. That situation still doesn't stop me from doing the right thing..but now... I'm more cautious than b4 Most guys don't even want to get involved in wahala...sef And you still say ehn oo They should educate their guys I personally I've done that to the guys that i know.. Are willing to listen to me but most guys believe me they'll look at you in a certain way and you'll even lose friendships that are important in your life... Or they start cutting you out of conversations or they all go silent when they see you coming from afar Tbh you can't generalize men like that The term "MOST MEN" is absolutely fine but bunching all men together haba na you make look like we are demons...kilodey... Murewa and Michael may never admit it...but those men were so uncomfortable there

[@chinwenwaeze9219]

I get where she’s coming from in terms of men confronting other men but I don’t think she understands that as women we might be able to do certain thing I.e openly confronting men that are misbehaving and get away with it but men can not. Yes many men could be abusers but very few men are “brave” enough to openly abuse a woman especially in this age of social media when they can easily be put on blast and even black listed. Advocacy is not just about fighting a cause but understanding other perspectives and other people’s capacities to help in your fight.

[@ikemmanuel-audu363]

L guest.. don’t bring women that dislike men here. “Men are the oppressor” common mehn. Bruh it’s women that don’t have empathy, sympathy sure but empathy nope. This episode is terrible, how did menisms now become a male apologist show. Common guys challenge this braud. Her stats are wrong, false allegations do not account for 2% of claims, it is way more, check the stats.. not that we keep reliable stats in Nigeria. But common this braud just dislikes men. Also women don’t abuse men? Bruh what is this show?

[@lauramconyango7233]

I feel like most people are being so narrow minded in the comments if this episode wasn't for you then wait for the next.😊

[@olaoluajayi7875]

Is she the host or those two guys ?? 😳😳😳

[@folasadeayeni5452]

The way she hushed them up like 2 little kittens is terrifying. Too opinionated, she took over the show and started schooling them like it's hers.

[@Joye1stt]

I hear her point but the reality you need to access the environment and ensure it's safe before acting. if you act without accessing the situation, people end up making it worse for the victim and yourself.

[@MjDiaries]

See it , say it , sorted ! i like my british police slang🙂

[@nne_kels8716]

I "feel" dis first few minutes from the beginning is not penned on a particular space but not explored on different aspects, because both gender has different experiences. As much as people are different i don't agree to "generalizing"is wrong because there are people in dis life who have not experienced such. Let people live how they know and what is best for them.

[@aghahowafavouraigbekaen2553]

wawu... First i really want to appreciate Madeaux and Menisms Podcast (specifically the hosts) for putting this together and for their consistency overtime... una dey try abeg... But this particular episode was really not it for me... I trust that adjustments will be made...

[@madeauxafrica]

We appreciate your true love and consistent support ❤️🙏🏾

[@ajibolaukandnigerialiving]

Hmmmmm. Lateral thinking and broadening our horizon is helpful. Tolerance and acceptance are intertwined. Live and let live.

[@Vera-z8d5y]

So they should tailor their conversations to fit only you? If it’s not for you on any given day, then don’t watch. Wait for the next episode

[@safiyyanm9863]

I don’t think she’s listening to the guys even just chatting😮‍💨

[@folasadeayeni5452]

She came off too strong. Kai, i was a bit scared for the guys. Aunty be calming down small small.

[@swatsiesugar5527]

I hope this babe does the same with the female gender as well. Cause these things happens both ways! There are things that women do to the male gender that hurts too! a whole lot of things and they gist and giggle about it. Women are quick to say talk to you people you can’t be doing this to a woman but when it’s a woman doing it to a man it’s all camera lights in the air.

[@joshuabassa7413]

All men ate not rap*at or abusers. Also, she claims men lack empathy!! That's trash talk. Guys, you don't owe any random girl an apology for things you barely have a relationship with.

[@peteregwurube5747]

aswear this girl na agboro, at a certain point she was just being unrealistic. how do u ask someone to help u, but demand them to put themselves in harms way. lets say no to rape culture, i agree on that, however not by what she is saying it. she dey crase

[@chee_dehraah1504]

😂😂first statement….last statement😂😂

[@chineduobanye6370]

Please leave Ndi LGBTQ alone o. No bring am here

[@scarlord9999]

Its already here wether you like it or not

[@kingrezzy3846]

now here's a thing, to the lady if she sees the comment, Women have a hive mind, a connected opinion, women's opinion aren't that far apart from each other. so when you say something like "Educate your guys", it's DOable but, no guy that is NOT a molester or abuser would ever see the need to talk to an abuser like his words would do anything, men aren't moved by words and different men will do what they want based on their demography and life history. No support to the motion but no mere talking would end this, Men know the consequences of rape and molestation and abuse, whether the allegations are true or false and check your stats, the rate of rape is reduced because the community law that have developed close to or no tolerance for rape, so men know not to do these things because they clearly know that if they do or don't and the allegations are laid against them, they are done for. so the solution is law and consequence as answer to ignorance, there are evil men and there are evil women.... MEN ARE NOT A THREAT, BAD PEOPLE ARE!

