How to love a woman who has a fearful avoidant attachment style

[@JessicaOS]

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[@OrgdevStrategy]

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[@WilliamZ92]

Actually, I'm done saving lives and they decide to throw it to someone else while I remain just a friend with no feelings for me in return

[@jeffreyhendley7527]

@WilliamZ92 I couldn't had said it better.

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[@BeardedKingface]

Bro don't feel sorry for yourself for getting friendzoned. Come in direct with your intentions and if she isn't on the same page move on. But don't come in covert.

[@TheeScottJr]

Everything Jess puts up on this channel has been helpful since day one, and from the look of things i can't imagine how much she's still got in her to offer you know. Much Love

[@wolathomas]

Great content. I’ve been there before and what I learnt…it is FREAKING exhausting. Saps your energy and leaves you second-guessing the adequacy of yourself and the efforts you’re putting in. It takes divine patience to go through all these with someone else when, in fact you have your own emotional challenges (of which she happens to be one) to deal with. It’s very very easy to lose yourself and everything that attracts you to her. Easier and quicker than you may realise. My take is: every person should work on their self awareness and healing to the point where they don’t put unfair burden on people who love them (but might be unable to deal with that much). If you asked me, loving a woman with this attachment ‘issue’ won’t be worth it for most men. For me, it definitely isn’t worth it and I stay away the moment I sight the flags. Shallom.

[@BlkDiesel]

Well said! It becomes far too frustrating and exhausting over time, it becomes a constant energy drainer. It's akin to being on a constant rollercoaster. To be honest, I've got far too many things to lend my energies to, as far as fullfilling my purpose and my plans, than to continually lend this type of understanding and support to someone like this. Be Elite Today!

[@IkechukwuOffor-j5z]

Thank you ma, this is exactly the kind of message I have been waiting for. This is exactly my girlfriend, and I have been wondering why she is pulling back from me, but with the help of some of your other videos, I am winning little by little.

[@benjaminspann1892]

Thanks Jessica O's 😊

[@andycole239]

Honestly, she just spoke about my situation

[@Luigi-xg7hx]

The right video at the right moment!! You know, four days ago I had a big emottional moment with her, I told her (now knowing about her avoidant attachment) "I respect the way you are" and in that moment, she started crying a lot!!! The next day I behave like always (even though I was rejected) and now she is more open to me. Thanks Jess. Luis from Mexico City :)

[@JessicaOS]

Glad to be of help

[@dennismutua457]

What a lady! What a professional!! You're the best madam Jessica

[@jevarnoanthony4792]

This video came at the perfect time for me. This is exactly what I need for my current situation. Thanks Jessica you are truly a blessing for our men.❤

[@supamanlova9250]

this came at a perfect time. i just said something too intimate-focused to this girl i'm talking to and she always withdraws when i do something like that. i've realised that now. i'm gonna speak to her in a completely different manner now to show her i understand her and want her to feel safe. im actually the same with a lot of people, especially family. ive realised im semi-avoidant leaning into secure, depending on the person in my life. can be daunting and overwhelming. lets see if we can make this work

[@naijainnit]

It could be that, or it could be that the level of intimacy you express was too early within the relationship. Sometimes when we don’t know someone long enough, we can come across as clingy or needy when the relationship has not developed to a certain point. But, if you have known her for quite some time and you’ve said those things And receive that kind of reaction, then it certainly could be that she is fearfulavoidant.

[@andycole239]

So I did this, I told her from the onset what i want buh she insisted we take in slow, I said cool I always let her lead the communication but I've learnt a lot from Jess and I'm gonna implement it Especially when it comes to chasing

[@davidstreit433]

I started dating a woman a few weeks ago and I think that this is her issue. She is quite beautiful with no makeup, she doesn't make the effort to look attractive and I would most most men don't give her the attention they would if she presented herself different. I however always look to see an attractive woman without makeup so when we wake up together in the morning, we find each other attractive. I think she is hurt from her previous marriage or relationship and is hard to break open. I have been doing what you stated in this video naturally, but your tips are SPOT ON!!! Prove yourself by actions, not words. If you know how it hurts to be betrayed, then you should also understand what she feels betrayed but probably more than you. Build that connection slowly and with actions, she will have to learn to trust you or anyone for that matter

[@ogvybes]

Much respect for calling out that it is not fair because I was saying that in my head.

