How To Let Go Of People's Perceptions of You - Lisa Nichols

[@sharondagray7255]

What I got from this particular session is that I don't have to worry about managing other people's perception of me....It's only merely their opinion which I will learn to respect although I don't ever have to agree....."Your opinion-My opinion" And my opinion of me is what matters!!!! Thank you, Lisa. I am now giving myself permission to move forward in the better version of myself so I can grow regardless of what people think of me. I learned a long time ago from another wise person, "Learning to trust myself is so liberating and knowing that says that I will be okay..." Whether good, bad or indifferent. Love you,God Bless!

[@yatinsawant4492]

I feel like a big load is been lifted of my shoulders... Let others be themselves and you be you without any resistance and trying to control anything.

[@tinathompson591]

I HAVE NOTHING to PROOVE! NOTHING to PROTECT! NOTHING to HIDE! NOTHING to DEFEND!!! I AM ENOUGH 🙏❤🙏 GOD BLESS YOU 🙏🙏🙏

[@emmaking9246]

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING

[@Ms58Jo]

I have learned that I have no control over what people think of me. Nor should I care. Awesome lesson.

[@Markworship2012]

This was food for me, for so long I was married to people's judgement of me and I was engaged to trying to prove myself to others but today I divorce myself from people judgement, I disenaged from trying to prove who I am, and I embrace Mark and love me some me. BOL

[@savannah2053]

Yes, say it!

[@carolnimo7060]

Same here... Wow this msg was made just for me....

[@littledetailsbydarby3240]

This is Beautiful 😊👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@daniellehardison3645]

Thank God you found much love in enjoying your next days a day

[@josphinejelangat7406]

Woooow.....eeeh thanks brother this is what i needed

[@hebrewrising4815]

Loved "It's your job to "like" yourself first and everybody else's "like" is optional!"

[@MarikaTheEmpress]

Me Too !!!

[@susanoline5823]

Thank you!

[@SherryWays]

THIS: ALLOW PEOPLE TO BE WHERE THEY ARE-LET GO OF RESISTANCE. Divorce yourself from the need to monitor other people's judgement of you. This is what my BOL! This is the answer I needed to manage a relationship with a family member

[@ciaraadothor1839]

I don't have to find the courage it's not lost, I'm committed to my transformation #BOL

[@kDaniielle]

Yes girl! This is the TRUTH. Been practicing this lifestyle for 6 months and my life has changed dramatically! I can’t even believe the changes in my life, it’s all in our head. Until you can control your mind, you will have no control on your life! ❤️

[@SafeFirm]

Control your Mind, control your Life,…Love it! 💕

[@AJENKINS1920]

I needed to hear “Other Peoples Perceptions of you is none of your business “

[@Greenlynxmedia]

AJENKINS1920 Me too!

[@TheKirstyHorn]

Wow the BOL was the analogy of the tug of war. That was so powerful. I love that. Honouring someone is not the same as agreeing with them. You can say I honor and respect that as your opinion of me and that is different to my opinion of me. And that's ok. I commit to developing and evolving me passionately because you can't change others, but you have full control of yourself. I agree wholeheartedly with your grandma and I say it often, someones opinion of you often has very little to do with you and everything to do with them and its none of your business. Tomorrow I will wake up and give myself a big like! Every like after that is optional. Amen Thank you for being my sister in prosperity and possibility.

[@chefsabbaa7896]

This mindset is full of riches and wealth. I am happy I worked on my self, because I don’t know where I would be. I really like who I am today and the journey is never over.

[@stephaniesimmons4390]

Yes YES! I no longer stand under the umbrella of “their perception” of me. Put the umbrella away because the sun is beginning to shine! Yes, YESSSSS!

[@queentomca]

Stephanie Simmons yes girl ❤️

[@lynndevil1]

We do NOT need other people's validation. I personally DON'T, (and haven't for a very long time,) care what ANYONE thinks of me I don't need their endorsement. I ONLY need MINE!!!!! Thank you for sharing this Lisa. You are a star!!!

