How to Love Unlovable People -- and Loving the Less Lovable Sides of Yourself

i've wanted to make this video for a while... wildtruth.net

[@tarekyoungapelian4542]

The only problem with this is when it turns into magical thinking, when we ignore others harmful behavior and ONLY focus on the perfect inner child that exists in everyone, dissociating/denying all their harm towards us and others away. I think this is a beautiful thing to acknowledge, but it needs to be paired with a healthy dose of reality & boundaries.

[@livinginthespirit407]

Outstanding insights exceedingly well spoken.

[@terencehennegan1439]

Discernment my friend, discernment !

[@nietzschesmuse]

You are so cool and loving instead of following the masses doing witch hunt videos about narcissists, your videos are full of compassion towards people who act out trauma.

[@godfather2556]

Y’all sound like you grew up in Mr. Rogers neighborhood. I’m tired of getting fried every time I try to give somebody a hand or show somebody that you care.

[@evelynd5793]

I remember this quote I read many years ago "Love those that are most unlovable because they need it the most".

[@godfather2556]

You bring them in your house and let them steal your stuff that’ll keep him out of mind.

[@Lighthousecoaching]

I agree 100%. And I believe that the first step in learning to love others is to love ourselves first, to allow the experience of our vulnerable parts and to see that our dark ones are usually simply trying to protect those vulnerable parts from hurting. Nice to see you again here.

[@sarahtrammell9546]

I love this ❤️ I am a nanny and I find this is so true. Young children are honest and open-hearted unless someone teaches them they need to be otherwise in order to survive.

[@selfarcheology]

In other words, (self-)empathy, (self-)curiosity, and (self-)connection. So true. -Darius

[@dominusbalial835]

You've brought me to the same place you were in your 20's in my journey of psychological healing, your videos caused a profound traumatic response from my early childhood and my relationship to the world. Which resulted in a profound moment of individuation, you brought forth the fragments of my self that I didn't know I had lost. You brought me out of my state of dissociation from my traumatic experiences. What you're pursuing with these videos what you're trying to do with your life and trying to help others do with their own lives is profoundly beautiful, you're a force of good in the world and your changing many peoples lives. I just wanted to say thank you for orienting me along the path of healing, I thought I was going to be trapped like how I was before forever, and I didn't see any hope for myself, any desire to cling on and continue besides repaying my perceived debts of those who genuinely tried to love me. But I have a desire to be here now, and I have a pathway for healing and psychological growth that you have revealed to me; And I just wanted to express that I'm truly thankful for what you have done to me, what you're doing for everyone.

[@mme480]

If everyone is lovable, then do you think even a parent can be loved again that you perceive to be unlovable?

[@GagaDebbie]

Thank you for all you share. It helps so much. I can be so cold and unfriendly. Good video.. appreciate it!🙏

[@damonmoney4474]

I love seeing new videos from you :) thanks!

[@heartwisdomlove]

Thank you Daniel for your clear communication and for expressing these truths and ideas that help us to have more self love and compassion towards others

[@Biglake92]

When we don’t like unlovable people, we don’t like our own unlovable part

[@starsstripes2393]

Its reflection of oneself x

[@handycamlady]

Perfect little baby self...That's a beautiful expression. Thanks for the video.

[@loretagema9085]

What a great insight! A key to another person's heart and soul.

[@heartwisdomlove]

Excellent Topic !!! the more we can love our parents, the more self healing manifests even if your parents personality is too much to deal with, you can still choose to love the human being that is ignorant and suffering and stuck in their own wounded places

[@jjw1056]

I feel I would fit into the hard to love category, for many reasons. I am also a work in progress. Just trying to work on being easier to love, more importantly to just love myself. Some of us seek help to heal those issues and we do deserve to feel accepted while seeking help, I think a good therapist will be able to do that. The quote "Hurt people, hurt people" speaks the truth.

[@sedonarex]

you are sharing wonderful things with us....Thank you for all your videos. I love your insights.

[@_whatnext_9319]

You're an excellent human being.