[@NurudeenbunAbubakar]

Kudos to this woman, very brilliant very smart and very ambition s

[@NurudeenbunAbubakar]

Compliment ma! And Thanks for your positive response ma!

[@michaelrichard7317]

This emotional healing for me . Thank you so much Jassy

[@BRYANTCHANNELTV.]

Thank you alot Jessica . It seems you have a vision with my same current situation and this video has really opened my eyes now. I need to work on being patient with her now.

[@openworldanalytics3108]

Basically put on some special kid gloves. Never expect anything in return. Don't give too much nor too little. Only to find out they've put the trust you've been slowly building on a life-line by not being able to control their own emotion, jumping for an easy 15 minute fling just to see if you'd stay. For the love of god, don't do this to yourselves. An avoidant will make you feel like you could be the one, and then they disregard you like you never meant anything.

[@RobertH1971]

Thanks for this wonderful video. I’m talking to someone who is like this, and it’s nice to know that I can reach them in a way that suits their unique personality.

[@rampagesun]

I SO NEEDED THIS RIGHT NOW! Thank you!

[@OrgdevStrategy]

Wow. Jessica, you’re on target. I just recently experienced this. I cannot believe how on time with your strategic commentary!!!❤❤❤

[@JessicaOS]

I'm glad this resonated with you! 💕

[@OrgdevStrategy]

@ in this season in my life, it seems like you’re taking directly to me. Thanks again. Jermane Enoch💕

[@luminarachronicles]

I don’t get how the book Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish isn’t mentioned more. It’s honestly so underrated...

[@husseinkizz]

Thanks Jess, perfect timing but me now am tired even unknowingly how to term it I have been trying to get along with my person but it's too much draining am tired, think they need time or someone else who can withstand such instability, someone who is always making you feel like your playing devil's advocate, it's crazy to handle these kind of people, been with this one for some time, I give up, I have done my best, you rather get where your energy is matched and replicated, not always trying to be the one to clean up someone's mess because they're too afraid to let themselves just enjoy life for what it is... am done friends but thanks for the video at least I know it's not only me who been in this!

[@onslaughtray9577]

As a stoic guy... I empathize with her and show her my understanding and patience... it works 99.9% of the time

[@TWylie-os2ov]

Fantastic topic!

[@FMercuryEA]

I used to think Appolonia Ponti was good until I met Jessica. Jessy you are inbuilt smart , brilliant...... Oh my !

[@JessicaOS]

Appolonia is a great woman. i'm a fan

[@nhlanhlanxumalo6115]

Jess what you are highlight it is 100% correct sometimes a partner can always be scared or have fears on a new relationship after a bad past experience but I believe it's important to take it slow until a solid trust is gained that's where I am on a 2 month old relationship yet I'm at 1000 mile away but from now onwards I'm going to be more closer than ever before

[@josephnelson1630]

Been looking at a lot of your videos lately! Definitely appreciate the advice!!

[@JessicaOS]

Glad it's helping! 🙏

[@aseaurelius6411]

Thank you for seeing both sides of things. Right around the end of the video!!!!

[@ExodoMicha]

I'm so grateful to the universe and to you Jessica Os for coming across this video it has helped me a lot, God bless you Ma❤❤❤

[@JessicaOS]

I'm so glad it helped! 🙏

[@warrenmcintyre7488]

This video was super helpful thanks for uploading 🙏🏾

[@SecretMarsupial]

Spent 10 years with an FA. Do not learn hot to love them. They need to learn how to love like a normal person and will likely need help to get there if possible. These people are basically narcissist-lite and can devour a normal person and turn them anxious or worse. Please don’t hurt yourself by wasting time loving an avoidant.