[@ericamorris3132]

At this very moment in my life I needed to hear this. I’ve spent my whole life pushing to prove people wrong and change their mind about who they thought I was or Am. I’ll now work towards committing to myself and becoming the best version of myself. #BOL

[@1sornram]

I had a big argument with a sibling today and later came across this video. Your comment really resonate.

[@graysonbaker6552]

I need to hear this I spent my whole life pushing to prove

[@OtienoElizabeth]

Lisa you are great. In your own simple way

[@herlifeshow5453]

Great woman. God bless you for the life changing message

[@chastitypadilla2725]

I loved the reminder that other people's opinion of you is not your business. "Your opinion, my opinion" Yes YES!!!

[@abigailmadugu7366]

I know I am coming 2years late but #BOL you have nothing to prove, nothing to hide, nothing to protect and nothing to defend. Thank you lisa

[@slamdunk183]

Your wise grandma's words "Other people's perception of me, is none of my business" Love ya Lisa.

[@sheryllevels4394]

Only you can be You and only you can do what You can! God created you uniquely, so be uniquely being You!!

[@LeyendoconHalma0830]

Hello Lisa, this is Heidi from Colombia-South America. I'm one of your biggest fans. I admire your courage and your passion. Thank you. You can't even begin to imagine how much you have given me through your inspirational talks. I love you too dear sister.

[@d.m.c.4650]

When it's many perceptions, it's disheartening. My light has been dimmed. I have been silenced and buried by the weight. I needed to hear this. Thank you Lisa for a great start towards Freedom!

[@rosannefeneley4156]

I'm also subject to many perceptions, from others, and it has greatly weighed me down. But now, maybe, just maybe I can take all this on board and BOL.

[@saranyasudheeran3184]

THANK YOU LISA! #BOL..HONOUR THEIR OPINION N STAY TUNED TO YOURS.. Let go the tug of War..n stay peaceful😍

[@divinejustice8750]

Be authentic to the very essence of your true inner being. Don’t try to change for anyone because people’s perceptions or judgments of us is none of your business. Know that you are good enough and live freely on your own terms in your unique life journey. Great message Lisa Nichols!

[@tranquilrhythms3945]

Our truth shines the brightest when we permit ourselves the freedom to be vulnerable with sharing our truth !!!

[@knowledge9822]

God Bless You! The way you analyzed the problem of people pleasing attitude can save lives. I just came to this video while feeling frustrated with my narcissist mother and her harsh judging words all the time. I feel so much better. In fact, I feel great that I had a chance to reflect on myself.

[@Shamz2541]

I needed to hear... You have nothing to Prove, Protect, Hide or Defend. I've always had a huge problem with people's lack of understanding me. Feeling like people saw me in a different light than I see my self. Example, "You always looks so mean." "You are so angry and aggressive." I now realize, I was and it was because I was trying to prove other things to them and it made me angry and aggressive. No more! Thank you!

[@TheQuoteJourney111]

Wonderful...........i ❤myself then others

[@reverseosmosis1484]

Nothing to prove, protect, hide or defend??? Man! God is SO GOOD AND BIG through you! THANK YOU! I honestly appreciate you!

[@tijikthomas]

#BOL Thank you Lisa ❤️ It is a great relief to realise that I have nothing to prove, nothing to protect, nothing to hide and nothing to defend. Coz I am whole! I am smart enough. I am wise enough. I am kind enough. I am content with who I am. I am enough ❤️❤️❤️

[@sereneriversTV]

Wow! Lately I’ve been trying to manage others perception of me. It is so tiring. Today I am committed to showing up o every situation comfortable in my own skin and not worried about what others think of me.