[@oghenerobortutumor3302]

Change the name of the podcast to THE OTHERS!! Because I don't understand this suggestion of "variety". She didn't come to converse but to defend women. There was no advice to how women should handle themselves in public or protect themselves. She loved her voice. She listened to reply and not to understand, which is common in our generation. Please vet who you guys bring to this podcast. If you don't want men to listen let us know early, so that we won't be waiting for the your guys every week. Literally, emasculated you guys. It's just sad.

[@lauramconyango7233]

Emasculated them? Lmaoo

[@afrikanroyal6249]

This is Nigeria, this on period is tagged Meddling into people's business and she's not really tryna be reasonable about her points

[@Rumbu_P]

Rainbow what!? 👎🏿 make wuna no use wuna hand spoil something good wey wuna start

[@ChisomAdaora]

The beginning conversation should be redone. It was a good topic but everyone kept talking over each other and being on the defensive. At the end, Murewa pulled her card, she doesn't like the men she's talking to that's why she has a list and it becomes a big deal for her to see them outside of sex. Smh.

[@gbolaboaluko5576]

Best to know your viewer base and what they want, don't in the name of inclusion chase them away.

[@scarlord9999]

They have different viewers if you dont like it go elsewhere. New viewers will come. And i promise you this podcast is not for people with your backwards mentality

[@gbolaboaluko5576]

@@scarlord9999 🤣🤣🤣🤣 right!!!!. you are just full of assumptions are you

[@christusigboekwe9545]

The day I see any lgbtq vibe kinda person or topic in this podcast, I'll instantly stop rating the podcast and never tune in again in the future. Cos what is the meaning of "what is a man? Or what is a woman?" These sort of topics are annoying and should never be given the power they do not deserve. Let us not give life to what should remain dead.

[@ajibolaukandnigerialiving]

Life is annoying. Different sexuality / orientation exists in human kind. Hearing different perspective is good albeit you don’t have to accept, indulge or agree, unless you are not confident in your own truth! Skip the episode and remain in your bubble. Ignorance is bliss abi 😉

[@lauramconyango7233]

​@@ajibolaukandnigerialiving exactly I don't get it😂they don't have to watch it. Find something else .

[@mr.increediblle7964]

@@lauramconyango7233 I like how it is woman challenging the whole wokeness or different genders and accepting every nonsense from the western society. Omo go look science, there is two genders. Plus this is a podcast about men and the female guest doesnt have the right to go on someone's podcast and tell them how to run their show. She can suggest but dont tell them who should be on their show

[@lauramconyango7233]

@@mr.increediblle7964 They didn't mind her suggestions tho and they're the ones that run the podcast. Las las y'all will be fine.♥️

[@samdope4108]

L guest

[@tomi8955]

This Hausa chocolate lady doesn't listen lmao.

[@layoajayi627]

Please wom4n should start going for self defence training skills

[@margaret6089]

"Other types of men" smh

[@funmbi4life]

Why are y’all bringing on this toxic feminist? She’s too bitter to be objective 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Annie_gX]

I like the guess but I don’t agree with her entirely and that’s okay I don’t like the fact that she is victimizing all women some men are also victims also for you to be able to have a dialogue you have to have an open mind you may not agree but things that make sense do make sense so please stop generalizing they are good men out there so do bad men. That’s my take oooo besides that nice episode bring her back lol 😂

[@madeauxafrica]

It’s the “bring her back” for me 😂😂😂❤️

[@blackcliff3286]

Omo I no fit yarn with person wey no Dey see my own point of view Pointless asf

[@odinfeking4852]

Dont bring this girl here again .. she is telling u to btjng up a Gay to your podcast who is the man that is going to come out and say he is Gay .. she too talk much and she is telling you to defend women and fight at the club .. Mike see you see Bullet enter your belle for no reason Dont mind that girl ooo she want to sens you guys to early grave ..

[@aclefcruise]

Hausa Chocolate came to this episode just to fight and argue, this is the problem I've with some feminists 🤦🏻‍♂️ I don't think Murewa and Michael need to prove a point to anything to anyone 🙄

[@hafsatolohungbebe5731]

Micheal is a lover boy ,just agreeing to disagree

[@buikeonah1735]

This lady is so opinionated that she is actually laughing at the experience of men.

[@swatsiesugar5527]

I’m done with this girl. I’m out.