[@xXOmoiUchihaXx]

This

[@jehusaunders8482]

Jessica I needed this info 3 months ago. Dang.

[@JessicaOS]

ooops! Better late than never

[@punchtravelchannel]

Very helpful video. Thank you for all the great content you put out.

[@bennyasharukanda]

This why a lot of guys avoid the divorced women and single mothers. I think women should just deal with their issues before getting back to dating

[@Lily-mj1zu]

Another Zinger!🎉❤Thanks Jess

[@patrickoppong-sekyeremensa9644]

Thank you 🤝 very much for this.

[@michaeljewell53]

Loved this video,thank you my lovely early bird 🐦 I'll stick around for you always x

[@sinisterblister9981]

By the time I realized she is FA, she already broke up with me 4times. Now it is 5months and seems final. She offered to be friends and I declined because of my romantic interests in her. In another video you recommended to be be friends with your Ex to eventually rekindle. I don’t know about that. I also don’t know if I should try the friends route to see where it leads but I don't want to be stuck in friend zone that is full of emotional draining hurt

[@chibuezenjoku6039]

Thanks for the advice.

[@maungedzorasevhendele]

Exactly 💯% behind. from these words .. .. 👏🏽. thanks Jessica

[@OraQL_]

This came at the right time. It's just that I've dated quite a number of people that need work. It's draining.

[@davidnyarko970]

This video is very helpful

[@TWylie-os2ov]

Great Video

[@davidstreete9531]

Another great advice ❤from amazing women on point 🙏

[@kotarokatzura5938]

Fricking love your voice.

[@JessicaOS]

awww! thank you kindly

[@amaadomaatv]

True, closeness can hurt

[@JAB64266]

Good video by the way.

[@paakwame6822]

Thank you!

[@MAXDEVVING]

Imagine wanting to deal with all this nonsense?! I'll pass.

[@Jacko0_0]

I've dated these types of women. Run for the hills boys, or get ready to constantly try to make her feel better for things you had nothing to do with... exhausting

[@hsamzsd]

nah supporting avoidant people is a miserable experience and you will jsut collect your own baggage. Best to avoid avoidant people.

[@NicolasȘtefan-d3v]

Hey Jessica, I hope your day is going great! I just wanted to ask if you have a video on how to make a woman fall in love without having to say “I love you” or using any other sweet talk. I’ve seen a lot of people do this, and it works for them every time, but I’m yet to understand how to do it like they do. If you do make a video, could you let me know the title so it’s easier for me to find?

[@TksongsTv]

Hey my friend...go.and ask those ppl how they do it! Instead of you to focused ur entire life on growth and grind to the best POINTS to attract her....u busy looking for someone to fall in love with you " while" u look dirty and un attractive ....I don't kn when u ppl will grow up!

[@NicolasȘtefan-d3v]

@ who says I was doing it to attract someone? I’m doing it for research purposes . I’m trying to study why women do the things Dey do, the complexities in them.

[@adibe3902]

What's up with these ladies actually expecting to be saved? You're either easy going and pleasant or out you go 🤣

[@Bignaqc]

Seems like you know my current situation, been asking whether all this stress is it worth it….

[@philipramsden4975]

I feel you. There's those good times that makes it feel like it is, and crappy times where you wonder why you're putting yourself through it

[@Geeno583]

i have been left on read since Saturday, what do I do? Please help

[@DopeTheGemini]

Spot on

[@darkseiderz5946]

My co-worker does this to only me and I heard from others she likes me but has been hurt in the past

[@zico352]

I need this

[@Elisha-phiri]

Incredible revelations

[@rollinthrone5109]

Us men go through the same thing, trust me I deal with it.. it's y I been single so long.. well 1 reason..