[@firstsergeantcandiobelleus6546]

This is my first time listening to this woman. I cannot describe for me the resonance of power she displays. She seems so genuine. I have never seen a AA woman with such conviction, I would not have believe it even existed given my experiences and what I see in public. Her radiance makes her so beautiful and scary smart regardless of her lack of professional education academically, apparently she doesn't need to have it. I am a retired combat soldier, hurt in war (Iraq and Afghanistan) and I wrote books about my journey. I am English and black and the challenges of just that minus surviving war, Covid & pneumonia close to death, , homelessness, broke, family life disasters, you name it. Her advice is truly refreshing.

[@andreacarter2108]

The "I Am's" are the BEST! Yes, Grace and Ease... I love to "Complete" transitions from others; however, with dignity. ❤🤭🙏

[@rosalinemartin3199]

your grandma is a wise woman ..i really do not care what people think of me....lisa nichols you are just a real lady ..that is what i like about you.

[@donettehenry-butters8389]

Hi Lisa. This message is right on time. I am so tired of trying to please people and failing. You asked a very important question..."can you wake up tomorrow morning and be content with who you are?" My answer is, "no". I have made so many adjustments along the way that I am sick and tired of who I have allowed myself to become. It is time for me to let the Judgement Go and KNOW that I am ENOUGH , starting NOW....nothing to prove, nothing to hide, nothing to protect and nothing to defend. Yes! YES!!

[@raisingz1730]

October 2021 and I'm here.

[@michelesutton9404]

I needed to hear this today!! I been mad trying to change what someone has been saying and thinking of me without even KNOWING that’s what I was doing until I heard this. Telling myself I will “Show them” when the best thing is to let go and let them be themselves #BOL

[@olabimpesangowawa3262]

BOL - FOCUS on evolving and developing ME and the need to control other people’s perception of me will begin to diminish. BE committed to the transformation process and ME I am becoming and people’s judgements of me will eventually not matter anymore. Their opinion is their business and not mine. I AM ENOUGH. I’ve nothing to prove, nothing to protect, nothing to hide, nothing to defend. Thanks so much Lisa. Efharisto from Athens Greece. 😘😘

[@ShaunMahabeer]

What people think of me is none of my business. What is my business is what I think of myself and becoming the best possible version of myself!

[@kaykazeem6838]

I have learnt that you are the Master of your opinions ....other people's opinions of you doesn't add or take away anything from you 🌸🌸🍃

[@thequeenchosen1533]

#BOL Lisa I have struggled with this all my life but today I choose me. I love myself more. This video is right on time. Thank you Lisa

[@mlimayassin1182]

Yes yes yessss I just lyk it, I love u lisaaaaaaaa😘😍😍

[@AaronMartin-xp2tk]

I love how your grandma blatantly put it, “others perceptions, ain’t NON of our business” ❤️

[@kerigraptartaglia6483]

Divorce yourself from other people's opinions/ perceptions/ judgements of you. I needed that in the most amazing way today. Thank you for being who you are and pouring into the world!

[@micajohnson82]

Here in 2024! Biggest lesson I needed to hear was that I have nothing to prove to anybody. I’ve always hated being perceived and have tried my hardest to cater to everyone’s needs and wants. Recent events have shown that it’s not always possible, not even with the people you’re closest to. Someone once told me that we’re not gonna have the exact relationship we want with others, and that’s okay. Letting go of people’s opinions of my character is something I desperately need to work on, starting now!

[@kamilahspeaks2200]

The Holy Spirit revealed to me while you were speaking, Respect is about how you treat someone not about whether you agree with them or not.

[@0555pink]

Thank You 🙏 Thank You 🙏 Thank You 🙏

[@lateishaclement]

This was refreshing. I am letting go of people’s perceptions of me. I have to let go of everything and be ok with me.

[@gazellabear9421]

Hi Lisa, It took me a till I got out of high school to not worry about what people thought about me. I realized that I had to like and love myself so much, and when I fell in love with myself and realized that was a wonderful person, that I didn't worry about what people thought, because I brought my best self forward, with my morals, and since that time, I have always been a people magnet. They see who I am with my bright light surrounding me! I love your shows! Your bright light shines always! Thank you so much for YOU! 😊💖

[@jodipelczynski9833]

This was so eye opening for me, what people think of me is none of my business. Thank your grandmother! very wise women.