[@Neti-Netti]

It’s not enough… A baby isn’t neutral… he is already loaded…

[@bernadettebockis4120]

No matter what, god will embrace us. Our worst judgement will come from ourselves. (KZbin near-death experiences)

[@nabil5249]

I don’t care enough to want to know. I don’t believe in loving everyone. If you love everyone you nothing. Creating boundaries mean creating identity.

[@reosin2536]

When i was a child i didn't care about my parents, relatives or friends. Being unintentionally offending by words or actions was a regular thing for me. I always thought showing concern, caring by others were never sincere. It felt like people were obliged to do this as they were tought that by elders like me. It was a surprise when they told me caring is genuine. Pediatrician suggested my mother to take me to kindergarten because i was sitting on the bench waiting for us to return home at playgrounds instead of playing with other kids or talking to them. Socialization was only during early childhood under mother's control. I get older mother does less i get less and less social naturally. To this day i feel alienated and unlovable. I still don't care about others except for personal gain. The only attachment i feel is the habit of possessing things. I feel the same way towards living things. I get used to people the same way i get used and attached to things. I get sad when lose them the same way. And never really care about others feelings. I can only try to take them into account, predict and use them if I have a vested interest For mentioned reasons i feel unlovable.

[@Honeyiroseupfromthedead]

True

[@mariamadsen7071]

Such a beautiful soul ❤

[@gingerisevil02]

This makes me so emotional.

[@daffymax8456]

😊

[@newnameofmychannel]

Problem is many people have forgot what exactly happened to them.So how to make them loveable. May be just hug them daily.

[@jusme8016]

I totally agree with you.

[@lostinlife7226]

Ok how can i love me?

[@danamay1718]

Some people so recover.

[@guitarforfree]

very true and wise

[@foxtail7363]

I don't agree, some people are born with certain issues some of which can be resolved, as well as birth trauma. Ofc certainly childhood can be an important factor in peoples lives, but it doesn't explain all.

[@tdiddle8950]

Dude. I 100% believe in what you're saying from a perspective of a beneficial relationship between a therapist and a patient (or whatever that person should be called via the current political correct modalities). I too believe that babies are born with genetic inclinations, but that it is mainly nurture that defines us. I recently said that to be racist is to be irrational, because there is so little difference between the races that an educated person would understand immediately that it is fostering that defines us. And then, so, my question is, how would one deal with a stubborn pathological narcissist in the real world, who spreads their brand of social contagion in a way that people, relationships, and family are destroyed? I completely agree with you that the damage occured in childhood. But as a layman, with dealing with a stubborn subject, how does one deal with that?

[@tdiddle8950]

Oh yes, and I think it is pertinent to add that I am autodidact. I have no credentials...but I have studied these ideas from a multi-disiplinary perspective for two decades. And by multi-disiplinary, I mean that I, as an amateur, consider my specialty to be well versed in behavioral neurochemistry...with a particular emphasis on psychoanalysis. Particularly in the Jungian tradition. But I'm still serious:. I have a super-stubnorn, extremely pathological narcissist in my field, and I am grappling with how to deal with it. Talking about childhood...as good of a natural counsellor as I think I am...is not an optional.

[@tdiddle8950]

The subject believes himself to be almost god-like...and never wrong. Any attempt at all the violate that egoic barrier results in extreme alienation.

[@tdiddle8950]

And violence.

[@pancakeman1162]

Seek Jesus Christ he love you so much and if you want to learn more about how to love seek peter and the other scripture it will help you! with Jesus Christ there is no sin righteousness is only by him and through him and he wants you to be righteous and have eternal life forever ❤️ he died for your sin and only by faith in Jesus Christ you will have eternal life forever believe in him and you will live forever ❤️ in righteousness with Jesus in heaven, Christ loves you and cares about you!

[@stigludwigsen]

So you believe everyone is born with the same level of kindness/goodness in them? Haven't you heard of psychopaths?

[@matilda4406]

the color green looks good on you

[@sojournerkarunatruth4406]

Okay, but that ideal is emotionally exhausting; you can still detach and cultivate patience when you consider we’re all semen-demons at our core tho (it’s a genetic disease). 😛 I suppose it’s another option for when patience is needed.