[@thetricks989]

First thanks a lot for this content, but unfortunately I distroy my love with that kind ok woman. It's my time to rebuild the relationship. Thanks

[@AphiweAyahZungu]

Jessica love your videos...but I have problem here over the same thing but the thing is that it's not my girlfriend but someone I'm still asking out,all the signs you mention often about a girl and what they do when they love she do them ...but I'm confused with all her distant behavior and so my question is can this work on a girl you know she has something for you? because she never stopped there she even go and ask my friend soem things about me and she tells him not to tell me about what she asked .... going far to that I started asking her out since March last year ...I don't know why to do anymore

[@danieledorkor1628]

My thoughts and actions exactly

[@brunibani1313]

Love and caring because women never what u tell them so say something good to her

[@deanwelch9055]

only for the guys she doesn't like she does that to... but she quickly give it to the guys she likes the most that always abandon her just for one thing... The other guy not gonna take her as one if that's what she like doing daily... Let her go... Her actions shows what kind of girl she is the guy sense something wrong just leave her alone and let be don't pressure her if she's not ready to settle with one guy only... To many is to much... it's not gonna stay ... relations with many guys daily no good...

[@oddmicronesian3697]

All this is easier said than done. Easier. Said. Than. Done

[@bamideleoladeji7088]

How about normal or usual text messages? How does one handle that?

[@wandafrost6379]

What if the person who you have trust was your cheating husband? He says he wants to repair the marriage but does nothing but talk? What do I do then?

[@paradoxinvestments619]

I have a problem sister Jessica here am trying to win my crush here and now she just told me she taking HIV treatment so pls make a video on what to do when stuck between making a Smart move am confused now I don't wanna leave here coz I love her so much what safety advice would you give me?

[@briar35981]

Typically these type of issues are never resolved with women. Don't waste your time and resources on these women. It will be a hellacious roller coaster ride. Up and down. Down and up. You'll look around one day and realize you've wasted all this time. This will be for the entire length of the relationship. Relationships are difficult as they are. Believe me. I've been in two of these type relationships. Neither are healed and neither have kept a relationship.

[@tonye1345]

Run from avoidant. Date or marry them if you're ok being confused

[@Bas92583]

What If she is A-sexual , fearful Avoidant, ptsd etc ?

[@milkncereal7640]

As a guy I'm also like this

[@AbhaySingh-hf4nf]

Suggestion for everyone out there - AVOID THE AVOIDANT, they will destroy your mental health, they are not worthy of your love, you can go with secure or even with anxious one but you should avoid avoidant if you value yourself and love yourself For avoidant- go for therapy before going into relationship (stop fcuking someone's mental health 😊)

[@BrooksFleming-r7x]

Love em then leave em. They always seem to eventually come back when they realize the grass isn't greener. And when they come back. Don't make the same mistakes. Make sure their return is on ur terms. Or you'll be back at square one. Lol

[@qualitydeman5448]

🎉 hahahahahaha, perfect communication

[@gabterTurin]

👍

[@hightopfad]

I'm the male version of this video! 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@marcellusbrown7940]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👍

[@brunibani1313]

Women needs emotional security

[@Omgbigfnb]

Funny how humans use heartbreak stop feeling that feeling and deal with love itself alone obviously better

[@Jacko0_0]

Crazy how I read your comment. But couldn't understand any of it. And I know the English language.

[@hiKidz011]

avoid the avoidant because the have a void that cant be fixed. Believe it or feel it. if she cant heal herself, she isnt worth it because she will dump you in hard times. better look for a wife, that stays in hard times, otherwise you gotta pay the price one day.

[@ralphparker277]

My question to you , are you in a relationship. Are you married?

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First 🫶🏿💯

[@colefox2882]

The circus music in the beginning gave me a severe anxiety attack 😢