[@thembekilencube9449]

My BOL was the part you said we should be wholly committed on developing ourselves. Your grandma's words👏...people's perspective of me is none of my business at all. My job is to work on myself daily!!! . Loving this. Thank youu!

[@oliviaarmstrong5810]

One of my favorite speakers, is Les Brown...I read his book in the early 90's and shame to say one of my favorite memorable quotes, that help me become, who I am today..."Don't let other people's opinion of you, Be Your Reality" Thanks! Lisa for breaking down in so many "Perception's"

[@shakiratanimashaun4136]

Every point is worth listening to. Nothing to prove, protect, hide, defend!

[@sunny68m87]

I needed to hear I have nothing to PROVE, nothing to DEFEND, nothing to Hide, nothing to PROTECT.. guilty of trying to control their perception of me...but it has been too many years of this with no results..realized that I was practicing the meaning of insanity.. I AM ENOUGH, and divorce myself from requiring their approval and now accept their perception of me with love, and not feel hurt, but love myself as I Am...I CAN...I WILL... I am soooo grateful that you are reaching down and pulling others up. That to me is the best demonstration of love that I have every seen.. Luv u

[@rukundosumayiah7977]

I loved loved this one... “like yourself and other people’s likes are optional.”💃🏾💃🏾

[@salimaellis3980]

#BOL not worried about anyone's perception or opinion that why I do reflections weekly to reevaluate myself. At end if the day I gave my best. Turn the switch off. I can only give myself peace of mind. I'm committed to change myself. I am enough! #priceless Love you Lisa.

[@darrenwhyte2883]

Bowl is constant ! Constant need for live and approval. Lisa I commit to myself that I’ll keep on my path and let my light shine.

[@terreaserebeccaaiken9938]

Yes! The tug of war is such an accurate description of what it feels like to “try” and manage another person’s perception of me. It always feels like a huge resistance and I end up feeling frustrated because I could have given my time and energy to something better. Grateful to be learning this now and have it reinforced by healers like you. Thanks Lisa! ❤️

[@donnetted]

You spoke to my soul. Other's opinions of me is none of my business. I like me, I love me and that is enough.

[@benhits8209]

To be committed to who I’m becoming and becoming the best version of me🙌🏽❤️

[@aprilmack-williams6104]

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!!!!! I can not recall who said "Perception is Everything" but hearing you say that other peoples perception is none of my business, just allowed me to breathe to exhale, the weight has been lifted. This is like icing on the cake for me as I believe that I had already been moving in that direction and but hearing you say it just sealed it. IM ROCKING MY SHINE!!!!!!

[@veeron2656]

Lisa, I thank God for you and for him giving you the ability to do what you do to effect so many lives in such a positive way! God has been ministering to me about this same issue of people and their perception of me. I'm "going through" the process and expect to come out being able to let go!!! I love it! The process is difficult at times and I know I contribute to that, at times but well worth it! Please keep contributing!!

[@emmaking9246]

I find this tribe as my home wanting to be unapologetic about who I am. I am confident I am content with who I am. Lisa Nichols, I am in your team.

[@lisousmusic]

For me, it's the recognition that yeah sometimes maybe even oftentimes, I modify my behaviour to fit in with what I think is agreeable to someone else. But often that's not based on my true joy. Listening to Lisa perhaps gives me strength that I can DIVORCE myself from others perceptions of me and in doing so experience the relief of not having to be in control but just to focus on me.

[@WorthARead1111]

STOP trying to manage their judgement of you! #BOL x Infinity !!!!! THANK YOU soul mother!

[@detectiveshonburras1268]

Yes...it's called - Self Preservation ! Love you and who God has created you to be. Allow Your Light To Shine ! ❤❣❤❣❤❣❤❣❤❣❤❣❤❣❤❣❤❣❤❣

[@tippysgrammy3118]

Wow! I'd never associated my actions (trying to be pleasing to everyone at all times) with trying to "control" their perception of me. Thanks for that assessment. I was born the youngest of 8, and feel that all my life, I've tried to prove that I'm "enough". At 54 years old with an adult son, granddaughters, and college degrees, I'm still learning and growing. THANKS, LISA!!!

[@lenessahawkins3910]

BOL....John Hope Bryant recently offered that we should leave people with their dignity even if they disagree with you. You offered just how to do that and still honor yourself as being whole with or without their perception. Secondly, you offered do not attempt to convince someone else of your value or worth. I have been working on that here recently (past four weeks). Just acknowledging and starting the ‘change’ of mind has lightened up the load for me considerably. Thank you for allowing me to go deeper. Blessings.

[@shaleiigavesti4510]

Thanks, Lisa - my husband is my biggest supporter but we have such opposing views on many things and i realized that's ok; it is just a different perception. WE still disagree thru love, respect, trust and lots of humor. I appreciate your teachings and words to strive by here!

[@ddg80sbby]

I really needed to hear the part about how we are trying to control other people's perception or judgment of us. It recently came to light for me that I have codependency issues that I need to work through. I can get so caught up in what other people think, believe, and say about me. My #BOL is that it's safe and neccessary for me to let go of trying to control other people's perception of me. It's tiresome! And it's distracting me from investing all of that time and energy into cultivating and evolving myself into the woman I'm becoming. Thank you, Lisa!

[@hellenkamau3755]

#BOL Other people's opinion of me ain't none of my business! WOOOOW! I needed this message as I've struggled with low self esteem like all my life. Thank you Lisa.

[@EvolveWithJ]

I needed to hear that you honour their perception but also let them know it differs from your opinion of you. Thank you.

[@ryansmith7721]

My opinion vs. your opinion.....I am divorcing myself from trying to manage other’s judgements of me!!! I needed to hear that!!!

[@mandyreilly6252]

Absolutely loved "No! My humility goes everywhere that I go. But, so does my LIGHT" brilliant segment. Thank you!

[@thatianasantos8486]

I loved it! This is so true, once we stop worrying about what people think about us, we feel more confident.

[@janetfrancis2618]

Thanks Lisa for reminding me that 'family's' opinion of me is none of my business. Yes I am enough without depending on them to care about me or for me. It's been years since they haven't cared. I am enough.

[@nthabimoloi5212]

BOL self awareness allows others to have their opinion without my need to control... lady thank you 🥰

[@jaiavm7128]

Break Through Out Loud: instilling in our little ones (our children) this notion of living ourselves, regardless of others opinions is pure gold! I will make it part of my parenting practice to repeat your grandma’s wisdom to my daughter. Thank You!

[@chanellechateau6794]

#BOL “baby other peoples perception of you is none of your business” got it Lisa!

[@brooklynturner8378]

I needed to hear that other people's perception of me does NOT matter! My whole life I've been worried about being perceived a certain way and now ik that anyone else's perception of me is totally irrelevant 💯 and not my problem cause ik who and what I am and that is all that matters! Thank you so much Lisa

[@puca3569]

I need this. Lisa, thank you for video

[@trankao4372]

Thank you Lisa. I can't tell you how much I appreciate what you're doing. Saying the words of truth in a very loving way, helping people like me stepping towards our better future self. God bless you. It's a NASTY business trying to feel validated or understood. Urgh. I'm done seeking agreement elsewhere but from myself. My job is to love myself and love people regardless of their opinions about me.

[@cpitchford0821]

I needed to hear all that you had to say what you had to say. I had to grow up with little guidance from anyone . I was a foster child and I had very little people who really care for me. I had to learn to believe in me and I so glad you said what you in this video clip.

[@TerenziaMorgan]

I like it when you said do you because if you do not do you, You won't be done. Thanks

[@Divemuse]

#BOL Nothing to prove, nothing to protect, nothing to hide, and nothing to defend. Just out here in these streets being me at my own standards.

[@raniaconsolationigiraneza2535]

Yes yes yeeeess

[@niairwafi9616]

Lisa, I really need this. It stings a lot. Because I always find the need to monitor other people judgement of me. Now when I found me and love me more, as you said other people opinion is none of my business. Woah BOL.

[@bettytv4730]

I can relate. I always try to find what people think of me and sometimes my so called friends come and tell me what other people speak about me. I always get bothered and start explaining. Now That's their business. Am done

[@PeteS_1994]

I’ve been listening to this everyday for the last few days. I know it’s the right advice and I’ve tried implementing it although at times it is hard. But I guess it is how I perceive the situation where I see someone else’s opinion.

[@selenah2919]

I’ve been watching you and KZbin for years and I have changed my life completely your words I like the gospel wisdom. Thank you Jesus for you I started my own chat on KZbin. I’m gonna be moving soon I live in Compton California thank you

[@nonexistenty4152]

#BOL -- My grandmother said, “other people’s perception of you really ain’t none of your business. ..... your job is to like yourself and everyone else’s like after that is optional. “ Another BOL- .... once you are committed to be the best version of you, you invite any kind of comments even the ones that sting :) thank you LiSA you totally changed my life and trust me this isn’t a one time thing, I’ll be carrying it for years :)

[@d.m.c.4650]

Lisa, this is right on time for me. I will be more committed now than I've ever been on developing and evolving me! I will wake up everyday and love ("like") myself. I Am Enough!!! Thank you.

[@mariss008]

Trying to prove yourself..caring or worrying about others thoughts of you..can be a challenge..but to draw the focus on self awareness being key..to know how you are valuable and value yourself by working on yourself each day..im taking that all the way..thank you..you the best..ive found a special place..finding new homes :)

[@wunmiakin9269]

That comment of being more committed to the person you are becoming and not the person they are familiar brought tears to my eyes....CAUSE I AM COMMITTED TO THAT 😭😭😭 I am committed to my transformation

[@heidirannisto-jolma5666]

Thank you Lisa! What I needed to hear today was that topic of yours, the message from your grandmother: Other people´s perception of me is not my business. + again, Let go of resistance... so, today, I am gonna be me, and this is enough. I have been thinking first for almost 50 years to that what others think about me. For now on, I am gonna think first how I think about me... let´s hope there will come more light out! Thank you for sharing this, thank you for your light

[@wade5941]

Thank you for not trying to equate the perceptions of others to the reality of who we are. Your message was a good one.

[@LadyRAS-2723]

I appreciate the wisdom that honoring someone who has a different opinion of you isnt agreeing with them, but rather respecting them....I also appreciate everything thing else. A great reminder I needed to hear 😁 Thank You Lisa.

[@gammie1017]

OH MY GOD!!! LISA!!! BOL. LORD you stopped me dead in my tracks grocery shopping. I was a teen mom too. Absolutely did I do the same. Trying to be enough. NUGGETS👍👍👍

[@monarchmadzz]

My opinion, your opinion. Applying it today

[@tracyparkermsidtmbaba9313]

Hello this message is so powerful in my life. I took notes.....several of them. One of the things that stood out for me was divorcing myself from trying to manage someone's perception of me for I need to stop being in the converting business. I am enough. I have two pages of notes to sit in and SELAH as the Bible says. Thank you for the delivery of this message. Beginning to end. I am saving this!

[@valeriewilliams9650]

its a relief to know that I can definitely stop doing this monitoring ,it is a waste of energy for both me and the other person,thank you Lisa.

[@1994haphuong]

Listening to your grandma starting the sentence with "Baby!" and sharing her life lessons, you know that no matter what happens, you are going to be just fine

[@bwellness3in1]

BOL I respect your opinion of me and where you are, I do not OWN that, nor do I need to control it.. WOW, that hit home hard! Thank you!!!